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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all.
I was just wondering how much people's parents know about what they get up to. Do they know anything about the fun or do they have no idea? Maybe they are the ones who were open about playing with others.
Love to hear your various experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My sex life isn't my parents business. If feel weird them knowing, especially as they babysit when we go on meets! "
Oh I totally understand that and don't disagree. Your private life is just that. Just wanted to ask the question as I know some families are very open about stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My sex life stopped being any concern of my parents once I left home.
Although they were swingers in their time, so I would hope they'd understand."
When did you find out about them being swingers previously. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"My sex life stopped being any concern of my parents once I left home.
Although they were swingers in their time, so I would hope they'd understand.
When did you find out about them being swingers previously. "
Lol, looking for wank fodder? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My sex life stopped being any concern of my parents once I left home.
Although they were swingers in their time, so I would hope they'd understand.
When did you find out about them being swingers previously.
Lol, looking for wank fodder?"
Maybe lol. Can't deny that reading the threads is a turn on. I am sure it is not just me it has that effect on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sure there are lots of parents out there that have there own nawty secrets,they don't tell us,and we dont tell them, they were here before us,and could probably tell us a tale or two lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?"
Some things just should be kept seperate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?"
I agree with that. It is not to say you tell them everything or open up to them if it is an issue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i will be open with my children, i dont see mum but aunty knows and swings too"
I think being open with your kids is good. That does not mean to encrouage or discourage them but just not to be scared to talk about it and also don't dismiss it out of hand and make it a dirty thing to talk about or do |
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?"
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing "
My Dad has met both of my male partners, and knows that I go to fetish and swing clubs. I don't personally see that as a problem.
My academic work (and my future job) revolves around this kind of stuff. I campaign politically for the rights of minority groups like fetishists. I'm not going to hide most of my life away from my parents just because some other people think it's weird to have an adult conversation with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm no contact with my parents. They didn't approve of me being promiscuous when i was younger (my dad called me all sorts of names, my mum never said anything but she had my dad to do it for her i suppose). So even if i was in contact with them i wouldn't tell them coz they think it's ok to shame me for it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing
My Dad has met both of my male partners, and knows that I go to fetish and swing clubs. I don't personally see that as a problem.
My academic work (and my future job) revolves around this kind of stuff. I campaign politically for the rights of minority groups like fetishists. I'm not going to hide most of my life away from my parents just because some other people think it's weird to have an adult conversation with them."
And you shouldn't if that's what you want to do, it just wouldn't work for me and I feel that some things should be kept seperate.I would have absolutely nothing to gain by discussing such stuff with my folks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing
My Dad has met both of my male partners, and knows that I go to fetish and swing clubs. I don't personally see that as a problem.
My academic work (and my future job) revolves around this kind of stuff. I campaign politically for the rights of minority groups like fetishists. I'm not going to hide most of my life away from my parents just because some other people think it's weird to have an adult conversation with them."
well then it is obviously different for you when it is such a massive part of your life. When it's your work then of course your parents will know and being open is probably right in that circumstance.
Most of us don't work around anything sex related so not only does the topic of sex not come up in our personal lives, i'm not gonna go "oh hey by the way mum i'm a swinger".
I am quite happy to talk to her openly about a lot of things but what i get up to in the bedroom (or even what she gets up to in the bedroom) is not a subject of discussion in our lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing
My Dad has met both of my male partners, and knows that I go to fetish and swing clubs. I don't personally see that as a problem.
My academic work (and my future job) revolves around this kind of stuff. I campaign politically for the rights of minority groups like fetishists. I'm not going to hide most of my life away from my parents just because some other people think it's weird to have an adult conversation with them.
well then it is obviously different for you when it is such a massive part of your life. When it's your work then of course your parents will know and being open is probably right in that circumstance.
Most of us don't work around anything sex related so not only does the topic of sex not come up in our personal lives, i'm not gonna go "oh hey by the way mum i'm a swinger".
I am quite happy to talk to her openly about a lot of things but what i get up to in the bedroom (or even what she gets up to in the bedroom) is not a subject of discussion in our lives. "
Then that's cool.
But the implication is that I'm weird to tell my parents that.
Even before my studies my parents knew I had multiple partners and went to fetish clubs. It's a big part of my life, and I consider it no different to saying I went to any other kind of club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing
My Dad has met both of my male partners, and knows that I go to fetish and swing clubs. I don't personally see that as a problem.
My academic work (and my future job) revolves around this kind of stuff. I campaign politically for the rights of minority groups like fetishists. I'm not going to hide most of my life away from my parents just because some other people think it's weird to have an adult conversation with them.
well then it is obviously different for you when it is such a massive part of your life. When it's your work then of course your parents will know and being open is probably right in that circumstance.
Most of us don't work around anything sex related so not only does the topic of sex not come up in our personal lives, i'm not gonna go "oh hey by the way mum i'm a swinger".
I am quite happy to talk to her openly about a lot of things but what i get up to in the bedroom (or even what she gets up to in the bedroom) is not a subject of discussion in our lives.
Then that's cool.
But the implication is that I'm weird to tell my parents that.
Even before my studies my parents knew I had multiple partners and went to fetish clubs. It's a big part of my life, and I consider it no different to saying I went to any other kind of club."
If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you  |
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Our parents have long gone but there was parties at Jane,s parents and friends of there parents were things did happen always a lot of talk in the pubs about it. But we never saw anything could be just talk just because a gang of people took drink back to a house after the pub shut.But would not say a word to them about our fun and would never want our Daughter to find out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you "
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all.
I was just wondering how much people's parents know about what they get up to. Do they know anything about the fun or do they have no idea? Maybe they are the ones who were open about playing with others.
Love to hear your various experiences. "
 why on earth would any one have this conversation with their parents?! Unless you're 15 being educated about the dangers of sex?!?!
Jeez man some people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs."
That is more detail than I would feel is personally necessary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My sex life isn't my parents business. If feel weird them knowing, especially as they babysit when we go on meets!
Oh I totally understand that and don't disagree. Your private life is just that. Just wanted to ask the question as I know some families are very open about stuff. "
my parents knew... As some nice person outed me. Neither were shocked, and later I discovered my parents were both in the lifestyle. I don't discuss it with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs.
That is more detail than I would feel is personally necessary. "
*Shrug*
Fair enough. Guess I'm just not ashamed of the fact I'm an adult who likes sex. And I know that my parents also like sex.
IT's much easier too when your parents meet your partner and instead of having to make up stories of how you met, you can just say 'at a fetish club'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs.
That is more detail than I would feel is personally necessary.
*Shrug*
Fair enough. Guess I'm just not ashamed of the fact I'm an adult who likes sex. And I know that my parents also like sex.
IT's much easier too when your parents meet your partner and instead of having to make up stories of how you met, you can just say 'at a fetish club'."
Your life is just very different than most. I met my partner through a friend and we only started swinging a few month ago after being together 10 years.
We aren't ashamed of what we do, we just feel it's got nothing to do with anyone else.
Each to their own. Tell them, don't tell them but no judgement either way!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ermmmm... no!
Though, they are open minded and they're well aware of my sexuality, and since I was 16 my mum's always had this "you're sensible and I trust your judgment" attitude, so I doubt either of them would be too bothered that I'm on here. Likewise, if I found them on here, I'd think "good for them", block me so they wouldn't suddenly stumble on my profile and let them get on with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My sex life isn't my parents business. If feel weird them knowing, especially as they babysit when we go on meets!
Oh I totally understand that and don't disagree. Your private life is just that. Just wanted to ask the question as I know some families are very open about stuff. my parents knew... As some nice person outed me. Neither were shocked, and later I discovered my parents were both in the lifestyle. I don't discuss it with them "
What are the chances of that happening?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs.
That is more detail than I would feel is personally necessary.
*Shrug*
Fair enough. Guess I'm just not ashamed of the fact I'm an adult who likes sex. And I know that my parents also like sex.
IT's much easier too when your parents meet your partner and instead of having to make up stories of how you met, you can just say 'at a fetish club'."
Its just not something I feel the need to discuss at my age.
You could sit there naked watching tv with your mum and dad if you wanted, but just beacuase I didn't do it then it wouldn't be because I was ashamed.
if you feel you need there support,then what you discuss is up to you.You have probably had a harder time about your sexual orientations than I ever will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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They don't know details but know i meet folk off the interwebs casually for 'encouters' and that I've been to adult clubs...
they're family. I don't hide things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs.
That is more detail than I would feel is personally necessary.
*Shrug*
Fair enough. Guess I'm just not ashamed of the fact I'm an adult who likes sex. And I know that my parents also like sex.
IT's much easier too when your parents meet your partner and instead of having to make up stories of how you met, you can just say 'at a fetish club'."
I'm not ashamed of what I do I just don't feel the need to take about it
That's not to say I don't think other shouldn't I'm just putting it out there that the reason I don't is not because I'm ashamed
Just as I didn't feel the need to talk about my sex life with my family when I was married I still don't now I'm single
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"Yes, my parents know about my lifestyle."
Is it a benefit of being a member of the LGBT community that you can be more open about your sexuality once you are out of the closet ? Perhaps it is because people kind of assume that some sort of deviancy goes along with being Gay, Trans etc ? |
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"if you feel you need there support,then what you discuss is up to you.You have probably had a harder time about your sexual orientations than I ever will."
My parents know I'm bisexual. But I suspect you mean my trans status by orientation (it's gender, not orientation). I don't actually discuss that with them tbh. I've never strongly identified as female and that's always been known since I was three or four years old.
I don't get 'support' from my parents about my sex life, nor do I discuss it in any detail. I just hide nothing from them. "What did you do at the weekend?" "Oh I met someone at Xtasia." That's about it really. They know one of my partners is submissive to me, but they don't know about our activities. And they know we all have multiple partners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, my parents know about my lifestyle.
Is it a benefit of being a member of the LGBT community that you can be more open about your sexuality once you are out of the closet ? Perhaps it is because people kind of assume that some sort of deviancy goes along with being Gay, Trans etc ? "
No. My parents knew I was into kink long before they know I had sex with women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Turning it around
My middle daugher tells me everything about her sex life and I mean everything, to the point I tell her to shut up sometimes, to be honest as a mother there are things you just don't need or what to know |
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"if you feel you need there support,then what you discuss is up to you.You have probably had a harder time about your sexual orientations than I ever will.
My parents know I'm bisexual. But I suspect you mean my trans status by orientation (it's gender, not orientation). I don't actually discuss that with them tbh. I've never strongly identified as female and that's always been known since I was three or four years old.
I don't get 'support' from my parents about my sex life, nor do I discuss it in any detail. I just hide nothing from them. "What did you do at the weekend?" "Oh I met someone at Xtasia." That's about it really. They know one of my partners is submissive to me, but they don't know about our activities. And they know we all have multiple partners."
I dont see how it makes me ashamed though just because I dont need to discuss it. |
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"if you feel you need there support,then what you discuss is up to you.You have probably had a harder time about your sexual orientations than I ever will.
My parents know I'm bisexual. But I suspect you mean my trans status by orientation (it's gender, not orientation). I don't actually discuss that with them tbh. I've never strongly identified as female and that's always been known since I was three or four years old.
I don't get 'support' from my parents about my sex life, nor do I discuss it in any detail. I just hide nothing from them. "What did you do at the weekend?" "Oh I met someone at Xtasia." That's about it really. They know one of my partners is submissive to me, but they don't know about our activities. And they know we all have multiple partners.
I dont see how it makes me ashamed though just because I dont need to discuss it."
I wasn't referring to you specifically. But lots of people don't think it's ok to discuss sex openly because some deep-rooted shame about sex. We're taught not to ask things about sex, not to talk about sex, not to be open about sex from a very young age. If young teenagers ask about sex in schools they get sent to counseling for example because it's seen as shameful behaviour.
I am not ashamed. I'm an open book. If any of my friends or family ask me anything about sex and my experience, then I'm always happy to tell them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't discuss details but not ashamed to admit I have multiple partners.
I am open and honest with mu kids but not in detail again but they can and do talk to me x |
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?"
Now you see I don't think sex is a bad thing to discuss or taboo. For me it's about my "private" business and that covers a whole range of subjects not just sex. |
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Now you see I don't think sex is a bad thing to discuss or taboo. For me it's about my "private" business and that covers a whole range of subjects not just sex. "
That's fair. I don't really have any concept of private stuff really. There's nothing I care if other people know. |
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs.
That is more detail than I would feel is personally necessary.
*Shrug*
Fair enough. Guess I'm just not ashamed of the fact I'm an adult who likes sex. And I know that my parents also like sex.
IT's much easier too when your parents meet your partner and instead of having to make up stories of how you met, you can just say 'at a fetish club'."
Curious: why do you assume people are ashamed because they wish to keep their private life private? |
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"If you are going into lots of details about your sex life with your parents then I would personally find that a bit weird.
But I should imagine your life is very different to mine so good luck to you
Define "lots of details".
I don't tell my parents that I had sex last night and we used a flavoured condom and a butt plug.
But they do know I meet people off the internet for casual sex sometimes, that I have multiple partners, and that I go to sex clubs.
That is more detail than I would feel is personally necessary.
*Shrug*
Fair enough. Guess I'm just not ashamed of the fact I'm an adult who likes sex. And I know that my parents also like sex.
IT's much easier too when your parents meet your partner and instead of having to make up stories of how you met, you can just say 'at a fetish club'.
I'm not ashamed of what I do I just don't feel the need to take about it
That's not to say I don't think other shouldn't I'm just putting it out there that the reason I don't is not because I'm ashamed
Just as I didn't feel the need to talk about my sex life with my family when I was married I still don't now I'm single
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Curious: why do you assume people are ashamed because they wish to keep their private life private? "
I guess because I was brought up by school and friends parents to think that sex was a shameful activity - and I don't think that's unusual at all. Sex was something you did behind closed doors, and you didn't talk about it because if you talked about it you were weird - or you had something wrong with you. I think that is the attitude of almost everyone I talk to on this site (I generally turn people down if I get the impression they're not very open people).
I don't think sex is anything to hide. It's a perfectly natural thing that we do because we enjoy it (or that we don't do, because we don't enjoy it).
I just always get the impression when I talk to people that aren't very open about sex that they're a bit ashamed of the fact they enjoy sex. It's just my experience. I'm sure that not everybody feels that way. |
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Curious: why do you assume people are ashamed because they wish to keep their private life private?
I guess because I was brought up by school and friends parents to think that sex was a shameful activity - and I don't think that's unusual at all. Sex was something you did behind closed doors, and you didn't talk about it because if you talked about it you were weird - or you had something wrong with you. I think that is the attitude of almost everyone I talk to on this site (I generally turn people down if I get the impression they're not very open people).
I don't think sex is anything to hide. It's a perfectly natural thing that we do because we enjoy it (or that we don't do, because we don't enjoy it).
I just always get the impression when I talk to people that aren't very open about sex that they're a bit ashamed of the fact they enjoy sex. It's just my experience. I'm sure that not everybody feels that way."
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I totally agree that we should be more open with people re: sex. And you happen to have a really good, open and honest relationship with your parents, what can be so wrong about talking about sex?
I have a great relationship with my mum but we don't talk about sex, as she is from 'that generation' and she gets weirded out. That said...she has started to say to me "after everything you have been through, would you never get on that internet and find a man, it's a waste" which is code for "now you have a vagina, use it" |
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Mine know to a degree - they think I use fab as a dating site
I told them because my ex & his partner have a couples profile on here & I thought if they were to find out it would be better coming from me than my ex!!
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing "
Funniest response I've read in ages, just made me proper giggle x |
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I can't see any reason for telling my 85 yr old mother about my sex life. She's deaf for a start so the neighbours would hear me shouting it out to her. MUM! I GOT FUCKED IN THE ARSE YESTERDAY BY A 32 YEAR OLD MAN I'M NOT MARRIED TOO!! |
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"Hi all.
I was just wondering how much people's parents know about what they get up to. Do they know anything about the fun or do they have no idea? Maybe they are the ones who were open about playing with others.
Love to hear your various experiences. "
. It would be very unusual to discuss these activities with your parents . |
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?"
We don't think sex is bad but we still don't want to talk to our parents about our or their sex life, it's private for us
Nor do i want to hear about my childrens sex lives |
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing
My Dad has met both of my male partners, and knows that I go to fetish and swing clubs. I don't personally see that as a problem.
My academic work (and my future job) revolves around this kind of stuff. I campaign politically for the rights of minority groups like fetishists. I'm not going to hide most of my life away from my parents just because some other people think it's weird to have an adult conversation with them.
And you shouldn't if that's what you want to do, it just wouldn't work for me and I feel that some things should be kept seperate.I would have absolutely nothing to gain by discussing such stuff with my folks."
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
We don't think sex is bad but we still don't want to talk to our parents about our or their sex life, it's private for us
Nor do i want to hear about my childrens sex lives "
Exactly...in fact we don't discuss our sex lives with any relatives or friends either....and why on earth would they ask anyway??  |
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"if you feel you need there support,then what you discuss is up to you.You have probably had a harder time about your sexual orientations than I ever will.
My parents know I'm bisexual. But I suspect you mean my trans status by orientation (it's gender, not orientation). I don't actually discuss that with them tbh. I've never strongly identified as female and that's always been known since I was three or four years old.
I don't get 'support' from my parents about my sex life, nor do I discuss it in any detail. I just hide nothing from them. "What did you do at the weekend?" "Oh I met someone at Xtasia." That's about it really. They know one of my partners is submissive to me, but they don't know about our activities. And they know we all have multiple partners.
I dont see how it makes me ashamed though just because I dont need to discuss it."
I agree, I'm not ashamed of what i get up to in my sex life but i have no need or wish to talk to my parents about it, i can't talk to one of them cus they are dead but the other lives in their own little world and knowing my sex life is not important to them, but i am definetly NOT ashamed of my swinging lifestyle |
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
We don't think sex is bad but we still don't want to talk to our parents about our or their sex life, it's private for us
Nor do i want to hear about my childrens sex lives
Exactly...in fact we don't discuss our sex lives with any relatives or friends either....and why on earth would they ask anyway?? "
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over a year ago
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"P's parents know...She can't lie and had to tell them something when she stays with them (when she/we visit) and suddenly started staying out all night. "
So way did they say? We're they surprised. |
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"P's parents know...She can't lie and had to tell them something when she stays with them (when she/we visit) and suddenly started staying out all night.
So way did they say? We're they surprised. "
Her dad doesn't acknowledge what we do but her mam (Geordie word for mum, or mom for our American friends) says "Stay safe" when we go out. She's really cool though...When P told her she had been reported as a missing person to the police by her friends (She didn't go back to her flat for three days from the night we met) she laughed and said "They don't know you very well, do they?"  |
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I'm open with my parents to the extent that they're aware that I'm sexually active. They are of the generation where anything other than heterosexual sex isn't 'normal' so I'm not sure my Mum would even believe I'm bisexual. I've never told them because on a need to know basis, they just don't need to know. My brother is aware obviously given he's kicking around here somewhere, I felt it was only decent to tell him rather than have him read it having come across my profile by accident.
I don't hide it from anyone else though, I'm open at work and in my friendship circle. I don't consider sex a taboo subject and if I needed to talk to my folks about it then I wouldn't hesitate. I've just never had cause to.
I guess we're all different. I do think it's a bit weird for it to be a taboo subject and I know a lot of friends who are wholly uncomfortable talking to me about sex never mind have that conversation with their parents. |
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My Dad does not know. If he asked me outright I would answer honestly.
His new wife is another matter. She's already had kittens over the fact that my best guy friend is nearly 20 years younger than me  |
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Depends on yr age I suppose..e.g
I know for certain that my parents wouldn't be on this site or even look at it..
I have told my adult son's on case they decided to join fab swingers. .that way there is no or little awkwardness.. |
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"Hi all.
I was just wondering how much people's parents know about what they get up to. Do they know anything about the fun or do they have no idea? Maybe they are the ones who were open about playing with others.
Love to hear your various experiences. "
dear god no. |
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"Why on Earth would anybody deliberately tell their parents?
Because we don't think that sex is a bad thing that shouldn't be discussed?
Hi Dad, let's talk about sex.
There's this website where I go to fuck and get fucked by various people I don't even know what their real names are.
Smashing
My Dad has met both of my male partners, and knows that I go to fetish and swing clubs. I don't personally see that as a problem.
My academic work (and my future job) revolves around this kind of stuff. I campaign politically for the rights of minority groups like fetishists. I'm not going to hide most of my life away from my parents just because some other people think it's weird to have an adult conversation with them.
well then it is obviously different for you when it is such a massive part of your life. When it's your work then of course your parents will know and being open is probably right in that circumstance.
Most of us don't work around anything sex related so not only does the topic of sex not come up in our personal lives, i'm not gonna go "oh hey by the way mum i'm a swinger".
I am quite happy to talk to her openly about a lot of things but what i get up to in the bedroom (or even what she gets up to in the bedroom) is not a subject of discussion in our lives. "
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over a year ago
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"Hi all.
I was just wondering how much people's parents know about what they get up to. Do they know anything about the fun or do they have no idea? Maybe they are the ones who were open about playing with others.
Love to hear your various experiences. "
No. FFS No. No! No! No! |
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I am not sure why my parents would want to know. We are middle aged with kids in their teens, why do we need to discuss our social lives and activities with our parents? I dont tell them when I go to the movies or go shopping. Its the sort of question one teenager would ask another, surely? |
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over a year ago
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I never thought this would cause so much discussion. Thanks everyone for posting. I am honestly not saying I think parents should know but I was more intrigued about some families who parents and (adult) kids are open and they know some of the things each others gets up to, not the gory details lol |
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"Depends on yr age I suppose..e.g
I know for certain that my parents wouldn't be on this site or even look at it..
I have told my adult son's on case they decided to join fab swingers. .that way there is no or little awkwardness.."
I wouldn't be so sure .. My father is in his 80s and still enjoys the lifestyle. |
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We have no desire to discuss our sex life with our parents.
Mine would be horrified anyway. Cals mum might be perfectly fine with it, as his parents probably involved others in their sex life too.
I made the mistake of telling my sister.... Bad idea
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I told my mum I'd joined a website to meet people for 'encounters'. She wasn't bothered or shocked. It wasn't some grand announcement, just a casual 'what did you do this weekend' sort of conversation. |
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Well - if you believe in the afterlife - then my dad knows and he's either looking down on me with horror or giving me a celestial high five - not sure which!
My mum doesn't - but the concept of sex for pleasure is a complete mystery to her - so she'd be completely unable to grasp it!
My ex knows though After I was 'outed' - and my oldest daughter found out after swingfields! Xx |
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My family know. I'm not ashamed of who I am. The majority of my friends know too. It means I can discuss issues that can arise. I don't share details but they understand the situation xxx |
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"Well - if you believe in the afterlife - then my dad knows and he's either looking down on me with horror or giving me a celestial high five - not sure which!
My mum doesn't - but the concept of sex for pleasure is a complete mystery to her - so she'd be completely unable to grasp it!
My ex knows though After I was 'outed' - and my oldest daughter found out after swingfields! Xx"
How did your daughter find out? How did she react and was she surprised or did she expect you to enjoy fun like this. |
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My parents didn't even understand the degree I did or what I've worked in for the past 20 years. They certainly don't know what is in my desk drawer at work, my bag of toys, my phone, my memory or my imagination. |
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Yes my dad knows I'm in FAB and my play .... And I know his .... Sex is as normal as finances. Values, manners and any other discussion topic we would have with parents ... I have found Brits in general don't seem to chat with their parents about anything important especially once they have left home ...... Sex is just sex ... |
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I'm open with my family, but they don't know about this side to me yet. It would be easier if they did know, and it wouldn't bother me to say I was going to a club if they knew and asked what my weekend plans were.
It's just knowing how to start that conversation |
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