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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I'm a British born indian and really struggle to get a meet on here. 9/10 the women or couple specificy on their profile that they do not wish to be contacted by asian or indian men so that rules myself out straight away without them even seeing a picture or getting to know me. Usually on the lines of "we are not racist just our preference". Each to their own and I respect that. But it's like how do i get a meet? In total I've been on this site for around 6 years or so (over 2 profiles) and haven't had the amount or quality of meets I've been seeking. Tried changing many things but no luck. Any ideas? any help? Any women or couples out there that would give me a chance? I'm a good looking, genuine, gym fit horny indian who just wants a chance... Lets hear your thoughts. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this and any guidance/offers to meet that come my way. Have a great weekend people! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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9/10 sounds like a childish whinge to me...its bollocks...cannot directly comment on your profile but,believe me, your ethnicity is not what is holding you back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not a whinge or a race sympathy card. Just how i feel and the facts really. I didn't post to get criticised just wanted some guidance or help or potential people who see past this and would be willing to give me a try. Don't worry it's fine if some people are too shallow. I will still continue trying. At least I'm not pushy like some of the men on here. |
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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago
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Dude we can't tell you how to be yourself and we also can't make women like you, just saying like
Fyi, I'm of Indian origin and I have never experienced the things that some of the guys post on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a whinge or a race sympathy card. Just how i feel and the facts really. I didn't post to get criticised just wanted some guidance or help or potential people who see past this and would be willing to give me a try. Don't worry it's fine if some people are too shallow. I will still continue trying. At least I'm not pushy like some of the men on here. "
what do you want people to 'see past'?...and how are people being shallow exactly? if you want people to directly comment on your profile,post in the introductions forum , and people can answer you more specifically. |
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"As Asians we don't have any such issues. Isn't your question more related to some single men on here rather than your race?"
The life of a couple on here is miles apart from a single guy's; trust me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'll keep trying people! Thanks for those who have been positive...
Any women particularly seek an indian guy?
What is it for those who don't (and have specified in their profile) that has put you off? Past bad experience? Or never fancied from the offset? (All of which is fine - as i said each to their own and everyone has different tastes) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As Asians we don't have any such issues. Isn't your question more related to some single men on here rather than your race?
The life of a couple on here is miles apart from a single guy's; trust me."
Exactly the point. Meant that the issue is more likely to be related to single male rather than race. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a British born indian and really struggle to get a meet on here. 9/10 the women or couple specificy on their profile that they do not wish to be contacted by asian or indian men so that rules myself out straight away without them even seeing a picture or getting to know me. Usually on the lines of "we are not racist just our preference". Each to their own and I respect that. But it's like how do i get a meet? In total I've been on this site for around 6 years or so (over 2 profiles) and haven't had the amount or quality of meets I've been seeking. Tried changing many things but no luck. Any ideas? any help? Any women or couples out there that would give me a chance? I'm a good looking, genuine, gym fit horny indian who just wants a chance... Lets hear your thoughts. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this and any guidance/offers to meet that come my way. Have a great weekend people! "
Have you tried using a different picture? 1 that is not you...lol
I think it works both ways to be fair,you get a lot who won't meet but there are a few who only want black or Indian or whatever. I also think a site for ethnic swingers may be more lucrative for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As Asians we don't have any such issues. Isn't your question more related to some single men on here rather than your race?
The life of a couple on here is miles apart from a single guy's; trust me."
How do you know? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As Asians we don't have any such issues. Isn't your question more related to some single men on here rather than your race?
The life of a couple on here is miles apart from a single guy's; trust me.
Exactly the point. Meant that the issue is more likely to be related to single male rather than race."
yes,especially if race is not mentioned, anywhere, at all, at any point...in a profile!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a British born indian and really struggle to get a meet on here. 9/10 the women or couple specificy on their profile that they do not wish to be contacted by asian or indian men so that rules myself out straight away without them even seeing a picture or getting to know me. Usually on the lines of "we are not racist just our preference". Each to their own and I respect that. But it's like how do i get a meet? In total I've been on this site for around 6 years or so (over 2 profiles) and haven't had the amount or quality of meets I've been seeking. Tried changing many things but no luck. Any ideas? any help? Any women or couples out there that would give me a chance? I'm a good looking, genuine, gym fit horny indian who just wants a chance... Lets hear your thoughts. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this and any guidance/offers to meet that come my way. Have a great weekend people! "
I'd get rid of the cut n paste bit? "I have pasted in my previous verifications incase anyone doesn't believe me" It doesn't feel at all genuine?
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"As Asians we don't have any such issues. Isn't your question more related to some single men on here rather than your race?
The life of a couple on here is miles apart from a single guy's; trust me.
Exactly the point. Meant that the issue is more likely to be related to single male rather than race."
But you see, there is the other thing as well, which is an undeniable fact. ( un) fortunately, this other thing is not one of the fundamental human rights enshrined in law. It is not an inalienable right.
As I said on another thread before it all went pear shaped, these things happen (even in real life) anywhere and everywhere.
All it means is you know where to roast your chestnuts and where a LAW has been broken, " there are a thousand and one ways of skinning a cunt".  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a British born indian and really struggle to get a meet on here. 9/10 the women or couple specificy on their profile that they do not wish to be contacted by asian or indian men so that rules myself out straight away without them even seeing a picture or getting to know me. Usually on the lines of "we are not racist just our preference". Each to their own and I respect that. But it's like how do i get a meet? In total I've been on this site for around 6 years or so (over 2 profiles) and haven't had the amount or quality of meets I've been seeking. Tried changing many things but no luck. Any ideas? any help? Any women or couples out there that would give me a chance? I'm a good looking, genuine, gym fit horny indian who just wants a chance... Lets hear your thoughts. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this and any guidance/offers to meet that come my way. Have a great weekend people! "
the only advice I can give is if you post this in swingers support and advice then we can maybe advise on the profile  |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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I have a couple of comments
1. OP is partly correct. Lets face it, many white women and couples are biased and don't want Asian men. Don't think it's 90% but it's high. It's not a skin colour thing, it's an ethnicity issue because the same couples and women will fuck black men (and please, not all black men have big cocks !). I do play with Asian men and many of my GFs during banter will say they don't want 'em.
2. Your profile stinks and I'd never be interested in you. No profile picture to begin with, one lousey picture inside. Profile tells nothing about you except you got hacked (boo hoo).
3. One issue with Asian men which takes a bit of getting used to is that they tend to be bossy - a turn off for many, certainly if you don't know them. I think it's somewhat cultural and even you local Asian lads, born and raised here, sometimes tend to be bossy though self-correct very quickly when it's pointed out. I grew up around Asians so know the culture very well but others may not be so understanding during conversations here on Fab
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a couple of comments
1. OP is partly correct. Lets face it, many white women and couples are biased and don't want Asian men. Don't think it's 90% but it's high. It's not a skin colour thing, it's an ethnicity issue because the same couples and women will fuck black men (and please, not all black men have big cocks !). I do play with Asian men and many of my GFs during banter will say they don't want 'em.
2. Your profile stinks and I'd never be interested in you. No profile picture to begin with, one lousey picture inside. Profile tells nothing about you except you got hacked (boo hoo).
3. One issue with Asian men which takes a bit of getting used to is that they tend to be bossy - a turn off for many, certainly if you don't know them. I think it's somewhat cultural and even you local Asian lads, born and raised here, sometimes tend to be bossy though self-correct very quickly when it's pointed out. I grew up around Asians so know the culture very well but others may not be so understanding during conversations here on Fab
Good luck"
Hot girl you might have had a handful of asian guys but thats doesn't mean were all the same so stop with the stereotyping because each indvidual is different and if you haven't learnt that yet you've been living under a rock. |
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To be honest I feel slightly umcomfortable when I see the 'no Asians' on a profile.
They don't have to put that.
I'm not qualified, and it wouldn't be fair of accusing them of being racist, but.. the comments clearly are. Difficult to defend.
And if you put gym fit only, and try to compare that anaologously, I don't think that washes either.
Bringing race into it is so backwards. These things are so different.
If a lady/man/couple DON'T want to meet people who are not ethnically right, for whatever legitimate or not reason, then they can leave that information off their profile and just ignore, delete or block messages. Fucking simple.
Unless they don't mind coming across as potentially bigoted.
And no, I'm not saying they are.
Necessarily. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"I have a couple of comments
1. OP is partly correct. Lets face it, many white women and couples are biased and don't want Asian men. Don't think it's 90% but it's high. It's not a skin colour thing, it's an ethnicity issue because the same couples and women will fuck black men (and please, not all black men have big cocks !). I do play with Asian men and many of my GFs during banter will say they don't want 'em.
2. Your profile stinks and I'd never be interested in you. No profile picture to begin with, one lousey picture inside. Profile tells nothing about you except you got hacked (boo hoo).
3. One issue with Asian men which takes a bit of getting used to is that they tend to be bossy - a turn off for many, certainly if you don't know them. I think it's somewhat cultural and even you local Asian lads, born and raised here, sometimes tend to be bossy though self-correct very quickly when it's pointed out. I grew up around Asians so know the culture very well but others may not be so understanding during conversations here on Fab
Good luck
Hot girl you might have had a handful of asian guys but thats doesn't mean were all the same so stop with the stereotyping because each indvidual is different and if you haven't learnt that yet you've been living under a rock. "
You didn't read what I wrote carefully. It's an observation not a generalization or sterotyping. Nor is it a negative, it's a DIFFERENCE. Jesus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its full of white women that want to try black cock and are a bit racist be real lol I'm black and they think I'm asain lol   "
You are just a bit too young. (( |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honest I feel slightly umcomfortable when I see the 'no Asians' on a profile.
They don't have to put that.
I'm not qualified, and it wouldn't be fair of accusing them of being racist, but.. the comments clearly are. "
That's exactly right - that's why I said white women and couples are biased - but it's not against skin colour necessarily, it's the ethnic group they are biased against - can't say if it's a throw back to colonial times or what. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a couple of comments
1. OP is partly correct. Lets face it, many white women and couples are biased and don't want Asian men. Don't think it's 90% but it's high. It's not a skin colour thing, it's an ethnicity issue because the same couples and women will fuck black men (and please, not all black men have big cocks !). I do play with Asian men and many of my GFs during banter will say they don't want 'em.
2. Your profile stinks and I'd never be interested in you. No profile picture to begin with, one lousey picture inside. Profile tells nothing about you except you got hacked (boo hoo).
3. One issue with Asian men which takes a bit of getting used to is that they tend to be bossy - a turn off for many, certainly if you don't know them. I think it's somewhat cultural and even you local Asian lads, born and raised here, sometimes tend to be bossy though self-correct very quickly when it's pointed out. I grew up around Asians so know the culture very well but others may not be so understanding during conversations here on Fab
Good luck"
I used to be an equal-opportunity swinger. I have chatted with Asian guys, met some for coffees and gone to a party with one. The only one who was absolutely lovely is the latter but I was not attracted to him. All the others did at least one of the following:
- had no experience with women - we are talking guys over 30 years of age;
- were obsessed with gratuitous sex talk, i.e. pronouncing sexual terms to arouse themselves, not the woman;
- were too insistent on meeting and having sex straight away, even when told it is not happening;
- were afraid to be seen with a woman they met in the scene.
I hate to generalise but some of them were British-born. Guess the culture and upbringing go deeper than we may think, and it is easier to filter out a whole group than to sieve through representatives of that group hoping one comes your way that you will like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest I feel slightly umcomfortable when I see the 'no Asians' on a profile.
They don't have to put that.
I'm not qualified, and it wouldn't be fair of accusing them of being racist, but.. the comments clearly are. Difficult to defend.
And if you put gym fit only, and try to compare that anaologously, I don't think that washes either.
Bringing race into it is so backwards. These things are so different.
If a lady/man/couple DON'T want to meet people who are not ethnically right, for whatever legitimate or not reason, then they can leave that information off their profile and just ignore, delete or block messages. Fucking simple.
Unless they don't mind coming across as potentially bigoted.
And no, I'm not saying they are.
Necessarily. "
As the profile is essentially your shop window you can put whatever you like on it... If whoever is reading it ( or not as is usually the case) doesn't like it then just move.. I'm sure there will be a profile to suit eventually |
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Actually: fair play to Fab for not having ethnicity(I don't think?)as a tick box thing when you join. This means that people can't discriminate in their searches/blocking.
Don't know if this was intentional, but if so, then bravo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is illegal to use labels as such in public, so why is it allowed online? lol. Alabama was one of the first country's to rule it out back in the 60s."
It's not illegal to express a preference for a certain type of person and if that means putting no black or Asians then so be it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest I feel slightly umcomfortable when I see the 'no Asians' on a profile.
They don't have to put that.
I'm not qualified, and it wouldn't be fair of accusing them of being racist, but.. the comments clearly are.
That's exactly right - that's why I said white women and couples are biased - but it's not against skin colour necessarily, it's the ethnic group they are biased against - can't say if it's a throw back to colonial times or what. "
Crawl back in to the hole you came from |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People generally have a good idea what works for them to make a successful meet. If that means they choose not to meet people from a specific ethnic background that is their choice.
You can call it racist, stereotyping, preference or whatever.
It's their choice and should always be accepted.
I have types I am not attracted to and won't meet under any circumstances but as I'm a single male I'm not exactly inundated with emails every day so don't need to express it on my profile. If I was receiving hundreds then I would put it there so you don't waste your time or mine.
Don't like it? Move on to the next profile and don't waste time on those who aren't suited to you.
It's simple really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Also...how different would this be if it were a British India woman on here instead? I bet more than half the people who reject asians from their profile would alter their thinking and play with an indian lady??
What's your thinking? True or not? Be interesting to see what people think. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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Forget about those profiles and put effort into the profiles who don't state that. A good approach and how you come across is in our experience a better way to attract interest. There's some good Indian profiles doing very well on here and we can vouch it's their personality which is the key factor in deciding to meet. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honest I feel slightly umcomfortable when I see the 'no Asians' on a profile.
They don't have to put that.
I'm not qualified, and it wouldn't be fair of accusing them of being racist, but.. the comments clearly are.
That's exactly right - that's why I said white women and couples are biased - but it's not against skin colour necessarily, it's the ethnic group they are biased against - can't say if it's a throw back to colonial times or what.
Crawl back in to the hole you came from"
Profound, isn't it |
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I'm also British born and proud of it.
If people are not into Asians then I either block them or don't bother contacting them. Don't let it get me down because it's not worth it.
I'm looking for friendly couples and ladies who love to have fun no mater their background. As long as they respect either other, not cheating and respect the law.
I state I'm Asian on my profile name to avoid confusion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally speaking, it's difficult for people to accept being ruled out by stereotype without reason.
More specifically, if it's my ethnicity then what is it people don't like, why are they shy to specify exactly what they don't like about them? I would love to ask each and every profile that 'discriminates' in this sense but you know you're not going to get a reply lol. As ignorant as it may seem to those being stereotyped, we just gotta get on with it I suppose!
I'm Asian myself, seems like I'm doomed! |
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"So I'm a British born ( why would British born be important?) indian and really struggle to get a meet on here. 9/10 the women or couple specificy on their profile that they do not wish to be contacted by asian or indian men so that rules myself out straight away ( so they have preference, think your post will make them change their minds?)without them even seeing a picture (if you have no pictures then that may be a deciding factor for many!)or getting to know me (how would they get to know you, and the other 200 that have messaged that day?)Usually on the lines of "we are not racist just our preference"( it is just their preference ... Let them have it!) Each to their own and I respect that ( you clearly don't!) But it's like how do i get a meet?( that's not their problem) In total I've been on this site for around 6 years or so (over 2 profiles) and haven't had the amount ( how many did you want?) or quality of meets ( what do you base your quality notion on? Is it things you'd prefer?) I've been seeking. Tried changing many things but no luck. Any ideas? any help? Any women or couples out there that would give me a chance? (Probably not now they may not meet your quality criteria)I'm a good looking ( who said)genuine,( genuine what) gym fit ( your visits to a gym make a difference or you trying to aim at people who prefer gym fit, rather than just normal every day life fit?)horny indian who just wants a chance... Lets hear your thoughts. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this and any guidance/offers to meet that come my way. Have a great weekend people! "
I find the whole post nauseous!
You sorta asked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too often people dwell on why people have preferences as apposed to just getting on with life and meeting people who do want to meet them.
Many profiles from Asian couples state no white/black people on them as there are many black couple profiles stating the same. All people have preferences such is life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Something like 2 or 3 % of the U.K. Population is Indian according to the census thingy
49 million white people so that means 1 Indian person has at least 5 people according to op figures that are prepared to meet
I am bored |
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"Not a whinge or a race sympathy card. Just how i feel and the facts really. I didn't post to get criticised just wanted some guidance or help or potential people who see past this and would be willing to give me a try. Don't worry it's fine if some people are too shallow. I will still continue trying. At least I'm not pushy like some of the men on here. "
Just because people don't wish to meet you doesn't make them shallow, perhaps look a little closer to home before casting aspersions! |
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"Actually: fair play to Fab for not having ethnicity(I don't think?)as a tick box thing when you join. This means that people can't discriminate in their searches/blocking.
Don't know if this was intentional, but if so, then bravo!"
Why bravo? If people have those preferences then being able to block/filter would save a whole lot of hassle. |
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I personally am not physically attracted to Asian men and I am a British born Asian woman ,I happen to be attracted to white and mixed race men .it's simply a physical thing.we don't state on our profile that we are not interested in Asian men as it's not necessary. We just politely decline . Having said that I have been called laughably traitor to my race for not wanting to play with Asian guys,but that just shows the ignorance of some people.
I suggest the OPS lack of success is due more to him as a person and lack of interesting profile and pics than his ethnicity. Just my opinion . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hey, I wouldn't take offence at all, I myself felt that I wasn't getting any messages and then I just updated my profile, and made sure that it was current and attracting, if people don't like a certain colour who cares, surly coming across a certain way can put any one off, enjoy, take your time messaging and be a gentleman. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'll keep trying people! Thanks for those who have been positive...
Any women particularly seek an indian guy?
What is it for those who don't (and have specified in their profile) that has put you off? Past bad experience? Or never fancied from the offset? (All of which is fine - as i said each to their own and everyone has different tastes) "
Both, I am afraid. After trying to be fair and giving people the benefit of the doubt, I just gave up. |
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