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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, we don't. Attraction is the key, really. Marc and I really want each other to have fun and the more attracted they are to the other person, the better.
I personally love it when Marc is with a woman I think is more attractive than me (and it has happened on numerous occasions). Its really sexy to watch and occasionally join in 
-Courtney |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
Thanks for replying."
No. That's what we're looking for, sex with those that we find attractive. The more we fancy them, the better really.
But we do both have to feel comfortable and 'like' them being in their company. If one of us, isn't happy for that reason then it's a no. However hot they are to look at.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't have a partner or boyfriend but if I did the woman would have to be way less attractive than me and even then I'd question why he was able to get hard for someone unattractive. So basically if I had a partner I wouldn't be able to do any kind of swinging, way too narcissistic for any of that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't have a partner or boyfriend but if I did the woman would have to be way less attractive than me and even then I'd question why he was able to get hard for someone unattractive. So basically if I had a partner I wouldn't be able to do any kind of swinging, way too narcissistic for any of that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, we don't. Attraction is the key, really. Marc and I really want each other to have fun and the more attracted they are to the other person, the better.
I personally love it when Marc is with a woman I think is more attractive than me (and it has happened on numerous occasions). Its really sexy to watch and occasionally join in
-Courtney"
It'd be rude to not join in wouldn't it?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
Thanks for replying.
No. That's what we're looking for, sex with those that we find attractive. The more we fancy them, the better really.
But we do both have to feel comfortable and 'like' them being in their company. If one of us, isn't happy for that reason then it's a no. However hot they are to look at.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At the end of it all he still comes home to me, so I'm not fussed, not jealous, no rules etc. "
I think that's the thing, it's not a relationship its just fun and normal imo, of course the vanillas would say we are weird! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, we don't. Attraction is the key, really. Marc and I really want each other to have fun and the more attracted they are to the other person, the better.
I personally love it when Marc is with a woman I think is more attractive than me (and it has happened on numerous occasions). Its really sexy to watch and occasionally join in
-Courtney"
Lucky bastard your Marc! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't have a partner or boyfriend but if I did the woman would have to be way less attractive than me and even then I'd question why he was able to get hard for someone unattractive. So basically if I had a partner I wouldn't be able to do any kind of swinging, way too narcissistic for any of that. "
Honest yet kinda understandable why your single |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the end of it all he still comes home to me, so I'm not fussed, not jealous, no rules etc.
I think that's the thing, it's not a relationship its just fun and normal imo, of course the vanillas would say we are weird!"
That's how we think too. We can find other people sexy and try different thing, but nothing could come close to our intimacy, affection, love and dedication that is our relationship. So far no one has been better than my R and R says the same thing about me. ^^ |
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there cant be any insecurities in this game or jealousy ...
cheeky says why would we wanna swing with anyone that he finds less attractive than me else what would be the point ...
ppl need to remember that swinging shouldnt be your sex life it should be the bit extra....
we love the lifestyle and the social side as much as playing but netheir of us will compromise hence we have only full swapped with 2 couples not picky but there has to be sexual attraction .....
we have foundt people do compromise and will play with anyone just to play |
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"Don't have a partner or boyfriend but if I did the woman would have to be way less attractive than me and even then I'd question why he was able to get hard for someone unattractive. So basically if I had a partner I wouldn't be able to do any kind of swinging, way too narcissistic for any of that. "
I don't play at clubs I like to watch. My other half loves to play. When he plays with a slim, attractive woman it doesn't bother me in the least, but if it's someone old and unattractive (to me) I question his taste and irrationally feel offended. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
Thanks for replying."
That's why it works so well for us. It's almost impossible for V to find someone more attractive than me 
Ps I am joking x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, we don't. Attraction is the key, really. Marc and I really want each other to have fun and the more attracted they are to the other person, the better.
I personally love it when Marc is with a woman I think is more attractive than me (and it has happened on numerous occasions). Its really sexy to watch and occasionally join in
-Courtney
Lucky bastard your Marc!"
He's a very lucky man! |
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"Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
Thanks for replying."
No we don't. Neither of us really compare ourselves to others in that way, we might be aware that others are younger or look different in some way but the most important thing to us is our relationship and the perceived sexiness or good looks of a swinging partner can't threaten that. I do truly think it's about self esteem and security. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only thing we don't do is play alone and kiss x
We don't do either of those things either "
Kissing is to personal for us. When we meet we meet to fuck not make love x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only thing we don't do is play alone and kiss x
We don't do either of those things either
Kissing is to personal for us. When we meet we meet to fuck not make love x
Ooo you devils   "
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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It's not something I've ever thought about when I play as a couple. Even when we play as singles and he gets himself a right hottie. I'm more likely to congratulate him and ask him to find out subtly if she's bi. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
Thanks for replying."
It may be different for couples, but the ladies who I meet from fab I consider as friends. As friends, I want them to have the best time with the sexiest men possible. It's as simple as that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hell no, I don't restrict anything on him other than I have to be present. If he gets to have sex with someone hotter than me then SCORE! Just gotta hope they're bi so I can play with the hotties too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I wouldn't dream of dictating who my partner can have sex with in a million years.
But then, I'm not so insecure that I'd lose my shit if they slept with someone more classically beautiful / more athletic / skinner / more intelligent than me.
In fact, my partners other partner is more beautiful, more athletic, skinnier AND more intelligent than me... but why should that bother me? My partner likes me because of who I am, not how I compare to other people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
Thanks for replying."
If they were the boundaries I think you may as well not bother swinging,surely you want the most attractive for yourself and partner? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only thing we don't do is play alone and kiss x
We don't do either of those things either
Kissing is to personal for us. When we meet we meet to fuck not make love x"
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We've played with a couple who we didn't see again because the male admitted to me that she felt that I was more attractive than her   . I don't compare myself to anyone and it makes me sad that anyone compares themselves to me. Everyone has their own beautiful qualities and someone wouldn't be with their own partner if they didn't fancy them.
I don't get jealous so no real boundaries there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
My husband can have sex with women younger than me, slimmer, taller, shorter, prettier, better body whatever.
I trust him.
If I didn't we wouldn't be doing this."
Exactly this |
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"No, we don't. Attraction is the key, really. Marc and I really want each other to have fun and the more attracted they are to the other person, the better.
I personally love it when Marc is with a woman I think is more attractive than me (and it has happened on numerous occasions). Its really sexy to watch and occasionally join in
-Courtney"
Exactly same for us too. Love seeing hubby with someone I think is really hot, so much more of a turn on and hubby feels the same when watching me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My long term partner has another woman who is very sexy and half my age. I love seeing the photos and videos they make for me and I'm looking forward to sharing him with her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't have a partner or boyfriend but if I did the woman would have to be way less attractive than me and even then I'd question why he was able to get hard for someone unattractive. So basically if I had a partner I wouldn't be able to do any kind of swinging, way too narcissistic for any of that. "
That doesn't sound like narcissism, it sounds like low self esteem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it doesn't matter if the play partners are more attractive, if we all get along then we go for it. I have seen Mr Iconic play with gorgeous ladies half his age and I love it, and vice versa.
We say no when one of us is uncomfortable regardless of the reason. It's usually a personality thing though rather than looks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone, so the question is do you have boundaries such as 'Mr or Mrs can't have sex with someone that your partner feels is more attractive or sexier than them' (even if its just their opinion not yours personally).
Thanks for replying.
No. That's what we're looking for, sex with those that we find attractive. The more we fancy them, the better really.
But we do both have to feel comfortable and 'like' them being in their company. If one of us, isn't happy for that reason then it's a no. However hot they are to look at. "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't have a partner or boyfriend but if I did the woman would have to be way less attractive than me and even then I'd question why he was able to get hard for someone unattractive. So basically if I had a partner I wouldn't be able to do any kind of swinging, way too narcissistic for any of that.
That doesn't sound like narcissism, it sounds like low self esteem."
It's an insult is what it is! Was with my ex for almost 10 years and if at any point during that time he'd said to me, look tam I'm getting a bit bored like, think we should introduce a 3rd person to spice things up or think I want to sleep with someone else I'd have smacked his fucking lips off his face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't have a partner or boyfriend but if I did the woman would have to be way less attractive than me and even then I'd question why he was able to get hard for someone unattractive. So basically if I had a partner I wouldn't be able to do any kind of swinging, way too narcissistic for any of that.
That doesn't sound like narcissism, it sounds like low self esteem.
It's an insult is what it is! Was with my ex for almost 10 years and if at any point during that time he'd said to me, look tam I'm getting a bit bored like, think we should introduce a 3rd person to spice things up or think I want to sleep with someone else I'd have smacked his fucking lips off his face. "
its not always about being bored thought is it
don't get me wrong i wouldn't do this as a couple either but for different reasons to yours
some people just have fantasies they want to explore it has no reflection on how they feel about their partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's an insult is what it is! Was with my ex for almost 10 years and if at any point during that time he'd said to me, look tam I'm getting a bit bored like, think we should introduce a 3rd person to spice things up or think I want to sleep with someone else I'd have smacked his fucking lips off his face. "
I don't have sex with other people because I'm bored with my partners, I have sex with other people because I enjoy having sex with other people. I don't see any good reason why you should limit it to just one person. |
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"No, we don't. Attraction is the key, really. Marc and I really want each other to have fun and the more attracted they are to the other person, the better.
I personally love it when Marc is with a woman I think is more attractive than me (and it has happened on numerous occasions). Its really sexy to watch and occasionally join in
-Courtney
Exactly same for us too. Love seeing hubby with someone I think is really hot, so much more of a turn on and hubby feels the same when watching me "
Agreed! Plus I would hopefully be joining if she's bi so if she's very attractive, all the better |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be fair I mostly say no if Mr likes a lady I feel isn't attractive. But as I don't fancy women and everyone likes different things I do mostly try to be open about things
I always let mr find me guys as I know what I don't want but if I felt attraction to a guy I'd not play. ( yup I know its odd) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's an insult is what it is! Was with my ex for almost 10 years and if at any point during that time he'd said to me, look tam I'm getting a bit bored like, think we should introduce a 3rd person to spice things up or think I want to sleep with someone else I'd have smacked his fucking lips off his face.
I don't have sex with other people because I'm bored with my partners, I have sex with other people because I enjoy having sex with other people. I don't see any good reason why you should limit it to just one person. "
There's nothing wrong with that, I'm speaking from previous experiences because I haven't been in a relationship for 7 years but when I was with him I was only capable of loving one person, I noticed attractive guys but had no interest in wanting to have sex with anyone because I had a 6'3 dark haired handsome guy with a thick 9 inch penis that satisfied me in every way.
If I was to find a guy now I expect I would be the same, I know how long it takes me to find someone that ticks all my boxes so when I find him he will be all I need, wouldn't have any desire to sleep with other people cos it's so bloody hard to find people in the first place.
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