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"sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx" This is really common and I have had it happen on a meet loads. I don't think there is anything wrong with taking a little blue pill or a similar product. The last thing you want is erectile dysfunction on a meet, as the lady/gent may take it badly, thinking it is something to do with them, let alone the embarrassment for you. So taking precautions and popping a pill to make sure you are raring to go will keep all parties happy! On this scene, taking erectile meds is so common in the young and older swingers so you shouldn't feel like a failure or anything xx | |||
"sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx This is really common and I have had it happen on a meet loads. I don't think there is anything wrong with taking a little blue pill or a similar product. The last thing you want is erectile dysfunction on a meet, as the lady/gent may take it badly, thinking it is something to do with them, let alone the embarrassment for you. So taking precautions and popping a pill to make sure you are raring to go will keep all parties happy! On this scene, taking erectile meds is so common in the young and older swingers so you shouldn't feel like a failure or anything xx" .  | |||
She even did clean up duties from the girls pussies and still he couldn't get hard.
She said that this was his biggest fantasy but nerves overcame the poor guy when it happened for real. | |||
"sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx This is really common and I have had it happen on a meet loads. I don't think there is anything wrong with taking a little blue pill or a similar product. The last thing you want is erectile dysfunction on a meet, as the lady/gent may take it badly, thinking it is something to do with them, let alone the embarrassment for you. So taking precautions and popping a pill to make sure you are raring to go will keep all parties happy! On this scene, taking erectile meds is so common in the young and older swingers so you shouldn't feel like a failure or anything xx" I'm absolutely no expert at all and have never taken anything to help me stay hard, but it might be an idea to ask a GP to check if there's any medical reason for you not to take them. I've heard (again, no great knowledge on this) that it can either raise or lower (forget which!) blood pressure. All I'm saying is proceed with a bit of caution. It might not be right for everyone. | |||
"We had a wonderful orgy with 2 other couples a few years ago. It was absolutely wild. The girls were stunning and utterly depraved. Even Mrs J found herself caught up in the sexual buzz and found herself doing things in the moment that she had always said she would never do. Sadly however it all proved too much for one of the guys and his erection just failed him. The 3 girls were really sympathetic and all tried to help. Two were sucking his cock whilst Mrs J was rimming him (always the naughtiest!!) Nothing would work and the poor guy ended up sitting watching whilst the rest of us all had fun. In retrospect I am a little embarrassed as I recall how we all took turns fucking his hyper enthusiastic wife in front of him oblivious that he was watching
She even did clean up duties from the girls pussies and still he couldn't get hard.
She said that this was his biggest fantasy but nerves overcame the poor guy when it happened for real."Poor guy. Must have been a bit too much for him nerves-wise. I was in a situation not dissimilar to that last year in a room at a club with three women and another guy. All three women were bisexual and playing with each other as well as playing with me and the other guy. I was hard initially but for some reason just couldn't sustain it even though I was really into what was happening. I can only put it down to first time in that kind of situation. I spent a while just watching and wanking my semi-hard cock. Was still an amazingly hot experience and I eventually came, but would have loved to have joined in more fully. It happens. | |||
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"sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx" Oh man this has happened a few times. Quite embarrassing especially when I've talked a big game lol | |||
"sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx" From a ladies point of view ive met men either on a first meet or even guys ive known for years n the body does not always cooperate with the mind ,either mine or the guys. Clearly more obvious when the guys but womens can play tricks on us too. Much easier said than done but try to divert attention away from the situation n play in ways that do not require errectionz and sometimes that be enough as its a vicious circle n breakin it can be all it takes ,mind over matter. Thiz of course does not always work but who u with plays a part in the outcome too. Yes its frustrating for them too but they should show u respect and be supportive not make ur upset worse | |||
"It does happen. Cocks are the most frustrating bloody things. They just will no do as they are told sometimes. I think this poor guy must have been in tears afterwards. We have been swinging many years and nights like this when everything just clicks happen very, very rarely indeed." "They just will no do as they are told sometimes" Haha, love it  | |||
"sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx From a ladies point of view ive met men either on a first meet or even guys ive known for years n the body does not always cooperate with the mind ,either mine or the guys. Clearly more obvious when the guys but womens can play tricks on us too. Much easier said than done but try to divert attention away from the situation n play in ways that do not require errectionz and sometimes that be enough as its a vicious circle n breakin it can be all it takes ,mind over matter. Thiz of course does not always work but who u with plays a part in the outcome too. Yes its frustrating for them too but they should show u respect and be supportive not make ur upset worse " Not that it's happened a lot, but whenever it has happened I've never had anything other than a really supportive attitude. In a really strange kind of psychological way it makes me put even more pressure on myself because their niceness about it attracts me even more to them! I definitely focus more on the things that don't require me to be hard, which usually doesn't get any complaints | |||
"We had a wonderful orgy with 2 other couples a few years ago. It was absolutely wild. The girls were stunning and utterly depraved. Even Mrs J found herself caught up in the sexual buzz and found herself doing things in the moment that she had always said she would never do. Sadly however it all proved too much for one of the guys and his erection just failed him. The 3 girls were really sympathetic and all tried to help. Two were sucking his cock whilst Mrs J was rimming him (always the naughtiest!!) Nothing would work and the poor guy ended up sitting watching whilst the rest of us all had fun. In retrospect I am a little embarrassed as I recall how we all took turns fucking his hyper enthusiastic wife in front of him oblivious that he was watching
She even did clean up duties from the girls pussies and still he couldn't get hard.
She said that this was his biggest fantasy but nerves overcame the poor guy when it happened for real."Sounds like an amazing party!!id never talk to my cock again lol  | |||
Maybe it was the couple of glasses of wine before we started, maybe it was too hot in the hotel room or perhaps more likely, despite being orally bi, he didn't do anything for me and that was that. Took me at least half an hour with his wife in the shower with me before I was able to get hard and make her climax before I finally did. | |||
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"Stop wanking. I stopped 3 weeks ago and used to wank every day sometimes twice a day. I eventually learned to sleep through the night..I did it because I found it hard to cum. Now I can cum inside a woman and yesterday I had my first porn style cumshot. I get aroused by anything now....oh god there he goes again!!" Does it help you stay harder for longer? | |||
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"It does happen and, although I'm not a man, I guess that worrying about it makes it worse. So try not to worry "Can be 'hard' not to though (groan) | |||
"Stop wanking. I stopped 3 weeks ago and used to wank every day sometimes twice a day. I eventually learned to sleep through the night..I did it because I found it hard to cum. Now I can cum inside a woman and yesterday I had my first porn style cumshot. I get aroused by anything now....oh god there he goes again!! Does it help you stay harder for longer?" I am rock hard until I cum but then I am spent and cannot do another round as I am only used to Cumming once or twice a week. I never thought I could give up wanking but it has changed my life (also given me at least an extra hour every day). | |||
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"It does happen and, although I'm not a man, I guess that worrying about it makes it worse. So try not to worry
Can be 'hard' not to though (groan)"Of course | |||
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"Stop wanking. I stopped 3 weeks ago and used to wank every day sometimes twice a day. I eventually learned to sleep through the night..I did it because I found it hard to cum. Now I can cum inside a woman and yesterday I had my first porn style cumshot. I get aroused by anything now....oh god there he goes again!! Does it help you stay harder for longer? I am rock hard until I cum but then I am spent and cannot do another round as I am only used to Cumming once or twice a week. I never thought I could give up wanking but it has changed my life (also given me at least an extra hour every day). " Yeah I think I might try that. As funny as it possibly sounds, I'm getting the impression I've been wanking too much, although we're only talking 3-4 times a week. Maybe it just needs a decent rest for a while | |||
"Stop wanking. I stopped 3 weeks ago and used to wank every day sometimes twice a day. I eventually learned to sleep through the night..I did it because I found it hard to cum. Now I can cum inside a woman and yesterday I had my first porn style cumshot. I get aroused by anything now....oh god there he goes again!! Does it help you stay harder for longer? I am rock hard until I cum but then I am spent and cannot do another round as I am only used to Cumming once or twice a week. I never thought I could give up wanking but it has changed my life (also given me at least an extra hour every day). Yeah I think I might try that. As funny as it possibly sounds, I'm getting the impression I've been wanking too much, although we're only talking 3-4 times a week. Maybe it just needs a decent rest for a while "Exactly, you will be amazed what a difference it makes. It's harder to stop than cigs but I hope never to start again. I have just as high a drive but someone else is always giving me the relief. On the downside I have to podcast the archers every day to fall asleep too. Best of luck | |||
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"Stop wanking. I stopped 3 weeks ago and used to wank every day sometimes twice a day. I eventually learned to sleep through the night..I did it because I found it hard to cum. Now I can cum inside a woman and yesterday I had my first porn style cumshot. I get aroused by anything now....oh god there he goes again!!" From my 1st and only meet from a swinger site (wasn't this one), despite being really into it and performing lots of oral I just couldn't get and stay hard. This lead to the woman going home in tears as she took it very personally which really knocked my confidence. Being very worried I got checked by the doc and did some research on the net and came to the conclusion it could be porn/wanking ED. Since cut out the porn and trying not up masturbate and there's been a definite improvement. | |||
"mmmn many thanks for advice re pills to enhance my cock avoiding disfunction!! black ant pills look good --- are Viagra pills from the Dr bettein performance than pills bought on the net??? any advice where best to get them ,, text if you prefer 07580807266 D x" There no longer sold in shops so if you dont know who your getting them off then stick with *vigrx plus* they can be bought from almost anywhere and work just as well.many places sell them even amazon i think there just as good and recomend them
as done me good used be a one time cummer but with supplement as long as your in the right mind to carry on after ejaculating and carry on your erection will not let you down | |||
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After going to a swingers club for almost 7 months, every time the little chap tells me to fuck off as he is asleep, I have now found out what my problem is.
Diabetes is a problem, this can affect the little chap to the extent that he wants a sex change!
Although im into the people when I play, I have had several occasions where it's oral only due to him downstairs not wanting to participate fully.
Can I suggest to all with a problem getting hard to ask your doctor for a diabetes check? It's worth digging deeper to see if you have underlying problems
Now I know my problem, lets see of I can do something about it | |||
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"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple" Lies lies lies. | |||
"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple" Not always If only was that simple. Be far fewer distressed men | |||
"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple" What a complete load of bollocks! | |||
"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple" Thanks for clearing that up, which university was your medical degree from again? | |||
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"not got one but no this some guys no the truth hurts them god how hard is this you get a hard on WHEN YOU ARE TURNED ON simple" Are you always a dick or is it just on posts like this? Not getting hard is definitely NOT due to not being turned on, sometimes it's quite the opposite! Ever heard of stage fright? | |||
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"never a dick im just saying what I think that's all we can all have our say on here" Can you at least try and get your facts right then please. There are several people that would love to get hard at the flick of a switch, but it's not always possible no matter how turned on you are. Do your research before condemning others for their short fall. | |||
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"well I don't think so its so easy you see some one and your solid" Is that with the help of blue pills? As you posted on a recent thread. There are many reasons why a man can not get,stay hard. Sometimes the mind is willing but the body isn't. | |||
it's happened to me, and the lady in question was very attractive... luckily she was very easygoing and had a sense of humour.. gave me a chance to practise giving her some oral pleasure, followed by a nice relaxed oil massage... managed to send her to sleep, so let myself out...a nice afternoon for all, and a text afterwards to say " thank you for a lovely time, you should advertise the massage"..haha!
More to life than the old " in and out".. | |||
"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple" Rubbish, I think it must be really difficult for guys in a group situation or mmf situation. | |||
"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple" Totally untrue. | |||
"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple" It's their fault then? Simple. And you did not choose to meet them? You did not make an excuse and leave before the sex started when you knew you were not attracted? Interesting. | |||
"well I don't think so its so easy you see some one and your solid Is that with the help of blue pills? As you posted on a recent thread. There are many reasons why a man can not get,stay hard. Sometimes the mind is willing but the body isn't." | |||
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"I think your wrong mate ok next time you go to club watch people fuck and see but when you see some one that turns you on you will be rock hard and want her" And back on planet earth where the ladies are more understanding and empathetic to mens plight...your user name could not be more wrong How do u think guys who struggle feel reading what u put. Show some sensitivity !!!!! | |||
"I think your wrong mate ok next time you go to club watch people fuck and see but when you see some one that turns you on you will be rock hard and want her And back on planet earth where the ladies are more understanding and empathetic to mens plight...your user name could not be more wrong How do u think guys who struggle feel reading what u put. Show some sensitivity !!!!!" I'm sure we take everything he says with a pinch of salt. Looking back on his posts he needs the little blue pill,and also offers them to others. Not soo turned on now is he? | |||
"I think your wrong mate ok next time you go to club watch people fuck and see but when you see some one that turns you on you will be rock hard and want her And back on planet earth where the ladies are more understanding and empathetic to mens plight...your user name could not be more wrong How do u think guys who struggle feel reading what u put. Show some sensitivity !!!!! I'm sure we take everything he says with a pinch of salt. Looking back on his posts he needs the little blue pill,and also offers them to others. Not soo turned on now is he? " I not looked. Thank you i will look now i just couldn't believe such insensitivity about blokes issues from Another bloke I know n meet guys with such difficulties one off difficulties and permanent,n id hate them to see that coz they amazing guys | |||
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"Thinks you may need to change your username! Haha" I was thinking that too lol | |||
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"Well I think we have found a failed cock on here... " lol....yes | |||
"I only get floppy when not turned on easy" I think this is getting silly now | |||
"I only get floppy when not turned on easy I think this is getting silly now "Think he who protests too much.... | |||
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"end of easy I will shut up now" Thanks for message, such a charmer lol | |||
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"I suppose if people (men/women) have a meet when they are not feeling particularly horny, this could have an effect on their performance." Oh god don't you start too! Haha | |||
"yes I have heard of it but it will only happen for a min or so" No friends, only one veri from a female | |||
"yes I have heard of it but it will only happen for a min or so No friends, only one veri from a female" And one from an admiring male too... don't forget that one! LOL | |||
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"sorry I give my view on this now so sorry to any one I up set thought the thread was to any one to have there say I got it all wrong will only agree with people from today" No one is saying you can't give your opinion. However if you give your opinion here you have to be prepared to have others giving THEIR opinion and disagreeing with you ! | |||
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"Moving on and trying to help "op" and others, there are lots of reasons this can happen. Most are psychological but diet, health and exercise can also contribute. I think porn is one of the biggest problems too. I gave up wanking and porn as I couldn't wank without porn and then found it hard to cum when I was with a woman. Retrain your brain and your body. "
I can imagine that wanking a lot, especially to porn (very subjective as to what 'a lot' is) most likely desensitises the penis physically but also the mind psychologically. You might well be on to something there and I'm certainly going to try it. It doesn't happen all the time with me, but just enough not to be able to dismiss it as 'one of those things'.
As far as diet and exercise goes, absolutely, although funnily enough my occasional failure to rise to the occasion has co-incided with probably the healthiest period in my adult life diet and exercise-wise. For two years now I've been reasonably mindful and careful about what I eat and a regular gym goer (and lost 20kg over the first 6 months of last year in doing so). It's only been in the last two years that I haven't always 'performed' as I'd like. Different for everyone, I guess.
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