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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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One for the guys really (or anyone looking to meet single females).
So I have just seen a new single female join in my area. She has been photo verified and her profile is to my liking.
I'm pretty sure that regardless of what I write or whether she likes my profile, she will be inundated with hundreds of messages meaning the chance of my message being missed will be higher, as will the risk she will just get overwhelmed and ignore everyone or leave the site.
What do you do in this circumstance? Personally I would rather leave it a few days and see if she is still here. Is that something many men do or does everyone just go ahead and message anyway?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One for the guys really (or anyone looking to meet single females).
So I have just seen a new single female join in my area. She has been photo verified and her profile is to my liking.
I'm pretty sure that regardless of what I write or whether she likes my profile, she will be inundated with hundreds of messages meaning the chance of my message being missed will be higher, as will the risk she will just get overwhelmed and ignore everyone or leave the site.
What do you do in this circumstance? Personally I would rather leave it a few days and see if she is still here. Is that something many men do or does everyone just go ahead and message anyway?
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Leave it a while, let catch her breath.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give it at least 10 days. Stick her on the hotlist and see what happens. Trust me, it will be bonkers for her at the moment. I nearly deleted my profile altogether as the messages etc were quite literally overwhelming. I felt like a little deer that had inadvertently stumbled into the lion enclosure at Longleat! |
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"Give it at least 10 days. Stick her on the hotlist and see what happens. Trust me, it will be bonkers for her at the moment. I nearly deleted my profile altogether as the messages etc were quite literally overwhelming. I felt like a little deer that had inadvertently stumbled into the lion enclosure at Longleat! "
Yeah, I'm really sorry about that  |
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I've had zero luck meeting a woman or a couple from here so my advice is quite possibly null and void but I tend to add them to my hotlist, give it a week and then message them, preferably with a clever/daft/funny subject e.g. "How much does a polar bear weight?"
...Enough to break the ice.
Yeah, I'll get my coat and leave now  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And photo veri means nowt. You dont even have to show your face "
I don't think it necessarily means nothing but I agree the system is not fool proof. I just feel a bit more confident they are genuine when photo verified.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had zero luck meeting a woman or a couple from here so my advice is quite possibly null and void but I tend to add them to my hotlist, give it a week and then message them, preferably with a clever/daft/funny subject e.g. "How much does a polar bear weight?"
...Enough to break the ice.
Yeah, I'll get my coat and leave now "
Noooooooooo terrible jokes do not make for a good opening message, unless they're genuinely original rather than pulled from the 1980s  |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
If it's a profile that interests me enough I'll hot list it,  that way any status updates show of ... When it's quietened down a bit I'll maybe drop them a message, sometimes they've altered or set their filters and then I can't .. not a bad thing saves me a wasted message.
I've a few on my hot list and they've not logged on since creating the profile .. must get round to deleting them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I hit about 1000 messages after 2 days of being on the site and that was when I wasn't photo or meet verified and I only had 3 pictures! It's totally overwhelming, I didn't know what to do! Definitely leave it abit and see how she gets on |
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"I think I hit about 1000 messages after 2 days of being on the site and that was when I wasn't photo or meet verified and I only had 3 pictures! It's totally overwhelming, I didn't know what to do! Definitely leave it abit and see how she gets on "
Same! I didn't even have pictures, and was averaging 80 messages an hour. Lol.
Looking back, if past HLF had been seen by a cute guy, I definitely wouldn't be able to see your message in the hundreds a day....
I'd say leave it a couple of weeks. Let her get her bearings. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
When I joined I thought it might be a good idea to sit back for a bit and figure out how it all worked first. So I had my filters on from day one and only gradually relaxed them as I got my head around it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a new profile pops up I like I often pop them on my hotlist with a view to maybe messaging them at some later date.
Hotlist let's me see if they become verified or if they add pics and see updates etc in the meanwhile..sometimes you get a feel for a profile a tiny bit that way to. |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
When I joined immediately got messages coming in. About 150 in space of an hour, worse when I uploaded a picture.Unless you are aware of have to hide and use filters it is crazy. I just deleted and waited a few weeks before venturing out of hiding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I hit about 1000 messages after 2 days of being on the site and that was when I wasn't photo or meet verified and I only had 3 pictures! It's totally overwhelming, I didn't know what to do! Definitely leave it abit and see how she gets on "
Because your a little hottie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I hit about 1000 messages after 2 days of being on the site and that was when I wasn't photo or meet verified and I only had 3 pictures! It's totally overwhelming, I didn't know what to do! Definitely leave it abit and see how she gets on
Because your a little hottie "
To be fair, I did too. And I'm not really a little hottie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dosen't matter to me whenever she's new or not, if she looks and sounds hot to me then I'll message her, and if no reply then i leave it at that and move on. |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
"Do people really scan the new signups? I never even knew that was a thing."
I have an image of a man sitting in his pants at his computer scanning the new woman profiles. Wanking away, usually a silhouette picture. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people really scan the new signups? I never even knew that was a thing.
I have an image of a man sitting in his pants at his computer scanning the new woman profiles. Wanking away, usually a silhouette picture."
Yep that's me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I hit about 1000 messages after 2 days of being on the site and that was when I wasn't photo or meet verified and I only had 3 pictures! It's totally overwhelming, I didn't know what to do! Definitely leave it abit and see how she gets on
Because your a little hottie
To be fair, I did too. And I'm not really a little hottie."
I think i must have signed up as a single guy..... I have never had this.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do people really scan the new signups? I never even knew that was a thing.
I have an image of a man sitting in his pants at his computer scanning the new woman profiles. Wanking away, usually a silhouette picture."
I browse every couple of weeks and I think the 'new' icon must stay for a week at minimum so... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I hit about 1000 messages after 2 days of being on the site and that was when I wasn't photo or meet verified and I only had 3 pictures! It's totally overwhelming, I didn't know what to do! Definitely leave it abit and see how she gets on
Because your a little hottie
To be fair, I did too. And I'm not really a little hottie.
I think i must have signed up as a single guy..... I have never had this.
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I remember jumping all over your profile but to no prevale |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"Give it at least 10 days. Stick her on the hotlist and see what happens. Trust me, it will be bonkers for her at the moment. I nearly deleted my profile altogether as the messages etc were quite literally overwhelming. I felt like a little deer that had inadvertently stumbled into the lion enclosure at Longleat! "
This is exactly what I do (and why my hotlist is quite long!). I hate to be contributing to someone feeling overwhelmed and wondering if they made the right decision to come on here. |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"And photo veri means nowt. You dont even have to show your face
I don't think it necessarily means nothing but I agree the system is not fool proof. I just feel a bit more confident they are genuine when photo verified.
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"Do people really scan the new signups? I never even knew that was a thing.
I have an image of a man sitting in his pants at his computer scanning the new woman profiles. Wanking away, usually a silhouette picture."
Silhouette porn. Could be a whole new niche market! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I hit about 1000 messages after 2 days of being on the site and that was when I wasn't photo or meet verified and I only had 3 pictures! It's totally overwhelming, I didn't know what to do! Definitely leave it abit and see how she gets on
Because your a little hottie
To be fair, I did too. And I'm not really a little hottie.
I think i must have signed up as a single guy..... I have never had this.
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What an outrage  I will personally send you at least 1000 'fancy a fuck' messages over the next couple of days  |
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