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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How would you ask someone if they were intrested ? If you know them anyway but they haven't a clue about what you get up too lol do you just drop it out in convo lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Either couple or single X "
I would never ask a couple that were possibly non-swingers, as I think that would be rude and disrespectful to them.
Asking a single if they might be interested would be different. |
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"How would you ask someone if they were intrested ? If you know them anyway but they haven't a clue about what you get up too lol do you just drop it out in convo lol"
Just drop it in to a conversation about a friends friend that is into swinger you'll get a reaction of some sort
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"I was approched in benidorm in a disco bar many years ago.the guy came over chatted and he told me his wife was up for other guys ,i had to turn him down as i was with a small party of friends.xt"
must add i was in male mode  |
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We were approached by a couple on holiday last year, they stopped short of asking outright and a non swinging couple would have just thought them very friendly.
We laughed about it but were also a bit fed up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would you ask someone if they were intrested ? If you know them anyway but they haven't a clue about what you get up too lol do you just drop it out in convo lol"
I wouldn't
I would never mix my real life with sex, could get messy, if it did do you really want that in your real life? At least if it's somebody off here you don't ever have to see them again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also would never approach anyone outside of swinging.
I keep this side of my life very separate from real life. Outside of being on here, in a club or a swingers party, I don't think about sex with others and if I was ever approached my response would not be positive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's how i got started (so to speak!) and this sounds awful but it was after a funeral (can't believe i said that out loud) where i met a family friend i hadn't seen since the 1980s. He was in his 60s, introduced me to his gf who was early 40s and they were just back from somewhere in france and there was a fair bit of innuendo. my fiance had dumped me for someone half my age a few months earlier and i was having an awful time on internet dating and trying not to be sad at the (distant relative's) funeral, so suggested they tell me more. and they invited me to his flat to tell me more... |
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"How would you ask someone if they were intrested ? If you know them anyway but they haven't a clue about what you get up too lol do you just drop it out in convo lol"
There are thousands of potential play mates, there's a small number of people in my inner sanctum. I wouldn't embarrass, disrespect them/me by being so inappropriate and risk losing a friendship. |
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"I also would never approach anyone outside of swinging.
I keep this side of my life very separate from real life. Outside of being on here, in a club or a swingers party, I don't think about sex with others and if I was ever approached my response would not be positive. "
Ditto!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An original way of potentially outing yourselves.
For the majority swinging with strangers who may in time become friends is the preferred route.
I would not want to watch any of my friends play it would definitely compromise our friendship.
If you're determined to ask someone I would do it when drinking together, then you can laugh it off as a joke whatever the reaction. |
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I was asked once if kestrels was part of my social circle. I did ask her to say it again just so I didn't make an arse of myself but once she clearly said kestrels I just laughed and said yes. It's not something that non swingers would know about so it was very subtle way of asking. |
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Over 10 years ago, before I got into the scene, I was chatting to a female work colleague. At that time I had a new gf and we were talking when she asked if my new girlfriend was into "wife swapping".
I replied 'I doubt it' and she went on to say that her and her hubby had been asked by a couple they play badminton with but they don't play badminton with them anymore.
I never really thought about it much at the time but subsequently wonder if I missed a trick as she was certainly someone I would have been receptive to.
Never approached someone 'outside' the scene myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were approached by a couple on holiday last year, they stopped short of asking outright and a non swinging couple would have just thought them very friendly.
We laughed about it but were also a bit fed up "
How did they go about it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would you ask someone if they were intrested ? If you know them anyway but they haven't a clue about what you get up too lol do you just drop it out in convo lol
I wouldn't
I would never mix my real life with sex, could get messy, if it did do you really want that in your real life? At least if it's somebody off here you don't ever have to see them again "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How would you ask someone if they were intrested ? If you know them anyway but they haven't a clue about what you get up too lol do you just drop it out in convo lol
I wouldn't
I would never mix my real life with sex, could get messy, if it did do you really want that in your real life? At least if it's somebody off here you don't ever have to see them again "
Would be good for holiday fun, though!   |
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
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Someone from my work was taking about his girlfriend organising a threesome with her female friend...It didn't happen because her husband [!] apparently started to suspect...all through the conversation I was thinking 'he has no idea about anything I do, thankfully'...Obviously not the soul of discretion...
Good thread this one...Interesting how people go about things. i think more and more people are obviously intrigued by adding others to their sex lives...and of course why not! |
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When I was 17 or 18 my boyfriend of the time was good friends with a beautiful lesbian couple. One night in a dingy pub they followed me into the toilet, shut the door behind them and squished me against the wall, then asked 'have you ever fancied a threesome with two women....?' Because I was so shy I ducked out of it. Always always regretted it and wondered what it would have been like.....!  Mrs T xx |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We keep our swinging and vanilla lives totally and utterly separate so we would never broach the subject with a non swinging friend or friends. We couldn't compromise a friendship when there are an almost limitless number of attractive and willing swingers out there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have spoke to people .who's to say they are not swingers.been on fab or not does not mean they are against swinging.
we took a woman home once and she was up for it but nikki was too tired so we didn't fuck her. Showed her all the toys and our gangbang pics.she was well intrigued |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met a cpl when the kids were young nearly every weekend for outdoor activities, then they just stopped coming. 2yrs later they turned up again and I said "im glad your back I've missed you" she said "I cant keep away" and she kissed me! 10yrs later and we still swing with them at least twice a year!  |
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A few of our friends know what we get up to. We're pretty open with our close friends, sharing pics and club tales 
One friend couple are always asking questions about the club's and what they're like so it's likely they're going to visit some time.
We've found the best way is to just casually mention swinging if the conversation heads that way and gauge their reaction. We mentioned the dunes at gran Canaria to some friends the other day and the seemed a bit shocked that things like that went on. Took it on further |
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