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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Soooo does everyone know their exact number?
Do people have a little black book?
To all the singles out there have you ever lied to a partner/prospective partner about your number?
How much does your number matter to you? |
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I do. Although, it changes depending on whether just oral counts as when I've had this discussion before people have generally seemed to say it doesn't!
Never lied, just found it embarrassing in the past, looking back I don't know why! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do. Although, it changes depending on whether just oral counts as when I've had this discussion before people have generally seemed to say it doesn't!
Never lied, just found it embarrassing in the past, looking back I don't know why!"
Oh gosh I hope it doesn't include oral!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Soooo does everyone know their exact number?
Do people have a little black book?
To all the singles out there have you ever lied to a partner/prospective partner about your number?
How much does your number matter to you?"
I know exactly how many but doesn't bother me at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know my exact number and about 95% names haha ...
I think to be honest I will lie when I start dating properly ...vanilla guys dont react well to a high number I don't think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know my exact number and about 95% names haha ...
I think to be honest I will lie when I start dating properly ...vanilla guys dont react well to a high number I don't think "
It's just a number they should have no reason to judge as they are probably just as bad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They say it doesn't matter to them at the time, but during/after the break up it becomes something to ridicule me with"
that's cause they know how it hurts you if its an issue towards the end of a relationship then surely it's been an issue through out it too |
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"They say it doesn't matter to them at the time, but during/after the break up it becomes something to ridicule me with"
because they know it will upset you if it bothered them that much they would of dumped you there and then
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know
I have never been asked, or asked them
If they did ask I wouldn't lie
If they didn't like it I wouldn't be with them.
Anyone who lives in the past is not welcome in my future  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope never to have another vanilla relationship so I shouldn't need to lie. I have no idea how many I have had. I know there were 5 in January but that was a busy month. I am dating and tell them I'm a swinger before we have sex. Women need to lie if they are with a vanilla as the men will always think they will stray. They don't understand the lifestyle. IMHO. |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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I do know the exact number and there aren't that many really. I'm not fussed the numbers as each has been unique and special in their own way. I don't regret anyone I've slept with and hope they feel the same way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They say it doesn't matter to them at the time, but during/after the break up it becomes something to ridicule me with"
Best thing to do in that situation is up the count by a few   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't a clue! It's a hell of a lot!
Personally not sure why it matters? I've been in love (at some point) with four of them - they're the ones which 'matter' I guess! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had numerous one night stands back in the day so would only be guessing in truth.
I probably walk past some in the street I wouldn't even know their names and certainly not recognise them.
I'm not sure what younger people get up to these days but one night stands were acceptable when I was a lad.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had numerous one night stands back in the day so would only be guessing in truth.
I probably walk past some in the street I wouldn't even know their names and certainly not recognise them.
I'm not sure what younger people get up to these days but one night stands were acceptable when I was a lad.
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Only for the 'lad'! When we girls did the same we were slags!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have an exact number. I used to have a list, but I stopped that when I was about 19.
I've never lied about how many partners I've had to anyone. I have no reason to. I am generally suspicious of why someone would ask me though. If I'm on a date with someone and they asked me, it's a warning sign that I probably don't want to take it any further.
The number doesn't matter to me, but it seems to matter to others. I don't really have time for the people who it matters to. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I thought I knew the exact number until recently when I remembered a fella I had completely forgotten about. So there might be more hidden victims I can't recall. But then when you can't even recall them they mustn't been any good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know mine and it's only low. Over time I guess I may end up not knowing but I am not worried about it either way. I'm not too interested in making it go higher foe the sake of a big number, I am more interested in the personalities of the people and the quality of the fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At my age, my memory is crap so each time I sleep with a woman I get her to carve her initials on the bed head.
Likewise, as the list is long by the time I get to counting the last post I've forgotten what the number was! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know 100%, and to be honest I'm not bothered and wouldn't be bothered by the number a partner would have. As long as they were careful and checked regularly then all good. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Soooo does everyone know their exact number?
Do people have a little black book?
To all the singles out there have you ever lied to a partner/prospective partner about your number?
How much does your number matter to you?"
I sometimes play the game of 'try and list all my past partners in my head' as a way of getting to sleep - instead of counting sheep...lol
For a good many years now I have found it nigh on impossible and each time I get close, I am sure there are always a handful of less memorable encounters I have forgotten  |
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I have no idea, I gave up counting long before I hit 3 figures. Names I rarely get as I would only forget them, I'm useless with names.
And I am ashamed to say I have had men come upto me in a club and tell me have played in the past but I have no recollection, they could just be saying it or it could be true
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could probably hazard a guess but I don't keep score...really couldn't care less if it was in treble rather than double figures (but I doubt it's that high). I don't recall any crap encounters which is more important to me.
Nobody has every asked me for a figure, and if they did I they'd be told it's none of their business!
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
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I've never been in a relationship so that automatically goes against me
I dont recall ever being askd my number, I would have to be honest when a serious relationship comes along,but I have a big fear of it being off putting...
to me personally if it was the guy it wouldn't matter after all we all have a history and that history made us who we are now
I would also not include oral, to me is more aimed at penetration not involving the mouth.
Altho this can be seen very differently by people |
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Every time I try to count up, I start with my early years and progress until I suddenly remember some one else so I give up.....I know it is over a certain number and below another one.....but to me it doesn't matter.
I have had bad meets with full sex and brilliant meets with just oral and non penetrative fun.......so which really counts? To me the number isn't important....it's the fun that is important and it has to be mutual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo does everyone know their exact number?
Do people have a little black book?
To all the singles out there have you ever lied to a partner/prospective partner about your number?
How much does your number matter to you?"
No...it shows I've lived
If someone's bothered they are not the person for me |
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By *iwynMan
over a year ago
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Girls, show me a vanilla guy and I'll show you a liar. There's no such thing as a vanilla guy, possesive guys yes but not vanilla. The numbers game is largely irelevant in the 'lifestyle'I think. Anyway since the late 1980's I have largely kept myself covered and honestly have no idea. The best live long in he memory & the mundane are very soon forgotten. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Girls, show me a vanilla guy and I'll show you a liar. There's no such thing as a vanilla guy, possesive guys yes but not vanilla. The numbers game is largely irelevant in the 'lifestyle'I think. Anyway since the late 1980's I have largely kept myself covered and honestly have no idea. The best live long in he memory & the mundane are very soon forgotten. "
Yes there are. I know plenty of guys that aren't into BDSM or casual sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More than any fella on here! And thats not bragging. Gang bangs and doggin notch em up quite quick. must be around 1k, but then I've been swinging for 9 years.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and my friend have tried to count in the past..I used to know but then if I try to think back now ill forget one or two..
It doesn't really bother me as I know people who have slept with less and more than me and it doesn't change the people they are! |
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No idea. But it's high.
But I am who I am. If a number would make someone who previously thought I am lovely change their opinion then that opinion is not worth much.
I get regular tests and if I make a commitment to someone I keep it - I have been monogamous and didn't resent it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More than any fella on here! And thats not bragging. Gang bangs and doggin notch em up quite quick. must be around 1k, but then I've been swinging for 9 years.
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Blimey that's amazing, do you notice any trends in sexual habits, are certain types of guys better than others. Can you tell if some one is going to be a corker. Serious questions
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does bother me a little, my own though not anybody elses!
But until two Years ago ( coming on here) I'd only been with hubby so to me mine seems a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo does everyone know their exact number?
Do people have a little black book?
To all the singles out there have you ever lied to a partner/prospective partner about your number?
How much does your number matter to you?"
Exact? That would take a bit of thinking, a lot of them were before I met my ex-husband in 1989. My OH knows my sexual history, not that we sat down and went through the finer details,but I have nothing to hide from him, it's not anyone else's business. It doesn't 'matter' to me in the slightest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be a good girl until I met Dave over 4 years ago, I'm not sure of the exact number in that time but I know it is over one thousand, I had 15 on Saturday!! "
Again that's amazing, do you remember the encounters in detail, I used to have an FB that loved gangbangs and she sort of went into a trance she got that wrapped up in the experience. She had no clue exactly what happened to her. She used to get me to tell her afterwards, she enjoyed reliving it from my perspective |
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"I used to be a good girl until I met Dave over 4 years ago, I'm not sure of the exact number in that time but I know it is over one thousand, I had 15 on Saturday!!
Again that's amazing, do you remember the encounters in detail, I used to have an FB that loved gangbangs and she sort of went into a trance she got that wrapped up in the experience. She had no clue exactly what happened to her. She used to get me to tell her afterwards, she enjoyed reliving it from my perspective "
I remember a lot of them, strangely I tend to remember men by looking at their cocks not their faces! I always enjoy the attention and Dave and I always discuss it next day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be a good girl until I met Dave over 4 years ago, I'm not sure of the exact number in that time but I know it is over one thousand, I had 15 on Saturday!!
Again that's amazing, do you remember the encounters in detail, I used to have an FB that loved gangbangs and she sort of went into a trance she got that wrapped up in the experience. She had no clue exactly what happened to her. She used to get me to tell her afterwards, she enjoyed reliving it from my perspective
I remember a lot of them, strangely I tend to remember men by looking at their cocks not their faces! I always enjoy the attention and Dave and I always discuss it next day."
That's interesting, she remembered people by thier smell |
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"That's interesting, she remembered people by thier smell"
That is interesting, we have had a lot of fun over the years I don't think numbers matter we still love each other and have just as much fun together without other people being there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's interesting, she remembered people by thier smell
That is interesting, we have had a lot of fun over the years I don't think numbers matter we still love each other and have just as much fun together without other people being there."
It's just sex, we are swingers one cock 1000 times or 1000 cocks once it's all the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know my exact number and about 95% names haha ...
I think to be honest I will lie when I start dating properly ...vanilla guys dont react well to a high number I don't think "
as a man it would not bother me as it just means the lady enjoys sex, which would mean she was more open to try new things xxxxc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since swinging. The Mrs about 20 guys and 10 women. Me about 20 women. I wonder how a guy going out with a female porn star feels. Tbh our attitude is its just a number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo does everyone know their exact number?
Do people have a little black book?
To all the singles out there have you ever lied to a partner/prospective partner about your number?
How much does your number matter to you?"
Errrr...... No , this is our third time in almost 5 years on fab .
We meet two or three times a week , often group sex is a part of the fun .
So how many ?
Your guess is as good as ours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to keep count til I joined here 4 years ago and just thought fuck it, as I've had my fair share of fun on here over the years, it'd be way too much effort to keep count or even attempt trying to work it out now! |
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