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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this."
Not in my eyes! Best to gauge the rules beforehand though if meeting part of a couple 
I only meet 1-1 and if the guy jumped up and got dressed straight away I would not be happy! |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Cuddles are for singles."
I have to say, I would feel uncomfortable openly cuddling the mrs of a couple, especially, the 'lying together cuddling' that tends to go on with a partner after sex.
With a single woman it is entirely different and absolutely fine...but I tend just to roll over and fall asleep if I am perfectly honest   |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company  "
I think there is a big difference between a cuddle and a hug....hugging (when you meet or say good bye for example) is perfectly natural between any good friends. However, when that hug is lying down and lingers on, involving stroking and holding the person, then it is definitely now a cuddle and inappropriate with another man's partner...at least I think so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't mind a hug on the doorstep on the way out but cuddling is off our menu on meets...we tend to lie about on the bed and have a natter and a joke...it's not that we're unfriendly and want someone to leave straight away... |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Don't mind a hug on the doorstep on the way out but cuddling is off our menu on meets...we tend to lie about on the bed and have a natter and a joke...it's not that we're unfriendly and want someone to leave straight away..."
I agree...cuddling is hugely intimate...perhaps more intimate than anything else in some ways, and conveys all kinds of affection.... |
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"I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company
I think there is a big difference between a cuddle and a hug....hugging (when you meet or say good bye for example) is perfectly natural between any good friends. However, when that hug is lying down and lingers on, involving stroking and holding the person, then it is definitely now a cuddle and inappropriate with another man's partner...at least I think so"
true .. I didn't mean inappropriate trying it on fill yer boots cuddles.. |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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I am very cuddly.....sex usually ends up with me cuddling the guy/girl and we do the whole stroking back, arms and legs thing - this sometimes leads to more sex so it's all good. Most couples we meet do this too so I will be getting my back stroked and look across at my husband who will be stroking the thighs of the other girl  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The op meets the female half of a couple on her own , so staying on track .....
If her husband and her are ok with what goes on , including cuddling afterwards , then it's cool .
But he doesn't say whether this is the case ,
So if the husband is unaware of this going on , then there's no way it's ok . It could lead to problems ahead .
Just make sure all ground rules are in place .
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"The op meets the female half of a couple on her own , so staying on track .....
If her husband and her are ok with what goes on , including cuddling afterwards , then it's cool .
But he doesn't say whether this is the case ,
So if the husband is unaware of this going on , then there's no way it's ok . It could lead to problems ahead .
Just make sure all ground rules are in place .
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I hadn't taken onboard that the OP was referring to cuddling when the husband isn't present...slightly different than in front of him, but, still dangerous territory in my mind...it just all smacks of too much affection/emotional attachment to me....perhaps that's just how I perceive cuddling though... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this."
I think it's polite to ask.
I don't enjoy cuddling random strangers personally. If I'm honest, I don't really enjoy cuddling people I'm regularly having sex with either. I sometimes cuddle with my platonic friends, but that's quite rare as well.
Ask first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the meet and the man/ men. Laying down in the forest after a doggin would be weird.One on ones at home or hotel, just depends on the other person. Some I've cuddled after, some have dressed and run. I would not get offended if they did either.
Theres that one man whom I love to cuddle for hours after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I didn't get a cuddle and chat (which usually leads to round 2) I think I'd feel used. I love the kissing and cuddling, just as important to me as the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who doesn't love a cuddle or a spoon after a vigorous sweaty couple hours?? I mean it must be different for couples or cuck situation but I do love a cuddle and kiss after cumming hard. Everyone's different though I suppose? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If man or women just had their "wicked way" with me then wanted to bugger off in a flash - i'd be well pissed off
Sexual contact in whatever format, should always contain and element of intimacy beyond a quick shag  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexual contact in whatever format, should always contain and element of intimacy beyond a quick shag "
You missed off the bit saying that's your personal preference and not a rule for everyone to live by... |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"Sexual contact in whatever format, should always contain and element of intimacy beyond a quick shag
You missed off the bit saying that's your personal preference and not a rule for everyone to live by..."
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
Personally I love cuddling, but I would be uncomfortable doing it where I'm the 3rd party in an MMF with a couple. As others have said, best to ask and obviously respect boundaries.
When it's a 1-1 with a single woman, I'd be disappointed not to have a cuddle! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must admit I expect a cuddle or at least a pat on the back for my efforts. "
I would only want to cuddle my husband. I'm not at all interested in cuddling any guy we met and i can't imagine hubby would want to cuddle any guy we met and i would hate it if he did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company
I think there is a big difference between a cuddle and a hug....hugging (when you meet or say good bye for example) is perfectly natural between any good friends. However, when that hug is lying down and lingers on, involving stroking and holding the person, then it is definitely now a cuddle and inappropriate with another man's partner...at least I think so"
More inappropriate than taking her outside and snogging by the bins afterwards with the husband still in the house probably unaware? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't meet one on one but if I did I'd freak if a guy ( not my partner ) tried to cuddle up after sex. I'd expect him to leave "
I have met alone and cuddling is for me and my hubby!!! I would feel very uncomfortable with anybody else ..We fuck they leave !! As requested by me |
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I do like a cuddle, kissing and stroking after, like others have said it will invariably lead to more sex which is great.
I'm a very cuddly person and would feel strange if they just upped and left.
Just my personal choices |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't tend to cuddle other men. After play we all tend to lie about on the bed chatting and laughing, but I am closer to my own partner at that point.  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this."
Always best to ask first.
We tend to all end up on the bed together afterwards, chatting and laughing. But cuddling up closely with others wouldn't be for me.
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"Cuddling is very nice, shame so few guys want to do it!!!"
Obviously I can only speak for how I feel, but I'm surprised that's been your experience. I feel like it's not complete without a cuddle afterwards. Maybe I'm in a minority. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Can't beat a nice naked cwtch
We love a naked cwtch, or if that's not forthcoming a fully dressed xgtyu is nice. "
I agree a leisurely cwtch just feels right following a good session.
Not sure what a xgtyu is, but a Welsh snuggle is far more pleasurable I am sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't beat a nice naked cwtch
We love a naked cwtch, or if that's not forthcoming a fully dressed xgtyu is nice.
I agree a leisurely cwtch just feels right following a good session.
Not sure what a xgtyu is, but a Welsh snuggle is far more pleasurable I am sure. "
Ah yes, the Welsh snuggle. Sorry, completely forget about these. Definitely better than a xgtyu, but not as good as a cwtch, especially when done in a leisurely fashion. |
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Cuddles & kisses and a MASSAGE ~ ;o) and 100% always a lovely hot soapy shower or warm lingering bath together are definately on the menu for me with my single's meet...
and NOWAY does Mr C mind....after all it's ALL ABOUT trust xx
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"Cuddles & kisses and a MASSAGE ~ ;o) and 100% always a lovely hot soapy shower or warm lingering bath together are definately on the menu for me with my single's meet...
and NOWAY does Mr C mind....after all it's ALL ABOUT trust xx
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Exactly ive done showers and baths with wonen before because they trusted me that much xx Personally baths are better if ones availible nice way to clean up and be close xxx I always help the lady in and out of the bath too and offer to dry her off if she likes xxx |
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Depends on the people and the situation. Our meets with couples often end up with some cuddles, especially as the guys may finish at different times.
We've only had a couple of mmfs but no cuddling for the other guy, we prefer if they leave so we can have time to wind down as just the two of us.
But best rule is just to talk about it. Do what all involved are comfortable with. |
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