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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have noticed quite a few profiles popping up where the couples are very young early 20s and seems very young to me to be swinging. Or am I getting older. The whole idea of swinging in couples is that your secure in your relationship. Would you play with a young couple or go with experience? |
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Just because someone is young doesnt mean they are not in a secure relationship, they could have been together far longer than some older couples. Personally i wouldnt go with a much younger couple that is just my preference i have no problem with them swinging in fact it makes me smile that they are just starting out on an exciting adventure |
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"Have noticed quite a few profiles popping up where the couples are very young early 20s and seems very young to me to be swinging. Or am I getting older. The whole idea of swinging in couples is that your secure in your relationship. Would you play with a young couple or go with experience? "
It seems that way but it is probably just because we are all getting older and the age gap between you and the youngest swingers is getting bigger. |
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"It seems that way but it is probably just because we are all getting older and the age gap between you and the youngest swingers is getting bigger. "
Is that similar to the way that Cadbury's Creme Eggs appear smaller than when I was a kid but really it's just that my hands are bigger...?!? |
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"Have noticed quite a few profiles popping up where the couples are very young early 20s and seems very young to me to be swinging. Or am I getting older. The whole idea of swinging in couples is that your secure in your relationship. Would you play with a young couple or go with experience? "
The internet has a lot to do with it i guess in that before it was not as openly discussed and it was harder to find its an interest a lot of people have its just being able to acess it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have noticed quite a few profiles popping up where the couples are very young early 20s and seems very young to me to be swinging. Or am I getting older. The whole idea of swinging in couples is that your secure in your relationship. Would you play with a young couple or go with experience? "
Judging by the 18-24 year olds that contact me: yes! 
My kids are 19, 23 and 28 so I wouldn't feel comfortable playing with men that age: the 30s is even pushing it! |
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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago
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We've had a couple who describe themselves as "very secure in their marriage" They were 21f 23m!
Now I don't know about everyone else but a couple of 21 and 23 have hardly got into their marriage, never mind become secure in it for our tastes.
Conversely we have also had a couple of 26f, 64m contact us. Again while they may be secure in their relationship, we would not meet a girl so young, irrespective of their partners age. |
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"We've had a couple who describe themselves as "very secure in their marriage" They were 21f 23m!
Now I don't know about everyone else but a couple of 21 and 23 have hardly got into their marriage, never mind become secure in it for our tastes.
Conversely we have also had a couple of 26f, 64m contact us. Again while they may be secure in their relationship, we would not meet a girl so young, irrespective of their partners age."
I had to do a double-take as I thought that said 26f 24m the first time I read it... it's still too early in the morning for me. I want to go back to bed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have noticed quite a few profiles popping up where the couples are very young early 20s and seems very young to me to be swinging. Or am I getting older. The whole idea of swinging in couples is that your secure in your relationship. Would you play with a young couple or go with experience?
The internet has a lot to do with it i guess in that before it was not as openly discussed and it was harder to find its an interest a lot of people have its just being able to acess it "
Thats what I thought but I guess nowadays god I sound old 32 lol straight/monogomus relationships are a rarerity as people are more open in there relationships. I cant knock it I cant even settle down. And I agree with the internet as it is more available. And watching the teen sex shows fascinatining they all seem to be sharing or having group sex or swapping partners that seems the norm now they no longer friends just more "buddies"but it is scary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i am young my self 22 and even thought my g/f is not into this i would love to have a open girl frenid at this age and be able to swing life is short and enjoy it why you can. Only get one shoot at it live it how you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am 21 (22 next month) and Matthew is 23 (24 next month). We have been together for 6 years. Admittedly, mat had his fantasy of a threesome etc and after discussing it, I too felt quite horny at the thought of it. We then looked into putting this fantasy into reality last year. After having quite a few meets with couples and single females, I can honestly say we feel very secure in our relationship as it hadn't affected us in a negative way e.g. Jealousy etc. In fact whilst swinging, we have met a few couples who have appeared less secure than ourselves. Swinging enables us to experience other people sexually and also well basically it's fun 
Therefore, from experience, I don't think the security in a relationship depends on age, but the people themselves. |
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There are a whole range of reasons as to why the age range of people on The Scene is far more broader than it use to be (That works in both directions) and there is a range of reasons as to why this is so, some of which have already been mentioned here.
The internet has played a huge role, lets face it revolutionised the whole scene to begin with and enlabled the club scene to take off. The 90's rave scene also had a huge influence on the scene, in the same way the 60's did three decades earlier. Attitudes towards sex and sexuality have changed in the main stream media allowing people more choice and access to things they never had before. Society has changed along with it allowing for more openess and relaxed attitudes so people feel more able to explore. I think the notion that only older couples have relationships that are secure enough to do this is a total fiction. Plenty of older couples that I have met on the Scene are no longer together and the scene factored in very much to them splitting up. I suppose by some peoples standards myself and my ex were young when we started but our age or the Scene had nothing to do with why we split up and we are still very good friends and speak every week, I know alot of couples who split up and dont have the maturity to be able to maintain that kind of friendship. Seeing alot of couples in their twenties is more common now, but then there are alot of older couples trying the scene for the first time to, only the individual personal circumstances of each relationship can determine if they are mutally better able to cope with it or not, and of course there are plenty of couples on The Scene (Of all ages) who arent in an actual relationship anyway, beyond being sex buddies. So there is no right or wrong age for people to have fun, its all down to the people involved. |
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we used to go to xtasia all the time but found that it was full of kids showing off etc there just to say theyve been to a club look at me etc so stopped going a few years ago.have no problems with young couples swinging but if you are 18 years old and on the scene well what life experience do you have and are some coerced into it by an older partner?Ive met couples where that is the case |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think people are doing this younger than they did when i started
but fair play to them, theres no age to swing so long as your over 18
i wish i had descovered this when i was 18 and before i had kids and got fat lol imagine the offers girls that age must get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm glad I DIDN'T discover this when I was younger. I'd probably be shagged out and jaded by now.
I've only been doing this for three years, after being married, having my children and knowing what I want sexually.
I don't take this seriously, it's nothing but fantasy, and the time will come when I'm bored with it. I just hope the boredom comes before being jaded!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i wish i had descovered this when i was 18 and before i had kids and got fat lol imagine the offers girls that age must get "
Ladies age, looks or size have no bearing on the amount of offers they get, and as a middle aged guy I'm more than a bit green with envy  |
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There is no shortage of 'people coerced' into the scene by a partner, older or otherwise out there.
This is no a unique happening to a couple of a particular age group.
The original post commented on young couples in their twenties, where now we have moved on to people just turned 18, which was not the original topic and is a whole different ball game. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just think at that young age I would not have been ready for the scene. Only just discovered it two years ago when I hit 30 and loving it. But I do love a good debate and very interesting reading thanks guys and gals. |
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Nor would I, but I didnt grow up when they did either.
People are exposed to sex to a much greater degree through the media and are having it younger and younger these days (Sometimes it frightens me how fast they grow up)So by the time people are in their mid twenties I dare say they will have been exposed to a great deal more than I was at that age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well to be fair if younger people enjoy the fun and games with other people their own age or even with older people, there is no issue there its just enjoying sex and the scene with others  |
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I was at Adam & Eves on Saturday night and there were a couple in there, the female being only 19. The male seemed in his 30's.
I can tell you, they certainly weren't short of attention!!!!!
She was what some people may call a stereotypically 'gorgeous' babe type girl. I didn't play with them as they chose a couple to have fun with but it is not unusual in the slightest to come across girls aged 18, 19, 20, 21 there or indeed other clubs that I frequent.
I have also seen girls of that age as singles aswell and can't help wonder why they don't just go out to a night club.
Interesting. |
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By *h38Couple
over a year ago
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Each to their own but we wouldn't swing with youngsters - 20's as my eldest is 21!!!!
It would be so wrong to us !
But they have a right to do what they like - we got married at 16/19 so are very happy in our marriage but waited 20 years to swing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It seems that way but it is probably just because we are all getting older and the age gap between you and the youngest swingers is getting bigger.
Is that similar to the way that Cadbury's Creme Eggs appear smaller than when I was a kid but really it's just that my hands are bigger...?!? "
lol yeah but curly wurleys really are getting smaller nothing to do with hand size lol oh and wagon wheels too  |
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It's all a little bit agest to me. You could play with a 54 year old couple but does not make them secure in their relationship. They ma have only been dating 2 months.
Again we have seen 40 year old women, bullied into fucking other men in a club ( conversation went along the lines of I don't wanna fuck em, don't be soft, etc etc , to the point where she said I'll show you I can fuck them rotten).
We left at that point.
Also we have met swinging couples 40 -50 who where swinging but not with their married partner, so again not a secure relationship.
In the end it depends what your in the scene for, for us it's the sexual atmosphere and playing with others of similar interests.
For others there maybe some want to meet other couples who have a normal married life of similar length, for others it's just a fuck.
The relationship status of others (who they do not want to invite round for xmas) is hardly their top concern. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"SOME PEOPLE ON HERE ARE SO NARROW MINDED !!! Anser to your question yes you must be getting old!
24 and 23 here been together over 9 years married 2. Very secure .
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did you really need to be quite that aggressive........
it is an interesting question when it comes to younger people in clubs, because our club now has an "over 25 only" policy in response to younger guys who came in and didn't really understand or behave themselves....
I think age is just a number... for example i have sarahandmat on my friends list and we chat every so often and to be honest I would never have said they were that young if I didn't know.... and we know most men never get past the mental age of 12 anyway....
it not how old people are but often how they come across as well... and that is what makes a ton of difference to people...
Do I wish I had started earlier.... no... because basically I don't think I would have been in the right place mentally to deal with it all... and in a way age does give you real life experience (rightly or wrongly) but if people find something they like... cool... go with it and stick with it... |
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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago
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Did not get agressive, just vented via text that this is a subject that does annoy us espicially when some 1 is makeing an assumption,not a fact or an opinion. You shouldnt tar everyone with the same brush for any reason . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was at Adam & Eves on Saturday night and there were a couple in there, the female being only 19. The male seemed in his 30's.
I can tell you, they certainly weren't short of attention!!!!!
She was what some people may call a stereotypically 'gorgeous' babe type girl. I didn't play with them as they chose a couple to have fun with but it is not unusual in the slightest to come across girls aged 18, 19, 20, 21 there or indeed other clubs that I frequent.
I have also seen girls of that age as singles aswell and can't help wonder why they don't just go out to a night club.
Interesting. "
I would imagine the same reason that you or indeed anyone in a swinging club doesn't just go to a nightclub. In my experience sex itself is easy to get, you or I could simply walk into any city centre nightclub on a saturday when its busy. But does a nightclub have playrooms dedicated to different kinks, the voyeuristic tendancies or group fun? It does not. Are potential sexual partners as likely to be able to have a frank discussion about things sexual or even everyday while sex is taking place in close proximity without fear of embarassment? Probably not. And the bottom line is a standard vanilla nightclub in my opinion, despite having offers of sex aplenty, just doesn't have the same degree of freedom and laidback atmosphere that a swinging club has...
Thats not to say I don't go to vanilla clubs. A hell of a lot of my friends aren't swingers so I attend "normal" clubs with them, and yes I can still have a great night out, and yes I meet plenty of sexual partners in them. But a swinging club offers a completely different kind of night out, and neither of them could compete with the other at what they are best at.... |
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Nightclubs have the draw back of having to go elsewhere for the sex. Ok you could get it done in the club, but there would be no comfy bed to use.
For me if they are over 18 and free from serious coersion then they are responsible for themselves and their own actions.
I say serious coersion as I would hazard a guess that on a first time there would be some encouragement given, so did not want to confuse reluctance with forcable coersion.
An 18 year old may get into swinging and regret it when they are 30 or 40. But then too a 40 year old may get into it and regret it when they are 50 or 60.
Conversely an 18 may get into swinging and continue to do it until they are 80. HAving 1000's of partners over their lifetime and enjoying themselves.
If it's legal, they are having fun and not hurting anyone else. Then for me they are welcome.
Surely having fun whilst fucking is the point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We soft swapped with our friends when Mrs A was 16 and I was 19... Had to wait till we were married and had our own place.. 18 and 21 before we full swapped... We have been together 33 years and married 29...No regrets and still very happy... |
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