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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? "  | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " I hate worms..... have a total phobia with them n snakes..... will cross over the road if I see a W quick enough ... blerghhhhhh xxxxx  | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " Big difference 1. Is a service which should be open to all - I.e. hotel rooms 2. Who you sleep with is a preference 3. Unless you are charging people to sleep with you you have the right to say who enters your body And even if they are paying as it's such a personal act you have the right A hotel stay isn't personal | |||
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"Big difference 1. Is a service which should be open to all - I.e. hotel rooms 2. Who you sleep with is a preference 3. Unless you are charging people to sleep with you you have the right to say who enters your body And even if they are paying as it's such a personal act you have the right A hotel stay isn't personal " Eh? | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " . Freedom of choice . These members are being open and honest in stating their preferences . Not really any different to some people stating that they only wish to meet coloured men. | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " No | |||
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"Having personal preferences on a personal profile I would have thought those who actually read profiles could see it and go "I'm not their type I won't email them and waste both mine and their time" no? is that just too sensible to do? " This | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " So you'd meet a guy for a mm meet then? As it'd be sexist to say no, a fuck's a fuck after all  | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? So you'd meet a guy for a mm meet then? As it'd be sexist to say no, a fuck's a fuck after all "I second that, it merely a personal choice, get off that moral high ground FFS ! | |||
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"Having personal preferences on a personal profile I would have thought those who actually read profiles could see it and go "I'm not their type I won't email them and waste both mine and their time" no? is that just too sensible to do? " . A very realistic post ..Sadly not all members of society are able to use common sense . | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " . I would much prefer if people put what they want on their profiles . If a lady or couples state on their profile NO WHITE MEN , I would not be offended . I prefer to spend my time looking for suitable meets , not analysing peoples profiles and wondering if they are politically correct . | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " think op needs to chill . I'd rather people put what they want etc and that way your not wasting time messageing someone uv not a cat in hells chance off meeting , plus they won't be inundated with people there not attracted to . | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " OP .... Dry your eyes | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " But OP - by the same tokens, are you not presenting yourself as a sexist bigot by saying on your profile that you won't meet men??? According to you, it isn't your right to declare yourself as straight, and to not make yourself available to all sexes equally... | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " No. It's my body, my profile. I can state who I want to engage with sexually. If that offends someone because they aren't my type, unfortunately the best thing they can do is block and move on. Saves us both wasting time. | |||
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"I just don't see the need to say it in the profile. Seeing it in black and white (no pun intended) is harsh, however the writer has expressed it. Simply don't meet or respond to those you believe you aren't interested in surely. " And then you set yourself up for getting a pile of abuse for deleting their message... | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " No and to suggest it is is disingenuous or naive.. there are some on here who are complete bigots and should be challenged as such but no one has the right to say that just because so and so wont jump my bones because of x,y or z is racist, sizeist, ageist etc etc.. its preference, maybe concentrate on that which you can influence and achieve rather than waste your time looking for excuses or labels as to ones enjoyment of the site.. | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " No: and I have no intention of justifying MY choices as I don't expect others to justify who they want to have sex with!  | |||
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"I just don't see the need to say it in the profile. Seeing it in black and white (no pun intended) is harsh, however the writer has expressed it. Simply don't meet or respond to those you believe you aren't interested in surely. And then you set yourself up for getting a pile of abuse for deleting their message..." Oh that's not good! We've not experienced anything like that. And we typically delete all messages after two-three days in any case. Personally I just think that it's distasteful and directly racist to write it like some I have seen and it's not necessary. | |||
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I still haven't come up with anything, has anybody else?
Nope?
Nobody at all?
Didn't think So.
This really has to be the biggest load of bollocks I've read on here lately. | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " No I don't...and for the sake of accuracy the signs read: No Blacks No Dogs No Irish | |||
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"I've been sat here for about 5 minutes trying to figure out how you could possibly be offended by this
I still haven't come up with anything, has anybody else?
Nope?
Nobody at all?
Didn't think So.
This really has to be the biggest load of bollocks I've read on here lately. " | |||
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"Personal choice plain and simple My ex was black but was not attracted to black women.. He racist???? Do people just constantly look for things to be offended by!? " It's when they get offended on my behalf when I could give a fuck that's annoying! | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " Why do you find it offensive? | |||
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"Attraction cannot be holden to rules. You dont choose what you like you just like it. I dont have to give anyone im not attracted to equal opportunities. " Exactly, nobody can change whether they are attracted to a specific skin colour any more than than they can change which gender(s) they are attracted to. | |||
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"My partner and I are looking for a single lady at the moment, I found a few profiles what took our fancy, however a good few are only looking for well built fit black men. Guess what I did? Yes that's right closed the profile and looked for the next profile no offence here!! Why does it seem the only people offended are the people who don't like the word no" I am sure we have all known the disappointment of reading a lovely profile...we like the person/people in it...love the photos and identify with what they have written...only to find they're looking for something completely different to yourself. It happens....scroll onto the next one. Person A might be perfect for me, and I may be the complete opposite of what they are hoping to meet. | |||
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"I wouldn't want to meet anyone who had no Asians/Blacks/Bi men etc. I don't like the tone and wouldn't enjoy being in their company. " | |||
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"We draw the line at black Irish Wolfhounds" Prude | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " You've got no men? Also not everyone likes smokers for kissing | |||
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"I think as fas as smoking goes surely it's up to the individual to state if they don't wish to meet a smoker! It's nothing personal after all - just their own personal choice which they have a right to express! I have came across many guys stating that they are not seeking larger ladies ....it may be offensive to some but it is their choice. As a mature lady I do find there are many who state I am too old for them but I am not in the least offended" | |||
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"I wouldn't want to meet anyone who had no Asians/Blacks/Bi men etc. I don't like the tone and wouldn't enjoy being in their company. "but you are using that as a preference decider... so quite frankly i am offended by your preference..... ooooh... see how many can play that game....
I was going to come up with some wordy and fanciful answer...... but to be honest i cant really be arsed.... so here is what i came up with...
"i am not here to provide a service for others... so.. my body, my rules!!!!"
you don't have to like it... i am not asking you too... and i am not about to take one for any team!  | |||
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"Personal choice plain and simple My ex was black but was not attracted to black women.. He racist???? Do people just constantly look for things to be offended by!? It's when they get offended on my behalf when I could give a fuck that's annoying! " | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive!" okay...... now to see just how big a hole you wish to dig for yourself.... so what would you call an acceptable preference then????? just out of interest? | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " oh, and no short men either | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive!" Men are people too; do you have sex with them or are you prejudiced? Oh, let me guess; that is different. Correct? | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " its not bigotry.....it's called having a choice and making it easier for others! a way of making it even easier would be by adding boxes on the preference page
I wont meet short men either so I guess that makes me heightist | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " Yes. Been blocked for exposing Racial hatred, Transphobia, Homophobia, etc. x | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " You should worry less about bigots but fear more the cynics who might suspect your motives posting a self-promoting pc friendly and sycophantic rant. Just sayin' | |||
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"I understand the sentiment of your thread but sadly it will be shot down - mainly because we all make choices ion life and this site is but a tiny fragment of the population and therefore not to be taken as everyone's _iews - hope you see that "He shouldn't- a polite 'no' would do. How would you feel if you went into a shop in France, and they had a sign saying ' No British'?? | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? its not bigotry.....it's called having a choice and making it easier for others! a way of making it even easier would be by adding boxes on the preference page
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? You should worry less about bigots but fear more the cynics who might suspect your motives posting a self-promoting pc friendly and sycophantic rant. Just sayin'" Vile _iewpoint. | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? its not bigotry.....it's called having a choice and making it easier for others! a way of making it even easier would be by adding boxes on the preference page
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! Men are people too; do you have sex with them or are you prejudiced? Oh, let me guess; that is different. Correct? " Read it all- why would you think that??/ | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? its not bigotry.....it's called having a choice and making it easier for others! a way of making it even easier would be by adding boxes on the preference page
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! okay...... now to see just how big a hole you wish to dig for yourself.... so what would you call an acceptable preference then????? just out of interest? Keeping personal opinions to yourselves. No need to offend, as OPstayes, a pleaseant no would surfice,. You people amuse me.You really do. " | |||
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain." If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others?? | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive!" Much like most of the others commenting.. no. Its our profiles and we will post whatever the hell we want on it. Don't like it leave. Your choice staying, looking and wasting time. | |||
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"Freedom of choice "Sure. No problem to be bigoted tho. Surely a no thanks would surfice? Unless you are trying to make a point... | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! Much like most of the others commenting.. no. Its our profiles and we will post whatever the hell we want on it. Don't like it leave. Your choice staying, looking and wasting time. " Wasting your own time, not ours- and who are you to say leave? - OH WAIT-you own the site- don't you ?? Lol. | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! Much like most of the others commenting.. no. Its our profiles and we will post whatever the hell we want on it. Don't like it leave. Your choice staying, looking and wasting time. Wasting your own time, not ours- and who are you to say leave? - OH WAIT-you own the site- don't you ?? Lol." It was an option for him And I thought I pmt'd badly. Jesus take a chill pill. | |||
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others??" I was sent a message by a black man and because I almost always reply to messages, I replied 'no thanks, I'm not into black men' to which he replied 'YOU SHOULD POST IT ON YOUR PROFILE THEN AND SAVE OTHERS LIKE ME FROM WASTING A MESSAGE'...... so I did its not bigotry, it's a personal choice | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive!" . However a significant number of members prefer those who are open and honest and state their preferences clearly as opposed to those who wish to appear to be politically correct . It is freedom of choice and has nothing to do with being a bigot . Ironically it is often those who wish to appear to be politically correct who are the most intolerantof othe people . They want to distate how we think .. | |||
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"I understand the sentiment of your thread but sadly it will be shot down - mainly because we all make choices ion life and this site is but a tiny fragment of the population and therefore not to be taken as everyone's _iews - hope you see that He shouldn't- a polite 'no' would do. How would you feel if you went into a shop in France, and they had a sign saying ' No British'??". I am a regular visitor to France and it would not bother me . I would just gonto the next suitable shop | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive!" think your talking bollocks and making shit up now.. your ignorance is interesting.. | |||
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"My partner and I are looking for a single lady at the moment, I found a few profiles what took our fancy, however a good few are only looking for well built fit black men. Guess what I did? Yes that's right closed the profile and looked for the next profile no offence here!! Why does it seem the only people offended are the people who don't like the word no" Reply of the Century ! | |||
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"My partner and I are looking for a single lady at the moment, I found a few profiles what took our fancy, however a good few are only looking for well built fit black men. Guess what I did? Yes that's right closed the profile and looked for the next profile no offence here!! Why does it seem the only people offended are the people who don't like the word no Reply of the Century ! " Your sensible post offends me | |||
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"I wouldn't want to meet anyone who had no Asians/Blacks/Bi men etc. I don't like the tone and wouldn't enjoy being in their company.
but you are using that as a preference decider... so quite frankly i am offended by your preference.....
ooooh... see how many can play that game....
I was going to come up with some wordy and fanciful answer...... but to be honest i cant really be arsed.... so here is what i came up with...
"i am not here to provide a service for others... so.. my body, my rules!!!!"
you don't have to like it... i am not asking you too... and i am not about to take one for any team! "You're being a smart arse,I would use that as a preference filter too. Works for me
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! Much like most of the others commenting.. no. Its our profiles and we will post whatever the hell we want on it. Don't like it leave. Your choice staying, looking and wasting time. " This. If people dont like it, tough shit. The 'back' button is there for people to use freely. | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! Much like most of the others commenting.. no. Its our profiles and we will post whatever the hell we want on it. Don't like it leave. Your choice staying, looking and wasting time. This. If people dont like it, tough shit. The 'back' button is there for people to use freely. "whats the back button ?? never come across this | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? Yes. Been blocked for exposing Racial hatred, Transphobia, Homophobia, etc. x" Not for being insufferable then? | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " Hi, op, I have commented on numerous of such profiles in the past too. I also find them offensive because of the phrases they use. People are showing themselves up by their choice of language which deliberately and not so subtly harks back to a time of prejudice and hatred. I am the partner of a bi black man, so bring it on .... also the parent of mixed race children, and would not like any human being, or dog for that matter, being referred to in that way. If its truly a preference, how about expressing it in a positive way. Off to add 'no bigots' to my profile. | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! Much like most of the others commenting.. no. Its our profiles and we will post whatever the hell we want on it. Don't like it leave. Your choice staying, looking and wasting time. This. If people dont like it, tough shit. The 'back' button is there for people to use freely. whats the back button ?? never come across this "Depending on your device, the key above return, the nottom roght touch key on your phone, to either the left and right of your browser search bar or to the bottom left of your browser on lollipop devices. | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? Yes. Been blocked for exposing Racial hatred, Transphobia, Homophobia, etc. x" | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive!" Right! So I take it by your rules we aren't allowed to put anything at all on our profiles then? Sorry girls, all of you stating only hung men.....you're guilty of sizeism! Nope I'm sorry, you're not allowed to state a preference, or a like/dislike! !! In fact according to these poster's you'd just better shag absolutely everyone on here! | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? Hi, op, I have commented on numerous of such profiles in the past too. I also find them offensive because of the phrases they use. People are showing themselves up by their choice of language which deliberately and not so subtly harks back to a time of prejudice and hatred. I am the partner of a bi black man, so bring it on .... also the parent of mixed race children, and would not like any human being, or dog for that matter, being referred to in that way. If its truly a preference, how about expressing it in a positive way. Off to add 'no bigots' to my profile." | |||
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others??" So you would teach your child that it should expect everyone to want to sleep with it? Cant possibly see that leading to issues at all. | |||
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"This thread is laughable Appears we are being judged by the politically correct brigade. it's about personal preference after all. If we all liked the same thing how dull it would be! And I'm constantly messaged by men who don't meet my preferences so it proves most don't read anyway. " point of correction, as one of the often labelled 'pc brigade' (as well as pinko leftie, soft on crime do gooding tree hugging sandal wearing liberal) i have to distance myself from any association with how you describe the OP.. there is a vast difference between a racist comment on someone's profile and bigotry in the forums and what the OP is wrongly referring to (and others).. its PREFERENCE, CHOICE etc .. not rocket science | |||
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"I've been sat here for about 5 minutes trying to figure out how you could possibly be offended by this
I still haven't come up with anything, has anybody else?
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others?? I was sent a message by a black man and because I almost always reply to messages, I replied 'no thanks, I'm not into black men' to which he replied 'YOU SHOULD POST IT ON YOUR PROFILE THEN AND SAVE OTHERS LIKE ME FROM WASTING A MESSAGE'...... so I did its not bigotry, it's a personal choice "So the Einstein wasted yet another message | |||
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"This thread is laughable Appears we are being judged by the politically correct brigade. it's about personal preference after all. If we all liked the same thing how dull it would be! And I'm constantly messaged by men who don't meet my preferences so it proves most don't read anyway. point of correction, as one of the often labelled 'pc brigade' (as well as pinko leftie, soft on crime do gooding tree hugging sandal wearing liberal) i have to distance myself from any association with how you describe the OP.. there is a vast difference between a racist comment on someone's profile and bigotry in the forums and what the OP is wrongly referring to (and others).. its PREFERENCE, CHOICE etc .. not rocket science " I don't think I'll be losing sleep over your distancing. | |||
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"still waiting for the OP to tell us the list of "acceptable preferences"......... this should be really interesting........" I can see where you are going with this, but I am a choosy slut ... I like the person inside, it's not about skin colour, ethnicity, age, size or anything else ... it's if we click & there's an attraction ... If we don't click then the rest goes out the window irrespective of what someone's original 'preferences' were.. Similarly, what if someone met someone they fancied the pants off who was not on their 'to do' list ... would they say NO I cant have you i'm not allowed to ... or would it be ... come on lets enjoy an amazing time together?!? | |||
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others?? I was sent a message by a black man and because I almost always reply to messages, I replied 'no thanks, I'm not into black men' to which he replied 'YOU SHOULD POST IT ON YOUR PROFILE THEN AND SAVE OTHERS LIKE ME FROM WASTING A MESSAGE'...... so I did its not bigotry, it's a personal choice
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive! Right! So I take it by your rules we aren't allowed to put anything at all on our profiles then? Sorry girls, all of you stating only hung men.....you're guilty of sizeism! Nope I'm sorry, you're not allowed to state a preference, or a like/dislike! !! In fact according to these poster's you'd just better shag absolutely everyone on here! " | |||
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"My opinion as an Asian on this matter is simple, if they don't want to meet me because I'm Asian, I don't want to meet them. I could he physically and mentally attracted to somebody but if they simply rule me out because of my ethnicity, you don't seem like the kind of person I want to associate myself with." yes too true its how you are as a person not creed colour etc to rule a asian black oriental latino etc on that basis says a lot about the people really xxx | |||
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"My opinion as an Asian on this matter is simple, if they don't want to meet me because I'm Asian, I don't want to meet them. I could he physically and mentally attracted to somebody but if they simply rule me out because of my ethnicity, you don't seem like the kind of person I want to associate myself with.yes too true its how you are as a person not creed colour etc to rule a asian black oriental latino etc on that basis says a lot about the people really xxx" But various ethnicities have disticint physical characteristics If you aren't attracted to those phenotypes ahy not just say it? | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " It's called personal choice... Maybe it's not politically correct to have personal preferences in this day and age. But non the less that's all they are and it doesn't mean a person is racist or phobic. If peoples personal choices on FAB are so offensive to you then maybe this isn't the place for you... | |||
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"My opinion as an Asian on this matter is simple, if they don't want to meet me because I'm Asian, I don't want to meet them. I could he physically and mentally attracted to somebody but if they simply rule me out because of my ethnicity, you don't seem like the kind of person I want to associate myself with." You won't need to excercise your preference. Just saying | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " Bigotry? Seriously?! Just because they know their own minds and preferences doesn't mean they're bigots. If they are specifically racist then that's different. Not being attracted to someone isn't being racist. | |||
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others??" I repeat, people being offended on my behalf when I don't give a fuck!
You are 100% right though: we have thousands of things to worry about, not being sexually attractive to someone is not one of them.
Most of the problems the world faces is due in part to people afraid of offending/people wanting to offend.
As a black woman I don't play with black men. I was married to a black man, he's the father of my children and even though we had a falling out (I met and moved in a new partner who is white, he's the only man I trust. Since the birth of our grandsons six weeks ago we've started talking.
My point is if I see something that doesn't include me sexually I don't feel offended. I'm a full time union official fighting injustice is my raison d'etre: my work rules and law doesn't apply here and I truly struggle to understand why people think sex is an equal opportunities activity.
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others?? I repeat, people being offended on my behalf when I don't give a fuck!
You are 100% right though: we have thousands of things to worry about, not being sexually attractive to someone is not one of them.
Most of the problems the world faces is due in part to people afraid of offending/people wanting to offend.
As a black woman I don't play with black men. I was married to a black man, he's the father of my children and even though we had a falling out (I met and moved in a new partner who is white, he's the only man I trust. Since the birth of our grandsons six weeks ago we've started talking.
My point is if I see something that doesn't include me sexually I don't feel offended. I'm a full time union official fighting injustice is my raison d'etre: my work rules and law doesn't apply here and I truly struggle to understand why people think sex is an equal opportunities activity.
As Fabio said: my body, my rules! "
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others?? I repeat, people being offended on my behalf when I don't give a fuck!
You are 100% right though: we have thousands of things to worry about, not being sexually attractive to someone is not one of them.
Most of the problems the world faces is due in part to people afraid of offending/people wanting to offend.
As a black woman I don't play with black men. I was married to a black man, he's the father of my children and even though we had a falling out (I met and moved in a new partner who is white, he's the only man I trust. Since the birth of our grandsons six weeks ago we've started talking.
My point is if I see something that doesn't include me sexually I don't feel offended. I'm a full time union official fighting injustice is my raison d'etre: my work rules and law doesn't apply here and I truly struggle to understand why people think sex is an equal opportunities activity.
As Fabio said: my body, my rules! ". The voice of reality . I have meet Asian couples who said no Asian men on their profiles . Their choice and their decision . | |||
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"I can actually see why some do come across as being bigoted for expressing a preference. It's not necessarily what you say but the way that you say it. " 100% | |||
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"I can actually see why some do come across as being bigoted for expressing a preference. It's not necessarily what you say but the way that you say it. " Definitely this | |||
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" Most of the problems the world faces is due in part to people afraid of offending/people wanting to offend. " That's not really true is it? | |||
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"I can actually see why some do come across as being bigoted for expressing a preference. It's not necessarily what you say but the way that you say it. " As with a lot of things, it's the way it is said | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " Hmmmmmmm . So someone stating no smokers is offensive? Ok that's just so weird. | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? " It's called personal preference. We don't like skinny guys or ginger guys. Or guys in skinny jeans lol | |||
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"A better question would be 'Is Fab's Lounge Forum a haven for bigots?' To which the answer is obviously yes. Fortunately it's full of nice people too!" (Wonders which category he's been placed in) | |||
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"Wake up you lot! Precluding other ethnicities is not a "preference". However you try to dress it up; It's bigotry. When will some of you realise that people are people; Whatever their colour / creed / ethnicity, and if some individuals on here don't want to meet people of other ethnic groups / have prejudices. Fine; All they have to do is delete and block..but for goodness sake, keep your offensive _iews off your public profiles. I (and from the messages of support I've received) and many others) find them deeply offensive!" I disagree but even if I didn't, what the fuck has smoking got to do with your perceived _iew of racism? | |||
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"I understand the sentiment of your thread but sadly it will be shot down - mainly because we all make choices ion life and this site is but a tiny fragment of the population and therefore not to be taken as everyone's _iews - hope you see that He shouldn't- a polite 'no' would do. How would you feel if you went into a shop in France, and they had a sign saying ' No British'??"I would say "bloody football fans" | |||
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"I can actually see why some do come across as being bigoted for expressing a preference. It's not necessarily what you say but the way that you say it. " Oh I agree! There are bigots no doubt and the way they express themselves makes it obvious. My point is stating a preference in a "non offensive" way doesn't equate to bigotry. | |||
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"I can actually see why some do come across as being bigoted for expressing a preference. It's not necessarily what you say but the way that you say it. Oh I agree! There are bigots no doubt and the way they express themselves makes it obvious. My point is stating a preference in a "non offensive" way doesn't equate to bigotry. " .
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"I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no fat men". It merely tells me that I'm not their type. I am not offended if someone has in their profile "no white men" or "black men only" (and many women do). It merely tells me that I am not their type. It is not bigotry. It is a sexual preference. I don't meet single men, because I am not attracted to men. I state this on my profile. I do meet women and couples. Does that make me somehow anti-man? Please explain.If you where black, you may feel different. They have thousands of issues to deal with, without this- Imnagine if you had a black child, and it was shunned by others??" In context of this thread, so by this she is old enough to have sex, I'd tell her that colour is only one of many reasons why someone wouldn't copulate with her. | |||
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"still waiting for the OP to tell us the list of "acceptable preferences"......... this should be really interesting........ I can see where you are going with this, but I am a choosy slut ... I like the person inside, it's not about skin colour, ethnicity, age, size or anything else ... it's if we click & there's an attraction ... If we don't click then the rest goes out the window irrespective of what someone's original 'preferences' were.. Similarly, what if someone met someone they fancied the pants off who was not on their 'to do' list ... would they say NO I cant have you i'm not allowed to ... or would it be ... come on lets enjoy an amazing time together?!?" | |||
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"still waiting for the OP to tell us the list of "acceptable preferences"......... this should be really interesting........ I can see where you are going with this, but I am a choosy slut ... I like the person inside, it's not about skin colour, ethnicity, age, size or anything else ... it's if we click & there's an attraction ... If we don't click then the rest goes out the window irrespective of what someone's original 'preferences' were.. Similarly, what if someone met someone they fancied the pants off who was not on their 'to do' list ... would they say NO I cant have you i'm not allowed to ... or would it be ... come on lets enjoy an amazing time together?!? "Do you only respond to those who agree with you? Go on, dare you to respond to those who question you! | |||
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"I can actually see why some do come across as being bigoted for expressing a preference. It's not necessarily what you say but the way that you say it. Oh I agree! There are bigots no doubt and the way they express themselves makes it obvious. My point is stating a preference in a "non offensive" way doesn't equate to bigotry. " | |||
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"still waiting for the OP to tell us the list of "acceptable preferences"......... this should be really interesting........ I can see where you are going with this, but I am a choosy slut ... I like the person inside, it's not about skin colour, ethnicity, age, size or anything else ... it's if we click & there's an attraction ... If we don't click then the rest goes out the window irrespective of what someone's original 'preferences' were.. Similarly, what if someone met someone they fancied the pants off who was not on their 'to do' list ... would they say NO I cant have you i'm not allowed to ... or would it be ... come on lets enjoy an amazing time together?!?
Do you only respond to those who agree with you?
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"I see no bi men And I think, cool I know they are not interested and I look elsewhere. No wasted minutes crafting a message, no wasted minutes attaching pics, just no wasted minutes. There has been zero impact on my self worth, self esteem and I am still fiercely proud of my sexuality. And they just get on with their life and neither of us has any angst. There will be angst if you allow it. "The voice of reason as usual _iew | |||
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"I see no bi men And I think, cool I know they are not interested and I look elsewhere. No wasted minutes crafting a message, no wasted minutes attaching pics, just no wasted minutes. There has been zero impact on my self worth, self esteem and I am still fiercely proud of my sexuality. And they just get on with their life and neither of us has any angst. There will be angst if you allow it. "What?! You mean you're not offended? What is the world coming to | |||
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"I see no bi men And I think, cool I know they are not interested and I look elsewhere. No wasted minutes crafting a message, no wasted minutes attaching pics, just no wasted minutes. There has been zero impact on my self worth, self esteem and I am still fiercely proud of my sexuality. And they just get on with their life and neither of us has any angst. There will be angst if you allow it.
What?! You mean you're not offended? What is the world coming to "Nope I tried to muster up some indignation and mutterings about 'I wouldn't fancy them anyway' in a bleating whimpering fashion. But no, nothing happened. I still an cool with it | |||
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"When are you starting your campaign against the blatantly discriminatory Black Mans Fan Club events?" I think you'll find that it was set up to cater for specific preferences. No one is excluded from attending. My white husband has been and some single white guys attend. Where's the discrimination? | |||
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"Over the past few weeks, I've seen a number of profiles showing: NO Asians NO Bi / Bi Curious Men NO Smokers I find the above offensive, and I wouldn't even consider meeting people who had the above on their profiles These statements make me think of the notices some landlords posted on their doors in the 1950's (before anyone says anything, I was NOT around then ha ha): NO Blacks NO Irish NO Dogs Of course I respect people's right to have preferences - Indeed one's sexual preference and willingness / unwillingness to meet smokers are already catered for in the standard format; So why do these people feel the need to rule out certain ethnicities? I think we all know the answer to that...But surely rather than publicise their bigotry, all they need to do if they're approached by someone they deem inappropriate, is delete the message and block them. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but does anyone else feel the same way? Big difference 1. Is a service which should be open to all - I.e. hotel rooms 2. Who you sleep with is a preference 3. Unless you are charging people to sleep with you you have the right to say who enters your body And even if they are paying as it's such a personal act you have the right A hotel stay isn't personal " | |||
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