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It's certainly sexual. Most people would call it foreplay.
Don't worry about definitions, or you end up with the Clinton lewinsky situation, where she had sex with him, but he didn't have sex with her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, it's not sex if you were tied to the bed naked, and I spent hours kissing, touching, and making you cum with my hands, mouth and toys? "
sounds good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, it's not sex if you were tied to the bed naked, and I spent hours kissing, touching, and making you cum with my hands, mouth and toys? "
But it is sex if a fella sticks his cock in you for 2 mins, shoots and goes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, it's not sex if you were tied to the bed naked, and I spent hours kissing, touching, and making you cum with my hands, mouth and toys?
But it is sex if a fella sticks his cock in you for 2 mins, shoots and goes? "
Yes. Shit sex, but sex. The first scenario sounds really great, but I don't think it is sex.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex is...
When I message someone and tell her what I'm going to do;
When I show her a photo of what I'm going to use;
When I'm ten paces behind her, watching her walk, when she knows that I'm watching and she's thinking about what's about to happen;
When the door is barely shut before your bodies come together;
Sex is... so much more than just fucking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex is...
When I message someone and tell her what I'm going to do;
When I show her a photo of what I'm going to use;
When I'm ten paces behind her, watching her walk, when she knows that I'm watching and she's thinking about what's about to happen;
When the door is barely shut before your bodies come together;
Sex is... so much more than just fucking "
Fuck me.....I've had sex with way more guys than i ever knew...than they even knew  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex is...
When I message someone and tell her what I'm going to do;
When I show her a photo of what I'm going to use;
When I'm ten paces behind her, watching her walk, when she knows that I'm watching and she's thinking about what's about to happen;
When the door is barely shut before your bodies come together;
Sex is... so much more than just fucking "
I think you should be an add executive.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Point of correction : I can ask whatever I like without saying why I asked
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Of course....we're just being nosy.....can't blame us for wondering....I'm an inquisitive creature.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Point of correction : I can ask whatever I like without saying why I asked
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Oooh... When someone gets immediately defensive it's normally got an interesting back story. What's yours? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex is...
When I message someone and tell her what I'm going to do;
When I show her a photo of what I'm going to use;
When I'm ten paces behind her, watching her walk, when she knows that I'm watching and she's thinking about what's about to happen;
When the door is barely shut before your bodies come together;
Sex is... so much more than just fucking
Fuck me.....I've had sex with way more guys than i ever knew...than they even knew "
yup me too - getting it all the time and not known - sheesh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok then
Went out last night with a girl, both got pissed her more than me. We did everything there is to do other than penetration last night.
So this morning after she left I was just pondering on the fact.
No penetration but heavy petting lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Naked people,no touching is naturism.
Naked people touching with hands is fondling.
Naked people with genitals touching any part of another's body is foreplay,including oral.
Sex is a penis in a vagina or rectum.
That's my outlook on it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok then
Went out last night with a girl, both got pissed her more than me. We did everything there is to do other than penetration last night.
So this morning after she left I was just pondering on the fact.
No penetration but heavy petting lol"
If you both came bucket loads, and we're all hot and exhausted, probably (but still not by some people's options).
If you were both cuddles and stroking, not even by my definition. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok then
Went out last night with a girl, both got pissed her more than me. We did everything there is to do other than penetration last night.
So this morning after she left I was just pondering on the fact.
No penetration but heavy petting lol"
Thanks for sharing......it wasn't that hard was it?
Do you think you had sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok then
Went out last night with a girl, both got pissed her more than me. We did everything there is to do other than penetration last night.
So this morning after she left I was just pondering on the fact.
No penetration but heavy petting lol"
See Bro doesn't that feel better getting it of your chest??
So if there was oral,, mate u had oral sex. Other than that u had some fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......"
Does she think you had sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......"
Mate I just had a horrible thought . With her being d*unk are the police involved and Ur worried?? |
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I would say so but I don't know what the definition in law is.
Put it this way, if a partner of mine did this but tried to defend himself by saying it wasn't actually sex, I'd still smack him over the back of the head with a soggy dildo and then kick him out. |
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By *llebWoman
over a year ago
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"Is being 100% naked with someone with lots of touching going on considered sex if there is no penetration?"
Not in my view , it's like reading a map, you're just finding out where to go and how to get there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not at all m8
You are very dramatic thought
Drama King lol"
Glad u found that dramatic. But think of what u wrote . She was more d*unk than yourself, and asking for definitions of sex.
Unfortunately many a guy have found themselves in front of magistrates for this. But as long as it is not. Hey good on yuh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No
She said we just messed around !!
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Then it doesn't really matter i guess. You can call it what you like. Interesting to read other's views on what sex actually is though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......"
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is being 100% naked with someone with lots of touching going on considered sex if there is no penetration?"
that would be foreplay and yes can be great sex for some |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex?"
How sad and pathetic
Won't justify your comment by saying more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the circumstances described by the OP in the follow up post, I'd include it on my "people I've had sex with" spreadsheet so for me it counts."
Spreadsheets are useful things aren't they?....i hadn't even thought of using one for such a purpose |
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Bill Clinton was able to say "truthfully" in a legal sense that he did not have sex with Monica Lewinski, because she gave him a bj and ( at the time, at least) that was not legally defined as sex.
As to your question: it's a moot ( and largely irrelevant ) issue: if you are naked and doing everything except actual penetration, I regard it as sex, really; it's certainly sexual activity . |
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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago
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"So, it's not sex if you were tied to the bed naked, and I spent hours kissing, touching, and making you cum with my hands, mouth and toys?
sounds good "
Sounds very good. Either as giver or receiver! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex?
How sad and pathetic
Won't justify your comment by saying more "
So it was a yes. And congratulations on the name calling. Certainly a very grown up way of debating. *slowly claps hands. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sexual activity.. Foreplay.. Messing around... Fondling.. Fooling around... Who cares if it was mutually contented to and fun 
But if you want terminology;
Oral sex
Penetrative sex
Both sex
If it was two women I think you would all say it was sex
Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex?
How sad and pathetic
Won't justify your comment by saying more
So it was a yes. And congratulations on the name calling. Certainly a very grown up way of debating. *slowly claps hands. ."
Says the guy who lowered the tone in a juvenile and disrespectful manner  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex
How sad and pathetic
Won't justify your comment by saying more
So it was a yes. And congratulations on the name calling. Certainly a very grown up way of debating. *slowly claps hands. ."
I usually find you quite amusing,. So don't take this the wrong way... But bringing his mother into it was also quite childish. .. And a little disrespectful
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sexual activity.. Foreplay.. Messing around... Fondling.. Fooling around... Who cares if it was mutually contented to and fun
But if you want terminology;
Oral sex
Penetrative sex
Both sex
If it was two women I think you would all say it was sex
Xx
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This xx |
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By *llebWoman
over a year ago
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"Bill Clinton was able to say "truthfully" in a legal sense that he did not have sex with Monica Lewinski, because she gave him a bj and ( at the time, at least) that was not legally defined as sex.
As to your question: it's a moot ( and largely irrelevant ) issue: if you are naked and doing everything except actual penetration, I regard it as sex, really; it's certainly sexual activity ."
And there you have it.
Sexual activity, and of course it's up to the individual to determine what they see as sex
Sex to me is penetration
Bringing each other to orgasm without that is sexual activity.
My Hitachi is very thankful to be gainfully employed in sexual activity but is unable to complete the deed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex?
How sad and pathetic
Won't justify your comment by saying more
So it was a yes. And congratulations on the name calling. Certainly a very grown up way of debating. *slowly claps hands. .
Says the guy who lowered the tone in a juvenile and disrespectful manner "
It was rather extreme I'll admit, but in order to change someone's point of view such a course of action is sometimes needed. I'm sorry if i hurt his feelings. But I'm sure he'd be more upset trying to justify himself in a room in front of 12 of his peers. If a situation such had been mentioned earlier had taken place with a woman under the influence of drink.
Because it was sex, with or without penetration. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex?
How sad and pathetic
Won't justify your comment by saying more
So it was a yes. And congratulations on the name calling. Certainly a very grown up way of debating. *slowly claps hands. .
Says the guy who lowered the tone in a juvenile and disrespectful manner
It was rather extreme I'll admit, but in order to change someone's point of view such a course of action is sometimes needed. I'm sorry if i hurt his feelings. But I'm sure he'd be more upset trying to justify himself in a room in front of 12 of his peers. If a situation such had been mentioned earlier had taken place with a woman under the influence of drink.
Because it was sex, with or without penetration."
Clem I accept your apology
Bringing my mother into it was unnecessary to say the least.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......
If you were watching me doing that with your mother would you consider it sex?
How sad and pathetic
Won't justify your comment by saying more
So it was a yes. And congratulations on the name calling. Certainly a very grown up way of debating. *slowly claps hands. .
Says the guy who lowered the tone in a juvenile and disrespectful manner
It was rather extreme I'll admit, but in order to change someone's point of view such a course of action is sometimes needed. I'm sorry if i hurt his feelings. But I'm sure he'd be more upset trying to justify himself in a room in front of 12 of his peers. If a situation such had been mentioned earlier had taken place with a woman under the influence of drink.
Because it was sex, with or without penetration."
In court it would be indecent assault with intent.... Not sex by penetration without consent
But that isn't an issue as it was mutual
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't actually think he has a clue what happened, they were both d*unk ( her more then him apprently ) but a few comments ago from , "she said it was only touching " if you were more sober then her surly she shouldn't need to have "said" x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't actually think he has a clue what happened, they were both d*unk ( her more then him apprently ) but a few comments ago from , "she said it was only touching " if you were more sober then her surly she shouldn't need to have "said" x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the circumstances described by the OP in the follow up post, I'd include it on my "people I've had sex with" spreadsheet so for me it counts."
Hmmm, on your spreadsheet without penetration? Are you modifying your rules? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been out plenty of times on dates... Or with a partner.. And been more pissed than them.. But can still remember what has happened... .
Really don't get why people are trying to villianise this man... Chill people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does it matter as long as it is good? We don't always feel the need for penetrative sex. It can be more inventive and fun for us than a penis in a foofoo. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Typical
What ever the question the answer will always be RAPE.
IT WAS CONSENSUAL
Yes we were both pissed but not out of our heads.
IT WAS CONSENSUAL..... Touching |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Typical
What ever the question the answer will always be RAPE.
IT WAS CONSENSUAL
Yes we were both pissed but not out of our heads.
IT WAS CONSENSUAL..... Touching "
I never said anything to do with rape... I was more thinking she was your best mates girlfriend or summit like that. And you were trying to justify what happened in your head x |
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"In the circumstances described by the OP in the follow up post, I'd include it on my "people I've had sex with" spreadsheet so for me it counts.
Hmmm, on your spreadsheet without penetration? Are you modifying your rules? "
No that still didn't count because there was no oral or nudity either |
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"Typical
What ever the question the answer will always be RAPE.
IT WAS CONSENSUAL
Yes we were both pissed but not out of our heads.
IT WAS CONSENSUAL..... Touching "
I read your question and assumed you were after the definition of sex after a night of heavy sexual activity. I also assumed that it was because you were just pondering on what happened in an idle sort of way, I think lots of others did too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Most people would consider manual sex (hand jobs, fingering), oral sex, vaginal sex and anal sex to be sex. Naked touching and rubbing can be considered a sexual behavior but may not always be considered sex. But everyone defines sex and sexual behaviors differently. Think I may need to discuss it with her the define as sex.
Something to keep in mind though is that STDs like herpes and some strains of HPV can be transmitted through genital skin-to-skin contact, and a pregnancy can occur if sperm are deposited onto the vaginal opening even if there is not penetration.
Just my take on things so far .....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cunnilingus is oral sex, and is a sufficiently penetrative act. You're at least touching the entrance of a woman's vagina with your tongue."
Doesn't the word intercourse cover all sorts of sexual activity during sex. Up to and including penetration? Hence Penetrative and non Penetrative sex? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Cunnilingus is oral sex, and is a sufficiently penetrative act. You're at least touching the entrance of a woman's vagina with your tongue.
Doesn't the word intercourse cover all sorts of sexual activity during sex. Up to and including penetration? Hence Penetrative and non Penetrative sex?"
You have performed a sexual act; much like fingering. But you have physically not had sex. |
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"Is being 100% naked with someone with lots of touching going on considered sex if there is no penetration?"
If I was naked with you there bloody would be..................sorry, did I say that out loud?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is being 100% naked with someone with lots of touching going on considered sex if there is no penetration?
If I was naked with you there bloody would be..................sorry, did I say that out loud? "
Touchè  |
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"Is being 100% naked with someone with lots of touching going on considered sex if there is no penetration?
If I was naked with you there bloody would be..................sorry, did I say that out loud?
Touchè "
En garde..... |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'm finding it really difficult to consider it as SEX.
Mainly because my understand of sex is penetration......"
As Clinton said of Monica "I did not have sex with this woman" even though she gave him a blow job. It seems to depend on how you see it yourself, or how you might want to excuse yourself. Being naked and fondling is obviously not penetrative sex but it is most certainly being sexual - and that would be enough to trigger a divorce case if your spouse didn't know about it. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Bill Clinton was able to say "truthfully" in a legal sense that he did not have sex with Monica Lewinski, because she gave him a bj and ( at the time, at least) that was not legally defined as sex.
As to your question: it's a moot ( and largely irrelevant ) issue: if you are naked and doing everything except actual penetration, I regard it as sex, really; it's certainly sexual activity ."
 ...sorry I missed your post! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, it's not sex if you were tied to the bed naked, and I spent hours kissing, touching, and making you cum with my hands, mouth and toys? "
Sounds like sex to me. |
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