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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Its been ages since I've had a 'ruin' message.  "
I had one at New Year.
I asked why he thought I'd want that and politely declined.
I think it's bad manners to intentionally try to break one's toys.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It means that they're going to hammer away with no skill or finesse and absolutely no regard for the pleasure of the woman they're "ruining" because that's the way they've seen it done in porn or seen it talked about on some social media. Silly boys with no fucking clue... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient. "
Ahem...I do this all the time!
I wake up sometimes after a heavy night to find I've sent this same message to several people! Normally between 2 and 4am! |
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient. "
They read it elsewhere and think it sounds good.
Boring and unimaginative so might give you a good indication of what they're like at sex too. |
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Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient.
They read it elsewhere and think it sounds good.
Boring and unimaginative so might give you a good indication of what they're like at sex too. "
Exactly this. There are people out there who want to be ruined and people who want to ruin them. And i hope they have fun with each other. And if i never meet either I'll be a happy man.  |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient. "
Some women use it too...I've certainly had women say 'I want you to totally ruin me'...I find it quite a turn on ...no different to saying 'I want to fuck you senseless' or other such phrases |
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"It means that they're going to hammer away with no skill or finesse and absolutely no regard for the pleasure of the woman they're "ruining" because that's the way they've seen it done in porn or seen it talked about on some social media. Silly boys with no fucking clue..."
I call this the "frat boy" effect.
They thing just throwing someone around and slamming into her, while passing her around is enough...
They forget the fantasy and haven't honed their skill.
It takes a lot to control your strength....
Gently authoritative and pain without damage are hard targets to aim for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!"
I appreciate what you're trying to say. Pillow talk can be a filthy thing. However the greeting "can i ruin you" or "come around and ruin me" straight off the bat maybe a bridge to far. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient. "
Because they have recently emerged from their cave |
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient.
Some women use it too...I've certainly had women say 'I want you to totally ruin me'...I find it quite a turn on ...no different to saying 'I want to fuck you senseless' or other such phrases "
Yep I get this too, but it's in the moment & I think a lot of people don't know how to talk during the moment or feel conscious...
I really believe anything goes... |
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!
I appreciate what you're trying to say. Pillow talk can be a filthy thing. However the greeting "can i ruin you" or "come around and ruin me" straight off the bat maybe a bridge to far."
Yeah that would be terrible...
I think of some of the things I say and straight off the bat the police would be called!! |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient.
Some women use it too...I've certainly had women say 'I want you to totally ruin me'...I find it quite a turn on ...no different to saying 'I want to fuck you senseless' or other such phrases
Yep I get this too, but it's in the moment & I think a lot of people don't know how to talk during the moment or feel conscious...
I really believe anything goes..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient.
Some women use it too...I've certainly had women say 'I want you to totally ruin me'...I find it quite a turn on ...no different to saying 'I want to fuck you senseless' or other such phrases "
For me and this is my opinion alone, it's a term of phrase that leaves me looking at a single person's profile over the age of 35, thinking yes i can see why you're still single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient.
Some women use it too...I've certainly had women say 'I want you to totally ruin me'...I find it quite a turn on ...no different to saying 'I want to fuck you senseless' or other such phrases
For me and this is my opinion alone, it's a term of phrase that leaves me looking at a single person's profile over the age of 35, thinking yes i can see why you're still single."
Maybe they want to be single? You seem preoccupied with single people and relationships it seems.
I use this phrase all the time and it has the desired effect. I prefer to know the guy a bit before he can use it on me and me to feel turned on.
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"It's used by insecure deluded men who think having a big cock is the be all and end all of great sex.
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Not exclusively - as I said earlier I have certainly encountered women who like to use the expression too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's used by insecure deluded men who think having a big cock is the be all and end all of great sex.
Not exclusively - as I said earlier I have certainly encountered women who like to use the expression too."
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Me, me!! I love it. |
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient.
Some women use it too...I've certainly had women say 'I want you to totally ruin me'...I find it quite a turn on ...no different to saying 'I want to fuck you senseless' or other such phrases
For me and this is my opinion alone, it's a term of phrase that leaves me looking at a single person's profile over the age of 35, thinking yes i can see why you're still single."
I also have to say, I'm self conscious of my mouth in clubs and tone it down to near 0.
As I only ever take female friends, they all say that it's not as interesting in the club.
I don't even turn my brain on to let my mouth flow and I can instantly feel them get turned on when I hit the right notes, usually this is something really baaaaaaad!!!
I too have had a few guys contact me and say how they have a girl we can ruin, abuse, fuck senseless whatever and I NEVER join them, I hate that attitude and I hate people talking like that in public, on the outside. I think it sounds so immature, yet somehow it becomes right and I say the craziest, filthiest shit!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!"
I would actually agree with this. As a message on here from someone i don't know i just think "eurgh" but in the heat of the moment then who knows what will be said. I've surprised myself at times with things I've said or things someone else has said that i wouldn't normally consider to be a turn on. |
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!
I would actually agree with this. As a message on here from someone i don't know i just think "eurgh" but in the heat of the moment then who knows what will be said. I've surprised myself at times with things I've said or things someone else has said that i wouldn't normally consider to be a turn on. "
Yeah I know that feeling...
Like you just want to put your hand over your mouth and stop it coming out!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!
I would actually agree with this. As a message on here from someone i don't know i just think "eurgh" but in the heat of the moment then who knows what will be said. I've surprised myself at times with things I've said or things someone else has said that i wouldn't normally consider to be a turn on.
Yeah I know that feeling...
Like you just want to put your hand over your mouth and stop it coming out!!"
It's better if someone else puts their hand over your mouth  |
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!
I would actually agree with this. As a message on here from someone i don't know i just think "eurgh" but in the heat of the moment then who knows what will be said. I've surprised myself at times with things I've said or things someone else has said that i wouldn't normally consider to be a turn on.
Yeah I know that feeling...
Like you just want to put your hand over your mouth and stop it coming out!!
It's better if someone else puts their hand over your mouth "
Now you're talking!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!
I would actually agree with this. As a message on here from someone i don't know i just think "eurgh" but in the heat of the moment then who knows what will be said. I've surprised myself at times with things I've said or things someone else has said that i wouldn't normally consider to be a turn on.
Yeah I know that feeling...
Like you just want to put your hand over your mouth and stop it coming out!!
It's better if someone else puts their hand over your mouth
Now you're talking!! "
Not with your hand over her mouth she isn't! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient. "
I would rather be ravished not ruined.
Mrs |
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!
I would actually agree with this. As a message on here from someone i don't know i just think "eurgh" but in the heat of the moment then who knows what will be said. I've surprised myself at times with things I've said or things someone else has said that i wouldn't normally consider to be a turn on.
Yeah I know that feeling...
Like you just want to put your hand over your mouth and stop it coming out!!
It's better if someone else puts their hand over your mouth
Now you're talking!!
Not with your hand over her mouth she isn't!"
Ha! Well she's making some kind of noise! |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Why do some people use the phrases 'I'm going to ruin/destroy you'? To me that just doesn't seem a pleasurable pursuit for the 'ruined/destroyed' recipient.
I would rather be ravished not ruined.
Mrs"
Permission to ravish you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does that really work on women I can't recall ever saying that to a women "
It works for me - really is a turn on - but only if I know the person well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I'm going to put this out there....
I say things like ruined, destroyed & far, far worse when I whisper someones ear...
But like someone already said above, I think every woman I been with has out ruined me!!!
I think the things you say in play are to transport the mind to another place for a split second, the images you can place in someone's minds eye can be so wrong, yet you can't stop yourself being turned on. I think this conflict is what people are aiming for...
Just in text everything comes across as stupid, even "hello'"!!
I would actually agree with this. As a message on here from someone i don't know i just think "eurgh" but in the heat of the moment then who knows what will be said. I've surprised myself at times with things I've said or things someone else has said that i wouldn't normally consider to be a turn on.
Yeah I know that feeling...
Like you just want to put your hand over your mouth and stop it coming out!!
It's better if someone else puts their hand over your mouth
Now you're talking!!
Not with your hand over her mouth she isn't!
Ha! Well she's making some kind of noise!"
You'll have to do the talking |
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"Eugh!
Those who send those messages normally get told to go away and grow up, and then ignored.
Silly boys
And girls."
I have never had a 'I'm gonna ruin you' message from a girl, only from the boys |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Eugh!
Those who send those messages normally get told to go away and grow up, and then ignored.
Silly boys
And girls.
I have never had a 'I'm gonna ruin you' message from a girl, only from the boys "
I once had a message from a TV saying she wanted to fuck my arse until it bled!  ....that sounds like ruining to me! Understandably I declined the offer lol |
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"Eugh!
Those who send those messages normally get told to go away and grow up, and then ignored.
Silly boys
And girls.
I have never had a 'I'm gonna ruin you' message from a girl, only from the boys
I once had a message from a TV saying she wanted to fuck my arse until it bled! ....that sounds like ruining to me! Understandably I declined the offer lol"
Jesus, that's some serious stamina though...
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Eugh!
Those who send those messages normally get told to go away and grow up, and then ignored.
Silly boys
And girls.
I have never had a 'I'm gonna ruin you' message from a girl, only from the boys
I once had a message from a TV saying she wanted to fuck my arse until it bled! ....that sounds like ruining to me! Understandably I declined the offer lol
Jesus, that's some serious stamina though...
Haha"
Not really, given that I've never had more than an occasional woman's digit up there, it probably wouldn't take much to make it bleed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been ruined a lot of times; it takes a few days to recover. I ruined a young man once and the next day his brother told me I had broke his brother. It's just a turn of phrase,it doesn't bother me any more than the flowery phrases sent by the less masculine men I know. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"I ruined a doctor's arse once. He messaged me after to tell me and that it was my turn next. "
Good that you got your own back for all those men who have suffered the humiliation of prostate examinations at the gloved hand of a male doctor |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been ruined a lot of times; it takes a few days to recover. I ruined a young man once and the next day his brother told me I had broke his brother. It's just a turn of phrase,it doesn't bother me any more than the flowery phrases sent by the less masculine men I know. "
Sorry i assumed the OP was referring to messages from strangers out of the blue with content such as "I'll ruin you/your wife" etc. Without so much as a hi before hand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been ruined a lot of times; it takes a few days to recover. I ruined a young man once and the next day his brother told me I had broke his brother. It's just a turn of phrase,it doesn't bother me any more than the flowery phrases sent by the less masculine men I know.
Sorry i assumed the OP was referring to messages from strangers out of the blue with content such as "I'll ruin you/your wife" etc. Without so much as a hi before hand."
I did! Some interesting responses though for and against! Gotta love the forums!  |
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