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Oh so quiet!!! Oh so pissed off!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
Shame I don't meet your criteria |
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Happens  Just need to be careful about who you arrange things with, though even the people who seem legit are guilty of it on occasion. Their loss, eh!
I watched a few episodes of Jericho last year, seemed pretty good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
Dare I suggest that was their loss??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell me about it. 2 out of 3 Skype social thingies cancelled just this week. 
It's why we prefer to Skype than meet initially. At least I didn't pretty myself up too much.
I just shrug it off though. Not pissed, really.
-Courtney |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
I feel for you peach and sympathize..all us genuine folk on here have had it happen on occasion - still bloody annoying!!
If its any consolation I've had a weekend meet cancel on me as she's given herself a hernia at the gym...  ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tell me about it. 2 out of 3 Skype social thingies cancelled just this week.
It's why we prefer to Skype than meet initially. At least I didn't pretty myself up too much.
I just shrug it off though. Not pissed, really.
-Courtney"
Yeah true!
Just think of all the money, petrol, make-up, perfume, stockings etc I'll save! The list is endless!! Ah well - Roger's looking pretty hot lately!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Happens Just need to be careful about who you arrange things with, though even the people who seem legit are guilty of it on occasion. Their loss, eh!
I watched a few episodes of Jericho last year, seemed pretty good "
Didn't realise it had been on before? Looked good on the trailer! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
I feel for you peach and sympathize..all us genuine folk on here have had it happen on occasion - still bloody annoying!!
If its any consolation I've had a weekend meet cancel on me as she's given herself a hernia at the gym... ... "
Ouch!! You both have my sympathy Hun! Xx |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
I feel for you peach and sympathize..all us genuine folk on here have had it happen on occasion - still bloody annoying!!
If its any consolation I've had a weekend meet cancel on me as she's given herself a hernia at the gym... ...
Ouch!! You both have my sympathy Hun! Xx"
As and when she is recovered and we finally get it on, I'd better make sure I go easy on her  |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
I feel for you peach and sympathize..all us genuine folk on here have had it happen on occasion - still bloody annoying!!
If its any consolation I've had a weekend meet cancel on me as she's given herself a hernia at the gym... ... "
so those that haven't had it happen to them are not genuine? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
Perhaps scared you might knock um out after if they were rubbish in bed..... Looking at your photos... Round one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can hope you get better at spotting the timewasters but it's difficult, just par for the course on a site like this, quite what they get out of it is beyond me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Surely if your getting a huge number your the common denominator maybe look at your selection process?
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I was alluding to the fact that a huge number of people on the site do it (hence the not infrequent threads!) - not that I have a huge number of disappointments! Probably have at least my fair share though!
But yes - I've been here long enough to be cautious and have a plan b - gym, tv, wine and Roger! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell me about it. 2 out of 3 Skype social thingies cancelled just this week.
It's why we prefer to Skype than meet initially. At least I didn't pretty myself up too much.
I just shrug it off though. Not pissed, really.
-Courtney
Yeah true!
Just think of all the money, petrol, make-up, perfume, stockings etc I'll save! The list is endless!! Ah well - Roger's looking pretty hot lately! "
Lol...you could always arrange something with someone else?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't waste your night. Just text some previous meets or put up a meet today.
Trust me you will find someone.
Don't waste your only child free night."
Definitely...I know I'd love to be chosen by the delicious Peach |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
I feel for you peach and sympathize..all us genuine folk on here have had it happen on occasion - still bloody annoying!!
If its any consolation I've had a weekend meet cancel on me as she's given herself a hernia at the gym... ... "
Oh not that old chestnut,don't fall for it |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
I feel for you peach and sympathize..all us genuine folk on here have had it happen on occasion - still bloody annoying!!
If its any consolation I've had a weekend meet cancel on me as she's given herself a hernia at the gym... ...
Oh not that old chestnut,don't fall for it "
Yes...its the second time now...would you believe it??  |
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There's certinay beena rise in "internet banking" in last few years. Unfortunately, it's rhyming slang for chronic onanism as opposed to financial matters.
Damn you, left handed website enthusiasts! |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
Theres a lot of all mouth and no trousers on here .... hope u enjoyed your evening ..... sounds ideal to me .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand people get cold feet etc but they should just be honest, I would never arrange to meet them just not turn up or ignore someone  "
This is probably my biggest bugbear, I'd sooner be told, it's really not that difficult.
It might help if people who arenew or nervous lurked for a while to get a feel for the place and to get comfortable with the idea of playing, only a few seem to dive head first into arranging meets and then just going quiet, so frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was looking at our fab diary for 2015 and did a summary. Out of 11 invites/agreements to meet only 2 turned up.
All 11 were verified and we had spoken to all of them by phone as well as numerous messages exchanged.
None of the 9 no shows bothered to do the courteous thing and text us with an apology.
In spite of notification to Fab most of them are still members and are to this day arranging meets with other members.
Getting let down is a well known concern but the extent of it can be astonishing. No wonder we prefer club
meets now.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
Said this before - those who chat for ages tend to be the very same type who don't show for a meet .
Best advice is to establish enough from messages to get compatibility , then cease communicating until the day of the meet .
Have a back up in case of a cancellation .
The more they chat , the less they meet . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The standard advice to fellas would be 'unlucky pal, but suck it up and be more rigorous with your vetting'.
I always feel that is a bit disingenuous and blunt as they're people with feelings too - so I'm not going to say that in this case other than to say sorry to hear that OP, it's incredibly unfair and inconvenient and I hope your evening gets better and it that doesn't happen to you again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The standard advice to fellas would be 'unlucky pal, but suck it up and be more rigorous with your vetting'.
I always feel that is a bit disingenuous and blunt as they're people with feelings too - so I'm not going to say that in this case other than to say sorry to hear that OP, it's incredibly unfair and inconvenient and I hope your evening gets better and it that doesn't happen to you again. "
There is in fact no sure fired way of avoiding this kind of situation. That is a fact.
Yes it is possible to reduce the chances but they will never be avoided completely.
The best suggestion so far is to have a plan B in place. If not a Plan C and D.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I arrange a lunchtime social first...if they don't show I just have my usual coffee, no inconvenience to me.
My freetime is limited so for my hotel meets I always have a plan B, C and D, but I haven't needed them yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is why I arrange a lunchtime social first...if they don't show I just have my usual coffee, no inconvenience to me.
My freetime is limited so for my hotel meets I always have a plan B, C and D, but I haven't needed them yet "
And no surprise delicious Bella... You'd have to be stupid to stand you up...I know I wouldn't, alas I'm outside your age range...so won't get the chance to prove it...
The surprise is that someone did it to our lovely Peach... Muppet!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The standard advice to fellas would be 'unlucky pal, but suck it up and be more rigorous with your vetting'.
I always feel that is a bit disingenuous and blunt as they're people with feelings too - so I'm not going to say that in this case other than to say sorry to hear that OP, it's incredibly unfair and inconvenient and I hope your evening gets better and it that doesn't happen to you again.
There is in fact no sure fired way of avoiding this kind of situation. That is a fact.
Yes it is possible to reduce the chances but they will never be avoided completely.
The best suggestion so far is to have a plan B in place. If not a Plan C and D.
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Indeed! It's actually quite some time since I've had a night on my own sans kids! I'm sure once I've de-stressed at the gym and nestled in front of the TV with a glass of wine I'll be my usual happy self! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The standard advice to fellas would be 'unlucky pal, but suck it up and be more rigorous with your vetting'.
I always feel that is a bit disingenuous and blunt as they're people with feelings too - so I'm not going to say that in this case other than to say sorry to hear that OP, it's incredibly unfair and inconvenient and I hope your evening gets better and it that doesn't happen to you again.
There is in fact no sure fired way of avoiding this kind of situation. That is a fact.
Yes it is possible to reduce the chances but they will never be avoided completely.
The best suggestion so far is to have a plan B in place. If not a Plan C and D.
Indeed! It's actually quite some time since I've had a night on my own sans kids! I'm sure once I've de-stressed at the gym and nestled in front of the TV with a glass of wine I'll be my usual happy self! "
You could always de-stress with me lol Peach |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
Said this before - those who chat for ages tend to be the very same type who don't show for a meet .
Best advice is to establish enough from messages to get compatibility , then cease communicating until the day of the meet .
Have a back up in case of a cancellation .
The more they chat , the less they meet ."
You could have a point there guys - I'll ponder that one!
Ps - I have a back-up! Roger rabbit! He doesn't expect me to shave, put make-up on or don lingerie - and I don't have to tell him how amazing he is every five minutes!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
 whilst totally sympathise we with as is so frustrating - I'm going to say "join the club" as it's pretty well parr for the course - onwards and upwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
Omg peach!! How the fuck do they chicken out of meeting YOU!!! Can this grandad come round and substitute?!! Lol. I'll even let you do your Robert Palmer for me! xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
whilst totally sympathise we with as is so frustrating - I'm going to say "join the club" as it's pretty well parr for the course - onwards and upwards "
Exactly Hun - which is why I didn't slag single guys off! Happens to many of us at some point!
Bella Donna may well have a valid point - arrange a social every time - but with my limited free time that halves my 'active' meets! Roger'll be running away from home at this rate - poor overworked bunny!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
whilst totally sympathise we with as is so frustrating - I'm going to say "join the club" as it's pretty well parr for the course - onwards and upwards
Exactly Hun - which is why I didn't slag single guys off! Happens to many of us at some point!
Bella Donna may well have a valid point - arrange a social every time - but with my limited free time that halves my 'active' meets! Roger'll be running away from home at this rate - poor overworked bunny!! "
Poor bunny lol...I'm on my way to save him tonight lol...let him rest and save his strength lol |
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By *w.markMan
over a year ago
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You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
You have one of the most imaginative profiles in our area. Someone has bad a big mistake.
Never mind go and work off enough calories to make room for the chiant. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time."
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice."
That's what I've always thought when people say this.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice.
That's what I've always thought when people say this.
-Courtney"
Me too... |
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice."
You may misunderstand ....
There are horses for courses , and if the fish and chip shop is closed , a pizza from round the corner would be just as nice .
First come first served and all that .
You arrange a meet , and just in case he doesn't show up , there's nothing wrong with having a good time with plan b , which will be just as good as plan a .
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice.
You may misunderstand ....
There are horses for courses , and if the fish and chip shop is closed , a pizza from round the corner would be just as nice .
First come first served and all that .
You arrange a meet , and just in case he doesn't show up , there's nothing wrong with having a good time with plan b , which will be just as good as plan a .
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What do you tell plan B if plan A does show up??! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice.
You may misunderstand ....
There are horses for courses , and if the fish and chip shop is closed , a pizza from round the corner would be just as nice .
First come first served and all that .
You arrange a meet , and just in case he doesn't show up , there's nothing wrong with having a good time with plan b , which will be just as good as plan a .
What do you tell plan B if plan A does show up??!"
I was thinking that! Don't think I could do it tbh as I'd hate to know I was someone's plan b!
Happily a friend has offered to 'come and watch TV with me!' |
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice.
You may misunderstand ....
There are horses for courses , and if the fish and chip shop is closed , a pizza from round the corner would be just as nice .
First come first served and all that .
You arrange a meet , and just in case he doesn't show up , there's nothing wrong with having a good time with plan b , which will be just as good as plan a .
What do you tell plan B if plan A does show up??!"
It depends how you play it .
We tend to say to plan b , we may be able to make it , but can't be sure till later . Usually saying its down to whether the babysitter shows up .
Now everyone will know 
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
I would never do this. I can imagine how I'd feel if some guy told me I was his back up plan. Not very nice.
You may misunderstand ....
There are horses for courses , and if the fish and chip shop is closed , a pizza from round the corner would be just as nice .
First come first served and all that .
You arrange a meet , and just in case he doesn't show up , there's nothing wrong with having a good time with plan b , which will be just as good as plan a .
What do you tell plan B if plan A does show up??!
I was thinking that! Don't think I could do it tbh as I'd hate to know I was someone's plan b!
Happily a friend has offered to 'come and watch TV with me!' "
Good for you. Now your night is not wasted |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Awwww gutted for you hun I know how it is hard to have kid free nights lol so when I don't have mine I go the clubs with my fb get to meet people tht way x |
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There's always another day...and plenty to choose from. Guess too much choice can dilute or cloud the selection. I had that happen last week...took about 5 weeks of chatting. Now have to go through the whole process again....will find one though. It can feel a bit like the life of a flying ant... 9 months underground preparing for about 5hrs of flight if you're lucky. |
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over a year ago
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
You have one of the most imaginative profiles in our area. Someone has bad a big mistake.
Never mind go and work off enough calories to make room for the chiant. "
There are a few who do that unashamedly on here...read some of the forums. I'm sure there's alot more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
What....We could have gone on the piss!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
You have one of the most imaginative profiles in our area. Someone has bad a big mistake.
Never mind go and work off enough calories to make room for the chiant. "
I've offered to be a reserve meet. Knowing that stuff happens in everyone's lives means that we have to accept that we can't always do what we've planned.
Rather than waste an opportunity, why not have a backup?
We should be helping our fab friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
You have one of the most imaginative profiles in our area. Someone has bad a big mistake.
Never mind go and work off enough calories to make room for the chiant.
I've offered to be a reserve meet. Knowing that stuff happens in everyone's lives means that we have to accept that we can't always do what we've planned.
Rather than waste an opportunity, why not have a backup?
We should be helping our fab friends "
I should add that I don't have an ego that would be affected by someone I know meeting someone else. That's not always the case on here, even though it should be. |
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over a year ago
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"You could line up a reserve meet, telling them that you have a provisional meeting in place but if that were to fall through to be on stand by. That way you arn't misleading anyone and you get the best from your limited time.
You have one of the most imaginative profiles in our area. Someone has bad a big mistake.
Never mind go and work off enough calories to make room for the chiant.
I've offered to be a reserve meet. Knowing that stuff happens in everyone's lives means that we have to accept that we can't always do what we've planned.
Rather than waste an opportunity, why not have a backup?
We should be helping our fab friends "
I tried...I wanted to be Peach's backup plan, but alas, spurned and ignored at every turn... *sob* |
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over a year ago
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"Rather than waste an opportunity, why not have a backup?
We should be helping our fab friends
I tried...I wanted to be Peach's backup plan, but alas, spurned and ignored at every turn... *sob*"
If it helps Dan, I'd be your wingman |
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over a year ago
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"I had a regular friend who actually said that he would quite happily be my plan b should plan a fall through. That is a great fab friend to have"
I will add that i did also meet him as a plan a....in fact i don't think i ever had to rely on him as plan b |
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over a year ago
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Yep, happens to the best of us. Was one of the reasons i needed a breather off the site. Thought many I spoke to were genuinely interested in meeting. But, when it came to it - all they did was mess me around.
..is always good to have something else to do if plans go a bit pear shaped |
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over a year ago
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"I had a regular friend who actually said that he would quite happily be my plan b should plan a fall through. That is a great fab friend to have"
I wonder if men are generally more comfortable being a Plan B than women are..... |
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"I had a regular friend who actually said that he would quite happily be my plan b should plan a fall through. That is a great fab friend to have
I wonder if men are generally more comfortable being a Plan B than women are....."
I think in this instance because i don't get much free time he wanted to be my go to guy if i suddenly found myself available. I often arrange meets a month or so in advance. |
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over a year ago
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"I had a regular friend who actually said that he would quite happily be my plan b should plan a fall through. That is a great fab friend to have
I wonder if men are generally more comfortable being a Plan B than women are....."
I think they are.
To be honest, if it is someone I meet regularly, I wouldn't mind being their plan B either (time permitting for me to get ready and such). But it would have to be for someone I've met a few times before.
-Courtney |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I had a regular friend who actually said that he would quite happily be my plan b should plan a fall through. That is a great fab friend to have
I wonder if men are generally more comfortable being a Plan B than women are....."
Anyone want to try it with someone they've not met before?
As said, I think regular friends would be fine (although my ex FB used to get pissy if I wasn't available when he was), but I wouldn't do it to a guy I'd not met before. |
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over a year ago
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"I was looking at our fab diary for 2015 and did a summary. Out of 11 invites/agreements to meet only 2 turned up.
All 11 were verified and we had spoken to all of them by phone as well as numerous messages exchanged.
None of the 9 no shows bothered to do the courteous thing and text us with an apology.
In spite of notification to Fab most of them are still members and are to this day arranging meets with other members.
Getting let down is a well known concern but the extent of it can be astonishing. No wonder we prefer club
meets now.
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Totally agree, with Club meets you can still socialise, have a good evening and enjoy making yourself look and feel good.
After many a phone chat etc, ive had nine no shows in the last 3 months...so clubs are all the way forward for me now xx |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
It's a pain but it happens us all,I had a cancellation recently the peoplke "couldn't make it after all" however their new verification the following day did suggest otherwise. We move on and we keep on smiling. |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
It's a pain but it happens us all,I had a cancellation recently the peoplke "couldn't make it after all" however their new verification the following day did suggest otherwise. We move on and we keep on smiling."
We do! I'm smiling watching mock the week - safe in the knowledge that the friend who kindly filled in (! ) left about four minutes before my oldest daughter got home from the pub! |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
It's a pain but it happens us all,I had a cancellation recently the peoplke "couldn't make it after all" however their new verification the following day did suggest otherwise. We move on and we keep on smiling.
We do! I'm smiling watching mock the week - safe in the knowledge that the friend who kindly filled in (! ) left about four minutes before my oldest daughter got home from the pub! "
Then may I suggest that fate stepped in and you are all the better for it |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
It's a pain but it happens us all,I had a cancellation recently the peoplke "couldn't make it after all" however their new verification the following day did suggest otherwise. We move on and we keep on smiling.
We do! I'm smiling watching mock the week - safe in the knowledge that the friend who kindly filled in (! ) left about four minutes before my oldest daughter got home from the pub! Then may I suggest that fate stepped in and you are all the better for it "
Well my rude bits are certainly happier! |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
It's a pain but it happens us all,I had a cancellation recently the peoplke "couldn't make it after all" however their new verification the following day did suggest otherwise. We move on and we keep on smiling.
We do! I'm smiling watching mock the week - safe in the knowledge that the friend who kindly filled in (! ) left about four minutes before my oldest daughter got home from the pub! Then may I suggest that fate stepped in and you are all the better for it
Well my rude bits are certainly happier! "
Lucky you
Glad your friend filled the gap lol |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
It's a pain but it happens us all,I had a cancellation recently the peoplke "couldn't make it after all" however their new verification the following day did suggest otherwise. We move on and we keep on smiling.
We do! I'm smiling watching mock the week - safe in the knowledge that the friend who kindly filled in (! ) left about four minutes before my oldest daughter got home from the pub! Then may I suggest that fate stepped in and you are all the better for it
Well my rude bits are certainly happier! "
not a part of you rude,all quite demure and pretty I am sure. |
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over a year ago
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet. "
He wasn't 'plan b' lovely - simply someone I've met before who contacted me when he saw my status about being let down! Xx |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
He wasn't 'plan b' lovely - simply someone I've met before who contacted me when he saw my status about being let down! Xx"
thank fuck the alphabet goes to z or I'd never get any hahaha |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
He wasn't 'plan b' lovely - simply someone I've met before who contacted me when he saw my status about being let down! Xx
thank fuck the alphabet goes to z or I'd never get any hahaha"
Aw! You look nice! are there many swingers in Ireland though? X |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
He wasn't 'plan b' lovely - simply someone I've met before who contacted me when he saw my status about being let down! Xx"
I wasn't referring to you, more to posters who specifically arrange a back up.... |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
He wasn't 'plan b' lovely - simply someone I've met before who contacted me when he saw my status about being let down! Xx
I wasn't referring to you, more to posters who specifically arrange a back up...."
Ah - ok! Must admit I wouldn't be comfortable with that! X |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
I know it is little consolation but he probably was 'intimidated' with your photographs or he wasn't quite the person he had made himself out to be
The (further) bad news is that the gym session has toned you up even more making you even more unattainable for some . .
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
He wasn't 'plan b' lovely - simply someone I've met before who contacted me when he saw my status about being let down! Xx
thank fuck the alphabet goes to z or I'd never get any hahaha
Aw! You look nice! are there many swingers in Ireland though? X"
Theres one at least who I wanna meet... |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet. "
Well that's what I would have thought generally ~ but after mentioning the reason in passing why I didn't go to a party last year a few guys said 'you should have called me'.... |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
Well that's what I would have thought generally ~ but after mentioning the reason in passing why I didn't go to a party last year a few guys said 'you should have called me'...."
I certainly wouldn't feel like I was second best (or anything else negative). We all have loads of stuff going on in our lives and we all know lots of people. Having a backup plan seems sensible. |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
Well that's what I would have thought generally ~ but after mentioning the reason in passing why I didn't go to a party last year a few guys said 'you should have called me'....
I certainly wouldn't feel like I was second best (or anything else negative). We all have loads of stuff going on in our lives and we all know lots of people. Having a backup plan seems sensible. "
I think that only works if it's someone you've met before / regularly. On a first meet? Any hint I was some kind of back up plan and there would never be a meet at all that night or ever. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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It's a shame when this happens. I've had quite a in mber if people "forget" that they arranged to meet also, but then again I've probably heard every conceivable excuse (I mean.. reason) under the sun. Most of which a guy would not get away with, just my experience.
Including this one: "I forgot it was the day of my mom's cancer appointment, didn't know why I had that day off in my diary as blank" for a meet that had been arranged a month in advance and confirmed right up to the day before. |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
Well that's what I would have thought generally ~ but after mentioning the reason in passing why I didn't go to a party last year a few guys said 'you should have called me'....
I certainly wouldn't feel like I was second best (or anything else negative). We all have loads of stuff going on in our lives and we all know lots of people. Having a backup plan seems sensible. "
Exactly this .
Thereare some fragile egos on here |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
He wasn't 'plan b' lovely - simply someone I've met before who contacted me when he saw my status about being let down! Xx
thank fuck the alphabet goes to z or I'd never get any hahaha
Aw! You look nice! are there many swingers in Ireland though? X"
There are a few hun perhaps you could pop over if you had exhausted plans A-Z I could be A+1 |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
Well that's what I would have thought generally ~ but after mentioning the reason in passing why I didn't go to a party last year a few guys said 'you should have called me'....
I certainly wouldn't feel like I was second best (or anything else negative). We all have loads of stuff going on in our lives and we all know lots of people. Having a backup plan seems sensible.
Exactly this .
Thereare some fragile egos on here "
I guess I have a fragile ego, then.
But personally, it's not about feeling like "second best." It has more to do with wanting the build up and excitement for a meet. Wanting to get ready (which takes me ages) knowing I'm going to be meeting someone I've been wanting to meet.
I think it's that what I'm looking for in a meet wouldn't be conducive to "hey, my plan A cancelled, wanna hop over then?" If it was someone I meet regularly then all of that will already be present so I'd be more apt to be a plan B for someone. But for a regular meet? It's not really what me and my ego are after.
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!! "
I'm glad I don't plan my whole week around fab |
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"I think if I had the notion that I was someones plan B, they would be told where they could stick their meet.
Well that's what I would have thought generally ~ but after mentioning the reason in passing why I didn't go to a party last year a few guys said 'you should have called me'....
I certainly wouldn't feel like I was second best (or anything else negative). We all have loads of stuff going on in our lives and we all know lots of people. Having a backup plan seems sensible.
I think that only works if it's someone you've met before / regularly. On a first meet? Any hint I was some kind of back up plan and there would never be a meet at all that night or ever."
I think there are two camps on this....I'm on this camp firmly. But the I wouldn't fuck anything that can breath. |
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"Very fed up with the fucking HUGE number of people (women and couples too I'm sure - this isn't a rant against single males!) who chat to you for ages, arrange to meet and then - on the day - go ooooooooh soooo quiet!
My only child-free evening for over a week ballsed up!
Ah well - gym, TV (new series -Jericho), a glass of wine and a rabbit and porn session for me! At least it's a cheap night I guess!!
I'm glad I don't plan my whole week around fab "
Hmmmm! I plan my week around my children actually - like any good mum! Yep - on my child-free time I occasionally like to meet very nice men for mind-blowing sex - which is the main reason I'm on fab! So why are you on here lovely? - other than to attempt to antagonise - which you did so beautifully on the bukkake bride thread? |
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