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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
I'm getting to that stage now , yet again where I'm seriously thinking that my expectations are too high
I've had a couple of meets recently that have been very much less than satisfactory
One guy wouldn't even buy condoms....now blocked
One guy didn't have the stamina he had bragged about
Now I'm reverting back to MOB
Mains Operated Boyfriend , gone are the BOB days.
Should I know restart going to clubs then at least there's a chance that someone rocks my world, even if it is only for an hour or two.? |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I feel like this occasionally to. It's very disappointing investing a bit of time in someone to actually meet them and think 'oh'. I like to get my obligatory social out of the way quickly otherwise it's even worse!!!!
But every now and then a diamond comes along and all is good in fabland again 
Patience is the key.....sorry Shag  |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them "
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
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"I find generally the ones that brag are shit in bed, so I now avoid them,I've not had a dis-satisfactory meet since "
This, any form of bragging whether it be how good they are in bed or how big there cock is, instant turn off for me.
Also find generally (but not all) the adonis types are selfish in bed to |
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over a year ago
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them "
I always have my own, but if a guy can't be bothered to also bring his own then he's out the door. |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
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I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway "
Obviously we are going to agree to disagree on this one, that's why I love the forums
My pin t is that if someone advertises the fact that they on,y have sex and knew they were having a meet, why would they say they had none and then refuse to buy any.Yes I had a couple of my own, but wanted to see if he would do the right thing |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I always have my own, but if a guy can't be bothered to also bring his own then he's out the door."
Thank you...my point entirely !! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway "
Me neither. I'm not fussy who brings the condoms, as long as they are there. Also prefer using mine as I am latex-intolerant.
To respond to the OP, give yourself a break. Browse the site for the men who appeal to you. Chat to lots, whittle down the choices, then meet them socially. You will know from that whether you'll get on. You can also out the braggers and bullshitters.
getting naked and having sex with someone is a big deal. Don't just do it with someone because they were the first to offer. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway
Obviously we are going to agree to disagree on this one, that's why I love the forums
My pin t is that if someone advertises the fact that they on,y have sex and knew they were having a meet, why would they say they had none and then refuse to buy any.Yes I had a couple of my own, but wanted to see if he would do the right thing"
Put it on your profile, and make sure you mention it in messages. This isn't some kind of game that men have to play to win or lose. Its supposed to be fun. |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway
Obviously we are going to agree to disagree on this one, that's why I love the forums
My pin t is that if someone advertises the fact that they on,y have sex and knew they were having a meet, why would they say they had none and then refuse to buy any.Yes I had a couple of my own, but wanted to see if he would do the right thing"
That's fair enough of a point, you're taking responsibility for your sexual health so you want a show of faith he is too. But you were questioning if you expectations/standards are too high and there's an argument that they could be if you're going to make such a strong principle over the issue they are by some other people's standards, since some would take a more relaxed approach |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me neither. I'm not fussy who brings the condoms, as long as they are there. Also prefer using mine as I am latex-intolerant."
If a guy turns up without condoms my assumption is that he's doing it because sometimes women will go 'oh go on then... I'll have bareback... just this once'. He's trying it on and seeing if he gets lucky.
I don't want to play with someone like that. |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway
Obviously we are going to agree to disagree on this one, that's why I love the forums
My pin t is that if someone advertises the fact that they on,y have sex and knew they were having a meet, why would they say they had none and then refuse to buy any.Yes I had a couple of my own, but wanted to see if he would do the right thing
That's fair enough of a point, you're taking responsibility for your sexual health so you want a show of faith he is too. But you were questioning if you expectations/standards are too high and there's an argument that they could be if you're going to make such a strong principle over the issue they are by some other people's standards, since some would take a more relaxed approach "
*that are not they are |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Me neither. I'm not fussy who brings the condoms, as long as they are there. Also prefer using mine as I am latex-intolerant.
If a guy turns up without condoms my assumption is that he's doing it because sometimes women will go 'oh go on then... I'll have bareback... just this once'. He's trying it on and seeing if he gets lucky.
I don't want to play with someone like that."
I may be less cynical than you (or more desperate).
To be honest, I sort out the condoms with the guys in advance. If condom usage intention is so important then surely it should have come up before? If the guy says he'll bring them then doesn't then yes, I would be peeved. |
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Me neither. I'm not fussy who brings the condoms, as long as they are there. Also prefer using mine as I am latex-intolerant.
If a guy turns up without condoms my assumption is that he's doing it because sometimes women will go 'oh go on then... I'll have bareback... just this once'. He's trying it on and seeing if he gets lucky.
I don't want to play with someone like that.
I may be less cynical than you (or more desperate).
To be honest, I sort out the condoms with the guys in advance. If condom usage intention is so important then surely it should have come up before? If the guy says he'll bring them then doesn't then yes, I would be peeved."
This is my approach it's on my profile and discussed prior to the meet to save any confusion if then he turns up to try and play bare he's out of the door |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
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If you had your own what you moaning about , cause to me it sounds like your looking for excuses, your the one insisting on using condoms which is fair enough, you had them ready so what's the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that your meets have not been up to expectations, personally I never meet expecting anything other than a good time and should anything else arise then great...I've never experienced a club so I cannot advise you there although it is on my 2016 list of things to do  |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
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Me neither. I'm not fussy who brings the condoms, as long as they are there. Also prefer using mine as I am latex-intolerant.
If a guy turns up without condoms my assumption is that he's doing it because sometimes women will go 'oh go on then... I'll have bareback... just this once'. He's trying it on and seeing if he gets lucky.
I don't want to play with someone like that.
I may be less cynical than you (or more desperate).
To be honest, I sort out the condoms with the guys in advance. If condom usage intention is so important then surely it should have come up before? If the guy says he'll bring them then doesn't then yes, I would be peeved.
This is my approach it's on my profile and discussed prior to the meet to save any confusion if then he turns up to try and play bare he's out of the door "
I had said that I knew I had two left, but suggested he brought some too
He didn't .....I drew my own conclusion |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
If you had your own what you moaning about , cause to me it sounds like your looking for excuses, your the one insisting on using condoms which is fair enough, you had them ready so what's the problem."
It's not a moan , but looking to see what other people thought as you can see by my previous answers to comments |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway
Me neither. I'm not fussy who brings the condoms, as long as they are there. Also prefer using mine as I am latex-intolerant.
To respond to the OP, give yourself a break. Browse the site for the men who appeal to you. Chat to lots, whittle down the choices, then meet them socially. You will know from that whether you'll get on. You can also out the braggers and bullshitters.
getting naked and having sex with someone is a big deal. Don't just do it with someone because they were the first to offer."
Wise words.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Me neither. I'm not fussy who brings the condoms, as long as they are there. Also prefer using mine as I am latex-intolerant.
If a guy turns up without condoms my assumption is that he's doing it because sometimes women will go 'oh go on then... I'll have bareback... just this once'. He's trying it on and seeing if he gets lucky.
I don't want to play with someone like that.
I may be less cynical than you (or more desperate).
To be honest, I sort out the condoms with the guys in advance. If condom usage intention is so important then surely it should have come up before? If the guy says he'll bring them then doesn't then yes, I would be peeved.
This is my approach it's on my profile and discussed prior to the meet to save any confusion if then he turns up to try and play bare he's out of the door
I had said that I knew I had two left, but suggested he brought some too
He didn't .....I drew my own conclusion "
What did you do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find generally the ones that brag are shit in bed, so I now avoid them,I've not had a dis-satisfactory meet since "
First rule of customer satisfaction;
"Under promise and over deliver." Not the other way round... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My problem has always been that I see someone I like the look of, meet them straight away to confirm they are the person in the pictures and that I fancy them and then arrange to meet properly. I don't converse with them very much, 9 times out of 10 I don't want to see them again to arrange a proper meet but recently I did and it was shit. He had a smaller penis than I like and I couldn't physically bring myself to do anything with him. Had I actually liked this guy rather than it being a cold meet maybe I would have enjoyed it I dunno.
What I'm saying is sometimes our minds need to be stimulated first and some sort of attraction built up before we can do anything and enjoy a guy. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
Nice "
He may not have put it as eloquently as you wished but he essentially had a point. If the OP is having such bad luck using her current tactics, and criteria perhaps it's time for a change |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm getting to that stage now , yet again where I'm seriously thinking that my expectations are too high
I've had a couple of meets recently that have been very much less than satisfactory
One guy wouldn't even buy condoms....now blocked
One guy didn't have the stamina he had bragged about
Now I'm reverting back to MOB
Mains Operated Boyfriend , gone are the BOB days.
Should I know restart going to clubs then at least there's a chance that someone rocks my world, even if it is only for an hour or two.?"
I think lot of people feel like this from time to time. Maybe keep your expectations the same, aswell as restart going to clubs, rather than just one or the other?
Wouldn't buy condoms, when you can get them free from a family planning clinic if you so desire?!  . DUDE!
Empty pots make the most noise Mr Bragger
MOB - Thanks for the laugh there OP. Never heard that saying before :-d 
Hope the new year brings you more satisfaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had said that I knew I had two left, but suggested he brought some too
He didn't .....I drew my own conclusion "
Maybe he thought two was plenty? Some men aren't huge repeaters and do have a lot of stamina |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had said that I knew I had two left, but suggested he brought some too
He didn't .....I drew my own conclusion
Maybe he thought two was plenty? Some men aren't huge repeaters and do have a lot of stamina "
Fair point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hard to find a guy that is exactly what it says on the tin...very hard....keep at it, clubs are good but I find going with a few girlfriends tends to take the pressure off...if no one takes your fancy then you can still have a good laugh with the girls, but I think you wouldn't have a problem meeting at a club as the standards are usually good.....& if I look as good as you at 61 then I will be one happy gal x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you..."
Mmmmm...helpful 
Keep your standards high and when you do meet it'll be more what you're looking for and more likely you'll enjoy. I've only met 2 I've been satisfied with...others have been wanting. I just stay with those two...we're satisfied atm. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you..."
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've not had a really shit meet,only a couple where too much alcohol spoilt it for me. I make my choices carefully and make the sex good. I don't meet men who profess to being a stud and all that crap. The quiet ones are the best. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that! "
Now now don't get personal the police are about lol. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
Now now don't get personal the police are about lol."
I know, sorry, tried to hold my tongue but my fingers have a mind of their own at times ...my bad...sending mind hugs to all |
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"I find generally the ones that brag are shit in bed, so I now avoid them,I've not had a dis-satisfactory meet since "
as my old boss always used to say in a good yorkshire accent " them as can do! and them as cant brag about it!" lol   |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
Now now don't get personal the police are about lol.
I know, sorry, tried to hold my tongue but my fingers have a mind of their own at times ...my bad...sending mind hugs to all "
But him saying that the problem is with the op, meaning that if she keeps encountering problems then it's time to change tact, is that as bad as the personal thing you said?
Yes I am being a white knight and yes I am expecting to be repaid with sex. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that! "
I have no idea who you are.
Its not an opinion its a simple fact.
Its applicable to nearly everything too.
One of her meets she seemingly cancled because she had 2 condoms and the guy said he didnt have time to pick some up. She can site safe sex as much as wants as to the reason but it was simply poor planning on both thier parts
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
I have no idea who you are.
Its not an opinion its a simple fact.
Its applicable to nearly everything too.
One of her meets she seemingly cancled because she had 2 condoms and the guy said he didnt have time to pick some up. She can site safe sex as much as wants as to the reason but it was simply poor planning on both thier parts
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Well seen as how you crashed on my hotel room floor, borrowed my comfort blanket to keep you warm (which had to be washed twice as it had a boy smell to it) as my bestie had met you that night & you needed a place to get your head down ...you have a short memory! Then you bloody snored all night!!!!! Ring any bells ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
I have no idea who you are.
Its not an opinion its a simple fact.
Its applicable to nearly everything too.
One of her meets she seemingly cancled because she had 2 condoms and the guy said he didnt have time to pick some up. She can site safe sex as much as wants as to the reason but it was simply poor planning on both thier parts
Well seen as how you crashed on my hotel room floor, borrowed my comfort blanket to keep you warm (which had to be washed twice as it had a boy smell to it) as my bestie had met you that night & you needed a place to get your head down ...you have a short memory! Then you bloody snored all night!!!!! Ring any bells ! "
Ahh that was you, peach told me it was her hotel room |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
I have no idea who you are.
Its not an opinion its a simple fact.
Its applicable to nearly everything too.
One of her meets she seemingly cancled because she had 2 condoms and the guy said he didnt have time to pick some up. She can site safe sex as much as wants as to the reason but it was simply poor planning on both thier parts
Well seen as how you crashed on my hotel room floor, borrowed my comfort blanket to keep you warm (which had to be washed twice as it had a boy smell to it) as my bestie had met you that night & you needed a place to get your head down ...you have a short memory! Then you bloody snored all night!!!!! Ring any bells !
Ahh that was you, peach told me it was her hotel room "
Was ours ....effectively mine too! |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
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Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm getting to that stage now , yet again where I'm seriously thinking that my expectations are too high
I've had a couple of meets recently that have been very much less than satisfactory
One guy wouldn't even buy condoms....now blocked
One guy didn't have the stamina he had bragged about
Now I'm reverting back to MOB
Mains Operated Boyfriend , gone are the BOB days.
Should I know restart going to clubs then at least there's a chance that someone rocks my world, even if it is only for an hour or two.?"
Probably a good idea to go back to clubs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"most guys are full of hot air about what theyre gonna do ..if they even show up .i take it all with a pinch of salt and have more fun going to clubs .least i get to meet real people there "
I don't think it's just guts tbvh. I've found very few women can hold a good coversation even though they say they require that in their profile. Too much bullshit from every group on here if we're honest. It's just the nature of fab and the way it's designed and used by everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility "
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing. |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing."
If you're smart enough to prepare efficiently you offer a variety of sizes |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
Now now don't get personal the police are about lol.
I know, sorry, tried to hold my tongue but my fingers have a mind of their own at times ...my bad...sending mind hugs to all
But him saying that the problem is with the op, meaning that if she keeps encountering problems then it's time to change tact, is that as bad as the personal thing you said?
Yes I am being a white knight and yes I am expecting to be repaid with sex. "
Hear hear! |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing."
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing.
Ive usually found the size fits them without a problem "
Embarrassing if it splits or cums off...especially when your looking in the face of a doctor. Just take your own guys. End of story. |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing.
Ive usually found the size fits them without a problem
Embarrassing if it splits or cums off...especially when your looking in the face of a doctor. Just take your own guys. End of story."
So you would only go to the GUM to be checked if the condom splits or if exposed to cum? Playing safe isn't 100% safe, it's only safer |
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"most guys are full of hot air about what theyre gonna do ..if they even show up .i take it all with a pinch of salt and have more fun going to clubs .least i get to meet real people there
I don't think it's just guts tbvh. I've found very few women can hold a good coversation even though they say they require that in their profile. Too much bullshit from every group on here if we're honest. It's just the nature of fab and the way it's designed and used by everyone."
Erm.. this lady (moi) is able to hold a conversation - incidentally I was in NI not so long ago... |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing.
Ive usually found the size fits them without a problem
Embarrassing if it splits or cums off...especially when your looking in the face of a doctor. Just take your own guys. End of story."
Not really?
"So why are you here today, condom split last night and it with a risky partner and I'd like to have the PEP treatments and book in for tests in a few weeks time please"
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing.
Ive usually found the size fits them without a problem
Embarrassing if it splits or cums off...especially when your looking in the face of a doctor. Just take your own guys. End of story.
Not really?
"So why are you here today, condom split last night and it with a risky partner and I'd like to have the PEP treatments and book in for tests in a few weeks time please"
Whats there to be embarrassed about"
nothing embarrassing at all it would t be the first time they'd heard it or will it be the last |
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I have a look and then maybe send a message to one or two a week that are exceptional
I have found that it's just too much aggro . It's easy to say anything to get laid in messages and how wonderful everything is with them
I feel like saying . Hey get a job writing mills and boon or try writing a book ,
I think those that are good on the net are not good in real life |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
I have no idea who you are.
Its not an opinion its a simple fact.
Its applicable to nearly everything too.
One of her meets she seemingly cancled because she had 2 condoms and the guy said he didnt have time to pick some up. She can site safe sex as much as wants as to the reason but it was simply poor planning on both thier parts
Well seen as how you crashed on my hotel room floor, borrowed my comfort blanket to keep you warm (which had to be washed twice as it had a boy smell to it) as my bestie had met you that night & you needed a place to get your head down ...you have a short memory! Then you bloody snored all night!!!!! Ring any bells ! "
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Most men don't even read profile to see what a female or couple are about, I've (mrs) have found that finding those who actually show up or don't move the goal posts just before meets is extremely hard |
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"Most men don't even read profile to see what a female or couple are about, I've (mrs) have found that finding those who actually show up or don't move the goal posts just before meets is extremely hard"
They only me the goal posts if you allow them to |
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"Never allow them to usually ends in another no show"
So they tried to but weren't succesful and then decided you weren't worth the bother because they weren't going to get their way. Consider the onshore to be a blessing |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway
Obviously we are going to agree to disagree on this one, that's why I love the forums
My pin t is that if someone advertises the fact that they on,y have sex and knew they were having a meet, why would they say they had none and then refuse to buy any.Yes I had a couple of my own, but wanted to see if he would do the right thing"
The responsibility lies with both BUT a guy knows what size and make suits them. |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing.
If you're smart enough to prepare efficiently you offer a variety of sizes"
Yeah for the cocks I like I'd tell them my bin bags are in the cupboard under the sink. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that! "
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story! |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!"
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ? |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing.
Ive usually found the size fits them without a problem
Embarrassing if it splits or cums off...especially when your looking in the face of a doctor. Just take your own guys. End of story."
Thank you.
And isn't it the men's barbers who coined the phrase....something for the weekend sir? |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?"
But you had condoms....there was no evading |
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Poulton Le Fylde |
"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?
But you had condoms....there was no evading"
I had two, but didn't know if they would suit him , size or whatever, so I asked him to bring some of his own also |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?"
I don't care how you act in reality but here in the forum you should be careful how you word things - or get time out. |
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I still remember the advice I was given by quite a few when I first joined and was trying to get a coffee meet. Get on the forums and get known. I tried and all that it achieved was getting sagged go by those with chips all over their shoulders. What I learnt was ... avoid most on the forums....their true colours come out all too quuckly. It's a bitching outlet and it takes few prisoners. But it's a giggle. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?
But you had condoms....there was no evading
I had two, but didn't know if they would suit him , size or whatever, so I asked him to bring some of his own also "
Statistically speaking unless you were meeting a man with a micro penis (i assume you've seen his cock in pictures at least) you did know perfectly well they'd fit him. |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?
I don't care how you act in reality but here in the forum you should be careful how you word things - or get time out."
I've been put on naughty step twice for defending those who had been bad mouthed. Even got a sarcastic reply back when I asked why I'd been put there when I'd actually stood up against the bad mouthing. |
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". What I learnt was ... avoid most on the forums....their true colours come out all too quuckly. It's a bitching outlet"
He said without a trace of irony |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Hard to find a guy that is exactly what it says on the tin...very hard....keep at it, clubs are good but I find going with a few girlfriends tends to take the pressure off...if no one takes your fancy then you can still have a good laugh with the girls, but I think you wouldn't have a problem meeting at a club as the standards are usually good.....& if I look as good as you at 61 then I will be one happy gal x "
Thank you, perhaps I should endeavour to make friends with some of the woman on here and venture to clubs with them
It's bad enough being 61 so with lots of gym and swimming I try to stay my brain age , and that's mid forties |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?
But you had condoms....there was no evading
I had two, but didn't know if they would suit him , size or whatever, so I asked him to bring some of his own also
Statistically speaking unless you were meeting a man with a micro penis (i assume you've seen his cock in pictures at least) you did know perfectly well they'd fit him."
Doesn't work like that. Pics aren't good for telling the size of someone's cock really.
I've met a lot of guys, most guys don't even fit the condoms i provide but do bring their own next time or already had their own to begin with. |
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over a year ago
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
Ive always taken my own and used them too. It's not the man's complete responsibility
Take your own...surely you know what size you need better than a generic one size fits nothing.
Ive usually found the size fits them without a problem
Embarrassing if it splits or cums off...especially when your looking in the face of a doctor. Just take your own guys. End of story."
My last meet (Grey) does have his own and no splitting has occurred ever So quite safe |
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Statistically speaking unless you were meeting a man with a micro penis (i assume you've seen his cock in pictures at least) you did know perfectly well they'd fit him."
It's not the point. Guys who can't even stop in at the local shop before turning up on your doorstep are trying it on. They're looking for bareback. Lots of people don't want to sleep with guys who are so obviously looking for bareback. Aside from anything else, more than once I've had a guy try and slip a condom off during sex from behind. If you start from a point of distrust, how can you go forward? |
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"Hard to find a guy that is exactly what it says on the tin...very hard....keep at it, clubs are good but I find going with a few girlfriends tends to take the pressure off...if no one takes your fancy then you can still have a good laugh with the girls, but I think you wouldn't have a problem meeting at a club as the standards are usually good.....& if I look as good as you at 61 then I will be one happy gal x
Thank you, perhaps I should endeavour to make friends with some of the woman on here and venture to clubs with them
It's bad enough being 61 so with lots of gym and swimming I try to stay my brain age , and that's mid forties "
Well it's worth a try & me a a few friends are often out - more than welcome to join us if you live near us x |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?
But you had condoms....there was no evading
I had two, but didn't know if they would suit him , size or whatever, so I asked him to bring some of his own also
Statistically speaking unless you were meeting a man with a micro penis (i assume you've seen his cock in pictures at least) you did know perfectly well they'd fit him.
Doesn't work like that. Pics aren't good for telling the size of someone's cock really.
I've met a lot of guys, most guys don't even fit the condoms i provide but do bring their own next time or already had their own to begin with."
Exactly that, one size does not fit all.
One guy I knew couldn't even get an extra large one on , but at least he tried.
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over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Hard to find a guy that is exactly what it says on the tin...very hard....keep at it, clubs are good but I find going with a few girlfriends tends to take the pressure off...if no one takes your fancy then you can still have a good laugh with the girls, but I think you wouldn't have a problem meeting at a club as the standards are usually good.....& if I look as good as you at 61 then I will be one happy gal x
Thank you, perhaps I should endeavour to make friends with some of the woman on here and venture to clubs with them
It's bad enough being 61 so with lots of gym and swimming I try to stay my brain age , and that's mid forties
Well it's worth a try & me a a few friends are often out - more than welcome to join us if you live near us x "
We're in the same part of the country - North West |
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OP the women call the shots on here because of numbers, but that doesn't mean it is easy to get a great meet.
It takes time and meeting a lot of frogs for socials too. We all have down times but the good times outweigh the bad.
So don't give up |
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Statistically speaking unless you were meeting a man with a micro penis (i assume you've seen his cock in pictures at least) you did know perfectly well they'd fit him.
It's not the point. Guys who can't even stop in at the local shop before turning up on your doorstep are trying it on. They're looking for bareback. Lots of people don't want to sleep with guys who are so obviously looking for bareback. Aside from anything else, more than once I've had a guy try and slip a condom off during sex from behind. If you start from a point of distrust, how can you go forward?"
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Wether he provided them or not it doesn't change the fact he could be a chancer that try's to take it off mid play, with anyone you play with you put an element of trust towards them |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"OP the women call the shots on here because of numbers, but that doesn't mean it is easy to get a great meet.
It takes time and meeting a lot of frogs for socials too. We all have down times but the good times outweigh the bad.
So don't give up "
Thanks Kinky
I'm not about to give up , but as my profile states..
The way I'm going to operate in 2016 is going to change , in fact it already has done. |
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"Hard to find a guy that is exactly what it says on the tin...very hard....keep at it, clubs are good but I find going with a few girlfriends tends to take the pressure off...if no one takes your fancy then you can still have a good laugh with the girls, but I think you wouldn't have a problem meeting at a club as the standards are usually good.....& if I look as good as you at 61 then I will be one happy gal x
Thank you, perhaps I should endeavour to make friends with some of the woman on here and venture to clubs with them
It's bad enough being 61 so with lots of gym and swimming I try to stay my brain age , and that's mid forties
Well it's worth a try & me a a few friends are often out - more than welcome to join us if you live near us x
We're in the same part of the country - North West "
Well PM me & we'll chat from there x |
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"The only consistent factor in all your disappointing meet is you...
That's not a very nice thing to say....some times ones opinions are best kept to yourself....who are YOU to say that, you don't even know the OP....I have met you (not intimately, thank god) in person & you ain't all that!
The OP isn't nice to the recent meets. The guys would easily be able to identify themselves. Also we only have one side of the story!
I didn't realise that it was about being nice to meets .
Isn't this an emotionless process, you don't have to have feelings to have sex so I keep getting told
As for me being nice, well the condom evader should have been nicer and not such a chancer ?
But you had condoms....there was no evading
I had two, but didn't know if they would suit him , size or whatever, so I asked him to bring some of his own also
Statistically speaking unless you were meeting a man with a micro penis (i assume you've seen his cock in pictures at least) you did know perfectly well they'd fit him.
Doesn't work like that. Pics aren't good for telling the size of someone's cock really.
I've met a lot of guys, most guys don't even fit the condoms i provide but do bring their own next time or already had their own to begin with.
Exactly that, one size does not fit all.
One guy I knew couldn't even get an extra large one on , but at least he tried.
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Are you impling that you possibly played bare with this gent then? |
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"Thanks Kinky
I'm not about to give up , but as my profile states..
The way I'm going to operate in 2016 is going to change , in fact it already has done."
There is a learning curve for knowing how to use Fab to its best and spot fakes, dullards etc.
I've been lucky enough to make a female friend on here who shows me the ropes. And I'm still learning |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Thanks Kinky
I'm not about to give up , but as my profile states..
The way I'm going to operate in 2016 is going to change , in fact it already has done.
There is a learning curve for knowing how to use Fab to its best and spot fakes, dullards etc.
I've been lucky enough to make a female friend on here who shows me the ropes. And I'm still learning "
That's what is appealing to me about going to clubs, so onwards and upwards |
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Didn't read all tthe comments, the debate over the condom needs a thread of its own!
I gave up on one to one meets, unless met in a club or party first. My reason for it was mainly due to not finding them attractive, so I decided not to waste my time or his. So clubs only for me now, makes life easier on limited time |
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"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?"
majority of the time I do. But I stick to two main ones, so now when I go I'm bound to know someone there. |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
Yes I first went on my own it's not as daunting you would imagine "
Thanks, I can stand in front of dozens of people doing presentations but the thought of going into a bar or club on my own is nerve shattering |
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"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
I go to Quest in Leeds on my own regularly. The more you go, the more friends you make."
I know a few girls that go on their own I also know girls that go with other girls . In fact I can name 9 that live local to me that go on their own to clubs
If women didn't go on their own how the couples and single women nights work
Incidentally they rarely go to the coupled nights
It's the same for women as blokes the more you go the more your known . Then your swapping numbers and meeting more and more people because you will get invited to more places .
Being on fab is not the key to all swinging opportunities
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
I go to Quest in Leeds on my own regularly. The more you go, the more friends you make.
I know a few girls that go on their own I also know girls that go with other girls . In fact I can name 9 that live local to me that go on their own to clubs
If women didn't go on their own how the couples and single women nights work
Incidentally they rarely go to the coupled nights
It's the same for women as blokes the more you go the more your known . Then your swapping numbers and meeting more and more people because you will get invited to more places .
Being on fab is not the key to all swinging opportunities
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Thank you , deposited the negative comments on here today, I'm beginning to think I can't do this thing after all lol |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
I go to Quest in Leeds on my own regularly. The more you go, the more friends you make.
I know a few girls that go on their own I also know girls that go with other girls . In fact I can name 9 that live local to me that go on their own to clubs
If women didn't go on their own how the couples and single women nights work
Incidentally they rarely go to the coupled nights
It's the same for women as blokes the more you go the more your known . Then your swapping numbers and meeting more and more people because you will get invited to more places .
Being on fab is not the key to all swinging opportunities
Thank you , deposited the negative comments on here today, I'm beginning to think I can't do this thing after all lol"
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"I find generally the ones that brag are shit in bed, so I now avoid them,I've not had a dis-satisfactory meet since
This, any form of bragging whether it be how good they are in bed or how big there cock is, instant turn off for me.
Also find generally (but not all) the adonis types are selfish in bed to"
In total agreement with you love, cannot abide the 'big i am' types. X |
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"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
Yes I first went on my own it's not as daunting you would imagine
Thanks, I can stand in front of dozens of people doing presentations but the thought of going into a bar or club on my own is nerve shattering "
It's called cold feet . Just walk in what's the worst that can happen . If your really unlucky you knicker elastic will break . They will fall down causing you to trip
Over and get a black eye .
Or you could just go and think when I get there it will be fine
My tip for strange places is go in lose coat , go to bar ask about bogs , find the bogs all the time looking for someone who doesn't look mental or someone you know
Get drink and go talk to non mental lookin person . I say hi I am jason it's my first time at a swinging event . Just come to have a look round
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The majority of people are crap at sex;
" being a swinger " doesn't guarantee that they are any better than anyone else; they just do it with different people ."
This is pretty true and why 90% of verifications are so much bullshit. |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I always have my own, but if a guy can't be bothered to also bring his own then he's out the door."
This but we have ours just in case he runs out if it's a long playtime |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
Yes I first went on my own it's not as daunting you would imagine
Thanks, I can stand in front of dozens of people doing presentations but the thought of going into a bar or club on my own is nerve shattering
It's called cold feet . Just walk in what's the worst that can happen . If your really unlucky you knicker elastic will break . They will fall down causing you to trip
Over and get a black eye .
Or you could just go and think when I get there it will be fine
My tip for strange places is go in lose coat , go to bar ask about bogs , find the bogs all the time looking for someone who doesn't look mental or someone you know
Get drink and go talk to non mental lookin person . I say hi I am jason it's my first time at a swinging event . Just come to have a look round
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Thanks, I'll ditch the underwear to make sure I don't fall on my face lol |
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"Also if playing safe is one of your criteria always carry your own solves the problem. I'm not one for neilieving the guy should always foot the bill for them
I had my own and had informed him that I insisted on safe sex and thought he would have at least offered, instead he said he hadn't the time to get any
I still don't see the issue if you had your own anyway "
A guy turning up with no.condoms is disrespectful, that is if safe sex is expected. If she didn't have any what would he have done, ended the meet, or would he expect bareback sex.
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"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
Yes I first went on my own it's not as daunting you would imagine
Thanks, I can stand in front of dozens of people doing presentations but the thought of going into a bar or club on my own is nerve shattering
It's called cold feet . Just walk in what's the worst that can happen . If your really unlucky you knicker elastic will break . They will fall down causing you to trip
Over and get a black eye .
Or you could just go and think when I get there it will be fine
My tip for strange places is go in lose coat , go to bar ask about bogs , find the bogs all the time looking for someone who doesn't look mental or someone you know
Get drink and go talk to non mental lookin person . I say hi I am jason it's my first time at a swinging event . Just come to have a look round
Thanks, I'll ditch the underwear to make sure I don't fall on my face lol"
Don't be scared to walk out if you don't like the place .
Have you looked at your clubs review section to see if any of your friends go to clubs , and asked if you can tag along
I think it took me 5 times before every time I went to a party or club or dogging that I knew someone
I actilyy know the best place for your first time if you didn't live so far up north you were in the artic circle |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
Yes I first went on my own it's not as daunting you would imagine
Thanks, I can stand in front of dozens of people doing presentations but the thought of going into a bar or club on my own is nerve shattering
It's called cold feet . Just walk in what's the worst that can happen . If your really unlucky you knicker elastic will break . They will fall down causing you to trip
Over and get a black eye .
Or you could just go and think when I get there it will be fine
My tip for strange places is go in lose coat , go to bar ask about bogs , find the bogs all the time looking for someone who doesn't look mental or someone you know
Get drink and go talk to non mental lookin person . I say hi I am jason it's my first time at a swinging event . Just come to have a look round
Thanks, I'll ditch the underwear to make sure I don't fall on my face lol
Don't be scared to walk out if you don't like the place .
Have you looked at your clubs review section to see if any of your friends go to clubs , and asked if you can tag along
I think it took me 5 times before every time I went to a party or club or dogging that I knew someone
I actilyy know the best place for your first time if you didn't live so far up north you were in the artic circle "
It's not that cold , but webbed feet would be handy right now |
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"Would any of you girls venture to a club on your own?
Yes I first went on my own it's not as daunting you would imagine
Thanks, I can stand in front of dozens of people doing presentations but the thought of going into a bar or club on my own is nerve shattering
It's called cold feet . Just walk in what's the worst that can happen . If your really unlucky you knicker elastic will break . They will fall down causing you to trip
Over and get a black eye .
Or you could just go and think when I get there it will be fine
My tip for strange places is go in lose coat , go to bar ask about bogs , find the bogs all the time looking for someone who doesn't look mental or someone you know
Get drink and go talk to non mental lookin person . I say hi I am jason it's my first time at a swinging event . Just come to have a look round
Thanks, I'll ditch the underwear to make sure I don't fall on my face lol
Don't be scared to walk out if you don't like the place .
Have you looked at your clubs review section to see if any of your friends go to clubs , and asked if you can tag along
I think it took me 5 times before every time I went to a party or club or dogging that I knew someone
I actilyy know the best place for your first time if you didn't live so far up north you were in the artic circle
It's not that cold , but webbed feet would be handy right now "
My geraniums are flowering . My daffodils have buds one has grown to 10 inches .
Anywhere is cold compared to southampton . I did live on Coventry that was cold |
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over a year ago
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"OP the women call the shots on here because of numbers, but that doesn't mean it is easy to get a great meet.
It takes time and meeting a lot of frogs for socials too. We all have down times but the good times outweigh the bad.
So don't give up "
I'd agree with all but one point...for most guys if the forums have any truth in them...the good times rarely outweigh the down times. There are far too many and most are not here long enough for the reverse to happen. There are not enough females to fit that dream for that on here. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm getting to that stage now , yet again where I'm seriously thinking that my expectations are too high
I've had a couple of meets recently that have been very much less than satisfactory
One guy wouldn't even buy condoms....now blocked
One guy didn't have the stamina he had bragged about
Now I'm reverting back to MOB
Mains Operated Boyfriend , gone are the BOB days.
Should I know restart going to clubs then at least there's a chance that someone rocks my world, even if it is only for an hour or two.?"
hey you know what this place is like it changes from one second to the next their will always be the guys and gals for that matter that have fun with everything that moves but lots of genuinely good people on here just get focused instead of loads select a few and give them attention |
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"OP the women call the shots on here because of numbers, but that doesn't mean it is easy to get a great meet.
It takes time and meeting a lot of frogs for socials too. We all have down times but the good times outweigh the bad.
So don't give up
I'd agree with all but one point...for most guys if the forums have any truth in them...the good times rarely outweigh the down times. There are far too many and most are not here long enough for the reverse to happen. There are not enough females to fit that dream for that on here."
Us guys have to kiss a lot of frogs. As wel I am sure % of population There are more mental women than men here |
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"OP the women call the shots on here because of numbers, but that doesn't mean it is easy to get a great meet.
It takes time and meeting a lot of frogs for socials too. We all have down times but the good times outweigh the bad.
So don't give up
I'd agree with all but one point...for most guys if the forums have any truth in them...the good times rarely outweigh the down times. There are far too many and most are not here long enough for the reverse to happen. There are not enough females to fit that dream for that on here.
Us guys have to kiss a lot of frogs. As wel I am sure % of population There are more mental women than men here "
If you're finding them, I'm sure it's a case of it takes one to know one.
Same for kissing frogs |
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Anyone who knows me knows that I always carry condoms (even non-latex ones). I believe you are your own safety officer.
However, when |I started swinging, I was off to meet/social with someone for the first time and in preparation and just in case put the condoms in my wallet, and I put my wallet in my trousers. I pottered around at home and realised I was running late,I grabbed my shirt and pulled on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes and ran out of the door. I had difficulty finding the place so I was running almost embarrassingly late, so I text to say I was still on the way. I then realised I had no condoms, and then realised I had no wallet to buy condoms. I could not go home and get my wallet as that would be another hour to the journey. I could not text to say, I have left wallet and condoms as that would have been presumptuous, so I went on to the meeting.
The meeting progressed well and when it got to the kissing part I explained I had no condoms so that we could stop or have non-penetrative play unless she had some. She did not have any condoms so we did the whole range of non-penetrative play.
My point is we are human, we err by mistake, and unless he wanted unprotected penetrative sex I am not sure there was an issue. |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Anyone who knows me knows that I always carry condoms (even non-latex ones). I believe you are your own safety officer.
However, when |I started swinging, I was off to meet/social with someone for the first time and in preparation and just in case put the condoms in my wallet, and I put my wallet in my trousers. I pottered around at home and realised I was running late,I grabbed my shirt and pulled on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes and ran out of the door. I had difficulty finding the place so I was running almost embarrassingly late, so I text to say I was still on the way. I then realised I had no condoms, and then realised I had no wallet to buy condoms. I could not go home and get my wallet as that would be another hour to the journey. I could not text to say, I have left wallet and condoms as that would have been presumptuous, so I went on to the meeting.
The meeting progressed well and when it got to the kissing part I explained I had no condoms so that we could stop or have non-penetrative play unless she had some. She did not have any condoms so we did the whole range of non-penetrative play.
My point is we are human, we err by mistake, and unless he wanted unprotected penetrative sex I am not sure there was an issue."
Well Ozz, I thought I'd pretty much covered what had happened and that me and him had the conversation re condoms and I said I had two but didn't know if they would fit, suit or even be out of date, so advised him to get some on the way.
He didn't....or didn't want to.....hence why I wasn't happy , he didn't even offer any explanation
At least you had the honest talk about it first |
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By *lleb OP Woman
over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
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You've got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your Prince.
It's a good job I like frogs.
Jenny xxx"
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Isnt there some form of disease you can catch from frogs.....be careful out there...lol |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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I mistakenly provided skins for a regular friend as he was allergic. Ten quid in Boots and then after we met he messaged me said he's moving country thank you and goodbye. I never got them back
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If this was a single guy posting sometime like this there would of been a lot more slating. Oh and the lynch mob would assembled lol, forums can be so harsh. I thought we was all here to have a good time
the op was very lucky really |
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"Anyone who knows me knows that I always carry condoms (even non-latex ones). I believe you are your own safety officer.
However, when |I started swinging, I was off to meet/social with someone for the first time and in preparation and just in case put the condoms in my wallet, and I put my wallet in my trousers. I pottered around at home and realised I was running late,I grabbed my shirt and pulled on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes and ran out of the door. I had difficulty finding the place so I was running almost embarrassingly late, so I text to say I was still on the way. I then realised I had no condoms, and then realised I had no wallet to buy condoms. I could not go home and get my wallet as that would be another hour to the journey. I could not text to say, I have left wallet and condoms as that would have been presumptuous, so I went on to the meeting.
The meeting progressed well and when it got to the kissing part I explained I had no condoms so that we could stop or have non-penetrative play unless she had some. She did not have any condoms so we did the whole range of non-penetrative play.
My point is we are human, we err by mistake, and unless he wanted unprotected penetrative sex I am not sure there was an issue.
Well Ozz, I thought I'd pretty much covered what had happened and that me and him had the conversation re condoms and I said I had two but didn't know if they would fit, suit or even be out of date, so advised him to get some on the way.
He didn't....or didn't want to.....hence why I wasn't happy , he didn't even offer any explanation
At least you had the honest talk about it first "
You said he said he didn't have time. Now you say he didnt offer an explanation?
Least keep your bs straight |
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over a year ago
Poulton Le Fylde |
"Anyone who knows me knows that I always carry condoms (even non-latex ones). I believe you are your own safety officer.
However, when |I started swinging, I was off to meet/social with someone for the first time and in preparation and just in case put the condoms in my wallet, and I put my wallet in my trousers. I pottered around at home and realised I was running late,I grabbed my shirt and pulled on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes and ran out of the door. I had difficulty finding the place so I was running almost embarrassingly late, so I text to say I was still on the way. I then realised I had no condoms, and then realised I had no wallet to buy condoms. I could not go home and get my wallet as that would be another hour to the journey. I could not text to say, I have left wallet and condoms as that would have been presumptuous, so I went on to the meeting.
The meeting progressed well and when it got to the kissing part I explained I had no condoms so that we could stop or have non-penetrative play unless she had some. She did not have any condoms so we did the whole range of non-penetrative play.
My point is we are human, we err by mistake, and unless he wanted unprotected penetrative sex I am not sure there was an issue.
Well Ozz, I thought I'd pretty much covered what had happened and that me and him had the conversation re condoms and I said I had two but didn't know if they would fit, suit or even be out of date, so advised him to get some on the way.
He didn't....or didn't want to.....hence why I wasn't happy , he didn't even offer any explanation
At least you had the honest talk about it first
You said he said he didn't have time. Now you say he didnt offer an explanation?
Least keep your bs straight "
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"Anyone who knows me knows that I always carry condoms (even non-latex ones). I believe you are your own safety officer.
However, when |I started swinging, I was off to meet/social with someone for the first time and in preparation and just in case put the condoms in my wallet, and I put my wallet in my trousers. I pottered around at home and realised I was running late,I grabbed my shirt and pulled on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes and ran out of the door. I had difficulty finding the place so I was running almost embarrassingly late, so I text to say I was still on the way. I then realised I had no condoms, and then realised I had no wallet to buy condoms. I could not go home and get my wallet as that would be another hour to the journey. I could not text to say, I have left wallet and condoms as that would have been presumptuous, so I went on to the meeting.
The meeting progressed well and when it got to the kissing part I explained I had no condoms so that we could stop or have non-penetrative play unless she had some. She did not have any condoms so we did the whole range of non-penetrative play.
My point is we are human, we err by mistake, and unless he wanted unprotected penetrative sex I am not sure there was an issue.
Well Ozz, I thought I'd pretty much covered what had happened and that me and him had the conversation re condoms and I said I had two but didn't know if they would fit, suit or even be out of date, so advised him to get some on the way.
He didn't....or didn't want to.....hence why I wasn't happy , he didn't even offer any explanation
At least you had the honest talk about it first
You said he said he didn't have time. Now you say he didnt offer an explanation?
Least keep your bs straight
I'm really not sure why you keep having a go at me , ultimately you're not a nice person "
Ultimately it's the op's right to refuse and rightly feel disappointed I don't think there's any bs on her agenda personally I think the fella is missing out from what I've seen and read |
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"Anyone who knows me knows that I always carry condoms (even non-latex ones). I believe you are your own safety officer.
However, when |I started swinging, I was off to meet/social with someone for the first time and in preparation and just in case put the condoms in my wallet, and I put my wallet in my trousers. I pottered around at home and realised I was running late,I grabbed my shirt and pulled on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes and ran out of the door. I had difficulty finding the place so I was running almost embarrassingly late, so I text to say I was still on the way. I then realised I had no condoms, and then realised I had no wallet to buy condoms. I could not go home and get my wallet as that would be another hour to the journey. I could not text to say, I have left wallet and condoms as that would have been presumptuous, so I went on to the meeting.
The meeting progressed well and when it got to the kissing part I explained I had no condoms so that we could stop or have non-penetrative play unless she had some. She did not have any condoms so we did the whole range of non-penetrative play.
My point is we are human, we err by mistake, and unless he wanted unprotected penetrative sex I am not sure there was an issue.
Well Ozz, I thought I'd pretty much covered what had happened and that me and him had the conversation re condoms and I said I had two but didn't know if they would fit, suit or even be out of date, so advised him to get some on the way.
He didn't....or didn't want to.....hence why I wasn't happy , he didn't even offer any explanation
At least you had the honest talk about it first
You said he said he didn't have time. Now you say he didnt offer an explanation?
Least keep your bs straight
I'm really not sure why you keep having a go at me , ultimately you're not a nice person "
Asking why you're changing your story is not having a go at you its just wondering how you invented timetravel is all. |
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On the "nice person" front though.
Do remeber you started this thread publically putting down a person whos met you sexual performance.
Cause that doesn't seem nice. |
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"Anyone who knows me knows that I always carry condoms (even non-latex ones). I believe you are your own safety officer.
However, when |I started swinging, I was off to meet/social with someone for the first time and in preparation and just in case put the condoms in my wallet, and I put my wallet in my trousers. I pottered around at home and realised I was running late,I grabbed my shirt and pulled on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes and ran out of the door. I had difficulty finding the place so I was running almost embarrassingly late, so I text to say I was still on the way. I then realised I had no condoms, and then realised I had no wallet to buy condoms. I could not go home and get my wallet as that would be another hour to the journey. I could not text to say, I have left wallet and condoms as that would have been presumptuous, so I went on to the meeting.
The meeting progressed well and when it got to the kissing part I explained I had no condoms so that we could stop or have non-penetrative play unless she had some. She did not have any condoms so we did the whole range of non-penetrative play.
My point is we are human, we err by mistake, and unless he wanted unprotected penetrative sex I am not sure there was an issue.
Well Ozz, I thought I'd pretty much covered what had happened and that me and him had the conversation re condoms and I said I had two but didn't know if they would fit, suit or even be out of date, so advised him to get some on the way.
He didn't....or didn't want to.....hence why I wasn't happy , he didn't even offer any explanation
At least you had the honest talk about it first
You said he said he didn't have time. Now you say he didnt offer an explanation?
Least keep your bs straight
I'm really not sure why you keep having a go at me , ultimately you're not a nice person
Asking why you're changing your story is not having a go at you its just wondering how you invented timetravel is all."
To be fair on him you have changed your story a few times and avoided certain questions on the subject so it doesn't help your case much.
I don't think he's ever really nasty he's just straight talking and says it how it is. |
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