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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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New one on me but I received a message other day from a married woman lookin for a bit of nsa behind her hubbys back as he works away.
is this rare or am I leading a sheltered life lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its qute a turn on actually  "
Wouldn't really do it for me but each to their own op!
For me it's partly morality - partly not wanting an angry spouse banging on the front door!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!"
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So would you rather not know?
My opinion is that those in a relationship should state it so that others may make an informed decision."
so would you go there or does it depend on situation
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing."
Why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So would you rather not know?
My opinion is that those in a relationship should state it so that others may make an informed decision.
so would you go there or does it depend on situation
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My profile states what I want, very clearly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently."
And you said I was talking bollocks? I'll raise you a few testicles on that input. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently.
And you said I was talking bollocks? I'll raise you a few testicles on that input."
You're a newcomer to the forum - watch and learn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no different to married guys looking for other males, women looking for women , its a swinging site all here for different reasons, so enjoy what ur looking for . |
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?"
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I received a message other day from a married woman lookin for a bit of nsa
Why do people always come to the forums to brag  "
its not a brag I turned the offer down as its too far from home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start. "
People, steal, murder and commit adultery. If you take it to heart you'll be in a state of perpetual depression. Your choice if you let it affect you. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own choices. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I received a message other day from a married woman lookin for a bit of nsa
Why do people always come to the forums to brag "
its not a brag I turned the offer down as its too far from home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!"
I disagree Hun! Only considered acceptable for a woman by the white knight brigade who'll jump to the defence of anyone with a vagina and a pulse!
Each to their own though. I'm my own moral guardian - not anyone else's! |
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"So would you rather not know?
My opinion is that those in a relationship should state it so that others may make an informed decision."
Totally agree. I completely understand why some people wouldn't meet married guys or girls and that's their choice, just as those that do meet them are able to make their own informed decision. |
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start.
People, steal, murder and commit adultery. If you take it to heart you'll be in a state of perpetual depression. Your choice if you let it affect you. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own choices."
Women who think you are more fun and can offer then a good life style who want to move in with their kids and discard their husband are so numerous I do find depressing ( But not perpetually thank heavens). It inevitably makes one _iew women and relaionships differently.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in a happy albeit fairly sexless marriage and I have no intention of leaving the person who I adore and love more in the world. However I do need a physical release and this is just it and I try to make it as safe as possible. I'm open about this in my profile believe me if I was getting sex from the one person I want it off I wouldn't be doing this it's very difficult to explain and until you have Walked in my shoes I dare say many wouldn't get it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morally it is wrong I know that of course I do. Many times I've wished I didn't have to do this. I understand why in this marriage sex doesn't happen and it's taken me years to come to terms with it and look at different scenarios. Ultimately he is my world and I want to grown old with him. I really hope I don't get my head bitten off for this |
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"I'm in a happy albeit fairly sexless marriage and I have no intention of leaving the person who I adore and love more in the world. However I do need a physical release and this is just it and I try to make it as safe as possible. I'm open about this in my profile believe me if I was getting sex from the one person I want it off I wouldn't be doing this it's very difficult to explain and until you have Walked in my shoes I dare say many wouldn't get it. "
I admire your honesty and openness and would not condem you for one moment. I am sure what you are doing helps to sustain the relationship with the one you love and I can only wish you well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start.
People, steal, murder and commit adultery. If you take it to heart you'll be in a state of perpetual depression. Your choice if you let it affect you. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own choices.
Women who think you are more fun and can offer then a good life style who want to move in with their kids and discard their husband are so numerous I do find depressing ( But not perpetually thank heavens). It inevitably makes one _iew women and relaionships differently.
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Then stay away from them. |
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start.
People, steal, murder and commit adultery. If you take it to heart you'll be in a state of perpetual depression. Your choice if you let it affect you. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own choices.
Women who think you are more fun and can offer then a good life style who want to move in with their kids and discard their husband are so numerous I do find depressing ( But not perpetually thank heavens). It inevitably makes one _iew women and relaionships differently.
Then stay away from them."
If you know a way of telling them apart let me know and we will both become excedingly rich. |
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By *ymrocruMan
over a year ago
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"I'm in a happy albeit fairly sexless marriage and I have no intention of leaving the person who I adore and love more in the world. However I do need a physical release and this is just it and I try to make it as safe as possible. I'm open about this in my profile believe me if I was getting sex from the one person I want it off I wouldn't be doing this it's very difficult to explain and until you have Walked in my shoes I
dare say many wouldn't get it. "
I am in the same boat. I love my partner with all my heart. But I do not get the physical and sexual stimulation that I need.
Shame really that you are so far away. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start.
People, steal, murder and commit adultery. If you take it to heart you'll be in a state of perpetual depression. Your choice if you let it affect you. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own choices.
Women who think you are more fun and can offer then a good life style who want to move in with their kids and discard their husband are so numerous I do find depressing ( But not perpetually thank heavens). It inevitably makes one _iew women and relaionships differently.
Then stay away from them.
If you know a way of telling them apart let me know and we will both become excedingly rich."
Oddly enough I manage to stay away from the married ones. Only one got through my radar in many years. |
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We have been playing year,s never gone behind each other like our happily married friends who look down on like minded people like us.We used to meet a married lady who wanted a 3some with a couple and bi fun she told us she could not put up with her husband doing the same thing..
Her husband worked away she said she felt safer meeting a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know that a lot of my married women friends have sex on the side - not necessarily as swingers, just their own personal arrangements.
The only difference between men and women doing it is that perhaps we women are able to hide it better....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start. "
Your presumimg they want to decamp..perhaps they just dont want to heal up |
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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago
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I personally think that's these days their not as loyal as before men/women
Plus people change once they settle down become boring or stuck in rut...everyone likes attention and to feel good.so having a harmless bit of fun to them seems ok
It's when the emotions and feeling kicks in the problem starts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is different. All of the above may be true for some, but certainly not for all.
And unless you ask an individual you'll never know why they are here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
I disagree Hun! Only considered acceptable for a woman by the white knight brigade who'll jump to the defence of anyone with a vagina and a pulse!
Each to their own though. I'm my own moral guardian - not anyone else's! "
Exactly this!  |
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"I personally think that's these days their not as loyal as before men/women
Plus people change once they settle down become boring or stuck in rut...everyone likes attention and to feel good.so having a harmless bit of fun to them seems ok
It's when the emotions and feeling kicks in the problem starts"
We all have different wants and desires, only you can decide if you can live with any consequences . . I have played on my own, but hubby knows all about it . . It's the way we work. X |
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All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently.
And you said I was talking bollocks? I'll raise you a few testicles on that input.
You're a newcomer to the forum - watch and learn."
How very dare you attempt to invade the cliche |
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently.
And you said I was talking bollocks? I'll raise you a few testicles on that input.
You're a newcomer to the forum - watch and learn.
How very dare you attempt to invade the cliche"
Mmm, I was just thinking the same thing - very patronsing to OP. |
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"Its not our place to judge or be judged. Some thing I never do .
I am in a similar circumstance. I k ow it doesn't suit many people.
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Do you not think it's human nature to judge though,don't we all judge or is it just having an opinion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently.
And you said I was talking bollocks? I'll raise you a few testicles on that input.
You're a newcomer to the forum - watch and learn.
How very dare you attempt to invade the cliche
Mmm, I was just thinking the same thing - very patronsing to OP."
Try reading properly before you make accusations! How can I patronise the OP when the statement was for someone else?
And how is the statement patronising in your opinion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently.
And you said I was talking bollocks? I'll raise you a few testicles on that input.
You're a newcomer to the forum - watch and learn.
How very dare you attempt to invade the cliche"
Do you mean clique?
I've been here far too long to be concerned over such things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any condemnation of them usually depends if they have good pics..."
From personal experience, this can be true.
And not just in a negative way.
I've had "haters" message me because they liked my photos, entered into a conversation, explained my side and they became more understanding and open-minded to the possibility that we aren't all evil.
#absforpeace |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start.
People, steal, murder and commit adultery. If you take it to heart you'll be in a state of perpetual depression. Your choice if you let it affect you. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own choices.
Women who think you are more fun and can offer then a good life style who want to move in with their kids and discard their husband are so numerous I do find depressing ( But not perpetually thank heavens). It inevitably makes one _iew women and relaionships differently.
Then stay away from them.
If you know a way of telling them apart let me know and we will both become excedingly rich."
Sit in the car with them and play "kayne west - gold digger" - if she flinches, then you know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"New one on me but I received a message other day from a married woman lookin for a bit of nsa behind her hubbys back as he works away.
is this rare or am I leading a sheltered life lol."
Damn, how come you get all the lucky messages!!  |
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"I'm married and he knows and I sometimes think this makes it less of a turn on for guys. "
I agree my other half plays whilst I'm away and sometimes she has to say I don't know or the guy cant handle it weird logic on a "swinging site" |
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"It's very common in the vanilla world. Still shocks me how many "nice" girls wanted some fun behind their partners backs often with an eye to jumping ship. Found it unnerving and depressing.
Why?
The heart break it would cause their husbands when they decamped for a start.
People, steal, murder and commit adultery. If you take it to heart you'll be in a state of perpetual depression. Your choice if you let it affect you. Sometimes you just have to let people make their own choices.
Women who think you are more fun and can offer then a good life style who want to move in with their kids and discard their husband are so numerous I do find depressing ( But not perpetually thank heavens). It inevitably makes one _iew women and relaionships differently.
Then stay away from them.
If you know a way of telling them apart let me know and we will both become excedingly rich.
Oddly enough I manage to stay away from the married ones. Only one got through my radar in many years."
After Gaydar Mardar
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By *ames6ft5Man
over a year ago
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently."
Read the whole thread to this point and understand you're worldly-wise about the forum and stuff.
I'm genuinely interested to know how men and women go about cheating differently? I'm sure different people have different reasons (no doubt none good enough to justify what they do) and I'm sure they go about it differently some brazenly, some guiltily, some regularly, some rarely. However what is the particular distinction between the way all men and all women go about it that is different?
I genuinely cannot think what you are alluding to.
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"I'm in a happy albeit fairly sexless marriage and I have no intention of leaving the person who I adore and love more in the world. However I do need a physical release and this is just it and I try to make it as safe as possible. I'm open about this in my profile believe me if I was getting sex from the one person I want it off I wouldn't be doing this it's very difficult to explain and until you have Walked in my shoes I dare say many wouldn't get it. "
This and your next message, is me too. I get you Hun. Totally.
On the other foot, I find married men much more sensible and discreet and 'safer' to meet and play with.
Plus I find the sight of spunk on a wedding ring, naughtily erotic. Up there with f*cking a copper  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........"
Agree with every word makes me laugh when they say they love there wife or husband. If they loved them they would not be screwing around behind their backs. |
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"All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........
Agree with every word makes me laugh when they say they love there wife or husband. If they loved them they would not be screwing around behind their backs."
If you feel like that ... could you not extend the argument and say if they really loved someone, they wouldn't be screwing around in front of someone's face .... how disrespectful is that? Some would say that swinging is the same as cheating .... forsaking all others and all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently.
Read the whole thread to this point and understand you're worldly-wise about the forum and stuff.
I'm genuinely interested to know how men and women go about cheating differently? I'm sure different people have different reasons (no doubt none good enough to justify what they do) and I'm sure they go about it differently some brazenly, some guiltily, some regularly, some rarely. However what is the particular distinction between the way all men and all women go about it that is different?
I genuinely cannot think what you are alluding to.
Thanks"
Men and women use the site differently, more specifically they use the forum differently. Women tend to be quieter about the subject and get on with what they want to do. Men are normally moaning about the disparity between the genders, how they are treated and or judged. Also about the lack of meets.
It is also possible that men are less perturbed by the thought of meeting a married woman, than vice versa. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........
Agree with every word makes me laugh when they say they love there wife or husband. If they loved them they would not be screwing around behind their backs.
If you feel like that ... could you not extend the argument and say if they really loved someone, they wouldn't be screwing around in front of someone's face .... how disrespectful is that? Some would say that swinging is the same as cheating .... forsaking all others and all that"
Swinging within agreed boundaries does not involve deception. Cheating does. How are they comparable? |
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"All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........
Agree with every word makes me laugh when they say they love there wife or husband. If they loved them they would not be screwing around behind their backs.
If you feel like that ... could you not extend the argument and say if they really loved someone, they wouldn't be screwing around in front of someone's face .... how disrespectful is that? Some would say that swinging is the same as cheating .... forsaking all others and all that
Swinging within agreed boundaries does not involve deception. Cheating does. How are they comparable?"
They both involve having sex with someone who is not your long term partner (or can do, if you are a couple). In the real world, swingers are seen as cheats. Most people would see them as the same thing .... and frown upon them in the same way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........
Agree with every word makes me laugh when they say they love there wife or husband. If they loved them they would not be screwing around behind their backs.
If you feel like that ... could you not extend the argument and say if they really loved someone, they wouldn't be screwing around in front of someone's face .... how disrespectful is that? Some would say that swinging is the same as cheating .... forsaking all others and all that
Swinging within agreed boundaries does not involve deception. Cheating does. How are they comparable?
They both involve having sex with someone who is not your long term partner (or can do, if you are a couple). In the real world, swingers are seen as cheats. Most people would see them as the same thing .... and frown upon them in the same way. "
Being a very logical person I have to disagree that swingers are seen as cheaters. Any type of cheating, like playing cards, involves deception. Swinging doesn't involve deceit. Albeit there will be some swingers who do cheat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........
Agree with every word makes me laugh when they say they love there wife or husband. If they loved them they would not be screwing around behind their backs.
If you feel like that ... could you not extend the argument and say if they really loved someone, they wouldn't be screwing around in front of someone's face .... how disrespectful is that? Some would say that swinging is the same as cheating .... forsaking all others and all that
Swinging within agreed boundaries does not involve deception. Cheating does. How are they comparable?
They both involve having sex with someone who is not your long term partner (or can do, if you are a couple). In the real world, swingers are seen as cheats. Most people would see them as the same thing .... and frown upon them in the same way.
Being a very logical person I have to disagree that swingers are seen as cheaters. Any type of cheating, like playing cards, involves deception. Swinging doesn't involve deceit. Albeit there will be some swingers who do cheat."
Actually the PC term for swingers is ethically non-monogamous, just to back up the last point |
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"All cheats are selfish....they have no backbone....they take away from the person they profess to love the option for them to choose to move on themselves and let them have the life they might have with somebody who would treat them with the respect they deserve..but alas they decide to cheat behind their backs.....never trust a cheat or a thief...how can they be honest with anybody...if the one person they state they love they cannot be honest with.......bet their other halves if they found out would run a mile.......grow a backbone cheats and do the decent thing........
Agree with every word makes me laugh when they say they love there wife or husband. If they loved them they would not be screwing around behind their backs.
If you feel like that ... could you not extend the argument and say if they really loved someone, they wouldn't be screwing around in front of someone's face .... how disrespectful is that? Some would say that swinging is the same as cheating .... forsaking all others and all that
Swinging within agreed boundaries does not involve deception. Cheating does. How are they comparable?
They both involve having sex with someone who is not your long term partner (or can do, if you are a couple). In the real world, swingers are seen as cheats. Most people would see them as the same thing .... and frown upon them in the same way.
Being a very logical person I have to disagree that swingers are seen as cheaters. Any type of cheating, like playing cards, involves deception. Swinging doesn't involve deceit. Albeit there will be some swingers who do cheat."
I am not talking about logic here. I am talking about what people in the vanilla or real world see as morally right. The majority _iew would be to see the two things as the same, if you asked a regular person in the street, any workmates, etc .... here, people think differently, of course. |
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By *ames6ft5Man
over a year ago
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"Totally acceptable for a woman to do this...but be prepared to adopt a defensive position if you're not female!
What utter bollocks. Men and women go about it differently and possibly _iew it differently.
Read the whole thread to this point and understand you're worldly-wise about the forum and stuff.
I'm genuinely interested to know how men and women go about cheating differently? I'm sure different people have different reasons (no doubt none good enough to justify what they do) and I'm sure they go about it differently some brazenly, some guiltily, some regularly, some rarely. However what is the particular distinction between the way all men and all women go about it that is different?
I genuinely cannot think what you are alluding to.
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Men and women use the site differently, more specifically they use the forum differently. Women tend to be quieter about the subject and get on with what they want to do. Men are normally moaning about the disparity between the genders, how they are treated and or judged. Also about the lack of meets.
It is also possible that men are less perturbed by the thought of meeting a married woman, than vice versa."
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"Its qute a turn on actually
Wouldn't really do it for me but each to their own op!
For me it's partly morality - partly not wanting an angry spouse banging on the front door! "
Your on a swinger site, your profile sate you like 3somes DP etc etc and you have a moral issue with this, lolol talk about contradiction ah well takes all sorts i guess |
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"Its qute a turn on actually
Wouldn't really do it for me but each to their own op!
For me it's partly morality - partly not wanting an angry spouse banging on the front door!
Your on a swinger site, your profile sate you like 3somes DP etc etc and you have a moral issue with this, lolol talk about contradiction ah well takes all sorts i guess"
Not at all. Everyone has the right to having a different moral compass. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"New one on me but I received a message other day from a married woman lookin for a bit of nsa behind her hubbys back as he works away.
is this rare or am I leading a sheltered life lol."
A sheltered life!  |
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