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"But wasp... On the other hand, its a polite non confrontation way of simply starting a conversation with someone you would like to lay naked with. " Then follow it with the meat of your message, so no one has to waste that message going "I'm fine, thanks you?" I start my messages with "how are you" or, actually, more commonly, "hope you're well", then go on with what I actually want to say. | |||
"But wasp... On the other hand, its a polite non confrontation way of simply starting a conversation with someone you would like to lay naked with. Then follow it with the meat of your message, so no one has to waste that message going "I'm fine, thanks you?" I start my messages with "how are you" or, actually, more commonly, "hope you're well", then go on with what I actually want to say. " Yeah, something like... "Hey there! Hope you're keeping yourself well. I noticed your profile on the forum today and wondered if you'd like a chat with a view to get coffee sometime? Some of our interests are the same so hopefully there's a good starting point there to go forwards from. Looking forwards to hearing from you!" | |||
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"But wasp... On the other hand, its a polite non confrontation way of simply starting a conversation with someone you would like to lay naked with. Then follow it with the meat of your message, so no one has to waste that message going "I'm fine, thanks you?" I start my messages with "how are you" or, actually, more commonly, "hope you're well", then go on with what I actually want to say. Yeah, something like... "Hey there! Hope you're keeping yourself well. I noticed your profile on the forum today and wondered if you'd like a chat with a view to get coffee sometime? Some of our interests are the same so hopefully there's a good starting point there to go forwards from. Looking forwards to hearing from you!"" Yet another sticky.. | |||
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" Yeah, something like... "Hey there! Hope you're keeping yourself well. I noticed your profile on the forum today and wondered if you'd like a chat with a view to get coffee sometime? Some of our interests are the same so hopefully there's a good starting point there to go forwards from. Looking forwards to hearing from you!"" Oh, dead god - if only!!! So completely agree with you... It's disappointing as hell to get a message, only to open it and find those few words - Instant turn-off!!! If they can't be bothered to at least try and write a few words, then they sure as hell aren't going to put any effort in on a meet! ... and then, on top of that, they don't have the imagination to understand why it hacks us off!!! | |||
"The question that irks me is 'what you up to?' Especially when its typed wuu2? I'm sure they expect me to reply I'm frigging myself senseless and I'm just waiting for them to join.... The realty is I check fab in the middle of cooking, or when I'm hiding from my son for 5 mins, or sometimes (shock horror) when I'm on the loo... They don't need to know what I'm up to! And rant over ""Replying to you" is my standard message for that situation. This morning I replied "Eating breakfast" and the guy just replied 'lol ok' and blocked me. Unsure what he was expecting at half seven this morning. | |||
"But wasp... On the other hand, its a polite non confrontation way of simply starting a conversation with someone you would like to lay naked with. " True It's okay when it's attached to a message of someone you talk to regularly but not as a first message!!! | |||
" ... and then, on top of that, they don't have the imagination to understand why it hacks us off!!! "But there are threads on here where guys ask if anyone has ever gotten a massage or a wink or a fab... So if a girl was to say 'hi how are you' they would be delighted.. So they have no concept of getting 200 messages a day every day, some of which are well written and thought out. I think it's easy for a woman to look down on most single guys - but I'd like to point out that I would not use that line either! | |||
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"The question that irks me is 'what you up to?' Especially when its typed wuu2? I'm sure they expect me to reply I'm frigging myself senseless and I'm just waiting for them to join.... The realty is I check fab in the middle of cooking, or when I'm hiding from my son for 5 mins, or sometimes (shock horror) when I'm on the loo... They don't need to know what I'm up to! And rant over
"Replying to you" is my standard message for that situation.
This morning I replied "Eating breakfast" and the guy just replied 'lol ok' and blocked me. Unsure what he was expecting at half seven this morning."Maybe hes anti breakfast? | |||
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"I hate any initial questions that are completely mundane and puts the onus on me to compile a detailed reply to someone I didn't initiate contact with. It's laziness in my opinion and often fruitless. But it does filter out who i am conversationally compatible with and want to engage with. "  | |||
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"I think its a really tricky one as many messages are short and inane and I hate those long detailed ones too. When I get a message, I look at the profile and go from there ... so not really bothered about the content of the message." Exactly this. I don't find a how are you that bad but will look at the profile first. If its a detailed well written one with lots of nice classy pics then I'm far more likely to reply to it than if it was a one line profile with no pics. | |||
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"I think you're being unfair on the people on here who have to send loads of messages to get any response and then a lot more to turn that into a positive response. A lot of people (predominantly guys) have to work very hard at fab to get a look in, in such a competitive crowded space. I try to be unique, not just in my profile, but in my messages too, but some profiles have so little to work with, it's hard to find common ground until you open up that dialogue and sometimes the only way to do that is with a polite introduction. " My male partners don't have to send many messages on here to get a response. Perhaps it's because they only message people who would appear to match what they're looking for, and they don't open with pointless polite drivel? | |||
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"Perhaps Fabs could bring in an automated system for the first few messages. You press a button - not unlike a wink - and it initiates the 'Hello, how are you?' sequences of messages. Then half an hour later you can choose if you want to have a real conversation or not. The bonus would be that all the single men would be getting replies to their messages and it would cut down on the whinges on the forums about never getting a reply. And the rest of us wouldn't have to exchange pointless pleasantaries with random people on sex sites where we only care that they say they're fine..." Genius idea | |||
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Been up to much?
No, I don't do a thing. Even though I work and am getting ready for Christmas I've not done owt | |||
"Wot you up 2? I'm online on Fab
Been up to much?
No, I don't do a thing. Even though I work and am getting ready for Christmas I've not done owt "I bet you just sit around in your knickers waiting for people to mail you on Fabs. You do, don't you? | |||
" No, I don't do a thing. Even though I work and am getting ready for Christmas I've not done owt
I bet you just sit around in your knickers waiting for people to mail you on Fabs.
You do, don't you?"Yep, though I've already got no knicks on | |||
" No, I don't do a thing. Even though I work and am getting ready for Christmas I've not done owt
I bet you just sit around in your knickers waiting for people to mail you on Fabs.
You do, don't you?
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"Are you a runner? I'd actually be interested in how your dealing with plantar fasciitis! " Rest. | |||
"Are you a runner? I'd actually be interested in how your dealing with plantar fasciitis! Rest." Ok. | |||
"If there was one question I would banned from this site, this would be it. Not because of the rubbish spelling (see variations:How r u, How r you, Hw r u, etc) but because it's just the mundane question that it's possible to ask. If you're not friends with someone, and you're not a healthcare professional, you proberbly largely don't care how someone is on the first message or three. If the answer isn't 'I'm fine thanks, how are you?' then you don't want to know. None of the men who have asked me this morning really care what my response is to this question, other than that there is a response. They don't care that my plantar fasciitis is better this morning but still acting up. They don't care that my shoulder is still painful because I got RSI in it a few years ago at work. They don't even care that my quadricep is giving me hassle because I wrote my car off. And they certainly don't care that I had a shitty university exam last night and mostly want to sob vacantly into my tea this morning. Ok, so it's slightly unfair. I get that it's just a politeness thing. 'How are you?' we ask it thoughtlessly every day of our lives. We get asked it by call centre professionals, by waiters, and by acquaintances that we don't know very well at all. It's just an extention of Hello. "Hello" "Hey!" "How are you?" "I'm good thanks, how are you?" "I'm fine thanks." I feel like it's some weird social ritual that we have to go through on this site. Hello, how are you. Hello, how are you. Hello, how are you. Honestly, I'm bored of typing those same messages over and over again. Someone save my right hand... (which is also in pain btw, since I snapped a tendon in it over the summer). I just hate asking questions that I don't really want to know the answer to. Perhaps Fabs could bring in an automated system for the first few messages. You press a button - not unlike a wink - and it initiates the 'Hello, how are you?' sequences of messages. Then half an hour later you can choose if you want to have a real conversation or not. The bonus would be that all the single men would be getting replies to their messages and it would cut down on the whinges on the forums about never getting a reply. And the rest of us wouldn't have to exchange pointless pleasantaries with random people on sex sites where we only care that they say they're fine... What question would you put into Room 101 on this site?"  not that you care but if you saw how many messages a guy has to send to get one reply you would understand why they don't write well thought out messages based on the persons profile 85% of messages we send aren't read or replied to and I understand that most attractive women on here get hundreds of messages everyday and the less attractive still get messaged | |||
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"not that you care but if you saw how many messages a guy has to send to get one reply you would understand why they don't write well thought out messages based on the persons profile" About one in four according to my partner sitting on the sofa on the other side of the room who just checked his sent box. That's better odds than I get when I send out messages to be fair. | |||
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"Maybe all us women should gang up on the blokes and send them a message with all those annoying questions that we don't want "this yes please annoy me to death ladies | |||
"Are you a runner? I'd actually be interested in how your dealing with plantar fasciitis! Rest. Ok." I had steroid injections, acupuncture & physio. Took 2 years to clear up. Am now looking at taking up running Any suggestions on how to start?? | |||
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"I want to keep the shit messages. It makes it easier to find interesting people. " | |||
"how are you.. it's really just an ice breaker it's hardly original but a lot of people don't really know what to put as an opening message at least they've made some kind of effort rather than just sending a wink.. "
It doesn't bother me if i get many messeges saying that, i look at their profile and see if they interest me. However most first messeges to me refer to football and my team so that's good | |||
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 Fingers crosses the next exam goes better. Mrs. kinkysouls normally gives me a special look of love, if I ask, if she wants a magic cup of tea...but anyway.
Yeah, or personal favourites were:
Alright mate (nothing else)
Fancy a fuck? (This one had a question mark)
Can you meet now? Nothing else. (At nearly 10 at night, on a school day I ask you).
We're not particularly stunning, but got a load of these, and more so ended up just blocking single males sharpish. I try to be polite, but couldn't wade through a pool of that, every evening. Which is a shame, because we've met some lovely ones in clubs (even if we haven't played with them, they'll happily chat).
I don't think they're fussed (the spammers), it gets spoiled for the genuine, friendly ones, who put the effort in though.
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"All the ladies need to walk a mile in our shoes, it would be great if we could turn the tables for a week, a month, a year and give the guys the same situation as women have now. Imagine a world where guys are pestered every day by women, for sex. Men who, the majority out there in the real world, wouldn't get a second look in the street, but because they offer the prospect of casual uncomplicated sex, get inundated with much better looking girls than they could ever expect in real life. Men who became so tired of the sexual advances of women, that some of the least attractive of them (looks and personality) will post their demands on their profile....and still get offers. And men who once over 20,30,40, 50 still get lots of offers off all ages and don't get turned down for being too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too hairy, too black, too white, too asian, too straight, too bi, too gay, ...the list goes on. I know I won't be popular for making the substitution, but guys will crawl over hot coals for a shag, they only need a place, not a reason and they have to work damn hard at it. Guys, go bi, you can have a lot of amazing sex with like minded people and still have the occasional female shag when you are deemed worthy. I'm off to a secure bunker now with my flak jacket and tin helmet. "You're having a real bad time of it, I'm sorry to read how upsetting this all is to you. I'm also apologising for all women who have knocked you back and your well thought out messages. The world can be a cruel place, especially those hot women, that don't put out on demand and fat chicks get laid. I'd maybe complain directly to admin also, maybe demand your money back or a faulty return. How dare people have an opinion, or a preference. I feel really bad that I don't fuck everything that crawls around here and that I'm not lay horizontally 24/7 awaiting all I can get and am deemed worthy to accept. I'm a terrible person for not replying to "faNcy a fuck" shame on me.  | |||
"All the ladies need to walk a mile in our shoes, it would be great if we could turn the tables for a week, a month, a year and give the guys the same situation as women have now. Imagine a world where guys are pestered every day by women, for sex. Men who, the majority out there in the real world, wouldn't get a second look in the street, but because they offer the prospect of casual uncomplicated sex, get inundated with much better looking girls than they could ever expect in real life. Men who became so tired of the sexual advances of women, that some of the least attractive of them (looks and personality) will post their demands on their profile....and still get offers. And men who once over 20,30,40, 50 still get lots of offers off all ages and don't get turned down for being too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too hairy, too black, too white, too asian, too straight, too bi, too gay, ...the list goes on. I know I won't be popular for making the substitution, but guys will crawl over hot coals for a shag, they only need a place, not a reason and they have to work damn hard at it. Guys, go bi, you can have a lot of amazing sex with like minded people and still have the occasional female shag when you are deemed worthy. I'm off to a secure bunker now with my flak jacket and tin helmet. "I'll happily take your situation now, if you take the last thousand years of oppression and subjugation of women. Yeah? Cool. | |||
"All the ladies need to walk a mile in our shoes, it would be great if we could turn the tables for a week, a month, a year and give the guys the same situation as women have now. Imagine a world where guys are pestered every day by women, for sex. Men who, the majority out there in the real world, wouldn't get a second look in the street, but because they offer the prospect of casual uncomplicated sex, get inundated with much better looking girls than they could ever expect in real life. Men who became so tired of the sexual advances of women, that some of the least attractive of them (looks and personality) will post their demands on their profile....and still get offers. And men who once over 20,30,40, 50 still get lots of offers off all ages and don't get turned down for being too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too hairy, too black, too white, too asian, too straight, too bi, too gay, ...the list goes on. I know I won't be popular for making the substitution, but guys will crawl over hot coals for a shag, they only need a place, not a reason and they have to work damn hard at it. Guys, go bi, you can have a lot of amazing sex with like minded people and still have the occasional female shag when you are deemed worthy. I'm off to a secure bunker now with my flak jacket and tin helmet. "I get pretty close to walking a day mile in women's shoes, but only occasionally the majority of the time I spend as a guy. I have a 'single male' profile on here as well as this one and it's very hard to get a reply as a single male, never mind a meet, so it becomes tempting to just send fishing one liners. As laura I receive around a hundred messages a day, most of which are hi how are you? So I couldn't keep up that level of small talk if I quit work and spent all my time replying to people. So I feel the pain both sides basically and I guess it's a supply and demand thing. I think single guys get a rough time on here when really the overabundance of them is great in that you can nearly allways find a local willing single guy. Personally the hi how are you exchange doesn't bother me as my phone has learnt to offer the words 'hi im good thanks' without me writing a thing  | |||
"All the ladies need to walk a mile in our shoes, it would be great if we could turn the tables for a week, a month, a year and give the guys the same situation as women have now. Imagine a world where guys are pestered every day by women, for sex. Men who, the majority out there in the real world, wouldn't get a second look in the street, but because they offer the prospect of casual uncomplicated sex, get inundated with much better looking girls than they could ever expect in real life. Men who became so tired of the sexual advances of women, that some of the least attractive of them (looks and personality) will post their demands on their profile....and still get offers. And men who once over 20,30,40, 50 still get lots of offers off all ages and don't get turned down for being too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too hairy, too black, too white, too asian, too straight, too bi, too gay, ...the list goes on. I know I won't be popular for making the substitution, but guys will crawl over hot coals for a shag, they only need a place, not a reason and they have to work damn hard at it. Guys, go bi, you can have a lot of amazing sex with like minded people and still have the occasional female shag when you are deemed worthy. I'm off to a secure bunker now with my flak jacket and tin helmet.
I get pretty close to walking a day mile in women's shoes, but only occasionally the majority of the time I spend as a guy. I have a 'single male' profile on here as well as this one and it's very hard to get a reply as a single male, never mind a meet, so it becomes tempting to just send fishing one liners. As laura I receive around a hundred messages a day, most of which are hi how are you? So I couldn't keep up that level of small talk if I quit work and spent all my time replying to people. So I feel the pain both sides basically and I guess it's a supply and demand thing. I think single guys get a rough time on here when really the overabundance of them is great in that you can nearly allways find a local willing single guy.
Personally the hi how are you exchange doesn't bother me as my phone has learnt to offer the words 'hi im good thanks' without me writing a thing "100 messages a day! I feel overwhelmed if I get ten! Most days if I'm not popping online I get perhaps two or three. | |||
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"almost words used in english are infact amercian " No. That's completely incorrect. Most words in English have Latin or Germanic roots I believe. Most American words that our different to ours actually emerged from English. "American" is a more modern language than "English". | |||
""Where do you live?" is always slightly bemusing. " this ?? just hate it,wtf has that got to do with them | |||
"almost words used in english are infact amercian No. That's completely incorrect. Most words in English have Latin or Germanic roots I believe. Most American words that our different to ours actually emerged from English. "American" is a more modern language than "English"." either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does | |||
""Where do you live?" is always slightly bemusing. this ?? just hate it,wtf has that got to do with them "Asking where someone lives dont always mean . Im crazy where are you . But yes i wouldnt ask that ... Hi hows things ? Lookung goid sweet heart 1st stamp ad love to lick . Just wondering if your anywhere near me and might like to go iut dancin sometime . Coffee cool but iv enough of that in the kitchen | |||
"almost words used in english are infact amercian No. That's completely incorrect. Most words in English have Latin or Germanic roots I believe. Most American words that our different to ours actually emerged from English. "American" is a more modern language than "English". either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does " I'm sorry my rant offended you somehow. But if people write stuff that I can't understand then online communication isn't going to go very well for me. Since I'm mildly phobic of talking on the phone it's really important to me to be able to communicate via the written word. If I can't understand someone, how can I ever get inside their head and to the point where I want to play with them? | |||
"almost words used in english are infact amercian No. That's completely incorrect. Most words in English have Latin or Germanic roots I believe. Most American words that our different to ours actually emerged from English. "American" is a more modern language than "English". either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does I'm sorry my rant offended you somehow. But if people write stuff that I can't understand then online communication isn't going to go very well for me. Since I'm mildly phobic of talking on the phone it's really important to me to be able to communicate via the written word. If I can't understand someone, how can I ever get inside their head and to the point where I want to play with them?" it aint offended me in the slightest . Im just pointing out . Try not to tar every bloke with the same brush . Some people do actually care about humanity enough as to actually be interested in how another is feeling . Hoping they aint in a low way as alot of people dont say and suffer in silence Dont Suffer In Silence, You Are Not Alone | |||
"You do, don't you? Yep, though I've already got no knicks on
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"Maybe all us women should gang up on the blokes and send them a message with all those annoying questions that we don't want "Great idea, or if we could just forward them the whole inbox | |||
"Some people do actually care about humanity enough as to actually be interested in how another is feeling . Hoping they aint in a low way as alot of people dont say and suffer in silence " With respect - I don't think most men on a sex site asking 'hw r u' give two fucks how I am. They are just asking because they feel they have to in order to get into my knickers. (Personally, if I want to listen to peoples problems I'll listen to my friends. Maybe I'm just selfish, but I don't come to a sex site looking to hear about complete strangers problems on the second message they ever send to me.) | |||
"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does " Many will disagree. | |||
"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does Many will disagree." I will never understand why it's ok to say 'I don't fancy blondes' but it's not ok to say 'I don't fancy people who can't write well'. | |||
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"The question that bugs me the most is "how are you getting on on fab? " or "how are you finding fab?" I actually replied to one guy the other week and said "I was finding it hard and couldn't find a single guy to fuck me" ""Have you had much luck on here?" Urgh. It's a horrible question. What do you say? It's like asking someone how many people they've had sex with. I usually dodge it with some kind of remark about how I don't think it comes down to luck and it's more about personality and interests. | |||
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""how are you getting on on fab? " or "how are you finding fab?"" That's an interesting one. It would bug me now as my veris show I'm finding Fab good. When I was new, over 3 years ago, I was asked it by a guy and it seemed like a reasonable question. We remain great friends to this day | |||
"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does Many will disagree." many i know will disagree , but a wolf dont loose no sleep over the opinion of sheep | |||
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"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does Many will disagree. I will never understand why it's ok to say 'I don't fancy blondes' but it's not ok to say 'I don't fancy people who can't write well'." Yep, I agree. | |||
"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does Many will disagree. many i know will disagree , but a wolf dont loose no sleep over the opinion of sheep " Interesting response... Are you trying to appeal to single women or increase the number of instant blocks? Being an individual is one thing, veiled insults quite another. Nita | |||
"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does Many will disagree. many i know will disagree , but a wolf dont loose no sleep over the opinion of sheep " True but sheep tend not to like wolves very much. | |||
"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does Many will disagree. many i know will disagree , but a wolf dont loose no sleep over the opinion of sheep Interesting response... Are you trying to appeal to single women or increase the number of instant blocks? Being an individual is one thing, veiled insults quite another. Nita" that aint in anyway an insult its mearly a comment i am more thane ntitled to on here | |||
"either way its a load of crap to use grammer to determine someones ability to be good at anything . Grammer dont make you smart or clever . Real life does Many will disagree. many i know will disagree , but a wolf dont loose no sleep over the opinion of sheep Interesting response... Are you trying to appeal to single women or increase the number of instant blocks? Being an individual is one thing, veiled insults quite another. Nita that aint in anyway an insult its mearly a comment i am more thane ntitled to on here "Equating us to sheep is an insult. If you feel entitled to insult people then good luck with that. | |||
"If there was one question I would banned from this site, this would be it. Not because of the rubbish spelling (see variations:How r u, How r you, Hw r u, etc) but because it's just the mundane question that it's possible to ask. If you're not friends with someone, and you're not a healthcare professional, you proberbly largely don't care how someone is on the first message or three. If the answer isn't 'I'm fine thanks, how are you?' then you don't want to know. None of the men who have asked me this morning really care what my response is to this question, other than that there is a response. They don't care that my plantar fasciitis is better this morning but still acting up. They don't care that my shoulder is still painful because I got RSI in it a few years ago at work. They don't even care that my quadricep is giving me hassle because I wrote my car off. And they certainly don't care that I had a shitty university exam last night and mostly want to sob vacantly into my tea this morning. Ok, so it's slightly unfair. I get that it's just a politeness thing. 'How are you?' we ask it thoughtlessly every day of our lives. We get asked it by call centre professionals, by waiters, and by acquaintances that we don't know very well at all. It's just an extention of Hello. "Hello" "Hey!" "How are you?" "I'm good thanks, how are you?" "I'm fine thanks." I feel like it's some weird social ritual that we have to go through on this site. Hello, how are you. Hello, how are you. Hello, how are you. Honestly, I'm bored of typing those same messages over and over again. Someone save my right hand... (which is also in pain btw, since I snapped a tendon in it over the summer). I just hate asking questions that I don't really want to know the answer to. Perhaps Fabs could bring in an automated system for the first few messages. You press a button - not unlike a wink - and it initiates the 'Hello, how are you?' sequences of messages. Then half an hour later you can choose if you want to have a real conversation or not. The bonus would be that all the single men would be getting replies to their messages and it would cut down on the whinges on the forums about never getting a reply. And the rest of us wouldn't have to exchange pointless pleasantaries with random people on sex sites where we only care that they say they're fine... What question would you put into Room 101 on this site?" Surely the usual response I'd. "I'm fine, I'm just -insert activity you're doing true or false to make conversation-" I genuinely worry how broken some people seem to be that they cannot move a conversation on from a polite hello. | |||
"If there was one question I would banned from this site, this would be it. Not because of the rubbish spelling (see variations:How r u, How r you, Hw r u, etc) but because it's just the mundane question that it's possible to ask. If you're not friends with someone, and you're not a healthcare professional, you proberbly largely don't care how someone is on the first message or three. If the answer isn't 'I'm fine thanks, how are you?' then you don't want to know. None of the men who have asked me this morning really care what my response is to this question, other than that there is a response. They don't care that my plantar fasciitis is better this morning but still acting up. They don't care that my shoulder is still painful because I got RSI in it a few years ago at work. They don't even care that my quadricep is giving me hassle because I wrote my car off. And they certainly don't care that I had a shitty university exam last night and mostly want to sob vacantly into my tea this morning. Ok, so it's slightly unfair. I get that it's just a politeness thing. 'How are you?' we ask it thoughtlessly every day of our lives. We get asked it by call centre professionals, by waiters, and by acquaintances that we don't know very well at all. It's just an extention of Hello. "Hello" "Hey!" "How are you?" "I'm good thanks, how are you?" "I'm fine thanks." I feel like it's some weird social ritual that we have to go through on this site. Hello, how are you. Hello, how are you. Hello, how are you. Honestly, I'm bored of typing those same messages over and over again. Someone save my right hand... (which is also in pain btw, since I snapped a tendon in it over the summer). I just hate asking questions that I don't really want to know the answer to. Perhaps Fabs could bring in an automated system for the first few messages. You press a button - not unlike a wink - and it initiates the 'Hello, how are you?' sequences of messages. Then half an hour later you can choose if you want to have a real conversation or not. The bonus would be that all the single men would be getting replies to their messages and it would cut down on the whinges on the forums about never getting a reply. And the rest of us wouldn't have to exchange pointless pleasantaries with random people on sex sites where we only care that they say they're fine... What question would you put into Room 101 on this site?" Agree 100% but would rather have a hey how are you than wanna fuck or I'm horny fir first message | |||
"Perhaps Fabs could bring in an automated system for the first few messages. You press a button - not unlike a wink - and it initiates the 'Hello, how are you?' sequences of messages. Then half an hour later you can choose if you want to have a real conversation or not. The bonus would be that all the single men would be getting replies to their messages and it would cut down on the whinges on the forums about never getting a reply. And the rest of us wouldn't have to exchange pointless pleasantaries with random people on sex sites where we only care that they say they're fine... " Except they'd moan that after automated messages he/she/they stopped talking. Though a drop down, thanks but no thanks and block would be perfect quick reply option to all those not into | |||
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