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Do you bring up STD's in a conversation with the person you most likely will meet
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I have asked some people, they either shy away or not mention their history at all.
So to you Fabbers, do you mention
STD's when speaking to your potential meet? And how can you be so sure that the person (you will most likely meet) does not have an STD, as this does worry me.
Do you ever ask your potential meet to have an STD test before you proceed? A friend of mine strongly suggested that I should do this. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I get tested and use condoms. If they ask I tell them that I get tested and use condoms. I never ask, because what are they going to say?
'Why yes, I do have the clap, but its not at the oozy stage yet'. |
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"I get tested and use condoms. If they ask I tell them that I get tested and use condoms. I never ask, because what are they going to say?
'Why yes, I do have the clap, but its not at the oozy stage yet'."
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"We just get ourselves tested and use condoms. Everyone will tell you they are clean anyway. X "
It's tricky if your a female looking to have sex with another female. I guess I can use dams, but doesn't that defeat the purpose? |
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over a year ago
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I don't ask because i wouldn't trust the answer. I use protection and get tested so i do what i consider an acceptable level of risk to me. We all have differing levels. You have to do what you feel more comfortable with not what others tell you you should do. |
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We wouldn't use dental dams and I won't suck a cock with a condom on. Tried it and it's pointless and not worth my effort x
We just enjoy what we do and take what risks we are happy to take. |
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"We just get ourselves tested and use condoms. Everyone will tell you they are clean anyway. X
It's tricky if your a female looking to have sex with another female. I guess I can use dams, but doesn't that defeat the purpose?"
It depends what the purpose is do you feel condoms defeat the purpose? |
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"We just get ourselves tested and use condoms. Everyone will tell you they are clean anyway. X
It's tricky if your a female looking to have sex with another female. I guess I can use dams, but doesn't that defeat the purpose?"
Not if you're a beaver. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"So... You won't be too worried if you caught an STD from them?"
Well, no actually. Most STIs are easily cured by antibiotics, and the one that isn't is one that I am extremely unlikely to catch.
Having said that, I am not sure how you read 'I get tested and use condoms' as 'I want to catch STIs.' I best check my keyboard. |
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I trust my instincts & look after myself...You can usually tell when someone is responsible/sensible, if you can't & you choose to sleep with them then more fool you.
When do you pop the question OP? Is it the first thing you ask or maybe the last? Over dinner? Straight after you've whispered something naughty in their ear perhaps? |
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"We just get ourselves tested and use condoms. Everyone will tell you they are clean anyway. X
It's tricky if your a female looking to have sex with another female. I guess I can use dams, but doesn't that defeat the purpose?
It depends what the purpose is do you feel condoms defeat the purpose?"
Hmm... I've never had sex with a female before so I wouldn't know, I guess when your doing oral to a female I'd like to have a taste! |
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I've gone with one guy to the clinic whilst he had a test. Round by me it's probably the same everywhere but we get messages on our phones with the ALL CLEAR NO FURTHER ACTION REQUIRED message. I don't think there is anything wrong with asking a guy about his sexual health, if you're gonna do something as intimate as sex then you should be able to ask any questions you want. If you're gonna use a jonny if shouldn't be too much of a big deal, but if, like myself you like to have sex without a condom then I think it's worth spending a bit of time with that person before you actually have sex. It wouldn't work if you were only looking for a one off shag with someone I don't think, if however you were looking for a regular guy and he wanted a regular exclusive thing with you then asking questions about his sexual health and even both of you going to a clinic to get tested before you sleep with each other is fine and shows respect for your sexual health. |
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"I trust my instincts & look after myself...You can usually tell when someone is responsible/sensible, if you can't & you choose to sleep with them then more fool you.
When do you pop the question OP? Is it the first thing you ask or maybe the last? Over dinner? Straight after you've whispered something naughty in their ear perhaps? "
 probably when your talking about your previous sexual experiences/ partners... That's when it has come up. |
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See, asking a potential meet to have an STD test prior to playing is pretty much pointless at best (in most circumstances).
They could go tested, then in the two week wait for results have a couple of bareback gangbangs. But the results come back clear! You can't watch them 24/7.
Stop passing the responsibility for your sexual health onto another party - get tested yourself, practice a level of safer sex you're comfortable with and be as selective about your partners as you want to be. |
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"We just get ourselves tested and use condoms. Everyone will tell you they are clean anyway. X
It's tricky if your a female looking to have sex with another female. I guess I can use dams, but doesn't that defeat the purpose?
It depends what the purpose is do you feel condoms defeat the purpose?
Hmm... I've never had sex with a female before so I wouldn't know, I guess when your doing oral to a female I'd like to have a taste! "
Ok, that's fair enough. What I would say is decide on your acceptable level of safety and go with that. It might limit your opportunities but then again it might not. |
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"See, asking a potential meet to have an STD test prior to playing is pretty much pointless at best (in most circumstances).
They could go tested, then in the two week wait for results have a couple of bareback gangbangs. But the results come back clear! You can't watch them 24/7.
Stop passing the responsibility for your sexual health onto another party - get tested yourself, practice a level of safer sex you're comfortable with and be as selective about your partners as you want to be. "
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"See, asking a potential meet to have an STD test prior to playing is pretty much pointless at best (in most circumstances).
They could go tested, then in the two week wait for results have a couple of bareback gangbangs. But the results come back clear! You can't watch them 24/7.
Stop passing the responsibility for your sexual health onto another party - get tested yourself, practice a level of safer sex you're comfortable with and be as selective about your partners as you want to be. "
Very true, it would be pointless. Trust me I am... I get tested regularly. |
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"Yes I have. We have even planned a picnic in the gum clinic roof top garden "
That wouldn't happen to be the new Sexual Health Centre in Edinburgh, would it?
I heard they have a rooftop garden so you can go and contemplate and ponder.
I can't say as I think that's the most responsible idea in the history of architecture...  |
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"I trust my instincts & look after myself...You can usually tell when someone is responsible/sensible, if you can't & you choose to sleep with them then more fool you.
When do you pop the question OP? Is it the first thing you ask or maybe the last? Over dinner? Straight after you've whispered something naughty in their ear perhaps?
probably when your talking about your previous sexual experiences/ partners... That's when it has come up."
Just my opinion & no offence intended at all but I feel this kind of approach from a woman is off putting, kills that vibe that's been generating & takes the fun out of it when your overly concerned about what you could catch instead of the fun you could have.
I can just imagine being stopped just as I'm about to reach that peak of ecstasy only to be asked 'is the condom on properly'  |
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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes I have. We have even planned a picnic in the gum clinic roof top garden
That wouldn't happen to be the new Sexual Health Centre in Edinburgh, would it?
I heard they have a rooftop garden so you can go and contemplate and ponder.
I can't say as I think that's the most responsible idea in the history of architecture... "
It sure is.
The architect that thought up that idea must be a real special case |
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"I trust my instincts & look after myself...You can usually tell when someone is responsible/sensible, if you can't & you choose to sleep with them then more fool you.
When do you pop the question OP? Is it the first thing you ask or maybe the last? Over dinner? Straight after you've whispered something naughty in their ear perhaps?
probably when your talking about your previous sexual experiences/ partners... That's when it has come up.
Ha! I get what you mean! Though I am a newbie on FAB, so I guess it's only natural for me to be concerned... Maybe after meeting a few more people I can finally relax and not need to worry.
Just my opinion & no offence intended at all but I feel this kind of approach from a woman is off putting, kills that vibe that's been generating & takes the fun out of it when your overly concerned about what you could catch instead of the fun you could have.
I can just imagine being stopped just as I'm about to reach that peak of ecstasy only to be asked 'is the condom on properly' "
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Well as there was a honesty thread earlier and I don't think it will affect my chances of meeting (not getting any anyway) or it could be fab suicide 
I contracted one earlier in the year for the first time and hopefully the last,
Although not necessary from sex as I'm practically a virgin compared to most people on here, I had only been with 2 Women this year and both were clean(showed no signs of the symptoms of what I had) and was told you can catch it from towels/bedding etc
I have been back to the clinic twice since the symptoms have gone and I'm in the clear,
I didn't go looking for sex while I had it or for a few months after it went,
Not sure why am telling everyone as am still embarrassed about it,
I had only told 2 people before to give them the choice if they still wanted to meet,
So don't all go and reach for the block button all at once,
But people do catch things and in most cases they go,
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I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck. |
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"I trust my instincts & look after myself...You can usually tell when someone is responsible/sensible, if you can't & you choose to sleep with them then more fool you.
When do you pop the question OP? Is it the first thing you ask or maybe the last? Over dinner? Straight after you've whispered something naughty in their ear perhaps?
probably when your talking about your previous sexual experiences/ partners... That's when it has come up.
Ha! I get what you mean! Though I am a newbie on FAB, so I guess it's only natural for me to be concerned... Maybe after meeting a few more people I can finally relax and not need to worry.
Just my opinion & no offence intended at all but I feel this kind of approach from a woman is off putting, kills that vibe that's been generating & takes the fun out of it when your overly concerned about what you could catch instead of the fun you could have.
I can just imagine being stopped just as I'm about to reach that peak of ecstasy only to be asked 'is the condom on properly' "
Exactly
Of course, maintain your standards to whatever level you desire but 'letting go' is (for me) where the best experiences are 
Wish you well on your adventures honey. |
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"Well as there was a honesty thread earlier and I don't think it will affect my chances of meeting (not getting any anyway) or it could be fab suicide
I contracted one earlier in the year for the first time and hopefully the last,
Although not necessary from sex as I'm practically a virgin compared to most people on here, I had only been with 2 Women this year and both were clean(showed no signs of the symptoms of what I had) and was told you can catch it from towels/bedding etc
I have been back to the clinic twice since the symptoms have gone and I'm in the clear,
I didn't go looking for sex while I had it or for a few months after it went,
Not sure why am telling everyone as am still embarrassed about it,
I had only told 2 people before to give them the choice if they still wanted to meet,
So don't all go and reach for the block button all at once,
But people do catch things and in most cases they go,
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The laws of probability alone mean you can't be the only person . |
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"Well as there was a honesty thread earlier and I don't think it will affect my chances of meeting (not getting any anyway) or it could be fab suicide
I contracted one earlier in the year for the first time and hopefully the last,
Although not necessary from sex as I'm practically a virgin compared to most people on here, I had only been with 2 Women this year and both were clean(showed no signs of the symptoms of what I had) and was told you can catch it from towels/bedding etc
I have been back to the clinic twice since the symptoms have gone and I'm in the clear,
I didn't go looking for sex while I had it or for a few months after it went,
Not sure why am telling everyone as am still embarrassed about it,
I had only told 2 people before to give them the choice if they still wanted to meet,
So don't all go and reach for the block button all at once,
But people do catch things and in most cases they go,
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I commend you for sharing your experience. These Fab forums are a good place to learn from others experiences.
Anyone who throws the book at you for the above is a muppet.
Hats off to you sir |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck."
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!? |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?"
Ha! I'm laughing so hard right now. |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?"
Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area. |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?
Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area."
Yep. Some do. |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?
Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area.
Yep. Some do."
I'll ask at GUM as well, they might know if all clinics do this now. Or they can tell me how to find out which ones do. |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?
Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area."
I don't think all do...
Bradford does, Warrington does, Morecambe does....Lancaster did once but the first time I ended up calling them on the phone as they have a 'no news is good news policy' and have to call if you don't hear...they also wanted money (can't remember how much, twenty odd quid I think) to give you the results as some kind of certificate The second time at Lancaster they said the same 'no news is good news' yet I still got the nhs text saying I was clear...go figure.
I always keep my last text should anyone care to see it. Nobody has ever asked. |
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Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area."
Sure most of them do. Every time I've been to the clinic for one it says on the form how you wish to be notified and if they can send a message to your phone or a letter to your home and contact your gp if needed. Or you could sleep with military people that have just returned from a tour because they get tested before they go away and the anti malaria drugs they take kill most stds, doesn't help if they've been with people before you though.
You can get std kits, just ordered them as my local hospital is listed as one of the labs you can take them to to check results. Oh my god need to get a meet now, I've got a nurses uniform, I have speculums that I could put inside their arse hole, could do the whole lot, full std test, prostate massage to check they've got lots of nice sperms.
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?
Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area.
I don't think all do...
Bradford does, Warrington does, Morecambe does....Lancaster did once but the first time I ended up calling them on the phone as they have a 'no news is good news policy' and have to call if you don't hear...they also wanted money (can't remember how much, twenty odd quid I think) to give you the results as some kind of certificate The second time at Lancaster they said the same 'no news is good news' yet I still got the nhs text saying I was clear...go figure.
I always keep my last text should anyone care to see it. Nobody has ever asked. "
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probably when your talking about your previous sexual experiences/ partners... That's when it has come up."
If I had a guy wanting to quiz me about my past sexual partners I would be telling him to go bother someone else. This is nsa not a bloody relationship!
I get tested regularly, plus I save my negative text on my phone.
But as it's meaningless after the next time I meet, I just practice safe sex with penetration (ie condoms) and take a calculated risk like a lot of folks with oral.
It ain't perfect but it works for me! I am not interested in having a long drawn out serious discussion about past sexual history with a guy I may only meet once! Kind of kills the mood! |
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Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area.
Sure most of them do. Every time I've been to the clinic for one it says on the form how you wish to be notified and if they can send a message to your phone or a letter to your home and contact your gp if needed. Or you could sleep with military people that have just returned from a tour because they get tested before they go away and the anti malaria drugs they take kill most stds, doesn't help if they've been with people before you though.
You can get std kits, just ordered them as my local hospital is listed as one of the labs you can take them to to check results. Oh my god need to get a meet now, I've got a nurses uniform, I have speculums that I could put inside their arse hole, could do the whole lot, full std test, prostate massage to check they've got lots of nice sperms.
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I have a uniform too, and working stethoscope.
Ordering STD kits sounds handy, is 3 bus rides to the clinic nearest to me.
Lol, you need to report back on your next meet and how that went... |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?
Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area.
I don't think all do...
Bradford does, Warrington does, Morecambe does....Lancaster did once but the first time I ended up calling them on the phone as they have a 'no news is good news policy' and have to call if you don't hear...they also wanted money (can't remember how much, twenty odd quid I think) to give you the results as some kind of certificate The second time at Lancaster they said the same 'no news is good news' yet I still got the nhs text saying I was clear...go figure.
I always keep my last text should anyone care to see it. Nobody has ever asked.
Don't think Accrington does either, just remembered my sister had to call them."
Those are just the clinics i have experience of so wouldn't know right enough...
Lancaster was odd as I went twice there, once had to call, once got the text so no idea what they were up to.
You might do well to ask as you say, there's a good chance they have some kind of listing as to what clinics in your area do or don't |
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Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area.
Sure most of them do. Every time I've been to the clinic for one it says on the form how you wish to be notified and if they can send a message to your phone or a letter to your home and contact your gp if needed. Or you could sleep with military people that have just returned from a tour because they get tested before they go away and the anti malaria drugs they take kill most stds, doesn't help if they've been with people before you though.
You can get std kits, just ordered them as my local hospital is listed as one of the labs you can take them to to check results. Oh my god need to get a meet now, I've got a nurses uniform, I have speculums that I could put inside their arse hole, could do the whole lot, full std test, prostate massage to check they've got lots of nice sperms.
I have a uniform too, and working stethoscope.
Ordering STD kits sounds handy, is 3 bus rides to the clinic nearest to me.
Lol, you need to report back on your next meet and how that went..."
Think 3 bus rides would be cheaper, these just cost me £140! I've got a stethoscope as well and proper tie at the back hospital gowns, plastic bed sheets, anal speculums, vibrating urethral sounds, latex gloves! |
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No need to question women about their sexual health.
During foreplay. Just stick your fingers inside her while you're kissing her. Then gently put those same fingers in her mouth.
If she backs away or spits your fingers out. Just end it.
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside me. Why have I not thought if this before!?
Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area.
I don't think all do...
Bradford does, Warrington does, Morecambe does....Lancaster did once but the first time I ended up calling them on the phone as they have a 'no news is good news policy' and have to call if you don't hear...they also wanted money (can't remember how much, twenty odd quid I think) to give you the results as some kind of certificate The second time at Lancaster they said the same 'no news is good news' yet I still got the nhs text saying I was clear...go figure.
I always keep my last text should anyone care to see it. Nobody has ever asked.
Don't think Accrington does either, just remembered my sister had to call them.
Those are just the clinics i have experience of so wouldn't know right enough...
Lancaster was odd as I went twice there, once had to call, once got the text so no idea what they were up to.
You might do well to ask as you say, there's a good chance they have some kind of listing as to what clinics in your area do or don't "
Yeah will ask them. Thanks. I do like how you can go to clinics in any area as well, even if you don't live there, nothing like the Doctors and anything else. |
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"I worry about herpes coz that's the most likely one to catch that sounds horrible, but no i don't ask anyone about STDs. No point, plenty lie to get a fuck.
Yeah they can lie but they can also not get any sex from me till I have that result message on their phone, it can't be tampered with, it can't be passed off as as a screen shot being shown to me cos I will look myself at the message, can't be passed of as saving a number in their phone and copying the message as the sender comes through as MESSAGE, if you click information there are no contact details. He'll I might even order the testing kits myself, site you must be able to buy them online. Oh my god that's just opened up another scenario for me, I'll be the nurse doing their test and I can wank them and put my tits in their mouth and make them put fingers inside
Why have I not thought if this before!?
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We actually have self testing kits for free you can order to be delivered to home for free from our clinic.Swab
and bloods and you just post it back.
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Lol about the testing yourself.
Do all clinics send test results out by texts? I meet a lot of guys from outside of my area.
Sure most of them do. Every time I've been to the clinic for one it says on the form how you wish to be notified and if they can send a message to your phone or a letter to your home and contact your gp if needed. Or you could sleep with military people that have just returned from a tour because they get tested before they go away and the anti malaria drugs they take kill most stds, doesn't help if they've been with people before you though.
You can get std kits, just ordered them as my local hospital is listed as one of the labs you can take them to to check results. Oh my god need to get a meet now, I've got a nurses uniform, I have speculums that I could put inside their arse hole, could do the whole lot, full std test, prostate massage to check they've got lots of nice sperms.
I have a uniform too, and working stethoscope.
Ordering STD kits sounds handy, is 3 bus rides to the clinic nearest to me.
Lol, you need to report back on your next meet and how that went...
Think 3 bus rides would be cheaper, these just cost me £140! I've got a stethoscope as well and proper tie at the back hospital gowns, plastic bed sheets, anal speculums, vibrating urethral sounds, latex gloves! "
I just found someone who tests for free (and sends texts) SH:24 it's called. Dunno if it's legit but it looks like it is.
But i've got a change with my cervix so gonna go ask abut that while i'm there also, but maybe next time i'll do the tests at home. |
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"No need to question women about their sexual health.
During foreplay. Just stick your fingers inside her while you're kissing her. Then gently put those same fingers in her mouth.
If she backs away or spits your fingers out. Just end it.
If she won't taste her own fanny , why should you "
That's the most ridiculous way of testing a woman on her sexual health I have ever had the misfortune to read |
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"No need to question women about their sexual health.
During foreplay. Just stick your fingers inside her while you're kissing her. Then gently put those same fingers in her mouth.
If she backs away or spits your fingers out. Just end it.
If she won't taste her own fanny , why should you
That's the most ridiculous way of testing a woman on her sexual health I have ever had the misfortune to read "
There's a huge amount of crap and misinformation on this thread full stop! |
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"No need to question women about their sexual health.
During foreplay. Just stick your fingers inside her while you're kissing her. Then gently put those same fingers in her mouth.
If she backs away or spits your fingers out. Just end it.
If she won't taste her own fanny , why should you
That's the most ridiculous way of testing a woman on her sexual health I have ever had the misfortune to read "
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I've discussed it a lot previously but we each can take responsibility for our own protection. And the best protection requires no discussion, just abstinence.
Safer sex may be achieved if you and your partner use PreP treatment, which is highly effective against HIV - close to 100%, as well as using condoms, protecting against this and other STIs. Few if any other swingers use medication to prevent HIV infection.
Even if you visit a GUM clinic together and get negative results, there is typically a lag between infection and the point that tests reveal it. It's also possible that a false negative result can be returned.
Your own behaviour and assumption of responsibility is your best approach. |
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"I have asked some people, they either shy away or not mention their history at all.
So to you Fabbers, do you mention
STD's when speaking to your potential meet? And how can you be so sure that the person (you will most likely meet) does not have an STD, as this does worry me.
Do you ever ask your potential meet to have an STD test before you proceed? A friend of mine strongly suggested that I should do this."
Well I don't mind talking about it showing my results from my lasts tests but getting a person to go get tested doesn't really prove anything unless you expect them to forgo sex for a month before you two finally hook up and then trust them that they stuck to this.
Along with them trusting you the same |
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"I've discussed it a lot previously but we each can take responsibility for our own protection. And the best protection requires no discussion, just abstinence.
Safer sex may be achieved if you and your partner use PreP treatment, which is highly effective against HIV - close to 100%, as well as using condoms, protecting against this and other STIs. Few if any other swingers use medication to prevent HIV infection.
Even if you visit a GUM clinic together and get negative results, there is typically a lag between infection and the point that tests reveal it. It's also possible that a false negative result can be returned.
Your own behaviour and assumption of responsibility is your best approach. "
The WHO guidlines
http://who.int/hiv/pub/guidance_prep/en/ |
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I think bareback is purely for someone you trust and are connected to...
Never do bb with fbs. If you go down that route... get tested together and you know where you both stand.
If they shy away... MOVE ON.
Don't put your health at risk for a quickie x |
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"I have asked some people, they either shy away or not mention their history at all.
So to you Fabbers, do you mention
STD's when speaking to your potential meet? And how can you be so sure that the person (you will most likely meet) does not have an STD, as this does worry me.
Do you ever ask your potential meet to have an STD test before you proceed? A friend of mine strongly suggested that I should do this.
Well I don't mind talking about it showing my results from my lasts tests but getting a person to go get tested doesn't really prove anything unless you expect them to forgo sex for a month before you two finally hook up and then trust them that they stuck to this.
Along with them trusting you the same"
It can actually take up to 3 months for some things to show in your system so you can only be certain someone is clear if they haven't had sex for at least that long before their test. |
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"I have asked some people, they either shy away or not mention their history at all.
So to you Fabbers, do you mention
STD's when speaking to your potential meet? And how can you be so sure that the person (you will most likely meet) does not have an STD, as this does worry me.
Do you ever ask your potential meet to have an STD test before you proceed? A friend of mine strongly suggested that I should do this.
Well I don't mind talking about it showing my results from my lasts tests but getting a person to go get tested doesn't really prove anything unless you expect them to forgo sex for a month before you two finally hook up and then trust them that they stuck to this.
Along with them trusting you the same
It can actually take up to 3 months for some things to show in your system so you can only be certain someone is clear if they haven't had sex for at least that long before their test."
The new hiv instant tests are down to around 3-4 weeks now. |
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Although if you really want to be certain the full detection limit for HIV is 12 months.
Hence why gay people can't give blood unless they haven't had sex for at least 12 months |
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"No need to question women about their sexual health.
During foreplay. Just stick your fingers inside her while you're kissing her. Then gently put those same fingers in her mouth.
If she backs away or spits your fingers out. Just end it.
If she won't taste her own fanny , why should you
That's the most ridiculous way of testing a woman on her sexual health I have ever had the misfortune to read "
Hilarious though |
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Op since you're in London you could both always just pop into the dean street express clinic.
Go in, fill in the computer questionairr get the swabs go to the bath room and do them (can do together if you wish) stuck the swabs in the tube and pop it in the chute.
Go downstairs and wait to be seen for bloods, you can both do the instant result HIV test then and there in front of each other too while you're giving blood samples.
Then you both get your results texted to you around 6 hours later.
If you do it in the morning you can be in bed together before dinner
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"I have asked some people, they either shy away or not mention their history at all.
So to you Fabbers, do you mention
STD's when speaking to your potential meet? And how can you be so sure that the person (you will most likely meet) does not have an STD, as this does worry me.
Do you ever ask your potential meet to have an STD test before you proceed? A friend of mine strongly suggested that I should do this."
If they ask I show them the text message from the GUM clinic |
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"I have asked some people, they either shy away or not mention their history at all.
So to you Fabbers, do you mention
STD's when speaking to your potential meet? And how can you be so sure that the person (you will most likely meet) does not have an STD, as this does worry me.
Do you ever ask your potential meet to have an STD test before you proceed? A friend of mine strongly suggested that I should do this."
Yes, I always ask people I'm thinking about sleeping with when their last test was, how regularly they get tested, and if they engage in high risk behaviour with people. |
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"Op since you're in London you could both always just pop into the dean street express clinic.
Go in, fill in the computer questionairr get the swabs go to the bath room and do them (can do together if you wish) stuck the swabs in the tube and pop it in the chute.
Go downstairs and wait to be seen for bloods, you can both do the instant result HIV test then and there in front of each other too while you're giving blood samples.
Then you both get your results texted to you around 6 hours later.
If you do it in the morning you can be in bed together before dinner
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Doesn't mean your actually clean though. As your still testing for a week or two ago and in some cases more x |
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"I have asked some people, they either shy away or not mention their history at all.
So to you Fabbers, do you mention
STD's when speaking to your potential meet? And how can you be so sure that the person (you will most likely meet) does not have an STD, as this does worry me.
Do you ever ask your potential meet to have an STD test before you proceed? A friend of mine strongly suggested that I should do this."
What good would that do any test they had would only show they were clear when they took the test.
They could walk out of the clinic meet and catch something or they could even be incubating something.
Hopefully all swingers get regular tests but in the end it is up to you to take what precautions you need to take to ease your fears.
If a person wants to meet it is likely they will say whatever you want to hear to get that meet.
Protect yourself rather than expect others to do it for you. |
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"I get tested and use condoms. If they ask I tell them that I get tested and use condoms. I never ask, because what are they going to say?
'Why yes, I do have the clap, but its not at the oozy stage yet'."
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I don't ask because I wouldn't necessarily trust the answer. It's all about acceptable level of risk. If I was *that* worried about it all then I wouldn't do this at all. The Newcastle clinic doesn't send you an all clear text so I'd have no "proof" to send anyone who wanted it. My sexual health is my responsibility not someone else's. And theirs isn't my responsibility either.
And for those worrying about herpes, statistically you probably already carry the virus. That's why they don't routinely test for it at many clinics. |
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