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what if a fb falls for you??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've done it fallen for a fb!.
Was totally gutted when it ended but looking back the past few months glad it did to be honest. I'm much happier, not waiting for that come over tonight text and now realise I was being used when he had a few drinks.
Never again!!.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope it's usually me that does the falling for them and that's all my own doing. The guys shouldn't indulge it though if they know the woman is starting to catch feelings. My last friend with benefits introduced me to friends and family, would go for meals out, cinema, took me to his friend and work colleagues wedding, that IMO was way beyond the duty of a fuck buddy and I mistakenly took all that as him wanting more, which he probably did but could see that I was too clingy and crazy so backed the fuck off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sleeping with someone I work with and he has feelings for me despite me saying it is only sex and I think I'm protecting myself as well because if I allowed if I could too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've done it fallen for a fb!.
Was totally gutted when it ended but looking back the past few months glad it did to be honest. I'm much happier, not waiting for that come over tonight text and now realise I was being used when he had a few drinks.
Never again!!.
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Yep I'm the same .. Fecking idiot I was.. Usually my guard is up.. I blame it on the worst yr ever ..
I would never go there again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had someone trying to control me but wouldn't class that as love. Also got a new guy being too invasive and that's putting me off him.
Love shouldn't bother you or make you feel you have you hide anything or change your behaviour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So the culprit is a lovely little chemical in our brains called oxytocin. The bonding hormone. Everyone excretes different amounts at different levels but generally a healthy brain will produce it when we hug or kiss and obviously, Fuck.
Now the tricky bit that we all want to deny.
If you spend enough time with one person, fucking and hanging out one of you WILL eventually fall for the other and if you have an exclusive Fuck buddy then that is a relationship. To stop this, limit the time you spend with them. (If you see each other three or four times a week then problems will occur. Have more than one and be fair to all of them. Having a bunch but one of them only having you may cause jealousy and above all else and this goes for all friendships; communicate. Check in with each others feelings and make sure everyone is in the right place.
This advice comes not from me, but the few sex therapists I trust.
Nerdy is sexy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not happened from here thankfully but has in the past.
I felt he was getting too close and when I cancelled him to do something with friends he sulked and stopped talking to me. Eventually he said he knew I had said I hadn't wanted more than NSA but he thought I would change my mind after a while.
Needles to say I didn't.
Fb's are just that, and I don't do the hanging out together thing for that reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So the culprit is a lovely little chemical in our brains called oxytocin. The bonding hormone. Everyone excretes different amounts at different levels but generally a healthy brain will produce it when we hug or kiss and obviously, Fuck.
Now the tricky bit that we all want to deny.
If you spend enough time with one person, fucking and hanging out one of you WILL eventually fall for the other and if you have an exclusive Fuck buddy then that is a relationship. To stop this, limit the time you spend with them. (If you see each other three or four times a week then problems will occur. Have more than one and be fair to all of them. Having a bunch but one of them only having you may cause jealousy and above all else and this goes for all friendships; communicate. Check in with each others feelings and make sure everyone is in the right place.
This advice comes not from me, but the few sex therapists I trust.
Nerdy is sexy"
Yeah I know that little chemical all too well, wish I could bottle it and slip it in people's drinks so they fall in love!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So the culprit is a lovely little chemical in our brains called oxytocin. The bonding hormone. Everyone excretes different amounts at different levels but generally a healthy brain will produce it when we hug or kiss and obviously, Fuck.
Now the tricky bit that we all want to deny.
If you spend enough time with one person, fucking and hanging out one of you WILL eventually fall for the other and if you have an exclusive Fuck buddy then that is a relationship. To stop this, limit the time you spend with them. (If you see each other three or four times a week then problems will occur. Have more than one and be fair to all of them. Having a bunch but one of them only having you may cause jealousy and above all else and this goes for all friendships; communicate. Check in with each others feelings and make sure everyone is in the right place.
This advice comes not from me, but the few sex therapists I trust.
Nerdy is sexy
Yeah I know that little chemical all too well, wish I could bottle it and slip it in people's drinks so they fall in love!
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I don't think you need it. You a gorgeous. |
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I had a regular fuck buddy a few years ago. We would regularly spend one or two evenings a week together.
As I was leaving one night she just kind of blurted out "I love you" which obviously made me stop in my tracks. I explained that I was under the impression that we were just nsa friends etc. After which she tried to tell me she didn't mean it like that, she felt the same etc...
I'm 90% sure she meant it very much and I had just broken her heart 
I felt horrible for such a long time. Prob made worse by the fact that I had feelings for her too but didn't admit it. |
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I fell for one of the meets at a party and we got on so well and I was with her 2 years but it messed things up on here I lost all my meets as they thought ii wa the bad one and ended it for me on here so think about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've done it fallen for a fb!.
Was totally gutted when it ended but looking back the past few months glad it did to be honest. I'm much happier, not waiting for that come over tonight text and now realise I was being used when he had a few drinks.
Never again!!.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a regular fuck buddy a few years ago. We would regularly spend one or two evenings a week together.
As I was leaving one night she just kind of blurted out "I love you" which obviously made me stop in my tracks. I explained that I was under the impression that we were just nsa friends etc. After which she tried to tell me she didn't mean it like that, she felt the same etc...
I'm 90% sure she meant it very much and I had just broken her heart
I felt horrible for such a long time. Prob made worse by the fact that I had feelings for her too but didn't admit it."
So why did'nt you share your feelings!!?? Coulda been something nice there love x |
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Have had that happen. But I don't act in a way that suggests I want more - no hanging out unnecessarily and blunt as to how things are but guess what? It sometimes happens.
I am under no illusions what I want from here - and that is passionate, kinky long sessions over possibly a weekend and that's it! Until we do it again, |
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"I had a regular fuck buddy a few years ago. We would regularly spend one or two evenings a week together.
As I was leaving one night she just kind of blurted out "I love you" which obviously made me stop in my tracks. I explained that I was under the impression that we were just nsa friends etc. After which she tried to tell me she didn't mean it like that, she felt the same etc...
I'm 90% sure she meant it very much and I had just broken her heart
I felt horrible for such a long time. Prob made worse by the fact that I had feelings for her too but didn't admit it.
So why did'nt you share your feelings!!?? Coulda been something nice there love x"
I know - I have moved out of the area now and last time we chatted she was seeing someone but not particularly happy |
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By *abel-30Woman
over a year ago
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Previously I have fallen for a FB. I would like to think they didn't notice, as soon as I realised it myself it was hyper aware of what I was saying or doing.. It passed.
Saying that I did once have a FB outright ask to get to know one another better, if it hadn't followed the statement let's stop having sex... I probably would have agreed |
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"I have a FB who seems to be in love with me but I strictly said it was NSA and I just can't commit myself to one person as I am bi.
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What has being bi got to do with not being committed to one person? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a FB who seems to be in love with me but I strictly said it was NSA and I just can't commit myself to one person as I am bi.
What has being bi got to do with not being committed to one person?"
That's what I thought. I know several bi people who still practice monogamy.  |
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I've never fallen for one myself but had a 3 fall for me, (one of which was a married man playing with his permission too) so I did the decent thing and walked away, to save leading them on (or in the case of the married man being the "home wrecker") shame too as the sex was great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have had fbs who have fallen for me but I'm quite blunt and explained I'm not looking for a relationship ect... just stopped fucking. Makes it easier.
I have kept very high walls and kept various fuck buddies at the same time so mine and their emotions don't get mixed.
You can tell quickly if it's gonna go that way... easier to explain it's nsa and move on to a new fb.
However I got caught out recently myself and grew feelings... explained what was going on and it's best to stop now, extremely lucky it was mutual =D... caught me completely off guard as never in 7yrs had it happened to me and was never looking for 'feelings'.
Were adults... communicate... good, bad and down right ugly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just can't commit myself to one person as I am bi.l"
You're non-monogamous. Non-monogamy has nothing to do with who you fancy. Don't use being bisexual as an excuse - it makes it much harder monogamous bisexual people to be trusted. |
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I had a fb that i developed feelings for and she for me. I let things fizzle out by not meeting so often and not responding to messages. Wish i had done it differently and told her. Such a wonderful woman. Still think of her to this day. Best to be adult and talk about things. Can still be fb's and have feelings i think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a FB who seems to be in love with me but I strictly said it was NSA and I just can't commit myself to one person as I am bi.
What has being bi got to do with not being committed to one person?"
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