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Overreacting a bit I think, he clearly DOES think you're stunning cos you are BUT, being a guy, is either a bit intimidated to say it and maybe doesn't engage brain properly before saying stuff ( I (D) do that all the time as it happens)x |
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over a year ago
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He's not as into you as you are into him...I can assume this because it's what I've said to a girl before when I was just happy to get the odd BJ/Booty call.
Just being real  |
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over a year ago
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"Is this the guy from the local shop who you hoped would fancy you ...you kept going into the shop ??"
I was wondering the same thing at first lol really want to know what happens with the young guy in the shop, I know when I was 19 I worked in a shop and there were lots of gorgeous older women I enjoyed flirting with and would have loved if they made it clear they wanted to meet and not just flirt  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a weird question to ask someone in the first place. When I'm meeting a guy i assume we fancy each other (i really hate that terminology makes me think of 13 year olds) otherwise we wouldn't be meeting. Wouldn't enter my head to ask it |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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One possible reason for saying that is if he thinks you are just meeting for NSA sex, then if he says he really fancies you, you might say you dont want to see him again. The perils of fab i guess |
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"So I've met this new guy a few times and each meet has been pretty damn amazing.... BUT! The other day I asked him if he fancies me, was kind of expecting the typical, Don't be daft, of course I do! Response but instead he said "Tbf I do a bit, theres something about you"    Wow! Bowled over or what? Lol. Really wish I hadn't asked and it's made me think, If I'm meeting someone, I want them to think that I'm pretty, dammit!  Would I really want to meet him again knowing that he fancies me "a bit" ?? Or am I overreacting? Opinions please xx"
He obviously does fancy you or He would of just left it at the one meeting and not come back for more. Maybe he was just trying to be cool and casual or something, who knows.?
TBF.. I think you look gorgeous and I fancy you..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He's not as into you as you are into him...I can assume this because it's what I've said to a girl before when I was just happy to get the odd BJ/Booty call.
Just being real "
Yep it's what I was thinking ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck""
Charming and gorgeous.. Your a man of many talents x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don't want the answer, then ..Don't ask the question !.....is my motto "
This is the advice I give to women as they're about to get on the back of the bike and ask if I've ever crashed before. |
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By *llebWoman
over a year ago
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"If you don't want the answer, then ..Don't ask the question !.....is my motto
This is the advice I give to women as they're about to get on the back of the bike and ask if I've ever crashed before."
Well I have the leathers and boots but no helmet anymore.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't asked that question before because i've always known the answer from the start but if i got that response i wouldn't see him again.
The passion my guys have for me is something i wouldn't go without and for that passion you need attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He's not as into you as you are into him...I can assume this because it's what I've said to a girl before when I was just happy to get the odd BJ/Booty call.
Just being real
Yep it's what I was thinking .. "
Oh man...Alice, you wasn't mean't to find out this way! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone. Don't get me wrong it's definitely just sex, nobodies falling in love with anyone! I'm not that type of girl lol. And maybe it seems like a weird question but we were just joking around when I said it, definitely wasn't being serious and am well aware that I'm not a teenage girl lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh and the guy in the shop, I did an update yesterday, nothings happened yet. Am quite enjoying the flirting! God, maybe I am like a 12 year old! haha xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say there are loads of guys on here who meet and fuck women they aren't really attracted to, for a lot the only requirement is your female, willing and clean, you can't expect every guy to think your drop dead gorgeous for some the ability to give them a good time in bed is far more important than look
it's a no strings sex site we have to be realistic
and to be honest so long as you get on and have good sex does it matter if he only thinks your ok looks wise |
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"If you don't want the answer, then ..Don't ask the question !.....is my motto
This is the advice I give to women as they're about to get on the back of the bike and ask if I've ever crashed before.
Well I have the leathers and boots but no helmet anymore.
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I've got a spare helmet :p
Just need a bike again now |
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"He's not as into you as you are into him...I can assume this because it's what I've said to a girl before when I was just happy to get the odd BJ/Booty call.
Just being real
Yep it's what I was thinking ..
Oh man...Alice, you wasn't mean't to find out this way! "
Ha ha ha .... Big brother is always watching  |
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"I think it's a weird question to ask someone in the first place. When I'm meeting a guy i assume we fancy each other (i really hate that terminology makes me think of 13 year olds) otherwise we wouldn't be meeting. Wouldn't enter my head to ask it"
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By *llebWoman
over a year ago
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"If you don't want the answer, then ..Don't ask the question !.....is my motto
This is the advice I give to women as they're about to get on the back of the bike and ask if I've ever crashed before.
Well I have the leathers and boots but no helmet anymore.
I've got a spare helmet :p
Just need a bike again now "
Not the weather anyway ..... You'd get blown off... Noooooo not in that way! ......tut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the sex is great then why does it matter. If your not looking for a relationship what difference is it going to make if hes drooling at you or just nodding appreciativly. Surely it would feel exactly the same |
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"I think it's a weird question to ask someone in the first place. When I'm meeting a guy i assume we fancy each other (i really hate that terminology makes me think of 13 year olds) otherwise we wouldn't be meeting. Wouldn't enter my head to ask it"
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By (user no longer on site)
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck""
I thought this too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck""
Thats what i thought |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I think it's a weird question to ask someone in the first place. When I'm meeting a guy i assume we fancy each other (i really hate that terminology makes me think of 13 year olds) otherwise we wouldn't be meeting. Wouldn't enter my head to ask it "
I was more thinking why ask if they fancy you, if all you want to know is if they think you are pretty or attractive? They are two different questions.
One is seeing if you want to be a bf/gf. The other is seeing if you find the other attractive. But why you would ask this after being so selective in finding the right guy for your needs, who actually turns up and is good at what he does and then comes back for more - is a mystery! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you took the guy by surprise with your question, subsequently, you put him in the difficult position of not knowing what you were referring too (fancy, as in lets have a relationship, may have crossed his mind)
If you had said something like... "Do you fancy me sexually?", you may have received an answer more along the lines of what you were hoping for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd probably rather a compliment like that than some hyperbolic bollocks about how I was the most amazing women they'd ever seen which is obviously untrue. What he said sounds honest and truthful and that's more flattering to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ouch.
I think if some guy I'd been fucking for a while said that to me, he'd be out the door.
To see someone repeatedly, you would expect both physical and emotional attraction at the very least. NSA is cool in clubs or for occasional meets, but the very fact you asked the question means that perhaps it's becoming more than OP, even if unintentionally? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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I would honestly say she needs to explain herself to this guy of he's gonna run.
Do you fancy me? Is completely different to; Do you think I am pretty?
She put him on the spot and he came up with the best answer he could to not answer the question. He hasn't thought about it away from her at all. 'There is something about you' is just that, it is not answering the question. It has left him thinking; this woman fancies me/wants a relationship with me. |
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"I would honestly say she needs to explain herself to this guy of he's gonna run.
Do you fancy me? Is completely different to; Do you think I am pretty?
She put him on the spot and he came up with the best answer he could to not answer the question. He hasn't thought about it away from her at all. 'There is something about you' is just that, it is not answering the question. It has left him thinking; this woman fancies me/wants a relationship with me. "
His willy may of still been damp....don't be mean hahahaha  . ....I'm trying really a hard and failing dismally haha |
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over a year ago
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There are Watershed Questions at various stages of any relationship, this being one that is asked fairly early on...These are usually jump off points...or not as the case may be... |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I would honestly say she needs to explain herself to this guy of he's gonna run.
Do you fancy me? Is completely different to; Do you think I am pretty?
She put him on the spot and he came up with the best answer he could to not answer the question. He hasn't thought about it away from her at all. 'There is something about you' is just that, it is not answering the question. It has left him thinking; this woman fancies me/wants a relationship with me.
His willy may of still been damp....don't be mean hahahaha . ....I'm trying really a hard and failing dismally haha"
he could have been inching off the bed and picking the hair out of his teeth yes lol
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"I would honestly say she needs to explain herself to this guy of he's gonna run.
Do you fancy me? Is completely different to; Do you think I am pretty?
She put him on the spot and he came up with the best answer he could to not answer the question. He hasn't thought about it away from her at all. 'There is something about you' is just that, it is not answering the question. It has left him thinking; this woman fancies me/wants a relationship with me. "
I agree with you, I also think there is a difference between being attracted to someone and fancying them.
If I had been having repeat great meets with someome I would assume (rightly or wrongly) that there was something about me they liked.
I think the way someome is when they are with you is all the confirmation I need.
1) they come back
2) their cock gets hard
What else do you need to know
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"I would honestly say she needs to explain herself to this guy of he's gonna run.
Do you fancy me? Is completely different to; Do you think I am pretty?
She put him on the spot and he came up with the best answer he could to not answer the question. He hasn't thought about it away from her at all. 'There is something about you' is just that, it is not answering the question. It has left him thinking; this woman fancies me/wants a relationship with me. I agree with you, I also think there is a difference between being attracted to someone and fancying them.
If I had been having repeat great meets with someome I would assume (rightly or wrongly) that there was something about me they liked.
I think the way someome is when they are with you is all the confirmation I need.
1) they come back
2) their cock gets hard
What else do you need to know
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The come back....forgot their shoes, socks , comb?
Their cocks gets hard....blue pills?
My view is, this is a swinging site not a dating site. If a man had of posted something similar, he would of been ripped a new arsehole. I've got friends with benefits, that I've had the pleasure of for years. I'd never dream of seeking to find out if they found me attractive, as surely your own instinct, should tell you. We've all had meets that weren't repeated. There's motive behind the OP and it's not the meets approval, I'm sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell people what they want to hear generally works. If it's nsa then it's even easier to stroke that Cat.
I am with some others why bother asking anyway if it's just a casual shag to you , fact they see you tells you enough they want to be with you for the meet anyway.
Keep on enjoying your sex life until you get bored and move on to next person etc
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After my daughter said my men friends must have Shallow Hal eyes when they look at me I had a good look at myself in the mirror and decided to ask two of them a question. I said I know I'm old and fat but do you think I'm ugly?
One laughed and said obviously not,the other said I don't fuck ugly woman. I then concluded that my blow jobs must be so amazing that they are compelled to come back year after year. That's enough for me |
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"After my daughter said my men friends must have Shallow Hal eyes when they look at me I had a good look at myself in the mirror and decided to ask two of them a question. I said I know I'm old and fat but do you think I'm ugly?
One laughed and said obviously not,the other said I don't fuck ugly woman. I then concluded that my blow jobs must be so amazing that they are compelled to come back year after year. That's enough for me "
what are shallow hal eyes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you looking for more?
Would he be trying to keep a distance so that unwanted and inappropriate feelings don't develop?
You see plenty of people on here where someone falls for someone else and it's horrible. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Was just meant to be a funny thread about my experience really Can't quite see why some of you think I want a relationship or put him on the spot or felt the need to ask, it wasnt as big as any of that, just a passing comment while we were chatting Oh and he hasn't run off either lol. I think some of you are right though, I do sometimes over analyse things people say xx |
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I was asked "Do you fancy me" on a first meet once...the answer was "Of course I do otherwise I wouldn't be here" If I didn't find the person attractive I wouldn't want to have fun with them anyway..To me "fancy" means want to have a sexual encounter with them - nothing more than that. What anyone's take on it is depends upon their definition of what "fancy" means. |
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"I was asked "Do you fancy me" on a first meet once...the answer was "Of course I do otherwise I wouldn't be here" If I didn't find the person attractive I wouldn't want to have fun with them anyway..To me "fancy" means want to have a sexual encounter with them - nothing more than that. What anyone's take on it is depends upon their definition of what "fancy" means. "
Yes! Thats what fancy means to me too! Thats why i was a bit confused lol x
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck"
Charming and gorgeous.. Your a man of many talents x"
I can also rub my tummy AND pat my head |
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck"
Charming and gorgeous.. Your a man of many talents x
I can also rub my tummy AND pat my head "
I would love to give you head..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Overreacting a bit I think, he clearly DOES think you're stunning cos you are BUT, being a guy, is either a bit intimidated to say it and maybe doesn't engage brain properly before saying stuff ( I (D) do that all the time as it happens)x"
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"I was asked "Do you fancy me" on a first meet once...the answer was "Of course I do otherwise I wouldn't be here" If I didn't find the person attractive I wouldn't want to have fun with them anyway..To me "fancy" means want to have a sexual encounter with them - nothing more than that. What anyone's take on it is depends upon their definition of what "fancy" means. Yes! Thats what fancy means to me too! Thats why i was a bit confused lol x"
He might have thought "fancy" means wanting to move the relationship on and before you know it you're an "item" and you're jealous of his other encounters and want him to yourself, texting him constantly and "accidentally" bumping into him as he is out and about...hence his caution...don't take it to heart...anyway I fancy the pants off you... |
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck"
Charming and gorgeous.. Your a man of many talents x
I can also rub my tummy AND pat my head "
Just not simultaneously |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tbh I'd expect the reaction to be a little more animated than it was, especially if I had met him a few times.
Nothing too OTT, but a little more enthusiasm wouldn't go a miss.
Overall though I think it depends on how you feel, if you're happy to meet again then so be it. However, if he's left you feeling a little underwhelmed then move on.
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"I wouldn't have asked the question in the first place.
They obviously like you if you've had repeat meets.
Shouldn't that be enough?"
No clearly not, they are expected to say how wonderful and absolutely drop dead gorgeous she is and how lucky they are. The fact that he hasnt answered as expected has irked the OP. |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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Ahh... I just did something similar last night and asked him to rate me out of 10 because he was always rating women in the club. Took him a while to answer and only said 7 after I said I thought I was a 5 and he was a 7.
Sometimes men especially on fab will "shag" a lot of women that they would not normally fancy in the real world. Just the same as I would like to shag men who are hot ripped and tall as I know that I would never be able to do that in real life. Men will find something sexy about a woman, women will find something they don't like about men. |
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"If you don't want the answer, then ..Don't ask the question !.....is my motto
Ditto. I hate "what age do you think I am" questions. Danger danger!!!"
Yep I dislike that question too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldn't have asked the question in the first place.
They obviously like you if you've had repeat meets.
Shouldn't that be enough?
No clearly not, they are expected to say how wonderful and absolutely drop dead gorgeous she is and how lucky they are. The fact that he hasnt answered as expected has irked the OP."
Sorry but thats not accurate at all. Ive added other responses to this post which youve obviously missed |
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck"
Charming and gorgeous.. Your a man of many talents x
I can also rub my tummy AND pat my head
I would love to give you head.. "
That escalated quickly!
Now how much is a ticket to Bournemouth
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""There's something about you"
means a lot more than
"stunning, gorgeous, amazing, any man would love to have you, etc"
It means he's actually thought about it when you're not there rather than just "I like her looks let's fuck"
Charming and gorgeous.. Your a man of many talents x
I can also rub my tummy AND pat my head
I would love to give you head..
That escalated quickly!
Now how much is a ticket to Bournemouth
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Not sure babe but I would make sure you have a very memorable visit. |
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To me there is a big difference between finding some attractive/good looking and fancying someone. I can find someone attractive without fancying them. For me fancying someone is the whole package, the way they conduct themselves, their sense of humour, their personality. These all need to be right for me to fancy someone. However they can be attractive without having any others redeeming attributes.
Hopefully this makes sense
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Let's face it some questions have no good answers.
What are the odds of him getting the response correct from being overly keen to underwhelming.
If he did not like the look of you he would not have been there. |
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