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Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?
I can never cum through the ministrations of other people, I'm the only one who can do it, myself. But that isn't a negative thing for me. When I cum I'm done. So the fact that I don't cum means I can enjoy sex (which feels fucking amazing obvs) for literally hours.
But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman? |
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
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I think it is always nice if you can help a lady cum, and cum more than once...but it's more important that both parties enjoy the experience....if you can make yourself cum I'd like to see that as part of the play....if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't bother me if a woman doesn't come when I'm in bed with her. And if a guy is relentless in trying to make me come, I'm likely to just kick him out of bed through boredom. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?
I can never cum through the ministrations of other people, I'm the only one who can do it, myself. But that isn't a negative thing for me. When I cum I'm done. So the fact that I don't cum means I can enjoy sex (which feels fucking amazing obvs) for literally hours.
But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman?"
Nah if it's like you describe then it's not an issue and if you like it's always fun to hold a woman while she gets her self off.
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
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"It doesn't bother me if a woman doesn't come when I'm in bed with her. And if a guy is relentless in trying to make me come, I'm likely to just kick him out of bed through boredom."
Not sure anyone likes the clitty bangers as I call them lol...you seem them at clubs....god knows what they are trying to do lol |
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"plus that could also give the guy an indication of what takes you over the edge...
Would you like someone else to make you cum, or it doesn't bother you?"
Nah, it doesn't bother me. I mean, I can do it whenever, and all the things that happens during sex I can't do myself, so that's what I'm there for. Lol |
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"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance .. "
Neeeayyyah and clip-clop (divers alarums) - enters stage left. "I have arrived but am yet to come"(que badum-tish) |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance .. "
tbh - a lot of the time it does come down to a guy that cannot fuck well. Yeah, a lot of guys say they can fuck for england but when a guy can actually fuck well, the woman knows what is what. |
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"It doesn't bother me if a woman doesn't come when I'm in bed with her. And if a guy is relentless in trying to make me come, I'm likely to just kick him out of bed through boredom."
Ha ha ha! Fair!
Yeah, I don't get bored during sex, but I do worry if the guy's having a good time. Lol |
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"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance .. "
Ha ha ha ha. I've heard this too many times, with no fruition, that I stopped feeling optimistic and hopeful years ago. Lol.
But I still enjoy all the vigorous trying that occurs. :D |
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"Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?
I can never cum through the ministrations of other people, I'm the only one who can do it, myself. But that isn't a negative thing for me. When I cum I'm done. So the fact that I don't cum means I can enjoy sex (which feels fucking amazing obvs) for literally hours.
But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman?
Nah if it's like you describe then it's not an issue and if you like it's always fun to hold a woman while she gets her self off.
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Zackly! This is what I like!  |
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"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..
Neeeayyyah and clip-clop (divers alarums) - enters stage left. "I have arrived but am yet to come"(que badum-tish)"
Like..... I don't *want* to laugh at that, but. |
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
West Midlands |
I've tried to discover what makes a woman orgasm...and it's different for different women..BUT..I've also met women, like you, who have never been able to cum when someone else does things to them...and that's cool....I often wonder if that is as much in the mind as in the physical..... |
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Op.. I'd doubt most guys would know. I do not orgasm much on meets through physical play. ( I may do while watching Mr with another lady while I'm being played with for instance ) but as a general rule I rarely orgasm on a meet.
I haven't really felt the need to mention it and if a guy asked I'd say I've had a great time .. so not quite a lie x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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(Mh) my aim is to please not to self satisfy my ego by making a woman cum, so aslong as the woman is happy I am happy. I can see where some men think its a challenge to make a woman cum, but if its not going to happen, it wont x If a woman wanted to but hasn't yet I give it my best shot |
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"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..
tbh - a lot of the time it does come down to a guy that cannot fuck well. Yeah, a lot of guys say they can fuck for england but when a guy can actually fuck well, the woman knows what is what."
Lol. ^This. :D
So many times I've been told I'll be "ruined", and afterwards I'm like "The only thing that has been ruined here is my hairstyle." lol |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..
tbh - a lot of the time it does come down to a guy that cannot fuck well. Yeah, a lot of guys say they can fuck for england but when a guy can actually fuck well, the woman knows what is what.
Lol. ^This. :D
So many times I've been told I'll be "ruined", and afterwards I'm like "The only thing that has been ruined here is my hairstyle." lol"
I can imagine lol |
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"I've tried to discover what makes a woman orgasm...and it's different for different women..BUT..I've also met women, like you, who have never been able to cum when someone else does things to them...and that's cool....I often wonder if that is as much in the mind as in the physical....."
Yeah, I 100% would accept that it is.
And yeah! Every woman is so different, it takes a lot of new learning for each woman. I feel men are much easier to get off... |
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
West Midlands |
"I've tried to discover what makes a woman orgasm...and it's different for different women..BUT..I've also met women, like you, who have never been able to cum when someone else does things to them...and that's cool....I often wonder if that is as much in the mind as in the physical.....
Yeah, I 100% would accept that it is.
And yeah! Every woman is so different, it takes a lot of new learning for each woman. I feel men are much easier to get off... "
totally....we are simple in almost every way lol |
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"Op.. I'd doubt most guys would know. I do not orgasm much on meets through physical play. ( I may do while watching Mr with another lady while I'm being played with for instance ) but as a general rule I rarely orgasm on a meet.
I haven't really felt the need to mention it and if a guy asked I'd say I've had a great time .. so not quite a lie x "
Heh.
It's just that many men have a habit of straight up asking....
Or you can tell they're aiming for that and won't stop until it happens. Lol.
Or they're talking about it happening, pre-meet, and I've always just been like, "look, I just need you to know..." lol |
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
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I think if you are meeting a decent enough person(s), and you all know the score it's all fine....I think a lot of guys assume that is the only way to know you've "satisfied someone...sadly." |
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"People don't seem to understand that sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.
Agreed; just arriving in Peterborough is a bit different to arriving in St Petersburg "
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
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"Saying that, I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum when he was with me.
I'd feel I was doing something wrong  "
Why? I've met many times and focused just on doing things for the lady....time meaning I've left and not cum. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?
I can never cum through the ministrations of other people, I'm the only one who can do it, myself. But that isn't a negative thing for me. When I cum I'm done. So the fact that I don't cum means I can enjoy sex (which feels fucking amazing obvs) for literally hours.
But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman?"
No it wouldn't put me off or make the experience any less enjoyable ; I love to see a woman pleasuring themselves - I also love it when a woman finishes themselves off by fingering their clitoris whilst I'm inside them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Saying that, I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum when he was with me.
I'd feel I was doing something wrong
Why? I've met many times and focused just on doing things for the lady....time meaning I've left and not cum."
I like seeing the man cum, it gives me pleasure seeing his cum on my breasts.
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"Saying that, I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum when he was with me.
I'd feel I was doing something wrong
Why? I've met many times and focused just on doing things for the lady....time meaning I've left and not cum.
I like seeing the man cum, it gives me pleasure seeing his cum on my breasts.
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Yeah, I get this same anxiety... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would much rather the lady was enjoying herself, whether that includes cumming or not. I don't always cum, it doesn't bother me, but it hasn't meant I haven't enjoyed myself any less. |
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