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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. |
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I check veris but that's to see who's verified them & that they seem legit. I don't actually look at the other profiles so can't say what their 'type' would be.
I've verified people met at clubs or events so it's not always that they've played with them.
If they are talking to me, interested in me, unless it's just friendly chit chat I really wouldn't worry about it  |
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Surely if someone messages you takes time out to get to know you and arranges a meet with you it means they like you.
I only look at peoples verifications for confirmation. Never entered my head to make a comparison
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope - it shows they are genuine and not going to waste your time if they agree to meet - however whats more important is the profile itself and do you share same expectations  |
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If you think about it though, surely if someone messages you and theyve met what you percieve to be stunners its a compliment as you know they are not just messaging you because they can't get meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. why would you be?
I know yours was a rhetorical question but it does bear asking.
Is the suggestion that perceived physical attractiveness is intimidating? "
it was a genuine question, but on the internet you can't always tell lol, plus could have been rhetoric as well now i think about it.
physical attractiveness of other people means nothing to me, unless i'm interested in that person and then i'm weighing them up as a potential partner that's all. there's no competition on here, i love the way swinging means no ownership of other people.
am qute surprised that some guys approach me and i've rejected them then i see who they do meet later and i think i never would've thought they'd fuck someone like him, mostly coz of their misogynist approach to me though and never really because of their looks.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you think about it though, surely if someone messages you and theyve met what you percieve to be stunners its a compliment as you know they are not just messaging you because they can't get meets"
Never said it was logical |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you think about it though, surely if someone messages you and theyve met what you percieve to be stunners its a compliment as you know they are not just messaging you because they can't get meets"
I completely agree with you. Also, lots of guys have very varied interests in women. Marc loves me and my body, for example, but sometimes he would like to appreciate someone who actually has boobs
However, as this conversation has played out here before, there is no convincing someone of this. If they don't feel comfortable, it ultimately doesn't matter if the guy is truly interested or how beautiful the woman is if she doesn't feel like she is their type.
I personally wish people could see how beautiful they are to so many different types of people, regardless.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do, I have loads of body issues and always look. I know I shouldn't but I can't help myself. If his past veris are stunning I get the wobbles."
Jenni, from your pics, you have absolutely nothing to be concerned about, besides, being gorgeous doesn't mean good sex or good fun to be with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??"
Yep, regularly. If I see a profile I like and the guy is only verified by slim, athletic girls I wouldn't bother messaging him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??"
Nope!
As any guy (or woman) who's met me knows, I'm extremely comfortable in my own skin whilst being well aware that I'm NOT stunning or gorgeous! If I see he's been with a woman who I think is gorgeous and she's bi - or a gorgeous couple then I'm more likely to suggest an mff/mfmf with her/them than feel jealous or intimidated!
Yes I know - I'm SUCH a tart!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Nope!
As any guy (or woman) who's met me knows, I'm extremely comfortable in my own skin whilst being well aware that I'm NOT stunning or gorgeous! If I see he's been with a woman who I think is gorgeous and she's bi - or a gorgeous couple then I'm more likely to suggest an mff/mfmf with her/them than feel jealous or intimidated!
Yes I know - I'm SUCH a tart! "
Do you give lessons?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Nope!
As any guy (or woman) who's met me knows, I'm extremely comfortable in my own skin whilst being well aware that I'm NOT stunning or gorgeous! If I see he's been with a woman who I think is gorgeous and she's bi - or a gorgeous couple then I'm more likely to suggest an mff/mfmf with her/them than feel jealous or intimidated!
Yes I know - I'm SUCH a tart!
Do you give lessons? "
Oh yes!! |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Nope!
As any guy (or woman) who's met me knows, I'm extremely comfortable in my own skin whilst being well aware that I'm NOT stunning or gorgeous! If I see he's been with a woman who I think is gorgeous and she's bi - or a gorgeous couple then I'm more likely to suggest an mff/mfmf with her/them than feel jealous or intimidated!
Yes I know - I'm SUCH a tart!
Do you give lessons?
Oh yes!! "
I am one satisfied student of hard... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one should ever be intimidated by anything or indeed anyone on this site and if you are then I would say the site isn't for you.....No matter who someone else has met and has verifications etc from shouldn't stop you from making contact with them or indeed meeting them....
Yes some people on here and very shallow and others totally up themselves but never ever let that intimidate you...Just use site for what it's really meant to be for FUN!!!! |
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are you implying op that there might be verifications that we feel we can't live up to?
I don't feel intimidated by any verification because I realise that both parties have contributed to it being a successful meet.
Do you ever feel that way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined I was intimidated by my meets' (and their other meets') level of experience. I'd just come out of a 13 year relationship and sex was a rarity, so I was quite worried that I wouldn't be very good at it. I've never been intimidated by looks though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??"
Yep a little if I'm honest - I see some veris and think 'WTF - I absolutely cannot compete with that!' 
Still wouldn't life be boring if all people did was meet ripped, hung, handsome, charming men hey?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. "
See in exactly he opposite to this. Some of the the worst sex I've ever had was with a couple of stunning women. Just because you're gorgeous doesn't mean you're good in bed!
That said however, if you need a hand getting over your insecurities....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
See in exactly he opposite to this. Some of the the worst sex I've ever had was with a couple of stunning women. Just because you're gorgeous doesn't mean you're good in bed!
That said however, if you need a hand getting over your insecurities....... "
No, but it's equally possible that the stunning woman with the scores of glowing veris is both gorgeous and fantastic in bed, and I'm not up for putting myself up for that kind of negative comparison, even if it's only my brain that's doing the comparing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
See in exactly he opposite to this. Some of the the worst sex I've ever had was with a couple of stunning women. Just because you're gorgeous doesn't mean you're good in bed!
That said however, if you need a hand getting over your insecurities.......
No, but it's equally possible that the stunning woman with the scores of glowing veris is both gorgeous and fantastic in bed, and I'm not up for putting myself up for that kind of negative comparison, even if it's only my brain that's doing the comparing.
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Believe me, any man that ends up in bed with you will be very lucky indeed. I have a sneaky feeling there'd be nobody else on their mind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
See in exactly he opposite to this. Some of the the worst sex I've ever had was with a couple of stunning women. Just because you're gorgeous doesn't mean you're good in bed!
That said however, if you need a hand getting over your insecurities.......
No, but it's equally possible that the stunning woman with the scores of glowing veris is both gorgeous and fantastic in bed, and I'm not up for putting myself up for that kind of negative comparison, even if it's only my brain that's doing the comparing.
Believe me, any man that ends up in bed with you will be very lucky indeed. I have a sneaky feeling there'd be nobody else on their mind! "
Thanks, and I'm not being a dick about the compliment but this was exceptional circumstances, she's a goddess! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
See in exactly he opposite to this. Some of the the worst sex I've ever had was with a couple of stunning women. Just because you're gorgeous doesn't mean you're good in bed!
That said however, if you need a hand getting over your insecurities.......
No, but it's equally possible that the stunning woman with the scores of glowing veris is both gorgeous and fantastic in bed, and I'm not up for putting myself up for that kind of negative comparison, even if it's only my brain that's doing the comparing.
Believe me, any man that ends up in bed with you will be very lucky indeed. I have a sneaky feeling there'd be nobody else on their mind!
Thanks, and I'm not being a dick about the compliment but this was exceptional circumstances, she's a goddess!"
Don't worry, I know you're not being a dick. But you really do have no reason to be intimidated, goddess or not I'm pretty sure you'd give her a damn good run for her money |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
See in exactly he opposite to this. Some of the the worst sex I've ever had was with a couple of stunning women. Just because you're gorgeous doesn't mean you're good in bed!
That said however, if you need a hand getting over your insecurities.......
No, but it's equally possible that the stunning woman with the scores of glowing veris is both gorgeous and fantastic in bed, and I'm not up for putting myself up for that kind of negative comparison, even if it's only my brain that's doing the comparing.
Believe me, any man that ends up in bed with you will be very lucky indeed. I have a sneaky feeling there'd be nobody else on their mind!
Thanks, and I'm not being a dick about the compliment but this was exceptional circumstances, she's a goddess!"
If it helps Ruby you'd be up there as one of the veris that I'd get panicked about. You're stunning - and the real bitch is you seem really nice too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
See in exactly he opposite to this. Some of the the worst sex I've ever had was with a couple of stunning women. Just because you're gorgeous doesn't mean you're good in bed!
That said however, if you need a hand getting over your insecurities.......
No, but it's equally possible that the stunning woman with the scores of glowing veris is both gorgeous and fantastic in bed, and I'm not up for putting myself up for that kind of negative comparison, even if it's only my brain that's doing the comparing.
Believe me, any man that ends up in bed with you will be very lucky indeed. I have a sneaky feeling there'd be nobody else on their mind!
Thanks, and I'm not being a dick about the compliment but this was exceptional circumstances, she's a goddess!
If it helps Ruby you'd be up there as one of the veris that I'd get panicked about. You're stunning - and the real bitch is you seem really nice too! "
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I've realised I don't hold much weight with other people's looks. I can see if someone is attractive or not but it comes across as people are being put on bloody pedestals because of what they look like.
Most people are average looking but with that something extra.
Not many people male or female have I come across that I'd describe as stunning.
Where all human
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it helps Ruby you'd be up there as one of the veris that I'd get panicked about. You're stunning - and the real bitch is you seem really nice too! "
It's all smoke and mirrors (and I'm really horrible ) It's not something that really worries me and I don't feel I'm missing out because of it, just thought I'd answer the original question honestly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. "
Ruby.. your ludicrously attractive. Poor guys pulling power messed him up in the end.. maybe you should message him. Im sure he would be very happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. "
Aw, thanks Ruby, I'm sure you're talking about me here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not intimated
But I do have a nose at the verifications
If his verified by someone with a name like cum slut bare back whore then I wouldn't meet them. "
As said above and also if they have hundreds of veris etc thats just off puttin.. i vet my meets alot lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've realised I don't hold much weight with other people's looks. I can see if someone is attractive or not but it comes across as people are being put on bloody pedestals because of what they look like.
Most people are average looking but with that something extra.
Not many people male or female have I come across that I'd describe as stunning.
Where all human
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Fair point... |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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I've got a fair few, I suppose.
I won't show veris that specifically mention the sex, or read like an excerpt from the 'letters page' of a porn mag, because what I get up to with somebody in the bedroom is, quite frankly nobody elses business but mine and theirs (you nosey fuckers. ).
I display ones that either a) make me laugh, b)are amusingly derogatory/sarcastic c)from someone I like or d)all of the above. Most are from socials etc now.
They also act as a kind of filter - if you can't actually read them and ascertain that most of them are social etc, then you are probably a twat and I don't want to meet you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no; apart from a brief glance,registering they have, or don't have veri's, i couldn't care less..not all my meets, previous relationships,boyfriends etc have been of a particular type at all, so i don't assume other peoples are.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not intimidated by others as I'd like to think the reason we're meeting is not solely down to looks alone. I like to meet people on the same wavelength as me too, even if it is nsa.
I think though, for me if I did feel that way I'd never meet anyone from here. Based on some of the men I know, they have met some gorgeous women and probably will continue to do so, I'd be forever comparing myself & feeling crap. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are"
I think I'm going to have to disagree with you here Hun! You're still pretty young, you have a classically attractive figure (ie slim) and, looking at your boobs I'd say you either haven't had kids or you were lucky enough not to be affected by childbirth (ie droopy boobs, stretch marks, saggy tum etc).
When women get older, have children and lose some of the assets that were previously necessary for their confidence it's easy to become insecure! Unlike the outside world - the pictures on her tend to be of other women (and men) undressed! If people are insecure about their looks or parts of their bodies then it's easy to feel intimidated/lack self confidence if you feel that a prospective meet has met people with 'better bodies' than you!
I thought like this once, for about half an hour, and then I thought 'fuck it I'll talk em into bed!! ' |
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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
I think I'm going to have to disagree with you here Hun! You're still pretty young, you have a classically attractive figure (ie slim) and, looking at your boobs I'd say you either haven't had kids or you were lucky enough not to be affected by childbirth (ie droopy boobs, stretch marks, saggy tum etc).
When women get older, have children and lose some of the assets that were previously necessary for their confidence it's easy to become insecure! Unlike the outside world - the pictures on her tend to be of other women (and men) undressed! If people are insecure about their looks or parts of their bodies then it's easy to feel intimidated/lack self confidence if you feel that a prospective meet has met people with 'better bodies' than you!
I thought like this once, for about half an hour, and then I thought 'fuck it I'll talk em into bed!! ' "
This is so true and hell a good bit of advice thank you xx |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
I think I'm going to have to disagree with you here Hun! You're still pretty young, you have a classically attractive figure (ie slim) and, looking at your boobs I'd say you either haven't had kids or you were lucky enough not to be affected by childbirth (ie droopy boobs, stretch marks, saggy tum etc).
When women get older, have children and lose some of the assets that were previously necessary for their confidence it's easy to become insecure! Unlike the outside world - the pictures on her tend to be of other women (and men) undressed! If people are insecure about their looks or parts of their bodies then it's easy to feel intimidated/lack self confidence if you feel that a prospective meet has met people with 'better bodies' than you!
I thought like this once, for about half an hour, and then I thought 'fuck it I'll talk em into bed!! ' "
You do like to talk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are"
Miaow. No, I was just answering the question in the opening post. Won't bother next time then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are"
If I wanted that I could start a look at me thread. I know the photos of me on here that you can see are ok, otherwise they wouldn't have made it this far. I answered honestly because I do have body issues, 3 kids and previously being overweight does that to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
Well it didn't work,no-one has told me how amazing I am. Where's the crying thingy  "
Here it is lovely, 
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
If I wanted that I could start a look at me thread. I know the photos of me on here that you can see are ok, otherwise they wouldn't have made it this far. I answered honestly because I do have body issues, 3 kids and previously being overweight does that to you. "
A "look at me" thread, here, on Fabs?
Who does that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
I think I'm going to have to disagree with you here Hun! You're still pretty young, you have a classically attractive figure (ie slim) and, looking at your boobs I'd say you either haven't had kids or you were lucky enough not to be affected by childbirth (ie droopy boobs, stretch marks, saggy tum etc).
When women get older, have children and lose some of the assets that were previously necessary for their confidence it's easy to become insecure! Unlike the outside world - the pictures on her tend to be of other women (and men) undressed! If people are insecure about their looks or parts of their bodies then it's easy to feel intimidated/lack self confidence if you feel that a prospective meet has met people with 'better bodies' than you!
I thought like this once, for about half an hour, and then I thought 'fuck it I'll talk em into bed!! '
This is so true and hell a good bit of advice thank you xx"
You're very welcome lovely! Works for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
If I wanted that I could start a look at me thread. I know the photos of me on here that you can see are ok, otherwise they wouldn't have made it this far. I answered honestly because I do have body issues, 3 kids and previously being overweight does that to you.
A "look at me" thread, here, on Fabs?
Who does that? "
I haven't. Yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
If I wanted that I could start a look at me thread. I know the photos of me on here that you can see are ok, otherwise they wouldn't have made it this far. I answered honestly because I do have body issues, 3 kids and previously being overweight does that to you.
A "look at me" thread, here, on Fabs?
Who does that?
I haven't. Yet. "
And yet I *still* look at you. Weird! |
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
Well it didn't work,no-one has told me how amazing I am. Where's the crying thingy
Here it is lovely,
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Oh thankyou,I always forget what it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
I think I'm going to have to disagree with you here Hun! You're still pretty young, you have a classically attractive figure (ie slim) and, looking at your boobs I'd say you either haven't had kids or you were lucky enough not to be affected by childbirth (ie droopy boobs, stretch marks, saggy tum etc).
When women get older, have children and lose some of the assets that were previously necessary for their confidence it's easy to become insecure! Unlike the outside world - the pictures on her tend to be of other women (and men) undressed! If people are insecure about their looks or parts of their bodies then it's easy to feel intimidated/lack self confidence if you feel that a prospective meet has met people with 'better bodies' than you!
I thought like this once, for about half an hour, and then I thought 'fuck it I'll talk em into bed!! '
You do like to talk. "
Weeeeeel! If you've got a talent - you should use it!! |
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"Not intimated
But I do have a nose at the verifications
If his verified by someone with a name like cum slut bare back whore then I wouldn't meet them. "
Best way to be. Can't understand why people risk their health going bb |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep.
There's a stunning couple on here, very experienced, who I haven't plucked up the courage to message.
I'm a good looking lad (if I do say so myself), and gauging myself against their veri's I stand up pretty well.
Just the difference in experience levels that's putting me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
If I wanted that I could start a look at me thread. I know the photos of me on here that you can see are ok, otherwise they wouldn't have made it this far. I answered honestly because I do have body issues, 3 kids and previously being overweight does that to you. "
It wasn't aimed at you, just a general observation x |
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
Well it didn't work,no-one has told me how amazing I am. Where's the crying thingy "
You're amazing, the legs on ya |
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
Well it didn't work,no-one has told me how amazing I am. Where's the crying thingy
You're amazing, the legs on ya "
Aw thanks humouring me though aren't ya,cheeky |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
Well it didn't work,no-one has told me how amazing I am. Where's the crying thingy
You're amazing, the legs on ya
Aw thanks humouring me though aren't ya,cheeky "
Nope that was a genuine compliment |
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"Nope and I feel a lot of women who say they are just want people to jump in and tell them how amazing they are
Well it didn't work,no-one has told me how amazing I am. Where's the crying thingy
You're amazing, the legs on ya
Aw thanks humouring me though aren't ya,cheeky
Nope that was a genuine compliment "
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
Ruby.. your ludicrously attractive. Poor guys pulling power messed him up in the end.. maybe you should message him. Im sure he would be very happy."
It was ages ago, he's long gone. And didn't really seem to give a shit either way anyway. |
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
Ruby.. your ludicrously attractive. Poor guys pulling power messed him up in the end.. maybe you should message him. Im sure he would be very happy.
It was ages ago, he's long gone. And didn't really seem to give a shit either way anyway. "
I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right. |
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"Surely if someone messages you takes time out to get to know you and arranges a meet with you it means they like you.
I only look at peoples verifications for confirmation. Never entered my head to make a comparison
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The way I look at it too.
I'm still very fat, I doubt many would have met bigger than me. I wouldn't be on this site or have met my Jason Statham lookalike other half if I had issues.
That said, in 12 years of meeting of the Internet he's the only one I felt nervous about meeting and I felt self conscious. |
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"Surely if someone messages you takes time out to get to know you and arranges a meet with you it means they like you.
I only look at peoples verifications for confirmation. Never entered my head to make a comparison
The way I look at it too.
I'm still very fat, I doubt many would have met bigger than me. I wouldn't be on this site or have met my Jason Statham lookalike other half if I had issues.
That said, in 12 years of meeting of the Internet he's the only one I felt nervous about meeting and I felt self conscious. "
before the internet every boyfriend I ever had I was always the biggest woman they had met (that includes jay) none of them had a natural preference for big women, yet they where attracted to me. Some of the relationships lasted short term some long term. But people are attracted to other people for a variety of reasons
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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Intimidated isn't the right word but I am a realist. I also know what I look like naked so if someone has only ever met slim, gorgeous, young ladies then I am probably not what they're looking for. |
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"Intimidated isn't the right word but I am a realist. I also know what I look like naked so if someone has only ever met slim, gorgeous, young ladies then I am probably not what they're looking for."
but why not? You may have the cutest smile they have ever seen or be the funniest or most intelligent. They may have a connection with you
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Intimidated isn't the right word but I am a realist. I also know what I look like naked so if someone has only ever met slim, gorgeous, young ladies then I am probably not what they're looking for.but why not? You may have the cutest smile they have ever seen or be the funniest or most intelligent. They may have a connection with you
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Very true. Which is why I tend to avoid reading veris if it's someone I really want to meet. It's much easier that way! Once there's a connection though I couldn't care less who they've met previously. |
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I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right."
Yeah I think if there was someone I really really wanted to meet enough it wouldn't have put me off. Maybe it's not me being insecure after all, he just failed to convince me he wanted to actually meet me. |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right.
Yeah I think if there was someone I really really wanted to meet enough it wouldn't have put me off. Maybe it's not me being insecure after all, he just failed to convince me he wanted to actually meet me. "
Good...I just wish people would realize that it's not about comparisons and we can be attracted to different individuals for all kinds of different reasons. I for one find you quite intoxicating.. |
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over a year ago
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I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right.
Yeah I think if there was someone I really really wanted to meet enough it wouldn't have put me off. Maybe it's not me being insecure after all, he just failed to convince me he wanted to actually meet me. "
I think that could be it. Some guys seem to get off on collecting verifications and displaying their prowess to anyone who will listen. I don't want to be seen as some sort of trophy. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right.
Yeah I think if there was someone I really really wanted to meet enough it wouldn't have put me off. Maybe it's not me being insecure after all, he just failed to convince me he wanted to actually meet me.
I think that could be it. Some guys seem to get off on collecting verifications and displaying their prowess to anyone who will listen. I don't want to be seen as some sort of trophy."
Surely not! |
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I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right.
Yeah I think if there was someone I really really wanted to meet enough it wouldn't have put me off. Maybe it's not me being insecure after all, he just failed to convince me he wanted to actually meet me.
I think that could be it. Some guys seem to get off on collecting verifications and displaying their prowess to anyone who will listen. I don't want to be seen as some sort of trophy.
Surely not! "
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over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Not in the slightest but I sometimes wonder what people see in me. A middle aged average man. "
Modesty and level headedness. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
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I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right.
Yeah I think if there was someone I really really wanted to meet enough it wouldn't have put me off. Maybe it's not me being insecure after all, he just failed to convince me he wanted to actually meet me.
I think that could be it. Some guys seem to get off on collecting verifications and displaying their prowess to anyone who will listen. I don't want to be seen as some sort of trophy.
Surely not!
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My desire to be a sort of trophy starts and ends with me getting stuffed and/or mounted. Oh and occasionally attached to a wall. |
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Not in the slightest but I sometimes wonder what people see in me. A middle aged average man. "
That post was a little more self-deprecating than I thought but when I look at the top fabbed men and shags and I sometimes wonder why I bother. |
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over a year ago
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I think you've hit on something there. I only seem to be intimidated when something else isn't quite right about that person. Nothing i can pinpoint just something that makes me feel.....not right.
Yeah I think if there was someone I really really wanted to meet enough it wouldn't have put me off. Maybe it's not me being insecure after all, he just failed to convince me he wanted to actually meet me.
I think that could be it. Some guys seem to get off on collecting verifications and displaying their prowess to anyone who will listen. I don't want to be seen as some sort of trophy.
Surely not!
My desire to be a sort of trophy starts and ends with me getting stuffed and/or mounted. Oh and occasionally attached to a wall. "
Oooooh yes....pinned against a wall works |
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??"
More the opposite.
The more verifications they have the better it shows that they understand the Golden Rule of No Strings Attached when Swinging.
And, that they are enjoying themselves with likeminded people!
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over a year ago
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. "
Oh my goodness your crazily gorgeous! Never compare yourself to others |
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Nope!
As any guy (or woman) who's met me knows, I'm extremely comfortable in my own skin whilst being well aware that I'm NOT stunning or gorgeous! If I see he's been with a woman who I think is gorgeous and she's bi - or a gorgeous couple then I'm more likely to suggest an mff/mfmf with her/them than feel jealous or intimidated!
Yes I know - I'm SUCH a tart! "
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??More the opposite.
The more verifications they have the better it shows that they understand the Golden Rule of No Strings Attached when Swinging.
And, that they are enjoying themselves with likeminded people!
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Nope!
As any guy (or woman) who's met me knows, I'm extremely comfortable in my own skin whilst being well aware that I'm NOT stunning or gorgeous! If I see he's been with a woman who I think is gorgeous and she's bi - or a gorgeous couple then I'm more likely to suggest an mff/mfmf with her/them than feel jealous or intimidated!
Yes I know - I'm SUCH a tart! "
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Not in the slightest but I sometimes wonder what people see in me. A middle aged average man. "
A good sense of humour and a good bum |
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over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Not in the slightest but I sometimes wonder what people see in me. A middle aged average man.
That post was a little more self-deprecating than I thought but when I look at the top fabbed men and shags and I sometimes wonder why I bother. "
That's why I don't look. Anyway I think you're tasty.  |
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over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Not in the slightest but I sometimes wonder what people see in me. A middle aged average man.
A good sense of humour and a good bum "
And the bicep, don't forget the bicep... |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Not in the slightest but I sometimes wonder what people see in me. A middle aged average man.
A good sense of humour and a good bum
And the bicep, don't forget the bicep..."
Only the one bicep? |
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over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Not in the slightest but I sometimes wonder what people see in me. A middle aged average man.
A good sense of humour and a good bum
And the bicep, don't forget the bicep...
Only the one bicep? "
Well he does only have the one on display |
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over a year ago
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"Not intimated
But I do have a nose at the verifications
If his verified by someone with a name like cum slut bare back whore then I wouldn't meet them. "
why not lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In answer to the op though, not really, I'll glance over folks veris but tend not to read them all in too fine a detail or get over absorbed with what they might mean for me....
I'm me, people meet me and what happens happens |
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over a year ago
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It's happened to me. Back when i was bi, i was laying in post coital bliss in the arms of an old man who'd just made sweet love to me. As i absent mindedly stroked his spent wet cock, and he fingered my still gaping ass, i happened to mention my lack of mail. I had in fact instigated our bedroom liaison...he told me, as he kissed my neck tenderly, that i was just to damn good looking. A cross i bare to this day.. |
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over a year ago
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"There are people on here who would see a verification from a fat woman on an attractive man's profile and think he has an any hole's a goal attitude. "
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. |
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"There are people on here who would see a verification from a fat woman on an attractive man's profile and think he has an any hole's a goal attitude.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
To some. Some would look at a man's verifications and in amongst the slim women see a fat one and think he must have been desperate that day. I don't care who a man has had sex with before me,looks wise. |
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"Nope. No woman intimidates me, I know my own individual worth.
Great answer, I wish more people knew their own worth."
Often, those who 'know' their own worth, use very strange ways to measure it.
Like a Sky remote control...or the number of Fabs/messages they get.
Neither are a true measure of self worth. |
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over a year ago
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. "
This.
I would be constantly convinced they were comparing and I couldn't match up. So I'd rather not bother trying. |
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"Nope. No woman intimidates me, I know my own individual worth.
Great answer, I wish more people knew their own worth."
I fully understand my own worth, I just have no desire to put myself in a situation in which I will feel uncomfortable. |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Nope. No woman intimidates me, I know my own individual worth.
Great answer, I wish more people knew their own worth.
I fully understand my own worth, I just have no desire to put myself in a situation in which I will feel uncomfortable. "
You have so much going for you Ruby and are incredibly attractive - but I do understand where you are coming from..  |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Are you?"
Not these days...I think in the early days I was perhaps a bit intimidated by the idea of not satisfying a woman who obviously also enjoyed extremely well hung guys, however, I have learned that most such women (and all those who I have met) get plenty (and sometimes I am told more) pleasure from my slightly more modest size. |
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
This.
I would be constantly convinced they were comparing and I couldn't match up. So I'd rather not bother trying. "
Do you compare? I don't,and I assume others don't if they have contacted me. |
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"Nope. No woman intimidates me, I know my own individual worth.
Great answer, I wish more people knew their own worth."
Does knowing your own worth not include being realistic about one's own level of attractiveness? I'm hardly going to strutt about yelling from the roof tops that i am the most attractive thing since a really attractive thing, and that I'm a fantastic Fuck when i know I'm neither of those things...i still know my own worth knowing that there are others who would probably be a better meet than I. We can't all be the best. The difference is some of us don't see it as a competition or a comparison website |
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over a year ago
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"Nope. No woman intimidates me, I know my own individual worth.
Great answer, I wish more people knew their own worth.
Does knowing your own worth not include being realistic about one's own level of attractiveness? I'm hardly going to strutt about yelling from the roof tops that i am the most attractive thing since a really attractive thing, and that I'm a fantastic Fuck when i know I'm neither of those things...i still know my own worth knowing that there are others who would probably be a better meet than I. We can't all be the best. The difference is some of us don't see it as a competition or a comparison website "
Whaaaaaaaaaa
No wonder I couldn't find car insurance here |
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"Nope. No woman intimidates me, I know my own individual worth.
Great answer, I wish more people knew their own worth.
Does knowing your own worth not include being realistic about one's own level of attractiveness? I'm hardly going to strutt about yelling from the roof tops that i am the most attractive thing since a really attractive thing, and that I'm a fantastic Fuck when i know I'm neither of those things...i still know my own worth knowing that there are others who would probably be a better meet than I. We can't all be the best. The difference is some of us don't see it as a competition or a comparison website
Whaaaaaaaaaa
No wonder I couldn't find car insurance here "
I know....i was only trying to switch energy suppliers |
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??"
This is a site filled with all sorts of people. Anyone I compare myself to probably says more about my own insecurities than anything else.
I'm not an experienced swinger, I can't fuck for hours, I'm not naturally dominant, I'm not traditionally handsome, I don't have a huge cock, I don't have a nice deep dark-chocolate voice.
These things are my insecurities, so if I knew a lady was really interested in any of these things then I'd be put off and would be quite uncomfortable meeting her. |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
This is a site filled with all sorts of people. Anyone I compare myself to probably says more about my own insecurities than anything else.
I'm not an experienced swinger, I can't fuck for hours, I'm not naturally dominant, I'm not traditionally handsome, I don't have a huge cock, I don't have a nice deep dark-chocolate voice.
These things are my insecurities, so if I knew a lady was really interested in any of these things then I'd be put off and would be quite uncomfortable meeting her. "
Interesting...but then if you are open an honest when communicating with her (as it strikes me you almost certainly are) then do you not feel that if there is a mutual attraction then this is enough to be confident that a meet would go well? After all I am sure that like me you must be attracted to and enjoy sex with lots of very different female 'types'.. |
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
This is a site filled with all sorts of people. Anyone I compare myself to probably says more about my own insecurities than anything else.
I'm not an experienced swinger, I can't fuck for hours, I'm not naturally dominant, I'm not traditionally handsome, I don't have a huge cock, I don't have a nice deep dark-chocolate voice.
These things are my insecurities, so if I knew a lady was really interested in any of these things then I'd be put off and would be quite uncomfortable meeting her.
Interesting...but then if you are open an honest when communicating with her (as it strikes me you almost certainly are) then do you not feel that if there is a mutual attraction then this is enough to be confident that a meet would go well? After all I am sure that like me you must be attracted to and enjoy sex with lots of very different female 'types'.."
If insecurities were rational, as others have said, you'd no doubt be able to overcome them with reasonable and rational thoughts such as this!
But lots of people have those little thoughts which don't go away no matter what nice things are said to them. |
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. "
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
This is a site filled with all sorts of people. Anyone I compare myself to probably says more about my own insecurities than anything else.
I'm not an experienced swinger, I can't fuck for hours, I'm not naturally dominant, I'm not traditionally handsome, I don't have a huge cock, I don't have a nice deep dark-chocolate voice.
These things are my insecurities, so if I knew a lady was really interested in any of these things then I'd be put off and would be quite uncomfortable meeting her.
Interesting...but then if you are open an honest when communicating with her (as it strikes me you almost certainly are) then do you not feel that if there is a mutual attraction then this is enough to be confident that a meet would go well? After all I am sure that like me you must be attracted to and enjoy sex with lots of very different female 'types'..
If insecurities were rational, as others have said, you'd no doubt be able to overcome them with reasonable and rational thoughts such as this!
But lots of people have those little thoughts which don't go away no matter what nice things are said to them. "
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Once or twice - for reasons similar to those previously mentioned... The veris of a lady I have planned meet in a few weeks time are mainly from guys with ripped torsos, large willies and lots of experience....
Perhaps intimidated isn't the precise word for the feeling...but there is a sense of :
'Hmm...I hope I don't disappoint'!!
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"Once or twice - for reasons similar to those previously mentioned... The veris of a lady I have planned meet in a few weeks time are mainly from guys with ripped torsos, large willies and lots of experience....
Perhaps intimidated isn't the precise word for the feeling...but there is a sense of :
'Hmm...I hope I don't disappoint'!!
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And being a fella you don't want performance anxiety thoughts to creep in... Otherwise it's hello Mr Floppy |
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over a year ago
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??
Are you?
Not these days...I think in the early days I was perhaps a bit intimidated by the idea of not satisfying a woman who obviously also enjoyed extremely well hung guys, however, I have learned that most such women (and all those who I have met) get plenty (and sometimes I am told more) pleasure from my slightly more modest size."
Stop being a soft cock |
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"Are you ever intimidated by the type of previous meets a person you are attracted to has had??"
Not any more. If we have a dialogue going and they are happy to meet so am I.
Been punching above my weight (in my eyes) for so long that I have learned to value myself more highly than before. And by this I mean personality as well as looks x |
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though. "
Yea, I've done this too, more to do with my own issues than being intimidated. |
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"Once or twice - for reasons similar to those previously mentioned... The veris of a lady I have planned meet in a few weeks time are mainly from guys with ripped torsos, large willies and lots of experience....
Perhaps intimidated isn't the precise word for the feeling...but there is a sense of :
'Hmm...I hope I don't disappoint'!!
And being a fella you don't want performance anxiety thoughts to creep in... Otherwise it's hello Mr Floppy "
Indeed - good thing I really enjoy foreplay!! |
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"I've cancelled a prospective meet with someone after he had a meet with a ludicrously attractive woman (she's possibly the most gorgeous woman on this site). It just set off all my insecurities and I knew I'd never enjoy myself with him now. Other than that, if someone's previous meets displays they have a specific 'type' and that's not me then I wouldn't go there. Intimidated would be the wrong word though.
Yea, I've done this too, more to do with my own issues than being intimidated."
Me too. |
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