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Hey
So I see a lot of couples profiles that either have only the woman's face pic or no pic of the male at all. Why?
Isn't the male part of the meet too? This is especially strange in couples wanting to do full swap??
Any thoughts or can anyone educate me? |
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There are loads of reasons but we just avoid those profiles because in our experience it means the man doesn't actually want to swap. I stress this is just our experience and I have no problem with people putting exactly what pictures they want on their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had a couple msg us who only had and sent pics of the guy. When we asked why, he said nobody cares what the female looks like, its just a given that people will want to have sex with her
(Funnily enough when we did get one of her we didn't) |
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"We had a couple msg us who only had and sent pics of the guy. When we asked why, he said nobody cares what the female looks like, its just a given that people will want to have sex with her
(Funnily enough when we did get one of her we didn't)"
That made me laugh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Other people will come up with some fantastical theories on why they believe couples do this.
I can only advise on why we do. There no complex explanation other than I like taking pictures of myself.
Our private pics are pics of the two of us, there are a few of Mr Iconic on his own. These are sent to people we have an interest in meeting
We don't compromise for anyone, our profile has always been this way, its not likely to change
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't care as we know we are genuine and who cares who sees our pic . Yes there should be pics of both if your a couple but it's there choice . Would rather perv at a women though
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The female 'sells' the profile better.
It's hard to distinguish on here a couple's profile from a single woman's at times."
This
We have more of me because I like taking pics. Marc is too busy working and playing video games. But we do make sure to have a few of him so people can see what his body looks like
-Courtney |
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"The female 'sells' the profile better.
It's hard to distinguish on here a couple's profile from a single woman's at times.
This
We have more of me because I like taking pics. Marc is too busy working and playing video games. But we do make sure to have a few of him so people can see what his body looks like
-Courtney" |
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We just threw in a couple of token pics of male, it's quite obvious on this site the majority of couples (unlike us) focus on the female half and let's face it, you can have a much better variety with female pics, males are rather limited! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey
So I see a lot of couples profiles that either have only the woman's face pic or no pic of the male at all. Why?
Isn't the male part of the meet too? This is especially strange in couples wanting to do full swap??
Any thoughts or can anyone educate me?"
I dont play at all on our meets so no reason at all to know what I look like |
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Any ladies or couples any suggestions as to the type of pics (other than face as they are on request only) you would like to see of the male half in a couples profile. We have the standard cock pic (because he has one) and a torso pic, we kind of ran out of ideas after that so suggestions welcome x |
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"Any ladies or couples any suggestions as to the type of pics (other than face as they are on request only) you would like to see of the male half in a couples profile. We have the standard cock pic (because he has one) and a torso pic, we kind of ran out of ideas after that so suggestions welcome x"
I'm not interested in meeting couples, so you might wanna discard what i like, but i quite like seeing couples together - just looking happy with each other.
Perving on men factor; pic with everything on show, body and hard cock at once, preferably the pic being taken low down so you get a view of the balls and cock mostly but the torso and some thigh is there too. Prefer a face on it but if people don't do that then a headless version is fine.
I quite like guys mirror shots too, where they take full length pic of their body and their cock isn't hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My Mrs grumbles at this quite a lot too.
You see a profile that looks nice, you chat, you ask for pics and you only get the lady.
Her response is usually one similar to "Great for you, but what about me?" |
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"My Mrs grumbles at this quite a lot too.
You see a profile that looks nice, you chat, you ask for pics and you only get the lady.
Her response is usually one similar to "Great for you, but what about me?""
That's what I as the woman of the couple think in that situation given that I'm straight but its a useful filter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have both on our profile, but more of Kim, ladies can put a bit of variety into their pics ie lingerie, heels Etc, guys tend to be limited to nude or shorts only |
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"Other people will come up with some fantastical theories on why they believe couples do this.
I can only advise on why we do. There no complex explanation other than I like taking pictures of myself.
Our private pics are pics of the two of us, there are a few of Mr Iconic on his own. These are sent to people we have an interest in meeting
We don't compromise for anyone, our profile has always been this way, its not likely to change
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We are the same. I love taking pics of myself and M likes taking them of me. |
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"There you go, tried a couple, see how well they go down! And a mandatory tit pic too x Thanks guys (feedback welcome but don't be to cruel) x"
Yep, point proven 2 torso pics, one tit pic, torso pics 2, tit pics 15 (and all the other tit pics that get fabed as a curtosy)
That's why OP, there's no point putting pics of the male half up. |
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I think most assume that if is mainly the woman who will "sell" the profile.
I disagree... Cal may not be interested in what the bloke looks like but I am.
We want to see both so have have tried to have a good selection of us both. Though there are more of me as Cal prefers taking photos than being in them.
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"There you go, tried a couple, see how well they go down! And a mandatory tit pic too x Thanks guys (feedback welcome but don't be to cruel) x
Yep, point proven 2 torso pics, one tit pic, torso pics 2, tit pics 15 (and all the other tit pics that get fabed as a curtosy)
That's why OP, there's no point putting pics of the male half up. "
It doesn't matter to us what gets fabbed. Photos are important to show what both members of the couple look like. |
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"There you go, tried a couple, see how well they go down! And a mandatory tit pic too x Thanks guys (feedback welcome but don't be to cruel) x
Yep, point proven 2 torso pics, one tit pic, torso pics 2, tit pics 15 (and all the other tit pics that get fabed as a curtosy)
That's why OP, there's no point putting pics of the male half up. "
The point for me as a straight woman in a couple is that I like to be extended the same courtesy as is extended to my partner, that is the opportunity to see who I might be having sex with. If a couple contact us and there is no picture of the man and they don't attach one we won't take it any further. |
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"There you go, tried a couple, see how well they go down! And a mandatory tit pic too x Thanks guys (feedback welcome but don't be to cruel) x
Yep, point proven 2 torso pics, one tit pic, torso pics 2, tit pics 15 (and all the other tit pics that get fabed as a curtosy)
That's why OP, there's no point putting pics of the male half up. "
Well if someone wants to meet you, the point isn't for Fabs but for people to see who they're meeting, is it not? |
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We have some of rob on ours but it's mostly all me We love the reaction to our pics in the form of fab's. Male pics don't get anything like as much attention as female ones so there's less incentive for us to take them and put them out there |
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"There you go, tried a couple, see how well they go down! And a mandatory tit pic too x Thanks guys (feedback welcome but don't be to cruel) x
Yep, point proven 2 torso pics, one tit pic, torso pics 2, tit pics 15 (and all the other tit pics that get fabed as a curtosy)
That's why OP, there's no point putting pics of the male half up.
Well if someone wants to meet you, the point isn't for Fabs but for people to see who they're meeting, is it not? "
If it's a couple wanting to meet couples it's rude to only have pics of the woman. It's like saying the woman in the other couple will have to fuck the guy no matter what he looks like. |
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"I need to fancy both if I'm to meet a couple. If they don't have male pics on the profile or send them i don't even bother to reply. I shouldn't have to ask imho "
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"There you go, tried a couple, see how well they go down! And a mandatory tit pic too x Thanks guys (feedback welcome but don't be to cruel) x
Yep, point proven 2 torso pics, one tit pic, torso pics 2, tit pics 15 (and all the other tit pics that get fabed as a curtosy)
That's why OP, there's no point putting pics of the male half up.
Well if someone wants to meet you, the point isn't for Fabs but for people to see who they're meeting, is it not?
If it's a couple wanting to meet couples it's rude to only have pics of the woman. It's like saying the woman in the other couple will have to fuck the guy no matter what he looks like. "
But that's ok Scarlet us women who swing will have sex with anybody, it's a well known fact |
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"There you go, tried a couple, see how well they go down! And a mandatory tit pic too x Thanks guys (feedback welcome but don't be to cruel) x
Yep, point proven 2 torso pics, one tit pic, torso pics 2, tit pics 15 (and all the other tit pics that get fabed as a curtosy)
That's why OP, there's no point putting pics of the male half up.
Well if someone wants to meet you, the point isn't for Fabs but for people to see who they're meeting, is it not?
If it's a couple wanting to meet couples it's rude to only have pics of the woman. It's like saying the woman in the other couple will have to fuck the guy no matter what he looks like.
But that's ok Scarlet us women who swing will have sex with anybody, it's a well known fact "
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"The female 'sells' the profile better.
It's hard to distinguish on here a couple's profile from a single woman's at times."
I can understand this when the couple are looking for single guys only - but just don't get it when they're looking for fems or couples! I have to have the hots for both if I'm going to play with a couple - neither is 'more important ' than the other!
If couples message me and I don't see pics of the guy on the profile then rightly or wrongly I just assume it's because he's unattractive or out of shape! X |
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"The female 'sells' the profile better.
It's hard to distinguish on here a couple's profile from a single woman's at times.
I can understand this when the couple are looking for single guys only - but just don't get it when they're looking for fems or couples! I have to have the hots for both if I'm going to play with a couple - neither is 'more important ' than the other!
If couples message me and I don't see pics of the guy on the profile then rightly or wrongly I just assume it's because he's unattractive or out of shape! X"
Or dare I say they want just a show and you're not expected to play with him |
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"The female 'sells' the profile better.
It's hard to distinguish on here a couple's profile from a single woman's at times.
I can understand this when the couple are looking for single guys only - but just don't get it when they're looking for fems or couples! I have to have the hots for both if I'm going to play with a couple - neither is 'more important ' than the other!
If couples message me and I don't see pics of the guy on the profile then rightly or wrongly I just assume it's because he's unattractive or out of shape! X
Or dare I say they want just a show and you're not expected to play with him "
Possibly - but that would count me out anyway! I'm a willy fan!! |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I disagree as I found out you can do things with photos for the guys....
I agree nude or shorts is the way but then you have to be creative with poses, and lighting
I would say on a couples profile whilst I like seeing the female, as I like women I would like to make sure I see the male and female together
A preference I suppose |
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"The female 'sells' the profile better.
It's hard to distinguish on here a couple's profile from a single woman's at times.
I can understand this when the couple are looking for single guys only - but just don't get it when they're looking for fems or couples! I have to have the hots for both if I'm going to play with a couple - neither is 'more important ' than the other!
If couples message me and I don't see pics of the guy on the profile then rightly or wrongly I just assume it's because he's unattractive or out of shape! X
Or dare I say they want just a show and you're not expected to play with him
Possibly - but that would count me out anyway! I'm a willy fan!! "
Yeah me too. Big willy fan |
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Because lots of people don't give enough credit to women's sexual agency. In this situation the woman in the could is used to sell the couple, and it's assumed that the male in the other couple is the 'buyer'. Both of the women in a couple/couple swap are assumed to have no agency. The men are the important ones here, hence there being no man on 'sale'.
I avoid them. |
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We started out with mostly pics of the wife.However Mr. has now grown a pair of balls and succumbed to wifes wishes of more hubby pics on our profile. Still think she looks more photogenic than myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we have only met with single guys and they have no interest in how my other half looks as long as i am appealing to them. If we decide to meet couples in future pictures of my hubby will be shared. |
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By *oddamnCouple
over a year ago
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We were guilty of this, taking off the unfabbed photos of me thinking the much fabbed Mrs G pics would be more popular
Then we stopped trying to win a most fabbed contest, and uploaded some pics of me to make it better for proper couples. |
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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago
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"Hey
So I see a lot of couples profiles that either have only the woman's face pic or no pic of the male at all. Why?
Isn't the male part of the meet too? This is especially strange in couples wanting to do full swap??
Any thoughts or can anyone educate me?"
We only seek single males so it's of no relevance to have Mr on there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Baloney!
We have alternated our pic's in many different ways, from having non of her all of him, a mixture, male profile pic.
And it's not made a difference to the messages we get.
And I am incredibly good looking, charming and witty. And people are still only interested in jools.
So fuck ugly guy's are doomed.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Because lots of people don't give enough credit to women's sexual agency. In this situation the woman in the could is used to sell the couple, and it's assumed that the male in the other couple is the 'buyer'. Both of the women in a couple/couple swap are assumed to have no agency. The men are the important ones here, hence there being no man on 'sale'.
I avoid them."
This is your opinion and it is far too big a step to suggest it is generally true. In our experience the female half of a couple has a far greater say in the choice of potential playmates - but that's our experience and I wouldn't be arrogant enough to suggest it's a general rule.
There are as many different reasons for choosing a balance of m/f pictures as there are profiles. There is really no need for explanations. If the balance doesn't suit you, move on. |
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"Because lots of people don't give enough credit to women's sexual agency. In this situation the woman in the could is used to sell the couple, and it's assumed that the male in the other couple is the 'buyer'. Both of the women in a couple/couple swap are assumed to have no agency. The men are the important ones here, hence there being no man on 'sale'.
I avoid them.
This is your opinion and it is far too big a step to suggest it is generally true. In our experience the female half of a couple has a far greater say in the choice of potential playmates - but that's our experience and I wouldn't be arrogant enough to suggest it's a general rule.
There are as many different reasons for choosing a balance of m/f pictures as there are profiles. There is really no need for explanations. If the balance doesn't suit you, move on. "
The OP asked for thoughts. I gave my thoughts. I'm sorry they don't agree with yours.
You say 'there's no need for explanations' but the OP asked why people thought that people might do this with their own profiles.
I gave my thoughts based on my own experiences, education, and thinking about the subject. Which is what the OP asked for. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Because lots of people don't give enough credit to women's sexual agency. In this situation the woman in the could is used to sell the couple, and it's assumed that the male in the other couple is the 'buyer'. Both of the women in a couple/couple swap are assumed to have no agency. The men are the important ones here, hence there being no man on 'sale'.
I avoid them.
This is your opinion and it is far too big a step to suggest it is generally true. In our experience the female half of a couple has a far greater say in the choice of potential playmates - but that's our experience and I wouldn't be arrogant enough to suggest it's a general rule.
There are as many different reasons for choosing a balance of m/f pictures as there are profiles. There is really no need for explanations. If the balance doesn't suit you, move on.
The OP asked for thoughts. I gave my thoughts. I'm sorry they don't agree with yours.
You say 'there's no need for explanations' but the OP asked why people thought that people might do this with their own profiles.
I gave my thoughts based on my own experiences, education, and thinking about the subject. Which is what the OP asked for."
My goodness me...aren't you touchy! |
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"Other people will come up with some fantastical theories on why they believe couples do this.
I can only advise on why we do. There no complex explanation other than I like taking pictures of myself.
Our private pics are pics of the two of us, there are a few of Mr Iconic on his own. These are sent to people we have an interest in meeting
We don't compromise for anyone, our profile has always been this way, its not likely to change
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I like this response
We only really meet single guys so we tend to have pics of me L on our profile, we have plenty of S in our friends pics |
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"Because lots of people don't give enough credit to women's sexual agency. In this situation the woman in the could is used to sell the couple, and it's assumed that the male in the other couple is the 'buyer'. Both of the women in a couple/couple swap are assumed to have no agency. The men are the important ones here, hence there being no man on 'sale'.
I avoid them.
This is your opinion and it is far too big a step to suggest it is generally true. In our experience the female half of a couple has a far greater say in the choice of potential playmates - but that's our experience and I wouldn't be arrogant enough to suggest it's a general rule.
There are as many different reasons for choosing a balance of m/f pictures as there are profiles. There is really no need for explanations. If the balance doesn't suit you, move on.
The OP asked for thoughts. I gave my thoughts. I'm sorry they don't agree with yours.
You say 'there's no need for explanations' but the OP asked why people thought that people might do this with their own profiles.
I gave my thoughts based on my own experiences, education, and thinking about the subject. Which is what the OP asked for.
My goodness me...aren't you touchy!"
I just get annoyed when I answer the question asked by the op and then someone says "there's really no need to answer that question". Shutting down discussion, as you tried to, isn't cool. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Because lots of people don't give enough credit to women's sexual agency. In this situation the woman in the could is used to sell the couple, and it's assumed that the male in the other couple is the 'buyer'. Both of the women in a couple/couple swap are assumed to have no agency. The men are the important ones here, hence there being no man on 'sale'.
I avoid them.
This is your opinion and it is far too big a step to suggest it is generally true. In our experience the female half of a couple has a far greater say in the choice of potential playmates - but that's our experience and I wouldn't be arrogant enough to suggest it's a general rule.
There are as many different reasons for choosing a balance of m/f pictures as there are profiles. There is really no need for explanations. If the balance doesn't suit you, move on.
The OP asked for thoughts. I gave my thoughts. I'm sorry they don't agree with yours.
You say 'there's no need for explanations' but the OP asked why people thought that people might do this with their own profiles.
I gave my thoughts based on my own experiences, education, and thinking about the subject. Which is what the OP asked for.
My goodness me...aren't you touchy!
I just get annoyed when I answer the question asked by the op and then someone says "there's really no need to answer that question". Shutting down discussion, as you tried to, isn't cool."
Terribly sorry - I hadn't realised that your opinion and posts trumped mine. I thought the whole point of a forum was to allow people to express their own views and others to challenge them if they disagree. In future I will defer to your posts even if I disagree. |
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