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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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a must for you with a meet or not? I am soft play only and that means I do not have penetrative sex and define that as soft play, which can mean different things to everyone as I do get asked what does that mean.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"*removed glasses and takes pipe from mouth. Settles back in armchair before smiling at the camera.*
If I haven't had my dick inside someone else, it's not actual sex. "
So don't lesbians have sex then  |
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For me it is essential... I meet people for one thing, and one thing only. If it doesn't happen, I feel dissapointed. When I meet with couples I do ask if it's full swap though. I wouldn't meet if it was just soft swap. I don't really see the point- as a single lady it would basically just be putting on a show for the couple if it was soft. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me soft play would be just like forplay.would want penetrative sex at some point .If not probably wouldn't meet that person again ,Would feel disappointed .  |
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"*removed glasses and takes pipe from mouth. Settles back in armchair before smiling at the camera.*
If I haven't had my dick inside someone else, it's not actual sex.
So don't lesbians have sex then "
I'm not a lesbian, I'm not qualified to say |
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It's certainly not essential. I am a big fan of foreplay, and I adore giving oral to a lady.
However I think every 1-on-1 meet I have had did involve penetration. That hasn't always been the case at clubs. |
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"a must for you with a meet or not? I am soft play only and that means I do not have penetrative sex and define that as soft play, which can mean different things to everyone as I do get asked what does that mean.
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It's not a deal breaker. Am I really going to no to a couple who want me to watch them have sex with the promise of the wife masturbating over my face just so long as I don't fuck her? I don't think so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not a must for me
I much prefer the foreplay and could happily spend all night doing this
Penatrive sex does not do a great deal for me so don't like to much if we do
I wouldn't meet a guy who advertised themselves as a stayer or say they have good stamina because our sexual needs are less likely to match |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i reckon a lot of men would have no problem with soft play , after all you will still suck them off and they will still get to cum ! plenty of cheats would find this situation to be ideal ! because they reckon if no fucking is involved , then they cant catch anything to bring home to the wife who has no idea her husband is on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, it isn't necessary, though it is preferable. Very often we like to play soft on a first meet and build up to a hot full session later. But it doesn't always work that way. Depends on the mood and feelings of everyone involved. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"a must for you with a meet or not? I am soft play only and that means I do not have penetrative sex and define that as soft play, which can mean different things to everyone as I do get asked what does that mean.
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I wouldnt meet if it was soft swap. It does nothing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would me more than happy to have loads of foreplay, mutual masturbation, teasing, deep passionate kissing and fondling, over penetrative sex.
I only last a few seconds anyway!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it was a case of a horny hand or blow job over nothing at all then I would do that-however I would much prefer to get inside someone for it to count as "proper" sex... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I was quite surprised too to get responses saying that they would be happy to play that way."
Thinking about it the only guy i did a meet with this way got a bj off me and didn't do anything much except finger me. That's why i decided to take it off my profile, just gave guys and excuse to be more selfish. |
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"Essential for me. It doesn't count as sex for me without it. That's the rule followed by my spreadsheet. "
Ha! So true... Me and the lady friend I meet with regularly often discuss what counts as sex.... We have quite a strict criteria - crap sex doesn't count, sex that's over quickly doesn't count, no foreplay sex doesn't count.. We had a conversation just yesterday about whether or not a gangbang counts. I said it does- she was not so sure! |
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"Yes I was quite surprised too to get responses saying that they would be happy to play that way.
Thinking about it the only guy i did a meet with this way got a bj off me and didn't do anything much except finger me. That's why i decided to take it off my profile, just gave guys and excuse to be more selfish."
Too true! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"*removed glasses and takes pipe from mouth. Settles back in armchair before smiling at the camera.*
If I haven't had my dick inside someone else, it's not actual sex. "
As Bill Clinton said "I did not have sex with that woman...ahem..just jizzed on her dress" ok maybe I'm paraphrasing but non-penetrative sex is still sex (the clue is in the word sex) |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Lots more fun without penetration at times and still gone on to meet again.
Definitely not a deal breaker for me but then I do enjoy marathon kissing and foreplay.
Lots of reasons why guys don't or can't have full sex. |
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By *-BelleWoman
over a year ago
Brighton |
For me anything that is usually described as foreplay is actually the most essential ingredient, before during and after. Penetration is important and i miss it if it doesn't happen, but sex can be great without it. Whereas sex without foreplay would be awful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I meeting for sex then I expect penetration otherwise it's just foreplay.
If I'm meeting socially & it ends up a bit fruity with soft play then thats good too, but different....;-) |
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We're a full swap couple and have not yet tried soft swap, but would be open to giving it a go. Although C would still be fucking me, so not quite the same thing.
I have played with a couple that's been just foreplay though, and we all had a great time. On the second meet he penetrated me, and I her with a strapon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we do not full swap,we love foreplay and tantric, its so erotic to just touch and tease eachother bring us both to the edge then holding it there, we do have penetrative sex with eachother but not with others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're new to this but only looking for a soft swing for now because we want some girl on girl fun but with him joining in when it suits us all, just not penetrating her ...it just seems there aren't many girls who are up for a soft swing in Kent, unfortunately. But hey ho, when the right girl comes along we will definitely make sure she's totally satisfied and she won't feel like she's missed out ?? |
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For me, penetration is definatley not necessary. There is a lady who I met through Fab a whole ago. We get together occasionally but rarely have full sex. When you get to know someone & they now how to press your buttons... |
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"a must for you with a meet or not? I am soft play only and that means I do not have penetrative sex and define that as soft play, which can mean different things to everyone as I do get asked what does that mean.
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I like it up me too much to go without. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me the build up is the most erotic part. Kissing is a massive turn on for me, all over each others body's, kissing each other all over loads of foreplay until we are both so close to the edge I just have to have that cock inside me, I love sliding down onto his cock while looking into each others eyes as we kiss and I grind down on him until I come, still kissing I move off him and kiss down his body and kiss the tip of his cock and down his shaft then have him cum in my mouth then kiss again so we can taste each other... ...
Horny as now  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Foreplay ok if it lead to more , and always better when it partner , lesbians give good foreplay , and when i fem of couple was with woman felt satisfied no need dick to have sex |
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I don't feel it is essential, but the best meets for me have been where there's lots of build up prior to the meet with sexy texts....leading to lots of kissing, touching, extended foreplay sessions reaching a point where she needs me inside her and I need to be inside....releasing the sexual tension that has been building up in the days leading up to the meet... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happy to meet socially first, but after that, yes:- penetrative sex is a mustHow much of a social meet? Would half a shandy count? "
Brief handshake....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do like penetrative sex but I also like soft swing too. I've had lots of encounters where oral kissing and fondling are involved without intercourse. The lady does get alot of attention from my tongue as I do like giving lots of oral. I won't be happy until the lady is satisfied and cum (preferably more than once)
But I can not find many soft swing females or couples close to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me the build up is the most erotic part. Kissing is a massive turn on for me, all over each others body's, kissing each other all over loads of foreplay until we are both so close to the edge I just have to have that cock inside me, I love sliding down onto his cock while looking into each others eyes as we kiss and I grind down on him until I come, still kissing I move off him and kiss down his body and kiss the tip of his cock and down his shaft then have him cum in my mouth then kiss again so we can taste each other... ...
Horny as now xx"
Omg, what have you done to me!  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me the build up is the most erotic part. Kissing is a massive turn on for me, all over each others body's, kissing each other all over loads of foreplay until we are both so close to the edge I just have to have that cock inside me, I love sliding down onto his cock while looking into each others eyes as we kiss and I grind down on him until I come, still kissing I move off him and kiss down his body and kiss the tip of his cock and down his shaft then have him cum in my mouth then kiss again so we can taste each other... ...
Horny as now xx"
Yes, this is just what appelas to us about our soft swing meets too - so sensual and explorative and brings pleasure through all the senses, yummy! |
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I do enjoy penetration but it's not essential, I have found that kissing and touching and oral/masterbation both way is just as enjoyable and sometimes even more so when he is making me cum with his fingers while I am all breathless against his lips as he is kissing me |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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For me it depends on the mood. Sometimes with a very special bloke just cuddling and kissing and oral sex is very powerful. But for the majority, when sex is on the mind, God I have to be fucked good ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do enjoy penetration but it's not essential, I have found that kissing and touching and oral/masterbation both way is just as enjoyable and sometimes even more so when he is making me cum with his fingers while I am all breathless against his lips as he is kissing me "
Love kissing while she comes from my fingers. Those soft moans between kisses |
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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago
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For me it is essential, I won't do soft play meets. I have in the past but they don't interest me as most guys just don't hit the spot for me at oral, they have a better chance with penetration
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"a must for you with a meet or not? I am soft play only and that means I do not have penetrative sex and define that as soft play, which can mean different things to everyone as I do get asked what does that mean.
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I don't even need to even meet you for you to satisfy me.
But then I am a bit of a wanker like that!  |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"If I meeting for sex then I expect penetration otherwise it's just foreplay.
If I'm meeting socially & it ends up a bit fruity with soft play then thats good too, but different....;-)"
This for me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually think it would be really nice to not have the penetrative part as some great expectation. Don't get me wrong I adore it. However other things give much more opportunity for imagination, sensation and thrills of both mind and body |
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Not always essential depends what the other person wants ive just had meets where massages were enough and another where the woman orgasmed just from having her nipples sucked on! Each to there own xx |
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