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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both.  |
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over a year ago
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Our fem is way hotter than me so nobody would meet us if they needed to fancy me but I dont play I just watch so I dont think it matters what I look like  |
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over a year ago
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"Our fem is way hotter than me so nobody would meet us if they needed to fancy me but I dont play I just watch so I dont think it matters what I look like "
Same here , and I rarely play either although I have done more of late .
Finding two people equally as attractive is difficult , but sometimes the scenario and the fun are more important than the looks alone .
Some of our best meets have been with people we don't necessarily see as being ultra hot , but their personalities , kinks , and willingness to push boundaries mean we enjoy it as much as when we meet the hotties .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Say that I am not good enough to play with and only the ladyb is . Will get you wanking on your own in the corner
As people have found out at their peril
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over a year ago
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both. "
yes damn it but then maybe that's why that woman's on here she maybe feels she has married beneath her ability or her good cooking skills have turned him into a fatty tatty ,to all beautiful women come on now marry a beautiful man will you   hey and with this in mind I'm available for cuddling all attractive women |
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"Our fem is way hotter than me so nobody would meet us if they needed to fancy me but I dont play I just watch so I dont think it matters what I look like
Same here , and I rarely play either although I have done more of late .
Finding two people equally as attractive is difficult , but sometimes the scenario and the fun are more important than the looks alone .
Some of our best meets have been with people we don't necessarily see as being ultra hot , but their personalities , kinks , and willingness to push boundaries mean we enjoy it as much as when we meet the hotties .
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Yes, we totally agree with this. Eye contact, getting into role, sharing sexy thoughts, exploring boundaries, wanting to tease and please each other - all these things happen for us when we meet like- minded people - those people usually have ordinary bodies with ordinary bumps, blemishes and odd bits - just like us! |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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I have learned that I am not a good judge of what/who my OH finds attractive. Taking advice from a couple in another thread I am asking her about other couples in advance (eg when we have met them socially before or perhaps a couple sitting out of earshot in a club).
It isn't right to take one for the team but sometimes you can overthink it. Lots of fairly average looking people are really good at sex and I suspect that some good-looking ones are not.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples I find its impossible to tell what the male half looks like as there's no pics"
 I agree and looking for couples or bi female and only pics of the female .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most of us are not looking our best when we are in the throes of sexual play so, although I don't have an OH to consider when looking, to me it's more about personality and fun than looks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples I find its impossible to tell what the male half looks like as there's no pics"
Same here!
Agree with you too OP.
I appreciate attractiveness is subjective but the lack of male pics on couples profiles makes me  but also appreciate the ones who do bother to have them up |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Most couples I find its impossible to tell what the male half looks like as there's no pics"
I find that very discouraging especially from a couple who are looking for bi females. It's a couple profile so there should be pictures of both. Just makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples I find its impossible to tell what the male half looks like as there's no pics
I find that very discouraging especially from a couple who are looking for bi females. It's a couple profile so there should be pictures of both. Just makes sense. "
Somewhere in the deeper reaches of our pics there are one or two of me .
But we do fine as it is , so we must be doing something right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Marc and I both have to look to find couples that we are both attracted to. There have been many situations, for us at least, where I am attracted to the man in a couple but Marc is not attracted to the woman. So, for us at least, it has worked both ways.
Luckily, we have found plenty of couples where we find both partners attractive and we have had loads of fun!
As for pics of the man on couples profiles, we have pics of Marc that give a good representation of his body. But for both of us, people would need to speak to us and get face pics in order to see if they really fancy us. I imagine this is the case for other people as well, even those who have pics of the man's body in public.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both. "
Yes I find the same - but I'm going to be completely honest and give the other side of the equation too!
The women in couples are often in better nick/better looking that their husbands. I think that's why most just show pics of the wife - as they're the 'pull' - and generally the single guys are in better shape and better looking than most guys in couples - which is why I usually play with single guys!
However - many of the ladies in couples tend to be far better looking/better bodies than most of the single fems on here - and yes, that includes me!!
I think that's why many single guys seek couples out! As well as the psychological naughtiness - the women just tend to be better looking with better bodies!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Find it it very difficult to meet couples as find guys she likes his partner is not for me ,
If we find lady in couple he likes there other half is not for her
Hence why we sometimes meet single guys if they turn up lol |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both.
Yes I find the same - but I'm going to be completely honest and give the other side of the equation too!
The women in couples are often in better nick/better looking that their husbands. I think that's why most just show pics of the wife - as they're the 'pull' - and generally the single guys are in better shape and better looking than most guys in couples - which is why I usually play with single guys!
However - many of the ladies in couples tend to be far better looking/better bodies than most of the single fems on here - and yes, that includes me!!
I think that's why many single guys seek couples out! As well as the psychological naughtiness - the women just tend to be better looking with better bodies!
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That's interesting, I never looked at it like that before. I have been part of a couple on here twice now and always thought my partners were better looking than me. I have a recent friend who wants to couple up and I think he could do way better and couple up with a hotter girl than me, not to say I'm that hot, but he definitely can.
I wouldn't say I'm looking for a model couple to play with, as I know I'm not all that, but even just an initial physical attract does help.
I would never take one for the team, as I have done that before and it left me feeling terrible about myself and for the guy who was sweet. |
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"Yes I find the same - but I'm going to be completely honest and give the other side of the equation too!
The women in couples are often in better nick/better looking that their husbands. I think that's why most just show pics of the wife - as they're the 'pull' - and generally the single guys are in better shape and better looking than most guys in couples - which is why I usually play with single guys!
However - many of the ladies in couples tend to be far better looking/better bodies than most of the single fems on here - and yes, that includes me!!
I think that's why many single guys seek couples out! As well as the psychological naughtiness - the women just tend to be better looking with better bodies!
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That is exactly what I think. However there is a flaw in this logic. Couples look mainly for single girls and other couples: so life for single guys is still hard
What I cannot understand is the reason behind this coupling rule...it leaves me clueless  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as I get on with the guy, that's the factor that effects the fun...he can look like Tom hardy and if we don't click, the meet won't be as good as if the guys just a normal looking guy that I can have a right laugh with ya know, I like to get horny, but I like to chat and have some big belly laughs in between too
Give me a good guy, don't matter if he's 'hot' |
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Yes we've found it to be mostly the case and yes we are the same, we only get attention because she is so hot as has been pointed out so politely to us, the woman always takes one for the team where we are concerned! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. Most couples I've looked at there isn't much of the man to go by. The ones I have seen I think are equally as ugly. That was a joke.
It's no anyway,I don't think the women of couples are more physically attractive than the men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As long as I get on with the guy, that's the factor that effects the fun...he can look like Tom hardy and if we don't click, the meet won't be as good as if the guys just a normal looking guy that I can have a right laugh with ya know, I like to get horny, but I like to chat and have some big belly laughs in between too
Give me a good guy, don't matter if he's 'hot' "
I don't think Tom Hardy is hot. I think I'm alone in my thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's easier for women to make themselves look good. Hair, makeup, lingerie - all of these things can have a dramatic impact on improving the way they look. Men have nowhere to hide. I'd be fucked if I was a man and couldn't tart myself up with all that stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As long as I get on with the guy, that's the factor that effects the fun...he can look like Tom hardy and if we don't click, the meet won't be as good as if the guys just a normal looking guy that I can have a right laugh with ya know, I like to get horny, but I like to chat and have some big belly laughs in between too
Give me a good guy, don't matter if he's 'hot' "
Well put , there's hope for me yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As long as I get on with the guy, that's the factor that effects the fun...he can look like Tom hardy and if we don't click, the meet won't be as good as if the guys just a normal looking guy that I can have a right laugh with ya know, I like to get horny, but I like to chat and have some big belly laughs in between too
Give me a good guy, don't matter if he's 'hot'
I don't think Tom Hardy is hot. I think I'm alone in my thinking."
He was a generic example...you can use your own hot guy instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's easier for women to make themselves look good. Hair, makeup, lingerie - all of these things can have a dramatic impact on improving the way they look. Men have nowhere to hide. I'd be fucked if I was a man and couldn't tart myself up with all that stuff. "
This is a really good point. Lingerie, especially, can do loads for a woman's body in a way that men simply can't achieve.
-Courtney |
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I would agree with this, there have been loads of couples who have contacted us where Ihought the fem was hot but J didn't fancy the male. Proving very difficult for us to find compatability. That being said there are two couples who we are now in contact with who we would play with. Unless the fem takes one look at me and says "Hell No!". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As long as I get on with the guy, that's the factor that effects the fun...he can look like Tom hardy and if we don't click, the meet won't be as good as if the guys just a normal looking guy that I can have a right laugh with ya know, I like to get horny, but I like to chat and have some big belly laughs in between too
Give me a good guy, don't matter if he's 'hot'
Well put , there's hope for me yet "
Hope?! Nowt up with you man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's easier for women to make themselves look good. Hair, makeup, lingerie - all of these things can have a dramatic impact on improving the way they look. Men have nowhere to hide. I'd be fucked if I was a man and couldn't tart myself up with all that stuff. "
Very true!
If it wasn't for hair, make-up and lingerie I'd look average at best! |
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"I think it's easier for women to make themselves look good. Hair, makeup, lingerie - all of these things can have a dramatic impact on improving the way they look. Men have nowhere to hide. I'd be fucked if I was a man and couldn't tart myself up with all that stuff. "
Yes the makeup makes a huge difference. We should use it too!?!?
I need to add that for a girl is much much MUCH easier to mantain a sexy body |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That is exactly what I think. However there is a flaw in this logic. Couples look mainly for single girls and other couples: so life for single guys is still hard
What I cannot understand is the reason behind this coupling rule...it leaves me clueless "
You really can't understand why couples like to meet other couples? We meet singles, both men and women, but I don't think it is that difficult to see why meeting both at the same time would offer both halves of a couple something to enjoy?
And to be frank, it is much easier to meet single men on here than single women, so if we didn't meet couples pretty often then Marc wouldn't be seeing much action at all...
Unless I have misunderstood you
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's easier for women to make themselves look good. Hair, makeup, lingerie - all of these things can have a dramatic impact on improving the way they look. Men have nowhere to hide. I'd be fucked if I was a man and couldn't tart myself up with all that stuff.
Yes the makeup makes a huge difference. We should use it too!?!?
I need to add that for a girl is much much MUCH easier to mantain a sexy body "
I don't know that it's easier to maintain one - but it's easier to fake it.
I like a bit of guyliner, go for it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That is exactly what I think. However there is a flaw in this logic. Couples look mainly for single girls and other couples: so life for single guys is still hard
What I cannot understand is the reason behind this coupling rule...it leaves me clueless
You really can't understand why couples like to meet other couples? We meet singles, both men and women, but I don't think it is that difficult to see why meeting both at the same time would offer both halves of a couple something to enjoy?
And to be frank, it is much easier to meet single men on here than single women, so if we didn't meet couples pretty often then Marc wouldn't be seeing much action at all...
Unless I have misunderstood you
-Courtney"
hey chip is marc attractive I know you are and I think your taste in other things in life is pretty spot on but is he hot to trot ,I'm up for cuddles today |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That is exactly what I think. However there is a flaw in this logic. Couples look mainly for single girls and other couples: so life for single guys is still hard
What I cannot understand is the reason behind this coupling rule...it leaves me clueless
You really can't understand why couples like to meet other couples? We meet singles, both men and women, but I don't think it is that difficult to see why meeting both at the same time would offer both halves of a couple something to enjoy?
And to be frank, it is much easier to meet single men on here than single women, so if we didn't meet couples pretty often then Marc wouldn't be seeing much action at all...
Unless I have misunderstood you
-Courtneyhey chip is marc attractive I know you are and I think your taste in other things in life is pretty spot on but is he hot to trot ,I'm up for cuddles today "
Marc is the sexiest man I have ever met  But that is my opinion. He could well be one of the guys that everyone finds unattractive
I don't really feel like cuddles, though, thanks! I'm on a sex high and cuddles just won't cut it today 
-Chip |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My hubby is way more attractive than me...it's why he insisted on having his own profile.
Well you have your own profile too...you did not want him to make his own, but you have your own...? "
Talk about twisting what i said
I never said it was a problem. ....and for the records i was joking.. . .some people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That is exactly what I think. However there is a flaw in this logic. Couples look mainly for single girls and other couples: so life for single guys is still hard
What I cannot understand is the reason behind this coupling rule...it leaves me clueless
You really can't understand why couples like to meet other couples? We meet singles, both men and women, but I don't think it is that difficult to see why meeting both at the same time would offer both halves of a couple something to enjoy?
And to be frank, it is much easier to meet single men on here than single women, so if we didn't meet couples pretty often then Marc wouldn't be seeing much action at all...
Unless I have misunderstood you
-Courtneyhey chip is marc attractive I know you are and I think your taste in other things in life is pretty spot on but is he hot to trot ,I'm up for cuddles today
Marc is the sexiest man I have ever met But that is my opinion. He could well be one of the guys that everyone finds unattractive
I don't really feel like cuddles, though, thanks! I'm on a sex high and cuddles just won't cut it today
-Chip"
chip you probably can't cuddle I've found your weakness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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However as we've never seen a couple where we both fancy each half we have never met a couple for fun. And as i dont feel like being a cuckold and my Mrs really doesn't like the idea of me meeting other women....well you can probably see why we're only here for the forum. Kind of celibate swingers ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both. "
No ...to women i am far more attractive and as a couple we are an attractive pair...there are a thousand scrotes a day would fuck her but in reality they would also fuck a barbers floor as soon as they saw hair on it...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we find it hard as mildred has to like the guy of a cple and she can be fussy,
and as others have said not many cples have pics of the guy , why is this"
pics of moi on here...no point hiding if you want to play |
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I agree that there are quite a few "miss-matched" couples but it's not necessarily the lady who is most attractive.
Though Cal would agree it is in our case
We prefer to play with couples as we both want to have fun. So, I need to be attracted to both and Cal needs to be attracted to the lady and get on with the bloke.
What is attractive varies... On Fab you have to go by physical attraction or a really good profile. In a club you can get chatting and really click with a couple you may not initially have been physically attracted to.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our fem is way hotter than me so nobody would meet us if they needed to fancy me but I dont play I just watch so I dont think it matters what I look like
Same here , and I rarely play either although I have done more of late .
Finding two people equally as attractive is difficult , but sometimes the scenario and the fun are more important than the looks alone .
Some of our best meets have been with people we don't necessarily see as being ultra hot , but their personalities , kinks , and willingness to push boundaries mean we enjoy it as much as when we meet the hotties .
Yes, we totally agree with this. Eye contact, getting into role, sharing sexy thoughts, exploring boundaries, wanting to tease and please each other - all these things happen for us when we meet like- minded people - those people usually have ordinary bodies with ordinary bumps, blemishes and odd bits - just like us! "
So glad to see its just not us then |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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When me and the BF play as a couple we find it far easier to meet singles (the fact we're both bi helps) but it's a special moment when you find a couple where all four of you click. That's not a visual thing for me, so relative levels of attractiveness don't come into it. There are couples we'd both like to swap with but don't contact because one or the other of us doesn't fit with their preferences but the same applies on our solo accounts. |
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
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Well, durrr! That's because in couples the man has endured a lifetime of hard work and drudgery just so his wife could while away the hours reclining on the chaise-longue being fed grapes while watching Strictly.
Obviously it takes it's toll eventually!
(Dont worry, the frying-pan and rolling-pin are currently inaccessible )
But, seriously, we look for good sex rather than good looks. Even for a wife 'physical beauty' wasn't high on my list of criteria (I just got lucky)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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C is so much hotter than me - in my eyes -but we were only looking for MMF when we played so my looks weren't really important. However, C has had some very interesting negative feedback regarding her looks from some of the social meets we've had. We have a chuckle at some of the remarks. However, no one's turned down C because of how I look. |
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"I think it's easier for women to make themselves look good. Hair, makeup, lingerie - all of these things can have a dramatic impact on improving the way they look. Men have nowhere to hide. I'd be fucked if I was a man and couldn't tart myself up with all that stuff.
Yes the makeup makes a huge difference. We should use it too!?!?
I need to add that for a girl is much much MUCH easier to mantain a sexy body
I don't know that it's easier to maintain one - but it's easier to fake it.
I like a bit of guyliner, go for it! "
You know, I use it when I am working  ...anyway depending on the city and country you are, many guys use makeup 
Anyway yes, trust me. Have you any idea how much do you need to eat to maintain a muscular body? If I wouldn't use it to get some money, it would not be worth at all  |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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I don't know, it may be a societal thing. We are conditioned (although it is very gradually changing) to think of 'attractiveness' as a primary significant trait in women in a way that it isn't with men.
So maybe our ideas of what is attractive in men are not as broadly generic as they are in women, and as a consequence men don't yet try to enhance their looks to fit those more standardised norms...which touches on what RubyWoo mentioned about make-up. So men don't appear to be as attractive as often.
Although I think we are moving in that direction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"However as we've never seen a couple where we both fancy each half we have never met a couple for fun. And as i dont feel like being a cuckold and my Mrs really doesn't like the idea of me meeting other women....well you can probably see why we're only here for the forum. Kind of celibate swingers ! "
Maybe that's because you haven't met us ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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harder to find 4 people that will attract esp in bi fem couple play- ladies have to find each other attractive and then the ladies with the guys - and vice versa - but i dont think we fell out of the ugly tree - well not from the top anyway - might have caught a twig or two on the way down as we definitely not part of the glam crowd |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is that the reason why couples hide the man in the pics? Lol."
From our point of veiw its a definite no ,the female half ( moon) is the centre of attention on our profile and we always send pics of the hubbie if asked . |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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One of the reasons we play in clubs is that it gives us the opportunity of seeing and speaking to couples before making any commitment to play (the same is true with singles of course). It also gives others chance to size us up too. We often find that either both members of a couple to be attractive (to us) or neither of them appeal. |
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"Is that the reason why couples hide the man in the pics? Lol.
From our point of veiw its a definite no ,the female half ( moon) is the centre of attention on our profile and we always send pics of the hubbie if asked ."
you realize that it is not an equal "Fab relationship", right? |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Is that the reason why couples hide the man in the pics? Lol.
From our point of veiw its a definite no ,the female half ( moon) is the centre of attention on our profile and we always send pics of the hubbie if asked .
you realize that it is not an equal "Fab relationship", right? "
Why should it be? - they run their profile as they want, which is exactly what they should do. |
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"Is that the reason why couples hide the man in the pics? Lol.
From our point of veiw its a definite no ,the female half ( moon) is the centre of attention on our profile and we always send pics of the hubbie if asked .
you realize that it is not an equal "Fab relationship", right?
Why should it be? - they run their profile as they want, which is exactly what they should do. "
Yes sure, sorry |
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over a year ago
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ive seen couples profiles that are mainly male pics - people have reasons for not showing any pics at all in some cases - so not showing the male may be for a damn good reason - nothing to do with looks or appeal |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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The main reason I posted this, was because I recently went to a club. Beautiful place and some great people. I found the women to be ace, but I found it hare to say the same about the men. I could tell that a lot of the women were eyeing up my date, as I believe he was one of the more attractive men that night, but I didn't feel the same about their male counterparts. I kept telling him if he wanted to play he could, but bless he was a gentleman. He indicated to me that a lot of men were looking my way, but for the life of me I didn't feel attracted to them. It was so frustrating for me to not think about it too much, but I know my body wasn't turned on. Unfortunately the couples where I found both attractive didn't play that night.
Do I just forget my standards of what I find personally attractive and just get lost in the moment?
Doesn't help either that I don't really drink alcohol for liquid courage.  |
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MaeB... partly it is called having standards and needing to get sloshed to play is not the way to go either.
This where we find socials are invaluable though on saying that some years ago we agreed to meet a couple who made a huge effort to travel to meet us, as in three hours on single track roads.
When they arrived we both thought oh no but as time went on we thought hmm and then we went for it and WOW it was one of the best meets ever, a true bench mark event.
So chat as the brain is the biggest sexual organ you have and you might be pleasantly surprised what is in the book under that not so impressive cover...
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"The main reason I posted this, was because I recently went to a club. Beautiful place and some great people. I found the women to be ace, but I found it hare to say the same about the men. I could tell that a lot of the women were eyeing up my date, as I believe he was one of the more attractive men that night, but I didn't feel the same about their male counterparts. I kept telling him if he wanted to play he could, but bless he was a gentleman. He indicated to me that a lot of men were looking my way, but for the life of me I didn't feel attracted to them. It was so frustrating for me to not think about it too much, but I know my body wasn't turned on. Unfortunately the couples where I found both attractive didn't play that night.
Do I just forget my standards of what I find personally attractive and just get lost in the moment?
Doesn't help either that I don't really drink alcohol for liquid courage. "
He sounds, as you say, a real gentleman. My advice, if you haven't already done so is simple. Forget about swinging, get married, have kids. Live a long and happy life. |
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"The main reason I posted this, was because I recently went to a club. Beautiful place and some great people. I found the women to be ace, but I found it hare to say the same about the men. I could tell that a lot of the women were eyeing up my date, as I believe he was one of the more attractive men that night, but I didn't feel the same about their male counterparts. I kept telling him if he wanted to play he could, but bless he was a gentleman. He indicated to me that a lot of men were looking my way, but for the life of me I didn't feel attracted to them. It was so frustrating for me to not think about it too much, but I know my body wasn't turned on. Unfortunately the couples where I found both attractive didn't play that night.
Do I just forget my standards of what I find personally attractive and just get lost in the moment?
Doesn't help either that I don't really drink alcohol for liquid courage. "
If Marc and I don't find a couple that we both find attractive then we just have amazing sex together. A club can be fun without ever playing with anyone else.
-Courtney |
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"The main reason I posted this, was because I recently went to a club. Beautiful place and some great people. I found the women to be ace, but I found it hare to say the same about the men. I could tell that a lot of the women were eyeing up my date, as I believe he was one of the more attractive men that night, but I didn't feel the same about their male counterparts. I kept telling him if he wanted to play he could, but bless he was a gentleman. He indicated to me that a lot of men were looking my way, but for the life of me I didn't feel attracted to them. It was so frustrating for me to not think about it too much, but I know my body wasn't turned on. Unfortunately the couples where I found both attractive didn't play that night.
Do I just forget my standards of what I find personally attractive and just get lost in the moment?
Doesn't help either that I don't really drink alcohol for liquid courage.
If Marc and I don't find a couple that we both find attractive then we just have amazing sex together. A club can be fun without ever playing with anyone else.
-Courtney"
Excuse me, did you just suggest her to masturbate in a club...? |
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"What I cannot understand is the reason behind this coupling rule...it leaves me clueless "
Really, L? When we play with a couple we can play soft, own-partner, full-swap, mfm, ffm, ff and/or one big bundle. In couples where both men are bi the possibilities are even greater. With singles the permutations are simply smaller, especially for us since I am straight.
Plus, with a proper couple, you don't have to worry about where the other person is emotionally, since they have their partner to look out for them in that regard, so you can just concentrate on their sexual desires. (If that makes sense)
But it's not a 'rule', we play with all.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"The main reason I posted this, was because I recently went to a club. Beautiful place and some great people. I found the women to be ace, but I found it hare to say the same about the men. I could tell that a lot of the women were eyeing up my date, as I believe he was one of the more attractive men that night, but I didn't feel the same about their male counterparts. I kept telling him if he wanted to play he could, but bless he was a gentleman. He indicated to me that a lot of men were looking my way, but for the life of me I didn't feel attracted to them. It was so frustrating for me to not think about it too much, but I know my body wasn't turned on. Unfortunately the couples where I found both attractive didn't play that night.
Do I just forget my standards of what I find personally attractive and just get lost in the moment?
Doesn't help either that I don't really drink alcohol for liquid courage.
If Marc and I don't find a couple that we both find attractive then we just have amazing sex together. A club can be fun without ever playing with anyone else.
-Courtney"
Never had a wasted evening in a club - even if we play together there is the excitement of an audience. |
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"What I cannot understand is the reason behind this coupling rule...it leaves me clueless
Really, L? When we play with a couple we can play soft, own-partner, full-swap, mfm, ffm, ff and/or one big bundle. In couples where both men are bi the possibilities are even greater. With singles the permutations are simply smaller, especially for us since I am straight.
Plus, with a proper couple, you don't have to worry about where the other person is emotionally, since they have their partner to look out for them in that regard, so you can just concentrate on their sexual desires. (If that makes sense)
But it's not a 'rule', we play with all.
Mr ddc"
I was referring about the fact that men in couples are less attractive than the female partners...which is the OP |
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Mr ddc
I was referring about the fact that men in couples are less attractive than the female partners...which is the OP "
My mistake, I read
" Couples look mainly for single girls and other couples: so life for single guys is still hard "
as a bit of an 'off-piste' whinge that couples were chosing to 'couple up' mainly with other couples or single 'girls' and you felt a bit left out...
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over a year ago
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"The main reason I posted this, was because I recently went to a club. Beautiful place and some great people. I found the women to be ace, but I found it hare to say the same about the men. I could tell that a lot of the women were eyeing up my date, as I believe he was one of the more attractive men that night, but I didn't feel the same about their male counterparts. I kept telling him if he wanted to play he could, but bless he was a gentleman. He indicated to me that a lot of men were looking my way, but for the life of me I didn't feel attracted to them. It was so frustrating for me to not think about it too much, but I know my body wasn't turned on. Unfortunately the couples where I found both attractive didn't play that night.
Do I just forget my standards of what I find personally attractive and just get lost in the moment?
Doesn't help either that I don't really drink alcohol for liquid courage.
If Marc and I don't find a couple that we both find attractive then we just have amazing sex together. A club can be fun without ever playing with anyone else.
-Courtney
Excuse me, did you just suggest her to masturbate in a club...? "
She mentioned that she goes to clubs with a partner. She specifically mentions going to clubs as a couple and the experience she has when doing so looking for other couples. So unless the guy she is with doesn't want to have sex with her, which I doubt, there is no need to masturbate. She can have sex with him.
-Courtney |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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"The main reason I posted this, was because I recently went to a club. Beautiful place and some great people. I found the women to be ace, but I found it hare to say the same about the men. I could tell that a lot of the women were eyeing up my date, as I believe he was one of the more attractive men that night, but I didn't feel the same about their male counterparts. I kept telling him if he wanted to play he could, but bless he was a gentleman. He indicated to me that a lot of men were looking my way, but for the life of me I didn't feel attracted to them. It was so frustrating for me to not think about it too much, but I know my body wasn't turned on. Unfortunately the couples where I found both attractive didn't play that night.
Do I just forget my standards of what I find personally attractive and just get lost in the moment?
Doesn't help either that I don't really drink alcohol for liquid courage.
If Marc and I don't find a couple that we both find attractive then we just have amazing sex together. A club can be fun without ever playing with anyone else.
-Courtney
Excuse me, did you just suggest her to masturbate in a club...?
She mentioned that she goes to clubs with a partner. She specifically mentions going to clubs as a couple and the experience she has when doing so looking for other couples. So unless the guy she is with doesn't want to have sex with her, which I doubt, there is no need to masturbate. She can have sex with him.
-Courtney"
Which we certainly did
But would be nice to share that with another couple x |
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over a year ago
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both. "
Same with me if I'm honest. We're no posh and becks but there has to be attraction. I find alot of pretty woman but no so male partners but hey were all different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We often find that with couples it's the norm for the male to be either unfit a tad overweight or not that pleasing to the eye if only the female pictures are on their profile and no male pics. Quite disappointing sometimes . |
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over a year ago
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"As long as I get on with the guy, that's the factor that effects the fun...he can look like Tom hardy and if we don't click, the meet won't be as good as if the guys just a normal looking guy that I can have a right laugh with ya know, I like to get horny, but I like to chat and have some big belly laughs in between too
Give me a good guy, don't matter if he's 'hot'
I don't think Tom Hardy is hot. I think I'm alone in my thinking."
No I totally agree...much hotter out there and not just celebrities |
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We opted not to put the male of this couple's photo up for fear of intimidating others with his chiseled jaw features (seriously, the only reason the male's photo isn't up, is something akin to cluedo ...upload a picture of the fem & you might get "Hmm, doesn't that look like that Mary Brown at the school gates [clicks on the male] "Back of the net...that's the Brown family!!!") |
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"It's no anyway,I don't think the women of couples are more physically attractive than the men.
Are you serious...? "
Yes but I'm only going by pics on here. Maybe it's different in clubs and Elle McPherson look a likes often turn up with Giant Haystacks types. |
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If Marc and I don't find a couple that we both find attractive then we just have amazing sex together. A club can be fun without ever playing with anyone else.
-Courtney"
This! |
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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both. "
Yes...and my partner would agree on this, we get more meets because of me than him, but since he's a Voyeur and just prefers to watch me play with a single or a couple and doesn't join in then that suits us ...ps...he's not that ugly ...lol |
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both. "
Hahaha , this is funny , just let the other half wank and watch |
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both.
Hahaha , this is funny , just let the other half wank and watch "
Spot on |
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some of us cant help being ugly bastards , its the hand of cards we were dealt with and we have to try and make the most of what we have and if we spoil a few beautiful couples evenings along our tormented journey so be it
by the way for those who cant see a tongue in cheek comment then i apologize but it is for us the reason why we have so far always met folks at a club ,,,, that way they can hopefully salvage something out of the evening with another couple |
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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago
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When playing with my fiance as a couple I always find the female half more attractive than the male, not saying they're ugly or anything just don't float my boat. Which can be troublesome when the female half is straight. I have to be attracted to someone to play with them though, which can cause problems |
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To the op, this is exactly the case.
Princess is by far the most attractive element in our pairing. This is the main reason why we can struggle to meet couples nowadays. Once we swap face pics the interest often fades on the other couples part.
That said, when we have met couples were sexual attraction is all around then the meets have often been repeated and very enjoyable.
So in response to the original point, yes your right but don't rush to judge the proverbial book by its cover because there is the chance you can miss out on a memorable all round experience X |
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"To the op, this is exactly the case.
Princess is by far the most attractive element in our pairing. This is the main reason why we can struggle to meet couples nowadays. Once we swap face pics the interest often fades on the other couples part.
That said, when we have met couples were sexual attraction is all around then the meets have often been repeated and very enjoyable.
So in response to the original point, yes your right but don't rush to judge the proverbial book by its cover because there is the chance you can miss out on a memorable all round experience X"
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"Do you find that in most couples the female is more attractive than the male half?
I find it difficult to meet or swap with couples because of this. I'll often find the lady hot, but the guy not so much which makes it easier to select single guys to meet, but when I'm with a partner at a party or club it's hard to find that compatibility.
Am I over thinking it? I know most genuine couples are together because the lady was attracted to her fella for more than just looks alone, but I just can't seem to get over that feeling of wanting to be physically attracted to both. "
In my experience, there is little to no pics of male half. This is what puts me off |
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