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Can a man have too many verifications?
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her "
Thank you for your honesty. This is a slight concern of mine, but I do hope the quality of my meets means that do not appear as one of these type of guys.. |
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her
Thank you for your honesty. This is a slight concern of mine, but I do hope the quality of my meets means that do not appear as one of these type of guys.."
My reply wasn't aimed at you personally
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her "
So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal? |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her
Thank you for your honesty. This is a slight concern of mine, but I do hope the quality of my meets means that do not appear as one of these type of guys..
My reply wasn't aimed at you personally
Her x"
No I realize that, but I appreciated it all the same  |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?"
Actually, I think many couples are more put off by this than in the case of a man. Silly old 'stud' verses 'slut' rubbish and its very unfair... |
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Yeah probably,but then what's an acceptable amount. It also depends how long they've been on for,I don't really want to feel like just another 2 min shag,then he's onto the next. I know I am that,but still... |
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?
Actually, I think many couples are more put off by this than in the case of a man. Silly old 'stud' verses 'slut' rubbish and its very unfair..."
Very true!
I've got loads of veris - but if people take the time to look closer instead of judging they'd realise that the majority are from lovely people I've met but not had sex with!
In a man I only 'judge' their veris if they've been with people I know to be not very nice or regular bare backers! |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?
Actually, I think many couples are more put off by this than in the case of a man. Silly old 'stud' verses 'slut' rubbish and its very unfair...
Very true!
I've got loads of veris - but if people take the time to look closer instead of judging they'd realise that the majority are from lovely people I've met but not had sex with!
In a man I only 'judge' their veris if they've been with people I know to be not very nice or regular bare backers! "
And men that participate in gang bangs or see women who do?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?
Actually, I think many couples are more put off by this than in the case of a man. Silly old 'stud' verses 'slut' rubbish and its very unfair...
Very true!
I've got loads of veris - but if people take the time to look closer instead of judging they'd realise that the majority are from lovely people I've met but not had sex with!
In a man I only 'judge' their veris if they've been with people I know to be not very nice or regular bare backers!
And men that participate in gang bangs or see women who do??"
That does put me off a bit, yes! Not for moral reasons - but rightly or wrongly I see them as a bigger std risk - and as I've had condoms split/come off inside me in the past I tend to err on the side of caution! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm less likely to be put off by the quantity, but there are a few folk that if I see a guy has met it immediately turns me off.
What kind of people and why?"
Specific people. A few based on knowing them in the vanilla world and us not getting on, and a few who I just loathe and think if that's the kind of person a guy gets on with then they won't get on with me!
That probably sounds really bitchy, not intended but just being honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering whether any women or couples who like to play with single guys can be put off if they feel that a particular guy meets with too many people?"
Obviously the longer you are here the more you will get but we'd be more interested in the substance of them,ie.is he reliable, will he turn up and is he capable of putting in a good performance in what for many people can be an intimidating environment and does he practice safe sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Interesting question posed by the OP - one which we all have going through our thoughts I am sure - being dead frank (although my name not frank lol), the number of meets some as had as little baring on the issue, in that for all those "married/attached" couples on, if they posted a self verification every time they had sex at home, the pages would not be long enough; but the fact that they post a verification after a meet here, can in some peoples minds, make come across as slappers (sorry crude phrase but effective). In my previous time on here my then FB and I had a couples profile and lots of verifications - occasionally we would be called slappers by odd person who we elected not to meet  |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm less likely to be put off by the quantity, but there are a few folk that if I see a guy has met it immediately turns me off.
What kind of people and why?
Specific people. A few based on knowing them in the vanilla world and us not getting on, and a few who I just loathe and think if that's the kind of person a guy gets on with then they won't get on with me!
That probably sounds really bitchy, not intended but just being honest. "
I understand.Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?
Actually, I think many couples are more put off by this than in the case of a man. Silly old 'stud' verses 'slut' rubbish and its very unfair..."
I did say 'sometimes' -maybe you should read the profiles I read  |
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"Apparently yes.
Why do you say that Mr 'no winks'. Have you personal experience of rejection just for this reason?"
Not rejection but it is a bit of a hill to overcome for some.
I have a lot of veris but many are from Social events and are spread out over 18 mths of being here.
I still however hide it because the nature of man is to jump to conclusions.
Reading 54 veris and doing the maths is too hard for most so they just assume.
To save all that confusion I show less than half of them.
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One guy who appeared interested in me said no "cos you have too many verifications"
Whether he thought I was a slut! Or in a high risk group or something else,I never found out..
But remember,it's not the number of sexual partners you have,it's what you do! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?"
I find men & women that have loads off putting.. I keep telling myself it's a swinging site to get over it but I do b gobsmacked  |
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I'm quite new here and am still to meet or be verified. However,i have read quite a few hypocritical profiles from some women.They say that they won't meet a guy with lots of veris,but then i get to the bottom of their profile and they have a huge list of veris.
I know we all have individual choices and reasons for what we write and want,but as a newbie, i'm wondering if i will gain more by obtaining more veris,or by keeping a potential list as short as possible... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering whether any women or couples who like to play with single guys can be put off if they feel that a particular guy meets with too many people?"
We wouldn't be put off at all .
We are confident enough in our ability to satisfy him , despite all those meets he's had
And if he's meeting lots of people regularly , hopefully he'll do the same back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering whether any women or couples who like to play with single guys can be put off if they feel that a particular guy meets with too many people?"
No. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apparently yes.
Why do you say that Mr 'no winks'. Have you personal experience of rejection just for this reason?
Not rejection but it is a bit of a hill to overcome for some.
I have a lot of veris but many are from Social events and are spread out over 18 mths of being here.
I still however hide it because the nature of man is to jump to conclusions.
Reading 54 veris and doing the maths is too hard for most so they just assume.
To save all that confusion I show less than half of them.
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I think most women/couples can out the genuine.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's plenty of people who say they're fussy with loads of verifications from playing, it's an individual interpretation. Personally I go through phases with it all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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women that have had loads of meets put me off
just doesnt give the best impression
i know that sounds bad but hey im not chastising them for it i just wouldnt meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her
Thank you for your honesty. This is a slight concern of mine, but I do hope the quality of my meets means that do not appear as one of these type of guys.."
Why do you think yours are quality meets? |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her
Thank you for your honesty. This is a slight concern of mine, but I do hope the quality of my meets means that do not appear as one of these type of guys..
Why do you think yours are quality meets? "
Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'... |
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Nope.
Just because a profile that has been on here for 2 years has only 5 veris doesn't mean they have only had sex with 5 people in all that time, they could have shagged 10, 50, 100 times more people. Alternatively 100 veris, 80 of them may be a social club meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her
Thank you for your honesty. This is a slight concern of mine, but I do hope the quality of my meets means that do not appear as one of these type of guys..
Why do you think yours are quality meets?
Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'..."
Each to their own oh here isn't it I feel...
One size does not fit all so to speak ha ha
Nice to know the persons genuine but it's the substance of the veri that counts for me
Who knows what people are truly up to anyway and really it's their business not ours
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'..."
Good job 'attractive' is subjective |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her
Thank you for your honesty. This is a slight concern of mine, but I do hope the quality of my meets means that do not appear as one of these type of guys..
Why do you think yours are quality meets?
Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'...
Each to their own oh here isn't it I feel...
One size does not fit all so to speak ha ha
Nice to know the persons genuine but it's the substance of the veri that counts for me
Who knows what people are truly up to anyway and really it's their business not ours
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'...
Good job 'attractive' is subjective "
Well I'm not sure all would agree with you. Most would agree that the likes of Brad Pitt would universally be considered attractive. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Why do you think yours are quality meets?
Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'..."
but I bet that if you asked a million people what their defination of a "quality meet" is.... i bet you would get a million different answers....
and i bet a fair you would say you are being as hypocritical... and/or judgemental
for me all a veri means is that they are who they say they are, and they turned up... nothing more...
if people want to read more into them than that.... not my issue!!!!
as QOH said... you could have 80 meets from one gangbang, or from 80 social....
you could have 80 meets from 80 different socials... or 80 clubs... or 80 house parties... or 80 gangbangs....
they could be over 10 days... or 10 months... or 10 years
but if people want to define you by a number... I think thats says as much or more about them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Majority of profiles have social verifications, as does ours. We would much rather meet someone that has lots of social veris as it means he can hold a conversation and enjoys the scene the way we do too. We also find that meeting well verified males helps the dynamic, things flow better, less awkwardness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'...
Good job 'attractive' is subjective
Well I'm not sure all would agree with you. Most would agree that the likes of Brad Pitt would universally be considered attractive."
Indeed he may...but he's 'pretty' rather than manly in my eyes anyway
But you know mr fox its more than looks
It's that connection which = attraction = anticipation = knowing something fun is going to happen
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By (user no longer on site)
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It will bother some... And not others... When Lee has his singles profile on here he had a lot but only once or twice stopped him getting meets.
When we first had a couples profile and still both had our singles ones although we had similar number of veries. Couples were put off meeting us because of how many veries I had.... Even though it was a similar amount ...  |
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"Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'...
Good job 'attractive' is subjective
Well I'm not sure all would agree with you. Most would agree that the likes of Brad Pitt would universally be considered attractive."
When did you meet him ? |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
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"Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'...
Good job 'attractive' is subjective
Well I'm not sure all would agree with you. Most would agree that the likes of Brad Pitt would universally be considered attractive.
When did you meet him ? "
Just Last week, but Angelina was weird and into blood play  |
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"Attractive people where both parties had an enjoyable time and struck up a real rapport. I don't like veri's which imply a mere 'wham bang thank you mame'...
Good job 'attractive' is subjective
Well I'm not sure all would agree with you. Most would agree that the likes of Brad Pitt would universally be considered attractive.
When did you meet him ?
Just Last week, but Angelina was weird and into blood play "
That's odd , she told us she loved it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?
Actually, I think many couples are more put off by this than in the case of a man. Silly old 'stud' verses 'slut' rubbish and its very unfair...
Very true!
I've got loads of veris - but if people take the time to look closer instead of judging they'd realise that the majority are from lovely people I've met but not had sex with!
In a man I only 'judge' their veris if they've been with people I know to be not very nice or regular bare backers!
And men that participate in gang bangs or see women who do??
That does put me off a bit, yes! Not for moral reasons - but rightly or wrongly I see them as a bigger std risk - and as I've had condoms split/come off inside me in the past I tend to err on the side of caution! "
Do you see yourself as a risk? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nope. I think it is extremely naive to use verifications as a tool in deciding whether to meet someone...especially as verifications on here doesn't equal that person's entire sexual history. I just assume that I'm not going to be meeting a virgin |
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"Me,sometimes yes, don't ask to explain cos I can't.. does depend on who they are meeting.sometimes I get the impression 'any holes a goal.
Her So, would it be ok for a woman to have many meets or is it just cos it is a man as its seen as any hole is a goal?
Actually, I think many couples are more put off by this than in the case of a man. Silly old 'stud' verses 'slut' rubbish and its very unfair...
Very true!
I've got loads of veris - but if people take the time to look closer instead of judging they'd realise that the majority are from lovely people I've met but not had sex with!
In a man I only 'judge' their veris if they've been with people I know to be not very nice or regular bare backers!
And men that participate in gang bangs or see women who do??
That does put me off a bit, yes! Not for moral reasons - but rightly or wrongly I see them as a bigger std risk - and as I've had condoms split/come off inside me in the past I tend to err on the side of caution!
Do you see yourself as a risk? "
No I don't - but if others see me as a risk, they have every right not to meet me! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm less likely to be put off by the quantity, but there are a few folk that if I see a guy has met it immediately turns me off.
What kind of people and why?
Specific people. A few based on knowing them in the vanilla world and us not getting on, and a few who I just loathe and think if that's the kind of person a guy gets on with then they won't get on with me!
That probably sounds really bitchy, not intended but just being honest. "
Same here with a few people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To me it's not the quantity of the meets but the quality..
If I see a profile that has a lot of veris then I check to see if they social meets or sexual meets.. |
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"To me it's not the quantity of the meets but the quality..
If I see a profile that has a lot of veris then I check to see if they social meets or sexual meets.."
We don't have any social veri's |
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"To me it's not the quantity of the meets but the quality..
If I see a profile that has a lot of veris then I check to see if they social meets or sexual meets..
We don't have any social veri's "
A lot of mine are |
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