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over a year ago
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I posted the following originally well over a year ago now:
'Not posted a new thread in many a month!
We haven't played in a very long time. However, back on track and wanting some cuck fun in the new year.
The twist this time for us is that we are increasingly looking to try the experience with Lola being on her own. We would only entertain this with a guy we knew, so no blind dates because of the safety angle obviously.
But there is a lot to think about, not least is it a step too far. Fantasy is one thing, but reality is a different concept.
Anyone want to share their experiences feel free x'
So, update on this. We have done this and it went really badly. Sooooo much build up from him and even met three times just for drinks. Then, it happened.
I knew that Lola was desperate for him - 6ft4 of very nice rugby player, what was not to like - and so in the end, as I knew he was uncomfortable with me being there at all in any real capacity, I pushed for them both to meet without me.
Now though at the time, Lola did say she thought it was hot, in the weeks and now months that have intervened, she is less sure that it was a good idea and this is why: communication. Once he had what he been after from her, he simply stopped all contact and this made her feel tbh like shit. This in turn made me feel guilty for suggesting it.
Now, before you jump in, we are all too aware that this is NSA fun. But with someone that we made clear that we were after a friend with benefits, a long term thing, we felt let down.
Happily, we have had some very hot times with a few others from here and in other parts of our lives that has kind balanced things out. But the reason for the update is to say that we are going to have fun with a new find with me absent once again. Maybe time is a great healer, maybe we are heading for a fall again. But we feel confident to say that we have chosen well this time. Lola is happy and that makes me happy. She is my priority.
But in life, nothing is certain and there are no guarantees. So we all have to exercise a little faith. I'll let you know how it goes if you are interested.
Would be great to hear your thoughts on this subject.
Happy Fridays xxx
J |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We play like this often when I'm at work although yes we've been let down in the past from people that thought knew better what we wanted out of it you learn from your mistakes. When done right it's great for all involved so good luck |
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Don't blame your selves.
Unfortunately when anything involves people there is a chance of being let down in one way or another.
There are plenty of people who will be exactly what you are looking for, unfortunately there are the time wasters and the user's mixed in with them...
Take your time and enjoy...FnRx |
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I had similar but in the reverse. Answered an ad on here from a couple looking for the same, not a one of but a friend as such would could come and play while he was at work etc, pics,calls the works.
I met her local to hers, went for a coffee, got on really well, so went back to theirs for some fun.
Had a blinding few hours of fun, as I say, pics taken and sent, phone calls made while we played, everything went really well, even down to us editing the pics for faces etc then delete in the originals etc, all was good.
Pretty much the same happened from then on, messages not replied to, texts ignored etc yet i still saw them on here regularly.
Put it down to an experience and moved on. You have to look at it as 'their loss' as otherwise you'll only worry and blame yourself.
Shame really cos she was a dirty so and so lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered an older man? "
A comment made in jest but with a lot of merit. Age brings experience and a better understanding of what the particular dynamic is with the couple you are meeting. Then everyone gets what they want out of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Can't help what you're attracted to. Older just doesn't do it for us, though you guys are I'm sure lovely and that we are the ones missing out.
Besides, a couple of our long term guys have been in their early 20s and behaved in a mature manner. It's down to the individual I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I posted the following originally well over a year ago now:
'Not posted a new thread in many a month!
We haven't played in a very long time. However, back on track and wanting some cuck fun in the new year.
The twist this time for us is that we are increasingly looking to try the experience with Lola being on her own. We would only entertain this with a guy we knew, so no blind dates because of the safety angle obviously.
But there is a lot to think about, not least is it a step too far. Fantasy is one thing, but reality is a different concept.
Anyone want to share their experiences feel free x'
So, update on this. We have done this and it went really badly. Sooooo much build up from him and even met three times just for drinks. Then, it happened.
I knew that Lola was desperate for him - 6ft4 of very nice rugby player, what was not to like - and so in the end, as I knew he was uncomfortable with me being there at all in any real capacity, I pushed for them both to meet without me.
Now though at the time, Lola did say she thought it was hot, in the weeks and now months that have intervened, she is less sure that it was a good idea and this is why: communication. Once he had what he been after from her, he simply stopped all contact and this made her feel tbh like shit. This in turn made me feel guilty for suggesting it.
Now, before you jump in, we are all too aware that this is NSA fun. But with someone that we made clear that we were after a friend with benefits, a long term thing, we felt let down.
Happily, we have had some very hot times with a few others from here and in other parts of our lives that has kind balanced things out. But the reason for the update is to say that we are going to have fun with a new find with me absent once again. Maybe time is a great healer, maybe we are heading for a fall again. But we feel confident to say that we have chosen well this time. Lola is happy and that makes me happy. She is my priority.
But in life, nothing is certain and there are no guarantees. So we all have to exercise a little faith. I'll let you know how it goes if you are interested.
Would be great to hear your thoughts on this subject.
Happy Fridays xxx
J "
How would you like to watch her with a couple? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I posted the following originally well over a year ago now:
'Not posted a new thread in many a month!
We haven't played in a very long time. However, back on track and wanting some cuck fun in the new year.
The twist this time for us is that we are increasingly looking to try the experience with Lola being on her own. We would only entertain this with a guy we knew, so no blind dates because of the safety angle obviously.
But there is a lot to think about, not least is it a step too far. Fantasy is one thing, but reality is a different concept.
Anyone want to share their experiences feel free x'
So, update on this. We have done this and it went really badly. Sooooo much build up from him and even met three times just for drinks. Then, it happened.
I knew that Lola was desperate for him - 6ft4 of very nice rugby player, what was not to like - and so in the end, as I knew he was uncomfortable with me being there at all in any real capacity, I pushed for them both to meet without me.
Now though at the time, Lola did say she thought it was hot, in the weeks and now months that have intervened, she is less sure that it was a good idea and this is why: communication. Once he had what he been after from her, he simply stopped all contact and this made her feel tbh like shit. This in turn made me feel guilty for suggesting it.
Now, before you jump in, we are all too aware that this is NSA fun. But with someone that we made clear that we were after a friend with benefits, a long term thing, we felt let down.
Happily, we have had some very hot times with a few others from here and in other parts of our lives that has kind balanced things out. But the reason for the update is to say that we are going to have fun with a new find with me absent once again. Maybe time is a great healer, maybe we are heading for a fall again. But we feel confident to say that we have chosen well this time. Lola is happy and that makes me happy. She is my priority.
But in life, nothing is certain and there are no guarantees. So we all have to exercise a little faith. I'll let you know how it goes if you are interested.
Would be great to hear your thoughts on this subject.
Happy Fridays xxx
J
How would you like to watch her with a couple? "
She's totally straight so wouldn't want any girl action. Such a shame x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It certainly wasn't any fault on your twos parts! "
Thanks, Steve. It does make you question how we conducted ourselves. Nice just to hear that sentiment from someone else.
Thanks, man! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had the same but other way around, he dropped her off at the hotel to meet me, we had a good time, took some pics for her to show him and she text him to tell her how many times she'd cum and say she was fine, then he picked her up but never really heard from them after, maybe they prefer one offs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Done this scenario many times , either played so male knows what to expect and who and usually timed just right for him to walk in on action or peek in at action through window , or set meet where fem meets in car or their house whilst man on phone in pocket so always near and always so fem safe always fun , just make sure in zone with signal or trouble cud brew lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hot scenarios!
Agreed, the phone def needs to have signal.
We had no issue with what went on at the time. Just after.
Like I said, not expecting gushing texts and flowers, but something would've been nice.
Nice pics btw, Essex xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I really don't want to sound rude but maybe he stopped all contact after because the meet didn't go that well for him
It's ok you saying we made it clear we wanted to make friends but it's not all about what you want, you never know how a first meet will go, maybe he met wanting to make friends as well but after meeting decided your wife wasn't for him
Every first meet is a potential one off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not just a couples thing. I get that as well. After they have what they want they stop replying. It can really sour it all for me"
Everybody gets that
Some guys you meet have a good time and want re meets, some don't enjoy the night so well and don't want to meet again
Surely you have met guys, had a shag and not wanted to go there again, I know i have |
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"I posted the following originally well over a year ago now:
'Not posted a new thread in many a month!
We haven't played in a very long time. However, back on track and wanting some cuck fun in the new year.
The twist this time for us is that we are increasingly looking to try the experience with Lola being on her own. We would only entertain this with a guy we knew, so no blind dates because of the safety angle obviously.
But there is a lot to think about, not least is it a step too far. Fantasy is one thing, but reality is a different concept.
Anyone want to share their experiences feel free x'
So, update on this. We have done this and it went really badly. Sooooo much build up from him and even met three times just for drinks. Then, it happened.
I knew that Lola was desperate for him - 6ft4 of very nice rugby player, what was not to like - and so in the end, as I knew he was uncomfortable with me being there at all in any real capacity, I pushed for them both to meet without me.
Now though at the time, Lola did say she thought it was hot, in the weeks and now months that have intervened, she is less sure that it was a good idea and this is why: communication. Once he had what he been after from her, he simply stopped all contact and this made her feel tbh like shit. This in turn made me feel guilty for suggesting it.
Now, before you jump in, we are all too aware that this is NSA fun. But with someone that we made clear that we were after a friend with benefits, a long term thing, we felt let down.
Happily, we have had some very hot times with a few others from here and in other parts of our lives that has kind balanced things out. But the reason for the update is to say that we are going to have fun with a new find with me absent once again. Maybe time is a great healer, maybe we are heading for a fall again. But we feel confident to say that we have chosen well this time. Lola is happy and that makes me happy. She is my priority.
But in life, nothing is certain and there are no guarantees. So we all have to exercise a little faith. I'll let you know how it goes if you are interested.
Would be great to hear your thoughts on this subject.
Happy Fridays xxx
J "
Well done for trying again!!
Good luck for the future, I hope you both find what you're looking for!!  |
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"I had similar but in the reverse. Answered an ad on here from a couple looking for the same, not a one of but a friend as such would could come and play while he was at work etc, pics,calls the works.
I met her local to hers, went for a coffee, got on really well, so went back to theirs for some fun.
Had a blinding few hours of fun, as I say, pics taken and sent, phone calls made while we played, everything went really well, even down to us editing the pics for faces etc then delete in the originals etc, all was good.
Pretty much the same happened from then on, messages not replied to, texts ignored etc yet i still saw them on here regularly.
Put it down to an experience and moved on. You have to look at it as 'their loss' as otherwise you'll only worry and blame yourself.
Shame really cos she was a dirty so and so lol"
I've experienced the same (without the photos) and I assumed this was just the couples MO?? As has been said, you just move on and keep searching for that elusive couple!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I really don't want to sound rude but maybe he stopped all contact after because the meet didn't go that well for him
It's ok you saying we made it clear we wanted to make friends but it's not all about what you want, you never know how a first meet will go, maybe he met wanting to make friends as well but after meeting decided your wife wasn't for him
Every first meet is a potential one off "
This is of course a fair point. None of us can know for certain how the other one feels.
It's certainly something we're very aware of and make allowances for.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have met a few blokes as a couple, met other couples and some ladies. All but 2 of the blokes have let us down, giving all the talk and not getting hard under pressure.
We have also experienced the silent treatment. Lou traveling 30-40 miles and he cums with oral leaving her frustrated to say the least. They'd met previously as well but due to women issues couldn't get down to it the first time. He described excatly what was gonna happen which turned lou and i both on but then failed to deliver then absolutely no contact since not even to check she got home ok, they'd been chatting for some time so it's a little disappointing
Personally i think lou knows what she wants and men can't deal with it and get intimidated. Obviously not all men have this issue (just most of the guys that lou likes) as we have met a few that have performed great.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not a couple but i've noticed some guys only make an effort initially, once you've met them they think all they have to do is message you for a fuck.
For unselfish guys who are good fucks and sociable on meets this works for me, but the minute anyone treats me like a service i drop them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Or do you mean he's not even wanting sex off her? Bit confused sorry."
Absolutely no contact. If only he would contact as the first time was mind blowing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or do you mean he's not even wanting sex off her? Bit confused sorry.
Absolutely no contact. If only he would contact as the first time was mind blowing. "
Bit strange he put all that effort in for nothing much, that's why i was confused.
Some people enjoy the chase and once they get what they wanted they're bored and are looking for the next chase, might even be chasing loads at once.
Am sure you'll find what you want eventually, good luck. Maybe hedge your bets and chat to a few guys at once? |
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