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Really want to take next step
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Hi everyone mrs cmy here, so as said above we really want to take next step, mr cmy totally up for it as am I, the problem is me, or at least my nerves, we have had lots of offers for meets with lovely couples and would love to do it but struggling, I find it really easy and so very horny to be in cam, I know I can't find the courage for a club although they sound ace and so horny, so I am thinking I could do a big social on kind of neutral ground, perhaps if lots of people were getting together in a pub in my town, then I feel I could chat and relax without expectation and hear all about others first times, the trouble is we never see these kind of events anywhere so do they happen or am I just going to have to grow a pair so to speak, sorry for the long thread, hope your not all sleeping now, thanks mrs cmyxxx  |
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Y so nervous about clubs if going with Mr? There is no pressure to play, my 1st couple of club visits I only played with the guy I'd gone with, I just observed... |
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There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x |
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"Perhaps try one of the quieter nights in a quiet club. Just play together and soak up the sexy atmosphere. We did that several times before actually any swapping "
. I so want to do this, I guess the answer to this is I am really just gonna have to grow a pair lol  |
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"Hi fruit loop, not sure why I am so nervous about clubs, I guess it's just the arriving, and I feel that if I was just arriving at the pub then well there is nothing new there lol"
It can be really scary the first time walking in. You'll find after half an hour or so you are so settled you'll wonder why you were so worried. Swingers are a friendly crowd and always very welcoming of newbies. Any club will give you a tour and introduce you to a few people to get you started. |
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"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x"
if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam |
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"I was like that but braved a club & had a Brillant time, just treat it as your goin out for a few drinks. We used jaydee's so relaxed & friendly. Mrs x"
thanks for the advice I guess I am just gonna have to be brave lol |
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"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam"
If you do pluck up the courage, the next social at Townhouse is Friday 11th Dec. As has already been said, there's no pressure and you can spend the whole evening in the bar and lounge area if you want just getting to know lots of other people from fab
If not, keep an eye out for Chester Socials, they're socials hels in a pub in Chester and get lots of positive feedback.
Whatever you decide, just do it when your ready and have fun,
Lee |
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"Hi fruit loop, not sure why I am so nervous about clubs, I guess it's just the arriving, and I feel that if I was just arriving at the pub then well there is nothing new there lol
It can be really scary the first time walking in. You'll find after half an hour or so you are so settled you'll wonder why you were so worried. Swingers are a friendly crowd and always very welcoming of newbies. Any club will give you a tour and introduce you to a few people to get you started. "
you are so right we have nothing but lovely msgs and come across such lovely people I know we would definately be made to feel relaxed, I have just got to go for it I guess |
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"I was like that but braved a club & had a Brillant time, just treat it as your goin out for a few drinks. We used jaydee's so relaxed & friendly. Mrs xthanks for the advice I guess I am just gonna have to be brave lol"
you'll be fine, have a few drinks & just go for it x |
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"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam
If you do pluck up the courage, the next social at Townhouse is Friday 11th Dec. As has already been said, there's no pressure and you can spend the whole evening in the bar and lounge area if you want just getting to know lots of other people from fab
If not, keep an eye out for Chester Socials, they're socials hels in a pub in Chester and get lots of positive feedback.
Whatever you decide, just do it when your ready and have fun,
Lee"
. Thanks for your advice lee, we know from others how fab townhouse is, I just need to be brave I think, but I didn't know about Chester socials so thanks for that also |
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"There is a Fab social at Townhouse in December. Although it is at a club there is never any pressure to play. You don't even need to dress down downstairs and can spend all night in the bar or lounge socialising. Maybe that would be a good halfway compromise? If interested contact LeeWidnes for more info. Good luck with whatever you choose to do x if I could find the courage then townhouse would definately be the place, thanks for the advice and support, you are right about trying a social at a club, just wish I could find as easy as I do on cam
If you do pluck up the courage, the next social at Townhouse is Friday 11th Dec. As has already been said, there's no pressure and you can spend the whole evening in the bar and lounge area if you want just getting to know lots of other people from fab
If not, keep an eye out for Chester Socials, they're socials hels in a pub in Chester and get lots of positive feedback.
Whatever you decide, just do it when your ready and have fun,
Lee. Thanks for your advice lee, we know from others how fab townhouse is, I just need to be brave I think, but I didn't know about Chester socials so thanks for that also "
No problem Any questions you might have about the socials at Townhouse, feel free to message me or check out the swinging club/events ad forum for more details. |
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The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;
1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..
2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.
Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with. |
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"The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;
1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..
2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.
Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with."
lol you could be reading my mind, they are my exact reasons for being such a wuss, both mr cmy and myself are finding the whole scene so amazing, we talk all the time about what we feel about it all, we are so ready and horny lol but it's just me!!!!!! I am just going to have to drag my nerves kicking and screaming I guess lol, thanks so much for the advicexxx |
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"The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;
1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..
2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.
Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with. lol you could be reading my mind, they are my exact reasons for being such a wuss, both mr cmy and myself are finding the whole scene so amazing, we talk all the time about what we feel about it all, we are so ready and horny lol but it's just me!!!!!! I am just going to have to drag my nerves kicking and screaming I guess lol, thanks so much for the advicexxx "
Trust me you aren't alone in this. I think most people felt all this before their 1st club visit. Your mind is thinking huge orgy, sorry to disappoint you but it isn't so.
Think friendly pub or party..... with the potential for a bit extra is you feel like it. Oh and people walking round in their underwear or naked and having sex, the normal Sunday lunch time down your local  |
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"The 2 hardest things about going to a club the 1st time are;
1. Making the firm decision to go, to pick the place and date. Once you have done that and panicked about it for a few hours you will be fine until..
2. Driving upto the club and getting out of the car and walking over to those club doors.
Fear of the unknown is horrible, but most clubs are friendly and relaxed places, and there is no pressure to do anything you aren't comfortable with. lol you could be reading my mind, they are my exact reasons for being such a wuss, both mr cmy and myself are finding the whole scene so amazing, we talk all the time about what we feel about it all, we are so ready and horny lol but it's just me!!!!!! I am just going to have to drag my nerves kicking and screaming I guess lol, thanks so much for the advicexxx
Trust me you aren't alone in this. I think most people felt all this before their 1st club visit. Your mind is thinking huge orgy, sorry to disappoint you but it isn't so.
Think friendly pub or party..... with the potential for a bit extra is you feel like it. Oh and people walking round in their underwear or naked and having sex, the normal Sunday lunch time down your local "
. Lol so funny, tbh though I wasn't thinking it would be a big orgy, I think I am more nervous if that walk through the door and no one knows us, and a kind of feeling like the newbies, which there is no getting away from because we are!!!!! |
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Ok so a big thankyou to you all for your advice, I think the general consensus is that I, mrs cmy, needs to quit being such a shy arse and a wuss, otherwise mr cmy and myself can talk till the cows come home but it won't get us anywhere, although we will keep talking as that's also very horny!!!!!! I guess those of you who frequent townhouse may or may not see us soon lol thanks again, mrs cmy |
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