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How does your weight affect your sex life?

By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

Ok, head already over the parapet I might as well be in for a penny, so in for a pound.

Does your weight effect how you have sex? Does it effect the variety of sexual positions you can comfortably attempt? Does it effect your stamina and also the energy you can put into the act of having sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a fat Cnut.

Yes

Next question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a fat lump but having better sex now than before I had my five kids so I'm happy the men I play with are happy win win

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, head already over the parapet I might as well be in for a penny, so in for a pound.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Ok, head already over the parapet I might as well be in for a penny, so in for a pound.

hahaha...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't effect me physically at all. However it does make me very self conscious. For example I'm often worrying about bits of my body looking even worse in certain positions.

That said no one has ever complained.

I realise that my hangups are some thing I need to work on so I try hard not to project that on to the other person.

I've struggled with my weight for years and been bigger and smaller. My focus is no longer on changing my body but changing my mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really no, I seem to do OK, can't think of any position I can't manage, and its very very rare I tier before my partner

Anybody care to put me to the test my inbox is second left

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only a problem when I last tried swinging from a chandelier !

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a fatty and I can ride for hours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway."

We'd never have guessed

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I'm a fatty and I can ride for hours

Ah, but can you squat up and down on the fella? Froggy style I believe is the term...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway."

You might be missing out ... I'm told we try harder ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a fatty and I can ride for hours

Do i just have to take your word for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a fatty and I can ride for hours

Ah, but can you squat up and down on the fella? Froggy style I believe is the term..."

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway."

Honestly your very childish for a guy pushing 50, why are you so hostile, we all get you don't like fat women but I really don't get why as a mature guy you feel the need to bang in about it all the time, its quite sad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If your talking about me being in a handstand position being fucked upside down then yes it affects me lol. Being bent over for long periods of time can be a problem as i have back and nerve issues. My stamina riding on top ain't as good as id like it to be but no complaints.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love a lady sitting on my face 69er

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can ride and ride and ride and ride and ride and ride and ride..............

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above "

Its not always s question fo being fit enough, more a question of not having the required level of athleticism to accomplish certain acts. Also a large person is much harder to be manoeuvred, picked up, thrown about etc...

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I can ride and ride and ride and ride and ride and ride and ride.............."

Now that does not surprise me at all....

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

It is not hostility, it is genuine interest and I am sure other slim people ask themselves the same questions about how larger people actually manage to perform certain sex acts...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight."

Oh gosh. This thread isn't going to go well

OP, what if we replaced the weight variable with age? I'm not saying I would...but would you find that insulting and misguided? Just wondering...

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My weight rendered me immobile when i went over 16 stone, still managed to have sex though but my fella had to do most of the work coz i couldn't really move.

And i didn't stay at that size for long coz although i am a lazy bitch i do actually like being mobile and moving about. Probably not a lazy bitch really coz i love doing stuff, just not boring stuff like housework and that...

Don't think we did that many positions either, it was still good sex and i enjoyed it.

Until this past few years i averaged about 14 stone anyway, so fairly big, and it didn't affect positions, stamina etc, had a lot of energy and even had 10 hour long sessions, or many sessions a day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

It is not hostility, it is genuine interest and I am sure other slim people ask themselves the same questions about how larger people actually manage to perform certain sex acts..."

If you're not into larger women why does it interest you so much ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

It is not hostility, it is genuine interest and I am sure other slim people ask themselves the same questions about how larger people actually manage to perform certain sex acts..."

Shock horror ! Fat people can and do have sex. II'm sure slim struggle to sleep at night worrying about how us fat people fuck !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually i'd say i had more stamina for sex when 14 stone than when smaller, dunno if all that unhealthy, cheap food gave me more energy.

Was slim before i had kids and now they aren't as much of a burden i am slimmer again, with less energy though.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

nope..men dont control my self esteem. those who try, aren't on my menu anyway.

no problem...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

It is not hostility, it is genuine interest and I am sure other slim people ask themselves the same questions about how larger people actually manage to perform certain sex acts..."

lifting up a belly to get to a cock isn't a preference of mine. I rather a healthier looking person and one that isn't going to be out of breath nor look like his going to have a heart attack on top of me. Many people in my family are obese or morbidly obese and I can say first hand they've said they do not feel healthy. Op is entitled to his opinion and I don't see him being insulting. He worded his questions quite adequately I thought.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight."

Well I've not found anything I can't accomplish yet

on the flip of the coin it could be argued you aren't physically fit enough to accomplish the act because your not strong enough to get me into said positions, depends on your perspective

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"nope..men dont control my self esteem. those who try, aren't on my menu anyway.

no problem..."

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

Oh gosh. This thread isn't going to go well

OP, what if we replaced the weight variable with age? I'm not saying I would...but would you find that insulting and misguided? Just wondering...

-Courtney"

Nope, but then I managed a very respectable time for an Ironman triathlon just tow years ago so I don't think my current age affects anything in this arena....

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

Well I've not found anything I can't accomplish yet

on the flip of the coin it could be argued you aren't physically fit enough to accomplish the act because your not strong enough to get me into said positions, depends on your perspective "

True, I am no Geoff Capes that's for sure

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

It is not hostility, it is genuine interest and I am sure other slim people ask themselves the same questions about how larger people actually manage to perform certain sex acts...

^^^^ Thank you

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By *hameleons69Woman over a year ago

good ship lollipop

"It doesn't effect me physically at all. However it does make me very self conscious. For example I'm often worrying about bits of my body looking even worse in certain positions.

That said no one has ever complained.

I realise that my hangups are some thing I need to work on so I try hard not to project that on to the other person.

I've struggled with my weight for years and been bigger and smaller. My focus is no longer on changing my body but changing my mind. "

Think you have just read my mind! This is me also x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

It is not hostility, it is genuine interest and I am sure other slim people ask themselves the same questions about how larger people actually manage to perform certain sex acts...

Shock horror ! Fat people can and do have sex. II'm sure slim struggle to sleep at night worrying about how us fat people fuck !!!

Love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op does your attitude effect yours ?

Not in the slightest - generally it only affects my likelihood of being offered sexual encounters with very overweight women which is not my particular preference anyway.

It is not hostility, it is genuine interest and I am sure other slim people ask themselves the same questions about how larger people actually manage to perform certain sex acts...

Shock horror ! Fat people can and do have sex. II'm sure slim struggle to sleep at night worrying about how us fat people fuck !!!

My mum and sisters are obese and one morbidly so. Between them they've had 13 kids. So I'm sure like myself, others are fully away "fat" people enjoy sex just as much as slimmer people. I don't see the need for yours and other attitude responses. Many people on these forums make threads of all different subjects such as gay, TV, straight guys wanting Cocks etc yet no one bitches about the threads they put up. Some people just need to get off their soap box and stop looking for drama's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My weight has caused me diabetes which in turn along with the weight burying my penis in a pad of fat has caused me some erectile dysfunction. My labido and stamina are low, I tend to only last a minute or two. I cant do many positions as either my belly gets in the way or my cock doesnt reach.

So yeah my weight has royally fucked my sex life. But luckily for E I love watching her fet fucked so that makes up for my shortfalls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am man sized....therefore the sex I have with MEN is fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"My weight has caused me diabetes which in turn along with the weight burying my penis in a pad of fat has caused me some erectile dysfunction. My labido and stamina are low, I tend to only last a minute or two. I cant do many positions as either my belly gets in the way or my cock doesnt reach.

So yeah my weight has royally fucked my sex life. But luckily for E I love watching her fet fucked so that makes up for my shortfalls

Thank you for your honesty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm don't have a gym fit body but my weight has never stopped me doing anything I want to do sexually ! Maybe I should add, however, that up until three years ago I was five stone heavier! Since losing the weight it has made me more confident sexually !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I'm don't have a gym fit body but my weight has never stopped me doing anything I want to do sexually ! Maybe I should add, however, that up until three years ago I was five stone heavier! Since losing the weight it has made me more confident sexually !

Well done, and I would hazard it has help your sex life in ways other than just added confidence!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better "

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better "

Well, I certainly am not too concerned about how you view the potential reaction of 'all women' as you put it to what you deem to be my offensive and rude comments. I believe I am neither just genuine, honest and prepared to upset some (which is not my intention) to ask pertinent questions which will be interesting to man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Arrogance and insensitivity are not very attractive traits all, just saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree loosing weight gives you confidence which is return may make you better at sex, I lost 7 stone last year, my sex life then wasn't to good but I think that was down to my lack of confidence rather than my fitness level, I hated to be seen naked and would spend more time trying to cover myself up rather than enjoying myself, now I'm 7 stone lighter I'm much happier to be seen naked and that in return makes sex better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am sure your previous partners just go giddy at being described by you as 'somewhat overweight'!

I have a great sexlife thanks because sexiness is in the mind not just the body.

I can physically accomplish any moves I want and happily match the fittest of men in the bedroom, and anywhere else for that matter.

You really are cruising for that verbal bruising today OP, do I detect a Sadistic streak!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

Oh gosh. This thread isn't going to go well

OP, what if we replaced the weight variable with age? I'm not saying I would...but would you find that insulting and misguided? Just wondering...

-Courtney

Nope, but then I managed a very respectable time for an Ironman triathlon just tow years ago so I don't think my current age affects anything in this arena...."

But this is part of my point. A young person could assume that age can effect your sexual performance. The fact that you don't think it does is great, as is your triathlon, but it shows how some things that people perceive as negative might not be. Such as this thread about weight.

Go and ask your average 20 year old what they think about 50 year olds having sex and many will sound similar to what you have said about weight.

-Courtney

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Arrogance and insensitivity are not very attractive traits all, just saying

Nor is the inability of some to be honest with themselves. I applaud the gentleman earlier who was brave enough and insightful enough to admit that his weight has indeed caused significant problems in terms of the sex he is now able to have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive so we are all going to stop stuffing our fat faces so you can throw us around during sex and bend us into every conceivable position. We are all thoroughly ashamed of ourselves for abusing our bodies and seek your forgiveness. We shall hide until we are fit to have sex again. And that is all i have to say.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better "

Well I haven't took offence, it's just clear he just as a preference for slimmer women and that he's a straight talking guy, there's an old saying goes that goes like this

"I'd rather be an honest arsehole, than a fucking liar"

I think it's apt in the case of the OP, yes he could be more diplomatic, but at least he's being honest.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

Oh gosh. This thread isn't going to go well

OP, what if we replaced the weight variable with age? I'm not saying I would...but would you find that insulting and misguided? Just wondering...

-Courtney

Nope, but then I managed a very respectable time for an Ironman triathlon just tow years ago so I don't think my current age affects anything in this arena....

Go and ask your average 20 year old what they think about 50 year olds having sex and many will sound similar to what you have said about weight.

-Courtney"

Yes Courtney, but the difference is, that I could fight my corner and at the end of the day would not get offended nor would I be concerned about what they might think. It is the fact that so many get so very defensive and start character assignations against those who simply ask pertinent questions which they themselves are sensitive to which is so frustrating...and it is always the same on here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no all fine here - my bad back limits some positions and i need to be assisted out of others but pleasure over pain most of the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive so we are all going to stop stuffing our fat faces so you can throw us around during sex and bend us into every conceivable position. We are all thoroughly ashamed of ourselves for abusing our bodies and seek your forgiveness. We shall hide until we are fit to have sex again. And that is all i have to say."

You're not fat, you look fantastic, please don't hide

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

Well I haven't took offence, it's just clear he just as a preference for slimmer women and that he's a straight talking guy, there's an old saying goes that goes like this

"I'd rather be an honest arsehole, than a fucking liar"

I think it's apt in the case of the OP, yes he could be more diplomatic, but at least he's being honest."

Thank you I am certainly happy with you r view of my intentions in posting this kind of thread. furthermore you are right that I could be more diplomatic but it is hard to be when personal attacks are fired at me each time I put my head above the parapet and pose these sorts of questions...

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"no all fine here - my bad back limits some positions and i need to be assisted out of others but pleasure over pain most of the time "

Again thank you for your honesty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it affects mine, it's in my brain rather than my body. I have one of those disgraceful high BMIs due to lack of self control, as discussed on the other thread, but I'm not any less flexible then I was when I was a lot thinner.

I can't be thrown around the room by men, but that was never my thing in any case. I won't meet anyone smaller than me because it makes me feel huge but again, that's not new.

But I do feel self conscious my body, so that probably affects the way I behave naked. But then I've always felt self conscious it when I was 4 stone lighter too and I still will when I lose weight again - so that's not even directly connected to my weight either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no all fine here - my bad back limits some positions and i need to be assisted out of others but pleasure over pain most of the time "

You don't seem to have any weight problems by your pics - great bod!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive "

Again you have taken my original question and turned it on its head and somehow related it to 'attraction'. I did not mention attraction, I asked about the effect of weight on how people have sex!

God some people on here are insecure!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

All women worry about weight its a massive confidance issue with them regardless of their size and im sure the larger women enjoy thier sex just as much as the slimmer lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've put a bit of weight on and am self conscious at times but when I'm having sex I don't think about it.

Too busy enjoying the moment not worrying about whether my tummy looking big.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive

Again you have taken my original question and turned it on its head and somehow related it to 'attraction'. I did not mention attraction, I asked about the effect of weight on how people have sex!

God some people on here are insecure!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no all fine here - my bad back limits some positions and i need to be assisted out of others but pleasure over pain most of the time

You don't seem to have any weight problems by your pics - great bod!"

thank you - op didnt state weight problem just if it affected sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Slimmer doesn't always equal fitter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive

Again you have taken my original question and turned it on its head and somehow related it to 'attraction'. I did not mention attraction, I asked about the effect of weight on how people have sex!

God some people on here are insecure!!

I would have thought the reactions might have been different to this thread had it not been for the earlier thread where you enjoyed telling various people that they were classifying themselves wrongly, that they must have high BMIs and that no woman with children ever had damage to their stomach except by overeating.

And if people are insecure, are you surprised?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

All women worry about weight its a massive confidance issue with them regardless of their size and im sure the larger women enjoy thier sex just as much as the slimmer lady "

No we all don't have issues with our weight, I have one thing about myself, that I'm self conscious about and it's not weight related. Im quite happy with my current size now I've got back down to my size 16 I was before having my last child

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

Well I haven't took offence, it's just clear he just as a preference for slimmer women and that he's a straight talking guy, there's an old saying goes that goes like this

"I'd rather be an honest arsehole, than a fucking liar"

I think it's apt in the case of the OP, yes he could be more diplomatic, but at least he's being honest.

that's because you default is interrogator/ victim consciousness if one doesnt work, you slip into the other to justify what you are saying.. i would suggest you have serious little boy/ mummy issues..and as you have an opinion on overweight people in the bedroom, i have an opinion on psychologically what makes such people, have such an issue...all entitled here arent we? .. fascinating discussion.. im sure you'll ignore this post as it doesn't serve your agenda, but that's ok..im sure some will smile at it in recognition...so much love, s x

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive

Again you have taken my original question and turned it on its head and somehow related it to 'attraction'. I did not mention attraction, I asked about the effect of weight on how people have sex!

God some people on here are insecure!!

And if people are insecure, are you surprised?"

Yes, but I started by stating 'in for a penny in for a pound'. If I have already got certain people's backs up then I might as well take advantage of their current antipathy towards me which cannot get much more vehement and start this thread on a genuine question I wanted to pose in the Forum. Which I believe is also my right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex was quite overweight and his stamina wasn't an issue actually. He was super intelligent and that's what drew me in. The one thing I have noticed though is that the bigger guys I've slept with tended to sweat a whole lot more during sex and so did I when I was larger. I'm not a fan of having their sweat dripping on to me whilst being fucked. Some of the moves I do during sex I think would be pretty difficult for others though I think as a lot of it is down to the flexibility I have thanks to years of yoga (but then some slim people who don't do yoga would have trouble with them too!). Everyone should take up yoga it's greatly enhanced my sex life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive

Again you have taken my original question and turned it on its head and somehow related it to 'attraction'. I did not mention attraction, I asked about the effect of weight on how people have sex!

God some people on here are insecure!!

And if people are insecure, are you surprised?"

Have to agree

Soon as that thread closed he opened this one and we're supposed to believe he's not just having a pop, I suspect the reactions he's got from this thread is exactly what he was looking for

Come on be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That threads shut just looked .for someone who seems to not like fat /overweight people he seems to like the threads about us ....

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

Well I haven't took offence, it's just clear he just as a preference for slimmer women and that he's a straight talking guy, there's an old saying goes that goes like this

"I'd rather be an honest arsehole, than a fucking liar"

I think it's apt in the case of the OP, yes he could be more diplomatic, but at least he's being honest.

Not ignored at all - interesting and definitely food for thought. I do not have an agenda just an enquiring mind...

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"My ex was quite overweight and his stamina wasn't an issue actually. He was super intelligent and that's what drew me in. The one thing I have noticed though is that the bigger guys I've slept with tended to sweat a whole lot more during sex and so did I when I was larger. I'm not a fan of having their sweat dripping on to me whilst being fucked. Some of the moves I do during sex I think would be pretty difficult for others though I think as a lot of it is down to the flexibility I have thanks to years of yoga (but then some slim people who don't do yoga would have trouble with them too!). Everyone should take up yoga it's greatly enhanced my sex life.

Right I am off to my local class!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive

Again you have taken my original question and turned it on its head and somehow related it to 'attraction'. I did not mention attraction, I asked about the effect of weight on how people have sex!

God some people on here are insecure!!

And if people are insecure, are you surprised?

Why are you so interested in this if overweight women don't interest you ?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I love yoga find it very relaxing and yes it does wonders for your flexibility. Aqua yoga is great too

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

It didn't. Confidence maybe but I hid it well and more so in day to day life than enjoying myself at a club.

But not in regards to stamina/positions etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

Well I haven't took offence, it's just clear he just as a preference for slimmer women and that he's a straight talking guy, there's an old saying goes that goes like this

"I'd rather be an honest arsehole, than a fucking liar"

I think it's apt in the case of the OP, yes he could be more diplomatic, but at least he's being honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"nope..men dont control my self esteem. those who try, aren't on my menu anyway.

no problem..."

well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

Oh gosh. This thread isn't going to go well

OP, what if we replaced the weight variable with age? I'm not saying I would...but would you find that insulting and misguided? Just wondering...

-Courtney

Nope, but then I managed a very respectable time for an Ironman triathlon just tow years ago so I don't think my current age affects anything in this arena....

Go and ask your average 20 year old what they think about 50 year olds having sex and many will sound similar to what you have said about weight.

-Courtney"

I really love you, sometimes, Courtney....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok if that is the case why do you need to know? Are you thinking about helping those with weight issues to have better sex? Are you looking for ways to have sex with overweight people? Is that it? Or are you asking to stir up the hornets nest?....i know which one my money's on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone for CAKE ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, head already over the parapet I might as well be in for a penny, so in for a pound.

No it doesn't!

I can fuck for hours in every conceivable position! This doesn't always mean that I want to spend two hours with my ankles behind my ears though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes op. All us fat fuckers wish we were slim and beautiful so that you would find us attractive

Again you have taken my original question and turned it on its head and somehow related it to 'attraction'. I did not mention attraction, I asked about the effect of weight on how people have sex!

God some people on here are insecure!!

And if people are insecure, are you surprised?

So what's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

You've got some?

What kind?

Where?

I'm a cake whore (much cheaper than a crack whore!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet."

I do not need to know in the same way that I do not need to know why planets align or why and how the moon affects our tides. I am interested, does none else ever ask questions through simple curiosity.

So many god damn defensive people on here!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

You've got some?

What kind?

Where?

I'm a cake whore (much cheaper than a crack whore!)

Depends on the type of crack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet."

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi."

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Just worry about your own sex acts op and not that of larger women im sure you will be disliked by mostly every women on here for being rude and offensive and at your age you should know better

Well I haven't took offence, it's just clear he just as a preference for slimmer women and that he's a straight talking guy, there's an old saying goes that goes like this

"I'd rather be an honest arsehole, than a fucking liar"

I think it's apt in the case of the OP, yes he could be more diplomatic, but at least he's being honest.

Not ignored at all - interesting and definitely food for thought. I do not have an agenda just an enquiring mind..."

you mind, tells the illusion self, that it cant exist without it, its true it cant..

the mind is a series of patterns to bolster ones reality.. it defends what it believes to be true, so you can feel stable in your very existence..

the more fixed you are.. the tighter the corner to put yourself in...when in that corner of bolstering your own reality, you have to become right...and your mind, which is a foreign installation of things learnt, backs you up, to keep you 'true' to yourself and your created reality....

you dont have a self..its an illusion...you are a consciousness, in your case finding out about 'self' importance...which is futile as you will always attract those to attempt to break up those fixed patterns, because fluidity is the nature of the universe and the only constant is change...

dont change, you will find yourself at odds with the world, course thats where the victim comes in..but youll find a small group that agrees with you..thats the nature of the game...gain awareness or stay in your defended corner...doesnt matter..its just the way things actually are here..creative limitless playground..

you want to stay on the roundabout.. that is your prerogative..but thats not the truth abut who you truly are..you are not separate from anything..you are a nothing that hosts 'ideas'...sometimes those ideas make your life harder than it needs to be..they can be dissolved easily, just like that...if you know why you have them in the first place..choice is true 'personal power' and comes with freedom to be, just as you are..in that state you always are looking for the commonality around you, not for the separatist view, that is the delusional duality, in all things.

with love s x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having met the OP I can say he's a lovely guy with a stellar personality even if he asks questions that get a lot of backs up!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi."

His comment in this thread, 9th post in.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Having met the OP I can say he's a lovely guy with a stellar personality even if he asks questions that get a lot of backs up!"

Thank you - I fear it will fall on death ears though..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women"

He's met and played with overweight women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

So many god damn defensive people on here!!"

Asking a question isn't being defensive. I'm just questioning your motives.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

So many god damn defensive people on here!!"

And are you interested in the moon and planets and how they align and effect our tides...... if so start a thread about that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi."

He's said so himself, in this thread and in the fat v curvy thread.

He's entitled to his opinion of course, it just seems strange to start another thread about weight unless he's concerned with how being skinny affects someone's sex life too (And I don't think you are skinny by the way, you are slim which is different.)

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

His comment in this thread, 9th post in."

Where I state 'very overweight women'. It is well known that I am not attracted to very overweight women. Women are not however attacked if they state that they are not attracted to very overweight men - even if they themselves are obese. Its quite ridiculous on here sometimes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a bit chunky... but no, it doesn't affect my stamina, my positions, or anything else.

I have vert well developed tongue muscles lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women. "

Then surely he knows how it affects their sex life already??

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

So many god damn defensive people on here!!

And are you interested in the moon and planets and how they align and effect our tides...... if so start a thread about that

I might well do that as indeed I am interested in those kind of questions too!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Then surely he knows how it affects their sex life already??"

But not their perception of how it does!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also...

Women on here demanding a six pack seems to be ok, but when we stated that we wouldn't meet women over a size 16 we got pelters lol.

I can't get my head round that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

His comment in this thread, 9th post in.

Women aren't attacked for anything on here, you should know that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's said so himself, in this thread and in the fat v curvy thread.

I used to be skinny in my teens (not by choice) and have always hated the term. Much in the same way I guess that overweight people may not like being called fat. I think though that he asked how your weight affects your sex life not how being fat affects someones sex life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok can it stop now I have a headache from it all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am a fatty and when I am in the zone I go for it never had a problem. We all come in different shapes and sizes x one of my fave positions is reversed cowgirl but all said cant beat a bit of doggy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

His comment in this thread, 9th post in.

Women aren't attacked for anything on here, you should know that

You should read my inbox I get loads of hate mail, I'm not fat its just thick skin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

You've got some?

What kind?

Where?

I'm a cake whore (much cheaper than a crack whore!)

Depends on the type of crack

True! My first giggle of the day! Thanks lovely!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op. No one has an issue with you not being attracted to overweight, sorry, very overweight women. What we do have issue with is your derogatory comments towards the larger lady. Yes i do see this thread as a dig at overweight people given your comments on the other thread. And for the record I'm neither insecure nor defensive just trying to understand why you feel the need to keep picking at the scab when you said yourself you know what sort of reaction you were going to get.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!"

Well why are you so aggressive towards overweight women if you occasionally find them attractive then? And no, this thread wasn't about that, like I said posts are clearly in response to the other one.

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's said so himself, in this thread and in the fat v curvy thread.

Yep, but all the answers are how being overweight affects sex life. My sister was skinny when she was younger, it affected when her periods started and caused her problems getting pregnant. She's not skinny anymore, having two kids saw to that

I don't think anyone on here is skinny by the way but being underweight can affect people's lives including their sex lives just as much as being overweight can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I doubt being overweight would create huge problems unless it was gross / morbid obesity. Athleticism or stamina perhaps may have impact from weight etc...

And the OP isn't seeming to harsh in his opening questions, people do seem defensive. Overweight / weight related threads seem to create more upset than any others, it's not surprising in some ways but arguably it's the one in which people could also most influence.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.) "

Well I am sorry if I find you attractive and because of where you hold your weight it certainly does not look as if you are 4 stone overweight. If you looked you might see that I met with a woman just recently who was a size 16 at 5'4, immensely attractive and we had a fantastic time. This thread was not about attraction anyway and furthermore all along when pertinent I have only ever stated that I am not attracted to VERY overweight women. I do not consider you, from your delightful pictures to be in that category.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's said so himself, in this thread and in the fat v curvy thread.

I don't think anyone on here is skinny by the way but being underweight can affect people's lives including their sex lives just as much as being overweight can."

Very good point and very interesting. also it relates to the questions asked. thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, head already over the parapet I might as well be in for a penny, so in for a pound.

Does your weight effect how you have sex?

My stomach sometimes gets a bit squished.

Does it effect the variety of sexual positions you can comfortably attempt?

Only legs over my shoulder(stomach squishing) but my back and hips doesn't allow them to go too far back anyway.

Does it effect your stamina and also the energy you can put into the act of having sex?"

No. I only have sex with young,healthy,fit men so they give me a workout. It's a good way of working muscles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a fatty and I can ride for hours

Ah, but can you squat up and down on the fella? Froggy style I believe is the term..."

I can and do. But for instance I did step this morning... Then aqua fit and swimming. So I'm fit for a fatty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't effect my sex life..... Shit I'm more flexible now as a size 18 than I've ever been !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't effect my sex life..... Shit I'm more flexible now as a size 18 than I've ever been !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them "

I'm using this thread as a proxy for the other one because it got full up. And it's also influenced by many other threads about weight, not just this one. So yes, one person's curvy is another's fat, and one person's slightly overweight is another's disgusting lardarse.

Preferences are fine, I just think deriding people for their weight is an odd way to go about making other people wanting to have sex with you, that's all.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them "

It was not even specifically aimed at 'fat' people, I was asking how eight effect sex - and this applies to people of all different sizes. As someone pointed out, it equally applies to very underweight people. The trouble is that people who are insecure and defensive about their weight pounce on any sniff of an opportunity to shout down and attack anyone who dares to say anything that might relate negatively to them and there size or weight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good lord ! Some of these threads get very heated! I have to add on the age front that I am 53 and the majority of people messaging me are 20 years younger so I'm guessing age and also my weight doesn't bother too many people !

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

Preferences are fine, I just think deriding people for their weight is an odd way to go about making other people wanting to have sex with you, that's all. "

Now what on earth gives you the idea that that is why I raise these question so here? I do very well thank you and mainly with people not even related to the forum threads when it comes to, as you put it 'making other people want to have sex with me'...I actually find that suggestion rather offensive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good lord ! Some of these threads get very heated! I have to add on the age front that I am 53 and the majority of people messaging me are 20 years younger so I'm guessing age and also my weight doesn't bother too many people ! "

I'm still holding on to ticket 69

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women. "

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm still holding on to ticket 69

Lol thought you were going straight to the front !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

Oh gosh. This thread isn't going to go well

OP, what if we replaced the weight variable with age? I'm not saying I would...but would you find that insulting and misguided? Just wondering...

-Courtney

Nope, but then I managed a very respectable time for an Ironman triathlon just tow years ago so I don't think my current age affects anything in this arena....

Go and ask your average 20 year old what they think about 50 year olds having sex and many will sound similar to what you have said about weight.

-Courtney

I really love you, sometimes, Courtney...."

What a coincidence! Me too

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's said so himself, in this thread and in the fat v curvy thread.

I don't think anyone on here is skinny by the way but being underweight can affect people's lives including their sex lives just as much as being overweight can."

I'd say people reactions are what made it focused on overweight people and yes I agree being underweight can affect things too. It goes both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do when the only argument the op can come up with is that anyone disagreeing with him is being defensive or is insecure

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

There are actually two - one (although I would not for the sake of sensitivity want to draw attention to her) is somewhat larger than she looks in her photos). She had explained this and again I was hugely attracted to her and we had a fabulous time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

Preferences are fine, I just think deriding people for their weight is an odd way to go about making other people wanting to have sex with you, that's all.

You say offensive, I say "raising a valid question". You see my point? Perhaps you only find it offensive because you're insecure.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

He's talking about meeee

lol

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

They do when the only argument the op can come up with is that anyone disagreeing with him is being defensive or is insecure

No, it is when people notice the number of personal attacks simply because I dare to voice my opinion. I do not insist that everyone share it!!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

He's talking about meeee

lol"

Yeah right ..lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The first sentence in the OP would suggest he'd already stirred up something which from reading various responses in this thread, was from previous comments of his from an earlier thread so I believe he knew exactly how this would go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you mean my comment about age, I wasn't trying to say that there is anything wrong with older/younger/intfinity. I was trying to make an analogy between this question about weight and one about age. I was trying to show where the Opening Post went wrong because it was making assumptions...

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do when the only argument the op can come up with is that anyone disagreeing with him is being defensive or is insecure

No, it is when people notice the number of personal attacks simply because I dare to voice my opinion. I do not insist that everyone share it!!"

Personal attacks??

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

Preferences are fine, I just think deriding people for their weight is an odd way to go about making other people wanting to have sex with you, that's all.

You say offensive, I say "raising a valid question". You see my point? Perhaps you only find it offensive because you're insecure. "

You didn't as far as I can see raise a question, you made an assumption about what you see as my desired effect from starting a thread - ie' to make people want to have sex with me'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

Oppppps cake!

I have chocolate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

He's talking about meeee

lol"

Nah he's not!! I've seen more of you than I thought possible since I put you on my hotlist!!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

-Courtney"

Courtney I don't see that I did start out with making assumptions. I asked a question and broke it down into smaller sub questions...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

-Courtney"

I didn't take offence X All I meant by it was that age / weight are irrelevant to some but important to others !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

Preferences are fine, I just think deriding people for their weight is an odd way to go about making other people wanting to have sex with you, that's all.

You say offensive, I say "raising a valid question". You see my point? Perhaps you only find it offensive because you're insecure.

You didn't as far as I can see raise a question, you made an assumption about what you see as my desired effect from starting a thread - ie' to make people want to have sex with me'"

On the whole people are ultimately here to find people to have sex with. Starting threads is a way of drawing attention to your own profile. None of this is an insult.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

Oppppps cake!

I have chocolate. "

Ooooooh! And cream?? (Licks lips in anticipation!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The first sentence in the OP would suggest he'd already stirred up something which from reading various responses in this thread, was from previous comments of his from an earlier thread so I believe he knew exactly how this would go."

Absofuckinglutely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

He's talking about meeee

lol

Nah he's not!! I've seen more of you than I thought possible since I put you on my hotlist!!

Lol I really am an exhibitionist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No

And Definately No

Though it's a common misconception that an overweight person isn't fit enough to do all of the above

Personally I have noticed a big difference in how larger women have sex with me and that is only when they are somewhat overweight.

Oh gosh. This thread isn't going to go well

OP, what if we replaced the weight variable with age? I'm not saying I would...but would you find that insulting and misguided? Just wondering...

-Courtney

Nope, but then I managed a very respectable time for an Ironman triathlon just tow years ago so I don't think my current age affects anything in this arena....

Go and ask your average 20 year old what they think about 50 year olds having sex and many will sound similar to what you have said about weight.

-Courtney"

When I was 21 I was having sex with a 50-something year old. Great sex, insane woman. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absofuckinglutely

And further to that, I find these kind of "I'm just telling it like it is" threads can sometimes be a way of attracting attention, from women who agree with the views he holds. Again - that's not supposed to be an insult, just don't be surprised when others who don't share those views post too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My weight stops me floating away during sex, which is good because I hate when that happens :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My weight stops me floating away during sex, which is good because I hate when that happens :/ "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be carefull ladies if you meet the op he may name and shame you on a public forum like he did with another lady off fab. She was bigger then her pictures and he felt mislead. He still fucked her thou. Admin deleted thd tread after a while

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

-Courtney

Courtney I don't see that I did start out with making assumptions. I asked a question and broke it down into smaller sub questions..."

I think your questions were biased. They were based on certain assumptions. You didn't ask the question "Does it effect the variety of sexual positions you can comfortably attempt?" because it was randomly present in your mind. Of course your questions were based on assumptions. And I think...in my opinion....they were generally wrong assumptions.

Just as my assumptions would be wrong if I asked you whether your age "Effects the variety of sexual positions you can comfortably attempt?" You have already noted your Ironman competition....so I would have been making assumptions about what effect your age has on your ability to have enjoyable sex....see?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

-Courtney

I didn't take offence X All I meant by it was that age / weight are irrelevant to some but important to others ! "

Very true!

I'm on a website where an old trout with shit boobs and thread veins can shag 30 year old demi-gods!!

Terrible isn't it??

I'd like to think it's because I have an amazing personality - though I'm guessing it's because I have a vagina and a pulse!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

Preferences are fine, I just think deriding people for their weight is an odd way to go about making other people wanting to have sex with you, that's all.

You say offensive, I say "raising a valid question". You see my point? Perhaps you only find it offensive because you're insecure.

You didn't as far as I can see raise a question, you made an assumption about what you see as my desired effect from starting a thread - ie' to make people want to have sex with me'

On the whole people are ultimately here to find people to have sex with. Starting threads is a way of drawing attention to your own profile. None of this is an insult. "

Now that is a fairer comment. But this level of attention and the negative perceptions which people now have of me are, as you rightly say having no good effect on anybody's desire to have sex with me (which was not my intention actually anyhow, as already stated). In fact I am very saddened that one person I considered a good friend on here and has herself suffered from weight issues has herself told me that I can go and get lost as a result of what she ahs read on here. Tis is very sad I feel however, I do feel duty bound to stick to my guns and defend my position and my right to voice my perfectly acceptable opinions - nothing I have said is particularly extreme.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My weight stops me floating away during sex, which is good because I hate when that happens :/

Me too

Hard to get the depth of penetration when your weightless...I keep pushing myself away and burning my arse on the bulb :/

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Ok, head already over the parapet I might as well be in for a penny, so in for a pound.

Nope, the only thing that ever limited me is the stamina of the man I was with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just be carefull ladies if you meet the op he may name and shame you on a public forum like he did with another lady off fab. She was bigger then her pictures and he felt mislead. He still fucked her thou. Admin deleted thd tread after a while "

He didn't name her and i've met him!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

Preferences are fine, I just think deriding people for their weight is an odd way to go about making other people wanting to have sex with you, that's all.

You say offensive, I say "raising a valid question". You see my point? Perhaps you only find it offensive because you're insecure.

You didn't as far as I can see raise a question, you made an assumption about what you see as my desired effect from starting a thread - ie' to make people want to have sex with me'

On the whole people are ultimately here to find people to have sex with. Starting threads is a way of drawing attention to your own profile. None of this is an insult.

"Duty bound"?

- perspective please. What do you think is going to happen if you don't stand up as the voice of reason and tell women they're too fat to be curvy? Armageddon?

Everyone is entitled to voice perfectly acceptable opinions, I just find it odd that you start a thread that you KNOW is going to go this way and then cry personal attack when people draw logical conclusions from what you've posted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On the whole people are ultimately here to find people to have sex with. Starting threads is a way of drawing attention to your own profile. None of this is an insult. "

I call it "flying flags".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He didn't name her and i've met him!"

No but it didn't take much to work out who she was

Her status said it all !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He didn't name her and i've met him!

No but it didn't take much to work out who she was

Her status said it all !

That's pretty shitty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm fat and have been for a lot of my adult life however my weight has never affected my sex life in any way. I could do any position and have sex for as long as i wanted.

However a very nasty injury (nothing to do with my weight) has made my mobility limited and zapped my energy levals plus the constant high level of pain makes me struggle a lot of the time

Oh to be back in the days before injury !

I was watching a telli programe last night and a couple were enjoying each other and rolling around in bed and i felt so sad that i can no longer do that. It's made me sad all day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He didn't name her and i've met him!"
He had her veri up for long enough. Yep i know youve met him. Hence why your defending him. Just be thankfull your not a fatty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On the whole people are ultimately here to find people to have sex with. Starting threads is a way of drawing attention to your own profile. None of this is an insult.

I call it "flying flags"."

This is why I don't start any threads

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Anyone for CAKE ??

Me! I need to get fatter, I musn't be fat enough since the OP has messaged me before....

I have messaged you because I find you very attractive. If you look at my verifications you will see that you are not the only slightly larger woman I am indeed very attracted to.

Furthermore this thread had NOTHING to do with attraction!

(Ps - not slightly overweight, I'm at least 4 stone overweight, considerably more than others who have been derided for daring to describe themselves as curvy.)

Seriously

Back to the when does curvy become fat thread

One persons curvy is another persons fat

If you open a thread about fat people everybody who considers themselves to be fat will take offence even if you don't see them as such and it wasn't aimed at them

projection of your own defence system..if you didnt see people as overweight you wouldnt have mentioned them at all..and you attitude doesnt stop at 'overweight' people..its just an attitude you carry round with you about others and how they should see you.. i dont play your game, yet i play..why because i can, and im in that kind of mood today..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He didn't name her and i've met him!"

No, he didn't name anyone on the other thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He didn't name her and i've met him!"

He had her veri up for long enough. Yep i know youve met him. Hence why your defending him. Just be thankfull your not a fatty

To be fair, I think she's defending him because she agrees with him not just because she's met him. I've seen posts along the lines of she's lost her baby weight therefore no other women have any excuse etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've asked him twice why he's interested in this subject when he has no interest in larger women but he's not answered yet.

Where do you get the idea that he doesn't like larger women. His veris are a mix of shapes and sizes fyi.

He's already said that he isn't interested in overweight women

He's met and played with overweight women.

Only one! I've just studied them all in detail!

Yep - I'm that bored!

Oh - and in still waiting for the cake - please!!

Oppppps cake!

I have chocolate. "

Stop it i want cake now lol

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