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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm interested to know opinions of others, about people who have been on here over a year and have messaged for a meet, but have no verifications.
I seem to have had a few message me lately, indicating they want to meet, but I'm a bit skeptic over this, as over a year could mean anything from one year to when the site was first created. For me, it seems they're more here just to chat, look at pics, fantasy over the idea etc.
So has anyone actually met someone who has been on over a year with no veris, or are you a person that waited over a year to have a meet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are guys who say they signed up then did noting with the account.
I have met some and it seemed to be genuine."
I think this could be a possibility too, but i'd be more likely to give them a chance if they deleted that account and created a new one. Just me I suppose, but then I don't want to waste my own time, so have to have some form of filter in place for who i meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're quite careful about who we'll agree to meet - if you've been on the site for a while with no verifications then we're quite sceptical, but usually its a combination of factors that makes us unsure. Lack of public photos, little/no information on the profile, type of message we're sent etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on this site for a few months now.
Genuinely looking to meet individuals or to participate in couples or groups.
How do you get verified if you are a newbie?
You have to start from somewhere! Just because we don't have verifications it doesn't mean we are time wasters. I've peen on POF and Tinder for example for over 2 years and I'm still waiting for a match let alone meet.
Some of us men aren't so lucky as others. Just saying  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site for a few months now.
Genuinely looking to meet individuals or to participate in couples or groups.
How do you get verified if you are a newbie?
You have to start from somewhere! Just because we don't have verifications it doesn't mean we are time wasters. I've peen on POF and Tinder for example for over 2 years and I'm still waiting for a match let alone meet.
Some of us men aren't so lucky as others. Just saying "
In the thread I stated over a year. 4 months is ok, in my opinion, for a man. But like most get told, if you want to meet on here and prove genuine etc, then the best thing to do is go to a club or organised social event. I know it can be daunting, but it's a start and many others do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be extra cautious with a guy who had no veris after that long!!  "
It's comments like this that I personally don't particularly like. The way my luck is going and has gone for the last couple of years I very much doubt my situation will change in let's say the next 6 months or so. So in that time, I will be this very guy you are referring to above.
A year on fab with no veris so therfore he must be non trustworthy. That's so unfair |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
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My mate had the veri section n over view hidden on her ain't so it looked like she had non but she a few... Her personal preference was to remain a mystery and I agreed that this was a good way to look at it
That's just a female point of view tho |
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"I'm interested to know opinions of others, about people who have been on here over a year and have messaged for a meet, but have no verifications.
I seem to have had a few message me lately, indicating they want to meet, but I'm a bit skeptic over this, as over a year could mean anything from one year to when the site was first created. For me, it seems they're more here just to chat, look at pics, fantasy over the idea etc.
So has anyone actually met someone who has been on over a year with no veris, or are you a person that waited over a year to have a meet? "
what can I say some of us are not as lucky when it comes to getting meets...
I have been on here for 10 months and never had a meet but it does not bother me per say as I've never actively looked or messaged people asking about it and only ever came close to a social meet once with a girl I met off chat room when I was on cam..
had I been bi or gay then probably would have had a few meets with some T-Girls and some Guys but I don't swing that way so you know..
as for the rest I dunno I mean it's not the end of the world If I never get a meet... |
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"I'm interested to know opinions of others, about people who have been on here over a year and have messaged for a meet, but have no verifications.
I seem to have had a few message me lately, indicating they want to meet, but I'm a bit skeptic over this, as over a year could mean anything from one year to when the site was first created. For me, it seems they're more here just to chat, look at pics, fantasy over the idea etc.
So has anyone actually met someone who has been on over a year with no veris, or are you a person that waited over a year to have a meet? "
. Surely what matters is the content of the profile ..Most verifications are completely meaningless and always say the same thing .People who value discretion may not want verifications anyway . Who else needs to know whom you have meet ?. |
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plus even if I did actively look for meets it's pointless as most women and couples off here get dozens off messages everyday so point in messaging them...
once in a while at best the women who do find me interesting in that way usually approach me in the chat rooms or by PM first, only thing is though that they live hundreds off miles away so what can you do but its better then nothing.. just my own view on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do you get verified if you are a newbie?
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All I can say from my experience, is that I was selective, read profiles fully, crafted a thoughtful, personalised message to people I thought might have some common interest, saying that I had no expectations for anything other than a bit of chat and banter
Some ignored me, fair enough. Some replied saying thanks but no thanks, fair enough. Some exchanged a few messages and it fizzled out, fair enough.
But a handful progressed, and socials were arranged... Some stayed social, some didn't
As a wise man on the forums says, you need patience... But make a real effort and don't just 'spray and pray'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have eight, but prefer to hide them.
I don't judge a person's appeal by the number of verifications they have.
In fact, I find lots of veris extremely offputting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard for single guys to get meets, that's true. Sometimes they can wait a long time for their first one. Once you have your first verification then it gets a bit easier.
But when you see women and couples who have been on for a year but still no verifications, that definitely makes them fakes or time wasters in my book. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm interested to know opinions of others, about people who have been on here over a year and have messaged for a meet, but have no verifications.
I seem to have had a few message me lately, indicating they want to meet, but I'm a bit skeptic over this, as over a year could mean anything from one year to when the site was first created. For me, it seems they're more here just to chat, look at pics, fantasy over the idea etc.
So has anyone actually met someone who has been on over a year with no veris, or are you a person that waited over a year to have a meet? . Surely what matters is the content of the profile ..Most verifications are completely meaningless and always say the same thing .People who value discretion may not want verifications anyway . Who else needs to know whom you have meet ?. "
I don't about who they have met, I like to know they've turned up and not timewasters. So to filter out timewasters I (personally) use this as a filter. Which is the reason I asked if anyone had MET someone who had been on for over a year which HADN'T been MEET verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to clarify, you don't have to show the veri's to show you're verified, as you receive the symbol to show you've been verified through a meet.. "
...or been seen on camera?
I'd be a bit wary of meeting anybody who'd only ever been verified by a cam, that's no guarantee they'd actually be a meeter |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just to clarify, you don't have to show the veri's to show you're verified, as you receive the symbol to show you've been verified through a meet..
...or been seen on camera?
I'd be a bit wary of meeting anybody who'd only ever been verified by a cam, that's no guarantee they'd actually be a meeter"
That's true actually, as they receive the same symbol. Maybe they should have different symbols for the two kinds of verification. |
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"Just to clarify, you don't have to show the veri's to show you're verified, as you receive the symbol to show you've been verified through a meet..
...or been seen on camera?
I'd be a bit wary of meeting anybody who'd only ever been verified by a cam, that's no guarantee they'd actually be a meeter"
plenty have seen me on camera here in the chat rooms, only 3 or 4 women off here I have shown my face to really and they all did not mind what they saw and complimented but alas none offered to verify but I didn't hold it against em and we just kept on communicating with one another and it was all good... |
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"I've been on this site for a few months now.
Genuinely looking to meet individuals or to participate in couples or groups.
How do you get verified if you are a newbie?
You have to start from somewhere! Just because we don't have verifications it doesn't mean we are time wasters. I've peen on POF and Tinder for example for over 2 years and I'm still waiting for a match let alone meet.
Some of us men aren't so lucky as others. Just saying "
To be honest, I can't see why you've not had any luck. Handsome and fit were the first two words that popped into my mind when I checked out your profile. Not surprised your status now says 2 new messages in your inbox |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My mate had the veri section n over view hidden on her ain't so it looked like she had non but she a few... Her personal preference was to remain a mystery and I agreed that this was a good way to look at it
That's just a female point of view tho"
You can't hide the green tick so it looked like she had at least 1 |
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Been here a long time and not many meets. Although have been here before and had a few more then. Definately not for the want of trying. Of course we want to meet but as for myself, difficult for single guy in his 50s! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've always been on the fence about verifications. On the one hand it helps to know some one is genuine, but profiles with tons of veris are a bit off putting to us. It's also no one's business who we have and haven't met.
We had our profile hidden for a long period due to being on a break, so when we cam back on we had people messaging us 'why is your verification so old?' How rude! Delete and block.
You can't possibly know people's circumstances (work, family, bereavement,illness) so judging them by the last time they met someone seems like throwing the baby out with the time waster. It seems that people are so paranoid about time wasters they see it everywhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We've always been on the fence about verifications. On the one hand it helps to know some one is genuine, but profiles with tons of veris are a bit off putting to us. It's also no one's business who we have and haven't met.
We had our profile hidden for a long period due to being on a break, so when we cam back on we had people messaging us 'why is your verification so old?' How rude! Delete and block.
You can't possibly know people's circumstances (work, family, bereavement,illness) so judging them by the last time they met someone seems like throwing the baby out with the time waster. It seems that people are so paranoid about time wasters they see it everywhere."
I don't pay attention to when their last veri was and never said anything about how long ago their last veri was. It was about those who have been on the site and never had one. I wouldn't judge someone because of when their last meet was.
Only one person has said they have met someone who has been on over a year, with no veris; which is what I was asking... Nothing about the amount of veris or last time they met someone. |
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"I'm interested to know opinions of others, about people who have been on here over a year and have messaged for a meet, but have no verifications.
I seem to have had a few message me lately, indicating they want to meet, but I'm a bit skeptic over this, as over a year could mean anything from one year to when the site was first created. For me, it seems they're more here just to chat, look at pics, fantasy over the idea etc.
So has anyone actually met someone who has been on over a year with no veris, or are you a person that waited over a year to have a meet? . Surely what matters is the content of the profile ..Most verifications are completely meaningless and always say the same thing .People who value discretion may not want verifications anyway . Who else needs to know whom you have meet ?.
I don't about who they have met, I like to know they've turned up and not timewasters. So to filter out timewasters I (personally) use this as a filter. Which is the reason I asked if anyone had MET someone who had been on for over a year which HADN'T been MEET verified. "
. Just because someonei is vverified would not be a guarantee that they will turn up..
I would be unable to answer your other questions as I never check how long someone has been on site or whether they have verifications . It is the contents of the profile that I use . Those that are less than fifteen lines are ignored |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"I would be extra cautious with a guy who had no veris after that long!!
It's comments like this that I personally don't particularly like. The way my luck is going and has gone for the last couple of years I very much doubt my situation will change in let's say the next 6 months or so. So in that time, I will be this very guy you are referring to above.
A year on fab with no veris so therfore he must be non trustworthy. That's so unfair "
Not necessarily untrustworthy, just a little lazy. Registering for a website like fab and sitting around waiting for a free fuck is not exactly what we would call swinging. Get along to a club, meet a few real swingers and ask them to verify you. That way you show you are genuine and willing to make an effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm interested to know opinions of others, about people who have been on here over a year and have messaged for a meet, but have no verifications.
I seem to have had a few message me lately, indicating they want to meet, but I'm a bit skeptic over this, as over a year could mean anything from one year to when the site was first created. For me, it seems they're more here just to chat, look at pics, fantasy over the idea etc.
So has anyone actually met someone who has been on over a year with no veris, or are you a person that waited over a year to have a meet? "
Ive been on 2 months kimi and still waiting to meet you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've always been on the fence about verifications. On the one hand it helps to know some one is genuine, but profiles with tons of veris are a bit off putting to us. It's also no one's business who we have and haven't met.
We had our profile hidden for a long period due to being on a break, so when we cam back on we had people messaging us 'why is your verification so old?' How rude! Delete and block.
You can't possibly know people's circumstances (work, family, bereavement,illness) so judging them by the last time they met someone seems like throwing the baby out with the time waster. It seems that people are so paranoid about time wasters they see it everywhere.
I don't pay attention to when their last veri was and never said anything about how long ago their last veri was. It was about those who have been on the site and never had one. I wouldn't judge someone because of when their last meet was.
Only one person has said they have met someone who has been on over a year, with no veris; which is what I was asking... Nothing about the amount of veris or last time they met someone. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would be extra cautious with a guy who had no veris after that long!!
It's comments like this that I personally don't particularly like. The way my luck is going and has gone for the last couple of years I very much doubt my situation will change in let's say the next 6 months or so. So in that time, I will be this very guy you are referring to above.
A year on fab with no veris so therfore he must be non trustworthy. That's so unfair
Not necessarily untrustworthy, just a little lazy. Registering for a website like fab and sitting around waiting for a free fuck is not exactly what we would call swinging. Get along to a club, meet a few real swingers and ask them to verify you. That way you show you are genuine and willing to make an effort. "
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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We were on the site for over a year before we had our first meet. We signed up, then left it for 9 months or so without anything on our profile, then were 'active' for a few months before we met anyone.
Having said that, we would view people who have been on the site over a year with no veris as dreamers too!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chat and figure it out from there. Someone could have a 2 month old profile but actually been on here for 6 years with no intention of meeting, they just started a new profile 2 months ago.
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Can maybe understand and sympathise with single guys on here as there are so may of you. But if a couple has been on here for over a year with not a single verification we would be a little suspicious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a lot of people here for chat and forums only - doesnt bother us one jot - people can do what they want - we have met unverified and chatted to some at clubs who dont want a veri as they not important to them |
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By *hessycplCouple
over a year ago
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"Can maybe understand and sympathise with single guys on here as there are so may of you. But if a couple has been on here for over a year with not a single verification we would be a little suspicious "
Why though?
We've been on here 4 years, recently come back from a break to find that our 2 veris had dissapeared as the authors had left the site, doesn't mean we're not genuine |
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"Can maybe understand and sympathise with single guys on here as there are so may of you. But if a couple has been on here for over a year with not a single verification we would be a little suspicious
Why though?
We've been on here 4 years, recently come back from a break to find that our 2 veris had dissapeared as the authors had left the site, doesn't mean we're not genuine"
Indeed it doesn't. We are not saying anyone is not genuine. We do chat to any couples and if they have been on here a year with no varies that is a question we would ask them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had my first verification about 3 weeks after joining site, all the rest have been from a club I frequently go to.
If I say im gonna turn up fkr a meeting, then you can expect me to stick to my word and turn up |
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