FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Any chance for the non-ripped and non-horse hung?
Any chance for the non-ripped and non-horse hung?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
So I've been on here a fair while on and off, and I have had one meet in my entire time, which was a year ago.
Now don't get me wrong I know the male:female ratio is very one sided on this site (as any) which will always make things more difficult for guys - that's just reality (whether guys have bigger sex drives, or are just not as restricted by societal pressure is a whole other debate). But what I want to know from the ladies of the forum, is, given that you basically have your pick of who you want, would you ever choose a guy who isn't very muscular and/or hung?
I understand of course, personality and chemistry are more important than looks alone to most people, but even so, there are so many guys to choose from on this site, that for every nice guy, there is a nice guy with the gym body to choose over him.
I ask this as a young guy, I believe at least fairly handsome, who is fit and slim, just not incredibly muscular, actually above average in endowment, just nothing awe-inspiring - no to mention I think fairly interesting to talk to, open minded and polite - who can't seem to get any interest.
I don't wish to sound entitled, no-one 'should' want to meet me or be attracted to me or whatever. I just want to know if I'm wasting my time on this really  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
prefer non ripped average to above average men myself.. cock size isnt that important...
your profile is very well written, for me, with you its just your age, and i know age is just a number but i have kids older than you and that doesnt sit well with me.. im not also into one off's.
my best suggestion for you would be get to clubs and socials, because that would satisfy your one off requirement, get yourself known and not many peeps ask about age in clubs either, if your personality is as described..im sure youd have some fun...hope this works out for you..and you soon get some fun times and good experiences xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
In a casual sex site where men outnumber the women and so the women can be choosy, then the better physical specimens are always going to have an advantage.
It's human nature that any lady or couple will choose the best option available them for a one off encounter - and why shouldn't they!?
So despite what many say on here the ripped hung guys will always do well.
But not *all* women will want that so you have to appeal to the subset that are looking for the rest of us - you say yourself that you have a lot going or yourself physically so I'm sure you'll do fine if you stick with it and remain positive and respectful! good luck fella! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I saw this coming, don't get me wrong, I admire the effort, I go to the gym myself 3 times a week, but that's not enough to really bulk up. I don't know how you can fit it in with a job, social life bla bla bla. Unless you actually enjoy doing it, that would make a bit more sense |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If you're solely relying on this site for meets then you'll always be on the back foot. You're best bet is to get to a club where your personality can be seen. Then you'll find you have more luck |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"prefer non ripped average to above average men myself.. cock size isnt that important...
your profile is very well written, for me, with you its just your age, and i know age is just a number but i have kids older than you and that doesnt sit well with me.. im not also into one off's.
my best suggestion for you would be get to clubs and socials, because that would satisfy your one off requirement, get yourself known and not many peeps ask about age in clubs either, if your personality is as described..im sure youd have some fun...hope this works out for you..and you soon get some fun times and good experiences xx"
Thanks for the advice |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I saw this coming, don't get me wrong, I admire the effort, I go to the gym myself 3 times a week, but that's not enough to really bulk up. I don't know how you can fit it in with a job, social life bla bla bla. Unless you actually enjoy doing it, that would make a bit more sense"
You ought to stop focusing on your shortcomings and concentrate on what you're good at. Lack of confidence is a turn off for most people, if you believe you're not good enough or attractive enough - then you're right. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I do alright verifications only mean you met someone and they verified you doesn't mean anymore than that
Guys the chances are that the women sense your desperation or lack of confidence and don't meet because of that
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I saw this coming, don't get me wrong, I admire the effort, I go to the gym myself 3 times a week, but that's not enough to really bulk up. I don't know how you can fit it in with a job, social life bla bla bla. Unless you actually enjoy doing it, that would make a bit more sense
You ought to stop focusing on your shortcomings and concentrate on what you're good at. Lack of confidence is a turn off for most people, if you believe you're not good enough or attractive enough - then you're right. "
Thanks, and thanks for both your responses. You're completely correct of course, just sometimes curiosity gets the better of me. Unfortunately self-questioning is seen as a lack of confidence, seems healthy to me in moderation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I recon after 10 meets Men should get a time out and give other not so successfully Men a chance to meet Women,
Any more messages for meets should then be passed on to the poor frustrated Men of fab 
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I recon after 10 meets Men should get a time out and give other not so successfully Men a chance to meet Women,
Any more messages for meets should then be passed on to the poor frustrated Men of fab
"
Cool so about another 2 years left then on current run rate .. after that I'll be nearer 50 than 40 so time to be put out to pasture anyway |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If you're as you say you are you shouldn't have issues meeting on the site. You could have poor messaging, lack of confidence, poor social skills etc, for all I know though.
Have you tried clubs, parties or socials? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So I've been on here a fair while on and off, and I have had one meet in my entire time, which was a year ago.
Now don't get me wrong I know the male:female ratio is very one sided on this site (as any) which will always make things more difficult for guys - that's just reality (whether guys have bigger sex drives, or are just not as restricted by societal pressure is a whole other debate). But what I want to know from the ladies of the forum, is, given that you basically have your pick of who you want, would you ever choose a guy who isn't very muscular and/or hung?
I understand of course, personality and chemistry are more important than looks alone to most people, but even so, there are so many guys to choose from on this site, that for every nice guy, there is a nice guy with the gym body to choose over him.
I ask this as a young guy, I believe at least fairly handsome, who is fit and slim, just not incredibly muscular, actually above average in endowment, just nothing awe-inspiring - no to mention I think fairly interesting to talk to, open minded and polite - who can't seem to get any interest.
I don't wish to sound entitled, no-one 'should' want to meet me or be attracted to me or whatever. I just want to know if I'm wasting my time on this really "
Your right the ratio is crazy on here it is a woman's world I think.
It's all about taste and who you find attractive at the end of the day
Its about connection for me anyway
I'd go for a nice face and that something above a ripped gym bunny and no personality any day
Best of luck |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"prefer non ripped average to above average men myself.. cock size isnt that important...
your profile is very well written, for me, with you its just your age, and i know age is just a number but i have kids older than you and that doesnt sit well with me.. im not also into one off's.
my best suggestion for you would be get to clubs and socials, because that would satisfy your one off requirement, get yourself known and not many peeps ask about age in clubs either, if your personality is as described..im sure youd have some fun...hope this works out for you..and you soon get some fun times and good experiences xx"
Hmmm, and you are within 10 miles of us!! Fantastic!!
The facts are that gym fit, six packed, tanned guys with rather large penis's will always be more pleasing to the eye to a majority of fems on here than a skin coloured body suit on a coat hanger or a bloated, beer drinking, 10 burger munching "blimp" with a two inch tadger!! Regardless of personality!!
But there's someone for everyone, you just have to be patient, just like us  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Your body or cock size has nothing to do with why I wouldn't meet you OP it's your age and I suspect that would go for a lot of others on here too from what ive seen on previous threads"
Yeah this is it for me too. I'm old enough to be your Mum. That puts me off before I've even looked at pics or read the blurb.
There are lots of women who are looking for a younger bloke and as is apparent from the replies so far, we're not all looking for the ripped blokes who are vwe. I like all sorts of shapes and sizes and don't really have a physical type. I have a mental type in that I like clever and funny. My brain is my biggest sexual organ. Flick that switch and the rest follows.
A club is a good plan if you're looking to swing. If you're just looking to get laid, get out on the town with your mates as well. Relying on this could take a while.
I didn't actually read it as a whinge though. I figure it's a well thought out post compared to most, it's just that its been asked lots of times in a less articulate way. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
There is a theory here that the gym fit and the hung get the most attention.
Threads sometimes reinforce this theory by people cooing over guys pics.
That said, I firmly believe it is just that, a theory.
If you look at the majority of the guys in the forum that are popular and you will see that, by far and large, they are very average looking guys.
They are afforded attention because they demonstrate humour, humanity, humility, patience and warmth.
They are in effect good people.
Now call me old fashioned but even though I am not looking for love, I would sooner get to know a decent person than anyone who relied on their looks or physical attributes to win peoples affection.
That is not saying that good looking and/or hung guys can't demonstrate the qualities above too, but you get what I'm saying :
Don't believe the hype |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Hiya OP,
I actually think you have a really nice body. I can't quite see your face because of the size of the avatar, but that doesn't look too bad either
In all honesty, being 21 isn't going to help you. I am only 27 and I wouldn't meet you because of your age. And, as others have said, try going to clubs or socials to actually meet people. You might have more luck when people can get to know you.
-Courtney |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
You see a lot of "I'm old enough to be your Mum/Dad" type comments on here, Is it the fact that they are a similar age to your children, Look young or you feel you wouldn't have anything in common ?
What if they were say 21 but looked like they were 25/30 and had the intellect to stimulate you mind,
Would you ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Hiya OP,
I actually think you have a really nice body. I can't quite see your face because of the size of the avatar, but that doesn't look too bad either
In all honesty, being 21 isn't going to help you. I am only 27 and I wouldn't meet you because of your age. And, as others have said, try going to clubs or socials to actually meet people. You might have more luck when people can get to know you.
-Courtney"
Agreed, I tried to get a 21 over for E's birthday and he bottled it. I'd try a normal club for a few more years perhaps xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm overweight and slightly bigger than average in the mangood department, but i still get meets and women still want me.
I'm not sure it matters all that much to be honest, and the women we're looking for would be more interested in what we can do to them rather than what we look like.
I guess we get meets for our talents more than anything else. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"prefer non ripped average to above average men myself.. cock size isnt that important...
your profile is very well written, for me, with you its just your age, and i know age is just a number but i have kids older than you and that doesnt sit well with me.. im not also into one off's.
my best suggestion for you would be get to clubs and socials, because that would satisfy your one off requirement, get yourself known and not many peeps ask about age in clubs either, if your personality is as described..im sure youd have some fun...hope this works out for you..and you soon get some fun times and good experiences xx
Hmmm, and you are within 10 miles of us!! Fantastic!!
The facts are that gym fit, six packed, tanned guys with rather large penis's will always be more pleasing to the eye to a majority of fems on here than a skin coloured body suit on a coat hanger or a bloated, beer drinking, 10 burger munching "blimp" with a two inch tadger!! Regardless of personality!!
But there's someone for everyone, you just have to be patient, just like us "
Not always. I prefer the OP's body to a muscular one. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Your body or cock size has nothing to do with why I wouldn't meet you OP it's your age and I suspect that would go for a lot of others on here too from what ive seen on previous threads
Yeah this is it for me too. I'm old enough to be your Mum. That puts me off before I've even looked at pics or read the blurb.
There are lots of women who are looking for a younger bloke and as is apparent from the replies so far, we're not all looking for the ripped blokes who are vwe. I like all sorts of shapes and sizes and don't really have a physical type. I have a mental type in that I like clever and funny. My brain is my biggest sexual organ. Flick that switch and the rest follows.
A club is a good plan if you're looking to swing. If you're just looking to get laid, get out on the town with your mates as well. Relying on this could take a while.
I didn't actually read it as a whinge though. I figure it's a well thought out post compared to most, it's just that its been asked lots of times in a less articulate way. "
I didn't read it as a whinge either. I thought it was a well written post and wish you well OP.
I'm not into ripped men and the size of their cock is so not important to me either. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Hiya OP,
I actually think you have a really nice body. I can't quite see your face because of the size of the avatar, but that doesn't look too bad either
In all honesty, being 21 isn't going to help you. I am only 27 and I wouldn't meet you because of your age. And, as others have said, try going to clubs or socials to actually meet people. You might have more luck when people can get to know you.
-Courtney
Agreed, I tried to get a 21 over for E's birthday and he bottled it. I'd try a normal club for a few more years perhaps xx"
Thanks, and thank you to Courtney as well. I think the socials/clubs is definitely something I'll look into so thanks. As for normal nightclubs, I just bloody hate them, yet it seems to be the only option for people my age who aren't necessarily looking to date. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I saw this coming, don't get me wrong, I admire the effort, I go to the gym myself 3 times a week, but that's not enough to really bulk up. I don't know how you can fit it in with a job, social life bla bla bla. Unless you actually enjoy doing it, that would make a bit more sense
You ought to stop focusing on your shortcomings and concentrate on what you're good at. Lack of confidence is a turn off for most people, if you believe you're not good enough or attractive enough - then you're right.
Thanks, and thanks for both your responses. You're completely correct of course, just sometimes curiosity gets the better of me. Unfortunately self-questioning is seen as a lack of confidence, seems healthy to me in moderation"
You're right, questioning oneself to raise your awareness is healthy.
Are you being honest though? You pick on two issues holding you back. One you can't change and one you probably don't want to ( you can do a lot in three gym sessions a week, trust me).
So, you're cunningly ignoring the myriad of other reasons that might be holding you back. Maybe because you know you could fix some of them immediately but you'd rather not go there?
Arguing that people have misunderstood your tone ignores that the majority have perceived you one way. Consensus like that should make you ask those questions.
Good news is you sound bright enough to come up with the right answers. Bx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You see a lot of "I'm old enough to be your Mum/Dad" type comments on here, Is it the fact that they are a similar age to your children, Look young or you feel you wouldn't have anything in common ?
What if they were say 21 but looked like they were 25/30 and had the intellect to stimulate you mind,
Would you ?"
Not for me no it wouldn't |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"There is a theory here that the gym fit and the hung get the most attention.
Threads sometimes reinforce this theory by people cooing over guys pics.
That said, I firmly believe it is just that, a theory.
If you look at the majority of the guys in the forum that are popular and you will see that, by far and large, they are very average looking guys.
They are afforded attention because they demonstrate humour, humanity, humility, patience and warmth.
They are in effect good people.
Now call me old fashioned but even though I am not looking for love, I would sooner get to know a decent person than anyone who relied on their looks or physical attributes to win peoples affection.
That is not saying that good looking and/or hung guys can't demonstrate the qualities above too, but you get what I'm saying :
Don't believe the hype "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"There is a theory here that the gym fit and the hung get the most attention.
Threads sometimes reinforce this theory by people cooing over guys pics.
That said, I firmly believe it is just that, a theory.
If you look at the majority of the guys in the forum that are popular and you will see that, by far and large, they are very average looking guys.
They are afforded attention because they demonstrate humour, humanity, humility, patience and warmth.
They are in effect good people.
Now call me old fashioned but even though I am not looking for love, I would sooner get to know a decent person than anyone who relied on their looks or physical attributes to win peoples affection.
That is not saying that good looking and/or hung guys can't demonstrate the qualities above too, but you get what I'm saying :
Don't believe the hype "
This |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I really don't think that is most women's preference at all.
Well you can lie to others but you cannot lie to yourself "
Not one guy I've met on here comes into that category! Your body looks bloody excellent anyway. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Simply put you need to find your niche! Some guys are ripped and have big dicks, that's the way the cookie crumbles..what have you got that's different, what is your selling point? I personally am very funny, intelligent and a gentleman (I'm also a fantastic lover ha ha)
As the old saying goes...you may not be everyone's cup of tea...but you'll be someone's shot of whiskey |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"There is a theory here that the gym fit and the hung get the most attention.
Threads sometimes reinforce this theory by people cooing over guys pics.
That said, I firmly believe it is just that, a theory.
If you look at the majority of the guys in the forum that are popular and you will see that, by far and large, they are very average looking guys.
They are afforded attention because they demonstrate humour, humanity, humility, patience and warmth.
They are in effect good people.
Now call me old fashioned but even though I am not looking for love, I would sooner get to know a decent person than anyone who relied on their looks or physical attributes to win peoples affection.
That is not saying that good looking and/or hung guys can't demonstrate the qualities above too, but you get what I'm saying :
Don't believe the hype "
Exactly this!
It's your age OP - I think the majority of fab are older and would find it creepy meeting someone young enough to be their child!
Especially women ...
If you were looking to meet men then you might have a different experience
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
For me it's more about being able to have a stimulating conversation, someone who can makes me laugh and has similar kinks and preferences. Not hung and ripped!
But under 30 is a no no for me, too much of an age gap. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hiya OP,
I actually think you have a really nice body. I can't quite see your face because of the size of the avatar, but that doesn't look too bad either
In all honesty, being 21 isn't going to help you. I am only 27 and I wouldn't meet you because of your age. And, as others have said, try going to clubs or socials to actually meet people. You might have more luck when people can get to know you.
-Courtney
Agreed, I tried to get a 21 over for E's birthday and he bottled it. I'd try a normal club for a few more years perhaps xx Thanks, and thank you to Courtney as well. I think the socials/clubs is definitely something I'll look into so thanks. As for normal nightclubs, I just bloody hate them, yet it seems to be the only option for people my age who aren't necessarily looking to date. "
Would you really want d*unken sex with a stranger after a club? Can't think of anything worse myself. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I like a ripped guy. But don't see anything wrong with guys that aren't. Also average cock size is my preference I'm not really into big ones.
O.P if I was looking for a guy (im not btw lol) I wouldn't say no to you xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hiya OP,
I actually think you have a really nice body. I can't quite see your face because of the size of the avatar, but that doesn't look too bad either
In all honesty, being 21 isn't going to help you. I am only 27 and I wouldn't meet you because of your age. And, as others have said, try going to clubs or socials to actually meet people. You might have more luck when people can get to know you.
-Courtney
Agreed, I tried to get a 21 over for E's birthday and he bottled it. I'd try a normal club for a few more years perhaps xx Thanks, and thank you to Courtney as well. I think the socials/clubs is definitely something I'll look into so thanks. As for normal nightclubs, I just bloody hate them, yet it seems to be the only option for people my age who aren't necessarily looking to date. "
Yeah normal club are the only option for you. I would suggest you to go out UK on holidays during summer, you will have more fun
I do like normal clubs in some countries. In some holiday resorts I cannot see any difference with a swinger clubs tbh, apart the average age and the absence of BDSM activities  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I saw this coming, don't get me wrong, I admire the effort, I go to the gym myself 3 times a week, but that's not enough to really bulk up. I don't know how you can fit it in with a job, social life bla bla bla. Unless you actually enjoy doing it, that would make a bit more sense"
Of course it is.
I've never gone more than 3 items a week (I barely manage that tbh)
3 day split is the most common routine.
Lift heavier you should be lifting till you fail in the right rep range.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I really don't think that is most women's preference at all.
Well you can lie to others but you cannot lie to yourself
Not one guy I've met on here comes into that category! Your body looks bloody excellent anyway."
Oh thank you very much  yours too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hiya OP,
I actually think you have a really nice body. I can't quite see your face because of the size of the avatar, but that doesn't look too bad either
In all honesty, being 21 isn't going to help you. I am only 27 and I wouldn't meet you because of your age. And, as others have said, try going to clubs or socials to actually meet people. You might have more luck when people can get to know you.
-Courtney
Agreed, I tried to get a 21 over for E's birthday and he bottled it. I'd try a normal club for a few more years perhaps xx Thanks, and thank you to Courtney as well. I think the socials/clubs is definitely something I'll look into so thanks. As for normal nightclubs, I just bloody hate them, yet it seems to be the only option for people my age who aren't necessarily looking to date.
Would you really want d*unken sex with a stranger after a club? Can't think of anything worse myself."
Fall from the 5th floor perhaps...? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
