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Do manners matter?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do they? Are manners dead?
Appreciating that some members get a million messages and that responding is pretty much impossible. However, if you have a indepth messaging conversation and decide that you are not compatible or that distance/timings are just not workable do you send a thanks but no thanks message?
This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have set my profile up the way I want it and it's a good filter system. It's not being rude if have deleted a message unread, because people can't be bothered to read it properly.
All you men who mention this can be just as rude for not reading a profile, not taking any notice of what people say. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Yes there is a place for manners.
I don't reply to people who clearly have not read my profile - its like replying to junk mail frankly, and usually leads to I can change your mind conversations.
If I have been chatting for a while, and someone says something thats a no go, then I tell them that unfortunately, I will be drawing the conversation to a close, and wish them well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bad manners are a deal-breaker, for me.
It begins with the first message. If it's ill-mannered, it's deleted.
Just because this is a sex site, it doesn't mean the women (and men) here are animals who don't warrant courtesy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found most people on here to be a relatively polite bunch. Having said that, I feel that the some of the people here, who receive a lot of mail, have got an unbalanced view of themselves and of others. This can result in bad manners.
But worry not OP. Good manners are still here in abundance.
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Of course they matter...We are polite and mannered in the real world and see Fab as no different. Some messages don't deserve a reply and we try reply to everyone who's clearly read our profile, but every now and again we get swamped for some reason and we don't employ a secretary so it has to be a mass delete. We're raising our son with manners and are so proud when people comment on how polite and courteous he is. |
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"Of course they matter...We are polite and mannered in the real world and see Fab as no different. Some messages don't deserve a reply and we try reply to everyone who's clearly read our profile, but every now and again we get swamped for some reason and we don't employ a secretary so it has to be a mass delete. We're raising our son with manners and are so proud when people comment on how polite and courteous he is."
This  Manners have a place in every part of society and I have been brought up with good manners - tinged with hint of sarcasm at times, but good manners are definitely at the core. On here, I am the same as I am in normal life, I would never lower myself to someone else's standards just because they weren't the same as mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We regard an absence of manners in a message as a reflection on their personalities, therefore we automatically assume them to be rude and damn right arrogant!
On the other hand a message shows no emotion therefore it's very easy to take what someone has written out of context depending on your sense of humour and making the wrong assumption of what you would call "bad manners".
Very Obvious bad manners are an automatic block and delete for us though. We only like "nice" people ?? |
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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago
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"Do they? Are manners dead?
Appreciating that some members get a million messages and that responding is pretty much impossible. However, if you have a indepth messaging conversation and decide that you are not compatible or that distance/timings are just not workable do you send a thanks but no thanks message?
This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"
Good manners cost nothing, but it works both ways on here. I expect to be treated like a human being when people message me, and in return I try to be couteous and reply to messages, even if its a no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They wouldn't have time to reply to them all, they would be in all day.
But yes I guess some would want reply even if it is a no, for me it wouldn't matter lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To me they matter in all aspects of my life. My manners matter to me; if other people don't mind theirs I can overlook it. "
My table manners aren't great I use my fork in my right hand and have to swap when I need my knife.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do they? Are manners dead?
Appreciating that some members get a million messages and that responding is pretty much impossible. However, if you have a indepth messaging conversation and decide that you are not compatible or that distance/timings are just not workable do you send a thanks but no thanks message?
This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"
We certainly do reply that way IF it's clear that the sender has actually read and understood what we're looking for. And that they have at least made some effort with their message.
Pictures of a cock and 'Will this do' tend to just get deleted. Guys who are clearly not what we're after tend to be blocked and deleted, the profile is very specific.
Manners is a huge turn on but goes both ways. If someone is rude then we won't make a positive response.
But we also understand that a lot of guys let their imagination and alter egos run wild on here and perfectly polite people email in a fashion that they would never dare to do so in real life. Because there is no consequence here so they can behave in a fashion that they dare not in everyday life.
Do you think manners are dead? |
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Manners cost nothing and luke a lot of others I delete and block messages that ate rude,,ill mannered or the sender has clearly ignored my profile. If someone takes the time to send me a politely, worded message on return |
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I'm polite.
I try and respond to all.
I'm always behind though and skip the inbox bit to read the forums 
Ironically it's easier to send out a sorry not for me type message then draft individual messages to see if it's worth meeting. So those I want to respond too wait longer than those I don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do they? Are manners dead?
Appreciating that some members get a million messages and that responding is pretty much impossible. However, if you have a indepth messaging conversation and decide that you are not compatible or that distance/timings are just not workable do you send a thanks but no thanks message?
This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"
Yes they do, as much as anywhere else, but not if it's the usual do you reply to all messages whine... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do they? Are manners dead?
Appreciating that some members get a million messages and that responding is pretty much impossible. However, if you have a indepth messaging conversation and decide that you are not compatible or that distance/timings are just not workable do you send a thanks but no thanks message?
of course they matter, it's only common courtesy to acknowledge, even if it a no thanks.
This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"
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"And OP, in his never ending quest for a fuck, felt dejected at the lack of rejection replies in his fabswingers inbox so left the site."
How rude of him not to say goodbye!
Some people have no manners... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And OP, in his never ending quest for a fuck, felt dejected at the lack of rejection replies in his fabswingers inbox so left the site.
Were we too rude?  "
I'm doing 'epitaphs' for UNLOS members in the forums. No reason except i'm enjoying doing it.  |
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"I have set my profile up the way I want it and it's a good filter system. It's not being rude if have deleted a message unread, because people can't be bothered to read it properly.
All you men who mention this can be just as rude for not reading a profile, not taking any notice of what people say. "
They do say manners maketh the man..
i also think you get what you deserve..
I reply to loads messages,including the rude types,pointing out that no matter how you word your message,if you cant be bothered to read a persons profile that ISNT flattering,and it makes what they are saying irrelevant..
Some get it
Some dont  |
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Good manners cost nothing, but it works both ways on here. I expect to be treated like a human being when people message me, and in return I try to be couteous and reply to messages, even if its a no."
this
This is how we do things, polite message even when they get read & deleted!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My photos seem to get a lot of views but it is annoying when my profile has clearly been totally ignored. I delete those messages because it would take too long to reply for no benefit, which makes me feel a bit bad but I just think if they can't be bothered reading what I've put, then Im quite justified returning the favour x x |
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Manners maketh the man!
However, on Fab some people assume that just because THEY like what they see, they develop word blindness. So what if the profile asks for a 7ft black guy with a 10" knob and you're 5ft 1, white with an 8" one. You've sent a message that would give a Shakespearean soliloquy a run for its money, how ill mannered not to reply with at least a no thanks!
Some people feel entitled as this is supposed to be a NSA sex site so why be picky. To those people I say: get...over...yourself!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having said that, I feel that the some of the people here, who receive a lot of mail, have got an unbalanced view of themselves and of others."
I agree! In PARTICULAR of themselves! Blinded by the Internet. Real life might shock them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do they? Are manners dead?
Appreciating that some members get a million messages and that responding is pretty much impossible. However, if you have a indepth messaging conversation and decide that you are not compatible or that distance/timings are just not workable do you send a thanks but no thanks message?
This is not a moan by the way before you get your popcorn and chairs out, more of a question of do manners/politeness/respect have a place on a swingers site?"
Too easy to hide behind profiles on here and not be nice
Courtesy and honesty are the way to go ....politely of course!
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