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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I have been in here a while (before) and I'm wondering what people's opinions are on...
People who are constantly online but yet state too busy to meet or actually tell you they are too busy to meet...
Is it attention seeking? Fake ? Scared to meet or just .... Dreaded tw's |
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I waste a lot of time here.
I'm not meeting at the moment, it's not because I don't have time. I don't give excuses, I just say no thanks. I've not wasted anyone's time but my own.
Is it perhaps them being polite and it's just you they don't want to meet? Sometimes I think it does more harm than good to give out excuses if you don't want to meet someone. No thank you should be enough. Accept that and move on.  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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they may be too busy at that time and just surfing. They may forget you as you have not sparked interest or not be their type or they could just be being polite and telling you (if you are getting it regularly from them), to go away..? |
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I am genuinely too busy.
I'm a single parent & get 1 night off a week. I have real life friends that I like to see & family I'm quite fond of too.
It's also 40th birthday year so parties & girlie nights away.
I've met some lovely gents on here that I like seeing more than once too.
So although we maybe online, our lives do not revolve around fab.
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A variation of all of the above.
I am sure that many, many people have logged in at work to check their messages or to perv, so yes there is a good chance they aren't free to meet at that time.
I rarely log out so I can seem to be online a lot but actually haven't been on here for hours. |
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You should, perhaps, recognise the difference between taking the time to organise baby sitters, getting the time to get ready, travel distance, arranging the meet in the first place etc OR sitting having a cup of tea and browsing this site.
Just because you're on this site several times a day doesn't mean you have the actual time to go out and have sex with relative strangers or a social meet does it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single parent and also studying. Its a nightmare to try and arrange childcare, I tend to wait until he spends a weekend away at his dads rather than get a sitter on my weekends with him. Family first x |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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We often leave the computer logged in to Fab while we are doing other things, and drop in and out as time permits.
There is a difference between being able to spend a couple of minutes online checking the forums and having time to prepare for and go to a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You should, perhaps, recognise the difference between taking the time to organise baby sitters, getting the time to get ready, travel distance, arranging the meet in the first place etc OR sitting having a cup of tea and browsing this site.
Just because you're on this site several times a day doesn't mean you have the actual time to go out and have sex with relative strangers or a social meet does it?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single parent and also studying. Its a nightmare to try and arrange childcare, I tend to wait until he spends a weekend away at his dads rather than get a sitter on my weekends with him. Family first x "
Ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't meet often and I'm online a lot sometimes as I like the forums and I like some of the banter,I don't equate being online as being up for meeting at that moment,for me the site is far bigger than instant hook ups
So I don't really worry about what other people think about me being here,I enjoy it,I meet lovely people when I want to and that's what I like  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got some huge personal drama going on, so I'm not meeting right now. I'm online a lot reading the forums. Sometimes I just don't want to talk to people via pm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I have been in here a while (before) and I'm wondering what people's opinions are on...
People who are constantly online but yet state too busy to meet or actually tell you they are too busy to meet...
Is it attention seeking? Fake ? Scared to meet or just .... Dreaded tw's"
I'm online loads: on the way to work, lunchtimes, coffee breaks, before bed...
Fucking short meet if I have to squeeze in there.
Also, even when I am looking to meet, I may publicly say "I'm not meeting" because I'm quite capable of arranging my own meets. |
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"So I have been in here a while (before) and I'm wondering what people's opinions are on...
People who are constantly online but yet state too busy to meet or actually tell you they are too busy to meet...
Is it attention seeking? Fake ? Scared to meet or just .... Dreaded tw's"
Any of those things or just genuinely too busy to meet.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between "too busy to meet" and "too busy to even pop online for a minute to read the forums while doing something else". "
Moot point... Profiles states it why be "busy" and not hide profiles for example |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've no real intention to meet. I come on here for the forums and chats with people I know. Also I'm the worst for not logging out or closing apps on my phone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I have been in here a while (before) and I'm wondering what people's opinions are on...
People who are constantly online but yet state too busy to meet or actually tell you they are too busy to meet...
Is it attention seeking? Fake ? Scared to meet or just .... Dreaded tw's" maybe they are pencil pushers sat at a desk slogging away online all day  |
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Sometimes I forget to log off. I run a business which takes up most of my time which is why it says on my profile that I can't do sudden meets. I need time to plan and will meet when and if possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since most people have smartphones these days it's highly likely there s fair few have the website in running in the background.
This would make them appear constantly online ... Even if they're not aware of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't meet often and I'm online a lot sometimes as I like the forums and I like some of the banter,I don't equate being online as being up for meeting at that moment,for me the site is far bigger than instant hook ups
So I don't really worry about what other people think about me being here,I enjoy it,I meet lovely people when I want to and that's what I like "
That's me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am genuinely too busy.
I'm a single parent & get 1 night off a week. I have real life friends that I like to see & family I'm quite fond of too.
It's also 40th birthday year so parties & girlie nights away.
I've met some lovely gents on here that I like seeing more than once too.
So although we maybe online, our lives do not revolve around fab.
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This pretty much sums it up for me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I have been in here a while (before) and I'm wondering what people's opinions are on...
People who are constantly online but yet state too busy to meet or actually tell you they are too busy to meet...
Is it attention seeking? Fake ? Scared to meet or just .... Dreaded tw's"
People don't have to meet just because they're online. I'm on here now while I'm cooking tea, or I'll go on while I'm doing numerous other things. Does in no way mean I'm a time waster because, actually I do meet! And it also doesn't mean people are time wasters when they can't meet when you (or anyone) can. Both parties have to be free at the same time, not when one demands |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it just that the OP is getting frustrated that there appears to be some people on here who, despite logging into a sex site, aren't wanting to fuck him right now?
I mean someone on a sex site must be able to fuck right now, surely?
Anyone?
... Where's that tumble emotion...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just that the OP is getting frustrated that there appears to be some people on here who, despite logging into a sex site, aren't wanting to fuck him right now?
I mean someone on a sex site must be able to fuck right now, surely?
Anyone?
... Where's that tumble emotion...? "
... I would, but the tea is coming out the oven in half an hour... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between "too busy to meet" and "too busy to even pop online for a minute to read the forums while doing something else".
Moot point... Profiles states it why be "busy" and not hide profiles for example "
Why should we??
I freely admit I penned my own profile purely for my own amusement and that of my friends!
I use fab primarily for the forums and for information on clubs, parties and socials - and to stay in touch with people I meet at these events. I point out on my profile that I rarely meet from fab itself - but occasionally someone rather lovely comes along - so I meet - eventually! The rest of the time I simply enjoy the banter! That ok with you op?  |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
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Another person having a rant about people being online n not meeting
Good forbid we have lived outside of fab I mean how dare we, we are here for a sex sites bec n call surely.....
If u dnt like it you know where the delete account button is.....
As for this site..i bloody love it and its members, long live fab |
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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago
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I don't meet often like a lot on here have a ful time job family friends. This is a small part of my life. ..I never give false hopes as it says in my profile if I'm free i will let it be known. If I do arrange you can assure ill be there. .
i do find myself spending to much time on here though guess I'm to nosey  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they've just had an operation like me, I've had a hysterectomy, I don't want to hide my profile as I might set up some new meets for when I'm recovered. Maybe they don't want everyone to know why they can't meet, so have just stayed "busy" x |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
Ok here is my 2ps worth
I live with parents....so can't acomodate.
Also to meet for an overnight without being local to north west London would be impossible as I work office hours
At weekends I go to a club every few weekends / maybe go to a social
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Am in here to chat and get to know people before meeting
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they just don't fancy you
If somebody wants to be online 24/7 just to chat that's their perogative and as you have been on a week and already had one meet its a little soon to be playing the time waster card  |
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Single parent previously (although with Mr now) we have time when we have finished work to chill out and maybe grab some dinner but then exhausted and all we want to do is veg in front of the TV or catch up with our teens ... we meet at parties and select clubs, but haven't been for a good few months - planning our first social in a long time on Thursday and hopefully followed by a few nights of fun over the next few weeks. BUT, I am working six days a week from 7 am until at least 6 pm, so that means busy to me .. and if not busy, then tired. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they've just had an operation like me, I've had a hysterectomy, I don't want to hide my profile as I might set up some new meets for when I'm recovered. Maybe they don't want everyone to know why they can't meet, so have just stayed "busy" x"
Hope your recovery goes well. Best thing I ever had done, honestly.
Back to the Op, we both tend to leave Fab open in a window on our phones. I doubt we ever appear to be offline between us especially as I like the Forums. Organising to both be in the same place to meet during the working week is difficult, family and friends take priority over Fab at other times. Fab is a part of our lives, our lives don't revolve around it. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"We often leave the computer logged in to Fab while we are doing other things, and drop in and out as time permits.
There is a difference between being able to spend a couple of minutes online checking the forums and having time to prepare for and go to a meet"
I agree with this and don't have anything else to say that is nice and supportive... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How very dare they!!!!! I know,how dare we not meet right NOW and have a life "
Your sarcasm is boring
Can't meet to busy
Won't meet to scared
Not got time
Not meeting
Only here to chat
All of the above makes them a time waster or a liar
E.g not meeting and too busy... Yet verified 24 hours later with a wet
Neither normal or polite or truthful |
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"How very dare they!!!!! I know,how dare we not meet right NOW and have a life
Your sarcasm is boring
Can't meet to busy
Won't meet to scared
Not got time
Not meeting
Only here to chat
All of the above makes them a time waster or a liar
E.g not meeting and too busy... Yet verified 24 hours later with a wet
Neither normal or polite or truthful "
I find it hard to understand how any of the above makes them a time waster?
If they had agreed to meet you and not turned up, then fair comment.
If they state too busy or not meeting, then you simply pass on by and nothing lost.
Swinging isn't just about having sex with as many people as you can in as short a time as possible. Some people enjoy the social side too.
If a profile says not meeting or busy and you contact them anyway, surely it's you that's wasting your own time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How very dare they!!!!! I know,how dare we not meet right NOW and have a life
Your sarcasm is boring
Can't meet to busy
Won't meet to scared
Not got time
Not meeting
Only here to chat
All of the above makes them a time waster or a liar
E.g not meeting and too busy... Yet verified 24 hours later with a wet
Neither normal or polite or truthful "
They aren't interested in you. Just move on to those who are looking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have to meet anyone regardless of how much time I spend on here. I rarely browse profiles. I don't always read messages when I come online, I tend to go straight for the forum.
I access fab mainly from my phone. I keep myself constantly logged on and I just click off my browser when I've finished, so maybe I show as online constantly, I'm not really sure. Either way people can think what they like and I shall continue to do things my way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another reason why i hate my gender is this thread. If your in a constant chat loop have some balls and either go for gold or pansy out!
I've had about a decent success rate with chatters with just showing all my cards with confidence, I'm not gorgeous, I'm not even pretty, I am however very good at making women orgasm and relaxing them. (mostly cos I'm not a lying sack of shit, I show up prepared and I make the effort to show the woman she's not just a notch on my bed post)
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Now I'm tired, I shouldn't be surprised by these threads... not everyone has empathy, compassion or any background in helping anyone except themselves  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I have been in here a while (before) and I'm wondering what people's opinions are on...
People who are constantly online but yet state too busy to meet or actually tell you they are too busy to meet...
Is it attention seeking? Fake ? Scared to meet or just .... Dreaded tw's"
I'm usually too busy to meet when I'm online cause I'm mostly online at work.
My boss has this weird rule about not being slowed to leave early for a shag.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between "too busy to meet" and "too busy to even pop online for a minute to read the forums while doing something else".
Moot point... Profiles states it why be "busy" and not hide profiles for example "
Because you don't take the adverts down just because the shop is shut for the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How very dare they!!!!! I know,how dare we not meet right NOW and have a life
Your sarcasm is boring
Can't meet to busy
Won't meet to scared
Not got time
Not meeting
Only here to chat
All of the above makes them a time waster or a liar
E.g not meeting and too busy... Yet verified 24 hours later with a wet
Neither normal or polite or truthful
I find it hard to understand how any of the above makes them a time waster?
If they had agreed to meet you and not turned up, then fair comment.
If they state too busy or not meeting, then you simply pass on by and nothing lost.
Swinging isn't just about having sex with as many people as you can in as short a time as possible. Some people enjoy the social side too.
If a profile says not meeting or busy and you contact them anyway, surely it's you that's wasting your own time? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey chill man it's life, some will meet some won't ,some will answer some won't ,some are addicted to fab some admit it some are in denial,some will fancy you some won't,some will criticise your grammar some won't ,as tom hanks once said" life is like a box of chocolates" ,yummy but remember he's an actor not a philosopher ,this place is life because the people here are real some have fake profiles and pics but they are still real people that's who they are ,sex is a luxury and luxuries can be shelved sometimes for more important things ,just know from this moment onwards that people will let you down ,that way you won't be disillusioned when it happens xx hugs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How very dare they!!!!! I know,how dare we not meet right NOW and have a life
Your sarcasm is boring
Can't meet to busy
Won't meet to scared
Not got time
Not meeting
Only here to chat
All of the above makes them a time waster or a liar
E.g not meeting and too busy... Yet verified 24 hours later with a wet
Neither normal or polite or truthful "
How about not meeting because plans have already been made to meet someone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How very dare they!!!!! I know,how dare we not meet right NOW and have a life
Your sarcasm is boring
Can't meet to busy
Won't meet to scared
Not got time
Not meeting
Only here to chat
All of the above makes them a time waster or a liar
E.g not meeting and too busy... Yet verified 24 hours later with a wet
Neither normal or polite or truthful "
Ahhhh OK this explains it (especially the verified bit) they were just trying to let you down gently op.
They're not too busy to meet they just don't want to meet you. |
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Besides which... Why can't I be online all day and not want to meet? Surely it's up to me how much time I spend on here. And just because I'm online doesn't necessarily mean I'm not busy... Just means I can multitask!! |
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