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What things really annoy you while swinging?
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On a serious note though it would have to be pushy people or the cum and go brigade.
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"Guys thinking that all us ladies over a certain size should be ever so grateful they wanna shag us "was gonna say this too | |||
"I hope you told him where to go" Lol yeah we did, well i didnt but he said to the guy, can you give us a bit of space please and the guy did say oh yeah sorry and move away, I just think he got a bit carried away and didnt realise just how offputting it was | |||
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"Guys thinking that all us ladies over a certain size should be ever so grateful they wanna shag us "now that is not always true.xx | |||
"I think that would be the worse thing on a meet but i'd discuss the matter beforehand anyways so we was all singing from the same hymn sheet so to speak xxxx" Hi holly We're experienced enough to do that - The only times we ever had this problem is when we agree to meet couples for a safe sex meet and then the other guy changes the rules for himself - usually in sep rooms (or even in the same room) as he knows Ju may bareback with him x | |||
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"Guys thinking that all us ladies over a certain size should be ever so grateful they wanna shag us
now that is not always true.xx"No...not always | |||
"I think that would be the worse thing on a meet but i'd discuss the matter beforehand anyways so we was all singing from the same hymn sheet so to speak xxxx Hi holly We're experienced enough to do that - The only times we ever had this problem is when we agree to meet couples for a safe sex meet and then the other guy changes the rules for himself - usually in sep rooms (or even in the same room) as he knows Ju may bareback with him x" Right, let me get this straight. You are in one room, having the agreed safe sex, and you are happy with that, correct? In the other room is your partner, having either safe, or unprotected sex, and she is happy too, either way? Um, what's your problem? That someone is getting to shag your Mrs bareback, so you want to do the same to his? Or, is it that your Mrs is incapable of standing up to a chancer when he decides he doesn't want to use a condom? I know if it was me, rather than being a case of "he knows Ju may bareback with him", it would be, "he can expect Ju to kick him in the bollocks, call me and the night to finish there and then". Sounds like you are part of a couple who aren't communicating properly, IMHO, seeing as Ju doesn't get forced or co-erced into bareback, it seems that someone asks and she makes her decision. If she's not happy with it, why the hell would you leave her in a position where someone pressures her into unsafe play, and worse, more than once? | |||
"they/we had it said by the guy after playing 'I'd never bring my wife to a place like this' Let's just say that didn't go down well with us either. " ive over heard guys many times in clubs talking to each other and make such comments, it just goes over my head now | |||
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"Guys thinking that all us ladies over a certain size should be ever so grateful they wanna shag us
now that is not always true.xx"It's not always true but some people (guys,gals and couples) do have a arrogant streak here. The "you're lucky to be in my presence" attitude. How anyone supposed to relax and enjoy your company with an attitude like that?  | |||
"i think the main thing thats annoys me in swinging is just clingy people when you go to a club and play with someone and then every time they see you they just assum your going to play with them again or when you have private meets off here and they keep mailing you and texting asking when your free again, and even when you say im not sure i'll get back to you they still keep texting asking" To be fair, in the past when I've waitied for one or two previous contacts "get back to me" the response (eventually) was "Oh I didn't hear from you, figured you were busy and as there were several other guys that wanted to meet me I moved on" | |||
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"1) You say hello to someone - and they blatantly blank you 2) Yes, the well known "I wouldn't bring my wife to a place like this" observed with (typically) asian single men 3) Black guys who think their cock is all you need to know about them 4) Females that think "I have a pussy, that's all you need to know" (some profiles are guilty of this) 5) Couples with the attitude "single males - you bring nothing to the table" (typically the male half writing) 6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) 7) Couples/Females that feel its ok to bend/break rules that single blokes typically (and probably deservedly) would get the book thrown at them for." Lol. People act like the above here. Clubs must be horrible! 
I don't get number six. Could you explain it to me? thanks. | |||
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" 6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) I don't get number six. Could you explain it to me? thanks. "No we don't get number 6 either - what if we said 6) Couples that seek single *males* (whilst both are straight) Whats the difference, a woman gets a 3sum with two straight guys or a guy gets a 3sum with two straight fems? x | |||
" Right, let me get this straight. You are in one room, having the agreed safe sex, and you are happy with that, correct? In the other room is your partner, having either safe, or unprotected sex, and she is happy too, either way? Um, what's your problem? That someone is getting to shag your Mrs bareback, so you want to do the same to his? Or, is it that your Mrs is incapable of standing up to a chancer when he decides he doesn't want to use a condom? I know if it was me, rather than being a case of "he knows Ju may bareback with him", it would be, "he can expect Ju to kick him in the bollocks, call me and the night to finish there and then". Sounds like you are part of a couple who aren't communicating properly, IMHO, seeing as Ju doesn't get forced or co-erced into bareback, it seems that someone asks and she makes her decision. If she's not happy with it, why the hell would you leave her in a position where someone pressures her into unsafe play, and worse, more than once? " Ahh probably we didn't explain the reasoning well. We do put on our profile 'will bareback if that's you're preference and we all feel comfortable' So we get a lot of approaches from couples who also put bareback, a lot from couples who say 'we put safe on profile but we do/will bareback with you' and some (less admittedly) from couples who say 'we like the look of you, we don't bareback but would like to meet if we all play safe' We've even had a very few who wanna meet and the guy wants to bareback and the fem doesn't, but at least they are up front about it We have no problems with any of those and have had some great meets from all four 'camps' It's the other few who say they only wanna play safe and we all agree and then later it turns out the guy just wanted to try his luck (he obviously read our profile) and deliberately deceive his partner... I'll just spread some opened condom packets around ffs!
That's the situation that really got our goat Fortunately it has been very few times we came across it.
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"6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight)" Oh, it's not just me then! I posted something similiar on a thread a little while ago and someone took me to task, asking why I, a straight woman, wouldn't want to meet a straight couple! 
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"I think that would be the worse thing on a meet but i'd discuss the matter beforehand anyways so we was all singing from the same hymn sheet so to speak xxxx Hi holly We're experienced enough to do that - The only times we ever had this problem is when we agree to meet couples for a safe sex meet and then the other guy changes the rules for himself - usually in sep rooms (or even in the same room) as he knows Ju may bareback with him x" I think sometimes no one knows what to expect on a meet as the rules are always changing,I have met peeps who said safe sex only then whisper in my ear,we are happy to go bareback with you though! | |||
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"6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) Oh, it's not just me then! I posted something similiar on a thread a little while ago and someone took me to task, asking why I, a straight woman, wouldn't want to meet a straight couple!
"we've met a single female in the past and i'm straight with no inclination to become bisexual, what you've stated is just a preference, but why can't us ladies enjoy seeing our partners with another woman, after all it seems to be ok for husbands to see their wives with other men without having their sexuality questioned. | |||
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"8) Guys (single or part of a couple) that actively pursue girls young enough to be their daughters or younger" hang on a mo you've been verified by several woman old enough to be your mum | |||
"6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) Oh, it's not just me then! I posted something similiar on a thread a little while ago and someone took me to task, asking why I, a straight woman, wouldn't want to meet a straight couple!
we've met a single female in the past and i'm straight with no inclination to become bisexual, what you've stated is just a preference, but why can't us ladies enjoy seeing our partners with another woman, after all it seems to be ok for husbands to see their wives with other men without having their sexuality questioned."if straight couples can meet single guys for 3sums with no bi action between the men why cant it work the same with women? | |||
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"So glad I don't do clubs" I agree! lol | |||
"Seems like some people get annoyed by other people having preferences! How bizarre! We meet people we like the look of, not much 'annoys' us really - we're too busy having fun! Z" I have had that a bit lately.. I had a few racist comments because I will only Have White men and ladies, but its my choice.. It doesnt really annoy me to much, but find that it causes the most hateful messages. Just because I wont have sex with anyone not white, doesnt mean I am racist. lol | |||
"6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) Oh, it's not just me then! I posted something similiar on a thread a little while ago and someone took me to task, asking why I, a straight woman, wouldn't want to meet a straight couple!
we've met a single female in the past and i'm straight with no inclination to become bisexual, what you've stated is just a preference, but why can't us ladies enjoy seeing our partners with another woman, after all it seems to be ok for husbands to see their wives with other men without having their sexuality questioned."If that's what you state that is fine. That wasn't my point. My point is I have only interested in meeting men, why would I meet a couple to put on a show for the wife, then sit back while they get on with it. It does nothing for me. It's people that question your every preference that annoys me: a straight couple do nothing for me, end off. I don't expect someone to ask me why, as someone did!! | |||
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"6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) Oh, it's not just me then! I posted something similiar on a thread a little while ago and someone took me to task, asking why I, a straight woman, wouldn't want to meet a straight couple!
we've met a single female in the past and i'm straight with no inclination to become bisexual, what you've stated is just a preference, but why can't us ladies enjoy seeing our partners with another woman, after all it seems to be ok for husbands to see their wives with other men without having their sexuality questioned.
if straight couples can meet single guys for 3sums with no bi action between the men why cant it work the same with women?"You're missing the point to! What other people do IS NOT THE ISSUE!!! It's about what I want. I play with single men, I don't want to be part of a FFM THAT is my point, it's not saying I think I'm going to turn bi!! | |||
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"what i wanna know is this what EXACTLY has skin colour to do with shagging?? we are ALL the same colour inside are we not?? " Why do some not want young people, older people, large people, skinny people... Its personal preference.. One of my friends likes to have a black man, because she likes the contrast.. the same very thing I do not like.. I have not tried it nor would I want to.. Do I have friends not white, oh yes, do they know I wouldnt ever touch them sexually.. yup.. does it offend them.. nope.. as they know its a preference. Like one of my male friends only likes white big girls.. its his choice, its what he finds attractive. So try not to take offence.. | |||
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"i didnt take offence at all i just dont get it and never will" It's simple.....people have preferences, I should imagine you do too? | |||
"i didnt take offence at all i just dont get it and never will" So you are attracted to everyone then? | |||
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"i didnt take offence at all i just dont get it and never will" I wouldnt do seperate rooms swaps either, my choice.. not for us.. its about preferences.. I dont find non white men attractive sexually. I have colour choices hair wise for White men too.. and if I want to get really picky I have to talk to them first as I need to hear the voice.. Its preference. Plain and simple. | |||
"the colour of someones skin does not stop me from fucking them or should it?? " Well if it did or didn't that would be your personal preference......I think maybe you are looking to make an issue of something that is all down to personal preferences. | |||
"the colour of someones skin does not stop me from fucking them or should it?? " You really don't get it - do you! No-one is saying it should stop anyone "fucking" them but does there not need to be some sort of attraction for you then? Do you not need that and I am not talking about just skin colour, it could be anything that puts someone off wanting to meet someone else and then get down to the "fucking" as you put it! You seem to have got too caught up thinking others are only interested in what colour someones skin is! As always, just my own wee opinion. | |||
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"6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) Oh, it's not just me then! I posted something similiar on a thread a little while ago and someone took me to task, asking why I, a straight woman, wouldn't want to meet a straight couple!
we've met a single female in the past and i'm straight with no inclination to become bisexual, what you've stated is just a preference, but why can't us ladies enjoy seeing our partners with another woman, after all it seems to be ok for husbands to see their wives with other men without having their sexuality questioned.
If that's what you state that is fine. That wasn't my point. My point is I have only interested in meeting men, why would I meet a couple to put on a show for the wife, then sit back while they get on with it. It does nothing for me.
It's people that question your every preference that annoys me: a straight couple do nothing for me, end off. I don't expect someone to ask me why, as someone did!! "Thats right sassy, it's simply your preference, however the original statement was by a male which seemed to assume that 2 straight women cannot have a threesome which didn't make any sense, i'd hedge a bet he wouldn't say NO if 2 straight ladies asked him for a FFM | |||
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"the colour of someones skin does not stop me from fucking them or should it?? " Depends why you're here, some people are here solely to act out their fantasies, i've seen profiles stating black men only yet the husband is white. | |||
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"so what happens to sunbed worshippers then?? they aint white anymore are they just my opinion too "I don't like orange women. | |||
"i dont have any issues at all i think other people do though i look at it like this.. if you dont like/fancy someone of a particular race you dont have to actually SAY IT you can just politely decline. Someones race is a bit different to say someones size!! It is called manners but then again some people have none of those so wouldnt have a clue what i am talking about. " Saying it on their own profile saves them getting contacted by whatever race they are not interested in meeting.... well that's if folk actually do read the profile first!
I will leave you with your "mind reading" of what you perceive others are thinking! | |||
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"It is called manners but then again some people have none of those so wouldnt have a clue what i am talking about. " Well thanks for that. I've never found a black or Asian guy attractive, doesn't mean I have a problem with anyone of any race. I don't label people as this or that or the other. I'm just not physically attracted to them. Just as I'm not attracted to men with long hair or facial hair. So if I left it off my profile, in an act of political correctness, I'd be wasting people's time would I not? There is a big difference between stating your opinion on a forum in healthy debate and criticising others for their _iews. There seems to be a lot of the latter lately on this site.... | |||
"i dont have any issues at all i think other people do though i look at it like this.. if you dont like/fancy someone of a particular race you dont have to actually SAY IT you can just politely decline. Someones race is a bit different to say someones size!! It is called manners but then again some people have none of those so wouldnt have a clue what i am talking about. " So you calling yourself 'Liteskin' is no indication to you having problems with the subject? I think the problem lies with you and not others preferences if you can't respect their right to have them. For the record I do meet black guys on occassion, but once again I am just excercising my preferences the same as anyone who chooses not to meet black guys. | |||
"i dont have any issues at all i think other people do though i look at it like this.. if you dont like/fancy someone of a particular race you dont have to actually SAY IT you can just politely decline. Someones race is a bit different to say someones size!! It is called manners but then again some people have none of those so wouldnt have a clue what i am talking about. " I have perfect Manners thank you, when I didnt have White men and women only on my profile I would politely refuse men that were black/asian or anything else, and would often get a torrent of abuse back as to why.. so to save the abuse I added it to my profile. Its something I am very clear on, along with the fact I prefer single guys to couples, that I dont do socials and prefer 2 or more men at once. Its all my choice.. Back on topic.. things that annoy me about swinging... Those that say one thing on their profile then when I talk to them they try to change it to fit with what I want.. clearly not going to work either. lol Katie.x | |||
"Seems like some people get annoyed by other people having preferences! How bizarre! We meet people we like the look of, not much 'annoys' us really - we're too busy having fun! Z" Bizarre indeed: I don't get it either! Some people are just arrogant cry babies who get upset if they're excluded! It doesn't mean someone is racist, sexist, ageist etc if they don't want to play with you! | |||
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"Seems like some people get annoyed by other people having preferences! How bizarre! We meet people we like the look of, not much 'annoys' us really - we're too busy having fun! Z Bizarre indeed: I don't get it either! Some people are just arrogant cry babies who get upset if they're excluded! It doesn't mean someone is racist, sexist, ageist etc if they don't want to play with you! "Yep, life's too short to get your knickers in a twist about what other people have on their profile! Off to get ready in a minute to go out and play, not annoyed about anything! Z | |||
"8) Guys (single or part of a couple) that actively pursue girls young enough to be their daughters or younger hang on a mo you've been verified by several woman old enough to be your mum "Actually No, my mom would be 68 | |||
"6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) Oh, it's not just me then! I posted something similiar on a thread a little while ago and someone took me to task, asking why I, a straight woman, wouldn't want to meet a straight couple!
we've met a single female in the past and i'm straight with no inclination to become bisexual, what you've stated is just a preference, but why can't us ladies enjoy seeing our partners with another woman, after all it seems to be ok for husbands to see their wives with other men without having their sexuality questioned.
if straight couples can meet single guys for 3sums with no bi action between the men why cant it work the same with women?"To clarify, quite a number of couples have no intention of any man playing with the female half, even though they say they like to fullswap (???) - if they had put that it was purely the male half playing then would make sense. I've seen 2 couples at a club try to get together in a room where neither guy wanted the other to play with his partner, and both tried their darndest to play with the other female. Result: Funniest half hour of frustration and no one got anything in the end | |||
"Seems like some people get annoyed by other people having preferences! How bizarre! We meet people we like the look of, not much 'annoys' us really - we're too busy having fun! Z" yeah i was thinking this ive read on a few messages people putting people who say no black and asians i cant see why someones sexuaal preference would annoy someone? | |||
"the colour of someones skin does not stop me from fucking them or should it?? " i'm over weight lots of profile state they dont like big women so what do you do get annoyed about it or turn you attention to the people who do like you? being fat dont stop me fucking but i respect not everyones going to want to meet me due to my size as other should respect not everyones going to want to meet them due to their colour | |||
Now it might be my definition but that's definately at least a bi-curious thing isn't it? | |||
" The excuse was that if a woman is using a dildo on a man the don't consider it a bi/gay thing ? Now it might be my definition but that's definately at least a bi-curious thing isn't it?"how is a woman using a strap-on on a guy bi/gay last time i looked being bi or gay was sexual contact with someone of the same sex
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"Guys thinking that all us ladies over a certain size should be ever so grateful they wanna shag us "I much prefer a woman with curves, cant be doing with a size zero | |||
"1) You say hello to someone - and they blatantly blank you 2) Yes, the well known "I wouldn't bring my wife to a place like this" observed with (typically) asian single men 3) Black guys who think their cock is all you need to know about them 4) Females that think "I have a pussy, that's all you need to know" (some profiles are guilty of this) 5) Couples with the attitude "single males - you bring nothing to the table" (typically the male half writing) 6) Couples that seek single females (whilst both are straight) 7) Couples/Females that feel its ok to bend/break rules that single blokes typically (and probably deservedly) would get the book thrown at them for." I also have a couples profile on here I am straight I enjoy being in the company of other females and love seeing my fb with other girls can i ask why you have an issue with it?? | |||
