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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
So we've built up a collection of friends on here, some I chat to daily, some not so much.
I Messaged 4 of them to see if they were free this week, read no reply, I messaged again to see if they were ok and nothing, they didn't unfriend me or reply, how strange huh.
Anyone know what's up with that? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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friends are people i actually know...people i chat to on the internet are people i chat to on the internet....nothing more...though ive been in the position of assuming they are something more in the past....they are not. |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Are these friends couples? Perhaps only one half has read your message and they are waiting to discuss with the other half. "
Yeah I thought that but 3 days? And still putting posts for meets on update? |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
If it's couples maybe one had read the messages and not the other and like to reply as a couple.
We reply to messages . If Dicks read a message and not told me we had a message it may take time for a reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me Fab friends are people I have met AND are still in touch with.
Anyone who goes quiet gets deleted. I have 6 Fab friends 
Fancy making it 7?
Yuck, keep it topic xx"
Ha rude! Since when has flirting been disallowed on forums!!!  |
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"For me Fab friends are people I have met AND are still in touch with.
Anyone who goes quiet gets deleted. I have 6 Fab friends
Fancy making it 7?
Yuck, keep it topic xx
Ha rude! Since when has flirting been disallowed on forums!!! "
Since now it seems  |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"For me Fab friends are people I have met AND are still in touch with.
Anyone who goes quiet gets deleted. I have 6 Fab friends
Fancy making it 7?
Yuck, keep it topic xx
Ha rude! Since when has flirting been disallowed on forums!!! "
It hasn't, I was only saying the other day that my posts always get hijacked lol x |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Well we never believe anyone until we have met them. From people we have met, we might be disappointed, from others that we haven't met, we wouldn't be surprised. "
Well its both, one we've even play with twice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bit weird of them, it's possible they might need to sort out a babysitter and are seeing what's gonna be possible/likely outcome before messaging you back.
But, the amount of fantasists and wankers on here makes me more sleptical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we've built up a collection of friends on here, some I chat to daily, some not so much.
I Messaged 4 of them to see if they were free this week, read no reply, I messaged again to see if they were ok and nothing, they didn't unfriend me or reply, how strange huh.r
Anyone know what's up with that? Xx"
could it be they are not actually friends persay  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always make it clear that we often don't like to meet the same people more that once , or at least leave it a while before meeting them again .
This doesn't mean we won't add them to our friends , and there's no reason to reply go them nor anyone else if we don't feel like it .
If the op thinks that friends should reply to messages sent by friends , or stop posting meets until they have explained themselves , then be prepared for a rough ride on here !
Friends in the swinging world are nothing like friends in the non swinging environment .
It can be a cold and shallow place if you let it be . |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Bit weird of them, it's possible they might need to sort out a babysitter and are seeing what's gonna be possible/likely outcome before messaging you back.
But, the amount of fantasists and wankers on here makes me more sleptical."
Yeah but we only have friends with people we've chatted too loads and have multiple meet verifications xx |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"We always make it clear that we often don't like to meet the same people more that once , or at least leave it a while before meeting them again .
This doesn't mean we won't add them to our friends , and there's no reason to reply go them nor anyone else if we don't feel like it .
If the op thinks that friends should reply to messages sent by friends , or stop posting meets until they have explained themselves , then be prepared for a rough ride on here !
Friends in the swinging world are nothing like friends in the non swinging environment .
It can be a cold and shallow place if you let it be ."
Yes I do think you should always reply to friends, especially if we've had sex.
We always do even if it's to say we won't be be playing again, we're just mugs I guess xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have people on my friends list that I may never never meet, logistics wise but they're 'friends' none the less.
Also that's generally the way to access the juicier photos |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So we've built up a collection of friends on here, some I chat to daily, some not so much.
I Messaged 4 of them to see if they were free this week, read no reply, I messaged again to see if they were ok and nothing, they didn't unfriend me or reply, how strange huh.
Anyone know what's up with that? Xx"
Christ - i would be messaging you back pronto! |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I have people on my friends list that I may never never meet, logistics wise but they're 'friends' none the less.
Also that's generally the way to access the juicier photos"
I'd even settle for them telling us they've changed their mind or don't feel like travelling or just unfriend us.
Why leave us in limbo? Xx |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"So we've built up a collection of friends on here, some I chat to daily, some not so much.
I Messaged 4 of them to see if they were free this week, read no reply, I messaged again to see if they were ok and nothing, they didn't unfriend me or reply, how strange huh.
Anyone know what's up with that? Xx
Christ - i would be messaging you back pronto! "
That's sweet of you to say xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bit weird of them, it's possible they might need to sort out a babysitter and are seeing what's gonna be possible/likely outcome before messaging you back.
But, the amount of fantasists and wankers on here makes me more sleptical.
Yeah but we only have friends with people we've chatted too loads and have multiple meet verifications xx"
Dunno, if they won't say then you'll never know.
I just saw a thread where a couple been moaning about someone expecting a meet with them, and they mentioned they needed babysitters and that... then i thought of this topic... |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Bit weird of them, it's possible they might need to sort out a babysitter and are seeing what's gonna be possible/likely outcome before messaging you back.
But, the amount of fantasists and wankers on here makes me more sleptical.
Yeah but we only have friends with people we've chatted too loads and have multiple meet verifications xx
Dunno, if they won't say then you'll never know.
I just saw a thread where a couple been moaning about someone expecting a meet with them, and they mentioned they needed babysitters and that... then i thought of this topic..."
Why not just say that then? We are understanding and appreciate not everyone is as free as us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it's couples maybe one had read the messages and not the other and like to reply as a couple.
We reply to messages . If Dicks read a message and not told me we had a message it may take time for a reply"
We find the way around that is no mark the message as unread again until we've both seen it. Stops any confusion for the sender. |
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"Doesn't the FAQs answer this, no reply = no interest
But if they're friends already?
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Makes no odds if friends already, still same output, no reply not interested.
If we're interested but unavailable then they'd replied saying that
People find it easier not to reply that to full on send rejection message |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bit weird of them, it's possible they might need to sort out a babysitter and are seeing what's gonna be possible/likely outcome before messaging you back.
But, the amount of fantasists and wankers on here makes me more sleptical.
Yeah but we only have friends with people we've chatted too loads and have multiple meet verifications xx
Dunno, if they won't say then you'll never know.
I just saw a thread where a couple been moaning about someone expecting a meet with them, and they mentioned they needed babysitters and that... then i thought of this topic...
Why not just say that then? We are understanding and appreciate not everyone is as free as us x"
Dunno? I would say something now, but when i was first on here i wasn't sure how to tell people anything without looking like i was messing about. I just put i don't plant meets on my profile coz it's too much hassle anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we give people benefit of the doubt- life can be hectic - sometimes we read and dont have time to reply - or one of us reads and wants to conflab before replying etc - not often as we know what we want and who with etc but does happen occasionaly - if it happens a few times then hotlisted and deleted off friends with a note put on the notes thingy - in time gone completely - if we had more time we would probably delete more anyway but tend to deal with the here and now and who messages us |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"we give people benefit of the doubt- life can be hectic - sometimes we read and dont have time to reply - or one of us reads and wants to conflab before replying etc - not often as we know what we want and who with etc but does happen occasionaly - if it happens a few times then hotlisted and deleted off friends with a note put on the notes thingy - in time gone completely - if we had more time we would probably delete more anyway but tend to deal with the here and now and who messages us "
So you message a few times? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we give people benefit of the doubt- life can be hectic - sometimes we read and dont have time to reply - or one of us reads and wants to conflab before replying etc - not often as we know what we want and who with etc but does happen occasionaly - if it happens a few times then hotlisted and deleted off friends with a note put on the notes thingy - in time gone completely - if we had more time we would probably delete more anyway but tend to deal with the here and now and who messages us
So you message a few times? Xx"
if its people we have chatted to a fair bit - definitely give them a chance or two |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"we give people benefit of the doubt- life can be hectic - sometimes we read and dont have time to reply - or one of us reads and wants to conflab before replying etc - not often as we know what we want and who with etc but does happen occasionaly - if it happens a few times then hotlisted and deleted off friends with a note put on the notes thingy - in time gone completely - if we had more time we would probably delete more anyway but tend to deal with the here and now and who messages us
So you message a few times? Xx
if its people we have chatted to a fair bit - definitely give them a chance or two "
Ive messaged one 3 times and nothing, does your method work out? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we give people benefit of the doubt- life can be hectic - sometimes we read and dont have time to reply - or one of us reads and wants to conflab before replying etc - not often as we know what we want and who with etc but does happen occasionaly - if it happens a few times then hotlisted and deleted off friends with a note put on the notes thingy - in time gone completely - if we had more time we would probably delete more anyway but tend to deal with the here and now and who messages us
So you message a few times? Xx
if its people we have chatted to a fair bit - definitely give them a chance or two
Ive messaged one 3 times and nothing, does your method work out? X"
sometimes we send a if youre not interested anymore delete us message but they tend to be ignored- we will delete off friends list and put aside onto hotlist - there may be good reason for them not chatting - if they appear to be meeting and ignoring us could just be we arent at the top of the pile - we have a lot of people on our friends list and would take all day every day to chat to all of them - depends on how harsh you want to be - |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"we give people benefit of the doubt- life can be hectic - sometimes we read and dont have time to reply - or one of us reads and wants to conflab before replying etc - not often as we know what we want and who with etc but does happen occasionaly - if it happens a few times then hotlisted and deleted off friends with a note put on the notes thingy - in time gone completely - if we had more time we would probably delete more anyway but tend to deal with the here and now and who messages us
So you message a few times? Xx
if its people we have chatted to a fair bit - definitely give them a chance or two
Ive messaged one 3 times and nothing, does your method work out? X
sometimes we send a if youre not interested anymore delete us message but they tend to be ignored- we will delete off friends list and put aside onto hotlist - there may be good reason for them not chatting - if they appear to be meeting and ignoring us could just be we arent at the top of the pile - we have a lot of people on our friends list and would take all day every day to chat to all of them - depends on how harsh you want to be - "
Yeah I guess so, it would feel to me to have someone as a friend looking at our private pics if we were going to play, doesn't it to you? Xx |
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