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If you could give one piece of advice...
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By *rof_cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Gerrards Cross |
... to newbies, what would it be?
Seeing as we're fairly new to all of this we thought we'd try to skip a bit of the learning curve by asking the lovely people on the forum what piece of advice they wish they'd been told when they first joined Fab?
Examples might be how to get to know people at clubs, how to spot fakes/timewasters etc. What not to do when organising a meetup etc. If we get some good suggestions then hopefully it'll be useful for other newbies reading the forums too 
Thanks xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couples with a bi-fem......sometimes are only looking to play with the fem, no matter what. Even if you have made it clear you are looking for full swap. There are some on here that operate that way but not sure how easy to spot them...no names given here lol.... |
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"... to newbies, what would it be?
Seeing as we're fairly new to all of this we thought we'd try to skip a bit of the learning curve by asking the lovely people on the forum what piece of advice they wish they'd been told when they first joined Fab?
Examples might be how to get to know people at clubs, how to spot fakes/timewasters etc. What not to do when organising a meetup etc. If we get some good suggestions then hopefully it'll be useful for other newbies reading the forums too
Thanks xxx"
Always respond to onliners and you have to fuck everyone to show your not sexist, racist or ageist.
Ps everyone talks safe sex but in reality the whole site are bareback freaks.
Enjoy.
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
I would say to remember that swinging is a journey, not a race. Especially when starting out, if something doesnt feel right, dont push the situation hoping it will get better, just remove yourself from the situation, and live to swing another day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A negative one... Take everything anyone says to you with a pinch of salt.
A positive one... Have fun and enjoy the ride.
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hey and always enjoy the ride ,great advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A negative one... Take everything anyone says to you with a pinch of salt.
That sounds like good advice, but obviously we'll have to take it with a pinch of salt "
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Socials are a great way to meet swingers who are genuine enough to turn up. This is also a great way to try a club for the first time, as socials are primarily to meet up in a no pressure to play environment. Of course if you click with another couple then you can really enjoy the night too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best advice is just go for it .
Bit like getting on the platform before diving into the pool . Spend too long thinking and asking if you should and you won't !
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I think you need to do it your way, whatever that turns out to be and don't let yourselves be pressured into doing anything you aren't comfortable with.
Talk together, so you both know what you want to do.
Be polite and friendly, especially when saying "no".
Most importantly have fun
Nita |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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be on the same wavelength, a couple we got to know off the site as well as on it have just split up, partly, but not totally, because one wanted to run on here and the other wanted to walk, talk things through so it suiting both of you
mr |
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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago
Dunstable |
Use kik to private message if you dont want to give out a phone number.
Have first meets in a public place.
Have a signal between you when meeting someone, so you know if you want to escape.
Trust your gut feeling, don't be guilted into doing more than you want.
Don't be afraid to discuss boundaries before you play with someone. |
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Talk to each other first before you go off with another couple - don't take one for the team.
Discuss your own boundaries before you go out to play
Discuss the other couples boundaries with them before you start.
Have a safe word so if one of you starts to feel unsafe, say it loud and proud and get out quickly, don't ask the other why until alone.
Make sure you're willing to see and hear your OH having a good time!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seeing as we're fairly new to all of this we thought we'd try to skip a bit of the learning curve by asking the lovely people on the forum what piece of advice they wish they'd been told when they first joined Fab?"
Some subjects are off topic in the chatrooms often resulting in a ban without warning.
Not all are documented either - so far I suggest don't direct others or talk about drugs.
Will add to this as I go along... |
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Beware of keyboard swingers... Ironic as this may seem, the more a person tells you that they have been tossing off like a hot blooded whoever over your photos, the less likely they are ever to show up and enjoy you in the flesh.  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
communicate
go at your own pace, dont people please to gain experience
be honest, and if you dont know about something, say so upfront.
write your profile from the view of what you want now..you can change it over and over again, as you go.
new experiences are only ever unknown for 30 seconds maximum.. like going to a club / social or meeting a new person..
relax, although some have a dry sense of humour on the forums, there are loads of lovely peeps on here to make you feel welcome..
if you get overwhelmed by it all, take a few days away and go back to the point where you were having fun with it...
enjoy the journey and let it flow
welcome, may you have the best of times x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get your shield and armour if you intend to post in the forums reg..thick skin is necessary..take it all with a huge dose of salt ...enjoy and laugh..and always rubber up |
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Best advice for newbies, communication is key, always talk to each other about what you like or don't , we've seen plenty of couples fall out over miss communication ( although she was quite hot lol ) and it's not a race take your time , explore what you both want and don't let others push you to do something your unhappy with |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"... to newbies, what would it be?
Seeing as we're fairly new to all of this we thought we'd try to skip a bit of the learning curve by asking the lovely people on the forum what piece of advice they wish they'd been told when they first joined Fab?
Examples might be how to get to know people at clubs, how to spot fakes/timewasters etc. What not to do when organising a meetup etc. If we get some good suggestions then hopefully it'll be useful for other newbies reading the forums too
Thanks xxx"
Don't hassle people for meets....make contact and allow them time to progress things if they so wish...what will be will be...If you try to force peoples' hand or pressurize at all they will back off smartish.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Set your limits an boundaries and stick to them. It is always better to go home from a meet or club wishing you'd done more than regretting something you've done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never be afraid to say no!
There are lots of really nice people on here, there are also lots of sleezy wannabes, take your time in working out who is who. Go at your own pace and enjoy yourselves, its meant to be fun |
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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago
London / Herts |
To single guys specifically?
Put some effort in to your approach, appearance and demeanour! Just because this isn't dating doesn't mean you're owed anything.
In general?
Be easygoing, it's all for fun ultimately
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