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over a year ago
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Hi my lovelies!
Just watched loose women and the 'big news' was that Kylie Minogue is dating a guy 20 years younger!
Now - many women on fab (including me) have meets with guys many years younger - and many young men on fab are actively looking to have meets with older women!
The question is, though, would you actually have a relationship with someone a lot older or younger publicly in real life rather than just meeting them on fab?
For my own part I have to say I really don't know! I have far more energy and act far younger than the vast majority of people my own age (and therefore have little in common with most men my age) but I'm not convinced I could cope with the 'stigma' Of having a relationship with somebody many years younger!
What do you all think? Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could achieve it I'm not one for allowing other people's opinion sway me but having said that havnt really been attracted to many very much younger than me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi my lovelies!
Just watched loose women and the 'big news' was that Kylie Minogue is dating a guy 20 years younger!
Now - many women on fab (including me) have meets with guys many years younger - and many young men on fab are actively looking to have meets with older women!
The question is, though, would you actually have a relationship with someone a lot older or younger publicly in real life rather than just meeting them on fab?
For my own part I have to say I really don't know! I have far more energy and act far younger than the vast majority of people my own age (and therefore have little in common with most men my age) but I'm not convinced I could cope with the 'stigma' Of having a relationship with somebody many years younger!
What do you all think? Xx
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When I first joined fab I only met younger guys (well apart from 1 or 2)
I never thought I'd change my mind and want to meet guys that were older than me. That has changed.
I got into a relationship last summer with a guy 10 years younger than me. We got on great at first and I'm still not sure if the age had anything to do with us splitting up?
I don't think I'd start another one that young again, but I will never say never as when you meet the "one" age, etc has nothing to do with falling in love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not keen. Just had someone 27 propose a relationship with me and his age has put me off. Might just be me making excuses not to have a relationship though. |
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When I was in my early 30s, I had relationships with women 20 years older. If the man has mental maturity, and the woman is physically very attractive (as obviously you are), there is no better arrangement and real friends will support, if not envy it.
But ultimately the man is likely at some point to opt for the procreative alternative. It works well if the woman makes clear at the outset that, for this reason alone, she is well aware that the relationship will end.
Precisely since it serves no biological function, and since it will end, such a relationship opens up the possibility of living freely and authentically in the moment. |
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"Hi my lovelies!
Just watched loose women and the 'big news' was that Kylie Minogue is dating a guy 20 years younger!
Now - many women on fab (including me) have meets with guys many years younger - and many young men on fab are actively looking to have meets with older women!
The question is, though, would you actually have a relationship with someone a lot older or younger publicly in real life rather than just meeting them on fab?
For my own part I have to say I really don't know! I have far more energy and act far younger than the vast majority of people my own age (and therefore have little in common with most men my age) but I'm not convinced I could cope with the 'stigma' Of having a relationship with somebody many years younger!
What do you all think? Xx
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I agree, I prefer someone nearer my own age for a relationship, it just feels more natural that way even if I find some young men easy company when I meet them, and vice versa. I think it depends massively on the individual though anyway - I remember there was one infamous lady on here in her forties with about 150 veris who deleted her profile and left to have a full-on relationsoip with an 18 yr old.  |
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"When I was in my early 30s, I had relationships with women 20 years older. If the man has mental maturity, and the woman is physically very attractive (as obviously you are), there is no better arrangement and real friends will support, if not envy it.
But ultimately the man is likely at some point to opt for the procreative alternative. It works well if the woman makes clear at the outset that, for this reason alone, she is well aware that the relationship will end.
Precisely since it serves no biological function, and since it will end, such a relationship opens up the possibility of living freely and authentically in the moment."
Good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi my lovelies!
Just watched loose women and the 'big news' was that Kylie Minogue is dating a guy 20 years younger!
Now - many women on fab (including me) have meets with guys many years younger - and many young men on fab are actively looking to have meets with older women!
The question is, though, would you actually have a relationship with someone a lot older or younger publicly in real life rather than just meeting them on fab?
For my own part I have to say I really don't know! I have far more energy and act far younger than the vast majority of people my own age (and therefore have little in common with most men my age) but I'm not convinced I could cope with the 'stigma' Of having a relationship with somebody many years younger!
What do you all think? Xx
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If he had Kylie Minogue's money hell yeah  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The question is, though, would you actually have a relationship with someone a lot older or younger publicly in real life rather than just meeting them on fab?"
Yes and I have done.
There can be difficulties if your tastes are significantly different or you have different levels of emotional maturity, but it doesn't have to be an issue if the moments you're together are good.
Oh, and it can be quite fun getting disapproving looks from strangers in the street  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The thing is women can stay look amazing a lot older these days. Have you seen Liz Hurley lately!! I personally know a 50year old lady who I would jump at the chance to be with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But ultimately the man is likely at some point to opt for the procreative alternative. It works well if the woman makes clear at the outset that, for this reason alone, she is well aware that the relationship will end.
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 Exactly this. Hence you don't see many of these relationships around, or lasting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a 21 yr old gf when I was 42. We saw each other for months and our friends were cool with it. My kids were less so.
Now I'm back with the lady I love I'm much happier with a 49 year old. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if they are both consenting adults then what's the problem ? Love shouldn't be capped by a number if they are both thinking adults. I suppose there may be conflicts of interest down the line, settling down, children etc but only the future will be able to tell that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Surely it's very dependant on the people involved and the circumstances. it's interesting that people are generally more negative (if that's the correct word) with younger men and older woman than the other way round. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't dare take a 20 something guy home and introduce him to my kids, seriously they would disown me with shame "
When I was 17 I had a crazy snogging session with my best mate's 37 year old mum ... I put a stop to it going further 'cos my morals were actually stronger than hers were!
She'd already shagged another one of his mates too and he was 16 
... and she was a social worker |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't dare take a 20 something guy home and introduce him to my kids, seriously they would disown me with shame
When I was 17 I had a crazy snogging session with my best mate's 37 year old mum ... I put a stop to it going further 'cos my morals were actually stronger than hers were!
She'd already shagged another one of his mates too and he was 16
... and she was a social worker "
A few years ago my eldest kids mate who was 17 had a bit of a crush on me, I know I could hardly believe it either he kept coming round to the house when he knew the kids were out, asking if he could come in and wait etc I never thought anything of it at first but he started coming on really strong, the little fucker had no shame at all, blatantly flirting and acting inappropriate, I ended up slinging him out but he still kept coming round so I went to see his parents to ask them to have a word, his dad thought it was hilarious and practically high fived him
I think most young teenage lads get crushes on older women but its upto the adult to put them in their place
I find it wierd how some adults think this is OK
I know 17 is legal but when your in your 30? I mean come on |
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OK, sensible answer from me.
I've been with jay almost 10 years now, he is 22 years older than me. I've never naturally been attracted to anyone that much older, me met, liked each other as friends, friendship grew over a period of a year one day we realised we had actually fallen in love. It of a shock for us both as he had no attraction to big women.
He's the most wonderful intelligent person I've ever met, new taught me so much about life, he's taught me its OK to be me.
He's also taught me about things and I've become interested in this GS I'd never have dreamed off.
I've also taught him aboit things our biggest differences are to do with our backgrounds rather than age, but we compliment each other.
But we have the most important things in common, where both childish, e joy doing the same kind of things, interested in the same things, basically like any relationship where there isn't an age difference.
There has never ever been any kind of issue either for us or the people that know us regards the age difference, its me er spoken about in RL I o ly mention it on here, I tease him sometimes same as he teases me about things.
He's two years older than my mother and all she said when I started seeing him was it. might do you good someone with a bit of patience.
My son said you can tell you love each other cause your always smiling at each other. My friends call us the sick bucket couple lol.
Downside to having an age gap relationship is we may not have as much time together as some people but I'd sooner spend 25 years with someone that has completed me than not.
We cherish every moment together.
I'm not with him because of the age gap I'm with him because I love him, if he was the same person as he is it wouldn't matter to me if he was 30, 50 or 80.
Never had any negative comments to us, once or twice people have thought he was my dad until we went off holding hands
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im not generally attracted to older guys (more than five years) since being on here that's changed slightly but I don't think I would have a relationship with someone say 20 years older than me unless there was a real spark x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OK, sensible answer from me.
I've been with jay almost 10 years now, he is 22 years older than me. I've never naturally been attracted to anyone that much older, me met, liked each other as friends, friendship grew over a period of a year one day we realised we had actually fallen in love. It of a shock for us both as he had no attraction to big women.
He's the most wonderful intelligent person I've ever met, new taught me so much about life, he's taught me its OK to be me
He's also taught me about things and I've become interested in this GS I'd never have dreamed off.
I've also taught him aboit things our biggest differences are to do with our backgrounds rather than age, but we compliment each other.
But we have the most important things in common, where both childish, e joy doing the same kind of things, interested in the same things, basically like any relationship where there isn't an age difference.
There has never ever been any kind of issue either for us or the people that know us regards the age difference, its me er spoken about in RL I o ly mention it on here, I tease him sometimes same as he teases me about things.
He's two years older than my mother and all she said when I started seeing him was it. might do you good someone with a bit of patience.
My son said you can tell you love each other cause your always smiling at each other. My friends call us the sick bucket couple lol.
Downside to having an age gap relationship is we may not have as much time together as some people but I'd sooner spend 25 years with someone that has completed me than not.
We cherish every moment together.
I'm not with him because of the age gap I'm with him because I love him, if he was the same person as he is it wouldn't matter to me if he was 30, 50 or 80.
Never had any negative comments to us, once or twice people have thought he was my dad until we went off holding hands
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A www that's lovely!
Hope I find that one day - however much older or younger they are! |
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"Hi my lovelies!
Just watched loose women and the 'big news' was that Kylie Minogue is dating a guy 20 years younger!
Now - many women on fab (including me) have meets with guys many years younger - and many young men on fab are actively looking to have meets with older women!
The question is, though, would you actually have a relationship with someone a lot older or younger publicly in real life rather than just meeting them on fab?
For my own part I have to say I really don't know! I have far more energy and act far younger than the vast majority of people my own age (and therefore have little in common with most men my age) but I'm not convinced I could cope with the 'stigma' Of having a relationship with somebody many years younger!
What do you all think? Xx
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I (A) have always been attracted to women older than myself and feel at ease with women and men older than myself both socially and sexually. I grew up with older siblings and their friends and whilst I have had relationships with women my own age or within a year or two they have never last as long as my current one (8 years). For me age alone shouldn't stand in the way of happiness. It will work some but not for others. I wouldn't personally allow other people's opinions shape my life or choices. Live and let live, there are far worse things in this world and if people are happy why should age matter? Just my opinion, I'm sure others will have their views of which of course everyone is entitled. |
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"OK, sensible answer from me.
I've been with jay almost 10 years now, he is 22 years older than me. I've never naturally been attracted to anyone that much older, me met, liked each other as friends, friendship grew over a period of a year one day we realised we had actually fallen in love. It of a shock for us both as he had no attraction to big women.
He's the most wonderful intelligent person I've ever met, new taught me so much about life, he's taught me its OK to be me
He's also taught me about things and I've become interested in this GS I'd never have dreamed off.
I've also taught him aboit things our biggest differences are to do with our backgrounds rather than age, but we compliment each other.
But we have the most important things in common, where both childish, e joy doing the same kind of things, interested in the same things, basically like any relationship where there isn't an age difference.
There has never ever been any kind of issue either for us or the people that know us regards the age difference, its me er spoken about in RL I o ly mention it on here, I tease him sometimes same as he teases me about things.
He's two years older than my mother and all she said when I started seeing him was it. might do you good someone with a bit of patience.
My son said you can tell you love each other cause your always smiling at each other. My friends call us the sick bucket couple lol.
Downside to having an age gap relationship is we may not have as much time together as some people but I'd sooner spend 25 years with someone that has completed me than not.
We cherish every moment together.
I'm not with him because of the age gap I'm with him because I love him, if he was the same person as he is it wouldn't matter to me if he was 30, 50 or 80.
Never had any negative comments to us, once or twice people have thought he was my dad until we went off holding hands
A www that's lovely!
Hope I find that one day - however much older or younger they are! "
all I say to people is keep an open mind
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"I wouldn't dare take a 20 something guy home and introduce him to my kids, seriously they would disown me with shame "
I was thinking the same! 30s tho.....  |
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As long as it's consenting adults - it's all good
I've always been attracted to older men - out of the last three men I've slept with, two were seven years older than me & the other one is five years older than me - but since joining Fab all I've talked to is older men.
I don't think that age is that much of a big deal if you both have similar morals, outlooks and interests... for example, my last meet was 43 and we had a conversation about Fraggle Rock... my next meet is 39, he has superhero bedding, wallpaper and curtains... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well you have ruined my fantasies about Kylie but I'm sure my wife will be amused! Go for it I'm sure you could attract some younger chaps though I will put in a word for us young at heart older men! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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With someone older it would be only a short term relationship as I still want children, I bring up the subject very early on as I don't like to lead them on |
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"I wouldn't dare take a 20 something guy home and introduce him to my kids, seriously they would disown me with shame
I was thinking the same! 30s tho..... "
I think I'd just get away with a guy in his 30s, mid 30s onwards I don't think they'd see a problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was in a relationship with a guy 20yrs older than me when I was 19yrs old.
The funny thing is, I can't imagine dating anyone much younger than me! It just feels weird! I can barely take meets seriously who are younger than me!! |
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No I wouldn't, I'm attracted to my own age group which includes clubs and outside fab. Younger men are attractive and I've had a great laugh with some of them at the pub where I work but I'd never consider a relationship with them if they asked, just not comfortable with the idea |
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