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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was just thinking about posting a similar thread : ) I'm not new to "this" but I've never been to a club. My problem is chronic shyness bordering on being socially phobic ... I don't much like "normal" nightclubs and I wonder if visiting a swingers club would really be any different for me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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im very easy to get on with and find it easy talking to new people.
I just dont fancy going to these seedy clubs i want it to be worth going with decent people in it lol xx |
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over a year ago
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Had arranged to meet a couple at Abfabs and on the way there I received a "sorry cant make tonight" message. I still went and had a great time, was approached by a lady from a couple and got invited to play alone with her. I thought...Blimey! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Had arranged to meet a couple at Abfabs and on the way there I received a "sorry cant make tonight" message. I still went and had a great time, was approached by a lady from a couple and got invited to play alone with her. I thought...Blimey! "
Im not sure im that daring yet to join in with a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first club visit I went with an open mind, didn't expect too much and didn't plan anything. I got followed about a lot and went and hid with the person I went with in a locked room. Best to read all the club reviews then decide. I have a fave club and one I wouldn't go back to again. Just do some research and keep an open mind  |
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"Had arranged to meet a couple at Abfabs and on the way there I received a "sorry cant make tonight" message. I still went and had a great time, was approached by a lady from a couple and got invited to play alone with her. I thought...Blimey!
Im not sure im that daring yet to join in with a couple "
I smiled all the way home...was a good first time club experience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Had arranged to meet a couple at Abfabs and on the way there I received a "sorry cant make tonight" message. I still went and had a great time, was approached by a lady from a couple and got invited to play alone with her. I thought...Blimey!
Im not sure im that daring yet to join in with a couple
I smiled all the way home...was a good first time club experience "
Oooo i think ill need a few drinks prior to this lol x |
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Swingers clubs are much more friendly than normal clubs in my experience. It's easy to chat to people and if you're new, you'll often get shown around. People tend to be very sympathetic to newbies as we all know what it was like our first time. Just be yourself, don't put any pressure on yourself to do anything, get a feel of the place and have fun! I'm sure if you let people from here know when you were going, there'd be someone else who was going. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our first time was still the best
We didn't have a clue what to expect
Nik had never fucked a woman before.by the end of the night she had been with 5. Also got fucked by three different men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We went to Libs on a Singles night as it was the only night we could make. We loved it and we knew from then on its what we wanted.
Nervous excitement followed by simply being comfortable and happy in our surroundings! |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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"Had arranged to meet a couple at Abfabs and on the way there I received a "sorry cant make tonight" message. I still went and had a great time, was approached by a lady from a couple and got invited to play alone with her. I thought...Blimey!
Im not sure im that daring yet to join in with a couple
I smiled all the way home...was a good first time club experience
Oooo i think ill need a few drinks prior to this lol x"
Please don't drink too much especially beforehand. If it's a BYOB club, as most are, take a nice bottle of something (my OH likes prosecco) and have a couple of drinks - slowly.
It's interesting that some people report getting straight into the action the first time they go, but many more don't. We had some nice soft play with a couple on our third visit and a pre-arranged MFM the next day (with someone we had spoken to on our first two visits).
It's easier to talk to people in a club than elsewhere, at least if you are a couple or single female.
I always use the "karaoke" analogy. You can go to a karaoke night in a pub but nobody forces you to sing. If you do sing eventually, you will be nervous but get a great buzz. You'll almost certainly want to sing again, and more often.
Would suggest ringing the club and chatting through what would be the best nights for you to go.
Have fun.
Him |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Had arranged to meet a couple at Abfabs and on the way there I received a "sorry cant make tonight" message. I still went and had a great time, was approached by a lady from a couple and got invited to play alone with her. I thought...Blimey!
Im not sure im that daring yet to join in with a couple
I smiled all the way home...was a good first time club experience
Oooo i think ill need a few drinks prior to this lol x
Please don't drink too much especially beforehand. If it's a BYOB club, as most are, take a nice bottle of something (my OH likes prosecco) and have a couple of drinks - slowly.
It's interesting that some people report getting straight into the action the first time they go, but many more don't. We had some nice soft play with a couple on our third visit and a pre-arranged MFM the next day (with someone we had spoken to on our first two visits).
It's easier to talk to people in a club than elsewhere, at least if you are a couple or single female.
I always use the "karaoke" analogy. You can go to a karaoke night in a pub but nobody forces you to sing. If you do sing eventually, you will be nervous but get a great buzz. You'll almost certainly want to sing again, and more often.
Would suggest ringing the club and chatting through what would be the best nights for you to go.
Have fun.
Him"
I wouldnt drink too much before just a few glasses - I would be happy to try something once and get out my comfort zone. Im very self conscious about my body so im all for being made to feel wanted just to boost mt ego a little.
Im going to have a look into this 100%
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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The worst part of going to a club is the apprehension of going through the door for the first time. Once inside you will find them relaxed and friendly. Most importantly there is never any pressure to do anything you don't want to do - you can take things at your own pace - watch, chat, participate comfortably. La Chambre isn't too far from you and we have always enjoyed our visits there. If you want a lot of attention from single men (as I do!) try a Friday, otherwise Saturday for couples and single women only. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The worst part of going to a club is the apprehension of going through the door for the first time. Once inside you will find them relaxed and friendly. Most importantly there is never any pressure to do anything you don't want to do - you can take things at your own pace - watch, chat, participate comfortably. La Chambre isn't too far from you and we have always enjoyed our visits there. If you want a lot of attention from single men (as I do!) try a Friday, otherwise Saturday for couples and single women only."
Oooo Fridays are good for me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first experience of a club was great. Went with my fuck buddy but I was still nervous as hell it was a good night.
The weekend after I went to a club on my own. 3 hours away from where I live so didn't even know the area never mind any people. It was one of the best nights I've ever had. People are so friendly so it doesn't matter if youre on your own or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im very easy to get on with and find it easy talking to new people.
I just dont fancy going to these seedy clubs i want it to be worth going with decent people in it lol xx"
My first club was Cupids. We'd arranged to meet a couple there. I loved it and didn't find it seedy at all. In fact haven't tried anywhere else.
Only downside for me is that sometimes it's a bit quiet and the action can start pretty late, no good when have to be up for work. |
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