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BBW...wtf??

By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Some big women have beautiful faces, granted, as do some slim women. However, not all women (of any size) have beautiful faces, some less so, and some are darn right ugly (I'm sorry but in terms of what society generally considers attractive, this is a fact).

What on earth gives a big woman, regardless of how facially attractive she is the right to call herself a Big Beautiful Woman...as if the 'big' bit makes 'beautiful' by default? If this were true then why don't we also have the term SBW?...Slim Beautiful Woman, whereby, all slim women would lay claim to being beautiful simply by virtue of being slim!!

Rant over...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i get called bbw and i hate it ,i;m fat end of

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By *dam_TinaCouple over a year ago

Hampshire

"i get called bbw and i hate it ,i;m fat end of"

Cue the sound of horses being prepared.....

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"i get called bbw and i hate it ,i;m fat end of"

...and I would hazard a guess, that in your case you are also beautiful...the two are not mutually exclusive, nor as you seem to agree, are they mutually inclusive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i get called bbw and i hate it ,i;m fat end of

Cue the sound of horses being prepared....."

Don't forget the armour

Op people are and have always seemed to want to label everyone on here ...

So here goes I am ME and that's it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"So here goes I am ME and that's it

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

Well you certainly are the first!!

lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think the phrase originally came from big women being encouraged to think they are beautiful in spite of being big, not that they are automatically beautiful because they are big. The fact its used by men to state their preferences is not the fault of the women who choose to use it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't like the BBW or BBC terms personally as BBW is subjective and BBC defines somebody by their cock.

It could be argued though that everybody is attractive to somebody so the term BBW is relevant.

Mrs. X

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Let's just move away from any abbreviations and see people for what they are,we all have beauty in us in one way or another. It gets so tiresome when you read a thread from a guy saying they like a certain type of woman,that's great,but it alway's turns into some kind of slanging match. Lets just be nice to each other,we're people not abbreviations!

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

"I think the phrase originally came from big women being encouraged to think they are beautiful in spite of being big, not that they are automatically beautiful because they are big. The fact its used by men to state their preferences is not the fault of the women who choose to use it."

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By *rank_SimoneCouple over a year ago

Bideford

Same as the term BBC ..... not all black cocks are Big.

Its terms that get used to categorise people, normally by those that can't think for themselves. These terms are definitely not one size fits all.

We prefer to think of people as people who have their own personalities and are not categorised.

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By *rank_SimoneCouple over a year ago

Bideford

"Let's just move away from any abbreviations and see people for what they are,we all have beauty in us in one way or another. It gets so tiresome when you read a thread from a guy saying they like a certain type of woman,that's great,but it alway's turns into some kind of slanging match. Lets just be nice to each other,we're people not abbreviations!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I don't like the BBW or BBC terms personally as BBW is subjective and BBC defines somebody by their cock.

It could be argued though that everybody is attractive to somebody so the term BBW is relevant.

Mrs. X"

I agree...one girl one here (a black girl as it happens), who mainly has verifications from white guys got a message from a Black guy saying 'you obviously only like BWC...lol...she replied 'no, I like it in any colour....but, you are obviously a SBC'...or words to that effect...LMAO

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

...Sorry, I just felt the need to get this particular grievance off my chest xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i get called bbw and i hate it ,i;m fat end of

Cue the sound of horses being prepared....."
never needed white knights coming to my rescue I know what I am words wouldn't change that..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Initially i thought BBW stood for "Big Boned Woman".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Initially i thought BBW stood for "Big Boned Woman". "

I thought it was big busted women

I dont do labels. I say I'm a fat lady size 20.

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By *dam_TinaCouple over a year ago

Hampshire

"i get called bbw and i hate it ,i;m fat end of

Cue the sound of horses being prepared.....never needed white knights coming to my rescue I know what I am words wouldn't change that.."

It wasn't a dig at you Miss, just a strange premonition

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just a label does it really matter?

We have BBW on our title heading so that people that are not interested in a bigger girl know not to bother looking.

Besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what one person feels is beautiful another wouldn't.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple over a year ago

Bristol

I always thought it ment big busty wench... I was rather disappointed when I found out it was just polite for obese

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Initially i thought BBW stood for "Big Boned Woman". "

Some one suggested (privately) the self same thing to me.....don't think it ever has stood for that though..more's the pity ...not that bones have anything to do with being overweight..its all about how much is covering them ..lol

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I always thought it ment big busty wench... I was rather disappointed when I found out it was just polite for obese"

Big Busty Wench...now those I like!!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"I always thought it ment big busty wench... I was rather disappointed when I found out it was just polite for obese

Big Busty Wench...now those I like!!

See this is why I was disappointed, if it was just big busty wenches, I would have been well impressed.

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By *ary_JosephCouple over a year ago

South Shields

Big Buxom Wench?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought for a while it was big breasted woman!! Lol

I'm just a fat lass, if blokes find me attractive then I'm happy with that

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Big Buxom Wench? "

What could be nicer??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't normally rant but for God's sake OP, get over yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's just a label does it really matter?

We have BBW on our title heading so that people that are not interested in a bigger girl know not to bother looking.

Besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what one person feels is beautiful another wouldn't. "

Also I'm fat and if don't like me trust me I'm too old to give a toss what anyone thinks

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I don't normally rant but for God's sake OP, get over yourself. "

In what way precisely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought it ment big breasted woman or if she was black it could mean big black woman.....either way...give me a bbw any day of the week xx

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol"

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

ITV???...no you have got me there

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

ITV???...no you have got me there "

Oh, fuck I'm slow....how about Channel 4?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Drives me mad when men message me saying hi bbw

I absolutely hate being labelled yes I am bigger but I don't need reminding in every message x

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

ITV...Insecure Timid Virgin?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it a bit like describing yourself as fit and attractive?

Why can't a woman describe herself as beautiful if she wants to? Why can't a woman deem herself beautiful if she feels it? I don't like the phrase BBW because it fetishes weight, but if I want to describe myself as beautiful then I will because I am.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't normally rant but for God's sake OP, get over yourself.

In what way precisely?"
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Your rant can be taken as you don't like big or fat women or find them attractive which is your right. It's almost like we shouldn't be allowed out in daylight ,seen in public or be on here .

Well tough ,you might not be attractive to them as take anyway you want you came across as a dick .

Had a ex like you told me had to lose weight as then might be pretty ...I did dumped him easiest 15 stone ever lost

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Is it a bit like describing yourself as fit and attractive?

I agree with all of that!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I don't normally rant but for God's sake OP, get over yourself.

In what way precisely?.

Your rant can be taken as you don't like big or fat women or find them attractive which is your right. It's almost like we shouldn't be allowed out in daylight ,seen in public or be on here .

Well tough ,you might not be attractive to them as take anyway you want you came across as a dick .

Had a ex like you told me had to lose weight as then might be pretty ...I did dumped him easiest 15 stone ever lost

My rant was not about disliking fat women..it was about the generic term BBW being used to describe fat women in general!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

I hate the term BBW.

I am fat, if I don't like being called fat then I am the only person who can do anything about it.

Some may think I am beautiful, some will think I am ugly and others will think I am somewhere in between.

Just because I am fat it doesn't make me beautiful, it also doesn't make me ugly.

I am me, take me as you find me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does it really matter how you label yourself? If it offends then don't look it's simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate the term BBW.

I am fat, if I don't like being called fat then I am the only person who can do anything about it.

Some may think I am beautiful, some will think I am ugly and others will think I am somewhere in between.

Just because I am fat it doesn't make me beautiful, it also doesn't make me ugly.

I am me, take me as you find me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm another fat women I have always been fat no matter how healthy I eat of exercise I do so now it's a case of fuck it I am what I am and if you don't like it you can jog on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

I thought it was big, bouncy and wobbly!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I hate the term BBW.

I am fat, if I don't like being called fat then I am the only person who can do anything about it.

Some may think I am beautiful, some will think I am ugly and others will think I am somewhere in between.

Just because I am fat it doesn't make me beautiful, it also doesn't make me ugly.

I am me, take me as you find me

Great attitude - honest and insightful!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

ITV???...no you have got me there "

You Southerners

. You know it's a tv channel,not the British Broadcasting...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i get called bbw and i hate it ,i;m fat end of"

Same here and hate being called a BBW. Some men do class BBW's as big breasted women too though. xx

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

ITV...Insecure Timid Virgin?

Well variety is the spice of life,maybe I should try one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate the term BBW.

I am fat, if I don't like being called fat then I am the only person who can do anything about it.

Some may think I am beautiful, some will think I am ugly and others will think I am somewhere in between.

Just because I am fat it doesn't make me beautiful, it also doesn't make me ugly.

I am me, take me as you find me

Love this attitude

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

ITV...Insecure Timid Virgin?

Well variety is the spice of life,maybe I should try one

You already have...it was you that brought the man out in me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate the term BBW.

I am fat, if I don't like being called fat then I am the only person who can do anything about it.

Some may think I am beautiful, some will think I am ugly and others will think I am somewhere in between.

Just because I am fat it doesn't make me beautiful, it also doesn't make me ugly.

I am me, take me as you find me

Love this attitude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hate the term BBW. It really gets my back up. And totally agree with the op. Infact I hate labels full stop really. I am big fat and believe me far from beautiful. But I am just me

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By *havenbabe01Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

I just describe myself as being a busty and curvy woman, as fuller figured ladies aren't for everyone and people looking for slim women would be disappointed by my shape and size

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I hate the term BBW. It really gets my back up. And totally agree with the op. Infact I hate labels full stop really. I am big fat and believe me far from beautiful. But I am just me "

Good attitude...but you are also far too hard on yourselve!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm 41 and yes I'm fat and depends who you ask can be beautiful.

It's my fault I'm fat not blaming anyone .

What I don't like is being labeled a BBW or anyone male or female having ago at not just me but anyone who's on larger size .if I'm not your type jog on but I will make it totally clear do not try on any form to make me or others feel bad or ashamed over weight /size /looks because all it means is your a bully and I very much doubt your 100% perfect.

Had my rant feel better now

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I'm 41 and yes I'm fat and depends who you ask can be beautiful.

It's my fault I'm fat not blaming anyone .

Had my rant feel better now"

You are absolutely right...I am very far from perfect in very many ways..

I also had no intention to bully anyone by stating my objections to the term BBW...I am sorry if it has offended some..sadly sometimes this is unavoidable...it was not however my intention either

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By *rtemisiaWoman over a year ago

Norwich

I don't like labels. They are reductionist and pointless. I know from long experience that there are plenty of men and women out there who enjoy a woman with meat on her bones. However, if they fetishise weight, this leaves me cold. I want to be enjoyed for my intelligence and compassion, my sexuality, my body if it happens to please those who I find attractive, and for the fact that I was born lucky enough not to have a face like the back end of a horse. BBW my arse!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm constantly referred to as a bbw. I honestly don't class my self as a big woman. Just a normal woman with some great curves!! Seems now a days if you're not size 12 or under you are classed as big

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I allways thought it was big build women.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Oh Lord,just been asked if I like bbc!

What did you say?? lol

I haven't replied yet,I'm tempted to say I prefer ITV,that would be childish though wouldn't it

ITV...Insecure Timid Virgin?

Well variety is the spice of life,maybe I should try one

You already have...it was you that brought the man out in me

Yes,you did come across as the shy retiring type. Clearly not...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm a fat fucker I hate the term BBW but that's just me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Change it to BUM

Big Ugly Munter

Cant see them getting a lot of meets tho

For the record im a SRM

Smallish Retarded Munter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And I'm not talking about you Cheeky

You are GAWJUSS

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"And I'm not talking about you Cheeky

You are GAWJUSS

I know I am

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Does it not stand for Beautiful Burmese Woman? Or is that too much of a niche market to get its own acronym?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I know what I am, I know what I'm not, people can choose classify me however they like, I choose to value myself regardless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 41 and yes I'm fat and depends who you ask can be beautiful.

It's my fault I'm fat not blaming anyone .

Had my rant feel better now

You are absolutely right...I am very far from perfect in very many ways..

I also had no intention to bully anyone by stating my objections to the term BBW...I am sorry if it has offended some..sadly sometimes this is unavoidable...it was not however my intention either "

Thank you did enjoy the row livened up a boring day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BBW is just a label - like every other label it rarely applies to everyone!

Regardless of which labels people want to give themselves or others choose to give them - I always make my own decision of how I perceive that person!

Let people call themselves what they want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it not stand for Beautiful Burmese Woman? Or is that too much of a niche market to get its own acronym?

As they say in business, when you can't go big, go niche

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry if this point has been raised before (actually I'm not sorry at all, but I haven't read the whole thread) but surely the term is subjective to whoever is using it?

If someone describes themselves (or someone else) as a BBW then it may be because they do consider themselves (or whoever they're talking about) as beautiful even if you or I might not?

Beauty also comes in many forms, not just physical looks. They may have an inner beauty rather than just concentrating on aesthetics.

Or they may just be, indeed, a munter misclassified!

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By *havenbabe01Couple over a year ago

bedfordshire

"I hate the term BBW. It really gets my back up. And totally agree with the op. Infact I hate labels full stop really. I am big fat and believe me far from beautiful. But I am just me

Good attitude...but you are also far too hard on yourselve!

Not hard on myself hun x it's a fact , don't get me wrong I think I am sexy and am happy with my body - but for some others I'm not their taste, which is fair enough, the world would be a dull place if we all liked the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't normally rant but for God's sake OP, get over yourself.

In what way precisely?"

We are given the looks we are given. Nothing we can do about it apart from lose weight. The rest of it we just have to make the best of. No matter how much weight I lost I would never be a glamour girl so if I choose to describe myself as a BBW - Big Breasted Woman to me not Big Beautiful Woman - why choose to comment in it in a negative way. You seem to be pretty well blessed when it comes to looks but that is just pure blind luck and isn't an achievement. You just won a prize in life's raffle. That doesn't give you the right to comment or to judge.

First - and last - rant over. It's not worth getting annoyed about.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I'm 41 and yes I'm fat and depends who you ask can be beautiful.

It's my fault I'm fat not blaming anyone .

Had my rant feel better now

You are absolutely right...I am very far from perfect in very many ways..

I also had no intention to bully anyone by stating my objections to the term BBW...I am sorry if it has offended some..sadly sometimes this is unavoidable...it was not however my intention either

Thank you did enjoy the row livened up a boring day

were we rowing..didn't realize we were

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 41 and yes I'm fat and depends who you ask can be beautiful.

It's my fault I'm fat not blaming anyone .

Had my rant feel better now

You are absolutely right...I am very far from perfect in very many ways..

I also had no intention to bully anyone by stating my objections to the term BBW...I am sorry if it has offended some..sadly sometimes this is unavoidable...it was not however my intention either

Thank you did enjoy the row livened up a boring day

were we rowing..didn't realize we were

Whatever it was livened up my day as was bored

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think it's clear that the op likes slim women, which is his preference. In life though we shouldn't have labels however we should not knock those who consider themselves beautiful regardless if others don't, confidence is a hard thing to come by and can takes years to build but a second to destroy..

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Having been much bigger... a size 26 and 19 stone heavier, I can safely say I have way less hang ups now than I did then. I feel much happier and more confident in my body now.

Have I changed my preferences sexually? Not one bit.

But as a fake woman I do ok for meets, and no one seems horrified when I get naked with them.

From my experience, some men see larger ladies as an easy target. I'd a few comments when I was larger about being easy, grateful and the "moped shag" (fun until his mates found out) and now get told I am up my own arse and think I am something special... basically, whatever size, you appeal to some people and not to others... but everyone still feels they have a right to comment on your body size!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The world would be a boring place if we was all attracted to the same type don't you think.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man over a year ago

Stourbridge

I'm afraid the child in me wanted to post something that would wind a few up but I've chickened out.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Having been much bigger... a size 26 and 19 stone heavier, I can safely say I have way less hang ups now than I did then. I feel much happier and more confident in my body now.

Have I changed my preferences sexually? Not one bit.

But as a fake woman I do ok for meets, and no one seems horrified when I get naked with them.

I was the opposite lost enough weight to be a size 8 and hated myself thought I looked ill didn't think being slim suited me. I'm very happy as a size 16/18 this is ideal for me so I couldn't care less if others don't think I should be happy as I am, and it has sod all to do with me being too lazy to maintain a smaller size, I've already proved I can do that if I want to, it's about me looking in the mirror and be happy with myself regardless of others opinions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having been much bigger... a size 26 and 19 stone heavier, I can safely say I have way less hang ups now than I did then. I feel much happier and more confident in my body now.

Have I changed my preferences sexually? Not one bit.

But as a fake woman I do ok for meets, and no one seems horrified when I get naked with them.

Hahaha I said no to a guy as not only was he not my type (short) but his profile was awful and full of attitude!! I was very polite and he replied !!

You're a fucking fat woman who wants blokes to fuck you. You should be grateful anyone would put their cock in you!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having been much bigger... a size 26 and 19 stone heavier, I can safely say I have way less hang ups now than I did then. I feel much happier and more confident in my body now.

Have I changed my preferences sexually? Not one bit.

But as a fake woman I do ok for meets, and no one seems horrified when I get naked with them.

Hahaha I said no to a guy as not only was he not my type (short) but his profile was awful and full of attitude!! I was very polite and he replied !!

You're a fucking fat woman who wants blokes to fuck you. You should be grateful anyone would put their cock in you!!! "

Oooh please give me his profile name. I love a smooth talker lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hahaha gets me everytime too. Which one of us wouldn't jump in bed and enjoy a charmer like that !!! Fortunately for all the women out there the crank has left the site

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By *rishmocha2Couple over a year ago

Beds

"I don't like the BBW or BBC terms personally as BBW is subjective and BBC defines somebody by their cock.

It could be argued though that everybody is attractive to somebody so the term BBW is relevant.

Mrs. X"

She happens to have curves, I happen to be black. If that's the only thing you see, then you best just ignore us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

me too.lol

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

They can describe themselves however they wish....

that is their right.

I then can look at their pics and determine if I agree or not.

if there is zero communication between the 2 of us on the subject..... we can go through the rest of our lives blissfully unaware of each other.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I need er

used the term to describe myself, however, its accepted that if you say bbw you know without doubt your going to get a large woman. If there is a bbw meet or bbw lovers it is more used as a general term than a literal term.

But people can described e themselves as they like doesn't mean I'm going to see them that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Rant over...

I think the fact they are big/cuddly/fat makes them beautiful to a lot of bbw admirers regardless of their face hence the term!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Rant over...

I think the fact they are big/cuddly/fat makes them beautiful to a lot of bbw admirers regardless of their face hence the term!"

2 bag shag?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd hate to be referred to by my attractiveness and weight description. Just "woman" will do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hate being refered to as a BBW. I'm just overweight, that doesn't make me beautiful. I can pass as pretty, but that's it, the term gets on my tits.

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By *annooWoman over a year ago

Hastings

"I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

I thot it was big boobed woman too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

I thot it was big boobed woman too"
id be that for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want "

He didn't say that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want

He didn't say that!

True but I'm not sure why a slim person feels the need to comment on every thread about big or curvy women?"

Just like every thread aimed at slim women attracts lots of comments from bigger women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want

He didn't say that!"

actually he did

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Feckin hell some of us are fat and some are slim...it's the way of the world if I stopped drinking vodka and bread and shit I'd be slim...if we spend more time having fun than we do posting on size threads we would constantly have fun..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want

He didn't say that!

True but I'm not sure why a slim person feels the need to comment on every thread about big or curvy women?

Just like every thread aimed at slim women attracts lots of comments from bigger women. "

I wish size wasn't such an issue as we are all the same on the inside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too. "

You're pretty.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too. "

Thank fuck for some more sanity in the room

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too.

You're pretty.

Ooh I say..Thanks!

You got a stunning body and gorgeous outfits to match!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too.

Thank fuck for some more sanity in the room

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want

He didn't say that!

actually he did "

Thank you he did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too. "

Well said

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"What on earth gives a big woman, regardless of how facially attractive she is the right to call herself a Big Beautiful Woman"

Is it against the law now or something?

I never call myself that, it's men who call us it. Those that don't think only slim women are attractive I mean.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want

He didn't say that!

actually he did

Thank you he did "

Yes he really did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too.

Thank fuck for some more sanity in the room

"
.

Well you opened the can of worms and did you get response you wanted ??

It's going round in circles now so maybe it ends here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

I thot it was big boobed woman too"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Rant over...

It's not women who started using it though.

It's when porn producers and sites needed an easy and concise Way of saying fatty porn without offending their customers

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By *rtemisiaWoman over a year ago

Norwich

BBA ... Big, Bootilicious Arse.

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

"Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Rant over...

The issue on here is that there is a limited choice of size descriptors to choose from so if you feel too fat to be curvy but not fat enough to be ample, large or fabulous you're stuck with BBW and all of its aesthetic connotations. That's why I chose curvy although the traditional BBW label as generally used does come closer to describing me. I wasn't comfortable with the second B in there though since beauty is so subjective and it's not something I would want to claim for myself. At least not to others.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Big Buxom Wench? "

You called

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your rant was about big women can't label themselfs beautiful ...last time I checked I can label myself anything I want

He didn't say that!

actually he did

Thank you he did

Yes he really did"

Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm fat, no denying or sugarcoating it. If people find me attractive, then cool. If not then cool too.

You're pretty.

Ooh I say..Thanks!

You got a stunning body and gorgeous outfits to match!"

Thankyou I do love a nice bit of lingerie

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts."

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face."

Yep that's what he said and I had ago at him for it

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face.

Yep that's what he said and I had ago at him for it "

No you're just causing trouble and you know it. You said you were bored!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face.

Yep that's what he said and I had ago at him for it "

Actually, cut and paste is your friend....this is what I said, word for word...

'What on earth gives a big woman, regardless of how facially attractive she is the right to call herself a Big Beautiful Woman...as if the 'big' bit makes 'beautiful' by default?'

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"'What on earth gives a big woman, regardless of how facially attractive she is the right to call herself a Big Beautiful Woman...as if the 'big' bit makes 'beautiful' by default?'"

Yes, any big woman, whether she has a nice face or not, should not call herself beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face."

No he didn't.

He said bbw was saying that a woman is automatically beautiful just by the fact she's fat.

I if a truly ugly thin girl ate till she was a size 26 she would now some how be beautiful.

He even specifically mentioned that you can have beautiful fat women so please stop being so desperate to misrepresent him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"'What on earth gives a big woman, regardless of how facially attractive she is the right to call herself a Big Beautiful Woman...as if the 'big' bit makes 'beautiful' by default?'

Yes, any big woman, whether she has a nice face or not, should not call herself beautiful."

That's not what that paragraph says at all...

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Ok, I am fat and I have a great face. According to him I must not call myself a BBW- right?

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Which I never do anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, I am fat and I have a great face. According to him I must not call myself a BBW- right?"

No you can call yourself whatever you like.

What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Rant over...

Beauty isn't all about the face

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, I am fat and I have a great face. According to him I must not call myself a BBW- right?

No you can call yourself whatever you like.

What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content."

That's how I read it.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Ok, I am fat and I have a great face. According to him I must not call myself a BBW- right?

No you can call yourself whatever you like.

What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content."

Thank you for correctly interpreting what I was trying to say and for sticking up for the point I was trying to make

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate the term BBW.

I am fat, if I don't like being called fat then I am the only person who can do anything about it.

Some may think I am beautiful, some will think I am ugly and others will think I am somewhere in between.

Just because I am fat it doesn't make me beautiful, it also doesn't make me ugly.

I am me, take me as you find me

Sums it up beautifully!!

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Ok, I am fat and I have a great face. According to him I must not call myself a BBW- right?

No you can call yourself whatever you like.

What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content.

That's how I read it."

thank you too x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you have to look at the psychology of whats really meant by BBW, it is there to really make a BBW feel that they are no lesser of a woman(dont turn that around), lots of BBW's have confidence issues..some deeper than others.Most women, regardless of size share that common beauty, which is being female, sometimes it can be even a slight gesture,an eye..etc..and it turns me on..I guess I just like femininity.

I remember one of my greatest bbw meets ever, absolutely stunning woman facially..her skin was amazing too..(it was a group meet),some of other guys werent interested in going further than her face/boobs though.

I need to look her up...couldnt care less if she's lost weight lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always thought it was a woman letting you know she was big but happy with her size and finds her curves beautiful. But I don't really know anything when it comes to woman lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Rant over...

Beauty isn't all about the face"

Or the fatness of a person

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content."

Maybe he should have phrased it that way then?

No matter, lots of guys don't like big women and get p'd off that they do well here

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

What I truly think is that morbidly obese people whether male or female should describe themselves as precisely that. Or if they are too uncomfortable with the honest health implications implied by that term then perhaps just 'hugely overweight'.

I'm quite sure the admirers of such body types would not be put off, after all it is what they are attracted to. If you also happen to think you are beautiful or handsome for whatever reason then obviously you are also entitled to say that too.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Fancy a shsg anyone?

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content.

Maybe he should have phrased it that way then?

No matter, lots of guys don't like big women and get p'd off that they do well here

I for one certainly do not belong to that fraternity of p'd off men...

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Fancy a shsg anyone?

Careful you'll get an over brimming (in) box

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Fancy a shsg anyone?

Careful you'll get an over brimming (in) box

Oh matron

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suppose I can say I've never really got the labels people put on others, or they put on ..themselves.

I dont fit into what I class as typically BBC...most of the 'bbw' I've met..its never really crossed my mind to say anything regarding their weight.

as I said earlier..I've had some of the best nites with bigger women(see pics), as i have with slimmer ones. or had not so great nights with either spectrum...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content.

Maybe he should have phrased it that way then?

No matter, lots of guys don't like big women and get p'd off that they do well here

"
any would they get pissed off? All women do well here regardless of size

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fancy a shsg anyone?

I will one day...as long as its bareback and u get preggers..csa can fuck off cos we signed a contract

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face.

Yep that's what he said and I had ago at him for it

No you're just causing trouble and you know it. You said you were bored!"

True and I'm also psming and that's when the devil in me kicks in

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Fancy a shsg anyone?

I will one day...as long as its bareback and u get preggers..csa can fuck off cos we signed a contract

Hahahaha

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

"I for years thought it was Big Boobed Woman!! Doh

In my defence I was given that description and never challenged it at the young impressionable age of 17 by a bf so always makes me smile when I see BBW

"
Big Boobs?? can't see it myself there are two humongous marshmallows blocking your booby area

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face.

Yep that's what he said and I had ago at him for it

No you're just causing trouble and you know it. You said you were bored!

True and I'm also psming and that's when the devil in me kicks in

Well don't be so bloody naughty...

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face.

Yep that's what he said and I had ago at him for it

No you're just causing trouble and you know it. You said you were bored!

True and I'm also psming and that's when the devil in me kicks in

Well don't be so bloody naughty..."

That's right , you tell her D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't see why you needed to rant about it. It's not like it's going to affect your sex life. As someone said earlier at least you know you're getting a fat woman,you just have to decide if you find her attractive yourself. The same as when a man has a muscular body,until you see the face you won't know if he's an oogly.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"I can't see why you needed to rant about it. It's not like it's going to affect your sex life. As someone said earlier at least you know you're getting a fat woman,you just have to decide if you find her attractive yourself. The same as when a man has a muscular body,until you see the face you won't know if he's an oogly. "

I rant about lots of things which get my goat...if none ever ranted nothing would ever change ...about anything...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe I'm misinterpreting it but as I read it he was saying not all big women are beautiful not that no big woman can call herself beautiful. My head hurts.

He said no big woman has the right to call herself beautiful, even if she ahs a beautiful face.

Yep that's what he said and I had ago at him for it

No you're just causing trouble and you know it. You said you were bored!

True and I'm also psming and that's when the devil in me kicks in

Well don't be so bloody naughty...

That's right , you tell her D

Oi you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rant about lots of things which get my goat...if none ever ranted nothing would ever change ...about anything..."

You think people will change because of some nobody on here having a rant? Ugly,fat women will stop using the term BBW to describe themselves? Or men will stop saying they love BBW's. I think,and I'm going to stick my neck out here,that most people here know that not all big women are beautiful to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rant about lots of things which get my goat...if none ever ranted nothing would ever change ...about anything..."

Is the change in this case then that you want to stop fat women being able to call themselves beautiful? I think there's an 'ist' there because if a fat woman can't surely a slim woman can't nor one in the middle

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I rant about lots of things which get my goat...if none ever ranted nothing would ever change ...about anything..."

I personally don't think your little rant is going to change much of anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of people have misinterpreted what the op was saying

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

I rant about lots of things which get my goat...if none ever ranted nothing would ever change ...about anything...

I personally don't think your little rant is going to change much of anything"

Doesn't mean I'm not entitled to get it off my chest...what the hell is a forum for if its not also a place where people can air things...ffs

Next, we'll have people demanding a rant free forum....or is it only when the rant happens to bring to the fore an uncomfortable truth?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

term like BBW and BBC will only go away if by using it, it ended up having a negative effect....

its a two way street.... whilst people ask for them, and whilst people play up to it if they think it ends up being an advantage.... nothing will change!!!!

the sad thing if that some people like to "fetish-ise" so to speak... and other are prepared to be seen as a fetish if it means getting a legover....

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

"term like BBW and BBC will only go away if by using it, it ended up having a negative effect....

its a two way street.... whilst people ask for them, and whilst people play up to it if they think it ends up being an advantage.... nothing will change!!!!

the sad thing if that some people like to "fetish-ise" so to speak... and other are prepared to be seen as a fetish if it means getting a legover...."

Very fair point

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I rant about lots of things which get my goat...if none ever ranted nothing would ever change ...about anything...

I personally don't think your little rant is going to change much of anything

Doesn't mean I'm not entitled to get it off my chest...what the hell is a forum for if its not also a place where people can air things...ffs

Next, we'll have people demanding a rant free forum....or is it only when the rant happens to bring to the fore an uncomfortable truth?"

Where did I say you weren't entitled to rant about it, I merely said I doubt it will change anything. If any woman as the confidence to see real beauty in herself I say good on her for expressing it

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

" If any woman as the confidence to see real beauty in herself I say good on her for expressing it "

I wonder why we don't afford the same level of humanity towards men?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"term like BBW and BBC will only go away if by using it, it ended up having a negative effect....

its a two way street.... whilst people ask for them, and whilst people play up to it if they think it ends up being an advantage.... nothing will change!!!!

the sad thing if that some people like to "fetish-ise" so to speak... and other are prepared to be seen as a fetish if it means getting a legover...."

Why should it "go away" just because some people don't like it? Using terms like BBC and BBW are ways of describing oneself. I could call myself a BBW,would it make someone want me who didn't previously? I've had many men message asking if I like BBC,I don't want them purely because they used the term BBC. There are lots of ways people describe themselves on here,I don't take much notice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" If any woman as the confidence to see real beauty in herself I say good on her for expressing it

I wonder why we don't afford the same level of humanity towards men?"

We don't? Who told you that?

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

" If any woman as the confidence to see real beauty in herself I say good on her for expressing it

I wonder why we don't afford the same level of humanity towards men?

We don't? Who told you that? "

Oh, sorry, yes of course we do...

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

" If any woman as the confidence to see real beauty in herself I say good on her for expressing it

I wonder why we don't afford the same level of humanity towards men?"

Of course any men that feel that way are entitled to express the same level of confidence too

You used the example of women in your OP so I continued with that example

So put down you little spoon and be a good boy.

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By *olarfox OP Man over a year ago

North Cambs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right I'm going to open a can of worms here, but, wtf is with the term BBW? This term has always got my goat!

Rant over...

Well said mate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, I am fat and I have a great face. According to him I must not call myself a BBW- right?

No you can call yourself whatever you like.

What he was saying is why should a very facially ugly person who is fat somehow be classed has beautiful purely by the measure of their body fat content."

For what it's worth that's how I read I too.

I can't quite find the right words to write ~ but the term BBW to me just seems really patronising to women.

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