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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Recently I had a meet with a couple where absolutely no effort had been made with this regard....invited upstairs to a spare room which was completely devoid of any attempt to make it an inviting place to have sex.
How do you feel about the above? Is atmosphere in the chosen location for a meet important to you? |
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over a year ago
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Depends on the chemistry before hand if there is no spark then I should imagine the scenario you painted was pretty business like rather than sexy?
Luckily we find the spark and not had such a meet. |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Depends on the chemistry before hand if there is no spark then I should imagine the scenario you painted was pretty business like rather than sexy?
Luckily we find the spark and not had such a meet. "
I'm not sure that the 'spark' as such was missing, just that the couple in question probably never feel that 'creating a sexy atmosphere' is important to them...where as to me it is the natural thing to do with any meet....regardless of how that particular meet might turn out. |
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over a year ago
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We met a couple once for a social at their place and they hadn't made any effort either. Frankly, the place was dirty and messy and I did not feel sexy in the slightest.
We never had another meet.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on the chemistry before hand if there is no spark then I should imagine the scenario you painted was pretty business like rather than sexy?
Luckily we find the spark and not had such a meet.
I'm not sure that the 'spark' as such was missing, just that the couple in question probably never feel that 'creating a sexy atmosphere' is important to them...where as to me it is the natural thing to do with any meet....regardless of how that particular meet might turn out."
We find that a lot of the moment is in our mind and if the mood is right then as long as we are in a clean and functional room things get sexy and you tend to forget about the rest. It may have something to with the ladies boisterous can confidence at leading play though.
Could never get down and dirty in a dirty house yuck! |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"We met a couple once for a social at their place and they hadn't made any effort either. Frankly, the place was dirty and messy and I did not feel sexy in the slightest.
We never had another meet.
-Courtney"
My experience was not that the house or room assigned for play were dirty, just that no effort to make the place seem remotely enticing in terms of a place to have sex had been made.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Atmosphere is essential to setting the tone for the evening. I believe in making maximum effort as this shows a mutual respect for your playmates. At the end of the day it's all about playing the game well, seducing playmates with the tease and them feeling completely at ease with the surroundings. Feeling like a piece of meat on a conveyor belt in a grubby room doesn't really do it for me. Each to their own tho.................... |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Atmosphere is essential to setting the tone for the evening. I believe in making maximum effort as this shows a mutual respect for your playmates. At the end of the day it's all about playing the game well, seducing playmates with the tease and them feeling completely at ease with the surroundings. Feeling like a piece of meat on a conveyor belt in a grubby room doesn't really do it for me. Each to their own tho...................."
Bravo! I feel exactly the same way! |
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"We met a couple once for a social at their place and they hadn't made any effort either. Frankly, the place was dirty and messy and I did not feel sexy in the slightest.
We never had another meet.
-Courtney
My experience was not that the house or room assigned for play were dirty, just that no effort to make the place seem remotely enticing in terms of a place to have sex had been made.."
I understand, but I feel that the impetus is the same. |
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Recently I had a meet with a couple where absolutely no effort had been made with this regard....invited upstairs to a spare room which was completely devoid of any attempt to make it an inviting place to have sex.
How do you feel about the above? Is atmosphere in the chosen location for a meet important to you?"
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon.....  |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"We met a couple once for a social at their place and they hadn't made any effort either. Frankly, the place was dirty and messy and I did not feel sexy in the slightest.
We never had another meet.
-Courtney
My experience was not that the house or room assigned for play were dirty, just that no effort to make the place seem remotely enticing in terms of a place to have sex had been made..
I understand, but I feel that the impetus is the same. "
Yes, I whole heartedly agree |
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Recently I had a meet with a couple where absolutely no effort had been made with this regard....invited upstairs to a spare room which was completely devoid of any attempt to make it an inviting place to have sex.
How do you feel about the above? Is atmosphere in the chosen location for a meet important to you?
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon..... "
fur throws are handy  |
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon..... "
Candles in hotel rooms set off the fire alarm 
Am liking the fur throw idea though  |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon.....
Candles in hotel rooms set off the fire alarm
Am liking the fur throw idea though "
Fur throws are fine, except with a lady who gushes copiously .
I saw one lady a number of times who seemed to like proceedings to always take place on a faux sheepskin rug on the living room floor. Give her propensity to gush like no one else I've ever met, I always worried about how many times that particular rug had got a jolly good soaking....I do hope it was machine washable |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
Hastings |
I think people need to remember we all different...we all see situations different and all approach it different.
In your opinion they hadn't made an effort. But to be honest you, dnt know what they did. They may have spent an hr getting it clean n looking the way it did
If u didn't feel they made an effort that's ur take on the situation. So just dnt go again. I wouldn't go talking about it on here where they could see it and are now wandering why you didn't say something to them at the time...
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon.....
Candles in hotel rooms set off the fire alarm
Am liking the fur throw idea though
Fur throws are fine, except with a lady who gushes copiously .
I saw one lady a number of times who seemed to like proceedings to always take place on a faux sheepskin rug on the living room floor. Give her propensity to gush like no one else I've ever met, I always worried about how many times that particular rug had got a jolly good soaking....I do hope it was machine washable "
well who mentioned only one throw available, and of course they wash.... |
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"We met a couple once for a social at their place and they hadn't made any effort either. Frankly, the place was dirty and messy and I did not feel sexy in the slightest.
We never had another meet.
-Courtney"
awwww Courtney are you a neat freak so am I x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think people need to remember we all different...we all see situations different and all approach it different.
In your opinion they hadn't made an effort. But to be honest you, dnt know what they did. They may have spent an hr getting it clean n looking the way it did
If u didn't feel they made an effort that's ur take on the situation. So just dnt go again. I wouldn't go talking about it on here where they could see it and are now wandering why you didn't say something to them at the time...
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maybe it was the meet that was "throw" away !! |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I think people need to remember we all different...we all see situations different and all approach it different.
In your opinion they hadn't made an effort. But to be honest you, dnt know what they did. They may have spent an hr getting it clean n looking the way it did
If u didn't feel they made an effort that's ur take on the situation. So just dnt go again. I wouldn't go talking about it on here where they could see it and are now wandering why you didn't say something to them at the time...
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Sorry, but you can tell whether or not people have made an effort to create a sexy atmosphere or not, it's not just about cleaning the place.
I agree, for some people a bog standard spare room with no music or soft lighting may be all they require for sexual encounters but I prefer a slightly sexier ambiance....I was indeed interested in how many people feel the same and go out of their way to ensure it. |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
" I wouldn't go talking about it on here where they could see it and are now wandering why you didn't say something to them at the time...
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its hardly the thing you can mention at the time.....'oh by the way, you couldn't you have made more of an effort to create an atmosphere more conducive to sex?'...
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Recently I had a meet with a couple where absolutely no effort had been made with this regard....invited upstairs to a spare room which was completely devoid of any attempt to make it an inviting place to have sex.
How do you feel about the above? Is atmosphere in the chosen location for a meet important to you?
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon.....
fur throws are handy "
The one I want costs £240.00 unfortunately lol! |
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Recently I had a meet with a couple where absolutely no effort had been made with this regard....invited upstairs to a spare room which was completely devoid of any attempt to make it an inviting place to have sex.
How do you feel about the above? Is atmosphere in the chosen location for a meet important to you?
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon.....
fur throws are handy
The one I want costs £240.00 unfortunately lol! "
Oh I see......well if I paid that much I wouldnt want to be taking it with me |
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"I think people need to remember we all different...we all see situations different and all approach it different.
In your opinion they hadn't made an effort. But to be honest you, dnt know what they did. They may have spent an hr getting it clean n looking the way it did
If u didn't feel they made an effort that's ur take on the situation. So just dnt go again. I wouldn't go talking about it on here where they could see it and are now wandering why you didn't say something to them at the time...
Sorry, but you can tell whether or not people have made an effort to create a sexy atmosphere or not, it's not just about cleaning the place.
I agree, for some people a bog standard spare room with no music or soft lighting may be all they require for sexual encounters but I prefer a slightly sexier ambiance....I was indeed interested in how many people feel the same and go out of their way to ensure it."
so just out of interest if you was going to someone's house what would be your perfect setting to see |
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon.....
Candles in hotel rooms set off the fire alarm
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Not a few scented nightlights in coloured glasses, they're fine, I don't need a bonfire lol!! Only trouble so far is spilling hot wax all over the inside of my handbag when I leave at 3am haha! |
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By *olarfox OP Man
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I think people need to remember we all different...we all see situations different and all approach it different.
In your opinion they hadn't made an effort. But to be honest you, dnt know what they did. They may have spent an hr getting it clean n looking the way it did
If u didn't feel they made an effort that's ur take on the situation. So just dnt go again. I wouldn't go talking about it on here where they could see it and are now wandering why you didn't say something to them at the time...
Sorry, but you can tell whether or not people have made an effort to create a sexy atmosphere or not, it's not just about cleaning the place.
I agree, for some people a bog standard spare room with no music or soft lighting may be all they require for sexual encounters but I prefer a slightly sexier ambiance....I was indeed interested in how many people feel the same and go out of their way to ensure it.so just out of interest if you was going to someone's house what would be your perfect setting to see"
I don't even need candles, just some soft lighting, a bit of background music, and ideally a room which is clutter free and has a nicely made up full sized bed.... or even play in the sitting room if it has a conducive atmosphere... |
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"I think people need to remember we all different...we all see situations different and all approach it different.
In your opinion they hadn't made an effort. But to be honest you, dnt know what they did. They may have spent an hr getting it clean n looking the way it did
If u didn't feel they made an effort that's ur take on the situation. So just dnt go again. I wouldn't go talking about it on here where they could see it and are now wandering why you didn't say something to them at the time...
Sorry, but you can tell whether or not people have made an effort to create a sexy atmosphere or not, it's not just about cleaning the place.
I agree, for some people a bog standard spare room with no music or soft lighting may be all they require for sexual encounters but I prefer a slightly sexier ambiance....I was indeed interested in how many people feel the same and go out of their way to ensure it.so just out of interest if you was going to someone's house what would be your perfect setting to see
I don't even need candles, just some soft lighting, a bit of background music, and ideally a room which is clutter free and has a nicely made up full sized bed.... or even play in the sitting room if it has a conducive atmosphere..."
we allways have candles usally musk ones i find musk very sexy , soft lighting and bit of soft music |
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Recently I had a meet with a couple where absolutely no effort had been made with this regard....invited upstairs to a spare room which was completely devoid of any attempt to make it an inviting place to have sex.
How do you feel about the above? Is atmosphere in the chosen location for a meet important to you?
Yup, very important to me, I like every sense catered to!! Even with a regular meet I always like to light candles and incense and find some sexy music and a nice wine.....I take a kit with me wherever I go, just in case haha! I'm gonna invest in a fur throw one day soon.....
fur throws are handy
The one I want costs £240.00 unfortunately lol!
Oh I see......well if I paid that much I wouldnt want to be taking it with me"
If I paid that much I'd be taking it everywhere lol! |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I try to make sure that I create the right atmosphere for play if I have someone/s coming to my place - nice lighting, a bit of back ground music, clean and tidy...as inviting as possible.
Recently I had a meet with a couple where absolutely no effort had been made with this regard....invited upstairs to a spare room which was completely devoid of any attempt to make it an inviting place to have sex.
How do you feel about the above? Is atmosphere in the chosen location for a meet important to you?"
Setting the mood OP every hotel meet I've ever had has involved the female knocking back a few stiff ones in the hotel lobby to calm her nerves or so they say .with me inwardly smiling to myself as I sip my soda water and lime
Does that count as setting the mood I wonder ?.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always clean, tidy and make it as welcome as possible if i have a visitor. Little music, ensure its comfortable temp (lesson learnt), drink is available (no haribo before that joke starts) etc
My aim is to make them not notice anything is missing so they can relax and concentrate on having fun |
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