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What makes some swinging couples successful?
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By *ichNjudy OP Couple
over a year ago
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Now her is a strange thing and something we not really ever thought or talked about before
So the question is what qualities (or personality traits, call them what you will) best allow couples to be successful swingers?
By successful we don't mean how many couples you have met and shagged, we mean what is it that makes some couples able to deal with being swingers and also to get the best from it
For us the 100% most important factor is being able to communicate with each other in a totally honest and frank way. Without that we don't think swinging would work for us.
There have been a few situations where being able to talk openly between ourselves has made a great deal of difference to how we feel about our own relationship and swinging in general and the undeniable influence being swingers has on us.
But anyway that's just us - what qualities, if any, do you think make sucessful swinging couples? |
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communication in a word. also, personally think it is the reason you do it. we dont swap we add one. adds spice to an already hot sex life. we do it to improve the excitement in our life not repair or fill a hole (pardon the pun)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust, humour, honesty, certainly all those attributes. To have a really good meet everyone has to feel comfortable and that can be quite difficult if 4 people are involved.
We have had meets with single guys and I have to admit that all of them say that my guy is so relaxed and laid back and does his best to ensure they dont feel under any amount of pressure. Hes great with people though - I talk them into submission  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have tried the 3 some with, he did hint alot and so we had a go and liked it,, even tho my man was the most nervous of us 3,, and we talk all the time about it,, and so yer chating is the best,, even when we need push lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think it comes down to trush and to be able to be relaxed about what your doing, i also think both parties wanting to do it helps and not one just doing it for the other
ive been to clubs and see so many couples argueing over the daftist of things, point scorong, keeping count on whos had more fun, to be quite blunt its stupid, when i swing with my husband we didnt care who had how many, we used to play together and alone...actually we split up so maybe we not the best exmple lmao
lots of couples go into this for the wrong reason, some think it will save a failing marrage, some women do it becuse their husband plays away and they think at least this way they know what hes upto, but in my opinion if your marrage isnt 100% strong swinging will only add to your already problems |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Communication, trust and the ability to talk things through with your partner.
Our swinging journey has had its ups and downs  and many of our boundaries were broken as things developed. As we seemed to go quite quickly then this did cause some unrest in the camp but been able to talk about it and discuss any concerns is what helped us. We are doing stuff now we never thought we would do (seperate room for instance, sometimes seperate houses), we would never been able to do this without communicating and discussing it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"in my opinion if your marrage isnt 100% strong swinging will only add to your already problems"
100% agree, we have seen so many couples splitting up, part of the cause been jealously encountered when swinging.
S. |
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By *ohnsusCouple
over a year ago
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Deinitely can't be jealous types as the green eyed monster and swinging just do not mix. We think you have to have that bond of trust, and it helps to have a sense of humour and not take it or yourselves too seriously.
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