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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
Hi all, I'm Alex.
I just wondered how many women would continue to date a guy if he was honest up front and said he was bi, or in my case bi curious?
I feel myself that it would put most women off?
Please share your thoughts
.I'm limited experience bi but would Like to try more bi fun but still be in a happy healthy relationship with a lady. |
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My partner is a bi male. No guys I had met before on here had openly admitted they were bi and I did not, at the point we met, think it would make that much difference. Now I would not meet or date a guy unless he was bi and proud - bi men rule! (when I let them) |
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over a year ago
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i have to be as honest as the guy if he said he was bi,and not continue the relationship.sorry,its just me.i dont have a problem knowing bi guys,i just dont want to have a relationship of a sexual nature with them |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"My partner is a bi male. No guys I had met before on here had openly admitted they were bi and I did not, at the point we met, think it would make that much difference. Now I would not meet or date a guy unless he was bi and proud - bi men rule! (when I let them) well said
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
I personally wouldn't.
2 men together does nothing for me, and just not something I am interested in.
And yes, as a bisexual woman that possibly makes me a hypocrite before anyone accuses me of it... |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Hi all, I'm Alex.
I just wondered how many women would continue to date a guy if he was honest up front and said he was bi, or in my case bi curious?
I feel myself that it would put most women off?
Please share your thoughts
.I'm limited experience bi but would Like to try more bi fun but still be in a happy healthy relationship with a lady. "
If I was interested in dating a guy then you would be there on my list along-with the others
The only thing which would put me off would be if he started talking about his time with guys whilst whispering sweet nothings to me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's a monogamous relationship would there be any difference at all?
I never quite get the insinuation that bi guys can't have a normal relationship, seems it's used by a large number as an excuse to cheat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have to be as honest as the guy if he said he was bi,and not continue the relationship.sorry,its just me.i dont have a problem knowing bi guys,i just dont want to have a relationship of a sexual nature with them"
I feel like this too. I would also I am afraid leave a relationship If a guy later confessed as it really isn't for me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Might really depend on your intensions , do you want to keep her to yourself or are you happy to share ? well that would depend on what she was comfortable with."
Of course , so best thing to do is talk about it get it out in the open and find out and tell each what's comfortable for you both |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
I think if this is the reaction of the "open minded" "Sex Positive" community, then I would seriously consider keeping it to yourself.
Its a shame that the LGBT community is more like the LGbT community.
In the lifestyle its pretty much expected that the women will be bi, but men seem to get shunned.  |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"You see this is my point, many woman don't mind bi guys but most would nor choose to date one if they said they are bi on first date or early in relationship "
I know fab isn't run of the mill, and perhaps a little more open than the general public... but the majority of ladies above are happy to date bi men, so doesn't really justify your many women comment.
I choose not to as it just doesn't do anything for me - so I would not date nor meet a bi man - and I would rather be upfront about that. |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"You see this is my point, many woman don't mind bi guys but most would nor choose to date one if they said they are bi on first date or early in relationship
I know fab isn't run of the mill, and perhaps a little more open than the general public... but the majority of ladies above are happy to date bi men, so doesn't really justify your many women comment.
I choose not to as it just doesn't do anything for me - so I would not date nor meet a bi man - and I would rather be upfront about that. "
Ok fair point |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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"You see this is my point, many woman don't mind bi guys but most would nor choose to date one if they said they are bi on first date or early in relationship
I know fab isn't run of the mill, and perhaps a little more open than the general public... but the majority of ladies above are happy to date bi men, so doesn't really justify your many women comment.
I choose not to as it just doesn't do anything for me - so I would not date nor meet a bi man - and I would rather be upfront about that. "
But is it a case of they turn you off, rather than they don't do anything for you?
For example, if someone told me they were a traffic warden, that wouldn't, in itself, turn me on, but it wouldn't turn me off, and I would still play with them if everything else was good. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
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For example, if someone told me they were a traffic warden, that wouldn't, in itself, turn me on, but it wouldn't turn me off, and I would still play with them if everything else was good."
Next you'll be telling us that you play with estate agents too; my, my, some people .....
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"But is it a case of they turn you off, rather than they don't do anything for you?
For example, if someone told me they were a traffic warden, that wouldn't, in itself, turn me on, but it wouldn't turn me off, and I would still play with them if everything else was good."
Not an active turn off - but something I have no interest in. I am not interested in watersports - again a not interested so I choose to have nothing to do with it.
So I exercise free choice and meet people who I am interested in - as a whole person. I don't want to meet someone where I feel there are parts they need to conceal that do not interest me at all. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
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For example, if someone told me they were a traffic warden, that wouldn't, in itself, turn me on, but it wouldn't turn me off, and I would still play with them if everything else was good.
Next you'll be telling us that you play with estate agents too; my, my, some people .....
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Jesus! No! I have to draw the line somewhere, I'm not an animal!  |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship"
Well depends how she fells about it. I would hope it could be inclusive.
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
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"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship
She may just do that I would let him "
would you? |
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over a year ago
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"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship"
That's a very good question? |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
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I guess it's the same for me if she said she wanted fun outside our relationship.
If it's strong enough relationship with openness and honestly and she was safe I would have no problem with her having fun |
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"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship
She may just do that I would let him would you? "
Yes my ex was free to meet whoever he wanted as long as he was honest with me about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship
Well depends how she fells about it. I would hope it could be inclusive.
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Would you ask her to join you? |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship
Well depends how she fells about it. I would hope it could be inclusive.
If she felt comfortable about the situation, yes
Would you ask her to join you? "
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"i have to be as honest as the guy if he said he was bi,and not continue the relationship.sorry,its just me.i dont have a problem knowing bi guys,i just dont want to have a relationship of a sexual nature with them"
This is how I feel too. |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship
Well depends how she fells about it. I would hope it could be inclusive.
If she felt comfortable with the situation and I thought she would enjoy it, yes
Would you ask her to join you? "
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"So obione day you start dating a girl you tell her your bi are you hoping she then gives you permission to play with men outside eof the relationship
She may just do that I would let him would you?
Yes my ex was free to meet whoever he wanted as long as he was honest with me about it "
Exactly; no different from any other couple where the guy has permission to occasionally play away with another woman
In my opinion, a bi-guy is more attracted to women than he is to guys. There is a higher chance of loosing a straight guy to another woman than a bi-guy to a man
All hypothetical for me as I wouldn't date a man for a permanent relationship but if I was looking ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess it's the same for me if she said she wanted fun outside our relationship.
If it's strong enough relationship with openness and honestly and she was safe I would have no problem with her having fun "
Basically your looking for a swinging relationship correct me if im wrong |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"I guess it's the same for me if she said she wanted fun outside our relationship.
If it's strong enough relationship with openness and honestly and she was safe I would have no problem with her having fun
Basically your looking for a swinging relationship correct me if im wrong"
Maybe that's true? |
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"Im bi and always been honest about it have a close friend who accepts it and she happens to be bi too so its great xxwell your a very lucky bloke. "
Cheers mate yeah im lucky to of found her great to be my true self for a change xxx |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"Im bi and always been honest about it have a close friend who accepts it and she happens to be bi too so its great xxwell your a very lucky bloke.
Cheers mate yeah im lucky to of found her great to be my true self for a change xxx"
Great to hear mate. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance. "
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
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"Im bi and always been honest about it have a close friend who accepts it and she happens to be bi too so its great xxwell your a very lucky bloke.
Cheers mate yeah im lucky to of found her great to be my true self for a change xxx
Great to hear mate. "
Thanks mate but yeah its down to personal taste if a woman doesnt like bi guys then thats there choice xxx But we are no different that straight guys same equipment lol xxx |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance.
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
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true enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My answer is still yes I would date So it wouldn't put you off and you would be happy starting a relationship knowing that at some point there maybe some swinging "
That's something you both have to disguss and agree on |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"My answer is still yes I would date So it wouldn't put you off and you would be happy starting a relationship knowing that at some point there maybe some swinging
That's something you both have to disguss and agree on "
totally agree x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all, I'm Alex.
I just wondered how many women would continue to date a guy if he was honest up front and said he was bi, or in my case bi curious?
I feel myself that it would put most women off?
Please share your thoughts
.I'm limited experience bi but would Like to try more bi fun but still be in a happy healthy relationship with a lady. "
I wouldn't mind at all if the guy was straight with me! But as someone said - in the real world people might view things differently!
If I like someone I like them - simple!
Btw op - you're very cute!! Xx |
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By *bione_1 OP Man
over a year ago
Broxbourne |
"Hi all, I'm Alex.
I just wondered how many women would continue to date a guy if he was honest up front and said he was bi, or in my case bi curious?
I feel myself that it would put most women off?
Please share your thoughts
.I'm limited experience bi buto would Like to try more bi fun but still be in a happy healthy relationship with a lady.
I wouldn't mind at all if the guy was straight with me! But as someone said - in the real world people might view things differently!
If I like someone I like them - simple!
Btw op - you're very cute!! Xx"
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"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance.
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
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I don't think it is like that at all. Its not even the same as preferring a race. Those are all based on appearance. Being bisexual is a trait that doesnt even need to be shown. I bet there are tons of bisexual men thay have never come out because they don't need to mention or act on it. If the relationship is monogamous then it shouldn't be a issue unless he pushes his sexuality at every turn.
To reject a guy because of a minor trait that if you trust the guy. Wont act on, then you could be missing out on your potential soul mate. And if it is the aspect that he coild sway both ways.. Anyone has the capability to cheat no matter what sexuality.
Just my opinion,
J & S
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance.
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
I don't think it is like that at all. Its not even the same as preferring a race. Those are all based on appearance. Being bisexual is a trait that doesnt even need to be shown. I bet there are tons of bisexual men thay have never come out because they don't need to mention or act on it. If the relationship is monogamous then it shouldn't be a issue unless he pushes his sexuality at every turn.
To reject a guy because of a minor trait that if you trust the guy. Wont act on, then you could be missing out on your potential soul mate. And if it is the aspect that he coild sway both ways.. Anyone has the capability to cheat no matter what sexuality.
Just my opinion,
J & S
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For me, it is nothing to do with the capability to cheat - anyone can do that as you say.
Its about him being interested in something that has no interest at all to me, and the fact that I would not feel comfortable thinking he might be fantasising about being with other men - 2 men together really does nothing for me, it just leaves me cold - call me shallow or narrow minded or whatever, but its not for me. SO I choose not to share myself with people who that is important for - same as I do not judge anyone for what they think of my sexuality (and have lost friends over it, so know how it feels to be on the other side of someone feeling uncomfortable with bisexuality)
I'm on fab to meet people who have similar interests and who I can click with sexually. And I would not date someone who I have that underlying issue with as I feel it would be a constant concern. |
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I would.
The fact that he was bi wouldn't make any difference to me because it's not on my list of criteria in a partner.
I guess it would be an added bonus if we were to stick with this lifestyle. |
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"I would. I don't see why not, really.
-Courtney"
My last GF was openly bi. So I was honest with her from the start. At the time we were just FB's. Obviously didn't put her off getting into a relationship with me though. She also knew all about my dressing to. Which was great. Had plenty of fun together. Lol
Claire
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"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance.
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
I don't think it is like that at all. Its not even the same as preferring a race. Those are all based on appearance. Being bisexual is a trait that doesnt even need to be shown. I bet there are tons of bisexual men thay have never come out because they don't need to mention or act on it. If the relationship is monogamous then it shouldn't be a issue unless he pushes his sexuality at every turn.
To reject a guy because of a minor trait that if you trust the guy. Wont act on, then you could be missing out on your potential soul mate. And if it is the aspect that he coild sway both ways.. Anyone has the capability to cheat no matter what sexuality.
Just my opinion,
J & S
X
For me, it is nothing to do with the capability to cheat - anyone can do that as you say.
Its about him being interested in something that has no interest at all to me, and the fact that I would not feel comfortable thinking he might be fantasising about being with other men - 2 men together really does nothing for me, it just leaves me cold - call me shallow or narrow minded or whatever, but its not for me. SO I choose not to share myself with people who that is important for - same as I do not judge anyone for what they think of my sexuality (and have lost friends over it, so know how it feels to be on the other side of someone feeling uncomfortable with bisexuality)
I'm on fab to meet people who have similar interests and who I can click with sexually. And I would not date someone who I have that underlying issue with as I feel it would be a constant concern."
You know, I get where you are coming from. I do see it from your side. However to me, that would be the same as refusing a guy because he likes bdsm and you don't or because he likes a certain race you don't.
I won't call you shallow or narrow minded because you date who you feel comfortable with, and if you don't feel comfortable with dating bi men. In my opinion I just think its an extremely small reason not to date them.
I merely tried to reason with your reasoning. I'm not judging you as a person or character. (So don't think I'm being aggressive in any way )
J & S
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"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance.
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
I don't think it is like that at all. Its not even the same as preferring a race. Those are all based on appearance. Being bisexual is a trait that doesnt even need to be shown. I bet there are tons of bisexual men thay have never come out because they don't need to mention or act on it. If the relationship is monogamous then it shouldn't be a issue unless he pushes his sexuality at every turn.
To reject a guy because of a minor trait that if you trust the guy. Wont act on, then you could be missing out on your potential soul mate. And if it is the aspect that he coild sway both ways.. Anyone has the capability to cheat no matter what sexuality.
Just my opinion,
J & S
X
For me, it is nothing to do with the capability to cheat - anyone can do that as you say.
Its about him being interested in something that has no interest at all to me, and the fact that I would not feel comfortable thinking he might be fantasising about being with other men - 2 men together really does nothing for me, it just leaves me cold - call me shallow or narrow minded or whatever, but its not for me. SO I choose not to share myself with people who that is important for - same as I do not judge anyone for what they think of my sexuality (and have lost friends over it, so know how it feels to be on the other side of someone feeling uncomfortable with bisexuality)
I'm on fab to meet people who have similar interests and who I can click with sexually. And I would not date someone who I have that underlying issue with as I feel it would be a constant concern.
You know, I get where you are coming from. I do see it from your side. However to me, that would be the same as refusing a guy because he likes bdsm and you don't or because he likes a certain race you don't.
I won't call you shallow or narrow minded because you date who you feel comfortable with, and if you don't feel comfortable with dating bi men. In my opinion I just think its an extremely small reason not to date them.
I merely tried to reason with your reasoning. I'm not judging you as a person or character. (So don't think I'm being aggressive in any way )
J & S
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I don't think its a small reason at all, I feel exactly the same. Man on man is a complete turn off for me and imagining a guy I am with with another guy would completely put me off him |
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"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance.
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
I don't think it is like that at all. Its not even the same as preferring a race. Those are all based on appearance. Being bisexual is a trait that doesnt even need to be shown. I bet there are tons of bisexual men thay have never come out because they don't need to mention or act on it. If the relationship is monogamous then it shouldn't be a issue unless he pushes his sexuality at every turn.
To reject a guy because of a minor trait that if you trust the guy. Wont act on, then you could be missing out on your potential soul mate. And if it is the aspect that he coild sway both ways.. Anyone has the capability to cheat no matter what sexuality.
Just my opinion,
J & S
X
For me, it is nothing to do with the capability to cheat - anyone can do that as you say.
Its about him being interested in something that has no interest at all to me, and the fact that I would not feel comfortable thinking he might be fantasising about being with other men - 2 men together really does nothing for me, it just leaves me cold - call me shallow or narrow minded or whatever, but its not for me. SO I choose not to share myself with people who that is important for - same as I do not judge anyone for what they think of my sexuality (and have lost friends over it, so know how it feels to be on the other side of someone feeling uncomfortable with bisexuality)
I'm on fab to meet people who have similar interests and who I can click with sexually. And I would not date someone who I have that underlying issue with as I feel it would be a constant concern.
You know, I get where you are coming from. I do see it from your side. However to me, that would be the same as refusing a guy because he likes bdsm and you don't or because he likes a certain race you don't.
I won't call you shallow or narrow minded because you date who you feel comfortable with, and if you don't feel comfortable with dating bi men. In my opinion I just think its an extremely small reason not to date them.
I merely tried to reason with your reasoning. I'm not judging you as a person or character. (So don't think I'm being aggressive in any way )
J & S
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I don't think its a small reason at all, I feel exactly the same. Man on man is a complete turn off for me and imagining a guy I am with with another guy would completely put me off him"
Correct me if I'm wrong, but that wasn't her reasoning. Her reasoning is that she doesn't want to share her self with someone that might be having fantasies with another gender, she wouldn't feel comfortable. Not that it turns her off. You on the other hand are turned off by bi men whilst it simply does nothing for her.
Same action, different motive.
I can understand your motive a lot clearer.
J & S
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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"I genuinely would like to know if would but a girl off in the first instance.
You've had this answered...
Some wouldn't mind, some would be put off. But then some girls won't date short men/bigger men/bald men/muscly men - its personal taste...
I don't think it is like that at all. Its not even the same as preferring a race. Those are all based on appearance. Being bisexual is a trait that doesnt even need to be shown. I bet there are tons of bisexual men thay have never come out because they don't need to mention or act on it. If the relationship is monogamous then it shouldn't be a issue unless he pushes his sexuality at every turn.
To reject a guy because of a minor trait that if you trust the guy. Wont act on, then you could be missing out on your potential soul mate. And if it is the aspect that he coild sway both ways.. Anyone has the capability to cheat no matter what sexuality.
Just my opinion,
J & S
X
For me, it is nothing to do with the capability to cheat - anyone can do that as you say.
Its about him being interested in something that has no interest at all to me, and the fact that I would not feel comfortable thinking he might be fantasising about being with other men - 2 men together really does nothing for me, it just leaves me cold - call me shallow or narrow minded or whatever, but its not for me. SO I choose not to share myself with people who that is important for - same as I do not judge anyone for what they think of my sexuality (and have lost friends over it, so know how it feels to be on the other side of someone feeling uncomfortable with bisexuality)
I'm on fab to meet people who have similar interests and who I can click with sexually. And I would not date someone who I have that underlying issue with as I feel it would be a constant concern.
You know, I get where you are coming from. I do see it from your side. However to me, that would be the same as refusing a guy because he likes bdsm and you don't or because he likes a certain race you don't.
I won't call you shallow or narrow minded because you date who you feel comfortable with, and if you don't feel comfortable with dating bi men. In my opinion I just think its an extremely small reason not to date them.
I merely tried to reason with your reasoning. I'm not judging you as a person or character. (So don't think I'm being aggressive in any way )
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I don't think its a small reason at all, I feel exactly the same. Man on man is a complete turn off for me and imagining a guy I am with with another guy would completely put me off him
Correct me if I'm wrong, but that wasn't her reasoning. Her reasoning is that she doesn't want to share her self with someone that might be having fantasies with another gender, she wouldn't feel comfortable. Not that it turns her off. You on the other hand are turned off by bi men whilst it simply does nothing for her.
Same action, different motive.
I can understand your motive a lot clearer.
J & S
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I wouldn't share myself sexually with someone who has such fundamentally different tastes to me. Its not like its something I would ever negotiate on. I would not share myself with someone who identified as vanilla sexually with no interest in exploring, nor would I share with someone who has other interests which do nothing for me. I don't share myself and would not date with someone who is looking for a monogamous relationship either. So for me, its not a small reason - its a major incompatibility that would show over time as somewhere that we are not at all well matched - and that can lead to resentment, ill-feeling and dissatisfaction. |
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For me, it is nothing to do with the capability to cheat - anyone can do that as you say.
Its about him being interested in something that has no interest at all to me, and the fact that I would not feel comfortable thinking he might be fantasising about being with other men - 2 men together really does nothing for me, it just leaves me cold - call me shallow or narrow minded or whatever, but its not for me. SO I choose not to share myself with people who that is important for - same as I do not judge anyone for what they think of my sexuality (and have lost friends over it, so know how it feels to be on the other side of someone feeling uncomfortable with bisexuality)
I'm on fab to meet people who have similar interests and who I can click with sexually. And I would not date someone who I have that underlying issue with as I feel it would be a constant concern."
This is exactly how I feel. I know some find it narrow minded but guy on guy does turn me off... And therefore I'd never date a bi guy |
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