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First club experience

By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

Fist time in a Swinger Club. Xtasia was very clean and I met a lot of new people.

I was hooked up by a nice couple who ws together another couple. She was pretty with a sexy short dress and more importantly she was very clean. They seemed ok talking.

The very negative side was Sex, if you can call it that way.

Short intro with kissing and playing, which I liked. Then 5 min Sex, she cum, that was it. I did not even warm up!?!? The worst Sex of my entire life. Additionally she was moving out of sync, bending my friend dowstairs

...Lack of basic skills

I hope other couples are not like that, because the level was VERY LOW. Hope you will make me change my mind soon

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

We await the verification with interest

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

They said they are not on Fab...thanks God

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all clubs are like that.

Also its not always about the sex, more of a social club for adults, then if any play goes on then its a bonus.

The build up to having fun is what its all about

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

Clubs are mostly about sex for us - we have vanilla friends for socialising - and the sex in the clubs is usually really good. If it falls a little short of expectations there are always plenty of other playmates around to choose from. Don't be put off by one not so good experience.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Clubs are mostly about sex for us - we have vanilla friends for socialising - and the sex in the clubs is usually really good. If it falls a little short of expectations there are always plenty of other playmates around to choose from. Don't be put off by one not so good experience."

It did not fall only "a little" short of expectations, but for the rest I completely agree with you. I will have more luck next time, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fist time in a Swinger Club. Xtasia was very clean and I met a lot of new people.

I was hooked up by a nice couple who ws together another couple. She was pretty with a sexy short dress and more importantly she was very clean. They seemed ok talking.

The very negative side was Sex, if you can call it that way.

...Lack of basic skills

I hope other couples are not like that, because the level was VERY LOW. Hope you will make me change my mind soon

Have you ever heard of discretion? Ok she is not on FAB but this post says alot more about you as a person than it does about the sexual skills of the woman you have just fucked. Thank god for the notes facility!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Fist time in a Swinger Club. Xtasia was very clean and I met a lot of new people.

I was hooked up by a nice couple who ws together another couple. She was pretty with a sexy short dress and more importantly she was very clean. They seemed ok talking.

The very negative side was Sex, if you can call it that way.

...Lack of basic skills

I hope other couples are not like that, because the level was VERY LOW. Hope you will make me change my mind soon

To be fair I'm always bitching about blokes being inconsiderate arseholes during sex on here, so a bloke doing it shouldn't be considered differently.

However, I'll pass on the advice I always get - talk to her!!! Why did the sex stop when she'd cum? Was that the deal before you went with the couple or did she just push you off? And why only one couple? Did you attempt to get with others or was the one shag your quota for the night?

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

The club was empty. No other doable prays, but I did what I could.

I asked what they wanted to do but they did not specify anything. They told me AFTERWARDS they like to change guys after she finishes..and they were with another couple. I can undestand, but if I knew it I would have avoided them!? IT WAS A TRAP!!! ahahah

Additionally I think she did not like the fact I told her a lot of times to stop moving as it was hurting with her out-of-sync movement

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've never been to an adult club so what's a "doable pray"?

Next time you say "It's a trap!", say it in the voice of Admiral Akbar - it has more presence and immediacy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The club was empty. No other doable prays, but I did what I could.

Additionally I think she did not like the fact I told her a lot of times to stop moving as it was hurting with her out-of-sync movement

Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

First club I went to I hated it so much I swore I'd never go to another club, thankfully someone persuaded me to try another club and the rest is history.

But I don't think you can blame bad sex on the club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love the build up....the flirting and teasing then lots of foreplay! I'd never stop before the guy came personally I think thats a little rude. If this is the way they like to play thats fine but should of told you so first xx

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I love the build up....the flirting and teasing then lots of foreplay! I'd never stop before the guy came personally I think thats a little rude. If this is the way they like to play thats fine but should of told you so first xx "

And I had/will never stop until a girl cums

totally agree. It was a trap...

I was used as a toy, but they did NOT use all my functionalities nor they finished my batteries ahahah

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"First club I went to I hated it so much I swore I'd never go to another club, thankfully someone persuaded me to try another club and the rest is history.

But I don't think you can blame bad sex on the club

I am not blaming the club (??), I said it was nice.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

And anyways her lateral movements make no sense. Only painful

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh well never mind, better look communicating next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me."

Totally agree with you mate, if YOU had been hurting the woman and she didn't like it it would have been a different story. I actually think it's down to the whole ratio thing. There are sooooo many single blokes, compared to the amount of available women/couples willing to play with singles they just see us as expendable meat to be used and abused.

We have all heard about equal opportunities? That's fine, just seems some are more equal than others.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Have you ever heard of discretion? Ok she is not on FAB but this post says alot more about you as a person than it does about the sexual skills of the woman you have just fucked. Thank god for the notes facility!"

What are you talking about? Ahahahah we had sex in front of 5 men!! Discretion? Ahahahah

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Call me a dafty and hit me with a wet haddock, but if it was hurting, why didn't you stop and do something else?

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Call me a dafty and hit me with a wet haddock, but if it was hurting, why didn't you stop and do something else?

She just needed to not move. And she did sometimes. Anyway she wanted to do doggy because she wanted to play with her husband...if she wanted my pleasure we would not have been here discussing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fist time in a Swinger Club. Xtasia was very clean and I met a lot of new people.

I was hooked up by a nice couple who ws together another couple. She was pretty with a sexy short dress and more importantly she was very clean. They seemed ok talking.

The very negative side was Sex, if you can call it that way.

...Lack of basic skills

I hope other couples are not like that, because the level was VERY LOW. Hope you will make me change my mind soon

That sounds about right for clubs

I've played with many a guy and all they seem to want to do it cum as quick as possible so they can go and carry on looking round for their next shag

I find sex in clubs very unforfilling, its very rare guys in clubs give oral

I personally think what you experienced is about normal for club sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What are you talking about? Ahahahah we had sex in front of 5 men!! Discretion? Ahahahah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The club was empty. No other doable prays, but I did what I could.

Additionally I think she did not like the fact I told her a lot of times to stop moving as it was hurting with her out-of-sync movement

Are you sure it wasn't you who was moving out of sync

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Call me a dafty and hit me with a wet haddock, but if it was hurting, why didn't you stop and do something else?

She just needed to not move. And she did sometimes. Anyway she wanted to do doggy because she wanted to play with her husband...if she wanted my pleasure we would not have been here discussing

You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"That sounds about right for clubs

I've played with many a guy and all they seem to want to do it cum as quick as possible so they can go and carry on looking round for their next shag

I find sex in clubs very unforfilling, its very rare guys in clubs give oral

I personally think what you experienced is about normal for club sex "

Well I was sort of expecting it looking around the behaviour of people. I hope I will be luckier next time though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doable prays???!!! Possibly one of the most questionable turns of phrase I've seen in a loooong time

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Are you sure it wasn't you who was moving out of sync

Reply above to the same question xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fist time in a Swinger Club. Xtasia was very clean and I met a lot of new people.

I was hooked up by a nice couple who ws together another couple. She was pretty with a sexy short dress and more importantly she was very clean. They seemed ok talking.

The very negative side was Sex, if you can call it that way.

...Lack of basic skills

I hope other couples are not like that, because the level was VERY LOW. Hope you will make me change my mind soon

That sounds about right for clubs

I've played with many a guy and all they seem to want to do it cum as quick as possible so they can go and carry on looking round for their next shag

I find sex in clubs very unforfilling, its very rare guys in clubs give oral

I personally think what you experienced is about normal for club sex "

You need to come to mingles on a night when I am there.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2"

Riiiggghhhttttt.....so ladies can't move during doggy??? Really??? New one on me that!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2"
I think you might be having sex different to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2"

I move during doggy style & I've not had any complaints. I think you may need lessons in sex

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me."

The man leads in doggy,the woman follows. Personally I like a man to be still so I can do the moving!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fist time in a Swinger Club. Xtasia was very clean and I met a lot of new people.

I was hooked up by a nice couple who ws together another couple. She was pretty with a sexy short dress and more importantly she was very clean. They seemed ok talking.

The very negative side was Sex, if you can call it that way.

...Lack of basic skills

I hope other couples are not like that, because the level was VERY LOW. Hope you will make me change my mind soon

That sounds about right for clubs

I've played with many a guy and all they seem to want to do it cum as quick as possible so they can go and carry on looking round for their next shag

I find sex in clubs very unforfilling, its very rare guys in clubs give oral

I personally think what you experienced is about normal for club sex

You need to come to mingles on a night when I am there. "

I didn't mean it rude I just genuinely do think most people in clubs are just after as many fucks as possible so its all just quick blow jobs and fucks, guys in clubs just never seem to have time, its all about cum and get back to carry on looking for the next woman

I can't speak for women and couples as I don't play with them

I just don't think a lot as looking for long quality sessions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Basic sex lesson 2

must have missed that day of school

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Riiiggghhhttttt.....so ladies can't move during doggy??? Really??? New one on me that!

Longer and harder is the penis, more brittle it is. She can move only forward and rearward. I said no LATERAL OR UP/DOWN. If you have sex with a small cock you can do whatever you want, it will not bend

Advanced Lectures on Sex, lesson 1

ahahah

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Basic sex lesson 2

must have missed that day of school

I think we all did! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2

I move during doggy style & I've not had any complaints. I think you may need lessons in sex

I was just thinking he don't sound qualified to give sex lessons I'm still wondering who was really moving out of sync

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I just don't think a lot as looking for long quality sessions"

I see...well it does not look good then. I think I will need to know people in the clubs, and then meet outside if this is the case

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2

I move during doggy style & I've not had any complaints. I think you may need lessons in sex

I was just thinking he don't sound qualified to give sex lessons I'm still wondering who was really moving out of sync

I said read above in the comments

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple over a year ago

Aberdeen

Have I been having sex wrong all these years, I like to move quite a bit during doggy. Especially doing little circles with my hips so it hits all the spots

Couldn't imagine just kneeling there doing nothing, think I'd feel like a spunk bucket rather than a partner!

In all seriousness not everyone is sexually compatible, bad sex can happen to everyone, swingers or vanilla. Maybe spend some time chatting to a couple in the days leading up to meeting at the club, so you get a better idea if your on the same wave length. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2

I move during doggy style & I've not had any complaints. I think you may need lessons in sex

I was just thinking he don't sound qualified to give sex lessons I'm still wondering who was really moving out of sync

I said read above in the comments"

I know I'm just messing with you calm down

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me.

The man leads in doggy,the woman follows. Personally I like a man to be still so I can do the moving!"

Well if you move in a good way yes it is ok. When the man leads is always better, as we have more muscles we can thrust stronger/quicker

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"You wanted her to NOT move?? What, not at all?? Why?? Not much fun for us ladies that!

Because she could not move. Lateral and up/down movements in doggy are a peni-cide. Basics of Sex, lesson 2

I move during doggy style & I've not had any complaints. I think you may need lessons in sex

I was just thinking he don't sound qualified to give sex lessons I'm still wondering who was really moving out of sync

I said read above in the comments

I know I'm just messing with you calm down

Yes I should have good sex to relax ahahahah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Naughty.... maybe im one of the elite who love giving oral, and dont cum in 5 mins then off for my next victims.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Have I been having sex wrong all these years, I like to move quite a bit during doggy. Especially doing little circles with my hips so it hits all the spots

:-"

With a long/hard penis it is impossible. You will damage it seriously...it is not a rubber dildo!? XD

If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Naughty.... maybe im one of the elite who love giving oral, and dont cum in 5 mins then off for my next victims. "

good SHE CUM in 5 minutes...

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Maybe spend some time chatting to a couple in the days leading up to meeting at the club, so you get a better idea if your on the same wave length. X"

Totally agree. I will do it.

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Have I been having sex wrong all these years, I like to move quite a bit during doggy. Especially doing little circles with my hips so it hits all the spots

With a long/hard penis it is impossible. You will damage it seriously...it is not a rubber dildo!? XD

If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead. "

Sweetheart I've been fucking a nicely sized one for many years just that way and while he's had lots of moans and groans none of them have been through pain, only pleasure

If a guy (no matter his size) is not just wildly thrusting in and out there can be plenty pleasure found in other movements.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

How big is your cock anyway,

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

I always take my time in clubs. You can only go 2 or 3 times in an evening, well I can, so you might as well, make it last, enjoy the experience and at least try to make sure she does too, if for no other reason than I'd rather she didn't see me at the bar a week or two later and run in the opposite direction.

Come find me at OurPlace4Fun Love

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ffs it says 7.5 to 8 inches on your profile, I'd not like massive cocks but that falls well into the normal bracket

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Have I been having sex wrong all these years, I like to move quite a bit during doggy. Especially doing little circles with my hips so it hits all the spots

With a long/hard penis it is impossible. You will damage it seriously...it is not a rubber dildo!? XD

If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead.

Sweetheart I've been fucking a nicely sized one for many years just that way and while he's had lots of moans and groans none of them have been through pain, only pleasure

If a guy (no matter his size) is not just wildly thrusting in and out there can be plenty pleasure found in other movements.

As I said above, if it is not in full erection it is possible...as you said you need to do it properly though.

You cannot do that if the cock is long AND stiff as wood. To do what you are saying you need to bend it. If is a little flaccid it works if you are careful...otherwise crack!?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I personally don't really like a long cock for doggy anyway,I find it a little painful that's why I like to do the moving at times

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Ffs it says 7.5 to 8 inches on your profile, I'd not like massive cocks but that falls well into the normal bracket"

Another topic and thanks for give me the occasion:

They are real measurments. Try to search on google the dildos lenght. To have an insertible lenght of 7in you need a 9in dildo...just to realize the size

It sounds normal because everyone says he has a 7in cock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally don't really like a long cock for doggy anyway,I find it a little painful that's why I like to do the moving at times "

I agree with this, when a guy with a big cocks pounding me from behind I just want to crawl off

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I personally don't really like a long cock for doggy anyway,I find it a little painful that's why I like to do the moving at times "

True ALL my partners had that problem, also experienced partners

but only when in full erection

But I was not in full erection (after 5min!?)...so it was ok

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Have I been having sex wrong all these years, I like to move quite a bit during doggy. Especially doing little circles with my hips so it hits all the spots

With a long/hard penis it is impossible. You will damage it seriously...it is not a rubber dildo!? XD

If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead.

Sweetheart I've been fucking a nicely sized one for many years just that way and while he's had lots of moans and groans none of them have been through pain, only pleasure

If a guy (no matter his size) is not just wildly thrusting in and out there can be plenty pleasure found in other movements.

As I said above, if it is not in full erection it is possible...as you said you need to do it properly though.

You cannot do that if the cock is long AND stiff as wood. To do what you are saying you need to bend it. If is a little flaccid it works if you are careful...otherwise crack!?"

OK well you are obviously the authority on how to fuck doggy style!

Jumping ahead a few lessons.... always be open to trying new things. The same techniques don't work on every person, and being open and communicative is always appreciated.

Advanced sex ed lesson 3

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Ffs it says 7.5 to 8 inches on your profile, I'd not like massive cocks but that falls well into the normal bracket

Another topic and thanks for give me the occasion:

They are real measurments. Try to search on google the dildos lenght. To have an insertible lenght of 7in you need a 9in dildo...just to realize the size

It sounds normal because everyone says he has a 7in cock

"
I'm 50 years of age I think I know what a 7 to 8 inch cock feels like, I don't like cocks 9 in plus

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

It's disturbing to know that sex is all about maths and specifics rather than people who can read each other and make a fulfilling connection. Where do I go to retrain?

On second thoughts I think I'll stick with my years of experience.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"It's disturbing to know that sex is all about maths and specifics rather than people who can read each other and make a fulfilling connection. Where do I go to retrain?

On second thoughts I think I'll stick with my years of experience.

"
I think it's fun getting sex education fromma 28 year old

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"OK well you are obviously the authority on how to fuck doggy style!

Jumping ahead a few lessons.... always be open to trying new things. The same techniques don't work on every person, and being open and communicative is always appreciated.

Advanced sex ed lesson 3

Ahahahahah

well I think it is more like the "Basics of Sex, lesson 1" everyone lost above

Totally agree. She did not communicate at all. She was just blowing her husband.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Has that experience put you off going to clubs in the future?

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"Has that experience put you off going to clubs in the future?"

Looks like he's off to Chams on Friday so I guess that's a no.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I think it's fun getting sex education fromma 28 year old

Well I created this post to know something more about the swinging world which is completely new to me.

I have solid basics eventhough I am young

trust me. Let's say my life went around girls and sex, especially the latest years

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Has that experience put you off going to clubs in the future?

Looks like he's off to Chams on Friday so I guess that's a no."

Nono I will go back to Xtasia again too. I liked the club and some of people I met!!!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Has that experience put you off going to clubs in the future?

Looks like he's off to Chams on Friday so I guess that's a no.

Nono I will go back to Xtasia again too. I liked the club and some of people I met!!!"

Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

"Fist time in a Swinger Club. Xtasia was very clean and I met a lot of new people.

I was hooked up by a nice couple who ws together another couple. She was pretty with a sexy short dress and more importantly she was very clean. They seemed ok talking.

The very negative side was Sex, if you can call it that way.

...Lack of basic skills

I hope other couples are not like that, because the level was VERY LOW. Hope you will make me change my mind soon

That sounds about right for clubs

I've played with many a guy and all they seem to want to do it cum as quick as possible so they can go and carry on looking round for their next shag

I find sex in clubs very unforfilling, its very rare guys in clubs give oral

I personally think what you experienced is about normal for club sex

You need to come to mingles on a night when I am there.

I can't speak for women and couples as I don't play with them

I just don't think a lot as looking for long quality sessions

Totally agree with you NN

In a group or open play room the majority of men seem to be there to empty their balls a quickly as possible, maybe they are afraid that they will lose out to the next guy.

But in a 1 on 1 situation in private they seem to do better, well at least last longer than 2 minutes, quick pat on the arse and 'thanks babe'.

Club sex can be very bad and can leave me wondering why I bother, but I usually find a nice guy who can change my mind

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah"

So we can expect another blow by blow account of your next shit shag at a club soon then

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah

So we can expect another blow by blow account of your next shit shag at a club soon then

Ahahahah yes I will keep you updated

...hopefully next one will be good. Fingers crossed

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah

So we can expect another blow by blow account of your next shit shag at a club soon then

Ahahahah yes I will keep you updated

...hopefully next one will be good. Fingers crossed

So absolutely no discretion whatsoever

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah

So we can expect another blow by blow account of your next shit shag at a club soon then

Ahahahah yes I will keep you updated

...hopefully next one will be good. Fingers crossed

So absolutely no discretion whatsoever

It depends. If we will have sex in front of a crowd of people like this time, I would say that discrection is not the right word.

If it will be intimate, I will keep it that way

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah

So we can expect another blow by blow account of your next shit shag at a club soon then

Ahahahah yes I will keep you updated

...hopefully next one will be good. Fingers crossed

Hopefully this woman isn't on another site saying the same thing about you on a forum

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah

So we can expect another blow by blow account of your next shit shag at a club soon then

Ahahahah yes I will keep you updated

...hopefully next one will be good. Fingers crossed

So absolutely no discretion whatsoever

It depends. If we will have sex in front of a crowd of people like this time, I would say that discretion is not the right word.

If it will be intimate, I will keep it that way

It doesn't matter if 100 people watched you have sex in a club, you are being indiscreet on this open forum.

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

Plus, this is Fabs we're talking about. It's freaky how much info some guys put on verifications.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"Better luck next time then,hopefully people don't avoid you after this thread!

Yes I hope so. In reality I hope that the bad ones will ahahahah

So we can expect another blow by blow account of your next shit shag at a club soon then

Ahahahah yes I will keep you updated

...hopefully next one will be good. Fingers crossed

So absolutely no discretion whatsoever

It depends. If we will have sex in front of a crowd of people like this time, I would say that discretion is not the right word.

If it will be intimate, I will keep it that way

It doesn't matter if 100 people watched you have sex in a club, you are being indiscreet on this open forum. "

....and in your profile status

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I joined xtasia about a month ago and told myself not to expect anything other than a drink with like minded people.

Had a fantastic meet the first night with a couple and it was their first time to. Maybe it was luck that I meet up with a nice couple. With the kinky life style we all have on here we all have varying needs and if the lady you mentioned wanted a new experience herself then she got it and maybe next time around everyone is satisfied

Lee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me.

The man leads in doggy,the woman follows. Personally I like a man to be still so I can do the moving!

Well if you move in a good way yes it is ok. When the man leads is always better, as we have more muscles we can thrust stronger/quicker

Could all the out of synch movements be because she was pleasuring her husband too? (Think you said that). Perhaps she was prioritising his pleasure...

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Hopefully this woman isn't on another site saying the same thing about you on a forum

I would discount it. She can stay on a Forum only for 5 minutes...

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Could all the out of synch movements be because she was pleasuring her husband too? (Think you said that). Perhaps she was prioritising his pleasure... "

It could be!!! For sure when he was pleasing him. That position must be done in line. Note for the future

Thanks for the technical assessment

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I thought penises only got into trouble when a woman was on top and maybe went down when she should have gone up and *crunch!*. I've never heard of a bloke having problems doggy style. Women however can find it painful when a young bloke insists on jackhammering, as doggy puts the cervix a bit lower. I know I find it more painful.

oh well, maybe the OP will learn a lesson from this - read the woman's body language and, if she has had enough after 5 minutes, realise that maybe you weren't doing it for her, and she was too polite so say so.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I thought penises only got into trouble when a woman was on top and maybe went down when she should have gone up and *crunch!*. I've never heard of a bloke having problems doggy style. Women however can find it painful when a young bloke insists on jackhammering, as doggy puts the cervix a bit lower. I know I find it more painful.

I got damaged in missionary last year. Trust me I know. Hopefully it was nothing bad. The most dangerous positions are

1) Girl on top (reverse cow especially)

2) Doggy

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

Maybe you missed a comment. They actually told they like to change partner when she is ready.

In reality I should be happy she cum after only 5 minutes. You are not offending at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My first club experience was with 'twisted kink'. Awesome experience. But my first rookie mistake was hanging my coat up with all the (smokers)dressing gowns. I got told 'best to put it in your locker'.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I got damaged in missionary last year. Trust me I know. Hopefully it was nothing bad. The most dangerous positions are

1) Girl on top (reverse cow especially)

2) Doggy"

Maybe you're doing something wrong.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

Sounds to me like she faked an orgasm to get you out of there.

That note function Fab provide is a wonderful thing.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

I got damaged in missionary last year. Trust me I know. Hopefully it was nothing bad. The most dangerous positions are

1) Girl on top (reverse cow especially)

2) Doggy

Maybe you're doing something wrong."

Surely not....he's an expert

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I got damaged in missionary last year. Trust me I know. Hopefully it was nothing bad. The most dangerous positions are

1) Girl on top (reverse cow especially)

2) Doggy

Maybe you're doing something wrong.

Surely not....he's an expert

With a long hard cock.

Apparently.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Sounds to me like she faked an orgasm to get you out of there.

That note function Fab provide is a wonderful thing."

Mmm could be. But she was painfully (for me) convulsing (and I was tryong to block her to avoid damage), moaning and everything was wet

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

And I saw them going inside woth other guys every now and then...always for a few minutes

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"And I saw them going inside woth other guys every now and then...always for a few minutes

Were you taking notes too?

I am afraid that us woman use clubs for our own pleasure. Maybe 5 mins per guy is what she wants. Its a shame you weren't satisfied but maybe next time you will read the situation better.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Surely not....he's an expert

With a long hard cock.

Apparently."

Good you are learning

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"And I saw them going inside woth other guys every now and then...always for a few minutes

Were you taking notes too?

I am afraid that us woman use clubs for our own pleasure. Maybe 5 mins per guy is what she wants. Its a shame you weren't satisfied but maybe next time you will read the situation better."

Yes she told me that!? The husband liked to watch her with different people.

Hope I will

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

I got damaged in missionary last year. Trust me I know. Hopefully it was nothing bad. The most dangerous positions are

1) Girl on top (reverse cow especially)

2) Doggy

Maybe you're doing something wrong."

Ehmmmm it is a urologist survey.....

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"And I saw them going inside woth other guys every now and then...always for a few minutes

Were you taking notes too?

I am afraid that us woman use clubs for our own pleasure. Maybe 5 mins per guy is what she wants. Its a shame you weren't satisfied but maybe next time you will read the situation better."

Doesn't seem so, does it. Ah well, now we know

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I got damaged in missionary last year. Trust me I know. Hopefully it was nothing bad. The most dangerous positions are

1) Girl on top (reverse cow especially)

2) Doggy

Maybe you're doing something wrong.

Ehmmmm it is a urologist survey.....

So you're taking the piss?

Oooookaaaayyy.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

I got damaged in missionary last year. Trust me I know. Hopefully it was nothing bad. The most dangerous positions are

1) Girl on top (reverse cow especially)

2) Doggy

Maybe you're doing something wrong.

Ehmmmm it is a urologist survey.....

So you're taking the piss?

Oooookaaaayyy."

Ahahah andrologist sorry...it is very late you know. Just search on internet darling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This thread is quite novel, single man moaning about getting laid at a club...who'd of thought.

Did she not outline her intent for a quick play at the start?

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"This thread is quite novel, single man moaning about getting laid at a club...who'd of thought.

Did she not outline her intent for a quick play at the start? "

Also maybe they are on fab but she didn't want you to know

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"This thread is quite novel, single man moaning about getting laid at a club...who'd of thought.

Did she not outline her intent for a quick play at the start? "

No she did not. I would have avoided them otherwise.

You know another thing that they could have upset her is that I did not want to be touched or have oral without condom.

Just thought about it

How can you do the ninja emoticon it is not here!?

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

Next time I will ask directly instead of the generic "what do you like to do?"...

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"This thread is quite novel, single man moaning about getting laid at a club...who'd of thought.

Did she not outline her intent for a quick play at the start?

No she did not. I would have avoided them otherwise.

You know another thing that they could have upset her is that I did not want to be touched or have oral without condom.

Just thought about it

How can you do the ninja emoticon it is not here!?

I could tell you but I'd have to kill you..

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"This thread is quite novel, single man moaning about getting laid at a club...who'd of thought.

Did she not outline her intent for a quick play at the start?

No she did not. I would have avoided them otherwise.

You know another thing that they could have upset her is that I did not want to be touched or have oral without condom.

Just thought about it

How can you do the ninja emoticon it is not here!?

You didn't want to be touched without a condom?? I'm intrigued now - touched in what way? As in her hand on your cock?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

It's a funny thread this one. I do like the authority sex education classes. Makes me giggle every time they are quoted.

To me it just sounds like you were a poor match. It happens not everyone has sex the same way. Some people are very rigid and will not Communicate or adapt.

Seems to be a case here.

Been to clubs a few times, only had sex for 5 mins once. Why. There was a lack of chemistry once the sex started. We were of course polite and said thanks that was good, but it does not mean we meant it.

I do hope you drop the book though, sex is more interesting without a manual. Go off road and try new things. don't assume you are the lead.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Sorry read that back and it sounds one sided.

Should have read

To me it just sounds like you were both a poor

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

"This thread is quite novel, single man moaning about getting laid at a club...who'd of thought.

Did she not outline her intent for a quick play at the start?

No she did not. I would have avoided them otherwise.

You know another thing that they could have upset her is that I did not want to be touched or have oral without condom.

Just thought about it

How can you do the ninja emoticon it is not here!?

The more little facts that come out make this more intriguing.

To me it sounds like, as you said, you thought you knew what was best. She didn't agree, faked an orgasam and moved onto the next one.

I've seen women do this in clubs it saves trying to explain to some know it all male relying on a large cock, that he's not go a clue. She probably did it to save your ego. And looks like she did a good job.

You weren't compaitable - move on to someone who wants to lie there and take it like you know they want it.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

Oh...it wasn't a dream...there really was someone younger than my children trying to teach me all about sex!!!

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

That sounds about right for clubs

I've played with many a guy and all they seem to want to do it cum as quick as possible so they can go and carry on looking round for their next shag

I find sex in clubs very unforfilling, its very rare guys in clubs give oral

I personally think what you experienced is about normal for club sex "

Perhaps you should try the northern clubs then. There are plenty of men who give B oral before fucking her and some who only want to give oral.

On the other hand there are some who only want oral.

Pretty much like vanilla life some do some don't.

We have always found that clubs cater for everyone but do not expect all boxes to be ticked every visit

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

No oral.

No fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have I been having sex wrong all these years, I like to move quite a bit during doggy. Especially doing little circles with my hips so it hits all the spots

With a long/hard penis it is impossible. You will damage it seriously...it is not a rubber dildo!? XD

If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead. "

This is a load of old rubbish.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"Have I been having sex wrong all these years, I like to move quite a bit during doggy. Especially doing little circles with my hips so it hits all the spots

With a long/hard penis it is impossible. You will damage it seriously...it is not a rubber dildo!? XD

If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead.

This is a load of old rubbish.

Yes...we all know this but it's been fun in places

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I could tell you but I'd have to kill you..

Ahahahah! I found the code as I quoted your comment!!

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Oh...it wasn't a dream...there really was someone younger than my children trying to teach me all about sex!!!

Maybe your children could give you some advice too

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead.

This is a load of old rubbish.

Do you have a penis?

PS: I will abuse the ninja emoticon. It's too funny!

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"Oh...it wasn't a dream...there really was someone younger than my children trying to teach me all about sex!!!

Maybe your children could give you some advice too

Absolutely no need....I don't need text books either

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

When you said you didn't want her to touch you without a condom what did you mean?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the penis is not fully in erection it is possible too but dangerous.

With short cocks it is possible instead.

This is a load of old rubbish.

Do you have a penis?

PS: I will abuse the ninja emoticon. It's too funny!"

No, oddly enough as a woman I don't have a non removable penis, but I've fucked a few, and wouldn't be interested in being told I can't move.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP no disrespect but have you considered that she thought you were a shit shag and rather than the potential awkwardness of just stopping faked an orgasm to cut things short?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

maybe the thing you should take "on the chin" is that it take 2 to have sex..... so blaming everything on the other person feels a bit of a kop out...

actually i take the "bit" back .... it is a kop out...

so if you knew it was bad sex at the time.... why did you don't say anything (god provided you with a set of lungs.... use them)

if something isn't going right... stop and change... do you want some sort of swinging medal for going thru with it!!! (oooh... the swinging award commendation for acts beyond the call of duty!!! cool... lets get the trumpets!!!!)

and yes "doable prey" has to be one the phrase that has made me cringe more in a long time than any other......

the thing about swinging clubs you may not realise... (but i bet you are about to) is that where they may not be on fab swingers... i am sure there are people at the club who will be able to piece this together, and it will get back to them... and then everyone will know.....

but heck... you got yours!!! right!!!!!

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"When you said you didn't want her to touch you without a condom what did you mean?"

That she touched my cock but I stopped her and put the condom on. I think she wanted to give me oral without together with her husband. She did not give oral with the condom at all...and she touched me with the condom only because I asked...

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

In sense she wanted to give oral without to me and her husband simultaneously

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"OP no disrespect but have you considered that she thought you were a shit shag and rather than the potential awkwardness of just stopping faked an orgasm to cut things short?"

Replied to the same question above. Impossible, and if that was the case 5min is not enough to judge.

Considering the TOTAL absence of foreplay on me...I have the right to say she was a very shit shag

...in reality I did not consider it even a shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP no disrespect but have you considered that she thought you were a shit shag and rather than the potential awkwardness of just stopping faked an orgasm to cut things short?

Replied to the same question above. Impossible, and if that was the case 5min is not enough to judge.

Considering the TOTAL absence of foreplay on me...I have the right to say she was a very shit shag

...in reality I did not consider it even a shag

Impossible? Are you really saying that it is impossible she could have thought you a shit shag?

And 5 minutes is plenty of time. You;d stopped her when she wanted to suck your's and her husband's cock simultaneously and then when she wanted to be spit roasted you tried to control her so it became all about you. That's what you yourself have stated. I'm surprised she gave you that long

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Impossible? Are you really saying that it is impossible she could have thought you a shit shag?

You misunderstood me. What I wanted to say was that she cum, trust me. Everything was wet and she was convulsing. She could have thought that yes. I cannot read minds. Still 5 min is nothing.

Not around me, around the health of my penis!?

Yes as said she wanted to do things I did not want, and she could not do the spit roasting appropriately. No talks no change in position no oral on me...what do you call it???

Why should have been it around her? I was not providing her a service

It should be a mutual fun

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

Being wet doesn't mean that she had cum and although I've never faked an orgasm it would be pretty easy to do.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Being wet doesn't mean that she had cum and although I've never faked an orgasm it would be pretty easy to do."

I said being wet and have uncontrolled convulsing (the painful part for me at the end when I said to stop)

I faked orgasms too believe or not.

Anyway I was asking for help. This turns out in a boring discussion trying to attack myself (usual in the fkrum as I see...)

There were a few helful comments though like:

1) she could not do the spit roasting (hurting myself) because we were not in line and she was trying to please her husband

2) no oral no fun...yes but she did not, I did not have the occasion...as she wanted to have sex with me...and then change and change partner

3) discuss more...totally agree, but they did not (see point 2)

4) she was upset as she could not do what she wanted

At the end the fault is mine. I need to trust less people and be more selective. The problem she was beautiful, sexy, nice and horny.

I should have declined because they asked me to have sex directly. The question is: would a single guy had declined in my situation???

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

Consider also it was my first time in a club. Now I know I have to avoid "fancy fuck my wife" direct requests!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me.

We have all heard about equal opportunities? That's fine, just seems some are more equal than others.

Hang on there love!!!!!

There may be some who have that attitude - but many don't!!

I've been swinging since Feb2014. Not as long as some, but long enough to be confident and experienced in the swinging world, and to have fulfilled many of my fantasies! Because of this, and because I am a nice person, when I take a guy or guys into a room when I know that they are new to swinging the first thing I ask them is what their fantasies are! If it's something that can be done with one woman and something that I feel comfortable doing then I will do everything I can to help them carry out their fantasy!

Could you please tell me how I am and how I am using men like a toy??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Impossible? Are you really saying that it is impossible she could have thought you a shit shag?

You misunderstood me. What I wanted to say was that she cum, trust me. Everything was wet and she was convulsing. She could have thought that yes. I cannot read minds. Still 5 min is nothing.

Not around me, around the health of my penis!?

Yes as said she wanted to do things I did not want, and she could not do the spit roasting appropriately. No talks no change in position no oral on me...what do you call it???

Why should have been it around her? I was not providing her a service

It should be a mutual fun"

It's interesting that you mention mutual fun. Because you don;t seem willing to acknowledge that were 2 other people involved and not once have you mentioned their enjoyment beyond expecting her to do what you wanted

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

It is the right thing to do Peach. Discuss and then go. I accepted to early. I feel like a whore XDXD

...now I am wondering... when I asked "what do you like to do?" They said like "just come"...I understood "come with them inside the room"

Maybe they meant "just cum".

Ahahahah this is funny

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"It's interesting that you mention mutual fun. Because you don;t seem willing to acknowledge that were 2 other people involved and not once have you mentioned their enjoyment beyond expecting her to do what you wanted"

useless comment. Explained above. She was hurting me.

Additionally no oral on me, no foreplay as I said I wanted to use condoms. No discussions. She wanted to have a quick shag, not even give her oral (which I would not have done as they were PROBABLY with another guy before...?)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me.

We have all heard about equal opportunities? That's fine, just seems some are more equal than others.

Hang on there love!!!!!

There may be some who have that attitude - but many don't!!

Could you please tell me how I am and how I am using men like a toy??

Well you are a better woman than me Peach. I'm the first to hold up my hand and say I am here for MY fantasies and no one else's. If that offends or doesn't fit with others plans then I will lose zero sleep over it. I think some men on here confuse swinging with services provided by Escorts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she thought you were out of sync with her movements?

Sex is like a dance

The man leads in doggy, the woman follows (or just stays still AS I ASKED!?). The penis is mine, the one who gets hurt is me.

We have all heard about equal opportunities? That's fine, just seems some are more equal than others.

Hang on there love!!!!!

There may be some who have that attitude - but many don't!!

Could you please tell me how I am and how I am using men like a toy??

No I appreciate what you're saying Hun - and there definitely has to be something in the mix that I enjoy! Other than my absolute adoration of penetration I'm essentially a pleasure giver though - so I gain pleasure by giving pleasure! Hence helping people fulfil fantasies makes me feel great too! I wouldn't do it if it didn't Hun!

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Well you are a better woman than me Peach. I'm the first to hold up my hand and say I am here for MY fantasies and no one else's. If that offends or doesn't fit with others plans then I will lose zero sleep over it. I think some men on here confuse swinging with services provided by Escorts. "

Ahahahah you clearly said that you want to use men as toys for your pleasure only. No mutual fun. I think you are confusing swinging with services provided by male escorts too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Impossible? Are you really saying that it is impossible she could have thought you a shit shag?

You misunderstood me. What I wanted to say was that she cum, trust me. Everything was wet and she was convulsing. She could have thought that yes. I cannot read minds. Still 5 min is nothing.

Not around me, around the health of my penis!?

Yes as said she wanted to do things I did not want, and she could not do the spit roasting appropriately. No talks no change in position no oral on me...what do you call it???

Why should have been it around her? I was not providing her a service

It should be a mutual fun"

She tried to give you oral. You stopped her. If your preference is for oral with a condom then that's your choice, but I won't give oral with them on it makes me gag.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

Ahahahah you clearly said that you want to use men as toys for your pleasure only. No mutual fun. I think you are confusing swinging with services provided by male escorts too

Exactly as you did with this woman...all I can see is that it was your rules and as she didn't comply you're bitching about it.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Exactly as you did with this woman...all I can see is that it was your rules and as she didn't comply you're bitching about it."

Not at all honey:

1) Avoiding a peni-cide is not "following my rules". It is common sense. It was really dangerous O.O you have no idea, she moved in all the directions apart from forward and backwards!?

2) Avoiding a foreplay on me with condom on is just bad

3) Avoiding a discussion is just bad

4) hooking up guys without the explanation of a quick shag is just bad

Girls, use male escorts for your pleasure only. Some of them are really good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly as you did with this woman...all I can see is that it was your rules and as she didn't comply you're bitching about it.

Not at all honey:

1) Avoiding a peni-cide is not "following my rules". It is common sense. It was really dangerous O.O you have no idea, she moved in all the directions apart from forward and backwards!?

2) Avoiding a foreplay on me with condom on is just bad

3) Avoiding a discussion is just bad

4) hooking up guys without the explanation of a quick shag is just bad

Girls, use male escorts for your pleasure only. Some of them are really good

Just because the 2 of you were not compatible doesn't make her a shit shag. All you are doing is coming across as patronising and whiney.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"She tried to give you oral. You stopped her. If your preference is for oral with a condom then that's your choice, but I won't give oral with them on it makes me gag."

Actually she tried to wank me. I stopped her to put the condom on. How many uncovered cocks did she touch/blow just before?

It is called safe sex. I like do oral without, but not in that conditions

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Just because the 2 of you were not compatible doesn't make her a shit shag. All you are doing is coming across as patronising and whiney."

Another useless post. I am complaining of the 5 min. It was a VERY quick shag (with a lot of troubles). She cum or anyway she enjoyed for a while. Then Stop. Up the next

A quick shag is by default a shit shag for me

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"She tried to give you oral. You stopped her. If your preference is for oral with a condom then that's your choice, but I won't give oral with them on it makes me gag.

Actually she tried to wank me. I stopped her to put the condom on. How many uncovered cocks did she touch/blow just before?

It is called safe sex. I like do oral without, but not in that conditions"

If your cock was in danger of some serious damage, why didn't you just leave? All you had to do was stand up and walk out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just because the 2 of you were not compatible doesn't make her a shit shag. All you are doing is coming across as patronising and whiney.

Another useless post. I am complaining of the 5 min. It was a VERY quick shag (with a lot of troubles). She cum or anyway she enjoyed for a while. Then Stop. Up the next

A quick shag is by default a shit shag for me"

You went to play without talking 1st. Why is it for them to look after you? Grow up, if you weren't happy with her waking you, and pulled away why would you then expect her to carry on trying to play with you? Most guys wouldn't put the condom on till ready to fuck. So you gave the impression you didn't want foreplay!

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"If your cock was in danger of some serious damage, why didn't you just leave? All you had to do was stand up and walk out. "

Well it is the behaviour here in swinging clubs I suppose. After 3 sec you are not good. Bye ahahah

I am used to please my partners and try to discuss what I can do for them.

But you are right. I am not providing a service. I am here for my pleasure only. I need to think like that. It will be hard to change though

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"If your cock was in danger of some serious damage, why didn't you just leave? All you had to do was stand up and walk out.

Well it is the behaviour here in swinging clubs I suppose. After 3 sec you are not good. Bye ahahah

I am used to please my partners and try to discuss what I can do for them.

But you are right. I am not providing a service. I am here for my pleasure only. I need to think like that. It will be hard to change though

No...I think you'll find it quite easy

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

I don't think anyone is going to convince op that he's anything other than a super stud.

Personally I think you have an awful lot to learn.

Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"You went to play without talking 1st. Why is it for them to look after you? Grow up, if you weren't happy with her waking you, and pulled away why would you then expect her to carry on trying to play with you? Most guys wouldn't put the condom on till ready to fuck. So you gave the impression you didn't want foreplay!

My fault. I had to talk more with them. I behaved like a slut

Well, they asked me to play with them.

Yes it could be but again it is called safe sex. Anyway I asked her after the condom was on. She did it very badly without any effort of any sort (no oral)

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

I always say I need the loo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahahahah you clearly said that you want to use men as toys for your pleasure only. No mutual fun. I think you are confusing swinging with services provided by male escorts too

I have been swinging on and off for 20 years. I don't need advice from a novice who has only just had his first disastrous club visit thanks.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I don't think anyone is going to convince op that he's anything other than a super stud.

Personally I think you have an awful lot to learn.

Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

Actually they convinced me of many mistakes I did (and she did). I need to learn how to behave in a club, with the people attending the club

I am not a stud. Studs have much LESS stamina than me

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"I have been swinging on and off for 20 years. I don't need advice from a novice who has only just had his first disastrous club visit thanks."

Try them to be more relaxed honey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been swinging on and off for 20 years. I don't need advice from a novice who has only just had his first disastrous club visit thanks.

Try them to be more relaxed honey

Bless you for thinking of my welfare but again your advice is really not needed.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

I always say I need the loo.

She did not say anything. They said they want to change partner after she rested a little. I said "well never had sex for 5min in my life, I did not even warm up". They did not like it maybe and went away.

Yes clearly incompatible shag. I was here to understand why...and I know why now (as explained above)

You people should relax and help newbies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been swinging on and off for 20 years. I don't need advice from a novice who has only just had his first disastrous club visit thanks.

Try them to be more relaxed honey

And the patronising honey again....

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"I have been swinging on and off for 20 years. I don't need advice from a novice who has only just had his first disastrous club visit thanks.

Try them to be more relaxed honey

And the patronising honey again....

I thought that was funny when he used it with me as its Paul posting now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thing is all this post has done is attract attention to the fact the OP might be a moany whiney shit shag. Doesn't look good on the olde fab CV.

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

"Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

I always say I need the loo.

Yes clearly incompatible shag. I was here to understand why...and I know why now (as explained above)

You people should relax and help newbies."

Behave like noob not a know all then...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met a couple at a party the other night. Kissing a gorgeous wife in front of her husband before playing together in the hall of the club was one of the most erotic experiences I've had. Can't get enough of clubs.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

I always say I need the loo.

Yes clearly incompatible shag. I was here to understand why...and I know why now (as explained above)

You people should relax and help newbies."
but you havent been asking advice as a newbie, you've come on shouting about some woman being crap at sex and your some kind of super stud, then the more the the thread went on it got stranger and whether the woman was crap or not you need to accept you were not faultless. You didn't do the most obvious thing which was open your mouth and discuss things.

I'm not sure what hour expectations of a club where but people go to have fun, they don't generally want to spend the whole night with one person and its not really an everyday occurance for a man not to let a woman touch his cock without a condom, maybe read up on club etiquette and lifestyle, use communication. Drop the I'm the best shag in the word text book attitude, stop teaching grandma's to suck eggs and you might start enjoying yourself

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You people should relax and help newbies."

Nobody helped me. Anyway, the only way to be successful is to be able to help yourself. You've had some decent advice on here but have flipped it off as you consider yourself a super shag who couldn't have done wrong. You probably didn't do anything wrong - she just wanted a lot of shags that night.

You need to move on, you really do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thing is all this post has done is attract attention to the fact the OP might be a moany whiney shit shag. Doesn't look good on the olde fab CV. "

This thought crossed my mind, can't imagine anyone reading this thread has thought that the OP is someone they must meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

I always say I need the loo.

Yes clearly incompatible shag. I was here to understand why...and I know why now (as explained above)

You people should relax and help newbies."

What part of your original post was seeking advice or seeking to understand why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thing is all this post has done is attract attention to the fact the OP might be a moany whiney shit shag. Doesn't look good on the olde fab CV.

This thought crossed my mind, can't imagine anyone reading this thread has thought that the OP is someone they must meet"

Not sure I would want to. Got no control over what direction my hips go after a riding accident. Not sure I would be compatible lol

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Thing is all this post has done is attract attention to the fact the OP might be a moany whiney shit shag. Doesn't look good on the olde fab CV. "

I have feedback left on other sites. My CV is safe thanks for your care x

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"You people should relax and help newbies.

You need to move on, you really do."

What I am trying to do now is to close this thread. My firat closed thread!?!?

Yes I know. I learnt something for sure. Say no to "fancy fuck my wife" requests

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

"Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

I always say I need the loo.

Not chloroform them.. ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh and the swinging community isn't that big, they might not be on fab but they might have friends that are, and from your description of the night it wouldn't take rocket science to work out who you where talking about

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Start with "faked orgasm lesson 1"

How to get rid of a incompatible shag and spare his feelings...

I always say I need the loo.

Not chloroform them.. ?

They frown on that it swinger clubs. That's for nights out.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Thing is all this post has done is attract attention to the fact the OP might be a moany whiney shit shag. Doesn't look good on the olde fab CV.

This thought crossed my mind, can't imagine anyone reading this thread has thought that the OP is someone they must meet

Not sure I would want to. Got no control over what direction my hips go after a riding accident. Not sure I would be compatible lol "

Not sure I will meet you. You are cheating on someone as clearly your profile says

Very good use of the ninja emoticon!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can I be cheating on someone who knows I'm on here because he is as well. I met him on here. Jeez some moany whiney shit shags on here today !!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"How can I be cheating on someone who knows I'm on here because he is as well. I met him on here. Jeez some moany whiney shit shags on here today !!! "
well he can't even read profiles o no wonder he can't communicate in person

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

One last shot in the foot to end op's thread...

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By *eonardoLove OP Man over a year ago

London

"Oh and the swinging community isn't that big, they might not be on fab but they might have friends that are, and from your description of the night it wouldn't take rocket science to work out who you where talking about"

Good let them know! I did not have fun AT ALL

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