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"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. " In all seriousness this is the right answer if it's not for you don't meet them the status of their relationship is not for you to comment on | |||
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"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " Could be that they are liers?! My ex husband use to say that to other women about us (found chat/dating sites he was on!) but we were still very active! | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? Could be that they are liers?! My ex husband use to say that to other women about us (found chat/dating sites he was on!) but we werre still very active! " Bet you where fumming  | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? Could be that they are liers?! My ex husband use to say that to other women about us (found chat/dating sites he was on!) but we werre still very active! Bet you where fumming "Heartbroken! It wasn't a healthy relationship from start to finish tbh. All different now. Got my sexy man who increased my confidence and shares my hornyness!  | |||
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"I promised my wife I would never leaver her. My word is my bond" Certainly hope you didn't say the bonded words "foresaking all others" in your vows then | |||
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"I promised my wife I would never leaver her. My word is my bond" did your wedding vows not promise to stay faithful to her? not having a go for you being on here but seems weird that your word is your bond one subject but not another | |||
"I promised my wife I would never leaver her. My word is my bond Certainly hope you didn't say the bonded words "foresaking all others" in your vows then" great minds  | |||
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"Am I missing something here OP. your ad says that you are only looking for attached men. ...so if they did all leave their wives that would mean that you wouldnt see them....... maybe they just stay with their wives in the hope that you will play with them lol im confusing myself now lol "I do like attached men less hassle but what i am saying is just be honest and say you love sex and want more not just makes excusses your in a sexless relationship all the guys on here surly cant be in sexless relationships | |||
"Am I missing something here OP. your ad says that you are only looking for attached men. ...so if they did all leave their wives that would mean that you wouldnt see them....... maybe they just stay with their wives in the hope that you will play with them lol im confusing myself now lol
I do like attached men less hassle but what i am saying is just be honest and say you love sex and want more not just makes excusses your in a sexless relationship all the guys on here surly cant be in sexless relationships "They don't 'all' say it which suggests it doesn't apply to lots of men. | |||
"Am I missing something here OP. your ad says that you are only looking for attached men. ...so if they did all leave their wives that would mean that you wouldnt see them....... maybe they just stay with their wives in the hope that you will play with them lol im confusing myself now lol
I do like attached men less hassle but what i am saying is just be honest and say you love sex and want more not just makes excusses your in a sexless relationship all the guys on here surly cant be in sexless relationships " | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. In all seriousness this is the right answer if it's not for you don't meet them the status of their relationship is not for you to comment on " | |||
"I promised my wife I would never leaver her. My word is my bond Certainly hope you didn't say the bonded words "foresaking all others" in your vows then" Hopefully none of the Swingers said it either. | |||
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"I promised my wife I would never leaver her. My word is my bond Certainly hope you didn't say the bonded words "foresaking all others" in your vows then Hopefully none of the Swingers said it either. "Very true | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " It's not just men though I was in a sex less relationship.. sex once in last 12 months and if we did it was on his terms just a wham bam roll on roll off that was it no feeling or emotion never kissed me in the 3 yrs we were together said he didn't like kissing was not a big fan of sex either.. used to moan like hell when I tried to get him in the mood lol I did tell him if things did not improve I would find it elsewhere.. and yes I did leave him.. | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " I suspect they're going for sympathy. It doesn't fly with us. We're on this site for our benefit only, not all these mysteriously unsatisfied husbands. See through it and only meet when you want to, Not because someone tried to twist your arm. | |||
"surely if you prefer to meet attached people, and that is certainly your perogative, you must be aware that they will usually be lying to their partners? so i don't really understand why you would be suprised that they are lying in other areas..surely that goes with the territory?" I don't go with that school of thought. Lying about one thing doesn't necessarily mean someone will lie about something else. Although everyone lies at some point in their life I don't assume a man lying to his wife will need to lie about anything to me. | |||
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"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people " this is exactly the situation in in now I have not had sex with my wife for 4 years she is just not interested yet as soon as I say I'm leaving the threats start about me never seeing my son again which would kill me I feel trapped she would carry out the threat too she would make out I'm some sort of violent partner yet I work for the NHS so it would not only have implications on my relationship with my son it could potentially cost me my job | |||
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"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people this is exactly the situation in in now I have not had sex with my wife for 4 years she is just not interested yet as soon as I say I'm leaving the threats start about me never seeing my son again which would kill me I feel trapped she would carry out the threat too she would make out I'm some sort of violent partner yet I work for the NHS so it would not only have implications on my relationship with my son it could potentially cost me my job" most courts now at the very least, would even allow proven abusive partners supervised visitation rights at public children centres with social workers present so it's an empty threat nowadays. In fact in most situations where these threats are made the courts write them of as the bitter ex out for revenge, that's if it gets to the court stages it's a massively long process before that stage most don't wanna jump through all the hoops to get the court order they need to stop you seeing that child, without a court order there's sweet fuck all she can do about it | |||
"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people this is exactly the situation in in now I have not had sex with my wife for 4 years she is just not interested yet as soon as I say I'm leaving the threats start about me never seeing my son again which would kill me I feel trapped she would carry out the threat too she would make out I'm some sort of violent partner yet I work for the NHS so it would not only have implications on my relationship with my son it could potentially cost me my job most courts now at the very least, would even allow proven abusive partners supervised visitation rights at public children centres with social workers present so it's an empty threat nowadays. In fact in most situations where these threats are made the courts write them of as the bitter ex out for revenge, that's if it gets to the court stages it's a massively long process before that stage most don't wanna jump through all the hoops to get the court order they need to stop you seeing that child, without a court order there's sweet fuck all she can do about it" Your job can't be effected either unless your convicted of a serious violent crime and even then it hasn't occurred within working hourstheres not much they can do and if it could have an effect they have disaplinay processes to follow that are long winded and rarely end up in you being let go | |||
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"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " Because they don't want to, it really is as simple as that. If their situation doesn't suit you move on to the next | |||
"Exactly i dont understand the " im happy with my relationship but dont get any sex an i love my partner etc wife i question it, you wouldn't cheat if you loved your partner this is why i stay single, an a lot hapier, have a nice job, go out with friends, an i find i dont need a bf So hence i do the nsa type relationship i cant commit again. .an nsa is so simple no complications "I tend to question that too but that's due to personal experience, before my ex hubby left me for the women's it turns out he was having an affair with I spent 3 years in a sexless marriage, never strayed once, even though I had the opportunity, on more than one occasion and why? Answers simple because I loved my husband, but hey that's just me | |||
"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people this is exactly the situation in in now I have not had sex with my wife for 4 years she is just not interested yet as soon as I say I'm leaving the threats start about me never seeing my son again which would kill me I feel trapped she would carry out the threat too she would make out I'm some sort of violent partner yet I work for the NHS so it would not only have implications on my relationship with my son it could potentially cost me my job most courts now at the very least, would even allow proven abusive partners supervised visitation rights at public children centres with social workers present so it's an empty threat nowadays. In fact in most situations where these threats are made the courts write them of as the bitter ex out for revenge, that's if it gets to the court stages it's a massively long process before that stage most don't wanna jump through all the hoops to get the court order they need to stop you seeing that child, without a court order there's sweet fuck all she can do about it Your job can't be effected either unless your convicted of a serious violent crime and even then it hasn't occurred within working hourstheres not much they can do and if it could have an effect they have disaplinay processes to follow that are long winded and rarely end up in you being let go " I did get done for assault I beat up my partners ex when he threatened her with a knife little prick had me arrested I did pass my CRB for work though the assault charge did take some explaining.Its just the horrible little threats I get sounds silly I know but in the heat of the moment they make you think is splitting worth the hassle that would follow and its going to be horrible for my son to go through | |||
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"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people this is exactly the situation in in now I have not had sex with my wife for 4 years she is just not interested yet as soon as I say I'm leaving the threats start about me never seeing my son again which would kill me I feel trapped she would carry out the threat too she would make out I'm some sort of violent partner yet I work for the NHS so it would not only have implications on my relationship with my son it could potentially cost me my job Even so your CRB passed they accepted it proves my point it takes a lot for it to have an effect I respect you considering your sons feelings but if she was being vindictive in the way you say, your son while soon see where he's better off, even my two year old twins show understanding of that in my current separated situation never underestimate how understanding kids are, sometimes they perceive more than we adults do and certainly more than we give them credit for most courts now at the very least, would even allow proven abusive partners supervised visitation rights at public children centres with social workers present so it's an empty threat nowadays. In fact in most situations where these threats are made the courts write them of as the bitter ex out for revenge, that's if it gets to the court stages it's a massively long process before that stage most don't wanna jump through all the hoops to get the court order they need to stop you seeing that child, without a court order there's sweet fuck all she can do about it Your job can't be effected either unless your convicted of a serious violent crime and even then it hasn't occurred within working hourstheres not much they can do and if it could have an effect they have disaplinay processes to follow that are long winded and rarely end up in you being let go I did get done for assault I beat up my partners ex when he threatened her with a knife little prick had me arrested I did pass my CRB for work though the assault charge did take some explaining.Its just the horrible little threats I get sounds silly I know but in the heat of the moment they make you think is splitting worth the hassle that would follow and its going to be horrible for my son to go through"  | |||
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"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people "
And, some do genuinely love their wives / girlfriends but do want physical intimacy from else where which they cannot find with them
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"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " ££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££ | |||
"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people " This. Thankyou x | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " Kids Security Can't afford it. | |||
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"Me and my ex stayed together for 2 years after we split up. Our kids were babies, we had no money so neither of us could leave the home. I respected the fact that i lived with him and didn't try to meet anyone else, although that was really hard and it made depressed having to put my life on hold because of poverty and being stuck in a situation none of us wanted. Some guys lie and are getting sex but it's shit sex, or even they're getting good sex and are greedy." | |||
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"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. " They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! " It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! " I don't agree with cheating it's why I won't meet people that do but I wouldn't go around dictating who can and can't use fab | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here." When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes!" You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. " I have the right to my opinion and in this instance im right. Ask any victim of a cheat. Simply put cheaters ruin it for the genuine singles. | |||
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"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. " Lol you won't meet married men yourself and yet here you are sticking up for them. Oh the hypocrisy | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. Lol you won't meet married men yourself and yet here you are sticking up for them. Oh the hypocrisy "There are married women on here too. You're missing my point. I'm saying its nobody else's business why married people are on here. I and you just have the choice whether to meet them or not. It's not for me to say they shouldn't be on here. | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. Lol you won't meet married men yourself and yet here you are sticking up for them. Oh the hypocrisy "No-one is 'sticking up' for fabbers who cheat. I was in a dead 8 year relationship and although I didn't cheat I needed affection and intimacy. I'm sorry if you were cheated on but here is not the place to vent and be impolite at people who are simply giving their opinons | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. I have the right to my opinion and in this instance im right. Ask any victim of a cheat. Simply put cheaters ruin it for the genuine singles." Well I've been cheated on it was a full blown 3 year affair infact yes the pain was awful but I'm still not dictating their right to be on this or similar site, their life, their choice, their consequences to face | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. I have the right to my opinion and in this instance im right. Ask any victim of a cheat. Simply put cheaters ruin it for the genuine singles." How do they ruin it? And btw whilst you're entitled to an opinion you're not necessarily right in all circumstances. | |||
"Relationships are complicated. Best not to question,give a polite no thank you and walk away. They simply shouldn't be on here so why should we be polite when they're trying to use us to help disrespect their partner?? No excuse for cheating! It's not for you to say they shouldn't be on here. When they send me messages repeated messages or not trying to get me to help them cheat then yes I have got the right. Let's hope you never get cheated on then you'll never know the true extent of the pain it causes! You have the right to block them & not meet them. But that is all. I have the right to my opinion and in this instance im right. Ask any victim of a cheat. Simply put cheaters ruin it for the genuine singles." How do they ruin it for genuine singles? | |||
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"I don't engage in conversations with married men to ask why they are cheating. There's no need to if you don't meet married men. " This is my point of view example exactly | |||
"It's rarely so black and white. Lots of other people / outcomes to consider. I was celibate for the last 8 years of my marriage but during that time splitting wasn't an option. I started seeing someone once we began divorce proceedings. Since then I've met various married / attached guys and don't judge, its their life and their choice." | |||
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"Well one thing I will say is I am a woman and I'm friends with many women from all walks of life I have yet to meet a women that's actually ever gone off sex, they do however always have a reason for "going off sex" " You've never met one with thyroid problems then | |||
"Well one thing I will say is I am a woman and I'm friends with many women from all walks of life I have yet to meet a women that's actually ever gone off sex, they do however always have a reason for "going off sex" You've never met one with thyroid problems then" I have and I have thyroid issues myself | |||
"Lestud. Your story echos something I know of. The beginning bit anyway. I will never judge, I won't even give advice. When somebody's married and still very much in love, it's very hard to choose to leave because of lack of sex. It's seems so selfish. 'You won't have sex! I'm leaving!' Mmm. You need to ask why you chose to marry. lots of different reasons for different people I suppose. " | |||
"Well one thing I will say is I am a woman and I'm friends with many women from all walks of life I have yet to meet a women that's actually ever gone off sex, they do however always have a reason for "going off sex" You've never met one with thyroid problems then Well sex was the last thing on my ex's mind, maybe it affects people differently. Good luck with yours btw x I have and I have thyroid issues myself " | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " its not always as easy, my last relationship lasted 9 years, 6 of which were sexless, due to my partner being attacked and raped, which as you can imagine caused a lot of issues, physically and mentally. So would it have been right to just leave her in the wake of such an attack, just because i wasn't getting sex? | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? its not always as easy, my last relationship lasted 9 years, 6 of which were sexless, due to my partner being attacked and raped, which as you can imagine caused a lot of issues, physically and mentally. So would it have been right to just leave her in the wake of such an attack, just because i wasn't getting sex?" Some people have a very simplistic view of situations with strongly defined boundaries and don't often consider all the aspects - mainly because they don't know them,and can't know them, so they base a belief and point of view of what information they have to hand plus their own experiences, prejudices and judgements. What you have to remember though, is that point of view is right for them. If someone has a very strongly held belief is almost pointless trying to change their mind no matter how justifiable you believe the action is.  | |||
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"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? its not always as easy, my last relationship lasted 9 years, 6 of which were sexless, due to my partner being attacked and raped, which as you can imagine caused a lot of issues, physically and mentally. So would it have been right to just leave her in the wake of such an attack, just because i wasn't getting sex?" The thing in this you need to realise (as with all cheats) is that you need to accept that part of taking responsibility for your actions is facing the judgement of others, while you think your being the stand up guy by staying with her and just getting sex elsewhere, some will agree, others (especially in a situation as delicate as this) are still going to label you a prick for it it's one of the consequences if you can't accept that then don't cheat in the first place | |||
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"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " Because of Love | |||
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"Lestud. Your story echos something I know of. The beginning bit anyway. I will never judge, I won't even give advice. When somebody's married and still very much in love, it's very hard to choose to leave because of lack of sex. It's seems so selfish. 'You won't have sex! I'm leaving!' Mmm. You need to ask why you chose to marry. lots of different reasons for different people I suppose. " However there are men that do that just to get sex from their wives | |||
"Well one thing I will say is I am a woman and I'm friends with many women from all walks of life I have yet to meet a women that's actually ever gone off sex, they do however always have a reason for "going off sex" " I'd love to know where you get your comment 'always' from as my friend is in a loveless marriage and cheats because now they have a child, his wife has what she wants and doesn't want him anymore | |||
"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " Because it's too easy for women to stop us seeing our kids Simples | |||
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"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " Because not all relationships are based on sex, family commitments might be the reason they are still together...then again they could just be lying scumbags | |||
"loads of reasons shared mortgage, maybe they can't afford to run two homes kids, many woman use kids as a weapon when men want to leave the list is endless it's really not that easy to up sticks and leave for many people " Or....IMHO they are lying are actually just looking to cheat and have a bit on the side. Seems to be a lot on the site just now. Hence clearly stated on my profile....no married/attached men | |||
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"Why when men message you are they always in a sexless marriage or relationship why dont they just leave then? " OP, if you would leave a spouse and maybe children simply because you are not having sex; then i presume, whatever the other unpalatible aspects of their personality, you would marry anyone simply for sex? That is a very interesting point of view. As they say on Fab, "personal preference". | |||
"Exactly i dont understand the " im happy with my relationship but dont get any sex an i love my partner etc wife i question it, you wouldn't cheat if you loved your partner this is why i stay single, an a lot hapier, have a nice job, go out with friends, an i find i dont need a bf So hence i do the nsa type relationship i cant commit again. .an nsa is so simple no complications
I tend to question that too but that's due to personal experience, before my ex hubby left me for the women's it turns out he was having an affair with I spent 3 years in a sexless marriage, never strayed once, even though I had the opportunity, on more than one occasion and why? Answers simple because I loved my husband, but hey that's just me "...even though you had the opportunity? What? Stiff sausages were laid out infront of you every Monday morning? | |||
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"Exactly i dont understand the " im happy with my relationship but dont get any sex an i love my partner etc wife i question it, you wouldn't cheat if you loved your partner this is why i stay single, an a lot hapier, have a nice job, go out with friends, an i find i dont need a bf So hence i do the nsa type relationship i cant commit again. .an nsa is so simple no complications
I tend to question that too but that's due to personal experience, before my ex hubby left me for the women's it turns out he was having an affair with I spent 3 years in a sexless marriage, never strayed once, even though I had the opportunity, on more than one occasion and why? Answers simple because I loved my husband, but hey that's just me
...even though you had the opportunity?
What? Stiff sausages were laid out infront of you every Monday morning? "No nothing like that but there were men I could have pulled on nights out etc even a work mate made it clear he wanted me but I still never did, I had a vibrator for sexual relief, choose to believe that or not don't give a toss I know the truth for myself that's the important aspect | |||
"I was in a no sex relationship as wife was dyeing with cancer I chose too stay till the end as a career "So sorry to hear that xx | |||
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"I was married for 20 years and loved her to bits, I wanted to be with her forever. We rarely had sex and it wasn't for the want of trying, I wined and dined, bought flowers,little presents, expensive presents,I tried everything, I tried to get her to talk, but she wouldn't, I asked her if it was me but she said no. Everything else in the relationship was fantastic.Great home great kids she had a great job I had my own company. Just no sex, so I looked elsewhere, not proud of it even now, But it was just sex and nothing else. Lo and behold I found out she was having an affair been with him for 3 weeks when I found out, I tried everything to save that marriage but she wouldn't listen to anything. So we divorced and the pain was terrible I lost 6 stone in 3 months (which was good) it wasn't very amicable and she was quite nasty,when the divorce came through I sent her a letter saying that she wasn't the person I knew and loved anymore, that person was dead to me, I told her that if I ever saw her again I would blank her, she was dead to me. I didn't speak to her for 7 years, and I did blank her if I saw her. Then one day 5 months before my eldest sons graduation I saw her in town, again I blanked her but as I walked past her I thought about my sons graduation and decided it wouldn't be fair to him,so I called her name she stopped and we chatted,we went to a coffee shop and talked about my sons upcoming graduation and as we talked she started to cry.... then she said sorry, sorry for everything sorry for not being able to talk to me, sorry that she spoiled everything. And she still loved me....... I know I was never perfect but I was a good husband,father,provider and didn't deserve the way it all ended it's like you whole life has been torn away. The guy she left me for abused her mainly mentally, she couldn't see her friends,had to walk with her head down, was made to feel cheap.other shit just not nice. We talk now and again and have had another graduation day. It is to late for us now,but I still love her. So before any people judge about men or women playing away just be careful as you will never know all the reasons why this happens. This is a site for swinging not to judge people for the decisions they make in life. yes we can all have opinions but remember that's all they are opinions. It's horrible for done to confess that but there's no.going back Love and peace xx " | |||
