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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I see this phrase a lot on the forums and really wonder if it's true? Does being in a club allow you to relinquish responsibility for your own safety and if something did go wrong, who would you blame?
I've always preferred private meets and have never felt unsafe when playing as a single fem.
I'm aware there are horror stories for both private and club meets, so what is it about clubs that makes you feel safer? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see this phrase a lot on the forums and really wonder if it's true? Does being in a club allow you to relinquish responsibility for your own safety and if something did go wrong, who would you blame?
I've always preferred private meets and have never felt unsafe when playing as a single fem.
I'm aware there are horror stories for both private and club meets, so what is it about clubs that makes you feel safer?"
it's a myth started by the clubs to get more members if anything it's less safe they can follow you home after  |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"I see this phrase a lot on the forums and really wonder if it's true? Does being in a club allow you to relinquish responsibility for your own safety and if something did go wrong, who would you blame?
I've always preferred private meets and have never felt unsafe when playing as a single fem.
I'm aware there are horror stories for both private and club meets, so what is it about clubs that makes you feel safer?"
We have been swinging in clubs (and pretty much always in clubs) for three years and never had a bad experience. It's safer in the sense that everyone is a member and can be traced and there are always plenty of people around to help should something turn nasty, but the real advantages are that you have an opportunity of seeing and talking to potential playmates before you commit, there is never any embarrassment in saying "no thanks", there is never the irritation of a no show, and you can play in private or have an audience if that turns you on.
We have always had a great, and varied time doing things that, judging by other forum threads, are pretty difficult to arrange through fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I will not meet at home and I actually wouldn't risk meeting outside of a club if I was a single..
Clubs are much safer in my view. People know I'm there and even when we as a couple have got a little rough in a club, we have had people ask if we ( ok me) was okay.
I don't meet one on one anyway..but if I did it would still be at a club as the few times Ive tried I've been more nervous than excited x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see this phrase a lot on the forums and really wonder if it's true? Does being in a club allow you to relinquish responsibility for your own safety and if something did go wrong, who would you blame?
I've always preferred private meets and have never felt unsafe when playing as a single fem.
I'm aware there are horror stories for both private and club meets, so what is it about clubs that makes you feel safer?
We have been swinging in clubs (and pretty much always in clubs) for three years and never had a bad experience. It's safer in the sense that everyone is a member and can be traced and there are always plenty of people around to help should something turn nasty, but the real advantages are that you have an opportunity of seeing and talking to potential playmates before you commit, there is never any embarrassment in saying "no thanks", there is never the irritation of a no show, and you can play in private or have an audience if that turns you on.
We have always had a great, and varied time doing things that, judging by other forum threads, are pretty difficult to arrange through fab."
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"Well I will not meet at home and I actually wouldn't risk meeting outside of a club if I was a single..
Clubs are much safer in my view. People know I'm there and even when we as a couple have got a little rough in a club, we have had people ask if we ( ok me) was okay.
I don't meet one on one anyway..but if I did it would still be at a club as the few times Ive tried I've been more nervous than excited x "
is this the female speaking, if so can I ask what made you change your mind as you always met at home was it a bad experience?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I will not meet at home and I actually wouldn't risk meeting outside of a club if I was a single..
Clubs are much safer in my view. People know I'm there and even when we as a couple have got a little rough in a club, we have had people ask if we ( ok me) was okay.
I don't meet one on one anyway..but if I did it would still be at a club as the few times Ive tried I've been more nervous than excited x is this the female speaking, if so can I ask what made you change your mind as you always met at home was it a bad experience?
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Think you May have me mistaken with someone else as I have mostly met in clubs for many years now. And although I did used to meet at home on occasion it wasn't ever alone or one on one.
If I'm honest it was a guy I'd not met and a change in circumstances and the fact that the gent I now am on here with helped me gain control of my addiction and put my family above my own needs and gain some respect for myself.
I have however always avoided intimacy with meets in the most case... I adore it with someone I trust but not with a meet and i am happier in a club where I can just walk away |
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I've read a couple of accounts on here from women who have had men penetrate them without permission in clubs I recall one woman was particularly upset because she only wanted her husband to do that. I also read of a case where a woman was raped in a club. There are numerous accounts of women and men being groped without permission in clubs too. So no I don't think clubs are safer. |
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I always feel safer in clubs. Have felt pressured at a few socials and it is so much easier to say no thanks after you have met someone in a club. On the one occasion a guy tried to push it (said no thanks 4 times and he still grabbed me) the staff quickly and efficiently dealt with it. If I was alone I would have been overpowered. Also doesn't matter if a guy is a no show as there will be others to chat or play with so not a wasted night |
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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago
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If you knew it was non consensual why did you not stop it happening ? Why did she not make it clear that she did not want it to happen ? Why did other clients or staff at the club not step in ?
This would not happen at a friendly Club like Atlantis Evolution where the customers look out for each other ? As long as the lady makes it clear that she is saying no then others will step in?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Taxi straight home is difficult to follow.
Lots of people in the club to make sure you are safe in the club and that you get into your taxi or car safely.
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Surely it's up to the individual to make sure they're safe in any situation instead of relying on others and that includes getting into a taxi. I've had more hassle at clubs than I've ever had with private meets, hence asking the question. |
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"I see this phrase a lot on the forums and really wonder if it's true? Does being in a club allow you to relinquish responsibility for your own safety and if something did go wrong, who would you blame?
I've always preferred private meets and have never felt unsafe when playing as a single fem.
I'm aware there are horror stories for both private and club meets, so what is it about clubs that makes you feel safer?
We have been swinging in clubs (and pretty much always in clubs) for three years and never had a bad experience. It's safer in the sense that everyone is a member and can be traced and there are always plenty of people around to help should something turn nasty, but the real advantages are that you have an opportunity of seeing and talking to potential playmates before you commit, there is never any embarrassment in saying "no thanks", there is never the irritation of a no show, and you can play in private or have an audience if that turns you on.
We have always had a great, and varied time doing things that, judging by other forum threads, are pretty difficult to arrange through fab."
Totally agree...works for us too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the hassle, example me and the ex had a situation where a group of single guys descended on us and where pushing and pulling her to service them pushing me out the way. But then we had a private meet at someone's house which both felt pressured into playing with a couple neither of us liked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Taxi straight home is difficult to follow.
Lots of people in the club to make sure you are safe in the club and that you get into your taxi or car safely.
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Ready to become one of the huge number of women sexually assulted by taxi drivers?
One thing about a Club though most people will deny being there will not be a witness in court for you and many victims would not feel comfortable going to the police and exposing what they do to the world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a personal point of view I think it's more to do with the type of club you attend. Some of you have had bad experiences and some of you have had good ones. Were these at the same clubs? I've been to clubs where you dare not act up. If the owners don't have you out on your ear, the actual clientele inside wouldn't want to play so good behaviour is a necessity |
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The two occasions I've felt uncomfortable was in a club with my other half there! One guy was with his partner and kept touching me and offering me his phone number. The other a group of single men kept badgering me.
I could deal with them no problem, but I've never encountered any problems when I met one on one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From a personal point of view I think it's more to do with the type of club you attend. Some of you have had bad experiences and some of you have had good ones. Were these at the same clubs? I've been to clubs where you dare not act up. If the owners don't have you out on your ear, the actual clientele inside wouldn't want to play so good behaviour is a necessity "
I agree with this. Some clubs really aren't bothered if people cause trouble as long as they get their money. Other clubs really do care about their customers.
Also it depends on your own state of mind. I used to feel intimidated but something changed for me a few months ago and now my outlook is different and I feel different too. I've had no problems since, quite the opposite in fact.  |
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Through another site 10 years ago and one of my earliest meets I did a one on one at a guys house. Despite safe sex being agreed in advance he kept trying to bareback me and got rough. As a petite woman in a strange mans house it was a very dodgy situation. He went on to stalk me online under various profiles for 18 months. Never again!
Club meet only for me until I know someone well enough to take it private. Plus it saves on no shows, time wasters and people you don't connect with so can politely decline and move on.
And if any single guys out there wonder why and get pissed off at us ladies that we insist on club meets, please just maybe think what we've been through to be so 'demanding' as you see it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've read a couple of accounts on here from women who have had men penetrate them without permission in clubs I recall one woman was particularly upset because she only wanted her husband to do that. I also read of a case where a woman was raped in a club. There are numerous accounts of women and men being groped without permission in clubs too. So no I don't think clubs are safer."
I had a bad experience once in a club where a guy tried to penetrate me not just once but twice. Cheeky twat didn't even have a condom on.
I've been meeting on here for 4 years and never had any bad meets, definitely don't feel any safer in a club. At least when I meet guys outside a club I chat and get to know them a bit first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you knew it was non consensual why did you not stop it happening ? Why did she not make it clear that she did not want it to happen ? Why did other clients or staff at the club not step in ?
This would not happen at a friendly Club like Atlantis Evolution where the customers look out for each other ? As long as the lady makes it clear that she is saying no then others will step in?
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Guys need to realise that just because it's a greedy girl night they still need permission before fucking a woman who is concentrating on giving someone else head. It's a mistake we, and he won't be making again. It could happen at any club with multiple people playing. No matter how "friendly" you think it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some of the issues put on this thread about guys in the clubs could be from the group of men you get in every club who aren't on the scene but know a sex club is there and they think (wrongly) that it's a free for all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some of the issues put on this thread about guys in the clubs could be from the group of men you get in every club who aren't on the scene but know a sex club is there and they think (wrongly) that it's a free for all"
In our case he was part of a couple so there fore thought it would be ok.. |
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