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Married, why do people lie on this site!
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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The reason I don't say it on my profile is because I've met a lot of women that say they don't meet married men but in reality they are prepared to make exceptions. I always tell them if they ask though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I don't say it on my profile is because I've met a lot of women that say they don't meet married men but in reality they are prepared to make exceptions. I always tell them if they ask though. "
We call this a lie by exception. Each to their own though. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"Don't get it!!"
Lie - to whom; their partners or Fab members? Whilst (like you) I'm honest on my profile, I'm still deceiving my wife - so no claims of being honest from me and no attempt at an explanation as to why I'm doing what I do either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious. |
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious."
I'm guessing they like sex more than their partner does?
(I actually was a rocket scientist in my sandwich year  )
Mrs ddc likes Downton Abbey more than me, but it's not worth falling out over.
(Eastenders on the other hand...  )
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"What's the question?"
I was answering "why cheat?", but looking back it could equally have been "why not leave your partner?"
I'm starting to hope no-one ever presses the button for those rockets I designed...  |
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"It's fairly obvious. Isn't it?"
this..
like anyone who has ever been to a discotheque and been the only tractor sales person amongst the pilots, deep sea divers and astronauts..
dipping ones wick i think the term was.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people get a buzz from cheating, and the lying around it.
Some people don't wanna leave their partner but want sex with someone else.
That's about it. |
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"It's fairly obvious. Isn't it?
this..
like anyone who has ever been to a discotheque and been the only tractor sales person amongst the pilots, deep sea divers and astronauts..
dipping ones wick i think the term was.. "
Been to a discotheque  Blimey that's made me all nostalgic  . The first one I went to I was 14 and yes, I lied and told a boy I was 16 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's fairly obvious. Isn't it?
this..
like anyone who has ever been to a discotheque and been the only tractor sales person amongst the pilots, deep sea divers and astronauts..
dipping ones wick i think the term was..
Been to a discotheque Blimey that's made me all nostalgic . The first one I went to I was 14 and yes, I lied and told a boy I was 16 "
I was thinking the same thing! It brought back memories of disco balls and rainbow,swirly lights on the walls. I don't remember lying to anyone but I was shy and didn't speak to anyone. I started lying about my age when you was 14 to get into over 18 clubs. |
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"The reason I don't say it on my profile is because I've met a lot of women that say they don't meet married men but in reality they are prepared to make exceptions. I always tell them if they ask though.
We call this a lie by exception. Each to their own though."
Yeah and that would really piss me off if you didn't tell me from the outset. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Easiest way to check is if they accommodate. Yeah some guys might share accommodation but still can go there for a cuppa n retire to a hotel later. Not interested in helping a guy cheat on his Mrs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reason I don't say it on my profile is because I've met a lot of women that say they don't meet married men but in reality they are prepared to make exceptions. I always tell them if they ask though.
We call this a lie by exception. Each to their own though."
Yep me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Easiest way to check is if they accommodate. Yeah some guys might share accommodation but still can go there for a cuppa n retire to a hotel later. Not interested in helping a guy cheat on his Mrs!"
I'm not married but I don't accommodate. Not everyone who can't accommodate is cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Easiest way to check is if they accommodate. Yeah some guys might share accommodation but still can go there for a cuppa n retire to a hotel later. Not interested in helping a guy cheat on his Mrs!"
I'm not married but don't accommodate I live between my dad's and my mates so can't really invite people round and wouldn't anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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most people lie on this site about their status because they can.
Quite a lot of them get away with it as well.
When you go to a club for fun and you meet single guys do you ask if they are married/attached I would say most don't.
There are lots of men and women on Fab that are married so just deal with it.
As for so called single not being able to accommodate and are therefore married !!!! I am single got divorce papers to prove it and I don't accommodate, I have my son his girlfriend and yes my elderly mother as well all living with me.
Sometimes it's easier to take people on face value and then if you find they have lied to you deal with it then.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok, so im married, it says so on my profile, and I also wear my wedding ring whilst out at my favourite club.
If I was asked why I dont bring the wife with me, they would get an honest answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people get a buzz from cheating, and the lying around it.
Some people don't wanna leave their partner but want sex with someone else.
That's about it."
Sums it up nicely, I get great sex at home but missus is not interested in sharing. |
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"They are not lying if they 'don't tell you' however to be asked and deny it..
Which is worse? Not admitting to it or just omitting it?"
I omit but admit when asked..nothing to hide. Only had one person give me a soapbox message lecture (so far) |
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"The reason I don't say it on my profile is because I've met a lot of women that say they don't meet married men but in reality they are prepared to make exceptions. I always tell them if they ask though.
We call this a lie by exception. Each to their own though.
Yeah and that would really piss me off if you didn't tell me from the outset. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious."
certain situations are hard my wife went off sex 4 years ago no matter what I try and do she is not interested but if I left her she would cut all contact with my son which she has threatened me with so what am I supposed to do I have urges like any normal person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't get it!!"
I'm actually a genuine single man, no girlfriend, no wife, I live alone. From what people have told me I'm in the minority and I'm not sure most people believe me anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious."
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious.certain situations are hard my wife went off sex 4 years ago no matter what I try and do she is not interested but if I left her she would cut all contact with my son which she has threatened me with so what am I supposed to do I have urges like any
normal person "
At least have the decency and respect for other people by letting them know. Then it's their decision to be part of your deceit or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious.
certain situations are hard my wife went off sex 4 years ago no matter what I try and do she is not interested but if I left her she would cut all contact with my son which she has threatened me with so what am I supposed to do I have urges like any normal person "
You not feel the need to do something about this? You're in an abusive and controlling relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious.certain situations are hard my wife went off sex 4 years ago no matter what I try and do she is not interested but if I left her she would cut all contact with my son which she has threatened me with so what am I supposed to do I have urges like any
normal person
At least have the decency and respect for other people by letting them know. Then it's their decision to be part of your deceit or not. "
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious.certain situations are hard my wife went off sex 4 years ago no matter what I try and do she is not interested but if I left her she would cut all contact with my son which she has threatened me with so what am I supposed to do I have urges like any
normal person
At least have the decency and respect for other people by letting them know. Then it's their decision to be part of your deceit or not. I do "
Good,that's all I want from people,total honesty. I'm aware I probably don't get it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many reasons I'm sure, one possibly being the abuse they get on here from some I'd imagine. I prefer people to be honest about it as I want no part of playing with someone else's partner but some of the abuse I've seem married people get on here is unreal. Its no one else's business why any of us are on here but it would be nice if married/attached people could say they are for fear of not being abused for it so others can make an informed decision. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the question is why do people lie on here I'd say it's twofold: to keep their options open to prevent them being excluded from consideration by those who won't meet married people (which I disagree with); or to avoid abusive messages about it. I can completely understand that basis, and it's frankly the reason why my normally open profile is currently hidden and filters are up because I got sick of the unsolicited "advice" from people who disagree with the presence of married people on the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the question is why do people lie on here I'd say it's twofold: to keep their options open to prevent them being excluded from consideration by those who won't meet married people (which I disagree with); or to avoid abusive messages about it. I can completely understand that basis, and it's frankly the reason why my normally open profile is currently hidden and filters are up because I got sick of the unsolicited "advice" from people who disagree with the presence of married people on the site."
Hope you report abusive messages.
Best to just smile and delete. |
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"Don't get it!!
Lie - to whom; their partners or Fab members? Whilst (like you) I'm honest on my profile, I'm still deceiving my wife - so no claims of being honest from me and no attempt at an explanation as to why I'm doing what I do either."
likewise |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"If the question is why do people lie on here I'd say it's twofold: to keep their options open to prevent them being excluded from consideration by those who won't meet married people (which I disagree with); or to avoid abusive messages about it. I can completely understand that basis, and it's frankly the reason why my normally open profile is currently hidden and filters are up because I got sick of the unsolicited "advice" from people who disagree with the presence of married people on the site."
I've had my fair share of abuse in the past not on here new here so we will see but on other sites .
Normally its from someone who has been hurt in the past by a cheating partner so the abuse is kind of justified and is a case of them just venting at me because I'm there and easy to have a go at .
It is what it is and the price I pay for forewarning people about my circumstances and a price I'm willing to pay even if i think i shouldn't have to in my search for fun . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet married men get more abuse than married women
More married men post about it. Married women just get on with it without asking for approval."
* Some married women.... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I bet married men get more abuse than married women
More married men post about it. Married women just get on with it without asking for approval.
* Some married women.... "
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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago
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Im nearly divorced got my decree nisi..in 5 weeks i can apply for a decree absolute. .so legally divorced. .soon.. im not with anyone an split from my ex husband a year ago..so just formalities of the last bit
So not cheating..an im a lot hapier  no ties an freedom.. |
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place"
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself |
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I just get confused with the entire scene at times.
Why should it really matter if someone is married or not?
Married women being fucked by 1, 2, 10 or 20 guys be it in the presence of their husbands or not are cheating on the vows they made to each other.
Can single folk swing? I'd say no - they are having sex with whoever and whenever. That's not swinging. That's being single
There are many reasons why married people - generally guys - are on here. It could be an uninterested partner or a disabled spouse who cannot give consent but who they love dearly.
Far too many people up their own arses on here!
I love going to clubs and meeting the swinging elite who will watch their wives being shagged by anyone - regardless of whether the guy has a ring on their finger or not.
Drives me mental the hypocrisy on this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just get confused with the entire scene at times.
Why should it really matter if someone is married or not?
Married women being fucked by 1, 2, 10 or 20 guys be it in the presence of their husbands or not are cheating on the vows they made to each other.
Can single folk swing? I'd say no - they are having sex with whoever and whenever. That's not swinging. That's being single
There are many reasons why married people - generally guys - are on here. It could be an uninterested partner or a disabled spouse who cannot give consent but who they love dearly.
Far too many people up their own arses on here!
I love going to clubs and meeting the swinging elite who will watch their wives being shagged by anyone - regardless of whether the guy has a ring on their finger or not.
Drives me mental the hypocrisy on this site. "
So if a married guy goes home to his wife (or vice versa) and gives them an STD is that ok? She/he didn't consent to his cheating or know about it but it's ok?
If you fuck someone knowing it will emotionally hurt their partner, if they find out, then that's ok too?
Having someones partner give you shit for fucking their husband/wife is ok coz you didn't know they were with someone?
I'm here for no hassle fun thanks.
Everybody has their reasons for doing what they do, it's not being up your own arse. |
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" ...I've had my fair share of abuse...
Normally its from someone who has been hurt in the past by a cheating partner so the abuse is kind of justified and is a case of them just venting at me because I'm there and easy to have a go at."
Whilst I can understand the reason, I don't see why that makes it justifiable. If anything, if they can treat you, a total stranger, that way, it makes you understand how their own marriage got into difficulties...
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"I just get confused with the entire scene at times.
Why should it really matter if someone is married or not?
Married women being fucked by 1, 2, 10 or 20 guys be it in the presence of their husbands or not are cheating on the vows they made to each other.
Can single folk swing? I'd say no - they are having sex with whoever and whenever. That's not swinging. That's being single
There are many reasons why married people - generally guys - are on here. It could be an uninterested partner or a disabled spouse who cannot give consent but who they love dearly.
Far too many people up their own arses on here!
I love going to clubs and meeting the swinging elite who will watch their wives being shagged by anyone - regardless of whether the guy has a ring on their finger or not.
Drives me mental the hypocrisy on this site.
So if a married guy goes home to his wife (or vice versa) and gives them an STD is that ok? She/he didn't consent to his cheating or know about it but it's ok?
If you fuck someone knowing it will emotionally hurt their partner, if they find out, then that's ok too?
Having someones partner give you shit for fucking their husband/wife is ok coz you didn't know they were with someone?
I'm here for no hassle fun thanks.
Everybody has their reasons for doing what they do, it's not being up your own arse."
You are a single woman!
So what makes you a swinger?
You gonnae throw your one key into the pot?
And what if it's you that has the STD? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just get confused with the entire scene at times.
Why should it really matter if someone is married or not?
Married women being fucked by 1, 2, 10 or 20 guys be it in the presence of their husbands or not are cheating on the vows they made to each other.
Can single folk swing? I'd say no - they are having sex with whoever and whenever. That's not swinging. That's being single
There are many reasons why married people - generally guys - are on here. It could be an uninterested partner or a disabled spouse who cannot give consent but who they love dearly.
Far too many people up their own arses on here!
I love going to clubs and meeting the swinging elite who will watch their wives being shagged by anyone - regardless of whether the guy has a ring on their finger or not.
Drives me mental the hypocrisy on this site.
So if a married guy goes home to his wife (or vice versa) and gives them an STD is that ok? She/he didn't consent to his cheating or know about it but it's ok?
If you fuck someone knowing it will emotionally hurt their partner, if they find out, then that's ok too?
Having someones partner give you shit for fucking their husband/wife is ok coz you didn't know they were with someone?
I'm here for no hassle fun thanks.
Everybody has their reasons for doing what they do, it's not being up your own arse.
You are a single woman!
So what makes you a swinger?
You gonnae throw your one key into the pot?
And what if it's you that has the STD?"
I'm not a swinger, but swinging clubs also let me go in them and fuck there too. It's on my profile that i don't want to be part of a swinging couple. I'm a single woman who is responsible for her own sexuality, nothing more than that.
And yeah that's the point. I'm highly promiscuous and if i do get an STD and pass that on then at least the person fucking me chose to take the risk, their unknowing partner didn't, so for that reason i shall try to avoid fucking men who play away.
Luckily for me i'm allowed to choose who i fuck, if someone lies to me then they took away my choices and made me someone i don't want to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And by your logic, why are cheaters on here then? They're not a swinging couple are they?
I've nothing against them personally, but your logic says that. |
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I hope you find this Pez, the other thread was closed while I was typing it.
"Was asking if I am on here for the right reasons?
I like sex, my wife thinks its a chore these days.  "
There are no right or wrong reasons imo. Just what feels right for you. (Which may change as time goes on)
Don't let what other people think get you down. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I read the other thread that is now closed, and I think the main problem is men draw attention to themselves with posting forum threads expecting absolution....and also moaning about no one wanting to meet them.
Yes I have been cheated on and I have also been the cheater in my life span, but then I have never got married or had kids, so my main thing with cheaters are why get married in the first place? If you want variety in your sex life, remain single, do not instigate hurt on other people if you can help it.
Yes I may be speaking through rose tinted glasses but why instigate potentially more drama? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hope you find this Pez, the other thread was closed while I was typing it.
Was asking if I am on here for the right reasons?
I like sex, my wife thinks its a chore these days.
There are no right or wrong reasons imo. Just what feels right for you. (Which may change as time goes on)
Don't let what other people think get you down."
I spent ages typing something out as well and it didn't post.
Mine was more along the lines of if you're gonna take to heart what people say then this place probably isn't the best place for advice because you will get slagged off for it.
I don't condone cheating but do understand why some people do it. It's your life, you don't have to miserable and unhappy if you don't want to. We're all responsible for our own happiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hope you find this Pez, the other thread was closed while I was typing it.
Was asking if I am on here for the right reasons?
I like sex, my wife thinks its a chore these days.
There are no right or wrong reasons imo. Just what feels right for you. (Which may change as time goes on)
Don't let what other people think get you down.
I spent ages typing something out as well and it didn't post.
Mine was more along the lines of if you're gonna take to heart what people say then this place probably isn't the best place for advice because you will get slagged off for it.
I don't condone cheating but do understand why some people do it. It's your life, you don't have to miserable and unhappy if you don't want to. We're all responsible for our own happiness."
Thank you
I don't complain about not getting many meets etc as some others say, I am happy with the little community of friends I have (and have fun with) but just thinking maybe my time here is done? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're in a relationship and cheating it's best not to try to defend yourself or get people to understand why you do it. You can go to a club where people may not ask too many questions-what you don't know won't hurt you kind of thing. On here,if you enter the forums on the defensive asking for people to understand you,some people won't be so understanding. On here,people ask questions or use their noggin and uncover the lies. Be discreet,don't shout it from the hilltops. And above all be honest when someone asks or tell them from the beginning. I actually have some respect for the people who give you the chance to say sorry,I don't knowingly meet married people. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Married women being fucked by 1, 2, 10 or 20 guys be it in the presence of their husbands or not are cheating on the vows they made to each other.
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This comment is normally bandied about when a married person is trying to justify what they do ( I don't know if that is your situation )
The difference with swinging couples is there are two consenting adults deciding together to swing....no deceit, no one being unfaithful, no infidelity etc etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hope you find this Pez, the other thread was closed while I was typing it.
Was asking if I am on here for the right reasons?
I like sex, my wife thinks its a chore these days.
There are no right or wrong reasons imo. Just what feels right for you. (Which may change as time goes on)
Don't let what other people think get you down.
I spent ages typing something out as well and it didn't post.
Mine was more along the lines of if you're gonna take to heart what people say then this place probably isn't the best place for advice because you will get slagged off for it.
I don't condone cheating but do understand why some people do it. It's your life, you don't have to miserable and unhappy if you don't want to. We're all responsible for our own happiness.
Thank you
I don't complain about not getting many meets etc as some others say, I am happy with the little community of friends I have (and have fun with) but just thinking maybe my time here is done? "
Don't know. If there's anything on this site you want to stay for then stay for that.
I think you have to grow a hard skin to be a part of something like this anyway, the promiscuous life style. It can leave you feeling used if you let it, or unwanted.
I also think you have to be quite strong about what you want because there's always people prepared to tell you your choices are wrong, based on their ways. Such as some guy above trying to tell me i;m not a swinger and shouldn't be here, i've been here a year and don't give a fuck lol, you have to become more like me - don't give a fuck bitch. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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To the OP....some lie because it is not always welcomed by swingers so people lie to get their end away.
If it was me I wouldn't lie, and find the people who don't mind playing with married people, the one thing I wouldn't do was justify it to anyone though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself "
Think about it. The woman has agreed to get intimate with you based upon false information, a con, a lie. If you had told her the truth would she still want to get intimate with you? If the answer is no, how is she going to feel when she finds out she has been lied to and used. But perhaps that doesn't matter to some of the people on here. Problem is, some of the honest people get tarred with the same brush as the liars, cheats and con artists |
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself
Think about it. The woman has agreed to get intimate with you based upon false information, a con, a lie. If you had told her the truth would she still want to get intimate with you? If the answer is no, how is she going to feel when she finds out she has been lied to and used. But perhaps that doesn't matter to some of the people on here. Problem is, some of the honest people get tarred with the same brush as the liars, cheats and con artists"
Totally agree with you. This is why i appreciate honesty on profiles and hate to see that married people get shit for their honesty. Same for those who go bareback too.
The haters just push people into hiding things, when honesty should be more respected. |
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Thank you to the people that have messaged me this evening, I enjoy the social side of this place, amd also the friends I have made along the way, I don't think I can just walk away from them all now.
Tomorrow is another day, maybe feel better about things in the morning. |
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"Thank you to the people that have messaged me this evening, I enjoy the social side of this place, amd also the friends I have made along the way, I don't think I can just walk away from them all now.
Tomorrow is another day, maybe feel better about things in the morning. "
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"Many reasons I'm sure, one possibly being the abuse they get on here from some I'd imagine. I prefer people to be honest about it as I want no part of playing with someone else's partner but some of the abuse I've seem married people get on here is unreal. Its no one else's business why any of us are on here but it would be nice if married/attached people could say they are for fear of not being abused for it so others can make an informed decision."
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"I just get confused with the entire scene at times.
Why should it really matter if someone is married or not?
Married women being fucked by 1, 2, 10 or 20 guys be it in the presence of their husbands or not are cheating on the vows they made to each other.
Can single folk swing? I'd say no - they are having sex with whoever and whenever. That's not swinging. That's being single
There are many reasons why married people - generally guys - are on here. It could be an uninterested partner or a disabled spouse who cannot give consent but who they love dearly.
Far too many people up their own arses on here!
I love going to clubs and meeting the swinging elite who will watch their wives being shagged by anyone - regardless of whether the guy has a ring on their finger or not.
Drives me mental the hypocrisy on this site. "
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself
Think about it. The woman has agreed to get intimate with you based upon false information, a con, a lie. If you had told her the truth would she still want to get intimate with you? If the answer is no, how is she going to feel when she finds out she has been lied to and used. But perhaps that doesn't matter to some of the people on here. Problem is, some of the honest people get tarred with the same brush as the liars, cheats and con artists
Totally agree with you. This is why i appreciate honesty on profiles and hate to see that married people get shit for their honesty. Same for those who go bareback too.
The haters just push people into hiding things, when honesty should be more respected."
That's why I love the forums. You have so many policing agencies. You have the infidelity/moral police. That call out all the men cheating. Then you have the bareback police . That never had unprotected sex and shun anyone that has , and my favorite the gender equality police that advocates for men to be charge equal rates in clubs. I love fab for this. The more I hang around people from the UK , the more you guys sound like Americans |
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself
Think about it. The woman has agreed to get intimate with you based upon false information, a con, a lie. If you had told her the truth would she still want to get intimate with you? If the answer is no, how is she going to feel when she finds out she has been lied to and used. But perhaps that doesn't matter to some of the people on here. Problem is, some of the honest people get tarred with the same brush as the liars, cheats and con artists
Totally agree with you. This is why i appreciate honesty on profiles and hate to see that married people get shit for their honesty. Same for those who go bareback too.
The haters just push people into hiding things, when honesty should be more respected.
That's why I love the forums. You have so many policing agencies. You have the infidelity/moral police. That call out all the men cheating. Then you have the bareback police . That never had unprotected sex and shun anyone that has , and my favorite the gender equality police that advocates for men to be charge equal rates in clubs. I love fab for this. The more I hang around people from the UK , the more you guys sound like Americans "
"The more you guys sound like Americans" harsh man, that's harsh! |
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself
Think about it. The woman has agreed to get intimate with you based upon false information, a con, a lie. If you had told her the truth would she still want to get intimate with you? If the answer is no, how is she going to feel when she finds out she has been lied to and used. But perhaps that doesn't matter to some of the people on here. Problem is, some of the honest people get tarred with the same brush as the liars, cheats and con artists
Totally agree with you. This is why i appreciate honesty on profiles and hate to see that married people get shit for their honesty. Same for those who go bareback too.
The haters just push people into hiding things, when honesty should be more respected.
That's why I love the forums. You have so many policing agencies. You have the infidelity/moral police. That call out all the men cheating. Then you have the bareback police . That never had unprotected sex and shun anyone that has , and my favorite the gender equality police that advocates for men to be charge equal rates in clubs. I love fab for this. The more I hang around people from the UK , the more you guys sound like Americans
"The more you guys sound like Americans" harsh man, that's harsh!"
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself
Think about it. The woman has agreed to get intimate with you based upon false information, a con, a lie. If you had told her the truth would she still want to get intimate with you? If the answer is no, how is she going to feel when she finds out she has been lied to and used. But perhaps that doesn't matter to some of the people on here. Problem is, some of the honest people get tarred with the same brush as the liars, cheats and con artists
Totally agree with you. This is why i appreciate honesty on profiles and hate to see that married people get shit for their honesty. Same for those who go bareback too.
The haters just push people into hiding things, when honesty should be more respected.
That's why I love the forums. You have so many policing agencies. You have the infidelity/moral police. That call out all the men cheating. Then you have the bareback police . That never had unprotected sex and shun anyone that has , and my favorite the gender equality police that advocates for men to be charge equal rates in clubs. I love fab for this. The more I hang around people from the UK , the more you guys sound like Americans "
I can mace you if you want?
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"It takes away a persons right to make an informed decision as to whether the fabber is someone they would like to meet
At least be honest, tell the person you want to meet, and let them choose
To get so intimate with someone, based upon deception, is tantamount to not even bothering to ask for consent in the first place
That's a bit of an storage statement to make !! Would you be able to expand on it a bit more as I can't see the comparison myself
Think about it. The woman has agreed to get intimate with you based upon false information, a con, a lie. If you had told her the truth would she still want to get intimate with you? If the answer is no, how is she going to feel when she finds out she has been lied to and used. But perhaps that doesn't matter to some of the people on here. Problem is, some of the honest people get tarred with the same brush as the liars, cheats and con artists
Totally agree with you. This is why i appreciate honesty on profiles and hate to see that married people get shit for their honesty. Same for those who go bareback too.
The haters just push people into hiding things, when honesty should be more respected.
That's why I love the forums. You have so many policing agencies. You have the infidelity/moral police. That call out all the men cheating. Then you have the bareback police . That never had unprotected sex and shun anyone that has , and my favorite the gender equality police that advocates for men to be charge equal rates in clubs. I love fab for this. The more I hang around people from the UK , the more you guys sound like Americans
I can mace you if you want?
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"the one thing I wouldn't do was justify it to anyone though "
I think it's more sad that people feel they either have to hide it for fear of receiving abuse, or keep quiet like a meek little dog with their tail between their legs, because what they do offends someone else's morals.
There are plenty of debates on here about many topics and it is always healthy to listen to all sides. Saying one side is only trying to justify what they do risks closing down debate. |
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Married people lie on every site. It's life. It's sad yes I agree, if not happy say so and move on. But as has been said its new pussy, new cock. Majority never leave their partners but no matter how good the sex is with each other, it's the new fruits etc. sad but true. |
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"Honest question, I realise there are lots of reasons that people cheat, but why not leave your partner?
So why cheat....not being judgemental, just curious.
I'm guessing they like sex more than their partner does?
(I actually was a rocket scientist in my sandwich year )
Mrs ddc likes Downton Abbey more than me, but it's not worth falling out over.
(Eastenders on the other hand... )
Mr ddc"
That would be a dealbreaker in any potential relationship
Trying to make me watch eastenders would be just too much! |
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"Any one noticed in chat its 85% of demanding is by couples ( sorry by couples I mean. Men , were lady as lost interest in site , if she ever was "
Yes it's usually the male half who does all of the chatting and arranging for some reason. |
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Way do people make such a thing about people lying on fab, people lie all the time all over the place not just here.
So why are we so surprised when they do it on a swingers site.
Anyone who has ever worked in retail will tell you people come up with the biggest lot of horse shit to try and return something they break themselves |
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"Way do people make such a thing about people lying on fab, people lie all the time all over the place not just here.
So why are we so surprised when they do it on a swingers site.
Anyone who has ever worked in retail will tell you people come up with the biggest lot of horse shit to try and return something they break themselves "
Everyone lies on fab, from the married ones to the ones that are looking for more than a NSA meet...
We certainly shouldn't be surprised by it and nor should we question it...
Each to their own but for me honesty is always the best policy |
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"Some people get a buzz from cheating, and the lying around it.
Some people don't wanna leave their partner but want sex with someone else.
That's about it."
Its exactly this. |
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"Way do people make such a thing about people lying on fab, people lie all the time all over the place not just here.
So why are we so surprised when they do it on a swingers site.
Anyone who has ever worked in retail will tell you people come up with the biggest lot of horse shit to try and return something they break themselves
Everyone lies on fab, from the married ones to the ones that are looking for more than a NSA meet...
We certainly shouldn't be surprised by it and nor should we question it...
Each to their own but for me honesty is always the best policy "
Wonder what I'm lying about |
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