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Accomodation: Whose responsibility?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For those that meet in hotels the costs should be shared. I never meet in hotels, I find them seedy, I have that on my profile.

Every now and then a man will try and convince me to meet him in a hotel. When I say ok fine but they have to foot the bill and it has to be the Dorchester or Langhams, strangely enough they slink off never to pester me again!

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By *oucaneerMan over a year ago

London

Well I supose whoever find's it easier or who wants to.

Sorry, dont mean to sound so simplistic, it;s what ever people are comfortable to do.

O am visiting a couple at their house tomorrow and they seem fine with it.

If it was a party then I would hold it free of charge in my comfortable rowing club.

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By *inktherapyCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

we can't accom due to kids

if we do hotels it depends - if the person is here anyway because of work there is no need to share the cost - the hotel has been paid for. If the hotel is booked purely for a meet then i would expect to split the cost

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree with the person/people you are about to meet up front to avoid surprises.

I would advise going half way myself, however, that's because I don't like peeps taking advantage of other peeps!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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Its down to those that want to meet up to sort out a suitable place to meet/play that everyone is happy about

When we have used hotels,im the one to book it and don't ask for any contributions,but most guys are very decent and will offer anyway

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

There are quite a few profiles on here where they insist on their meet footing the bill.

I just invite everyone to my cardboard box under the bridge...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think it's anybody's responsibility. Surely it's an agreement that needs to be reached between all concerned parties brfore the meet.?

Each situation is different for a mountain of reasons

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

I'm a single parent. I don't go to clubs.

I don't accomodate. My reasons for this are my neighbours. There are lots of children on my street that my child goes to school with. I wouldn't ever like to put my child in a position in the school courtyard of.. 'Who was that guy at your house with you mum'.

I have nothing against meeting in a hotel if my meets have travelled a fair distance and try and find something reasonably priced(travel lodge/premier inn). If he wants me to go halves then fine. Quite a number of guys are speak to are from London area and I been in there area for a social gathering when i've needed to be in hotel accomodation anyhow but haven't asked anybody who has stayed with me for something towards it.

as said I think it really does depends on what you both/all agree on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?"

very good post actually and something i have ranted about a few times in the past

I dont know why but i have found there seems to be a un written rule on here that women accommodate, id say 90% of the guys who mail me just assum they can come to my house, i have even been called a time waster for not allowing a guy to come to my house, after catting for a while and getting to arrange a meet, most of the guys who i talk to suddenly hve no interest at all in meeting as soon as i tell them they cant come to my home

i dont think its anyones responsability to accommodate, it depends on each persons situation, i have met a few guys who can and have accommodated, and im happy to go to peoples home if thats ok with them but i never expect anyone to accommodate me, im more than happy to use hotels

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oh forgot to put about who pays lol

how i see it is if i arrange to meet a guy off here and we decide to get a hotel then we should split the bill, tho i have paid the whole price of hotel rooms on a few occasions, how i decide if im willing to foot the bill depends on how far they have traveled to meet me, i had one guy come down from scotland and because he was willing to travel that far i felt it only right i could at least provide a room for him, if they are local and dont travel far then i share the bill, if its a guy whos out of my area but working close by so staying in a hotel room anyway i do not feel i should put towards the room for 2 reasons.....

A hes got the room anyway and if i wasnt there he'd still be there

B his companys more than likely paying for it anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

CUM ON GUYS ! surely its the fella that picks up the tab . FRANKIE

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"CUM ON GUYS ! surely its the fella that picks up the tab . FRANKIE "

why?

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?

very good post actually and something i have ranted about a few times in the past

I think thee's been so much blacklash in the swingscene in he past about guys who can't accomodate being timewasters, the logic was merely extended that who ever (female or cople can't accomodate likewise not beign genuine.

The question then asks who's reason for not being able to accomodate is accepted as leitimat - guy, girl or couple?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"CUM ON GUYS ! surely its the fella that picks up the tab . FRANKIE "

Why?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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We like to play at home normally , but we have played at hotels before now and we paid, mainly so we could have the room to snore in after the meet

I don't think it is any parties responsiblity though, it is just something that is sorted between you and the person you are meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?

very good post actually and something i have ranted about a few times in the past

The question then asks who's reason for not being able to accomodate is accepted as leitimat - guy, girl or couple?"

i have actully never seen someone who dont accommodate as a time waster, its says on peoples profiles if they accommodate or not, if someome has on their profiles they do not accommodate and you mail them anyway hoping to talk them round, as ive had a few times, its not me wasting their time its them

Everyone has their own reasons for not accommodating and its not alwys for the worse, but yeah most do assum its cause your cheating, and if thatsd what people want to think about me carry on i'll find someone else thats not so judgemental

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

IS the age of the gentleman dead , surely the gent pays !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"IS the age of the gentleman dead , surely the gent pays !"

its a sex site your not after a relationship your after a shag lol sex is a two way thing so any costs should be split two ways

Plus to be honest if i meet a guy and he pays for everything, which ive had, i just feel like ive been bough for the night and i dont really like that feeling of i now owe him shag cause hes bough me a meal and paid for a room, so id sooner pay my own way

besides that as a single guy if you meet a couple thats two men involved...which gentleman pays?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we like to accom as we got in door hot tub... but not always easy with a teen son at home........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't accom and I won't meet anyone I don't know at their home,so I am happy to meet in a hotel and split the bill 50/50.

Its something you need to discuss beforehand before the meet because I have known people be left with the bill when the other 1/2 have forgotten their wallet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?"

would you not do better asking who you are meeting.

We would no ask whos paying the baby sitter, outfits, fuel, stockings, lubes, batteries, etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?

would you not do better asking who you are meeting.

We would no ask whos paying the baby sitter, outfits, fuel, stockings, lubes, batteries, etc.

But alot on here don't care about that,they are just grateful for a meet

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By *agman n angelCouple over a year ago

benidorm

we have a different version, we have a 2 roomed apartment here in spain so can accomodate, and since most guys we meet are here on holiday were they not meeting us they would be in town trying to pull and spending plenty, so we suggest they take us out for dinner, the local chinky for a set menu meal 27 euros for all three of us and so far we havent had one guy say no to our offer.

However we dont do the same with couples, just meet for a few drinks first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?

would you not do better asking who you are meeting.

We would no ask whos paying the baby sitter, outfits, fuel, stockings, lubes, batteries, etc.

really not sure what baby sitting and cloths costs have to do with sharing hotel costs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day, it is down to the people who are meeting, I have paid for hotels, I have also had them paid for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we have a different version, we have a 2 roomed apartment here in spain so can accomodate, and since most guys we meet are here on holiday were they not meeting us they would be in town trying to pull and spending plenty, so we suggest they take us out for dinner, the local chinky for a set menu meal 27 euros for all three of us and so far we havent had one guy say no to our offer.

However we dont do the same with couples, just meet for a few drinks first.

so just out of interest why do you feel its ok to get a free meal out of a single but not a couple?

Single guys get treat like crap by so many couples on here, you see it so many times where couples expect single guys to pay for rooms but happy to split costs with couples, i just dont get it

is it because a single guy has no woman to trade for the mrs so they charge him in other ways for the shag?

Grrr sorry but i just hate users and people who take advantage

if you meet a single guy and want to play with him why not buy him meal? now theres an ide

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By *agman n angelCouple over a year ago

benidorm

i do understand the mention of babysitters etc. When i was with my ex wife we had a babysitter for the night which cost £20, a new outfit which god knows what that cost and not always but often enough a trip to the hair dressers

and cos we couldnt accom petrol and we travelled 120 miles to some meets, made it an expensive night.

But the way we worked it was, if the guy was a good lover and we had a real enjoyable night then we would at the end offer to pay half the hotel, if he was a bit of a let down then sorry m8 but your paying it all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"the local chinky "

Nice!!!

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By *agman n angelCouple over a year ago

benidorm

well we could get them to take us to an expensive restaraunt but then we would get slagged on here for doing so.

and when i say local chinky dont mean some back street affair in ilford, im talking a chinese in la cala spain very nice sassy you should come over and try it girl

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By *john121Man over a year ago

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By *john121Man over a year ago

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"IS the age of the gentleman dead , surely the gent pays !"

what world are you living in? this is swinging site not a dating site which you seemed to be confused with...and also most dating sites I would suggest recommend going dutch as there is no inference that well 'I've paid for everything'...offering to pay is one thing...but come on...just looks desperate..

this has also been done to death and would be worth checking the forums history on such matters, however, as some have already pointed out it's down to personal preference/circumstance and security.

if you choose to use a hotel then make it plain that you either expect to share the cost which then brings up that old chestnut 'shagging for profit!' or you are happy to cover entire cost..(not including petrol, baby sitting, lube, etc etc lol)you don't have to say why you can't or wont accom, remember it's your choice as shown by your selection by putting a tick in the can't accom.

you may decide to meet at a club, again another popular choice...

but if you are happy to cover the cost because it's the gentlemanly thing to do then go for it!

You don't need to spend cash to be a gentleman....its the things you do such as walking on the curb edge when out walking with your lady, opening a door or helping her on with her coat, or at the very least offering to do these simple things..and one other make sure your cock is clean! definitely the gentlemanly thing to do!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We can accom and when we have single guys over we dont ask them to take us out for a meal or to pay for any other expences.

Seems a lot of people on here like to take advantage of single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess with single men being the ones doing the chasing they've gotta do whatever they deem necessary to stand out from the rest.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

We don't accommodate, if we're travelling a distance to meet then we always book a hotel in advance, if preferred, the couple are welcome to join us, we never have, and never will expect any financial contribution.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t go for all this give us half crap, if we contacted someone asking them to meet us at a hotel, we’d pay for the room, the same goes for hosting a party, we’d never ask anyone for a contribution. If we were doing the inviting, if people offer to split the cost that’s a nice gesture but it’s the persons company we are after and not their money.

We would never initiate a meet thinking whomever we contact will share the costs, it’s simple to us, if we contacted someone and wanted them to meet us at a hotel we’d pay for the room.

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By *vor Bigun 69!Man over a year ago

Barnsley

"CUM ON GUYS ! surely its the fella that picks up the tab . FRANKIE

why?"

Yeh why? Suppose its the man who should bring the condoms, flowers and pay for the meal too? You stuck in the 50s and 60s?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"CUM ON GUYS ! surely its the fella that picks up the tab . FRANKIE

why?

Yeh why? Suppose its the man who should bring the condoms, flowers and pay for the meal too? You stuck in the 50s and 60s?"

Dont forget you also have to pay the shoes,underwear stockings as well as a meal lol

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By *havenangel1Couple over a year ago

Worcester

"i do understand the mention of babysitters etc. When i was with my ex wife we had a babysitter for the night which cost £20, a new outfit which god knows what that cost and not always but often enough a trip to the hair dressers

and cos we couldnt accom petrol and we travelled 120 miles to some meets, made it an expensive night.

Not even going to comment on that

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By *havenangel1Couple over a year ago

Worcester

Well actually i just did but you know what i mean

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"CUM ON GUYS ! surely its the fella that picks up the tab . FRANKIE "

It really depends - once I was introduced to a single lady who wasnt on this site but was good friends with a couple who were members and had told them she was very curious - they recommended me as someone who would give her a good intro to the scene.

She lived in Liverpool, so because I was travelling a fair distance to meet her and she couldnt accom she insisted that she paid for the hotel.

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Yeh why? Suppose its the man who should bring the condoms, flowers and pay for the meal too? You stuck in the 50s and 60s?"

I once had a girl bring ME flowers.

It was her first meet and "she wasn't sure what she was supposed to bring"

what an absolute sweetheart!

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By *-and-KCouple over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Oddle enough whenever we play in hotels, we always book the room, if we are meeting another couple they also tend to book a room, both couples staying overnight to use all the facilities.

If we are meeting a single bloke, two scenarios, if he contacted us, he books it and we'll join him. We'll offer to pay half the cost.

If we contacted him, we will book the room and if he wants to pay half thats up to him.

Normally our hotel stays usually co-incide with shopping trips to other cities, so we are never out of pocket.

The thing about getting the guy to book the room if he's made the contact, you can ring the hotel to see if he really has booked the room by checking if he's registered. If not contact him again before you set off to see what he's playing at. Can save a wasted journey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I cannot accomodate as I have children at home and on the odd occasion I actually get rid of them I don't like having strangers in my home as I've had a man just turn up in the past and actually walk into the back garden looking for 'Molly' I was mortified.

I also don't like going to men's homes as I don't feel safe.

Which is why I tend to meet mainly at clubs. Safe, clean and always plenty to play with.

If however I've met before and we choose to have a hotel meet I always share costs and insist on buying my own drinks and meals as Im very aware that its not a date we're sharing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been reading profiles and people have different views on whose responsibility it is to accomodate.

So whose responsibility is it to accomadate? The men, the women or the couples? If all parties can't, then who pays the bill for the hotel? sole person or shared cost?

would you not do better asking who you are meeting.

We would no ask whos paying the baby sitter, outfits, fuel, stockings, lubes, batteries, etc.

really not sure what baby sitting and cloths costs have to do with sharing hotel costs? "

becuase as a cpl with kids these are that we we have to pay for before even getting to an hotel. single guys dont have any of this and we would never dream of asking them to pay half.

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By *ouplefunukCouple over a year ago

North Bristol

"I don't think it's anybody's responsibility. Surely it's an agreement that needs to be reached between all concerned parties brfore the meet.?

Each situation is different for a mountain of reasons"

I agree wholeheartedly with this statement.

If neither of you are in a position to be accommodating, then you work it out between yourselves. It's not anyones 'responsibility'

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have always paid my own way, and am blessed with a good job to allow me to do so.

However, if I pay for the hotel, then I would expect some form of contribution such as the gent picking up the bill for a pub meal etc...

Unless it is a 9 GBP Travelodge Room, of course!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The thing about getting the guy to book the room if he's made the contact, you can ring the hotel to see if he really has booked the room by checking if he's registered. "

Any hotel that discloses that information really shouldn't be doing so. It's against the law.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I once booked a room after agreeing to meet a potential new gent a couple of weeks before the meeting date.

The meet did not take place.

However, I gave the gent a deadline to confirm if the meet was to go ahead or not, and managed to arrange for some sexy fun with another gent.

So all was not lost!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to accommodate, mainly because I dont drive and I dont really like using buses/trains to go any distance. My choice, so I know that if I didnt accommodate my meets would have to be from my local area.

Hotel meets, today a nice gentleman offered to book a hotel to meet me tonight, but because at this time I couldnt afford to to go half with him, I refused.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if it's on their profile about what they expect, then you either go with it or you don't.

i don't approve of folk that insist that the other party pays for hotels, but it is the choice of them and if anyone accepts that, then that's their choice.

my personal belief is that any cost incurred should be shared equally, or you are technically paying for the sex

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By *ptimusDMan over a year ago

Birmingham

I swing as a single male and as a rule, I don't accommodate.., for reasons that I personally think are quite justified.

I make no apologies about it and I offer no explanations. Take it or leave it. If I'm planning a meet and they can't accommodate or don't want to use a hotel, then we won't meet. It's that simple. I don't question couples or single females that don't accommodate so I don't see why I can't do the same if I so choose.

Speaking of who pays for what, it all depends on the situation and circumstances. And one will think some common sense will apply and adults should be able to sort expenses out. But I know it is not always the case

If my playmates are travelling a long distance to meet, then I offer to pay for the hotel room. Sometimes, we meet halfway and go halves on the hotel bill. Sometimes I travel long distances and still pay for a hotel e.g if I'm meeting a student, I wouldn't expect them to pay for anything.

But as a rule, I always make sure we're clear on what is what with regards to expenses before we both confirm a meet xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm glad I put this up!

As a single guy who can't accomodate, I don't mind booking hotel accomodation. I do feel that single guys are taken advantage of in this situation. we're all swinging friends and should be cool with sharing. We sharing everything else!

Thanks for your views. Anymore?

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By *ig badMan over a year ago

Up North :-)

"I'm glad I put this up!

Thanks for your views. Anymore?"

Its a point of view but you might find if a couple or single female are looking they may choose someone who will pay/can accommodate as its cheaper for them. Making efforts in all things in life brigs bigger rewards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm glad I put this up!

Thanks for your views. Anymore?

Will it? Really? I'm not loaded and I don't think it's fair to have my chances hindered because I can't flex my wallet with the best of them. Is that what it comes down to?

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By *ig badMan over a year ago

Up North :-)

"I'm glad I put this up!

Thanks for your views. Anymore?

Will it? Really? I'm not loaded and I don't think it's fair to have my chances hindered because I can't flex my wallet with the best of them. Is that what it comes down to?"

Sometimes it does which is a really sad state of affairs but its the same with everything. If you want a sony 40 in tv and one is 500 and one 400 most go for the cheaper one. For a single male you will find if a woman or couple have to choose then they many go for the ones who can accommodate or pay for the room. Its the same with some who don't want to travel they will pick guys who do. Its not fair but life often isn't unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we cant always accom due to kids etc but if we cant we always offer to get a room ant the other party has always offered to pay half, job done .

its up to both sides to sort it out

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By *ig badMan over a year ago

Up North :-)

"we cant always accom due to kids etc but if we cant we always offer to get a room ant the other party has always offered to pay half, job done .

its up to both sides to sort it out

Its the fair way of going about things but its not always what happens. There are lots on here who invite 4/5 guys or even more and ask for 20 plus towards the room. Nice to see you two look at the bigger picture as you will get better meets i am sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

treat others in the way you would like to be treated, and if people do take the piss then dont meet them

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"well we could get them to take us to an expensive restaraunt but then we would get slagged on here for doing so.

and when i say local chinky dont mean some back street affair in ilford, im talking a chinese in la cala spain very nice sassy you should come over and try it girl"

For some reason, after reading this post I was reminded of one of my favourite quotes by Winston Churchill.

Churchill: Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?

Socialite: My goodness, Mr. Churchill ... Well, I suppose ... we would have to discuss terms, of course ...

Churchill: Would you sleep with me for five pounds?

Socialite: Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!

Churchill: Madam, we've already established that. Now we are haggling about the price.

ps - I think Sassy was commenting on your choice of language rather than your choice of eating establishment.

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

and cos we couldnt accom petrol and we travelled 120 miles to some meets, made it an expensive night.

I'm not picking on you, but I want to comment on this post too...

If you chose to incur those expenses, then why pass them on to the person you were meeting? If travelling 120 miles was more costly than you were comfortable paying, why not restrict your meets to within a smaller radius that was within your budget?

I also don't see why you were asking them to foot the bill for your hairdresser's appointments - unless the person you were meeting specifically asked you to get a new haircut before meeting them.

If the other person was paying half the price of a new outfit, was he then allowed 50% custody of the dress? I'm assuming the new dress lasted more than just the one night - why ask someone to contribute to your new wardrobe?

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By *ummy mummyWoman over a year ago

southampton-ish

"CUM ON GUYS ! surely its the fella that picks up the tab . FRANKIE

why?

Yeh why? Suppose its the man who should bring the condoms, flowers and pay for the meal too? You stuck in the 50s and 60s?"

flowers and a meal...no.. cost of hotel...depends on situation....condoms yes...if I have taken precautions on my end to have my part of birth control covered...why shouldn't the man do the same?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and cos we couldnt accom petrol and we travelled 120 miles to some meets, made it an expensive night.

I'm not picking on you, but I want to comment on this post too...

I also don't see why you were asking them to foot the bill for your hairdresser's appointments - unless the person you were meeting specifically asked you to get a new haircut before meeting them.

I agree! a babysitter cost me £80 one night...it was my cost and i realised that...it was my choice to have kids, not the guys i was meeting...all the other costs were shared...if you had a shit shag, so did he!

that is a poor statement!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if the people you meet insist on a hotel you should pay your share or not meet.

If they say can't accomodate then it's down to you.

Many couples suss out if a man is single or not by asking if they can come around to his.

These sites are a single fem or couples market.Single males outnumber them both by X 5 at a guess.

They can afford to be picky we can't.

I suppose If I dont like it I could always go on the pull around bars again.Or I could just go and "pull it" instead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and cos we couldnt accom petrol and we travelled 120 miles to some meets, made it an expensive night.

I'm not picking on you, but I want to comment on this post too...

I also don't see why you were asking them to foot the bill for your hairdresser's appointments - unless the person you were meeting specifically asked you to get a new haircut before meeting them.

You really are missing the point. Swinging is about meeting Like Minded people. Therefore you wouldnt want to meet us. Its not just about getting your leg over you also have to appreciate the other parties situation and circumstances. the single men that do get meets and get verified. them that dont Dont. i was trying to be helpfull. anyway good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"well we could get them to take us to an expensive restaraunt but then we would get slagged on here for doing so.

and when i say local chinky dont mean some back street affair in ilford, im talking a chinese in la cala spain very nice sassy you should come over and try it girl

For some reason, after reading this post I was reminded of one of my favourite quotes by Winston Churchill.

Churchill: Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?

Socialite: My goodness, Mr. Churchill ... Well, I suppose ... we would have to discuss terms, of course ...

Churchill: Would you sleep with me for five pounds?

Socialite: Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!

Churchill: Madam, we've already established that. Now we are haggling about the price.

ps - I think Sassy was commenting on your choice of language rather than your choice of eating establishment."

Indeed!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and cos we couldnt accom petrol and we travelled 120 miles to some meets, made it an expensive night.

Not even going to comment on that

well i was sat thinking what if the single guy found them a bit of a let down too...then who pays lol

plus im just picturing the scene....sorry mate you was a crap shag heres my baby sitting and hair drerssing bill

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

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"You really are missing the point. Swinging is about meeting Like Minded people. Therefore you wouldnt want to meet us. Its not just about getting your leg over you also have to appreciate the other parties situation and circumstances. the single men that do get meets and get verified. them that dont Dont. i was trying to be helpfull. anyway good luck"

What point exactly is it that I'm missing?

I appreciate that swingers meet like-minded people whom they are attracted to. They are like-minded in that they share common beliefs about sexuality and polyamory. That's what differentiates swingers from the rest of society.

It's a fairly big assumption to say that I wouldn't want to meet you. To be perfectly honest, I don't know whether I would or would not want to meet you. I've not actually given it any thought. Perhaps I should. Do you want to meet me?

I'm not quite sure I understand your comment "its not just about getting your leg over". I didn't realise I'd said swinging was about that.

Were you referring to the Churchill quote? If so, it would appear you missed the point

As for single males appreciating the other party's situation and circumstances, I don't see how you can stretch that concept to justify people ripping off someone else.

Costs that are directly related to the meet should be shared by both parties, e.g. a meal for a 1st meeting or a hotel bill, etc... but I don't agree that costs indirectly associated to one party should be automatically passed on to the single male. Otherwise, where do you draw the line?

"I had to buy a new dress for this meet so you owe me £50,000. The dress was only £200 but on the way into town this afternoon to buy the dress I crashed into a car in the car park. So as well as £200 you owe me for the petrol I used, the parking ticket I had to buy and the bill for repairing the damage I caused to the other car. Plus I had to take the day off work and pretend to be sick which meant I got fired because my boss saw me in Monsoon and realised I was taking a sickie, and it'll take me a year to find another job so you owe me for my lost earnings. Oh, and I bought a Subway for lunch too cause I was hungry."

If it works like that, I'm currently getting my bathroom replaced... anyone wanna meet up so I can fob the bill for my new bathroom off on you?

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