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over a year ago
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On kitchen utensil handle. Kinda proud that I enjoyed myself and went as far as to make myself gag. I need some more practice though as I was a little toothy on occasion.
What was your first time like? |
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over a year ago
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Can't visualise it or anything but i know i didn't actually like doing it because i didn't know how to. Can't say the age.
Worse thing was he was my fella and i cheated on him later, kind of got caught and told him 'i only gave him a blow job' (coz i thought it sounded less worse than having sex with someone else) and he replied 'you won't even give me a blow job', i was immature and probably shouldn't have been in any relationship then. |
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over a year ago
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I can empathise with both those posts.
I've turned down meets with guys due to concerns about inexperience. I wanted a woman to be there providing advice and guidance for my first time. |
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I love giving bjs. I was really inexperienced with sex before I met Marc. But the first time I gave him a bj he didn't even believe it was my first time.
I had watched a show (I think it was made by playboy, but I can't remember), and it showed how to give a guy oral, and what you should do with your hands, and how to deep throat, etc, etc, and it was amazing advice. Apparently. That's what Marc thinks, anyway.
Maybe you could find something like that and give it a watch?
-Courtney |
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PrOb in class , never had trouble always got good feed back , only later when 17 when came across a cock that too big to even get mouth past helmet lol , |
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"I can't even remember how come i started to enjoy giving them.  "
I'm just gonna toss this idea out there, but maybe you didn't enjoy before because you weren't 100% into the guy you were with, and you weren't 100% comfortable cheating, however, now you don't have those concerns, you can do it for your own enjoyment. Might be wildly inaccurate, but I thought I'd suggest a possibility |
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"I can't even remember how come i started to enjoy giving them.
I'm just gonna toss this idea out there, but maybe you didn't enjoy before because you weren't 100% into the guy you were with, and you weren't 100% comfortable cheating, however, now you don't have those concerns, you can do it for your own enjoyment. Might be wildly inaccurate, but I thought I'd suggest a possibility"
Think it was coz i was with someone fairly inexperienced so i felt like he had nothing to compare me with, so yeah it was the guy you're right. Plus he was really good in bed and i wanted to return that favour too him, and i loved him so wasn't shy. I was fine with cheating on my boyfriend, seeing as i found out he was married so had started looking for someone else anyway (like i said not really mature enough for a relationship then). |
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"I love giving bjs. I was really inexperienced with sex before I met Marc. But the first time I gave him a bj he didn't even believe it was my first time.
I had watched a show (I think it was made by playboy, but I can't remember), and it showed how to give a guy oral, and what you should do with your hands, and how to deep throat, etc, etc, and it was amazing advice. Apparently. That's what Marc thinks, anyway.
Maybe you could find something like that and give it a watch?
-Courtney"
I think the show was sexcetera. I remember watching that some time ago and it covered all sorts of kinks and provided tips and guidance. That was done by Playboy for sure. However, at the time, I was in denial about my bisexuality, I was kinda obsessed with girls I knew weren't interested in me, and I watched it out of curiosity to work out what other people are into, however, I couldn't relay that into people I knew because I'd grown up only understanding old fashioned relationships. Now I'm older and a bit less naive, I might rewatch thank you for the advice m'dear. Did you have a good time in NYC btw? X |
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"I can't even remember how come i started to enjoy giving them.
I'm just gonna toss this idea out there, but maybe you didn't enjoy before because you weren't 100% into the guy you were with, and you weren't 100% comfortable cheating, however, now you don't have those concerns, you can do it for your own enjoyment. Might be wildly inaccurate, but I thought I'd suggest a possibility
Think it was coz i was with someone fairly inexperienced so i felt like he had nothing to compare me with, so yeah it was the guy you're right. Plus he was really good in bed and i wanted to return that favour too him, and i loved him so wasn't shy. I was fine with cheating on my boyfriend, seeing as i found out he was married so had started looking for someone else anyway (like i said not really mature enough for a relationship then)."
I might have the wrong end of the stick, but I don't think it's immature to look elsewhere if you find out someone is not right. However, that may be a skewed perspective because I stayed with a woman for about 5 months after I'd decided I wanted to break up with her because I didn't want to ruin her Christmas or birthday. I still feel a lot of resentment over that, and I was an arsehole to my next girlfriend as a projection of those feelings |
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"PrOb in class , never had trouble always got good feed back , only later when 17 when came across a cock that too big to even get mouth past helmet lol , "
Lmao, nice |
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I think the show was sexcetera. I remember watching that some time ago and it covered all sorts of kinks and provided tips and guidance. That was done by Playboy for sure. However, at the time, I was in denial about my bisexuality, I was kinda obsessed with girls I knew weren't interested in me, and I watched it out of curiosity to work out what other people are into, however, I couldn't relay that into people I knew because I'd grown up only understanding old fashioned relationships. Now I'm older and a bit less naive, I might rewatch thank you for the advice m'dear. Did you have a good time in NYC btw? X"
I am still in NY, thank you. I just got here yesterday and am enjoying myself immensely. Its the only reason I am still up at this hour. Aren't you sleepy!?! |
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I think the show was sexcetera. I remember watching that some time ago and it covered all sorts of kinks and provided tips and guidance. That was done by Playboy for sure. However, at the time, I was in denial about my bisexuality, I was kinda obsessed with girls I knew weren't interested in me, and I watched it out of curiosity to work out what other people are into, however, I couldn't relay that into people I knew because I'd grown up only understanding old fashioned relationships. Now I'm older and a bit less naive, I might rewatch thank you for the advice m'dear. Did you have a good time in NYC btw? X
I am still in NY, thank you. I just got here yesterday and am enjoying myself immensely. Its the only reason I am still up at this hour. Aren't you sleepy!?! "
Hahaha, that's nice to hear glad you're having fun
Hell fricking no. I was smart and had 4 cups of caffeinated tea between 6 and 10. Also still pissed with my housemate |
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"I can't even remember how come i started to enjoy giving them.
I'm just gonna toss this idea out there, but maybe you didn't enjoy before because you weren't 100% into the guy you were with, and you weren't 100% comfortable cheating, however, now you don't have those concerns, you can do it for your own enjoyment. Might be wildly inaccurate, but I thought I'd suggest a possibility
Think it was coz i was with someone fairly inexperienced so i felt like he had nothing to compare me with, so yeah it was the guy you're right. Plus he was really good in bed and i wanted to return that favour too him, and i loved him so wasn't shy. I was fine with cheating on my boyfriend, seeing as i found out he was married so had started looking for someone else anyway (like i said not really mature enough for a relationship then).
I might have the wrong end of the stick, but I don't think it's immature to look elsewhere if you find out someone is not right. However, that may be a skewed perspective because I stayed with a woman for about 5 months after I'd decided I wanted to break up with her because I didn't want to ruin her Christmas or birthday. I still feel a lot of resentment over that, and I was an arsehole to my next girlfriend as a projection of those feelings"
Now i'd just have dumped him, not cheated etc. I didn't even know married men cheated so it was a huge shock to find out i was in a relationship with one.
That's kind of nice not to spoil christmas for someone, don't think i could do that for anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't even remember how come i started to enjoy giving them.
I'm just gonna toss this idea out there, but maybe you didn't enjoy before because you weren't 100% into the guy you were with, and you weren't 100% comfortable cheating, however, now you don't have those concerns, you can do it for your own enjoyment. Might be wildly inaccurate, but I thought I'd suggest a possibility
Think it was coz i was with someone fairly inexperienced so i felt like he had nothing to compare me with, so yeah it was the guy you're right. Plus he was really good in bed and i wanted to return that favour too him, and i loved him so wasn't shy. I was fine with cheating on my boyfriend, seeing as i found out he was married so had started looking for someone else anyway (like i said not really mature enough for a relationship then).
I might have the wrong end of the stick, but I don't think it's immature to look elsewhere if you find out someone is not right. However, that may be a skewed perspective because I stayed with a woman for about 5 months after I'd decided I wanted to break up with her because I didn't want to ruin her Christmas or birthday. I still feel a lot of resentment over that, and I was an arsehole to my next girlfriend as a projection of those feelings
Now i'd just have dumped him, not cheated etc. I didn't even know married men cheated so it was a huge shock to find out i was in a relationship with one.
That's kind of nice not to spoil christmas for someone, don't think i could do that for anyone."
You make a fair point but naivity is not the same as immaturity imo
I agree, and her birthday was at the beginning of Feb, so I planned to wait til April. Fate had alternative plans. My granddad died at the end of Feb that year and she came to the funeral at the beginning of March to provide support, but I ended up having to look after her because she was crying. So, when I hadn't been talking to her much the following week, she asked if I needed time alone, and I said I didn't want to return to the relationship.
I also believe I was immature and naive to think my next relationship would solve the problem, but it just made things worse |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't even remember how come i started to enjoy giving them.
I'm just gonna toss this idea out there, but maybe you didn't enjoy before because you weren't 100% into the guy you were with, and you weren't 100% comfortable cheating, however, now you don't have those concerns, you can do it for your own enjoyment. Might be wildly inaccurate, but I thought I'd suggest a possibility
Think it was coz i was with someone fairly inexperienced so i felt like he had nothing to compare me with, so yeah it was the guy you're right. Plus he was really good in bed and i wanted to return that favour too him, and i loved him so wasn't shy. I was fine with cheating on my boyfriend, seeing as i found out he was married so had started looking for someone else anyway (like i said not really mature enough for a relationship then).
I might have the wrong end of the stick, but I don't think it's immature to look elsewhere if you find out someone is not right. However, that may be a skewed perspective because I stayed with a woman for about 5 months after I'd decided I wanted to break up with her because I didn't want to ruin her Christmas or birthday. I still feel a lot of resentment over that, and I was an arsehole to my next girlfriend as a projection of those feelings
Now i'd just have dumped him, not cheated etc. I didn't even know married men cheated so it was a huge shock to find out i was in a relationship with one.
That's kind of nice not to spoil christmas for someone, don't think i could do that for anyone.
You make a fair point but naivity is not the same as immaturity imo
I agree, and her birthday was at the beginning of Feb, so I planned to wait til April. Fate had alternative plans. My granddad died at the end of Feb that year and she came to the funeral at the beginning of March to provide support, but I ended up having to look after her because she was crying. So, when I hadn't been talking to her much the following week, she asked if I needed time alone, and I said I didn't want to return to the relationship.
I also believe I was immature and naive to think my next relationship would solve the problem, but it just made things worse"
So long as we learn from our mistakes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My ex husband hated them and had convinced me it was because I was bad at them. He had convinced me I was bad at most things.
Anyway after years of not doing it I met a man who was patient and the way he responded was just the biggest turn on for me. From that moment I loved them. I'm not sure how good or bad I am. However so long as it's enjoyable for both and done because I want to and not because I need to then we are always 75% of the way to great |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My ex husband hated them and had convinced me it was because I was bad at them. He had convinced me I was bad at most things.
Anyway after years of not doing it I met a man who was patient and the way he responded was just the biggest turn on for me. From that moment I loved them. I'm not sure how good or bad I am. However so long as it's enjoyable for both and done because I want to and not because I need to then we are always 75% of the way to great "
I'm glad you've found someone to enjoy with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't even remember how come i started to enjoy giving them.
I'm just gonna toss this idea out there, but maybe you didn't enjoy before because you weren't 100% into the guy you were with, and you weren't 100% comfortable cheating, however, now you don't have those concerns, you can do it for your own enjoyment. Might be wildly inaccurate, but I thought I'd suggest a possibility
Think it was coz i was with someone fairly inexperienced so i felt like he had nothing to compare me with, so yeah it was the guy you're right. Plus he was really good in bed and i wanted to return that favour too him, and i loved him so wasn't shy. I was fine with cheating on my boyfriend, seeing as i found out he was married so had started looking for someone else anyway (like i said not really mature enough for a relationship then).
I might have the wrong end of the stick, but I don't think it's immature to look elsewhere if you find out someone is not right. However, that may be a skewed perspective because I stayed with a woman for about 5 months after I'd decided I wanted to break up with her because I didn't want to ruin her Christmas or birthday. I still feel a lot of resentment over that, and I was an arsehole to my next girlfriend as a projection of those feelings
Now i'd just have dumped him, not cheated etc. I didn't even know married men cheated so it was a huge shock to find out i was in a relationship with one.
That's kind of nice not to spoil christmas for someone, don't think i could do that for anyone.
You make a fair point but naivity is not the same as immaturity imo
I agree, and her birthday was at the beginning of Feb, so I planned to wait til April. Fate had alternative plans. My granddad died at the end of Feb that year and she came to the funeral at the beginning of March to provide support, but I ended up having to look after her because she was crying. So, when I hadn't been talking to her much the following week, she asked if I needed time alone, and I said I didn't want to return to the relationship.
I also believe I was immature and naive to think my next relationship would solve the problem, but it just made things worse
So long as we learn from our mistakes. "
Definitely m'dear |
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How about communication start with a mutual wanking session and asking how the guy likes to be sucked off now that is. Sexy and every guy likes it different x |
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A guy on here. I was nervous as hell but the bloke said he was surprised it was my first time. Not done it since though, and as circumstances would have it not sure it won't be my last. |
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Well it's not something I've ever practiced and, unless my likes and tastes evolve over time, not something I'm ever likely to do either but having said that I bet I would give myself one of the best bj's I've ever had (if that makes sense!) because I know exactly what I like!
A bit like when it comes to making a cup of tea, nobody makes one (for me) as well as I do as I know the prefect strength, amount of milk and sugar I like etc 
Everyone is different when it comes to bj's - I've had some excellent ones and not so excellent ones and what I like is probably different to someone else, so I'm sure I could give myself a mind blowing bj but it might be crap for someone else!
Lol and I know that sounds all wrong!  |
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My first bj was in the guys car, he showed me what to do on my finger and I went to it. He asked several times if i was sure it was my first time haha He took my virginity too. Can't say I remember anything else all that well from then |
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"A guy on here. I was nervous as hell but the bloke said he was surprised it was my first time. Not done it since though, and as circumstances would have it not sure it won't be my last."
How come? If you don't mind me being a nosey git of course |
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"Well it's not something I've ever practiced and, unless my likes and tastes evolve over time, not something I'm ever likely to do either but having said that I bet I would give myself one of the best bj's I've ever had (if that makes sense!) because I know exactly what I like!
A bit like when it comes to making a cup of tea, nobody makes one (for me) as well as I do as I know the prefect strength, amount of milk and sugar I like etc
Everyone is different when it comes to bj's - I've had some excellent ones and not so excellent ones and what I like is probably different to someone else, so I'm sure I could give myself a mind blowing bj but it might be crap for someone else!
Lol and I know that sounds all wrong! "
It's your lucky day, I'm an abstract thinker, therefore I understand your logic.
In that vein, I can not imagine how my blowjobs would be, but from the way I was practicing, I would worship that dick |
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"How about communication start with a mutual wanking session and asking how the guy likes to be sucked off now that is. Sexy and every guy likes it different x"
Very good suggestion. Every situation is different, but until I've had a bit more practice I won't develop different techniques to be adaptive. That's my logic at least |
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"My first bj was in the guys car, he showed me what to do on my finger and I went to it. He asked several times if i was sure it was my first time haha He took my virginity too. Can't say I remember anything else all that well from then"
That sounds fun |
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"A guy on here. I was nervous as hell but the bloke said he was surprised it was my first time. Not done it since though, and as circumstances would have it not sure it won't be my last.
How come? If you don't mind me being a nosey git of course "
I'm not meeting anymore |
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"A guy on here. I was nervous as hell but the bloke said he was surprised it was my first time. Not done it since though, and as circumstances would have it not sure it won't be my last.
How come? If you don't mind me being a nosey git of course
I'm not meeting anymore"
Sad times  |
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I remember a girl practising on me and it was all teeth ! Fuk it hurt but she was so fit so i told her she was fabulous..
Lol
Alot like all the ladies verifications on here they we all the best ever .. Lol |
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"A guy on here. I was nervous as hell but the bloke said he was surprised it was my first time. Not done it since though, and as circumstances would have it not sure it won't be my last.
How come? If you don't mind me being a nosey git of course
I'm not meeting anymore
Sad times "
No I'm not sad...life is good |
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"I remember a girl practising on me and it was all teeth ! Fuk it hurt but she was so fit so i told her she was fabulous..
Lol
Alot like all the ladies verifications on here they we all the best ever .. Lol"
I dislike teethy blowjobs, so I'm practicing not giving teethy blowjobs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A guy on here. I was nervous as hell but the bloke said he was surprised it was my first time. Not done it since though, and as circumstances would have it not sure it won't be my last.
How come? If you don't mind me being a nosey git of course
I'm not meeting anymore
Sad times
No I'm not sad...life is good "
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"How about communication start with a mutual wanking session and asking how the guy likes to be sucked off now that is. Sexy and every guy likes it different x"
Excellent idea....he says unzipping...oops on my own - do it back up again and wait for another wanker to join me! |
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"I remember a girl practising on me and it was all teeth ! Fuk it hurt but she was so fit so i told her she was fabulous..
Lol
Alot like all the ladies verifications on here they we all the best ever .. Lol"
As they say - "that was the worst blow job I've ever had - it was fantastic!" - lol |
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