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over a year ago
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
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No, the idea of ,reclamation' sex with my partner would actively turn me off. I'm not his for him to reclaim. I'm not an object.
We sometimes have sex after we've had sex with someone else, but it's not because either of us is 'reclaiming' the other. We weren't theirs to begin with. |
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Or when she comes back from meeting someone. Listen to the
psychologists it's to do with overpowering the other man's sperm and orgasms are more powerful with more cum. Whatever it is explosive in my case! |
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By *ackspopCouple
over a year ago
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
No, the idea of ,reclamation' sex with my partner would actively turn me off. I'm not his for him to reclaim. I'm not an object.
We sometimes have sex after we've had sex with someone else, but it's not because either of us is 'reclaiming' the other. We weren't theirs to begin with."
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
No, the idea of ,reclamation' sex with my partner would actively turn me off. I'm not his for him to reclaim. I'm not an object.
We sometimes have sex after we've had sex with someone else, but it's not because either of us is 'reclaiming' the other. We weren't theirs to begin with."
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
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I've been told this...particularly by the couple I met on Saturday, relating to there intense bout the following morning! 
The week before, with another couple, we were laughing about how they were going to get jiggy again as soon as I was out the door...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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think the sex you share with others is so horny and you know how hot you are together - we touch and look at each other a lot when we are playing with others and its like - youre so gonna get it later   |
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Semantic police out in force
Why does it have to be about objectifying people? Why can't it be reclaiming their love or their dynamic or any of the other potential meanings that there is out there? Think some people quite happily seize on the bad connotations that they see within a sentence on the forum without taking in what the writer was trying to convey.
Reclamation sex is a term coined on another thread for when a couple within a cuckold relationship has sex with each other after their bull/stud/lover has left. There was nothing sinister about it just seemed to fit. |
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over a year ago
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That was how my first foray into swinging went, my wife at the time got a damn good seeing to in a hotel. When I went to pick her up, she got it and again when we got home... |
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"think the sex you share with others is so horny and you know how hot you are together - we touch and look at each other a lot when we are playing with others and its like - youre so gonna get it later "
Giggle this too |
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
No, the idea of ,reclamation' sex with my partner would actively turn me off. I'm not his for him to reclaim. I'm not an object.
We sometimes have sex after we've had sex with someone else, but it's not because either of us is 'reclaiming' the other. We weren't theirs to begin with."
I have used the term "reclaim sex" but I agree with you that there was no sense of ownership, more that as others have said, reliving the experience together and sharing it, for me makes it unlike any other sexual experience. It's incredibly passionate.
I use the term because people know it relates to what it is, not what it literally says. Same way as I say I love a good "blow job"... No one has yet inflated me during the procedure.
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"Sex with others is ohhh so very horny and hot. It's not reclaiming sex for us, but we do love the 'coming back together' sex a lot. "
Thats true for us too, its like playing with others is the 'forplay' and we are usually very horny for each other afterwards, and incredibly satisfying |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Semantic police out in force
Why does it have to be about objectifying people? Why can't it be reclaiming their love or their dynamic or any of the other potential meanings that there is out there? Think some people quite happily seize on the bad connotations that they see within a sentence on the forum without taking in what the writer was trying to convey.
Reclamation sex is a term coined on another thread for when a couple within a cuckold relationship has sex with each other after their bull/stud/lover has left. There was nothing sinister about it just seemed to fit."
The OP asked if couples enjoy 'reclamation'. My thoughts were that 'reclamation' sex has no place in my relationship because of the connotations it has. You can call it any other word you want, but that attitude still has no place in my relationship. That's as legitimate answer as any other on this thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To me, the term 'Reclamation Sex' means nothing. I love my hubby more than anything in the world and he doesn't need to 'reclaim' me or re-establish himself in any way shape or form. I'm his and always will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Semantic police out in force
Why does it have to be about objectifying people? Why can't it be reclaiming their love or their dynamic or any of the other potential meanings that there is out there? Think some people quite happily seize on the bad connotations that they see within a sentence on the forum without taking in what the writer was trying to convey.
Reclamation sex is a term coined on another thread for when a couple within a cuckold relationship has sex with each other after their bull/stud/lover has left. There was nothing sinister about it just seemed to fit.
The OP asked if couples enjoy 'reclamation'. My thoughts were that 'reclamation' sex has no place in my relationship because of the connotations it has. You can call it any other word you want, but that attitude still has no place in my relationship. That's as legitimate answer as any other on this thread."
That could be applied to a lot of activities that people engage in for instance those who go out to smoke a fag. The OP and the couple who first used the term weren't suggesting that there is ownership within a relationship.
If it had been called 'After swinging sex with partner.' and OP had asked 'After you either have watched your partner or have had sex with someone else whilst they've watched is the sex between the two of you more intense than usual?' Would your response been any different seeing any possible connotations have (to the best of my ability) been removed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it had been called 'After swinging sex with partner.' and OP had asked 'After you either have watched your partner or have had sex with someone else whilst they've watched is the sex between the two of you more intense than usual?' Would your response been any different seeing any possible connotations have (to the best of my ability) been removed?"
But the question isn't 'do you enjoy sex with your partner after having sex with other people' (because I would answer to that 'yes, sometimes, if I'm in the mood'). The question was basically around the idea of reasserting the couples relationship and pair-bonding again, as well as the way that some responders have taken it which is 'yes, I like to reclaim my partner afterwards' and the couple above who replied that many have better orgasms because you're overpowering the other man's sperm.
I don't feel the need to reclaim my partners, dominate his other partners, or any other posessive type trait. I would not date someone who enjoyed that kind of sex either.
Sometimes I have sex with my partner after one of us has had sex with someone else. Sometimes it is good sex. Sometimes is it not good sex. The good/badness of it is not influenced by the fact that they have had sex with someone else because that just doesn't matter to myself or any of my partners. If I'm honest, if we've been out having sex with someone else, by the time we get in we are usually too knackered to have sex again. So we just tend to go to our own beds and sleep peacefully until the morning... |
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"But the question isn't 'do you enjoy sex with your partner after having sex with other people' (because I would answer to that 'yes, sometimes, if I'm in the mood'). The question was basically around the idea of reasserting the couples relationship and pair-bonding again, as well as the way that some responders have taken it which is 'yes, I like to reclaim my partner afterwards' and the couple above who replied that many have better orgasms because you're overpowering the other man's sperm.
I don't feel the need to reclaim my partners, dominate his other partners, or any other posessive type trait. I would not date someone who enjoyed that kind of sex either.
Sometimes I have sex with my partner after one of us has had sex with someone else. Sometimes it is good sex. Sometimes is it not good sex. The good/badness of it is not influenced by the fact that they have had sex with someone else because that just doesn't matter to myself or any of my partners. If I'm honest, if we've been out having sex with someone else, by the time we get in we are usually too knackered to have sex again. So we just tend to go to our own beds and sleep peacefully until the morning..."
I still feel that your reading too much into it but perhaps that's due to my own bias.
The couple were referring to how a psychologist would view it as overpowering the sperm and not their actual view unless because it was mentioned it's their subconscious view of it? Something for a psychologist to tell us perhaps.
You're certainly an enigma Wasp. You stated on the cuckoldry thread that:
'We indulge in heavy humiliation. We're not into 'sharing' because we're in polyamorous/open relationships (so therefore, we're not sharing, it's just something we always do). But humiliation, status, hierarchy, all those good things.' so am a little confused to as to where you stand but certainly without you on the forum debate wouldn't be as much fun and that is meant as a compliment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You're certainly an enigma Wasp. You stated on the cuckoldry thread that:
'We indulge in heavy humiliation. We're not into 'sharing' because we're in polyamorous/open relationships (so therefore, we're not sharing, it's just something we always do). But humiliation, status, hierarchy, all those good things.' so am a little confused to as to where you stand but certainly without you on the forum debate wouldn't be as much fun and that is meant as a compliment."
I don't understand what you mean. I engage in cuckoldry and humiliation with one of my partners, but without ownership. It seems pretty self-explanatory to me? |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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You're certainly an enigma Wasp. You stated on the cuckoldry thread that:
'We indulge in heavy humiliation. We're not into 'sharing' because we're in polyamorous/open relationships (so therefore, we're not sharing, it's just something we always do). But humiliation, status, hierarchy, all those good things.' so am a little confused to as to where you stand but certainly without you on the forum debate wouldn't be as much fun and that is meant as a compliment.
I don't understand what you mean. I engage in cuckoldry and humiliation with one of my partners, but without ownership. It seems pretty self-explanatory to me?"
I'm with wasp on this one. I don't see how cuckoldry and humiliation equates to ownership?
I'm the cuck in my relationship with a bull. We do practice ownership. I'm owned by him. Not at any point do we reclaim. Or am I reclaimed or I need to reclaim him. I'm always his sub And he is always my dom. And we are always us. Other people may come into play but it never changes our dynamic. We don't play that much after he has gone to play with a hot wife. We usually do our play first before he goes off solo.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
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Yes yes yes! ?? |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"It was her use of the term hierarchy so semantics "
Hierarchy for me would mean D/s type roles. Still don't find that automatically means ownership. I play with many Doms and people that use all sorts of titles. Not at any point do I feel I am owned by them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
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OMG!!! Yes yes yes xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Semantic police out in force
Why does it have to be about objectifying people? Why can't it be reclaiming their love or their dynamic or any of the other potential meanings that there is out there? Think some people quite happily seize on the bad connotations that they see within a sentence on the forum without taking in what the writer was trying to convey.
Reclamation sex is a term coined on another thread for when a couple within a cuckold relationship has sex with each other after their bull/stud/lover has left. There was nothing sinister about it just seemed to fit."
The reason the thought police/person comments in these threads is to push their extreme left wing, hetero-monogamy hating agenda. There is zero else to be said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
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We always have amazing sex after we have had a meet together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was her use of the term hierarchy so semantics
Hierarchy for me would mean D/s type roles. Still don't find that automatically means ownership. I play with many Doms and people that use all sorts of titles. Not at any point do I feel I am owned by them. "
*Facepalm*
If you read some of the earlier posts you'll find that I was saying 'reclamation sex' didn't have to imply there was ownership within the relationship but it seems we have come back to a debate once again on semantics.
Reclamation sex could well imply the reclaiming of ones place in the hierarchy that otherwise had been taken by a bull.
It's a funny thing the English language don't you think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lot of people missing the point. It is getting back together sex really and it is because we are the only ones who make love and I am the only one who comes inside my wife so it is special. Also a strange comment about why have sex with others if the best sex you get is from your partner! What are you doing on a swinging site? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Semantic police out in force
Why does it have to be about objectifying people? Why can't it be reclaiming their love or their dynamic or any of the other potential meanings that there is out there? Think some people quite happily seize on the bad connotations that they see within a sentence on the forum without taking in what the writer was trying to convey.
Reclamation sex is a term coined on another thread for when a couple within a cuckold relationship has sex with each other after their bull/stud/lover has left. There was nothing sinister about it just seemed to fit.
The reason the thought police/person comments in these threads is to push their extreme left wing, hetero-monogamy hating agenda. There is zero else to be said."
1. I'm not 'extreme left wing'. I'm actually a radical centrist if you must make judgements about my political leanings.
2. I don't hate heterosexuals. I don't hate anyone because of their sexuality.
3. I don't hate monogamists. I don't have anyone because of their relationship status. (Seems a strange thing to write though, since this website - by it's very nature - is for those who do not find that monogamy agrees with them).
4. I have no agenda. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was her use of the term hierarchy so semantics "
Hierarchy play is like, playing different roles during sex games. Like going to a threesome and making my partner (or myself) bottom of the pile, as it were. Or giving one person in a scene more power than another. |
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"Semantic police out in force
Why does it have to be about objectifying people? Why can't it be reclaiming their love or their dynamic or any of the other potential meanings that there is out there? Think some people quite happily seize on the bad connotations that they see within a sentence on the forum without taking in what the writer was trying to convey.
Reclamation sex is a term coined on another thread for when a couple within a cuckold relationship has sex with each other after their bull/stud/lover has left. There was nothing sinister about it just seemed to fit.
The reason the thought police/person comments in these threads is to push their extreme left wing, hetero-monogamy hating agenda. There is zero else to be said.
1. I'm not 'extreme left wing'. I'm actually a radical centrist if you must make judgements about my political leanings.
2. I don't hate heterosexuals. I don't hate anyone because of their sexuality.
3. I don't hate monogamists. I don't have anyone because of their relationship status. (Seems a strange thing to write though, since this website - by it's very nature - is for those who do not find that monogamy agrees with them).
4. I have no agenda. "
We think the Lady doth protest too much...or is the mention of the word 'Lady' too demeaning and riddled with male chauvinist content?? |
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"A lot of people missing the point. It is getting back together sex really and it is because we are the only ones who make love and I am the only one who comes inside my wife so it is special. "
Yes, this is what I understood the OP to be getting at too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Semantic police out in force
Why does it have to be about objectifying people? Why can't it be reclaiming their love or their dynamic or any of the other potential meanings that there is out there? Think some people quite happily seize on the bad connotations that they see within a sentence on the forum without taking in what the writer was trying to convey.
Reclamation sex is a term coined on another thread for when a couple within a cuckold relationship has sex with each other after their bull/stud/lover has left. There was nothing sinister about it just seemed to fit.
The reason the thought police/person comments in these threads is to push their extreme left wing, hetero-monogamy hating agenda. There is zero else to be said.
1. I'm not 'extreme left wing'. I'm actually a radical centrist if you must make judgements about my political leanings.
2. I don't hate heterosexuals. I don't hate anyone because of their sexuality.
3. I don't hate monogamists. I don't have anyone because of their relationship status. (Seems a strange thing to write though, since this website - by it's very nature - is for those who do not find that monogamy agrees with them).
4. I have no agenda.
We think the Lady doth protest too much...or is the mention of the word 'Lady' too demeaning and riddled with male chauvinist content??"
You can't insult someone and then expect them not to say anything back.
Also - I don't consider myself a lady. Not because it's demeaning or riddled with male chauvinism, but simply because I'm transgender - like many on this site. |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"It was her use of the term hierarchy so semantics
Hierarchy for me would mean D/s type roles. Still don't find that automatically means ownership. I play with many Doms and people that use all sorts of titles. Not at any point do I feel I am owned by them.
*Facepalm*
If you read some of the earlier posts you'll find that I was saying 'reclamation sex' didn't have to imply there was ownership within the relationship but it seems we have come back to a debate once again on semantics.
Reclamation sex could well imply the reclaiming of ones place in the hierarchy that otherwise had been taken by a bull.
It's a funny thing the English language don't you think "
Face palm all you want. I'm referring to the direct quote of someone else you went searching for and I responded to that. You've contradicted yourself. You're saying that the phrase 'reclaiming' was being used loosely and doesn't have to be in conjunction with ownership. Yep, totally agree. But you're directly quoting someone's interest in cuckoldry, humiliation, status and hierarchy in response to them saying they don't practice ownership to argue that they do.
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firstly why is so many need to put labels on everything . we are a couple who enjoy playing with others whether it be together or seperately and we are always horny to share such experiences after and this always leads to more sex . its not about reonnecting or claiming the other. we are eachothers and only each others . its about been horny as fuck which is what swinging is about . lol |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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I often like to walk the dog in the woods.
I often think how different a lumberjack would see them, compared to a bird watcher or two lovers..
Korbyzki say the map is not the territory.
They are the same woods, different perspectives from where they are coming from.
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"It was her use of the term hierarchy so semantics
Hierarchy for me would mean D/s type roles. Still don't find that automatically means ownership. I play with many Doms and people that use all sorts of titles. Not at any point do I feel I am owned by them.
*Facepalm*
If you read some of the earlier posts you'll find that I was saying 'reclamation sex' didn't have to imply there was ownership within the relationship but it seems we have come back to a debate once again on semantics.
Reclamation sex could well imply the reclaiming of ones place in the hierarchy that otherwise had been taken by a bull.
It's a funny thing the English language don't you think
Face palm all you want. I'm referring to the direct quote of someone else you went searching for and I responded to that. You've contradicted yourself. You're saying that the phrase 'reclaiming' was being used loosely and doesn't have to be in conjunction with ownership. Yep, totally agree. But you're directly quoting someone's interest in cuckoldry, humiliation, status and hierarchy in response to them saying they don't practice ownership to argue that they do.
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I haven't argued that Wasp does take part in ownership at all. I was teasing her about the connotations that words possess so if we could all back up for one sec, chill out and continue as we were because as said to wasp in a private message after I had made that post I have no argument with her.
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"It was her use of the term hierarchy so semantics
Hierarchy for me would mean D/s type roles. Still don't find that automatically means ownership. I play with many Doms and people that use all sorts of titles. Not at any point do I feel I am owned by them.
*Facepalm*
If you read some of the earlier posts you'll find that I was saying 'reclamation sex' didn't have to imply there was ownership within the relationship but it seems we have come back to a debate once again on semantics.
Reclamation sex could well imply the reclaiming of ones place in the hierarchy that otherwise had been taken by a bull.
It's a funny thing the English language don't you think
Face palm all you want. I'm referring to the direct quote of someone else you went searching for and I responded to that. You've contradicted yourself. You're saying that the phrase 'reclaiming' was being used loosely and doesn't have to be in conjunction with ownership. Yep, totally agree. But you're directly quoting someone's interest in cuckoldry, humiliation, status and hierarchy in response to them saying they don't practice ownership to argue that they do.
I haven't argued that Wasp does take part in ownership at all. I was teasing her about the connotations that words possess so if we could all back up for one sec, chill out and continue as we were because as said to wasp in a private message after I had made that post I have no argument with her.
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I simply said I agreed with her. And you started 'face palming' in a patronising way. I'm not that interested in your private conversations, I was responding to what you'd quoted on the thread. I'm neither emotional or argumentative. Simply disagreeing with one poster and agreeing with another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was her use of the term hierarchy so semantics
Hierarchy for me would mean D/s type roles. Still don't find that automatically means ownership. I play with many Doms and people that use all sorts of titles. Not at any point do I feel I am owned by them.
*Facepalm*
If you read some of the earlier posts you'll find that I was saying 'reclamation sex' didn't have to imply there was ownership within the relationship but it seems we have come back to a debate once again on semantics.
Reclamation sex could well imply the reclaiming of ones place in the hierarchy that otherwise had been taken by a bull.
It's a funny thing the English language don't you think
Face palm all you want. I'm referring to the direct quote of someone else you went searching for and I responded to that. You've contradicted yourself. You're saying that the phrase 'reclaiming' was being used loosely and doesn't have to be in conjunction with ownership. Yep, totally agree. But you're directly quoting someone's interest in cuckoldry, humiliation, status and hierarchy in response to them saying they don't practice ownership to argue that they do.
I haven't argued that Wasp does take part in ownership at all. I was teasing her about the connotations that words possess so if we could all back up for one sec, chill out and continue as we were because as said to wasp in a private message after I had made that post I have no argument with her.
I simply said I agreed with her. And you started 'face palming' in a patronising way. I'm not that interested in your private conversations, I was responding to what you'd quoted on the thread. I'm neither emotional or argumentative. Simply disagreeing with one poster and agreeing with another. "
See this the problem with conversing on the forum as opposed to face to face as my face palm was never intended in a patronising way and I'm sorry if you took it that way. Neither have I called you emotional or arguementive as quite often we've metaphorically speaking 'stood side by side' on topics. I'd rather draw a line underneath it all and move on seeing I feel this has been all a misunderstanding then an arguement. |
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"A lot of people missing the point. It is getting back together sex really and it is because we are the only ones who make love and I am the only one who comes inside my wife so it is special. Also a strange comment about why have sex with others if the best sex you get is from your partner! What are you doing on a swinging site? "
Actually, Im doing very well on a swinging site thanks!!! |
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"Was reading the other men who watch their wives with other men enjoy the best sex ever when they get home.
Is it true that couples enjoy the sex afterwards that much better?
OMG!!! Yes yes yes xx"
This , and if that ever changes , we will stop swinging . |
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"firstly why is so many need to put labels on everything . we are a couple who enjoy playing with others whether it be together or seperately and we are always horny to share such experiences after and this always leads to more sex . its not about reonnecting or claiming the other. we are eachothers and only each others . its about been horny as fuck which is what swinging is about . lol"
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No, the idea of ,reclamation' sex with my partner would actively turn me off. I'm not his for him to reclaim. I'm not an object."
Of course you are an object you have a tangable form therefore you are an object, even though you are an eating drinking breathing thinking person you are also an object.
"We sometimes have sex after we've had sex with someone else, but it's not because either of us is 'reclaiming' the other. We weren't theirs to begin with."
This is possibly because you are not married and therefore are not one with your partners. We believe a married couple are two parts of a whole.
When when part of the couple has been away or has sex with another person then we rebond on return. This may be viewed as 'reclaiming' or it could be viewed as re-inforcing the existing bonds.
The words are unimportant it is similar to a person who has had a really busy time at work taking time out to relax and find themself again. |
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This is possibly because you are not married and therefore are not one with your partners. We believe a married couple are two parts of a whole.
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Please don't patronise me by suggesting that signing a contract would somehow make my relationship more meaningful. You have no concept of how I live my life.
I don't need a contract with a man to make me 'whole'. I am already whole. |
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By *arry247Couple
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This is possibly because you are not married and therefore are not one with your partners. We believe a married couple are two parts of a whole.
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Please don't patronise me by suggesting that signing a contract would somehow make my relationship more meaningful. You have no concept of how I live my life.
I don't need a contract with a man to make me 'whole'. I am already whole."
We were not patronising you in the slightest you obviously have trouble comprehending what we wrote.
It is rather you patronising us by suggesting marriage is nothing more than signing a contract.
We did not suggest you were not a whole object what we did suggest was that you were not one with your partners. You do not see yourself and your partners as one but rather as individual people who choose to live a polyamorous lifestyle
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We did not suggest you were not a whole object what we did suggest was that you were not one with your partners. You do not see yourself and your partners as one but rather as individual people who choose to live a polyamorous lifestyle
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And the two relationships I have are every bit as meaningful as yours. We just don't take ownership of each other in that way. I also know married people who feel the same. Marriage is not what makes people feel that way. |
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