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Think I'm just too nice
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think I need to change my approach. My opening message is too nice, too normal, like I'm on Plenty Of Fish. Think maybe guys in here open with explicit messages, scenarios etc? What sort of opening messages do the good ladies of the forum prefer? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be yourself bud. Be the person you are.
If you try changing you will just find old you slips back.
Take your time and relax just enjoy the forums
Don't try and be some thing your not.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be yourself you canny please every woman on here and we are all different believe it or not. So be you don't be a sheep and by being you , you will attract the women you desire. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I asked the same question a while back as I think we're both in the same boat here, I see the site as having something for everyone, a polite message (which is what I always send) gets ignored or deleted, but there is that .1% of people on here that find it refreshing, specially when it's personalised to their profile, don't change your approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just myself, a polite message a little about myself and I include compliments on the ladies profile/photos.
You won't meet everyone you message but that's life, good luck mate  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you need to change your profile name before you work on your approach.
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I had a normal one and have seen lots of guys with such names, plenty of verifications to match. Have to wait a few days I think, not changed it long ago. Thanks for input. ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just give it time mate ! I was in the same situation and thought about leaving but i just plodded on dipping in and out of the chat rooms,Forum ( people get to
know you a little) and continued to send nice and normal messages.... I wouldn't say I've been overwhelmed with messages and offers but things have picked up ! Be yourself and give it time |
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"I think I need to change my approach. My opening message is too nice, too normal, like I'm on Plenty Of Fish. Think maybe guys in here open with explicit messages, scenarios etc? What sort of opening messages do the good ladies of the forum prefer?"
Your profile name wouldn't entice me to even read your message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I need to change my approach. My opening message is too nice, too normal, like I'm on Plenty Of Fish. Think maybe guys in here open with explicit messages, scenarios etc? What sort of opening messages do the good ladies of the forum prefer?"
You could do that. Ooh, precede it with a friends request. It's a winning combination
Being a little less of an ass now, I go through stages of messaging depending on the state of mind I'm in, but I never use the same message twice |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Totally agree with the other posts explicit message would get an instant delete from us followed by block. Just keep doing what feels most comfortable it will work with some and not with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I need to change my approach. My opening message is too nice, too normal, like I'm on Plenty Of Fish. Think maybe guys in here open with explicit messages, scenarios etc? What sort of opening messages do the good ladies of the forum prefer?
Your profile name wouldn't entice me to even read your message. "
Keep nice with first messages, is my advice. Crude openers are very off-putting.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?"
What about SomersetSunset? It's not rude, but it will probably get more attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?"
Ok, that's quite a funny name, but I don't like usernames with dick or the like in them (missus).
I mean, I'm only speaking for myself. Something classier would be good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
What about SomersetSunset? It's not rude, but it will probably get more attention"
Ah, that's a decent name! |
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
What about SomersetSunset? It's not rude, but it will probably get more attention"
That's a good one.
The current username and half the profile is over egging the "I'm great at makin women cum" message, so it would be an improvement.
It has nothing to do with being too nice. |
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
What about SomersetSunset? It's not rude, but it will probably get more attention
That's a good one.
The current username and half the profile is over egging the "I'm great at makin women cum" message, so it would be an improvement.
It has nothing to do with being too nice."
I think the problem lies in the misconception that seems to run that the women on here are gagging for it and will shack up with any man who sends a dick pic. Some might be, but the majority are just women who happen to enjoy sex, so in theory, no different to pof. The only difference is openness about what you want sexually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does Best of the West sound too up myself? Still a play on words "
Only if you can prove it and continue proving it, however, that is not your decision to make on how good you are, just to make sure you do your best to satisfy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I shall have a rethink of my profile and name. I just thought if I put that I was a considerate lover, I'd sound too slushy etc? I haven't lied in my profile in any way but get it now, it's not what people want to read right away, first impressions and all that. I certainly wouldn't have put that on POF even if it was allowed. Thank you mister. |
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"I shall have a rethink of my profile and name. I just thought if I put that I was a considerate lover, I'd sound too slushy etc? I haven't lied in my profile in any way but get it now, it's not what people want to read right away, first impressions and all that. I certainly wouldn't have put that on POF even if it was allowed. Thank you mister. "
Always happy to help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I shall have a rethink of my profile and name. I just thought if I put that I was a considerate lover, I'd sound too slushy etc? I haven't lied in my profile in any way but get it now, it's not what people want to read right away, first impressions and all that. I certainly wouldn't have put that on POF even if it was allowed. Thank you mister.
Always happy to help "
I just don't always follow my own advice  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I shall have a rethink of my profile and name. I just thought if I put that I was a considerate lover, I'd sound too slushy etc? I haven't lied in my profile in any way but get it now, it's not what people want to read right away, first impressions and all that. I certainly wouldn't have put that on POF even if it was allowed. Thank you mister.
Always happy to help "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last. |
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Just be yourself don,t try to be someone your not because you will come un stuck if you meet.
I often wonder about these guys that say they have 10 inches get chance to meet but because of the lies they can not |
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"If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last. "
It sounds better to me, but I'm not your target audience |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just be yourself don,t try to be someone your not because you will come un stuck if you meet.
I often wonder about these guys that say they have 10 inches get chance to meet but because of the lies they can not "
There are a few couples and singles in my area interested in size enough to request, so I'm guessing there's a few who fall flat once they get an offer because they lied. Swings and roundabouts |
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
Ok, that's quite a funny name, but I don't like usernames with dick or the like in them (missus).
I mean, I'm only speaking for myself. Something classier would be good "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you need to change your profile name before you work on your approach.
This! "
As said previously I have to wait a few hours I guess as I changed it 7 days ago. But thanks for input. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him. |
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
What about SomersetSunset? It's not rude, but it will probably get more attention
That's a good one.
The current username and half the profile is over egging the "I'm great at makin women cum" message, so it would be an improvement.
It has nothing to do with being too nice."
Spot on! |
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"I think you need to change your profile name before you work on your approach.
This!
As said previously I have to wait a few hours I guess as I changed it 7 days ago. But thanks for input. "
Good work... nice to see someone paying attention to advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
Ok, that's quite a funny name, but I don't like usernames with dick or the like in them (missus).
I mean, I'm only speaking for myself. Something classier would be good
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Scrumpy Shep |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
Ok, that's quite a funny name, but I don't like usernames with dick or the like in them (missus).
I mean, I'm only speaking for myself. Something classier would be good
Scrumpy Shep "
Liking this one |
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"If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last. "
First off, it's nice to see an op actually taking on board suggestions without being arsey!
You are competing against thousands of men: you need to stand out, and sadly you don't as you've fallen into the trap of simply putting up a generic profile.
Without claiming to be the worlds greatest blow your own trumpet, tell us what makes you you. Say what you want: if you prefer petite blondes state it: the brunette bbws will get over it, discerning is good.
Don't over think just be yourself as you can't please everyone and enjoy.
You've come across as a decent bloke, good luck to you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last.
First off, it's nice to see an op actually taking on board suggestions without being arsey!
You are competing against thousands of men: you need to stand out, and sadly you don't as you've fallen into the trap of simply putting up a generic profile.
Without claiming to be the worlds greatest blow your own trumpet, tell us what makes you you. Say what you want: if you prefer petite blondes state it: the brunette bbws will get over it, discerning is good.
Don't over think just be yourself as you can't please everyone and enjoy.
You've come across as a decent bloke, good luck to you! "
Thank you. That's made my day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him."
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo"
Lmao that's what I'm hoping for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo"
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
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That's different, blindness by nipple is the one of the few ways I'd happily go blind |
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"If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last.
First off, it's nice to see an op actually taking on board suggestions without being arsey!
You are competing against thousands of men: you need to stand out, and sadly you don't as you've fallen into the trap of simply putting up a generic profile.
Without claiming to be the worlds greatest blow your own trumpet, tell us what makes you you. Say what you want: if you prefer petite blondes state it: the brunette bbws will get over it, discerning is good.
Don't over think just be yourself as you can't please everyone and enjoy.
You've come across as a decent bloke, good luck to you! "
Seconded!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
Lmao that's what I'm hoping for. "
Ah, foiled. Giving out my kryptonite in the forums. No wonder my personal note about myself says I'm a wanker |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last.
First off, it's nice to see an op actually taking on board suggestions without being arsey!
You are competing against thousands of men: you need to stand out, and sadly you don't as you've fallen into the trap of simply putting up a generic profile.
Without claiming to be the worlds greatest blow your own trumpet, tell us what makes you you. Say what you want: if you prefer petite blondes state it: the brunette bbws will get over it, discerning is good.
Don't over think just be yourself as you can't please everyone and enjoy.
You've come across as a decent bloke, good luck to you!
Seconded!
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Yep, I'll third that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
That's different, blindness by nipple is the one of the few ways I'd happily go blind"
They're really soft, they won't blind you. |
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I'm not sure why this is so complicated. The obvious first message should consist of:
Hello.
Who you are.
What attracted you to them.
And obviously what you'd like to achieve.
So if I was sending a message to a lady (I'll call her Jane), it may go like this.
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Hi Jane, I'm Cal from Scunthorpe.
I was just browsing through the local profiles when I stumbled across yours. I can honestly say that I've never seen a more stunning pair of legs in all my years. What's more, after reading your profile we seem to be on a very similar wavelength and share a love of rubiks cubes.
It would be great if you could find the time to take a peek at my profile and if I appeal it would b great to hear back.
Cal x
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Also, attach a face pic to your message. Even if there are pics on you profile, add one to the message.
Cal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure why this is so complicated. The obvious first message should consist of:
Hello.
Who you are.
What attracted you to them.
And obviously what you'd like to achieve.
So if I was sending a message to a lady (I'll call her Jane), it may go like this.
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Hi Jane, I'm Cal from Scunthorpe.
I was just browsing through the local profiles when I stumbled across yours. I can honestly say that I've never seen a more stunning pair of legs in all my years. What's more, after reading your profile we seem to be on a very similar wavelength and share a love of rubiks cubes.
It would be great if you could find the time to take a peek at my profile and if I appeal it would b great to hear back.
Cal x
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Also, attach a face pic to your message. Even if there are pics on you profile, add one to the message.
Cal"
Ah, I'm a notorious non-sender of face pics. I get so caught up in the message that I just forget. Oops |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
That's different, blindness by nipple is the one of the few ways I'd happily go blind
They're really soft, they won't blind you. "
It's like an eye cushion then?  mmm, I'll just rest my eyes on them for a while  |
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"Just be yourself bud. Be the person you are.
If you try changing you will just find old you slips back.
Take your time and relax just enjoy the forums
Don't try and be some thing your not.
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exactly.
maybe its the people you choose to message that are wrong rather than the messages you send.
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I treat my opening message as if I met someone outside a bar. A chance remark on their profile or a post on the forums. A compliment on a pic.
Then I leave it. No reply is no problem. They have just carried on with their drink and I am not getting to chat.
If they chat, then that is a good sign. But you are still a million miles away from sex.
Friends first,to a degree. Then if they raise the subject of more... |
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"Ah, I'm a notorious non-sender of face pics. I get so caught up in the message that I just forget. Oops "
We often say "we've attached a pic" and then forget to... which means a quick second message saying ... here's the picture  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
That's different, blindness by nipple is the one of the few ways I'd happily go blind
They're really soft, they won't blind you.
It's like an eye cushion then? mmm, I'll just rest my eyes on them for a while "
Aw. *Strokes your hair while i fall asleep* |
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"I treat my opening message as if I met someone outside a bar. A chance remark on their profile or a post on the forums. A compliment on a pic.
Then I leave it. No reply is no problem. They have just carried on with their drink and I am not getting to chat.
If they chat, then that is a good sign. But you are still a million miles away from sex.
Friends first,to a degree. Then if they raise the subject of more... "
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"I treat my opening message as if I met someone outside a bar. A chance remark on their profile or a post on the forums. A compliment on a pic.
Then I leave it. No reply is no problem. They have just carried on with their drink and I am not getting to chat.
If they chat, then that is a good sign. But you are still a million miles away from sex.
Friends first,to a degree. Then if they raise the subject of more... "
Exactly this! |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"I'm not sure why this is so complicated. The obvious first message should consist of:
Hello.
Who you are.
What attracted you to them.
And obviously what you'd like to achieve.
So if I was sending a message to a lady (I'll call her Jane), it may go like this.
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Hi Jane, I'm Cal from Scunthorpe.
I was just browsing through the local profiles when I stumbled across yours. I can honestly say that I've never seen a more stunning pair of legs in all my years. What's more, after reading your profile we seem to be on a very similar wavelength and share a love of rubiks cubes.
It would be great if you could find the time to take a peek at my profile and if I appeal it would b great to hear back.
Cal x
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Also, attach a face pic to your message. Even if there are pics on you profile, add one to the message.
Cal"
Que the new Cock and foof measuring implement .. . .the rubiks cube... |
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"If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last. "
Profile doesn't say quite enough for me. What are the women/couples you want to meet like? Describe them? |
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"Thanks all. Just not getting anywhere, been here quite some time. Must be me, could sit here and blame my profile, but first impressions count. "
First impression do count. What impression do you think that your profile name gives? |
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"Thanks all. Just not getting anywhere, been here quite some time. Must be me, could sit here and blame my profile, but first impressions count.
First impression do count. What impression do you think that your profile name gives?"
You didn't read the whole thread either then?
Name change is imminent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I treat my opening message as if I met someone outside a bar. A chance remark on their profile or a post on the forums. A compliment on a pic.
Then I leave it. No reply is no problem. They have just carried on with their drink and I am not getting to chat.
If they chat, then that is a good sign. But you are still a million miles away from sex.
Friends first,to a degree. Then if they raise the subject of more... "
Initially, it's all about the approach & this is a good one.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
That's different, blindness by nipple is the one of the few ways I'd happily go blind
They're really soft, they won't blind you.
It's like an eye cushion then? mmm, I'll just rest my eyes on them for a while
Aw. *Strokes your hair while i fall asleep*"
That sounds perfect, might come to yours tonight  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
That's different, blindness by nipple is the one of the few ways I'd happily go blind
They're really soft, they won't blind you.
It's like an eye cushion then? mmm, I'll just rest my eyes on them for a while
Aw. *Strokes your hair while i fall asleep*
That sounds perfect, might come to yours tonight "
If i'm already asleep just make yourself at home in my boobs.
I haven't slept all night in case you're wondering... |
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If you say that you've read a profile and then there's things in your profile which don't match theirs , then you probably won't get a reply. Such as, say they can't accommodate, and you also can't accommodate. They aren't mind readers. Tell them why in your first message. Also if their profile asks you to attach a face picture, then do it. There's 50 other messages to plough through each day that have read their profile and attached a face pic! X |
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"I treat my opening message as if I met someone outside a bar. A chance remark on their profile or a post on the forums. A compliment on a pic.
Then I leave it. No reply is no problem. They have just carried on with their drink and I am not getting to chat.
If they chat, then that is a good sign. But you are still a million miles away from sex.
Friends first,to a degree. Then if they raise the subject of more...
Initially, it's all about the approach & this is a good one.... "
Prime example. Classy and I had a side chat during a thread ages ago. Now, her profile is hot and I probably wouldn't have messaged her at that time (as I was more reserved) but we chatted and have been friends on here since.
Still haven't taken it further though  ...but I am cool with that. Good things come to those that wait. |
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"Ah, I'm a notorious non-sender of face pics. I get so caught up in the message that I just forget. Oops
We often say "we've attached a pic" and then forget to... which means a quick second message saying ... here's the picture "
Nah I'm an asshole, if I've forgotten, I assume if my message was interesting enough that they'll check my profile |
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As others have said, the name is slightly off putting but I've read the whole thread and it's good to see you taking on board the advice.
I think first messages are really hard because everyone wants something different. I prefer less explicit comments and more getting to know me type stuff. If someone makes me laugh in the first messages, that's brilliant.
Also since I've been chatting on the forum and on chat more, I've had less of the 'fancy a shag?' Type inboxes and more conversation.
Whoever is was above who said that the misconception is that women are desperate and will just jump into bed with anyone is part of the issue. I'm still looking for the right person and I'm in no rush, so an explicit message wouldn't help.
Hope you feel better now you've made some changes?
KJ x |
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"Explicit messages describing what we are going to do or anything sexual usually get instant deletes from me! "
Ditto, and I've now started blocking the repeat offenders. |
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"As others have said, the name is slightly off putting but I've read the whole thread and it's good to see you taking on board the advice.
I think first messages are really hard because everyone wants something different. I prefer less explicit comments and more getting to know me type stuff. If someone makes me laugh in the first messages, that's brilliant.
Also since I've been chatting on the forum and on chat more, I've had less of the 'fancy a shag?' Type inboxes and more conversation.
Whoever is was above who said that the misconception is that women are desperate and will just jump into bed with anyone is part of the issue. I'm still looking for the right person and I'm in no rush, so an explicit message wouldn't help.
Hope you feel better now you've made some changes?
KJ x"
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"Thanks all. Just not getting anywhere, been here quite some time. Must be me, could sit here and blame my profile, but first impressions count.
First impression do count. What impression do you think that your profile name gives?
You didn't read the whole thread either then?
Name change is imminent. "
Read the whole thread? Why would I want to do that!  |
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"Thanks all. Just not getting anywhere, been here quite some time. Must be me, could sit here and blame my profile, but first impressions count.
First impression do count. What impression do you think that your profile name gives?
You didn't read the whole thread either then?
Name change is imminent. "
I wasn't going to say!! |
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Thank you all so much. Such positive replies, was half expecting a slating. Name change will happen as soon as I can and I will be elaborating on my profile.
Thanks again. Scrumpy Shep/Somerset Sunset ???? |
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"Thanks all. Just not getting anywhere, been here quite some time. Must be me, could sit here and blame my profile, but first impressions count.
First impression do count. What impression do you think that your profile name gives?
You didn't read the whole thread either then?
Name change is imminent.
Read the whole thread? Why would I want to do that! "
Some days I have absolutely no idea! |
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"Thank you all so much. Such positive replies, was half expecting a slating. Name change will happen as soon as I can and I will be elaborating on my profile.
Thanks again. Scrumpy Shep/Somerset Sunset ????"
Somerset Sunset sounds too girly to me. |
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"Thank you all so much. Such positive replies, was half expecting a slating. Name change will happen as soon as I can and I will be elaborating on my profile.
Thanks again. Scrumpy Shep/Somerset Sunset ????
Somerset Sunset sounds too girly to me. "
Lmao, that was my recommendation. No wonder I draw more male views |
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"Thank you all so much. Such positive replies, was half expecting a slating. Name change will happen as soon as I can and I will be elaborating on my profile.
Thanks again. Scrumpy Shep/Somerset Sunset ????
Somerset Sunset sounds too girly to me.
Lmao, that was my recommendation. No wonder I draw more male views "
Just my opinion, doesn't mean it's right |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?"
It's been done before. And long term forum users may remember one example.
Maybe Richard N Cider? |
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"Thank you all so much. Such positive replies, was half expecting a slating. Name change will happen as soon as I can and I will be elaborating on my profile.
Thanks again. Scrumpy Shep/Somerset Sunset ????
Somerset Sunset sounds too girly to me.
Lmao, that was my recommendation. No wonder I draw more male views "
lol |
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"Thanks all. Back to profile name...I do like a funny clever one. I'm from Somerset so how about Dick N. Cider?
It's been done before. And long term forum users may remember one example.
Maybe Richard N Cider? "
Could be |
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"Thank you all so much. Such positive replies, was half expecting a slating. Name change will happen as soon as I can and I will be elaborating on my profile.
Thanks again. Scrumpy Shep/Somerset Sunset ????
Somerset Sunset sounds too girly to me.
Lmao, that was my recommendation. No wonder I draw more male views
Just my opinion, doesn't mean it's right "
Valid reasoning mi'lady, I'll just say I'm in touch with my feminine side and flounce off |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Ah, I'm a notorious non-sender of face pics. I get so caught up in the message that I just forget. Oops "
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"We often say "we've attached a pic" and then forget to... which means a quick second message saying ... here's the picture "
I'm guilty of both these, too.
There's also people who only pretend to forget in order to get yours, then classily block. |
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"I also can't stand explicit messages and delete them.
Just try and be more funny or interesting than most guys on here is my best advice. Coz i'm mostly looks based and shallow on here, but if a funny guy messages me or someone interesting then i'm also interested in him.
I'm so screwed then hahaha, I'm neither funny nor interesting imo
You was ok with me poking you in the eye with my nipples though, if that's not funny then idk what is.
That's different, blindness by nipple is the one of the few ways I'd happily go blind
They're really soft, they won't blind you.
It's like an eye cushion then? mmm, I'll just rest my eyes on them for a while
Aw. *Strokes your hair while i fall asleep*
That sounds perfect, might come to yours tonight
If i'm already asleep just make yourself at home in my boobs.
I haven't slept all night in case you're wondering..."
Mmm, lovely boobs to snuggle into. I'll give you a shoulder rub if you're awake dear |
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Being decent and nice as a person is different to behaviour that you employ. You've learned lots of things so can learn more.
Communication is no good unless it's both meaningful and effective for the recipients.
It's not a dating site here so needs a different approach. It's not fancy a fuck territory either. Experiment. |
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"If any of you previous posters are still around, how does my profile look now. Will be a few hours before name change as I only did it 7 days ago last.
Profile doesn't say quite enough for me. What are the women/couples you want to meet like? Describe them? "
I agree with this but would add that you've edited out the superlatives about how amazing you are giving orgasms, which is a good start.
In my profile I explicitly dismiss any such claims of sexual prowess etc., etc. as it creates a more honest portrayal, and does get people more comfortable messaging me, knowing that I don't boast or pester.
I also agree that you should be engaging with the type of person you actually want to meet both in your profile and in your messages, and that needs attention to the detail of their profiles as is mentioned in many other posts on this thread. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I think I need to change my approach. My opening message is too nice, too normal, like I'm on Plenty Of Fish. Think maybe guys in here open with explicit messages, scenarios etc? What sort of opening messages do the good ladies of the forum prefer?"
just be the best "You" you can be.... don't worry about anyone elses approach
if you change you are not being "you" anymore... you are just being an image you think people want....
the problem with asking an open ended question like the one you did is that in the end, the person answering is only answering for them... so if you ask a million people you'll get a million different answers...
i think the trap you fall into is that if you try to appeal to everyone, you spread yourself so thin to the point of being bland and saying nothing...
this isn't a populatiry contest, you will never appeal to everyone!!! just be specific with the people you are trying to play with..... |
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Remember that single women generally tend to get a lot of messages. In my experience, half will be nice normal "how are you you seem nice" kind of stuff, half will be the "I'm gonna fill ur holes!!!" kind of messages.
For me, neither would really tempt me to respond.
Rather than sending a general message to as many people as possible, take time to read profiles and send them a message that's more personalised to them. Showing that you've actually taken the time to read the profile and find out a little something about the person you're responding to is always a plus.
Also, change your own profile text. Say a little something about yourself beyond sex, like your interests. It makes you seem more human. :p |
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"Remember that single women generally tend to get a lot of messages. In my experience, half will be nice normal "how are you you seem nice" kind of stuff, half will be the "I'm gonna fill ur holes!!!" kind of messages.
For me, neither would really tempt me to respond.
Rather than sending a general message to as many people as possible, take time to read profiles and send them a message that's more personalised to them. Showing that you've actually taken the time to read the profile and find out a little something about the person you're responding to is always a plus.
Also, change your own profile text. Say a little something about yourself beyond sex, like your interests. It makes you seem more human. :p"
But, but, what if I don't have interests outside of sex  I'm so one dimensional, I'm a line |
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"I think I need to change my approach. My opening message is too nice, too normal, like I'm on Plenty Of Fish. Think maybe guys in here open with explicit messages, scenarios etc? What sort of opening messages do the good ladies of the forum prefer?"
Take the similar photo down from your profile as the same as the lady who verified you a while back, Tottenham Hotspur sign on the door, a bit like a buddy sharing thing from a meet. Just an idea. |
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"I think I need to change my approach. My opening message is too nice, too normal, like I'm on Plenty Of Fish. Think maybe guys in here open with explicit messages, scenarios etc? What sort of opening messages do the good ladies of the forum prefer?
Take the similar photo down from your profile as the same as the lady who verified you a while back, Tottenham Hotspur sign on the door, a bit like a buddy sharing thing from a meet. Just an idea."
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