"Me and my partner both have fantasies about seeing eachother with someone else but we dont know how we would be if it were more than a fantasy. Anyone else have this problem?"
Quite a few I imagine. If you can agree between yourselves to see it as a joint experience and to be absolutely honest about how you feel afterwards and not get angry or take offence you should be fine. If one or both of you doesn't enjoy it there's no need to do it again.  |
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Clarence wanted to see me with a guy but I was worried about this. We went to a club and I played with a guy but not sex to see how we both felt and then we did the same with him playing with a Woman! I was sure I would be okay with it but he worried.
We took it slow and both love it xx |
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Always set your own pace, but in the end you only live once. If you don't try it you will never know.
One thing I can almost say with certainty is that if you both agree to do it just once and quit if neither likes it, it's highly unlikely to be a moment where you walk in and find your next true love.
So the chance of it ruining an already strong relationship is pretty low |
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"Me and my partner both have fantasies about seeing eachother with someone else but we dont know how we would be if it were more than a fantasy. Anyone else have this problem?"
I think that's pretty normal. Definitely best to rake things at your own pace.
Cal was sure he'd be fine but I was worried I might be jealous or uncomfortable.
As it turned out we both find (found) it a huge turn on  |
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I would say that is normal and everyone feels the same way'to start with, we were really nervous and worried that one of us could get jealous,
Communication is the key, set your boundaries make sure all parties know were they stand and don't do anything you feel unhappy with,
Maybe start by going to a club and just playing in the couples room with other people around your but just play with each other, or such with soft swing kissing touching oral, and see how you feel |
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We wondered about that, when we started swinging we would soft-swing but it wasn't the same as watching the other one fucking someone else. During our first full swap we both felt exactly the same way, interest rather than jealousy. When doing it together you're too close to see everything that's happening so watching one another at a distance was fascinating. It only took a few occasions before it became natural, and after nearly 12 years of swinging it's still great to watch the other one fucking happily with another person. |
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A quick thought which might help. If you feel awkward or jealous about each other's previous sexual partners, then that's a guide to how you might later feel about it if you get up to new (ahem) shenanigans together. |
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